Loyal reader LaToya Williams writes:

Hi Sandra, Love love love the website. Honestly I find it saddening when black women do things like this. (*cough* Beyonce) I myself am a black woman and I feel like I have reverse self hate issues. I WISH I was DARKER, I would say my complexion is around the real complexion of Necole Bitchie posted on your website, but its something about a dark skin I find beautiful and regal.

Unfortunately my family is full of different nationalities (but I represent for my black people) I'd prefer to be darker and I sometimes where foundation darker than my real complexion on purpose. I've come to the realization that some black woman especially industry ones get pulled into the light is right syndrome. The lighter they are the more beautiful they feel, black women aren't represented properly in the entertainment industry, when I see my people I see beauty in full lips, and various nose shapes and various colors, I find nothing beautiful about pasty white skin, (no offense to those with no pigment) I just thought I'd share my thoughts.

Keep up the GREAT work!!!!!!!


Photo on left by Derek Blanks
Styling by Shun Melson
Hair by Saisha Beecham

Photo on right by ExclusiveAccess.net

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    Thanks for opening the comments Miss Sandra. There is nothing bad to say here. Necole's Derek Blanks photo is absolutly gorgeous. Somehow I doubt she said, "Dereck please make me appear lighter. I just hate my skin color." I think it's lighting. I want to learn how to do my smokie eye like that. I'll be studying the heck out of her pick as I try to mimick it.

  • kwallace577

    i am so confused.

  • http://myspace.com/diva_mama2 DivaMama

    Agree with Bird - It seemed like a lighting thing to me too. Either way, I love the pics.

  • shunda

    @kwall
    I am right there with you.

  • iscream

    As I said on the other post. Necole does look different from the pic you posted of her @ the Rocco party (I'm mad I know his name and not anything about him other than being the fater to Mo kids).

    When I first saw her pic on her site I thought she was Aalyah. She's a beautiful woman doing her thang but I respect your gangster Sandra. You put how you felt out there not caring that she not only reads on this site but comments.....

    POPCORN ANYONE!

  • Anna

    shunda Says:

    @kwall
    I am right there with you.

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    I'm confused too, but is our confusion about why Sandra seems like she has a beef with Nicole all the while Nicole is on this site commenting, or something else? LOL.

  • Caron02

    Let me find out Sandy mad cause she hasn't linked up with Derek Blanks (LOL)

  • Kymystry

    beautiful girl .. beautiful pics ... Sandra .. please unpack your bags .. cause the trip u on has been Cancelled

  • blu_mango

    Unfortunately my family is full of different nationalities ?------------that bugs me. So what if your family is full of different nationalities??

  • bloggergirlz

    you prefer to be darker but take offense to people who want to be lighter...go figure...you are no different then "those" type of people...

  • shunda

    @Anna
    confused because I thought they were cool.

    I have said it before and I will say it again all black is beautiful. I know for myself I am lighter in the winter that I am in the summer.

  • Bubbles

    Sandra needs to do a Derek Blanks shoot so we can see what she looks like since she always has so much to say about other peoples looks.

    Where is your photo shoot Auntie?

  • intensemocha

    Every shade is beautiful from the very light to the very dark-that's what makes our race so unique and exotic.

    I am dark-skinned and I embrace my shade because although I was teased by others while growing up-I was raised in a family that nurtured individualism and high self-esteem.

    My grandmother would always say the darker the berry the sweeter the juice-lol, silly but it worked you couldn't tell me my dark skin wasn't beautiful & I didn't tell anyone even if they disagreed.

    Typically, God made you the way he wanted you to be and why mess with perfection? God doesn't make any mistakes.

    I have seven siblings and we all range in complexion from high yellow to ebony brown, there are some with hazel green eyes, brown eyes, curly hair & not so curly-and it is what it is...

    embrace who you are and whoever in the hell don't like it tell them to kiss your azz and go straight to hell, that works for me either they think I'm crazy and leave me alone or they realize I don't give a damn about what they think-and trust me I truly don't!

  • Bubbles

    Think about it Auntie. All the celebs in Atlanta have a DBlanks shoot. Where is yours? Don't get left behind!

  • intensemocha

    I didn’t tell anyone even if they disagreed

    oops, I meant to say I didn't mind telling everyone, even if they disagreed.

  • Mississippi16

    Sandra, I couldn't get to Nicole's site from work to actually see the pics but i will say this. You are GANGSTA! I think it's a shame when the industry lighten photos to make models appear "prettier".

    I don't know if I buy the whole lighting thing... although it definitely plays a part to a certain degree but it won't lighten you 10 shades.

    On the other hand, whether she approved this or not, i can't judge her and say that she hate herself. I was just thinking about purchasing some Ambi products last week to work on my skin - knowing that evening out the skin tone as they call it or "lightening" ... would be one of the "benefits".

    We all have something about ourselves that we would like to tweak here and there but I don't know about calling her out when you won't even put yourself out there. I think you don't want to do it for fear of criticism. One could argue that... self love is the understanding that regardless of what people say, you look how you look... and you look perfect to God and those that love you.

  • iscream

    I just read the email.. Was that made up to make this "a story"?

    I don't know where all of this "self hate" mess is coming from. Sandra you really seem to have an issue with color. Are you the one who really hates themself. I'm just asking because you arr starting to come accross that way.

  • bloggergirlz

    yall dont forget sandra took shots at necole a few months ago when she did that "why some urban bloggers get no respect"...i found it interesting since sandra posts misinformation a LOT of times...i guess it ok though since she offers her so-called "retractions" for some of the posts though...hopefully necole is somewhere laughing at all of this...

  • http://happynappyhead.blogspot.com Seattle Slim

    Meh...I think she looks good. She is undoubtedly lighter, but I really think lighting and the kind of makeup used played a factor. And I am glad I wasn't the only one irked by this:
    "Unfortunately my family is full of different nationalities"

    What do you mean by nationalities per se? A nationality pertains to the nation one comes from, not the race. That would be ethnicity.

  • Charles

    Derek blanks does that in all his photographs big flashes lots of light and lightning it doesnt mean that they are trying to lighten themselves or have self hate issues.........................

  • KAT

    i'll say it's the lighting or makeup. her neck and face is lighter than her arm on the picture to the left...which is the same color as the picture to the right.

  • teecee

    its all lighting and make up... when you go take professional pics and your are of African descent, they even out your skin tone and they take the shine or oils out of your skin so you wont look shiny. when you add lighting, you appear lighter, its not your fought, because nobody wants to pay for dark pictures that you can't see. a pic taken by your cousin shay shay in your bathroom isnt considered professional and one you wouldnt want to publish on a web site..

  • http://myspace.com/julanda Jadavies

    Great! I just really hate when I have to log on.
    Sandra, Sandra, Sandra What happened to the positive stuff?
    Seems to me like you hate yourself. You can only love others if you learn to love yourself. You are bringing down another beautiful african american sister. Showing your true character. You told on yourself on this one darling. Go and look at yourself in the mirror right now and say I am beautiful...go on say it. Maybe you will appreciate all women- regardless of color. Necole is beautiful- model status. Love yourself hunny bunch!

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    NEXT!!

  • PAGESINADIARY

    BLAME THE COMPANY THAT SHOT THE PICTURE THEY ARE THE ONES THAT PHOTOSHOPPED IT

  • Mississippi16

    Whether she lightened the pics or not... Who is Auntie to diagnose with social disorders?

    She won't put herself out there. She sometimes appear bi-polar with her TI/Tiny/Monica/Rocko posts.

  • kwallace577

    i am confused @anna cause this came out of left field. one day necole commenting and the next she is sworn enemy number 1!!!

    it was all just so dayum random.

  • BLACKBARBIE404

    NECOLE LOOKS FAB IN THE PICTURES!!!

    INTENSE - 2 FOR 2 WITH ME!!!! IT COULDN'T HAVE BEEN SAID ANY BETTER....

  • Mississippi16

    ^^ @ Kwall please see my #26 posts...
    Who is Auntie to diagnose with social disorders?

    She sometimes appear bi-polar

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    THE PROFESSIONAL LIGHTING ISSSSSSSS THE ISSUE!

    ALSO...THAT RAGGEDY A$$ FLASH IN THE OTHER CAMERA.

    How do you hate yourself? You been living with the muthaphucka for years. You and Yo'self should be good and cool by now!

  • http://happynappyhead.blogspot.com Seattle Slim

    How do you hate yourself? You been living with the muthaphucka for years. You and Yo’self should be good and cool by now!
    ================================================
    ROFLMAO!!!

  • shunda

    Lmao @divine. Why could I picture a crazy person smacking themself. My imagination is too wild today.

  • BLACKBARBIE404

    LMAO @ DIVINE

  • kwallace577

    @miss16...idk about bi polar b/c there are some thing she just won't bend on (bey bashing, Obama, a few other things) but i thought her and necole was TIGHT. she is toeing the bi polar line tough.

    a habitual line toe-er.

  • pinkscorpion

    Dayum.... Sandra you are really wildin out today. LOL

    I believe it's his photoshop and lighting too. She isn't the only one that he's shopped that appear lighter than they are.

    Do bloggers have fake beef to increase hits like rappers do for sales? I'm just asking...

  • http://necolebitchie.com Necole Bitchie

    Sandra you tickle me pink. I'm just as confused at some of your antics as your readers. But don't fret. This definitely didn't anger me.

    And the sad part about all this, is that there really are people that hate their skin tone and wish to be lighter. They wake up in the mirror every day wishing they were just a little lighter, a little smaller, a little taller and what do they do...they take it out on other people.

    Love yourself in 2009. Be thankful for what God gave you and also thankful for things that you may not have for that is what makes you unique and who you are.

    Trust me, my skin tone is the least of my worries but I've learned to accept my circumstances and that has made me a better me.

    Hopefully you will learn to become a better you

    Peace and blessings..

  • kwallace577

    hey seattle slim where you BEEN chile? we missed'd you. i like your blog too.

    i'mma get ME a blog dag on it!!!

  • kwallace577

    oh shyt! hey necole! (waving)

    SNAP. let me sit my azz DOWN before my log in stop working.

  • Anna

    kwallace577 Says:

    i am confused @anna cause this came out of left field. one day necole commenting and the next she is sworn enemy number 1!!!

    it was all just so dayum random.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    That's what I don't get. It this suppose to be a (inside) fued for our entertainment and someone forgot?

  • Ilovepink1981

    Its the camera, the lights and the makeup. Im not that dark but when I take pictues I am always 3 shades lighter and no matter how many times I go to MAC there is nothing that works, I can never be the same color in any of my pictures..unless I pile on the bronzer then I just look like a shiny penny

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    HOLE UP..READER ANTICS?

    WE WERE BACKIN YOU UP, HOMIE? I need some clarification.

  • shunda

    Necole has spoken. That was very big of her not to come with an attitude.

  • Nina

    Yeah - I was waiting on Necole to respond. Love the pics...very fab!

  • shunda

    @Divine
    Girl I am getting you Hooked on Phonics she said Sandra's antics not the readers lol

  • pinkscorpion

    Very Classy Necole....

    Miss Sandra, the answer is no, she didn't do it intentionally. I think...

    Yall stop it. You know you're both sittin up drinking latte's laughing at these comments, planning your 2009 Blog Takeover. :-)

    Good day yall.

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    Seriously, ya'll....HOW DO YOU HATE YOURSELF? You spend all day everyday with the mu'fugga. That is some heavy stuff right there

  • http://necolebitchie.com Necole Bitchie

    @divinebrown i'm confused like you all are (is how it should have read)

    i'm done here though. My innanet is acting suspect today. Can't update my own blog but am able to comment on sandra's site. Strange

  • pinkscorpion

    kwallace577 Says:

    SNAP. let me sit my azz DOWN before my log in stop working.

    We're >>>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<<< lol. (takes a seat next to K)

  • MsPink

    Umm Sandra as a photographer you should know that when taking a picture in a club you will appear darker due to lightening. as well depending on the season. I appear lighter in the winter due to the harsh cold and less sun and darker in the summer due to more sun exposure. Also makeup shades are a factor. Some people just need to learn to mind their own bidness!! Everyone seems so darn insecure. Who has a big , small, long , round booty. Or has a fake more or fake nose. If you wanna be darker, lighter, fatter, smaller whatever do as you please and others mind your own stuff cause we all have our own issues!!!

  • kwallace577

    it wasbig of her @shunda.

    and what reader antics d?

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    Don't get me hooked on phonics....

    GIVE ME AN ATTENTION SPAN THAT WILL ALLOW ME TO READ A POST LONGER THAN 150 CHARACTERS.

    If I see a big A$$ long paragraph, I immediately lose interest and keep scrollin. I skimmed over that one fast. LMAO...GETTING SHIET WRONG!

  • iscream

    When white ppl tan their skin to appear darker is that considered self hate?

    Or is this another thing black people brought on themselves.

    I love being black, love, love, love it. The different shades, the attitude, the style (all of which others copy).

  • http://happynappyhead.blogspot.com Seattle Slim

    Hey there KWall! Thank you so much I am honored any of the ladies from SR.com would come read my little bloggie that could LOL! I step away to do some work and I come back to this?? Let me go get my seat ringside.

    *whistles at concession guy* I'll have the Sam Adams and some popcorn. Thanks much!

  • BLACKBARBIE404

    *WONDERING IF SANDRA WILL REPLY TO THE RESPONSE*

    KUDOS TO NECOLE - I REALLY LIKE YOUR SITE!!!

    SANDRA, YOU'RE A VET IN THE BLOGASPHERE. YOU SHOULD TRY HELPING OTHER FELLOW BLOGGARIANS INSTEAD OF TEARING THEM DOWN. ESPECIALLY, THE ONES YOU ARE CLOSEST TO. IMO

  • heartbreaker

    @ 46...
    That's y they hate themselves...and the fact they don't realize the change begins within, is the reason why some go insane!! They stay mad at themselves for not changing!! It's a vicious cycle!! Like being overweight!!

  • shunda

    @divine
    It is ok I too have self diagnosed adult A.D.D at times lol.

  • Mississippi16

    Okay folk...

    Issue resolved. Back to work.

  • http://myspace.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    @divine
    she said she confused at antics of sandra just like we was not saying reader antics

    @necole
    sandra gonna update your site for you lol

  • Mississippi16

    @ necole. Your site probably slow due to all the traffic Auntie just sent you.

  • kwallace577

    DEAD @ barbie up there inventing words..."BLOGGARIANS"

    i too blank out in long paragraphs and that is why i too missed the whole thing... and was like "what antics?"

    in 2009 i need to buy a clue. cause i currently don't have one.

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    aWWWW....SEE, Necole B is cool chick! She came over...handled business is a respectful manner. This is my favorite line right here

    "Trust me, my skin tone is the least of my worries but I’ve learned to accept my circumstances and that has made me a better me." <------ That is so gangsta!

    Lawd, I thought she was testifyin...I was about to be some church up in here!

  • KaraZ

    Latoya needs to get a grip, seems to me that she's the one with the color complex (wearing darker foundation on purpose, probably looking foolish doing so as well).

    Necole looks like your average fairer skinned black woman, whose skin color varies on time of year/sun exposure.

    Sandra, what happened to less negativity in 09? You barely made it past a week!

  • MRSJONESK

    CAN SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT "IMO" STANDS FOR? I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO GET THAT ONE.

  • bloggergirlz

    IMO = it's my opinion

  • bloggergirlz

    necole is classy! she could've easily come in here gangbanging and/or clowning...for the record you pics are fab chica (i guess thats REALLY the problem)...as far as the problems w/ your site, you know sandra keeps voodoo dolls of people...

  • http://myspace.com/julanda Jadavies

    in my opinion @ mrsjonesk

  • MRSJONESK

    SANDRA I SURE HOPE YOU ARE PLANNING TO RESPOND TO THESE COMMENTS. WE LIKE WHEN YOU TALK BACK TO US.

  • bloggergirlz

    duh...i just i typed "its" instead of "in"...

  • MRSJONESK

    @ Jadavies.......
    Thanks! I've being seeing that one for the last few months and thought I'd figure it out!! LOL!!

  • CaramelDrop

    Necole Bitchie YOUR PICS WERE FIERCE! YOU LOOKED GREAT AND I LOVED THEM - Dereck did wanda's

    AUNTIE DO YOU THINK DERECK COULD PERFORM A MIRACLE ON YOU SO WE CAN SEE WHAT YOU WOULD LOOK LIKE?

  • kwallace577

    hail yeah at karaZ latoya the loyal reader is the one who instigated this who daggone THING. and you ain't neva lied about her not making it a week!!

  • LADYTEA

    don’t know where all of this “self hate” mess is coming from. Sandra you really seem to have an issue with color. Are you the one who really hates themself. I’m just asking because you arr starting to come accross that way.-------------------------------------------------------------------- I agree, pretty much seems that way to me.. And I don't really think that she should be the judge of pictures. I'll keep the rest to myself... SMH

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    Necole Bitchie must've called Auntie an "ole black ashy A$$ field hand actin' A$$ %$#@!@ and Auntie found out about it!

    ROTFLMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO....

  • iscream

    @ Divine lmao I swear I thought I was the only person who skipped over the long winded post. If I wanted to read a book I'd go to B&N.

    Necole I love your underlined insults. Such a classy lady.

    Guess she trying to update her site so her readers/posters can tear Sandy a new a-hole.

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    AUNTIE DO YOU THINK DERECK COULD PERFORM A MIRACLE ON YOU SO WE CAN SEE WHAT YOU WOULD LOOK LIKE?

    I laughed so loud I just snorted!

    The last dude that tried that AND POSTED HER PIC....GOT BANISHMENT expeditiously!! AND THAT'S WHY LINKS HAVE TO BE APPROVED!

  • http://myspace.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    i thought IMO= in my opinion
    but thats similar

  • kwallace577

    "expeditiously" ain't even the WORD. we were all waving bye to the person and everythang. and b/c i commented and said bye my azz got banned'd too.

  • keely107

    Okay Auntie and Necole, I see yall publicity stunt! We shall file this under attention whore cause I knwo both yall site jumpin right about now. LOL.

  • Naima

    Does anyone know any black persons whose skin color appears the same tone in every picture?

  • coaretained

    @naima

    phuck a picture.. my skin is two toned errday! My aunt calls me ring around the face.. and all my kids got it too.

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    iscream...My eyes will not register a long winded, wordy post. And don't let it be in all caps....WRAP TIME!

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    Loook....this is all in good fun! NOOOOOO NEED TO GO BANNING FOLKS FOR HAVING FUN!

    *lawd, please no...I DON'T WANNA GO* I was just playin...

    I'm bored at work...I needed a laugh....

    *I'm having visions of banishment and It's painful and hard to bear*

  • coaretained

    ya'll nuccas is off the chain...lol

    My balls are small today so I'ma sit back and watch.

  • Bubbles

    Oh wow Necole just killed Sandra with kindness.:lol:

    Learn to love yourself Sandra!

    Amen!

  • melinla

    i agree keely i had never been to necole's site 'til today mission accomplished...let's move on

  • melinla

    i agree keely i had never been to necole's site 'til today mission accomplished...let's move on

  • melinla

    sorry 'bout the double post

  • goat76

    Shots Fired!!! Shots Fired!!!!!!!!!

  • shhhh

    I knew it would only be a matter of time before you started crap with Necole. I KNEW IT!!! Oh well, it is what it is.

  • coaretained

    Auntie bout to do a Heisman on ya'll azzes!

  • http://smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

    Lotta comments and growing. Interesting.

    Necole's pics look great. Although I wish there was a way people's actual skin tones would show in professional pictures (with a lot of flash).

    I thought it would get a little crunk in here, but nah...this skin color thing is Sandra's ongoing fight. She never tires of it. LOL

    LaToya, girl stop.

  • iyonah

    TO MANY COMMETS TO READ, AS I EVEN STATED ON NECOLES SITE THE PHOTOS ARE HAWT .. ITS PROB THE LIGHTING ON WHY SHE APPEARS LIGHTER. IF YOU KNOW NECOLE OR READ HER PERSONAL BLOGS U WOULD KNOW SHE IS FAR FROM SELF HATING.

    SANDRA -- WHAT'S UP W/ YOU? WHY ARE YOU REALLY DOING THIS?

    ARE YOU MAD ABOUT YOUR BLIND ITEM YOU POSTED AND NECOLE'S BLOG BOUT IT???

    YOU CAN TELL ME ... HIT ME ON MY EMAIL ADDY. I DON'T THINK THESE POST ON HER WERE NECCESSARY.

  • intensemocha

    it's called comprehension-rather it be a long post or a short one-if you are just skimming typically that results in assumptions or just plain errors-hence the assumption necole's comment were directed towards us and not sandra.

    The length of the post had nothing to do with the assumption that was made.

  • http://myspace.com/shae_camille model_chick78

    LOVES Necole ! She is a REAL class act !*waves excitedly @ Necole* HEEYYYY GIIIRRRLLL :)
    I really do not see what the rhyme or reason was for this post whatsoever ?!?
    The girl who wrote the letter states that it saddens her when black women want to be lighter, but she will buy the wrong damn foundation to look darker ?! WTF is the difference. You should LOVE THE SKIN YOU ARE IN ! Love YOURSELF in 2009 and play the cards dealt you ! Wow...real slow news day huh Auntie ?

  • intensemocha

    it was the reader's error

  • iyonah

    NECOLE'S RESPONSE WAS TACTFUL AND TO THE POINT -- KUDOS TO HER ... SANDRA -- WILL YOU COMMENT ON THIS POST OR EMAIL ME??? SERIOUSLY .. WHAT'S GOING ON WITH YOU?

  • iscream

    Yall fools going to get me fired from lmao..

    "Ole black ashy azz field hand acting azz"

    Lmmfao....

    "Auntie post a pic so we can see what you look like."

    Please stop.

    & didn't she post her pic durning x-mas time? Was that one of her photoshopped best?

  • Sharonda

    I didn't read the comments, but ...

    How do you go off based on a picture if a person have self-hating issues?Why are the pictures a problem?When Rih Rih pictures get posted up her skin looks different and I don't say it only because I know skin color changes during the winter (typical science).I mean are we actually discussing skin tone still?Why I'm not surprised?

    If anybody is interesting in photography/photoshopping or anything knows that the light can change your reflection also.It's not even that serious.

  • toosexy

    her mouth is not that cute she looks better when she smiles. I think it has to do with the lightening. I think that when you do professionals shoots the lights make a big difference, even with me i take better pictures with the correct light.

  • shunda

    dang intensemocha you PMS'ing this week? j/k before you go off on me lol.

  • http://myspace.com/lorettadivine DivineBrown

    Thanks intensemocha! That was great! We had already established that.

  • toosexy

    @mississippi16

    I love ambi it has really even my complexion i am darker in some spots on my face, and I hated it, but I tried ambi because my mom swears by it , and I like what it has done for my skin.

  • BayArea

    Sandra you are a professional photographer you know how the game works. Photographers touch-up photos how they see fit.

    I took my 2 yr old to take Christmas photos and the lady thought the picture would like more vibrant if she "lighten" the picture, which also lighten my baby’s complexion. I like my baby’s true caramel complexion better.

  • goat76

    After this post........some of ya'll are about to get locked out of the house.........You know who you are...Hell it might be me.....

    So here's my email addy....Hit a nigga up....

    goat1976@gmail.com

  • Sharonda

    LOL @ Goat, you not going nowhere...Auntie is suppose to be good this year.

  • iscream

    Yall think we going to get banned?

    Damn it... I hit my head this morning when I fell on some ice.

    Somebody @ my job took my sidekick and has been posting under my name I aint say noneadat.

  • brwnsugga4you

    omg sandra...come on??? necole you are a beautiful brown sister...i'm just as confused as everyone else about this post....wow!!!

    as far as your computer...sandra is probably going thru your files as we speak...lmao!!!

  • starr

    I skimmed through the comments. Some of them made me LOL

    I understand about the lighting and make up....but i wanna see beautiful brown skin in professional photos. I don't wear makeup(unless its an absolutely amazing occassion)....love my lipgloss....., and may play with some eyeshadow once in a blew....but i don't like when i don't recognize myself.

  • toosexy

    @iyonah

    Where is necole's response?

  • http://www.straightfromthea.com ATLien

    Can't we all just get along???

  • intensemocha

    LOL-it's all fun in games 4 me-I'm at work blogging and my boss is on vacay...

    can you still pms when you don't get a period? (IUD)

    just curious....

  • iscream

    @ toosexy necole response is #36 & 47.

  • toosexy

    @iscream

    thanks!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Bird Says:

    Thanks for opening the comments Miss Sandra. There is nothing bad to say here. Necole’s Derek Blanks photo is absolutly gorgeous.

    **********************************************

    I totally agree. She's stunning the way she is.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    Guys, it's been fun today. I hope to see you all when I log on in the AM. Take care. God bless good nite. Holla!

  • terika83

    I think Necoles pics came out super cute. No disrepect to you Sandra, but you do seem like you may have the color issue...and I'm saying this because you only seem to think darkskinned women (minus Rihanna) are beautiful or do not criticize them when they are being a H.A.M. i.e. (them lil girls performing their version of cater to you) yet when it's someone who is light skinned or with long hair you criticize them. Would you like to be a little lighter or have longer hair? I mean I'm not trying to be funny but it's not uncommon...like someone said above a lot of people would like to tweak something about themselves.

  • LB

    Necole rawks!

  • http://talkingwithtami.com talkingwithtami

    I just had some pics taken by Derek too and you know Sandra Im dark skinned but my pics came out light too.Its the lighting for sure! She looks fab!

  • licia

    i absolutely love necole and her site. her pictures are the BIZNEZZ. the fact that she responded in the way that she has makes me respect her even more .

    as alot of others have said it's the lighting that was used to make her lighter. i doubt that she requested to be lighter and i'm sure it wasn't derek's or anyone else's intention to make her that way .

  • TheSinfulLife

    Everyone knows it's Sandra with the self hate issues. She obsesses over skin color to no end. And anybody who's ever had professional photo shoots KNOWS that the photographers own lighting often makes you look shades lighter unintentionally. It's happened to me on MANY occasions. Duhhhh, pictures can't be taken without a FLASH of WHITE LIGHT that no doubt makes EVERYONE look lighter, even when you're already semi-light complexioned. I've never seen a blogger act like such a cheerleader for darker skin and feel the need to point out every time a (as she outs it) "LSLH" sister is on somebody's arm or in somebody's video.

    Necole Bitchie is a BEAUTY, and I smell the hate through my monitor.

    Shame on you Sandra.

  • TheSinfulLife

    Oh I see that Necole commented! And I agree, I do like Necole's site much better. TEAM NECOLE! lol

  • kaliente

    Nicoles picz are HAWt!!!

    ummmmmmmmmmmmmm sidenote: Ol girl that wrote in...i bet she looks like an azz wearing the wrong foundation?!? DA HELL goin on wit that?

    Soooooooo in the summertime ur face is dark and ur arms n legs are light????

    OR do u put foundation all over??? LMAo i would really like to know.

    And ur a hypocrite chile....u are the definition of a self hatin bytch Toya..SMH

  • kaliente

    And Sandra..are those "hater blockers" u have on????

    lol

  • brownsugar2874

    Nicoles pics are cute. Shake tme hater's off

  • bigbawla

    just go to her site.. duh

  • genuinejasmine

    NECOLE is the shit.... I believe that only lighting.
    then again, ybf Natasha DID say u were a hater...
    Please stop.

  • lexdiamonz

    i think it is the club lighting that made her darker not the DB pic that made her lighter and as a former makeup artist trust me if they used MAC studio foundation that makes a damn tar baby light-skinned LOL!!! anyhoo she is a beautiful black woman as we all are some more than others :) but this is a moot point and NB always keeps it classy.... and kudos to her and other bloggers who are not afraid to put their face out there!!!! HOLLLA MAN DOWN now the real issue when is Frankie Cole getting a blog!!!

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    Can anyone share how much a Derek Blanks photoshoot costs? For the longest I have been wanting an artsy photo of me and my babies. I have my eye on a photographer in Charlotte who is darn good, but still has nothing on Derek.

  • http://talkingwithtami.com talkingwithtami

    @Bird start saving ladies lol, he aint cheap lol. Starting at over 1,000 a pop!Look at his work though it speaks for itself! Invest in yourself is what I say lol.

  • MissR2008

    Self hate is self hate. Whether you wish your skin was darker or lighter, not liking what God blessed you with is a PROBLEM! Calling it reverse self hate and slamming the next woman, is no better. You both need help. Black is beautiful, regardless of what shade it is.