Correction: R.L. and Lena are not engaged *Updated*

Hey Sandra. It’s RL,

I really appreciate you putting the word out on my mixtape. I’ve taken the last few years off to write on other projects and now God has given me the opportunity to come back out. I am a HUGE fan of your site and it my day to see all the love and positive responses. Even though I can’t please everyone I feel it’s a blessing for people to even give it a listen. God bless you.

PS Lena is the love of my life, but… we are not engaged. I think people think that because I wear a religious ring on that finger. Not to take anything away from her because we pray daily that God brought us together for the long haul… Thanks again Ms. Rose!

UPDATED with a message from a friend of R.L.’s:

I cannot comment but can you let the ladies know he has only been w/ Lena for a few months – yet known her for years. He sent the correction because he didn’t want phone calls asking why they found out via your site lol. And he just made 32, not 40 LOL. Thanks again

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ReadTheBlog

mmmmmmmm. Unnn Unnn. Why do I see ole dude from Belly with the flip eating the banana saying ‘I don’t like that shit’?
Daisy

Hey RL Love the mixtape and I still have my Next cd..lol You betta put a ring on it sooner than later..:-)
Krysi J

LOOK at that RL on deck! Somebody hit’em up and told him, he wrote Sandra personally…..Sandra, you went from a photo site, to the DOT COM Queen on dis bytch!
iscream

Awww Auntie you have been getting so much shine lately.

& R.L. No one would think you were “engaged” because of a ring that “you” wore. That would equate to being married.

& if she praying with you dude step up ya game. I mean you just said she is the love of your life. What r u waiting 4?

I think part of my post was personal.
kwallace577

awe shucks. showing respect for his elders signing “Ms. Rose”….so mannerable.
ReadTheBlog

Wow, if it’s one thing I’ve learned about when men make their relationship status public…wow
flyqtnva

AAAAAWWWWWW…..Go ahead and wife her…the family that prays together stays together…..
flyqtnva

@ReadTheBlog

DO SHARE WHAT YOU LEARNED
Krysi J

@Read the Blog

NO, RL is not on the DL….”I can VOUCH that all Shug Avery Churrins gots the same Daddy”
Kymystry

Kudo’s to R.L. … and i did like “Wifey” now that I know who u are … Kudos for sayin she’s the Love of your Life.. not your “situation” … or your “peeps”
iscream

My comment is awaiting approval?
Lets try this again.

Auntie you have been getting so much shine lately.

& R.L. No one would think you were “engaged” because of a ring that “you” wore. That would equate to being married.

& if she praying with you dude step up ya game. I mean you just said she is the love of your life. What r u waiting 4?

I think part of my post was personal.
Shauny

@Isc
I agree with your post. The only think that struck me odd about this post was that he wanted us to know he wasn’t emgaged. I’m glad she’s the love of your life but that’s like saying if you want it, you still have a chance.

I still love you though RL. I did a lot of naughty things off of Butta Love…..wink
anti-PC

I agree with ISCREAM.

I like R.L. and all but why are the older menfolk so slow to make their lovers their wives? What is he, in his 40s??
iscream

@ Shuny I’m sure he wanted to clear that up for her friends and family who have been blowing up the love of his life phone.

Girllllll why you didn’t tell us you got engaged.

Girllll I just read on Sandra Rose you were engaged.

& in turn you know who had to hear it. R.L.

So he sent in that email ASAP!

It amazes me how quickly they respond to Sandra’s post.
Daisy

I knew this convo would end up going down this road…lol
KaraZ

anti-PC Says:

I agree with ISCREAM.

I like R.L. and all but why are the older menfolk so slow to make their lovers their wives? What is he, in his 40s??

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Men are not the only ones to blame when it comes to feet dragging to the altar, the women they deal with allow it. No man is going to keep you “just a girlfriend” if you don’t want to be “just a girlfriend.” But then some women would rather hold on to a stagnant relationship that rock the boat and possibly lose a man who didn’t want to marry her in the first place.

I’m not saying this is the case with RL, seeing as he claimed her firmly and publicly vs. her being a “situation”
Daisy

How many married people do we have in the SR Fam?
Kat

i’m single, sexy & free!
anti-PC

@KaraZ– you are right about that.
ReadTheBlog

Krysi, I’ve never thought he was the DL type. Never thought he was the praying type, either! His sexual or religious preferences don’t interest me.. Neither does his music.

ISC, I totally agree. If he’s doing it like that, he ain’t ready. Breakin’ your neck to tell someone you aren’t engaged? He’s not Usher, it won’t harm his career. Good enough to pray with but not good enough to committ.
AlwaysSweet

Well, may God bless your union RL. But oh, how I wish it was me.
AlwaysSweet

In RL’s defense, he’s been married before and it didn’t work out for whatever reason. So maybe he’s just wanting to take his time with this one to make sure it is right. I don’t know how long they’ve been together.
iscream

@ Daisy quite a few are married from what I gather.

& since I’m sort’ve in that situation I will be the first to say it has nothing to do with allowing a man to NOT marry you.

I am truely happy in my relationship. I really don’t have much to complain about. Sex is off the hook & in my heart I know this man is in love with me.

If right now he isn’t ready to jump the broom, should I leave? I don’t think so. I will continue to enjoy myself until we are both on the same page. (we talk about it but men know mostly all women want the ring w/o it being said)

I’m not in love with the thought of being married. I’m in love with my man.
Daisy

@Always thanks for confirming that I asked that question earlier under the other post. I thought he was divorced.
Shauny

Isa married now Daisy…lol
Daisy

@Isc my best friend is knocking on 4yrs and she is ready and has been ready. He said he wanted to be married by 30 he will be 32 in May. The lies he told..lol She is stuck like Chuck wanting to walk but her heart isnt ready to let go. She has a 6yr old and does want more kids. I told her she will know when she has had enough we arent getting any younger but the choice is hers. I am not a female that tells her gfriends to stay or leave. I just listen.
Krysi J

I’m single, CraZy, Kool…lmao!
ReadTheBlog

I think a year is plenty of time to know if you want to be married to someone and spend the rest of your lives together… otherwise, you’re wasting one anothers time.

I’ve got a friend who, when first dating her ‘fiance’, she was very unsure about establishing a relationship with him. Fast forward 2 years, and now they’re engaged and suddenly, they aren’t getting along. Well rewind 2 years – you knew THEN you were unsure so now you’ve wasted your time, his time and your friends time listening to you talk about him.

Stuff like this really bothers me.
The Divine Ms. K

I am extremely glad he didn’t call her a “situation” but at the same time – but if you pray daily that God brought you together for the long haul – and if you’ve BEEN together for the long haul…tick tock…what’s the hold up?

I’m not one who would be engaged forever and a day, so maybe that’s why I’m like what’s the deal. I was only engaged long enough to save up for my wedding. lol

All that aside – they look happy so whatever. I’ve always loved R.L.’s music and STILL bump We Can’t Be Friends by him and Deborah Cox. lol
ReadTheBlog

lol@ update…
Krysi J

@ Update

*waving*

Wut it do RL, when are you going to hook up with Genuwine,Tyrese, & Tank for a song…..OOOh and Jamie Foxx that would be like the 2009 LSG
iscream

@ Daisy why does she want to walk because he isn’t ready to get married or because of some other drama. If the only reason she wants to walk is bc he won’t marry her then maybe she is more in love with the thought of marriage than him, idk.

@ Read I agree if shyt aint right b4 you get engaged or married then please do not think that marriage, a baby or any of that will make it right.. It usually makes it worst. So if your friend walks down the aisle knowing this she will more than likely end up in divorce court.

That’s why I say to RL if you and this woman is spirtually connected and you consider her the love of your life… then pop the question. I’m sure you still have some of that Next money & you siad u writing so step up to the plate my mans!
anti-PC

Ooops, I stand corrected.

Good luck to you, R.L.!
mizzdallas

another update***

Im single no kids and lovin life to its fullest (In frankie’s voice) HOLLA!!!
mizzdallas

typo “the”
iscream

Lol I told yall it was about those phone calls.

A few months huh? No Comment since they are obviously reading.

The heck with it.

My comment still stands. Either you’re bs’ing “the love of my life” comment or you need to pop the question. A few months or a thousand years if she is the love of your life then she is the love of your life. PERIOD (in my Miss Ceiley voice)
ReadTheBlog

ISC (holding up fist). Right On, Sista!
KaraZ

@iscream, this is not an indictment on your relationship, only the two of you know what’s going on within yourselves…

but I maintain that it doesn’t take that long (18months is reasonable) for them to decide they want you and make actual step to getting you legal. If a woman knows she wants to be and is ready to be married and is being fed that BS line by her man about him not being ready to be married, she really needs to evaluate the relationship she’s in. Chances are the man is saying he’s not ready to be married (TO HER).
iscream

KaraZ Says:

@iscream, this is not an indictment on your relationship, only the two of you know what’s going on within yourselves…

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I didn’t take it that way. I was just giving my point of view as someone who was in a similar situation.

& for me 18 months is not reasonable. There really shouldn’t be a time frame on true love, but that’s my opinion. Sometimes if someone (man or woman) isn’t ready, they will marry you just because they have been pressured to do it.

Pressure can make a diamond but too much pressure can smash that cole to pieces.
Daisy

@Isc As a christian neither I nor my best friend want to “live in sin” forever. I do not judge what anybody else does cause I know at the end of the day I am still a sinner saved by grace but I believe in marriage and would not want to date somebody for almost 4yrs and still just be a gfriend. I am not trying to have sex again until I say I do. So at the end of the day for me it comes down to spiritual reasons.

I feel a man knows within a yr but that does not mean he has to ask then but def. my 2yrs we need to be headed to the alter. I am not getting any younger and I want babies..lol
Daisy

Oh and trust she loves him thats why she is still with him. She never saw herself being a gfriend to any man this long. I wish them the best same with you and your boo.
pointhimout

the way that u shake it on me, makes me want u so bad sexually..oh girl….

y did they break up (Next, the group). cool. I remember a youtube joint R.L. did to “cater to you.” fu**** haters or something like that. i was like “oh wow.” this is what I meant about bow wow playing himself with those comments in his twitter page. Stay positive and do YOU. Like R.L. says, you can’t please everybody. Once you know and accept that, the rants and tantrums will cease.

Good to see him back on this side of things.
iscream

@ Daisy thanks good luck to you all.
& R.L & Lena.
& to all the married people.
& to all the single people looking for love.

Relationships are like fingerprints; no two are alike.
Daisy

@Ice are you ready for making da band?
Shauny

@Daisy
Que is about to get his azz whipped.
Daisy

@Shauny Puffy didn’t put his azz in timeout..lol I mean Q even tried to play Mike and he don’t bother nobody he is the voice of reason like myself..lol
iyonah

I must be the only one who doesn’t think marraige is the ultimate goal for a committed relationship, where both parties love each other.
Daisy

@Iyonah I am sure there are other women who don’t want or have to be married. That is not my testimony though..lol I feel women who have been divorced are more so in that boat vs a woman that hasn’t ever been married but some of yall do exist as well.
iyonah

GM Daisy!

“some of yall do exist as well”

I think marriage in today’s society doesn’t stand for true ultimate commitment, people in marraiges lie, cheat and waste time and $ when it comes down to the seperation. I am sure many are ok exisitng without the ring (This is DIFF when children are not involved) When kids are involved, its an entire different conversation.

In RL’s case … I don’t think its an issue of if he loves her or not. Many of the comments were about if “Lena is the love of my life” why not just “put a ring on it”, when I don’t think that should be the immediate thought process.

Daisy – What industry are you in?
Daisy

@Iyonah I come from a spiritial point when it comes to marriage not sure if you saw what I said yesterday. I did not give RL a hard time about not being married I did joke that he needs to put a ring on it..lol

Marriage is not for everybody but it is something that I desire.

I am in the Proj. Management field currently. I am getting my Masters in Public Admin. so I can move into govt or the non profit sector.
iyonah

@ Daisy …

I see & respect that take. Since you mentioned spiritual – do you think a man and woman can ever be evenly yoked?

I was just wondering what you do to allow you to post so frequently.
Daisy

It’s called multi tasking..lol

@Iyonah yes I think a man and woman can be evenly yoked.
iyonah

LOL .. girl you post like every 5 min.
Kat

i agree w/ iyonah & daisy about the marraige thing….people kill me bashing folks because they not married…maybe they don’t want to be married…yet…or maybe never. everybody has a choice. if they happy, so be it.
iyonah

^5 KAT ….

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