2009 is just around the corner and it’s that time again to pick the VERY BEST of 2008.

Last year I got a lot of flack for my choice for Best Female Artist of the Year. So this year I’m going to let you vote for your choice for Best Female Artist of the Year.

I will post your winner plus the winners in all categories tomorrow.

Once again, thanks to all my readers for a great year! Sandrarose.com would be nothing without YOU!





  • h0tsauce

    No Beyonce on the List!!!

  • h0tsauce

    but you got Fantasia…what did she do this year??

  • Naima

    Sandra is crazy she put Monica on the list and she had no album out or high profile public appearance just throwing parties for her baby daddy and getting covered by SR. And then you leave Beyonce out

  • BayArea

    This is hard, b/c I want to select my favorite artist on the list: Monica, but I don’t recall any music from her in 2008.

    I selected Rih Rih b/c she was all over 2008 like FIRE!

    Sandra where is our kick back since we helping you get RICH? 🙂

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    I wouldn’t have voted for her if she were there, but B should be on the list. Not fair Sandra.

  • lialin

    damn a beyonce…. even if she was out i would still have to give it up to Rhianna… she been all over the place and her singles have been killing it all throughout the year.
    now fantasia, monica (who i love) and some of them other people… i dont know

  • Daisy

    I didn’t vote for RiRi although this was her year. I went with my girl AKEYS LUVS her!!

  • smiley

    Why not lost Beyonce if Monica is on the list she should be too. But I will vote Keyshia because I like the new her:)

  • http://myspace.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    just strictly based off the year she had its rhianna hands down

  • Sharonda

    Y’ll know she not gone put Beyonce’ on this list.Rest assure!

  • Daisy

    @smiley that new K Cole is a BANGER!! I don’t like the new jet black hair but that cd is FIYAH!!

  • mizzdallas

    I chose Rihanna hands down she was all overe the states and whatnot with her crazy rock styles, singles and her BFF..

  • mizzdallas

    @Daisy

    Im I the only one dont care for the new Keyshia Cole its maybe 2 or 3 songs on her cd that I like.. Im just NOT feeling it so I converse back to listening to the old keyshia…

  • Krysi J

    what? no Jazmin Sullivan……..that would have been my vote, sorry.

  • Certified

    BEYONCE! BEYONCE! BEYONCE! My second choice would have to be ummmmm I guess Keyshia. “Cause at the END OF the DAY BEYONCE didn’t make the list!” (Sad Face)

  • Daisy

    @Mizz I love the new cd. I have the others as well. I only skip like 2-3 songs the rest I JAM to!

  • Sharonda

    @mizzdallas I’m not really feeling it either.I don’t think she was ready for that “I’m a sex kitten” thing.I understand the change, but I kind of see through it.

  • Daisy

    @Krysi Jasmine has a nice cd. I luv it as well. Lions, tigers and bears classic. She was all in my head when she wrote that song. I am so afraid of love I have never been in it. I am going to work on that for 09..lol

  • Daisy

    @Sharonda she isnt a sex kitten musically. I dont like the new look but the music is banging.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    h0tsauce Says:

    No Beyonce on the List!!!

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    Oops, my bad. Left her off by mistake. I’ll fix it and add Jazmine Sullivan as well.

  • ReadTheBlog

    No Jill or Erykah or Ledesi?

  • Krysi J

    That Hurricane took me back to the way I was feeling once that one time ago….since then Daisy I’ve never been able to love the same again…leading me to love Lions, Tigers, and Bears.

  • mizzdallas

    @sharonda
    Yeah, you cant create sexy it just have to come naturally

    @RTB Both came out with cds this year, even though you have to be high to listen to E-Dub but I still supported my homegirl

    @Sandra thats good your adding Jazmin Sullivan because her cd is the ish and you know Im NOT gonna ask you howcome you didnt add Brandy.. UnnnHuh!!!

  • mizzdallas

    @Krysi
    “Hurricane” is my ish, OMG!! I swear she needs to come out that as a single…

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    mizzdallas Says:

    Im NOT gonna ask you howcome you didnt add Brandy.. UnnnHuh!!!

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    Didn’t Brandy’s album drop and flop in the same week?

  • prynsexxx

    Sandra said:

    Oops, my bad. Left her off by mistake. I’ll fix it
    ________________________________________________________

    LOL @ Sandra trying to pull a Sheree and NeNe! Girl boo. We know you in Atlanta, but you ain’t no damn Housewife………or are you? LOL

  • Daisy

    Hurricane is nice. She sounds good live saw her when she opened for my baby Maxwell.

  • BayArea

    Lol at your comment prynsexxx. Sandra trying to pull a Sheree & NeNe!

  • coaretained

    still waiting on Bey and Jazzmine Auntie!!

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    IS THIS FOR AFRICAN AMERICANS ONLY? ARE WE TALKING ABOUT SALES, POPULARITY, WHO TOOK THE MOST PHOTOS? WHAT? BEST SELLING?

    1. Coldplay – Viva La Vida Or Death And All His Friends
    Parlophone / Capitol – 6,4 million copies *
    2. Amy Winehouse – Back To Black
    Island – 5,0 million copies
    3. AC/DC – Black Ice
    Columbia – 4,8 million copies
    4. Duffy – Rockferry
    A&M – 4,4 million copies
    5. Leona Lewis – Spirit
    Syco Music – 4,2 million copies
    6. Soundtrack – Mamma Mia!
    Decca / Polydor – 3,8 million copies
    7. Rihanna – Good Girl Gone Bad
    Def Jam – 3,6 million copies
    8. Metallica – Death Magnetic
    Vertigo / Warner Bros. – 3,5 million copies
    9. Madonna – Hard Candy
    Warner Bros. – 3,2 million copies
    10. Lil Wayne – Tha Carter III
    Cash Money / Universal Motown – 3,1 million copies
    11. Jack Johnson – Sleep Through The Static
    Brushfire – 2,7 million copies
    12. Kid Rock – Rock’n’Roll Jesus
    Top Dog / Atlantic – 2,6 million copies
    13. Soundtrack – High School Musical 3: Senior Year
    Walt Disney – 2,6 million copies
    14. Alicia Keys – As I Am
    J Records – 2,4 million coopies
    15. Pink – Funhouse
    Laface / Zomba – 2,4 million copies
    16. Michael Jackson – Thriller (25th Anniversary Reissue)
    Epic – 2,3 million copies
    17. Taylor Swift – Fearless
    Big Machine – 2,1 million copies
    18. Beyoncé – I Am… Sasha Fierce
    Columbia – 2,0 million copies
    19. Jonas Brothers – A Little Bit Longer
    Hollywood – 2,0 million copies
    20. Miley Cyrus – Breakout
    Hollywood – 2,0 million copies

    THIS IS WORLDWIDE. http://www.mediatraffic.de/year-end-albums.htm

  • shunda

    @certified
    please don’t make me cyber choke you lol. I am starting to despise when people say at the end of the day I have heard Frankie and Neffe say it so much

  • shunda

    I absolutely love lions and tigers and bears. That is the way I feel about my “friend”

  • Naima

    Brandy’s album did better than Monica’s album is gonna do. She did pretty well for someone with no song on the radio

  • whyohwhy

    Rihanna may have been all over the place but her talent has yet to come home so she gets non for that. I voted for acutal talent so I choice Beyonce. Actually it should’ve been the two best of 2008 #1 Beyonce – Fierce, #2 Alicia Keys – Superwoman…

  • Daisy

    @Shunda thats all they say on K cole. I wonder what the beginning of the day does for that family.

  • Krysi J

    mizzdallas said:

    “Hurricane” is my ish, OMG!! I swear she needs to come out that as a single…
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    GUrl…when she hit that second verse “Bay-bee Im not sURprISed, oH I-I-I…” ah bytch had tears in dey eyes LOL!

  • Krysi J

    And thanks for adding her Sandra, because even though Ri Ri did her thing this year, hands down Jazmine has a voice that can move mountains.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    coaretained Says:

    still waiting on Bey and Jazzmine Auntie!!

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    It’s there. Refresh your browser or close your browser and open a new browser. Or delete your internet cache.

  • Krysi J

    shunda Says:

    I absolutely love lions and tigers and bears. That is the way I feel about my “friend”
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    Me too..Shunda 🙁 You got me over here bout to ball up, please don’t talk about it…LOL!

  • shunda

    @Daisy
    I know. At the beginning of the day is when I slapped the ish out of them for saying at the end of the day lol

  • shunda

    @Krysi
    girl I was just talking to my best friend about him and she called me the runaway girlfriend like Julia Roberts in that runaway bride movie

  • Krysi J

    @Krysi
    girl I was just talking to my best friend about him and she called me the runaway girlfriend like Julia Roberts in that runaway bride movie

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    Me and my friend are too In Too Deep….we had a baby in November, after 13 years of friendship for the first time I don’t see him the same anymore…Im scared to trust him, becuz I don’t want to play the fool for anybody, then I go back and forth with, but what if Im wrong and it really was meant to be…..Im just really confused about the whole situation and in the process Ive pushed him away to the point where he may be starting to feel like maybe it wasn’t? Its been so long since we’ve talked as friends (almost 6 months, now its all about the baby) I don’t even know how to get shyt right between us. LOL, am I wrong for putting my business in the streets LOL?? Oh well, its the truth.

  • mizzdallas

    @Sandra
    Didn’t Brandy’s album drop and flop in the same week?

    It will do better than Monica seems like she cant even get out of Atlanta…. Some people just stuck this bubble gum pop mess they have forgotten what Real R&B sounds like..

  • shunda

    @Krysi
    girl I put my business out here all the time. The fam will help. They are good at that. This is my therapy I can’t afford Dr. Phil and my insurance won’t cover him and fly me there lol

  • mizzdallas

    @shunda Says:

    @Krysi
    girl I put my business out here all the time. The fam will help. They are good at that. This is my therapy I can’t afford Dr. Phil and my insurance won’t cover him and fly me there lol

    Dr. Phil is crazy as hell! Hes gonna be in tyler perry new movie Madea goes to jail…

  • shunda

    @mizzdallas
    I love that clip haha. “You’re always trying to get somebody when they ain’t wanting to get got”

  • MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

    Of course, Rhi-Rhi was everywhere, so I had to give her a break from this year. I x’d out everyone else on the list all except but KC. I had to give her my vote. She stepped her game up this year. Though her last album did not impressed me, I think she had a great year in ’08.

  • Shauny

    If I was voting on style it would be Rhi Rhi but since my vote is based on who’s CD I can actually listen to….it was a close call between KC (not the latest CD though) and J-Hud for me. Alicia came in 3rd.

    I like Jazmine Sullivan but I wasn’t feeling her CD. Because Bey came out so late in the year, I couldn’t vote for her either.

  • Krysi J

    o ok, for a minute I thought I had gone too far. Im glad there are people on here I can relate to, I can’t even tell my own friends that shyt, of course cause we’re ALL friends…so I wouldn’t want them clowning me about their homeboy and I tripping out. Leave it up to my homeboys we’ll be married by now, but the truth is, I don’t see it.

    Anyway…I voted for Jazmine twice, what about yall!! LOL

  • candycane

    Awww now Jazzy, why she gotta be so low. I think Jasmine Sullivan has a really good cd and i am so pumped to hear she’s nominated for 5 grammys the first time out. Hopefully she will continue make good music

  • shunda

    @Krysi
    I have been through some mess in previous relationships. Everyone calls him my boyfriend but me lol. I may make a change for the new year. I have 2 days to decide

  • http://myspace.com/tamarlese Peachizz

    The winner of the year is KC… Hands down..

  • Krysi J

    I have 2 days to decide
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    Damn, you don’t have much time! Lol. I can’t even bring myself to say anything to him about it….I don’t know how too? “Am I the only one who thinks its an impossible task, why it don’t don’t last, is that too much to ask…” I wish I could just tell him I miss his friendship.

  • Daisy

    I guess I am the only one who likes K Coles new sound. IMO she did a better transition musically vs MJB who also grew and matured. MJB is the Queen of hip hop n R&B but since her change her music hasn’t been that hot to me. I still can however JAM to K coles new cd.

    Ladies good luck with the man problems in 09. I have been single for 8yrs so I don’t remember what that even is..lol

  • Daisy

    @Krysi you just told us so tell him. I am sure he misses it as well.

  • shunda

    When I don’t want to see someones reaction I send a text message. It may be juvenile but it protects my feelings.

  • Kymystry

    Well Krysi … I was with someone for what would have been 6 yrs in Feb … I would ask if we had a future and he said .. Yes of course .. i can’t imagine me without you … then I would ask for direction as to when and if we were goin to be “official” .. and i got .. well .. i’m goin to try and gain custody of my daughter and i won’t have time or energy to put into you … needless to say I was hurt .. but I made the decision right then and there to Live and Love ME … after all .. I know Jesus loves me … and I have to do the same thing .. cause .. I’m all I got . and I have a son to take care of … 🙂

  • shunda

    @kymy
    you have us and if anything happens I will find a nice young lady for that little cutie of yours lol. I am too damn old.

  • iscream

    I voted for MJB just because she was there. But RiRi clearly deserves this award. She has been on her grind non stop. (hoepfully she learns how to dance)

  • Kymystry

    @ Shunda … thanks

    Yall cougars … look but don’t touch my youngun .. his Momma (ME) IS a fool … lol

  • Krysi J

    Damn Shunda you hit it right on the head, Ive been thinking about doing that, but im scared LOL! He already act like he mad at me for acting crazy with him, what if he finally decides that its a lost cause. I can determine that on my own, but the last thing I need is for him to give the word while Im still potentially a post pardum case LOL.

    @Daisy

    Its not really a man problem, if it is, I must be in denial like Shunda…yes, with a baby and all. I still consider it a friendship problem…..OH Lawd, somebody help me 🙁

  • Kymystry

    @ iscream .. AND sing … cause she can’t

    I voted for my girl .. MJB

  • Krysi J

    @Kym

    I agree with the way you felt, but I hope yall are still together. I know you can understand why his daughter comes first. I know you would have done the same, or at least I would have. I really don’t think he meant for it to hurt you. It sounds like he was just being honest about doing what he had to do to get his daughter

  • shunda

    @Krysi
    I understand where you are coming from
    @Kym
    girl you are going to have more than cougars going after him lol. I will tell you what my sister told me about my son. When the girls start calling you say he don’t live here anymore haha and make sure his phone has plenty of minutes.

  • Charles

    WHY IS BRANDY not on this list but monica is

    WHAT THE FUCK HAS MONICA DONE THIS YEAR???

  • Charles

    Sandra Rose Says:

    mizzdallas Says:

    Im NOT gonna ask you howcome you didnt add Brandy.. UnnnHuh!!!

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    Didn’t Brandy’s album drop and flop in the same week?

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    OOO NO!, DIDNT MONICAS Album get scrapped after her local SHOW didnt do so well and her single still standing WENT NO WHERE, MONICA < BRANDY

    Why cant monica come out with a album??? Why cant MONICA get out of ATL because face it she has no fans elsewhere, you can hate on brandy but She released a album MONICA DIDNT monica has DONE nothing this whole year yet she makes it on the list

    MONICA couldnt even get a ALBUM OUT!!!!!!! Yet shes on the list

    P:S i voted for BEYONCE!

  • Kymystry

    @ Krysi .. of course his daughter comes first … so I’ll let him go do his thing .. and I’m doin Mine … keep in mind .. I was takin care of HIM and my SON at the same time … but obviously mutli-tasking isn’t in his skill set …

    chucklin

  • Daisy

    Ok I am back I got busy at work..lol

    I am not into texting im old skool I gots to see..lol

    Dang ppl stay taking shots at Monica. I didnt think her cd came out this yr cause it wasnt finished. I am sure when its done she will drop it. Her last cd was FIYAH I still bump it.

  • Charles

    I voted for beyonce not to be spiteful but because lets be real SHE HAS DOMINATEd 2008, RIHANNA had 2007 BUt beyonce has really dominated when her album dropped everyone was tlaking about her (GOOD and BAD) you cant deny that. And with DIVA and HALO she will continue into 2009.

    Rihanna = Good but meh not really
    Keyshia Cole = she had a album come out, but shes not the business
    Monica = PLEASE!
    Alicia Keys = When her last album come out
    Mariah = Meh her cd was decent
    Mary J Blige = RIGHTTTTTTT her cd was a flop too
    Janet Jackson = NOPE
    Jennifer Hudson = NOPE
    Fantasia = HELL NO
    Madonna = Maybe but not really her album didnt do well and it sucked
    Jazmine Sullivan = who?

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Lol @ Rihanna winning by a landslide over BeYAWNsay! :lolsign:

  • Daisy

    @Charles BOTH Diva and Halo suck along with Sasha supposed to be fierce NEXT!!!

  • Krysi J

    “takin care of HIM and my SON at the same time ”

    O ok, now I understand Kym, and you’re right to do YOU! I agree.

  • KAT

    why is monica on here???? i voted for keyshia cole….had 2 hot cd’s……

  • Daisy

    @Kat K Cole has had 3 HAWT cds IMO.

  • Daisy

    @Shunda how are you going to figure out your deal in 2days?

  • Mississippi16

    @ Krysi… Girl, i wish you and i could talk woman to woman. My head is over here spinning with a similar situation I’m dealing with at this very moment.

    A big void is coming into play with my friend that I’ve had for 15 years.

    Kymy… He’s using his daughter as a cover. I’m using my daughter as a cover right now too because although i love my friend dearly and respect him for the man that he is, I’m just not sold he’s the one I want to marry. It is possible to love and respect a person but not be sure that they are the one you want FOREVER with.

  • SlimA

    The only reason Rhiyawna won is because Sandra voted 920 times but only allowed us to vote once. Man down!

  • http://myspace.com/fla_gyrl_rhia rhiannon

    @ Charles…I’m with you. I love Mo, but what has she done???? At least Brandy’s album did drop. Monica doesn’t even seem like she knows what direction she wants to go in. Even worst Brandy’s people obviously believed in her album!! Monica’s album was scrapped before she even started good.

  • Daisy

    Dang ya’ll in deep 13yrs and now 15yrs.

  • Daisy

    Is it betta to drop a whack cd or wait until you get it right? Im just asking….

  • Charles

    SlimA Says:

    The only reason Rhiyawna won is because Sandra voted 920 times but only allowed us to vote once. Man down!

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    LOL 😉

  • Charles

    rhiannon Says:

    @ Charles…I’m with you. I love Mo, but what has she done???? At least Brandy’s album did drop. Monica doesn’t even seem like she knows what direction she wants to go in. Even worst Brandy’s people obviously believed in her album!! Monica’s album was scrapped before she even started good.

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    Thats what i SAID!!!!! se emy post on the gov blasjj whatever his name is post

  • Charles

    Daisy Says:

    Is it betta to drop a whack cd or wait until you get it right? Im just asking….

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    her cd is not wack, and monica couldnt wait or not, she couldnt get enough buzz for her to get a album out, monica is not big nationwide =/

  • Mississippi16

    @ Daisy… We were platonic friends for 15 years and never took it there. I was in relationships and so was he. But over time, we both started growing up and I started seeing him for the great guy that he is.

  • Naima

    I voted for Rihanna.
    Rihanna can’t sing but I like her songs. She has had the most hit singles, no one knows why people don’t buy her album though, maybe b/c no one respects her as an artists. I guess she is just a mannequin who has some catchy tunes.

  • Krysi J

    @Mississippi16

    OMG, please Gurl, talk to me, help me! I’m so confused, but everytime I think about losing him as a friend it breaks my heart, but I could careless about a relationship, why is that?? I don’t even have the guts to tell him how im feeling and we used to talk about any and everything together. He and I were so connected that when I’d think about him he’d call….when I’d think about him, he’d write me a letter….you know that crazy ish. I know he’s thinking about it too, but I just don’t know what conclusion he has come to, and Im afraid to ask. We have this baby girl now and he loves her very much, and so do I, just because she’s ours….but things are so different…I don’t know what to do? I’m really in a weird place. Some advice anybody please. Lets try this Mississippi, and Shunda, you give me some advice about my situation and I’ll give you advice about yours…maybe we’ll come up with the answer

  • Mississippi16

    This is not the lifetime achievment awards. Although Mariah, Mary, Monica and Janet have had wonderful careers… they are not contenders for 2008. BUT I am ready for them to come with the fire in 09.

    Although Rihanna is sexy as hell and provide great entertainment, is she really selling music and selling out any shows on her own, her stage presence is weak?

    KeyCo – on her grind and have stepped up style, attitude, she’s expanding as an artist but weak in live performances.

    JHUD – CD is BANGIN!!! Her year could have ended much better if it were not for her tragedy. I’ve heard that she sounds even better live.

    BEYONCE – Strongest across the board… Filling stadiums, live performance, beautiful, despite this year’s thieving, she is a talented singer and writer.

    Jazmine – CD is wonderful. Strong singer, strong writer . She even wrote for JHUD’s cd. She need more promotion.

  • Daisy

    @Charles IMO the cd is whack. I like Brandy but was not impressed. Monica can sang thats why I like her and she has put out great cds over the years. Just because you like Brandy more doesnt mean you have to take un neccessary shots at Mo for doing her thing her way.

  • Daisy

    @Miss are you sure B is a strong writer..lol

    Also I would be scared to ruin a friendship after 15yrs. Good luck.

  • shintrell

    Lmao at Sandra. Too funny.

  • bloggergirlz

    interesting…

    Rihanna 38% (1040 votes)
    Keyshia Cole 19% (511 votes)
    Monica 1% (34 votes)
    Alicia Keys 7% (187 votes)
    Mariah <1% (24 votes)Mary J Blige 6% (173 votes)
    Janet Jackson 1% (31 votes)
    Jennifer Hudson 6% (152 votes)
    Fantasia <1% (18 votes)
    Madonna <1% (15 votes)
    Jazmine Sullivan 5% (142 votes)
    Beyonce 15% (425 votes)
    Total Votes: 2752

  • Mississippi16

    @ Krysi… I don’t think there is a particular step that you need to do to make things better/ right between you and your friend. I do think that ya’ll need to talk though.

    We may need to recruit ELOVE’s resident male opinion on this one.

    I would say just sit him down and talk. Let me know that you’re aware that the friendship that you two used to have has changed and you miss it and want it back. Tell him how you two having a baby together changed the playing field and now your feelings for him make you feel vulnerable and maybe scared. Find out where his head/ heart is but be open/ receptive to whatever his answer is.

  • Charles

    “BEYONCE – Strongest across the board… Filling stadiums, live performance, beautiful, despite this year’s thieving, she is a talented singer and writer.”

    LMFAO A TALENTED WRITER

    *ROLLS EYES*

    OK 😉

  • Mississippi16

    correction…
    let HIM know

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    SlimA Says:

    The only reason Rhiyawna won is because Sandra voted 920 times but only allowed us to vote once. Man down!

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    NOT TRUE! I can only vote once, the same as you! Although I did vote from both my PC and laptop. :lolol:

  • Mississippi16

    LOL @ Charles.

  • Charles

    Daisy Says:

    @Charles IMO the cd is whack. I like Brandy but was not impressed. Monica can sang thats why I like her and she has put out great cds over the years. Just because you like Brandy more doesnt mean you have to take un neccessary shots at Mo for doing her thing her way.

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    ITS THE TRUTH WHAT HAS MONICA DONE that is so noteworth in 2008?? Other than still standing what has she really done?? why did branyds album come out and monicas not, brandys HUMANS is different but its incredibly emotional

  • Charles

    Actually why didnt monicas cd come out, she had BIG BUZZ with still standing

  • Charles

    I VOTED FOR BRANDY

    🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

  • konartiz

    only reason rihanna is in the lead is cause beyonce and others were lefted off the list so they couldn’t be voted for.

    RECOUNT…

  • Mississippi16

    @ Krysi…
    I’m a coward. I’m too chicken to even anonymously put my stuff out there it’s gotten so tangled this last few days but I’ll try.

    Long story short:
    We’re friends for 15 years and have even slept in the same bed but no haps.
    A year ago, we started to become more than friends and started seeing each other exclusively.
    A month ago, we had a slip up and I’m a few days late.
    He’s 35 no kids and happy about it.
    I’m a single parent, struggling and confused. Don’t want to take the test to find out for sure.

  • purepisces

    @ Mississippi

    DAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMNNNN!!! THIS IS BETTER THAN Y&R!!!!

  • lialin

    lazmine sullivan ate the hell out of that song hurricane! that is definitely one of my fav’s!

  • purepisces

    Not to make fun of your sitch, but DAMN!!! =) You gotta take that test…no way around it.

  • Mississippi16

    @ Pure… LOL

    That’s why I didn’t join the BC discussion yesterday. I’m horrible w/ my pill.

  • Mississippi16

    @ Pure:

    I’m skurred.

  • Krysi J

    I would say just sit him down and talk. Let me know that you’re aware that the friendship that you two used to have has changed and you miss it and want it back. Tell him how you two having a baby together changed the playing field and now your feelings for him make you feel vulnerable and maybe scared. Find out where his head/ heart is but be open/ receptive to whatever his answer is.

    Now read over your advice and see if any of your own words is good advice for you

    as for my opinion on your situation, even though you haven’t really told me you have any problems…take it from me, there is already so much love there, so don’t be afraid of that part. The confusion is the problem, because you’ve been friends for so long. THat alone can ruin the relationship, my advice is to just get it all out…you’ve been friends for so long the advantage you have is that comfort with each other. Before you even go into a relationship I say talk about everything all the possibilities, marriage, children, cheating, lying…ya know GOOD AND BAD. Swap scenarios make sure you are some what prepared for every situation. That way if you end up in my situation you won’t wonder what the solution to the problem is, you’ll already have an idea, and you won’t be afraid to go to each other and talk things out. I think I was so scarred from my first love, that regardless of how much love I already knew my friend and I had for each other, I couldn’t except the fact that it could be TRUE. I started to look at him like any other man, but at the same time I loved him like my best friend as always…I just wasn’t IN LOVE with him.”Just cuz I love you and you love me, that doesn’t mean that we’re meant to be.” However, we still moved forward…and we ended up her, barely speaking, with a beautiful daughter, and I don’t think neither one of us knows exactly whats going on. Do you think our problem is we need to choose between friendship, and relationship…seperate the two, maybe thats whats holding us back?

  • ELove

    I WAS going strictly off of exposure, air-play, records sales, mag covers, endorsements & types of endorsements… AND of course the Hype-Machine …

    So I Voted for Rhi-Rhi 😉

  • purepisces

    @ Miss

    Shyt, I would be too…BUT you gotta do it! =) Even if you get your period, it doesn’t mean you’re not pregnant. Shame on you for not staying vigilant with your pill!! =) If you get out of this one unscathed, you BEST change up your BC routine!!!

  • Mississippi16

    Girl, i love my friend but don’t think I want to marry him. Plus, he’s 3 hrs away so I would have to sell my home and move so we could be together (or vice versa)

    This last year has been the hardest of my life b/c my child’s father has disappeared financially. Because of the economy, he took a huge hit and had to close his Real Estate Company and he is struggling.

    As a result, my child and I are struggling. I’m supposed to go back to school in the fall to get my Master’s to try to do better by my baby that’s already here but i can’t see how that will happen living in a city by myself with no support system and a newborn baby.

    Just the conversation alone is creating a huge division between my friend and me. We had some very heated words today for the first time ever.

  • Mississippi16

    @ Pure.. I was being vain and didn’t want the shot because it makes you BLOW up.

    My aunt died from an IUD that went wrong so I’m afraid to try that.

  • BLACKBARBIE404

    THIS POLL IS AS TAINTED AS THE VOTING IN PALM BEACH FLORIDA!

  • Krysi J

    101Mississippi16 Says:

    @ Krysi…
    I’m a coward. I’m too chicken to even anonymously put my stuff out there it’s gotten so tangled this last few days but I’ll try.

    Long story short:
    We’re friends for 15 years and have even slept in the same bed but no haps.
    A year ago, we started to become more than friends and started seeing each other exclusively.
    A month ago, we had a slip up and I’m a few days late.
    He’s 35 no kids and happy about it.
    I’m a single parent, struggling and confused. Don’t want to take the test to find out for sure.

    @Mississippi

    you just gave me chills…we’re both 27 and I was in denial until March…chile had been pregnant since February. I too am a single mother for almost 8 years at that, and when I finally told him that I was, we both were in a state of shock at first, then we talked and couldn’t help but be excited about it. It almost felt RIGHT?? Then We had an incident happen between us, that I think changed our friendship forever…I was so upset about it I haven’t really spoken to him as a friend since. He apologized and I still couldn’t get over it. I love him and miss his friendship more than he will ever know

  • teecee

    none, because they didnt release a cd that was worthy of more than 2 decent tracts.

  • shunda

    @Daisy
    I have no idea. I will be in church tomorrow so I will pray for guidance. 🙂 When we talk about the future he talks about a house and marriage. I have a house so I talk about my career, how I want to help counsel teenage girls and things like that. I am working on my MBA, I have 2 kids and I still have time for him so he sees it as me being perfect I see it as me knowing how to be flexible.

  • purepisces

    @ Miss

    Yeah, that shot was a killer, I must admit. Not for everyone, but it was fcr me. =) Maybe you should try Norplant, or the Nuvoring…the patch…that shyt is too important not to try and see, IMO. Forgive me, I am anti-breed, so I’m SERIOUS about that shyt. I intend to be the female Fort Knox…or Alcatraz…LMAO!! Not even getting into the moral issues, but hell, the money it takes to raise a child these days is redic!!! As you well know…=)

  • Mississippi16

    @ Pure… talk about expensive.

    Girl, my 3 yr old daughter’s daycare is ridiculous. I know that prices are different according to where you live but her school is supposed to increase her tuition in April. It will go up to almost $700/ mo. When it does, she’ll be out of there. Like i said, i get no help. That doesn’t include insurance (which is also expensive), clothes, shoes, food, birthday parties (for all her little friends) and she’s asthmatic. I have two outstanding hospital bills now from where I had to rush her azz to the emergency room this year.

    I’m not complaining about it cause i love her with all my heart. I’m just not in a hurry to have another one.

  • toosexy

    @daisy girl kc always fire, I love her new cd too, now i usually go thru a cd before i comment , and i didnt’ do that when i got that kc cd and I didn’t think i was going to like it cuz i was scanning thru but she didn’t let me down, that’s my girl and she is fire. I would have to agree that it’s been rhianna’s year, and beyonce is on the list what’s the deal with that.

  • purepisces

    @ Miss

    Sheeez…I hear my kid-friendly friends complain about it all the time…it’s crazy!! I honestly couldn’t afford to have one, even if I wanted one…and I don’t even want to think about having to do it alone. =P That’s why I’m waiting to get my furkids! =) For your sake, I’m hoping you’re gonna get lucky this time…

  • Krysi J

    Damn, all of this shyt is TOO deep for the 3 of us? And our situations are very similar, thats really crazy

  • terika83

    I chose Rihanna as well no one can argue that this was her year she was all over everything…

  • terika83

    Can I ask what is the big deal with Monica and Brandy? I mean I like them and all but their voices do nothing for me….nothin special about them and their songs are ok…they have some nice songs I really like but I just don’t see the big whoop either. They are good artist but no big deal to me. Not necc. entertaining.

  • Daisy

    @Terika I think Mo can really sing. Brandy had great songs as well but she can irk me whispering when she sings

    @Too I love the cd but nobody else up in here seems to even like it.

    @Shunda I pray you figure it out and do what God would have you to do.

    @Charles let it go if you want to see more Brandy go to her fan website. I stan for Akeys I dont bitch and moan about not seeing her up here on the daily.

    @Miss Take the test. God will not bring you to it if he cant bring you through it.

    To all the single mamas my heart goes out to yall. I am single no kids and I struggle myself from time to time but God is good, so let the church say amen..lol