Comments on: Celebrity Seed: Madonna, Brad Pitt

By: bk2atl

bk2atl — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:24:44 +0000

Sandra, I agree to a point. However, I think your argument involving a person’s boss whipping them is reaching. Adults are equals, therefore I would not stand for another adult beating me, man, woman, boyfriend, boss, etc. My children, are not my equals, they are subserviant to me until they are out of my home and living on their own, therefore, I am within my parental rights to discipline them by spanking when I deem necessary. My children are rewarded when they do something extraordinary. They are also punished when they are disobedient. I no longer spank/hit my 16 year old becasue he is at an age where he can think rationally and I should be able to reason with him. I spank my daughter (read 4 pops with the belt on her behind) when she repeatedly does something she KNOWS she should not do. It is important to distinguish between discipline and abuse. You can not paint all corporal punishment with such a wide brush.

By: PAHairston

PAHairston — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:32:27 +0000

Hello All. When I was 33, single and pregnant with my only child, who’ll be graduating from Stanford U in June 09, praise the Lord, Hallejuah, Thank you Jesus, one of my white co-workers gave me some very good advice. She told me to read to him every nite, if humanly possible, and to buy him a book for every birthday and every Christmas, instilling in him the value of reading. Also, I did reward him every time he brought home good grades, which was every grading period. I still reward him to this day and will sacrifice to give him everything he needs to be successful in this cold and crazy world. He’ll be graduating with honors. And yes indeed, I’m proud of this young man, who used to be a “nerd” and now he’s an intelligent, handsome Alpha who wants to be a doctor.

Momma, God rest her soul, used to tell me not to brag on my only son, to let others do so but if I don’t share this good news, no one will ever know. Besides, I ain’t bragging, like I said, just sharing good news. As always, I leave you in peace.

By: ontaya brooks

ontaya brooks — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:03:14 +0000

Sandra, Even though you are off the chain sometimes, I have to admit you hit the nail on the head here. I must also compliment you on responding to your readers, good to really here your feedback sometimes. Oh you guys better look out for Lourdes, she is really a beautiful young lady. Sandra keep up the good work, and leave Obama alone.

By: KaraZ

KaraZ — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 05:04:00 +0000

Sandra Rose Says:

@ starr:

Excellent point!! Our methods of disciplining bad behavior rather than rewarding good behavior dates back to the slavery days. It’s that slave mentality. We justify corporal punishment by mechanically repeating “a whipping never killed me” or “my parents whipped me and look how I turned out.”
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This is not slave mentality. Sandra, you’re a Christian aren’t you? You know good and well that the Bible tells parents to physically discipline their children, so you can reward your children for good behavior all you want, but if you love your children, you will beat they ass (paraphrased from Proverbs 13 and 23).
I don’t know what the Qu’aran or the Torah says about this, but I think that they’d have similar commands.

By: ursmyle4me

ursmyle4me — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:28:18 +0000

Other than a loud, “great job” and a long hand clap, I have never rewarded my child for being good and having good grades. It was one of those things that I expected her to just do. When she ran track and won 1st place, those were my “time to reward” moments. My daughter is 14 years old now and I still maintain that behavior. Things given to a child other than basic needs are a privilege, and children need to know that they are expected to do well, period.

I did laugh at this post because it reminds me of my new step-children that comes to my house every other week, with all their good grades and awards, showing it to me and then asking when can they go to Toys R Us…

A loud, “GOOD JOB”, “OH MY GOODNESS”…has usually worked for me in the past, but that was 10 years ago. Now a days, these kids want Ipods and Wii systems doing things they suppose to do…to each its own.