Celebrity Seed: Madonna, Brad Pitt
Actor Brad Pitt took his daughters Zahara and Shiloh on another bribery/reward run to the toy store in the Georgetown Area Of Washington DC yesterday. This is how some white folks modify their children’s behavior using the reward/bribery method. It works too. The reason why this method isn’t utilized by black folks is because most of us don’t have the financial resources to consistently reward our kids for good behavior. So we resort to the more convenient method of beating our kids with whatever we can lay our hands on — a belt, a shoe, extension cord, etc.
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Madonna escorted her children David Banda and Lourdes to Kabbalah services in Manhattan last night.
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STFU Sandra, you’re always worshipping mutha****’n krakkas!! U’re such a self hating hag!!
Please don’t group all black parents in the same category. There are many parenting methods that we use and it’s always those without kids that seem to have the most advice.
Sandra said…
The reason why this method isn’t utilized by black folks is because most of us DON’T HAVE THE FINANCIAL RESOURCES TO CONSISTENTLY REWARD OUR KIDS FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR So we resort to the more convenient method of beating our kids with whatever we can lay our hands on — a belt, a shoe, extension cord, etc.
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lmao… So you’re telling me that if a black child comes home with straight A’s a black mother is going to pick up a frying pan and bust her child over the head because she was in the kitchen cooking. (& since we have no means of finance you know that food was brought with her EBT card and food she got from the local Church line)
You so busy trying to get everybody wound up that the statement came out looking crazy.
I don’t know about ATL but it’s a besutiful day here in NY… Enjoy your Saturday
@ topic Brad and Angie seem to favor Zahara over all the other kids inc their own. Zarhara is cute but she looks like she is going to have Tyra forehead.
Madonna’s son is a cu-tie. He has some nice eyes and lips. Madge better get ready.
& why does it seem she has him wrapped in her pants in that top pic? It’s the same print.. confusing.
Sandra…why is Madonna carrying David? He’s too big to be schlepping him around….he needs to be put down and “feet don’t fail me now”….
Wrong….My daughter pulled all her grades up and I promised her I would take her to Claire’s and how did that little 7 year old end up spending $80 on lip glosses, purses to hold them, sunglasses, and little earrings!!! I don’t think we as parents should necessarily bribe children, but I definitely think that they need to know that we are proud of them and let them know, especially at my child’s age that it is important to do good in school.
PS…she was in a school where her white teacher sucked and her grades fell to all C’s…I moved her out of that school, she ended up with a new teacher (a “I don’t play that mess in my class Sista” and got all A’s and B’s and started multiplication already in just 4 weeks time.
iscream Says:
Sandra said…
The reason why this method isn’t utilized by black folks is because most of us DON’T HAVE THE FINANCIAL RESOURCES TO CONSISTENTLY REWARD OUR KIDS FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR So we resort to the more convenient method of beating our kids with whatever we can lay our hands on — a belt, a shoe, extension cord, etc.
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lmao… So you’re telling me that if a black child comes home with straight A’s a black mother is going to pick up a frying pan and bust her child over the head because she was in the kitchen cooking.
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Don’t be mad because you lack reading comprehension skills. I said reward your child for good behavior, not punish your child for good behavior.
diamonique70 Says:
Sandra…why is Madonna carrying David? He’s too big to be schlepping him around….he needs to be put down and “feet don’t fail me now”….
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I wrote that very question in the post, but then I deleted it. I don’t know why she’s always carrying that black man around. She needs to let him walk on his own two feet and stop coddling and babying him.
Mika79 Says:
Wrong….My daughter pulled all her grades up and I promised her I would take her to Claire’s and how did that little 7 year old end up spending $80 on lip glosses, purses to hold them, sunglasses, and little earrings!!!
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You’re a great mom! But you would have come out better (and less broke) by taking her for an ice cream cone instead. She’s only 7.
But it proves that rewarding good behavior does work. Remember that classic scene on the Cosby Show where Cosby couldn’t get the kids to behave and then his dad comes along and gets them to be quiet by bribing them with a dollar? I’m glad folks are being arrested for beating their kids now because the cycle of violence has to be broken in our community.
We don’t do food as reward in our home. The shopping trip…that’s gonna last for a while for her. She had a pretty bad spell with those grades so this was definitely a well deserved trip. And the dollar is saved for the tooth fairy, cause lil mama is still losing her teeth. Ha.
I think that too many times parents discipline their kids for bad behavior (a whopping), and dont’ reward them when they do good. There should be balance.
@ Mika79: I understand what you’re saying, but the key is “in our home.” The point is to take the child out for an ice cream cone which provides the extra reward of taking a sightseeing trip in the car. Kids LOVE that! I remember being rewarded with a trip for ice cream cones if I was good, but back then we lived in upstate New York where the closest ice cream shop was 20 minutes away.
@ starr:
Excellent point!! Our methods of disciplining bad behavior rather than rewarding good behavior dates back to the slavery days. It’s that slave mentality. We justify corporal punishment by mechanically repeating “a whipping never killed me” or “my parents whipped me and look how I turned out.” But if our employer pulled out a whip and started tearing dat azz up for doing a bad job, we would have an entirely different perspective on corporal punishment.
@ Sandra maybe you should re read what you wrote. If hitting a child with a shoe, belt or extension cord is considered a reward for good behavior in your opinion then we will have to agree to disagree.
Sandra what’s up with a Kandi from Xscape snagging that ATL housewives role. I didn’t even know she was married. I do know she is a hellva song writer and singer.
I always thought she was batting for your team.
iscream Says:
Sandra what’s up with a Kandi from Xscape snagging that ATL housewives role.
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I’m working on that post now.
iscream Says:
@ Sandra maybe you should re read what you wrote. If hitting a child with a shoe, belt or extension cord is considered a reward for good behavior in your opinion then we will have to agree to disagree.
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You misunderstood what I wrote or you took my words out of context. I wrote that we don’t utilize the white folks method of rewarding their kids for good behavior for whatever reason, ie, financial, cultural, etc. Instead we whip our kids. Obviously I didn’t mean to imply that anyone would beat their kids for good behavior.
So we resort to the more convenient method of beating our kids with whatever we can lay our hands on — a belt, a shoe, extension cord, etc.
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i can say i have resorted to that ever.but i must say that shyt is funny.
“never” i meant to say
@ Auntie: “But if our employer pulled out a whip and started tearing dat azz up for doing a bad job, we would have an entirely different perspective on corporal punishment.”
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**spitting out juice**…that was sooooo funny! But for real…I never thought about it like that…great point!
My mom never beat me with anything more than a random slap with her hand. And I have a 2 month old daughter and I will not be beating her either. I came from a reward for good behaviour type of home and my mom never lacked the finances to give me a Barbie for a great report card etc.
Other than a loud, “great job” and a long hand clap, I have never rewarded my child for being good and having good grades. It was one of those things that I expected her to just do. When she ran track and won 1st place, those were my “time to reward” moments. My daughter is 14 years old now and I still maintain that behavior. Things given to a child other than basic needs are a privilege, and children need to know that they are expected to do well, period.
I did laugh at this post because it reminds me of my new step-children that comes to my house every other week, with all their good grades and awards, showing it to me and then asking when can they go to Toys R Us…
A loud, “GOOD JOB”, “OH MY GOODNESS”…has usually worked for me in the past, but that was 10 years ago. Now a days, these kids want Ipods and Wii systems doing things they suppose to do…to each its own.
Sandra Rose Says:
@ starr:
Excellent point!! Our methods of disciplining bad behavior rather than rewarding good behavior dates back to the slavery days. It’s that slave mentality. We justify corporal punishment by mechanically repeating “a whipping never killed me” or “my parents whipped me and look how I turned out.”
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This is not slave mentality. Sandra, you’re a Christian aren’t you? You know good and well that the Bible tells parents to physically discipline their children, so you can reward your children for good behavior all you want, but if you love your children, you will beat they ass (paraphrased from Proverbs 13 and 23).
I don’t know what the Qu’aran or the Torah says about this, but I think that they’d have similar commands.
Sandra, Even though you are off the chain sometimes, I have to admit you hit the nail on the head here. I must also compliment you on responding to your readers, good to really here your feedback sometimes. Oh you guys better look out for Lourdes, she is really a beautiful young lady. Sandra keep up the good work, and leave Obama alone.
Hello All. When I was 33, single and pregnant with my only child, who’ll be graduating from Stanford U in June 09, praise the Lord, Hallejuah, Thank you Jesus, one of my white co-workers gave me some very good advice. She told me to read to him every nite, if humanly possible, and to buy him a book for every birthday and every Christmas, instilling in him the value of reading. Also, I did reward him every time he brought home good grades, which was every grading period. I still reward him to this day and will sacrifice to give him everything he needs to be successful in this cold and crazy world. He’ll be graduating with honors. And yes indeed, I’m proud of this young man, who used to be a “nerd” and now he’s an intelligent, handsome Alpha who wants to be a doctor.
Momma, God rest her soul, used to tell me not to brag on my only son, to let others do so but if I don’t share this good news, no one will ever know. Besides, I ain’t bragging, like I said, just sharing good news. As always, I leave you in peace.
Sandra, I agree to a point. However, I think your argument involving a person’s boss whipping them is reaching. Adults are equals, therefore I would not stand for another adult beating me, man, woman, boyfriend, boss, etc. My children, are not my equals, they are subserviant to me until they are out of my home and living on their own, therefore, I am within my parental rights to discipline them by spanking when I deem necessary. My children are rewarded when they do something extraordinary. They are also punished when they are disobedient. I no longer spank/hit my 16 year old becasue he is at an age where he can think rationally and I should be able to reason with him. I spank my daughter (read 4 pops with the belt on her behind) when she repeatedly does something she KNOWS she should not do. It is important to distinguish between discipline and abuse. You can not paint all corporal punishment with such a wide brush.