I knew it! I could tell by the way Erykah Badu looked so complete whenever she was around her protege, Jay Electronica. I profiled the amazing wordsmith back in January of this year. I knew he was more than just her protege by the look in his eyes when he was around her. I saw that same lost-in-love look in Andre Benjamin’s eyes when I snapped a photo of them at a Sol Fusion party back in the 1997.

“We just friends,” mumbled Dre of the then unknown Erykah Badu. But I could tell he was lying. The photo I took that night of the couple made the cover of Ebony magazine’s Feb. 1998 issue on 10 Hottest Couples. By then Erykah was an established star in her own right and had a son by Benjamin.

It seems Erykah is drawn to kindred spirits whose paths in life are preordained. Erykah’s other baby daddies are West Coast rapper The D.O.C., and now Jay E. More evidence that Jay E is destined for greatness. Congrats to the happy couple!





  • lilsydmac

    she has a baby by common??!?! thats news to me.

  • browni007

    well how many babies does she have? I knew of only two Seven and the Puma.

  • ggouch

    Erykah’s other baby daddies include Common, The D.O.C., and now Jay E
    ________________________________________________________
    WHAT?! Boi WHO? Erykah does not have a baby by Common. Please HIP/HOP would have been put that out. Andrea is “7”‘s daddy. If she and Common had a child we would have known it. I don’t believe that, and I barely believe she has more than one child, other than Andrea’s son.

  • h0tsauce

    Erykah Badu has 2 kids
    Seven – Andre Benjamin
    and her second – The D.O.C.
    This will be baby #3.

    Her and Common have no kids together!!!

  • ReadTheBlog

    I love Badu, but she turning into a rat, now. It’s not cute anymore. Erykah is way too old – doesn’t she know she has people who look up to her? Come on now…

  • http://www.myspace.com/spiceandmusicqueen08 pyt_504

    Lawd Now he will be dressing the plum fool too!

  • brwnsugga4you

    i see she’s following in the footsteps of sean combs. babies by every d*mn body…goodness!

  • karaz

    Gosh she’s just a receptacle for sperm isn’t she?

  • browni007

    karaz Says:

    Gosh she’s just a receptacle for sperm isn’t she?
    ____________________________________________________________
    too darn funny

  • Dizz

    Damn Erykah…Baby Daddy #3 are you serious?? No marriage? Nothing? Wow…I’m starting to see her very differently now.

  • shunda

    Raphael Saadiq said it best. You can’t look into Erykah’s eyes she will have you dressing funny and singing crazy lol

  • alana

    Ok. I’m an Erykah fan but its really gross to have a baby for every man that you date. I guess the only reason she didn’t have a baby w/ Common is because he said they were celibate(read that in some interview). Come on Erykah girl, you gonna have a lot of different last names in the same house which is NOT a good look!

  • PAGESINADIARY

    3 BABIES WITH 3 DIFFERENT BABY DADDIES? I GUESS THATS OKAY CAUSE MEN DO IT TOO.

    OR IS IT OKAY?

  • Topnotch

    dang..i didnt know the DOC knocked her up… i thought they were still together too.. erykah needs to get them tubes burned and clipped!

  • http://www.myspace.com/millyly milly

    Congrats

  • ReadTheBlog

    Celibate while dating Common? Fine as that brotha is, he ain’t giving up no ****? Unn Unnn, I’da quit him, too! Alana, I agree with you. Maybe she’ll settle down with this guy – I know they been hanging hard for a while. Supposedly he’s a photographer, as well. I remember reading the article in Essence (May 08, I think) and I believe she said she was seeing someone seriously.

  • MsAmour22

    Geez. I love Erykah. But on the real, can’t respect her choice for having 3 different baby daddies. She has the right to do what she want & it’s her body but seriously, we’re living in a society where having a baby daddy is like having earrings or sneakers. It’s like Oh girl I like them earrings or ah man them sneakers is the joint by the way how you and your baby mama/baby daddy doin’ It’s a freakin epidemic and I’m tired of it. How can we ever build strong black families with no respect for morals, values and no self-control.

  • NYC

    Erykah is a loser…in life. The Cell is a hot song though!

  • http://www.myspace.com/spiceandmusicqueen08 pyt_504

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    Celibate while dating Common? Fine as that brotha is, he ain’t giving up no ****? Unn Unnn, I’da quit him, too!
    __________________________________________________________

    I MUST BE THE ONLY PERSON WHO DOESNT FIND THIS MAN ATTRACTIVE…

  • ggouch

    @ ReadTheBlog..

    right, at what point do you stop making hoodrat moves? How does a woman of fairly functional intelligence stop making TEENAGE girl fu.ck ups. Women should be responsible for their own climaxes and so on by this time. Especially if God has blessed you with the tools and forums to do better. I mean Children are life and life is a gift from God, I know. But IMO this is not a good look. Hell at least Lauryn Hill had her 5 kids with the same MAN. Though I think she sufferes from Post Partum Depression and Rohan may want to consider giving Lauryn a break until her hormones have time to get back in balance.

  • http://www.myspace.com/themdivasinc Mimi Renee

    congrats to erykah! she keeps a man or a baby daddy i should say, lol.

  • brwnsugga4you

    what are we teaching our children??? that it’s okay to lay up with your man..that is not committed to you..only in spirit…and have babies…by all of them?…this is ridiculous to me..and we wonder why they grow up confused!

  • karaz

    Dizz Says:

    Damn Erykah…Baby Daddy #3 are you serious?? No marriage? Nothing? Wow…I’m starting to see her very differently now.

    ______________________________________________________________

    This Erykah is no different than hot in the pants Erica who went to Grambling State, she might wear bigger head wraps now but that’s about it.

  • teecee

    we use to call chicks who had a baby by every boy friend she had a ho lol but that was back in the day when birth control was kinda hard to get over too. this chick is over 30 and got 3 babies by 3 different men and no desire for a husband. she got some issues.

  • intensemocha

    Erica badu is a free-spirit she obviously lives by her own rules and doesn’t seek to conform to society’s rigid beliefs or rules

    and as long as her babies aint on anybody’s welfare role and your tax dollars aint contributing to her household

    who gives a f*ck what yall think…….have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t even want to get married?

    Gasp……oh my God how could that be? A woman whose not waiting for her prince charming on a white horse to arrive

    I’m certain it’s not because she hasn’t been proposed to….LOL too funny if all woman had such high morals as they portray on this site then why are so many children being raised in single-parent households?-oh the posters on this site are the exceptions-LOL yeah right…..

  • brwnsugga4you

    ^^^^why the f*ck are you always on this site bashing…i mean really….and trying to call out everybody on this site…are you lonely and miserable???~~~~

  • shunda

    @intensemocha
    Have you ever thought about the fact that some women are single parents because spouses die. Every man does not run away from family. How can a woman have a baby by the same man if he dies?

  • katgirl33

    Hey y’all, I don’t see where she had Common listed as one of her BDs….maybe she corrected it?

  • http://www.myspace.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    she say she wanna lick the wrapper so i let her lick the rapper lol

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @Dizz …. I agree with you I dont understand it….

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @eastpointvet… Go to your room now!!! You cant go to the corner because some of the family is over there…

  • katgirl33

    It is well within her right to have as many babies as she wants, with whoever. I am a single mother, and when I have another one, my kids will have different fathers… my children will be at least 15 years apart….

    She may not be interested in a two parent household for her children….or maybe she just picking the wrong guys…who knows what her situation is?

  • http://www.myspace.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    we are family lol

  • intensemocha

    boo why do you giv a damn about my opinons-it was cool as long as everyone was on the bandwagon talking ish about erica & bashing her character and now someone reverses the sh#t I got issues-LOL I would expect that….it’s cool to bash if and only if you all approve of the target….

    get the f$ck outta here -don’t dish it if you can’t take it I c bullsh$t for what it is-

    aint none of this sh&t that serious for me to get my panties in a bunch….trust and believe at the end of the work day I aint thinking about none of this ish..

    Attack the content, not the poster that would have been impressive-I see if you don’t go along with the majority you become a target-LOL like I really give a sh#t

  • Dizz

    INTENSEMOCHA MUST HAVE MULTIPLE BABY DADDY’S SOUNDS LIKE WE HIT A NERVE! LMAO

  • brwnsugga4you

    ^^^^let me explaing something to you…i can take whatever..i’m never on a bandwagon. i am my own individual…the diffence is…i don’t bash other bloggers because of their opinions unlike yourself!!!…and obviously it is that serious..because you come on here everyday with the same bullsh*t….grow the f*ck up already…state your opinion and keep it f*cking moving…this is not a site to bash bloggers^^^^

  • katgirl33

    19pyt_504 Says:

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    Celibate while dating Common? Fine as that brotha is, he ain’t giving up no ****? Unn Unnn, I’da quit him, too!
    ____________________________________________________________

    Common did an underground rap around the time he stopped seeing Erykah….dissed the shyt out of her, calling her ho’s and stuff….the rumor was she was cheating w/the DOC……then all of a sudden, she was w/the DOC, pregnant….

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    Brwnsugga… U know how intensemocha is!!!! I dont know how erykah is any different from keisha off the block with her kids & her baby daddies. i’m callin it like i see it, erykah had 3 different men skeet in her, she’s a slut. plain & simple

  • brwnsugga4you

    MOCHAMOMMY Says:

    Brwnsugga… U know how intensemocha is!!!! I dont know how erykah is any different from keisha off the block with her kids & her baby daddies. i’m callin it like i see it, erykah had 3 different men skeet in her, she’s a slut. plain & simple

    ~~~i feel you but, it still doesn’t make it right or okay to hide behind your d*mn computer and talk sh*t.~~~

  • intensemocha

    @ shunda

    thanks for pointing out the obvious-we all know there are various reasons for a woman having more than one baby daddy-my point is who are we to judge or why do we even care….

    Who are any of you to pass judgement, she aint on welfare, she’s not a teenager, and she has a successful career-I’m certain if and when she wants to get married she will-respect the fact that it’s HER choice and not ours….

  • intensemocha

    CONSENSUS RULES ALL WOMEN WITH THREE DIFFERENT BABY DADDIES ARE A WHORE-SHUNDA THE MASS HAS SPOKEN

    LOL-WHAT’S A WHORE SOMEONE WHO HAS ALOT OF SEX WITH DIFFERENT MEN?

    IF YOU HAVE LOTS OF SEX WITH THE SAME MAN-TECHNICALLY ARE YOU STILL HAVING A LOT OF SEX?

    BIATCHES PLEAZE ERICA AINT LOSING SLEEP CAUSE YALL THINK SHE IS A “HOE” I COULD THINK OF A LOT WORST SHE COULD BE CALLED-A MURDERER, A MOLESTOR, A THIEF, ETC….

    AINT NOBODY HIDING-I MADE A COMMENT YOU DON’T KNOW ME AND I DAMN SURE DON’T KNOW YOU-TRUST IN PERSON I SPEAK MY OPINION AND JUST CAUSE YOU DISAGREE AINT GONNA MAKE ME STOP TALKIKNG -WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN IN PERSON? NOTHING THE SAME THAT’S HAPPENING HERE YOU WOULD SPEAK YOUR OPINION AND I WOULD SPEAK MINE-AND YOU WOULD KEEP IT MOVIN

  • mina

    I wonder how common avoided becoming baby daddy number 3.

  • katgirl33

    I agree that it is sad that we can’t talk on an online setting without harshness or condescension coming into play….we all are on here (some of us are breaking job rules, LMAO) giving out opinons, 90% of the shyt is irrevelant.

    We buy Erkyah Badu’s music, and many people share her beliefs, and I’m sure many women look at her as some sort of model in living their lives(like Mary J, for example)…

    I don’t think that anybody on here is passing judgement, no more than we comment about Loquisha from around the corner, with 4 shorties, AND PREGNANT AGAIN! LOL

    It’s just public opinion. I’m sure that Erykah would be a little concerned about how her fans think of her….again, they are the ones who buy her music/concert tickets/whatever product she’s selling….

    I’ll say this, the next time she makes a song about Bag Ladies, she better include herself, cause she got a three piece set!

  • brwnsugga4you

    ^^^^stop selling wolf tickets on here^^^

  • solodove2008

    As long as she can afford to take care of them…and I ain’t gotta pay for them…let her do her thang. Now my cousin on the other hand who is working on baby #8 at age 31 got me on a whole different level. I get tired of paying for kids that don’t even send me a Mother’s day card!

  • intensemocha

    R KELLY SEEMS TO BE DOING JUST FINE

    SEXISM AT IT’S FINEST

    Calling someone a hoe is definitely passing judgement

    For the record I have two children-one Adult son 22 and a toddler girl by my HUSBAND-multiple baby daddies is not an issue for me.

    Just cause I don’t agree with what you say about Erica Badu doesn’t mean that it’s a personal issue for me-LOl but of course I expected someone to say that

  • shunda

    As long as my tax dollars aren’t supporting the babies I could care less. I never said anything about her having more than 1 baby daddy. I said that Raphael Saadiq said do not look her in the eye. I do not condone staying in a relationship because you want to have kids by the same person. Especially if it is abusive. I was just stating a fact that not all single mothers are single moms by choice. People die and you have to move on.

  • katgirl33

    brwnsugga4you Says:

    ^^^^stop selling wolf tickets on here^^^

    ___________________________________________________________

    ITA Wolf tickets are non redeemable in online settings.

    LOL LOL

  • intensemocha

    brwnsugga4you

    give it a rest sweetie, you came at me okay? I can take the heat it’s obvious you can’t don’t try the cyber bully me or that “high school high” mess with me

    until sandra rose tells me to stop commenting-oh yeah the owner of the site don’t try to dicate sh#t I say or do

    it is what it T….I….IS, bathe in it, marinade in it, or scroll right pass it

  • http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    Erykah can use the free spirit schtick all she wants..she was free as hell when she was in college but then she was known as Erica Wright..same shyt different day..she wants to act like a rat with ho tendencies than that’s on her..The fact of the matter is..being a babymama is not a good look the first, second or third time. Some of us can’t help our circumstances, but to outright choose a broken home is beyond comprehension..we’ll see how long jay lasts before we hear about her dumping him..for BD #4..oh yeah ever heard of AIDS???

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    LOL-WHAT’S A WHORE SOMEONE WHO HAS ALOT OF SEX WITH DIFFERENT MEN?

    yes & they allow several different men to skeet in them. its about respecting ur body & not becoming a man’s cum bucket

    IF YOU HAVE LOTS OF SEX WITH THE SAME MAN-TECHNICALLY ARE YOU STILL HAVING A LOT OF SEX?

    u answered ur own damn question

    **See, this is why I skip over ur comments. I feel a headache comin on**

  • brwnsugga4you

    intensemocha Says:

    brwnsugga4you

    give it a rest sweetie, you came at me okay? I can take the heat it’s obvious you can’t don’t try the cyber bully me or that “high school high” mess with me

    until sandra rose tells me to stop commenting-oh yeah the owner of the site don’t try to dicate sh#t I say or do

    it is what it T….I….IS, bathe in it, marinade in it, or scroll right pass it

    ~~~whatever the f*ck…you came at everybody on this blog…first mistake. we get along on here..we don’t agree all the time but, get along. so, again make your comment..state your d*mn opinion..and stop trying to call people out on here!!!..we are all able to state our opinions on here fairly. i don’t have time to cyber bully hun…but, aint nothing her but, a d*mn computer and opportunity…i’m done!~~~

  • karaz

    Let’s not kid ourselves here, studies show that kids who grow up in stable and healthy two parent homes have a great advantage over kids who grow up in a stable and healthy one parent home. I don’t know how stable a 3 different baby daddies home can be, how can she effectively co-parent with all the involved men? It must be hard trying to raise your children and instill the values of both parents when they’re actually 4 people involved, which seems like too many to me.
    I wonder how 7 feels, seeing his mom laying up (kids are perceptive) with different men. Even if she doesn’t bring the men inside her home, she has the evidence in her other children. Will he grow up and think commitment isn’t necessary in relationships? What about Puma? She’s a girl right? Will she think its normal to lay up and procreate with each and every dude and raise her children mostly by herself?
    Yes she can do whatever she wants its her body blah blah blah, but make no mistake, society as a whole carries the burden in some way shape or form, for kids who are raised in these not so stable environments.

  • katgirl33

    Hey intense mocha,

    I think it turned into a personal issue for some on here when you made these comments:

    who gives a f*ck what yall think…….

    get the f$ck outta here

    BIATCHES PLEAZE

    My question is why are you even on here, offending people, when we are doing the same thing you are doing(giving our opinions)? Ain’t nobody on here referred to you as a Biyatch (I didn’t take it personally, b/c you don’t know me, and some biytaches you just don’t mess with), and nobody asked you to “get the f$ck outta here”….

    I thought it comments like you have been making that get folks kicked off the site….I’m just saying…

    🙁

  • intensemocha

    MOCHAMOMMY

    NOTHING YOU SAY GIVES ME A HEADACHE OR STRESSES ME OUT BECAUSE YOUR NOT RELEVANT TO ME….YOU REALLY SHOULDN’T LET ANONYMOUS PEOPLE RUFFLE YOUR FEATHERS LIKE THAT…..

    ALOT OF YOU ARE CLOSET HOES-THE SAME SHIT YOU “SAY” YOU WOULDNT DO YOU “DO” AND JUST DON’T TELL ANYBODY-LOL

    YOUR OPINION OR MINE OF ERICA TRULY DOESN’T MATTER WHAT WE EAT DON’T MAKE HER SH$T-PEOPLE KILL ME TRYING TO BE SO SELF-RIGHTEOUS AS IF WHAT THEY THINK/OR FEEL REALLY HAS SOME INFLUENCE OVER OTHERS

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @karaz …. Well said.. I agree 110% with that statement.

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    NO fighting.. Singing (We are family hey hey I got all my sister with me)

  • karaz

    mina Says:

    I wonder how common avoided becoming baby daddy number 3.

    ______________________________________________________________

    Simple. He didn’t want to be, so he made sure of it. Besides I think at the time, he was still choosing to be celibate, he might still be now.

  • intensemocha

    All two-parent homes aren’t healthy!

    but I see, if you have an opinion that differs from the majority all hell breaks loose….

    Congrats Erica on your baby-I guess if she was saying she felt remorseful about her choices you all would sympathize with her and tell her to stay strong and keep her head up-LOL

  • karaz

    intensemocha Says:

    R KELLY SEEMS TO BE DOING JUST FINE

    SEXISM AT IT’S FINEST

    Calling someone a hoe is definitely passing judgement

    ______________________________________________________________

    I don’t know if your statements are non sequitur, but just in case they aren’t… R.Kelly is not a hoe, he’s a sexual deviant with a depraved mind who commits criminal acts. Hoes just fugg indiscriminately, constantly.

  • shunda

    Hey karaz.. That study is true but a bit biased. What is a 2 parent household? Does that mean momy and daddy, mommy and grandma, grandma and grandpa, hell nowadays 2 men, 2 woman. They never quite tell you who they survey.
    @everybody
    We all have opinions it is just the way that some people come across. I want to apologize upfront if I have offended anyone. I enjoy our discussions. I learn a lot of things I wouldn’t have known and I can say this is a great group of women to discuss things with. I work in a male dominated industry so it is refreshing to have someone see where I am coming from

  • pointhimout

    this trash is working overtime. wtf she tryna do, create her own afrocentric tribe? 3 baby daddies…wow…y does this look more tacky on a woman? maybe cuz the women usually have the kids (custody) and the men dont

  • karaz

    intensemocha Says:

    All two-parent homes aren’t healthy!

    but I see, if you have an opinion that differs from the majority all hell breaks loose….

    _______________________________________________________________

    I agree with you here intense, all two parent homes aren’t stable or healthy, hell some kids from stable and healthy single parent homes fare better than kids coming from two parent homes. Hell Paris Hilton is one of the more famous poster childred of fugged up issue from a two parent home.

    I respect all viewpoints, well maybe not Auntie Sandra’s, but I just wanted us to be real for a second, her decisions, your decisions, will affect me or someone else unrelated to her, No man is an island.

  • katgirl33

    Me too Shunda,

    I enjoy our discussions also….I have to watch it, b/c I’m supposed to be doing some work….LOL

  • shunda

    katgirl: I don’t know how may times I have had to alt tab my screen when the director comes sneaking over lol. Luckily I use a laptop and I have a big head :-}

  • ThatCarmen

    I think we have this discussion every day. Everyone has differnce of opinions and then one hot head comes up here stating their opinion on the topic (which is great) and then starts bashing everyone else who comments and the e-war starts. There is nothing wrong with a difference of opinion but, why call everyone else out their names and all that … and then get all front and center when they respond to you sounding like a scorn e-lover? Nobody comes at you crazy when you state your difference of opinion and leave it at that…. but, you have to start writing and attacking other people’s comments because they dont agree with you….. do you read what you write in the first place???? yes, like everyone else… i am addressing the ever so INTENSE-ly commentor.

  • intensemocha

    @karaz

    does erica qualify seeing that she was in a relationship with all three of her baby daddies and her children are not stair step, 1…2..3

    So she obviouly wasn’t fugging indiscriminately or constantly-she would have more kids to show for it and more than three baby daddies-LOL

    The issue is this, she’s grown and she can afford her kids, if we say that her children aren’t going to be raised right because she is a single-parent then that statement should apply to all single-mothers right? Or does it just apply to those who choose to be single-mothers? C’mon her decision is just that and I would be more concerned or judgemental if she was a teenager or an unwed mother on welfare that uses my tax dollars for her choices.

    I don’t know why people are declaring war just because I have an opinion that differs from theirs. Yall was calling erica everything under the sun but the child of God and that was cool-(everybody was getting along) and I make comments to those very same people and they attack me personally (lonely and miserable)

    stop blogging if you only want to see opinions similar to yours-it makes for a livelier debate-attack my comments I can respect that but if you come at me don’t expect me not to fire back (now I should be kicked off the site)

    I see right through the b.s. don’t come on the site and make comments if you aren’t going to agree with us, I bet some of you are e-mailing sandra rose right now cause your feelings got hurt-hyprocrites

  • karaz

    shunda Says:

    Hey karaz.. That study is true but a bit biased. What is a 2 parent household? Does that mean momy and daddy, mommy and grandma, grandma and grandpa, hell nowadays 2 men, 2 woman. They never quite tell you who they survey.

    ______________________________________________________________

    Hell if I know who the two parents are? Sometimes they throw in the word traditional two parent home, and I don’t know whose tradition they’re referring to. All I know is that it didn’t sat single parent home or quadruple parent home, it said two.

  • intensemocha

    Who gives a f#ck what yall think-is not bashing it’s just my opinion I doubt Erica cares what yall think

    but get at your girl “brownsugga4u” for getting at me first by saying I was lonely and miserable-Oh I see the majority of you must of forgotten that or just missed that post huh

    don’t come at me with that kumbaya mess unless it applies to everybody-I can play and fight fair but the rules should be applied to everyone not just the ones you view as your “cyber friends”

  • shunda

    @ karaz lmao you are silly.
    What happened to it takes a village. Now on some days I don’t like my own son and daughter so I don’t know how that applies. lol

  • ThatCarmen

    this was your first comment….. and you dont see how you opened yourself to people responding to YOUR attack on other commentors????

    intensemocha Says:

    Erica badu is a free-spirit she obviously lives by her own rules and doesn’t seek to conform to society’s rigid beliefs or rules

    and as long as her babies aint on anybody’s welfare role and your tax dollars aint contributing to her household

    WHO GIVES A FUC* WHAT YALL THINK…….have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t even want to get married?

    Gasp……oh my God how could that be? A woman whose not waiting for her prince charming on a white horse to arrive

    I’m certain it’s not because she hasn’t been proposed to….LOL TOO FUNNY IF ALL WOMAN HAD SUCH HIGH MORALS AS THEY PORTRAY ON THIS SITE then why are so many children being raised in single-parent households?-OH THE POSTERS ON THIS SITE ARE EXCEPTIONS-LOL yeah right…..

    **********************
    um, like you said, you dont know us to make assumptions on how we live our lives in accordance to what we write on this blog.

  • intensemocha

    @ thatcarmen

    high-five girl you told her…..lol

    re-read the post your girl brownsugga4u got at me first address her ever so intensely and then get back at me

    oh yeah she must be down with the “high school high” bunch so the comments you made don’t apply to her just me

    Like I said before you like to jump on the bandwaggon, nobody addressed you and now you see all the comments directed at me you wanted to join in too-LOL

  • intensemocha

    U don’t know erica badu either but you all are making assumptions based on this story right?

    If it’s fair for you to assume then I can too-judging by the posts nobody on here should have more than one babby daddy, has only had unprotected sex with their significant other or husband-if not according to your own posts you all are exactly the same things you called erica right?

    I just like to point out the inconsistencies….don’t get mad at me

  • karaz

    intensemocha Says:

    @karaz

    does erica qualify seeing that she was in a relationship with all three of her baby daddies and her children are not stair step, 1…2..3

    So she obviouly wasn’t fugging indiscriminately or constantly-she would have more kids to show for it and more than three baby daddies-LOL

    _____________________________________________________________

    Evidence shows (her two and alleged third kids) that Erykah Badu is no different from Erica Wright who liked to express herself sexually to multiple men at Grambling State. Maybe its the effect that growing up in a single parent home had on her. I never called her a hoe… but I agree she has hoe-like tendencies.

  • ThatCarmen

    you clearly addressed everyone on the site (as usual). if you have noticed, yesterday….we were all over the place disagreeing with eachother very strongly over religion, politics…whatever…but, you are so constant in calling out other commentors from the jump when nobody cleary addresses you first … thats a fact….all that other high school and band wagon you put out there is just dust in the wind.

  • ThatCarmen

    anyway, im glad sandra has not blocked you because you do bring a stong opinion that many people dont think about and not everyone agrees with but, you dont have to jump out at everyone else commenting when they are just stating their opinions as well. thats all i have to say.

  • karaz

    shunda Says:

    @ karaz lmao you are silly.
    What happened to it takes a village. Now on some days I don’t like my own son and daughter so I don’t know how that applies. lol

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    It might take a village, but those kids have to live one place primarily and snatch crumbs from that primary source as well. You should do what my mother did on the days she couldn’t stand us, run away and come back when your good and ready.

  • intensemocha

    according to the dictionary Erica Badu doesn’t fit either of these descriptions-hoe is a slang term that society uses to get women to conform to their standards of sexuality.

    hoe -Pronunciation noun, verb, hoed, hoe·ing.
    –noun 1. a long-handled implement having a thin, flat blade usually set transversely, used to break up the surface of the ground, destroy weeds, etc.
    2. any of various implements of similar form, as for mixing plaster or mortar.
    –verb (used with object) 3. to dig, scrape, weed, cultivate, etc., with a hoe.
    –verb (used without object) 4. to use a hoe.

  • intensemocha

    @thatcarmen

    good PR-I like how you cleverly didn’t address your girl brownsugga4u comments

  • ggouch

    INTENSE MOCHA!! I’ve just designated myself to be the person to tell you to SHUT THE FU.CK UP!! and increase the milligrams on your Zoloft script….You be on one!!

  • karaz

    @ intense

    Is there an entry for a plain ho? I clearly misspelled previously. *Please insert smiley face here, so as not to misinterpret the spirit this comment was made*

  • ThatCarmen

    ^^^^ ggouch,

    my girl, we trying to stop the violence and there you go…. i wish sandra would post another topic so we can keep it moving… i cant look at CNN today cause i dont think its right that they are blasting that dead little girl’s face all over their front page for two days in a row. damn it… maybe its time to water my desk plant.

  • karaz

    ggouch Says:

    INTENSE MOCHA!! I’ve just designated myself to be the person to tell you to SHUT THE FU.CK UP!! and increase the milligrams on your Zoloft script….You be on one!!

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    Umm a bit harsh don’t you think? Besides most people who would qualify to use Zoloft wouldn’t be as feisty as she is.

  • candycane

    I guess the only reason she didn’t have a baby w/ Common is because he said they were celibate(read that in some interview)

    Common aint no fool HE probably didnt wanna be babydaddy #3, so she moved on to the next. Maybe she likes having babies.

  • ggouch

    Carmen, Sugga and Mocha, why do ya’ll even bother going back and forth with this BROAD…oops POSTER….

    How do you know Erik’a moral meter? Are you fam, work for her? WTF. Are you the employee that forgot to pick up her birth control!!?

    Miss me with that FREE-SPIRIT crap!

  • katgirl33

    Okay intense mocha, here are the entire posts from both of you….and I think that we all see who kicked this shyt off first:

    July 10th, 2008 at 11:31 am

    intensemocha Says:

    who gives a f*ck what yall think…….have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t even want to get married?

    July 10th, 2008 at 11:36 am

    26brwnsugga4you Says:

    are you lonely and miserable???~~~~

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    Now unless you don’t know how to read, you kicked all of this unnecessary, & irrevelant stuff off…….right now, you are coming off as a very messy lady, and I’m shocked that Sandra hasn’t snatched your comments, or banned you all together. You are the one who got jiggy with it b/c folks ain’t smiling about Erykah Badu batting 3 for 4 (no kids by Common).

    But you are right, you are entitled to your opinion on this silly azz shyt!

    Peace out Sandra Rose Sisters and Brothers, I’ll get at y’all tomorrow!

  • brwnsugga4you

    ^^^the only person that’s high school is you^^^ get over yourself already^^^

  • shunda

    those dictionary quotes have me cracking up. This discussion has took on a whole new level. I am all cool for discussing with intensemocha but that need to use the word Biaytch or however you spell it is the deal breaker for me.

  • intensemocha

    @ggouch

    why waste your time telling me when I won’t listen anyways…

    but you get an “A” for effort though

    I’m too logical to need zoloft boo-I can’t help it if I can argue my points well and people take offense

  • ggouch

    @ karaz, Ok, I’m sorry. It was. I apologize Intense. That was un-necessary and disrespectful….But you do be snapping off.

    Carmen…Please can I come with you. I feel so scolded.

  • brwnsugga4you

    ggouch Says:

    Carmen, Sugga and Mocha, why do ya’ll even bother going back and forth with this BROAD…oops POSTER….

    How do you know Erik’a moral meter? Are you fam, work for her? WTF. Are you the employee that forgot to pick up her birth control!!?

    Miss me with that FREE-SPIRIT crap!

    ~~~ggouch it’s done…i’m on here everyday…as a faithful reader and blogger..never once personally attacking other readers…so, i’m on to other things…like blogging about sandra’s posts & topics..and not going back and forth…thanks for the love hun!~~~~

  • karaz

    intensemocha Says:

    @ggouch

    why waste your time telling me when I won’t listen anyways…

    but you get an “A” for effort though

    I’m too logical to need zoloft boo-I can’t help it if I can argue my points well and people take offense

    _____________________________________________________________

    Zoloft treats depression and social anxiety disorders. Doesn’t affect logic. Just an FYI. Carry on. 🙂

  • karaz

    @ggouch, everyone is cool with me. I can’t be bothered, I’m at work not working, life is good.

  • intensemocha

    brwnsugga4u

    no the question is do all of you know erica badu moral’s meter and if you can judge her and call her hoes and so forth and so on-then you open the door for it to happen to you

    nuff said

  • intensemocha

    You whole description of Zoloft and it uses are hilarious-depression and social anxiety disorders specifically deal with illogical thoughts that is what creates and lead depression and social anxiety to begin with-ILLOGICAL THOUGHTS

    research it if you don’t believe me……lol

  • karaz

    @intensemocha.

    Zoloft still wouldn’t be the RX you’re talking about. A tricylic course of meds would be more effective than SSRI for people dealing with ILLOGICAL thoughts. *shrug*

  • ThatCarmen

    @ggouch Says:
    Carmen…Please can I come with you. I feel so scolded

    Girl, you need to sit outside for a moment and collect yourself after that Zoloft comment… go water the plants outside of the corner. 🙂
    ****************************
    @karaz Says:

    @ggouch, everyone is cool with me. I can’t be bothered, I’m at work not working, life is good.

    Yay for being at work not working!
    Im just mad that Im on Pacific time and I get here when everyone else is heading out to lunch and Im still here when everyone has gone home for the day. Im hoping this economy will flip back around so, I will have some deals to work on…. blogs are cool but, i actually like my job when we are busy.

  • ggouch

    LMBAO!!, INTENSE!! ..ok..got it. Zoloft is for ILLOGICAL THOUGHTS…got it…LOL! Are you going to be mad at me if I remind you that I didn’t give a description of Zoloft and it uses….it will?….(hands up protecting the face)..ok ok, I’m sorry.

  • http://www.myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    I have two children by two differant fathers and like another poster said if I have another one there will be 3 daddys. I was ashamed when I got pregnant the second time and didn’t tell anyone for 3 months other than the father and my 12 year old daughter. The first person I told was my cousin’s girlfriend who is now his wife and she said, “What the hell are you ashamed of? You are a grown ass 35 year old woman who who has accomplished big things and takes good care of the child you have.” There is no way she could know how much I needed to hear that. Yes I would have loved to be married, but dammit I have not wanted to marry anyone who wanted to marry me and the people I wanted to marry didn’t want to marry me. Does that mean I’m not allowed to have children ever? If I had Erykah’s money I’d have 10 kids by now. I love making babies and I love is not a strong enough word to descibe what I feel for my children. I don’t know what Erykah’s reason is for all the differant fathers, but we all have our own story. As long as they are being raised properly what else can we do? Until we can mend this riff between black men and black women that makes us not want to settle down with each other this is what you get. Hell my cousin and his wife were together for over 10 years before he got the courage to marry her and she was raising his kids from a previous relationship and everything. You just never know what the story is behind people’s decisions.

  • intensemocha

    no ggouch you didn’t but karaz did

    this is pure entertainment….i can take the heat it’s all good and oh yeah watered the plants already….

    now back to what I was saying……LOL I make myself laugh sometimes

  • karaz

    intensemocha Says:

    now back to what I was saying……LOL I make myself laugh sometimes

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    You make me laugh too, I actually like the meat of your comments, not necessarily the delivery or the extra stuff, but you do like to make your point and love being right.

  • intensemocha

    thank u bird……

    your entire post touched on my sentiments regarding erica and other women as well…

    why try and shame somebody or make them feel bad, especially if you don’t know the whole story

    some women get a kick out of shaming other women when they have had misfortune with men, especially black women-if they are married they say “husband” more than they say his real name or theirs for that matter, if they are with the father of their child they brag about it to women who are not with their baby daddies as if it’s an accomplishment that the other woman couldn’t achieve, they constantly say dumb sh#t liek he looks just like his daddy, he only listens to his daddy, her daddy buys her everything etc. Yall know exactly what I am talking about

    Hell if you are bragging about being married or being with your baby daddy then I wil assume that it’s not the norm if so it wouldn’t be anything to brag about right? And if it’s a rare then why are you assuming that the odds of it happening to everyone is the same?

    black men and women are at odds with one another like you said bird, and you can’t make somebody marry you-so if you are not married should you not have kids when you can afford them financially? What if you never find someone that you want to marry-should you not have children at all?

    and if you decide to, why should anyone be calling you a hoe without knowing your whole story or circumstances…..

  • intensemocha

    @ karaz

    you hit the nail on the head, I know my delivery irritates some but it’s all in fun, nobody should really take my comments to heart…

    and oh yeah I’m an aquarius what else would you expect from me…..we love to “think” we are always right and have mercy on those who disagree with us

    LOL-I may refrain from the cussing a bit and step up my verbatim.

  • shunda

    I think we made a breakthrough :-} Intensemocha I can respect everything you said in your last two comments.

  • shunda

    @ Bird
    My kids have different fathers as well. I was with my daughter’s father from the time I was 15 until I was 18. He is a great dad now but it was a rocky road getting there. I was with my son’s father from the time I was 20 until 23. I married him at 21 right before my son was born and it was the most emotional mentally abusive relationship I have ever been in. I know that I can only afford 2 kids that is why I choose not to have anymore. I get lumped into categories all the time so I know exactly how you felt when you found out you were pregnant. The teenage mom stereotypes are even harder to take because I do not fit the mold.

  • intensemocha

    If you are taking care of your kids and can financially support them , damn the rest (oops sorry shunda)

    a husband would be the ideal situation, but it’s not necessarily the reality for everybody & you can’t bank your happiness (yes most black women love being mothers) on if & when a man comes, stays, or one day marries you.

  • bklynchick

    @Bird and Shunda

    I have two kids by two different men. My oldest daughter father does nothing for her but my second daughter father and I have been together since my oldest since she was 6 months and that is who she calls DADDY!! But I make sure that she knows about her real father and his people. I never talk down to her about him because I don’t want her to grow up thinking all men end up like her biological did is. With that being said I understand where IntenseMocha was coming from minus the curse words. Instead of downing a person about their decision in life understand the situation cause life has thrown all of us a curveball at one point in time. You live and you learn!

  • shunda

    @ blknychick
    you said
    Instead of downing a person about their decision in life understand the situation cause life has thrown all of us a curveball at one point in time. You live and you learn!

    I am very confused was that geared towards me? I didn’t down anyone in any of my comments.

  • whatnow

    Erykah and her multiple baby daddies remind me of a joke my son told me once:

    There was a woman who had twelve boys and she named them all “Leroy.” Her friend asked her what does she do if she wants a particular boy. She said “oh, that’s easy, I just call them my their last name.”

  • http://xscape2xscape.com crystal

    intensemocha Says:

    Erica badu is a free-spirit she obviously lives by her own rules and doesn’t seek to conform to society’s rigid beliefs or rules

    and as long as her babies aint on anybody’s welfare role and your tax dollars aint contributing to her household

    who gives a f*ck what yall think…….have you ever thought maybe she doesn’t even want to get married?

    Gasp……oh my God how could that be? A woman whose not waiting for her prince charming on a white horse to arrive

    I’m certain it’s not because she hasn’t been proposed to….LOL too funny if all woman had such high morals as they portray on this site then why are so many children being raised in single-parent households?-oh the posters on this site are the exceptions-LOL yeah right…..

    ============================================================

    I feel the same way, not to judge her. it’s not our money taking care of her house hold then why should we care.? She is not the first women to do that and she will not be the last. Married of not if a man/ husband is going to cheat then he will do it with or without papers. Many don’t take the “marriage” thing serious anyways if some did there would not be still single house of singled seperated women dating outside their marriage.

    a baby mother with cheating boyfriend= a babies father (some may say why not marry her?)

    a wife with a cheating spouse means that they are seperated. (some may say just get a divorce?)

  • http://xscape2xscape.com crystal

    Also Lauryn Hill has about 5 kids with a married man. I think the last one was born about 2 years ago. the chick is so stressed over him, she had about a couple of nervous break down. imagine if he would have married her if he was available to do so.

  • Yazzmin

    FIRST as a Black Women I don’t agree with the hate we show towards one another! So my comment is not geared towards that. More so disappointment on how we allow ourselves to be treated.

    Married don’t mean people are staying together forever these days. Maybe if we took the time to sit our ass down & learn each other more (man & woman), we could avoid half of these problems. You can be with someone for YEARS & still not know them. I’m sure at least once we all have dealt with someone that either we really didn’t know like we thought we did or after the sex was over, there was relly nothing more you had in common with that individual.

    We get so caught up in the moment, that we REFUSE to see the signs even when it’s slipping us dead in the damn face! We’re only human & we aren’t designed to know everything, that’s why we make mistakes. But LEARN from them.

    Women we have to stop allowing ourselves to be treated any type of way. I know, we’re all perfect let us tell it. But even those of us with “HIGH STANDARDS” have allowed at least one individual to make us lower them.

    Men wouldn’t deal with half of the things we deal with or allow. Key word “MEN” not boys.

    To be continued…

  • Yazzmin

    Correction: Woman & really

  • Yazzmin

    LEARN THE DAMN “WARNING” SIGNS! THERE’S ALWAYS AT LEAST ONE!

  • ReadTheBlog

    SOme of you all sound so f-ing stupid when you say ‘It ain’t my tax dollars’… WTF ever, it’s deeper than that. What does it say for our communities, and hat kind of impression does it put upon women who admire Ms. Badu? F*** who’s paying for the upkeep of the little bastard. That little bastard will grow up withthe same morals as mommy, and eventually become a memebr of society where their morals will come to play and so on and so forth. Those of you who know where I’m coming from know what I’m talking about. Those of you who don’t, go ask someone.

  • whatnow

    If a single woman wants a child so badly and can take care of one by herself why not adopt? It takes a Tom Cruise, Michelle Phieffer, or a Steven Spielberg to give abandoned black babies a chance. Are there any black celebrities that have adopted a black child (or adopted at all)?

    You don’t have to be rich or married to adopt, you just have to have a real love to share.

  • MzTee

    I like Erykah as an artist and enlighted spirit, but sistahgirl should definitely consider birth control. If this rumor is true, all of her kids will have different fathers. C’mon Erykah, slow your roll sis and use your common sense…you ain’t got to have a kid by every dude you lay up with.

  • ThatCarmen

    just testing if my gravatar changed like it was suppose to.

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