A black male's response to my Hally Berry EAT post.

On Tuesday, July 7, loyal reader Rodney wrote:

Halle Berry does not need to gain weight. What makes you think all black men want two hundred + pound women on their arm in public or on top of them in private? (Just because he will freak you does not mean he wants to marry you or is proud to be out in public with you). Your site has pictures of women who are obviously overweight and you promote/hype this as healthy and attractive.

Okay, the lady might be attractive, however, in almost every case she would look much better if she lost 20 to 40 pounds and she still could back it up. lol. There are some black women who can carry 20 pounds more than other women when their weight is on the lower body and she has a small waist. This DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL BLACK WOMEN. And, those who can carry the extra weight often take it too far. Instead of maybe an extra 20 pounds they are carrying an extra 50 pounds. Is it too much to ask if black men ask black women to be reasonable with their weight?

And, if you say this is too much to ask. Then how can you also complain when he dates a women who will keep her weight down. I have been to other countries with sizable populations of pure black women and the majority of them are not overweight. It is not genetic. A lot of young black girls are now overweight. Do you not recognize this as a problem? Stop promoting obesity.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    For every man who is complaining about a woman needing to lose a pound or two,are YOU in shape? No one wants to climb on top your beer belly and suck on your man boobs. That's SO not sexy either!!!

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    @yvonne79 lmao now that is funny. Don't Halley has diabetes, i doubt she is promoting.

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    Ya know, I blogged for 3 years without using the n-word, but more and more lately people have been making me say NIGGA PLEASE. That includes your post about Halle needing to gain weight. I simply ignored it becuase it was just to silly for me to conjure up a comment. Well here this negro goes making me have to say it again. NIGGA PLEASE.

    I can't recall you ever praising "big" women which leads me to believe he thinks the video hoochies, jump offs, side pieces and baby mamas you often post are fat. Yet as much as I rack my brain I can't think of one who I would even classify as thick-ish. He likes his women like Diddy and Russell Simmons; model thin aka anorexic. I for one find that to be very unattractive and so does my black man who is chomping at the bit to marry my thick ass. My black man says if I lose the booty I lose him.

    Instead of this dude worrying about women weighing 150 pounds he needs to holla at the 80% of his boys who are not raising their damn kids. He got some nerve talking about what black women need to do. I can guarentee you that if every single black woman was drop dead gorgeous and the size 0 this negro desires they would still have a plethora of excuses for not wedding us. NIGGA PLEASE.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    you said THAT Bird!!!

  • iscream

    While I disagree about what all black men want or don't want on their arms. (I see plenty of big women getting married and having healty relationships) I will agree that AMERICANS are obese. My s/o and I obseved this while having dinner one evening.

    Don't blame us blame these people putting hormones in the food.

    Lol @ # 1

  • PAHairston

    Hello All. This is a well-written, much needed letter. Look around us. Our children are grossly overweight. The young girls wear their clothes 3 sizes too small and the young men wear theirs 3 sizes too big and they call this fashion? It's not someone coming down on you, it's a health thing, pure and simple. Hell, I'm a least 20 lbs overweight and my doctor, a good looking black man, tells me that I'm almost obese. (NOT!)We black folks need to stop being so defensive and getting our feelings hurt so quickly when we hear the truth. How did my favorite sister put it: Be not easily offended because it will slow your flow of joy. Hell, makes sense to me. Ladies and gentlemen, pull away from the table when one is full, and buy clothes that fit. And buy a three-way mirror so you'll know what you look like when you're leaving the room. I'm just saying. Peace.

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    And what looks thin and good to you Rodney is not 100% healthy too!

  • Sharonda

    Men who are worried about weight are insecure in my opinion.Black men becoming so demanding that they not looking for a lover they looking for a momma.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    No one is disputing that Americans are overweight. It's not just our women, it's also our men and children too. This email aggravated to my core. The content of Rodney's email suggests a woman has to be a size 0-5 to be on his arm. Very superficial!

  • cinnamonkisses97

    Good point PAHairston !!!!!

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    Many of our weight gain comes from our culture and hour background. We eat heavy foods, why is it a issue now when the man is sitting down eating that bake macaroni you made for him on a Sunday. My sister is a size 0 and on a good day a 1. Her cholesterol is off the meter. and was a month away from getting a Rx if Lipitor. On a serious note, yes some of us african american should change our diets, just like most men should step up to the plate and take care of your children you know the ones that you gave us that help us pack on the additonal 30-40 pounds. You want a bad bitch! i want a bad niggah who is going to take care of home and his children.

    Did anyone ever seen the show on TLC Obesse, pregnant and diabetic? it was on yesterday.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    @CRYSTAY says:
    Did anyone ever seen the show on TLC Obesse, pregnant and diabetic? it was on yesterday.
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    Not a good combination at all! What happened on the show?

  • KaraZ

    He's not lying, people stay calling overweight, thick and obese, baby fat.

  • Daisy

    I can only speak for me and I try to fight the fat everyday at the gym so I can remain a size 6/8..lol Whatever I can't lose after having babies will be SUCKED out..lol

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    @yvonne79 they documented 3 women that were like 250+ pounds and developed diabetes WHILE they were pregnant.

    There were 3 women

    white girl-225lbs developed diabetes, was induced failure to progressed= a C section baby weighed about 6lbs 8oz
    spanish women- 250+ pounds went in to labor 2 weeks before her due date and had a 6lb something ounce baby

    black girl-350 pounds refused her amniocentises that would help to know if her baby lungs was developed to have her scheduled C-section. she changed her mind had the procedure and delivered a 8lb baby the next day after ther aminio. (i think she becomes diabetic in every pregnancy)

    all the women develped diabetes and had breathing problems because of the weight.

    after all the women delivered their babies they all wanted to change and loose the weight.

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    PAHairston

    I'm all for EVERYONE being more health concious and had his letter simply been about that I'd applaud him. This negro wants black women specifically to be model thin so they can get a man and look good on his arm. No sir. I'm not cosigning that mess. We recently learned that nowhere near fat diabetic fiance has one foot in the grave. Despite taking insulin for twenty years his sugar is still out of control, he has high cholesteral and the doctor is amazed he hasn't stroked out because his blood pressure is so high. He needs knee surgery because of a work injury and can't even get it until we get his health in order. Me, with the big ole booty, well I'm healthy. But our whole household had to completely change our eating habits for my thin man. So you better believe I'm on a serious health kick so I can keep this thin man alive. But by this guy's standards my man is good because he is not overweight. No I will not cosign his bullsh*t. He could have made the point about being healthy without attacking black women.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    @Daisy:
    According to Rodney, you are overweight too :eyeroll:

  • LovelyLady

    Daisy Says:

    I can only speak for me and I try to fight the fat everyday at the gym so I can remain a size 6/8..lol Whatever I can’t lose after having babies will be SUCKED out..lol
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    Im with you on this one. I would like to stay a size 7, 12/14 is considered almost on the fat side (sorry ladies). Me personally if you are over 165 (depending on height and your shape), u are almost fat so watch out. Most souther women tend to be on the THICK side, do to all the foods they eat, but honestly, when you legs start looking like cottage chesse and your ass looks like a golf ball, it is time to tune that ish up cause your azz is getting big,

    I HAT TO SEE COTTAGE CHEESE THUNDER THIGHS ON CHICKS IN THE SUMMER. And not all black men want a women with all that extra azz, hips or whatever. Some want an in shape woman.

  • flyqtnva

    mE PERSONALLY THE BIGGEST iVE BEEN WAS 208 with my last pregnancy...and yes I ate everything...I always had a big a@@....but when I got preggo that thing was HUGE....I used to turn around and men and women were looking at my a@@...My youngest is 1 and today I weigh 126...and I LOVE IT..my butt is ALOT smaller and MY HUBBY MISS IT..we were just talking about it last night..I still got JUNK back there but I feel better smaller...i can run & play with the kids & I'm not tired all the time. I'm a size 4 or 6 depending on the fit..but I DO GET MAD WHEN I SEE A BIT@H WITH A DUNK WALK BY ME :)

  • http://nwmasssmedia.com NichelleWalker/nwmasssmedia.com

    first of all you only have one life to live, so if you want to eat damn it eat. Who gives a flying fu** what people say. The truth is America is worried to much of people opinions. Everybody is so damn judgmental these days, If your Doctor who by the way went to school to give out medical advice. Tells you that you are overweight and it is unhealthy then get worried. First of all, Men need to fall back cause, unless your cut up like 50 cent and your peen is hanging like Mr. Marcus then work on yourself.

    No different than us having to put up with your little winners and still smile like were not sitting back thinking wtf.

    We need to focus on things that or way more important, high crime rate, faulty education high unemployment rates. If kids are overweight then something needs to be done at home. However you can spend your whole life trying to please a man and at the end of the day end up disappointed.

    So to the gentleman who said Halle can loose twenty more pounds, gtfoh she would look like a hype. And when did he become a spokes person from all man, last time a check fat azz where in demand among black men. So does that mean Kim K is overweight?? She surely traded her soul to be shaped up like a black girl.

    Ninja's got a lot of nerve with there pot belly having, little peens holding, whack azz stroking, can't keep there peen up pass five minutes. DL sugar booty's loving, on the low sucking peen trying to act like they aint gay. Broke azz still living with ya momma's, can't take care of there kids with multiple baby mommas.

    Wait I got more, fluck up credit having, no career having running around complaining about the white man. Lying to get sex, can't stay faithful, can't deal with a real woman so you rather be caption save em.

    Alright I'm done ya'll really ladies never live your life for a man. I know I might sound bitter to some of you guys, and as the days roll on I’m really becoming more wiser and stronger. But through out all my drama and struggles I learned a valuable lesson. Never live your life for a man, they will always disappoint you. So if you want to loose weight, don't do it cause this jerk wrote in and tried to put black women on blast. Do it because it's what you want to do. Live for you and if your in a healthy relationship; love that person deeply but always make sure your happiness is first.

    So Tiny if your reading this, if you want to work, go back to work. And if TIP loves you he will want you to have that piece of mind, by the way I love the show keep up the good work...

  • Krysi J

    PUH-lease dude....ain nobody trying to copy cat the illusion crack smoking or cocaine sniffing, throwing up MF dis your azz see on TV!!! If a woman can carry her weight in whatever way pleases her, without a health issue thats her BUSINESS!! And he talking bout just cause they will freak you doesn't mean they will marry you....THATS WHY HALF YALL DUMB AZZ BLACK MEN GETTING HIT IN THE HEAD FOR CHILD SUPPORT RIGHT NOW....off ignorant azz thinking like THAT! Yall don't talk dat shyt about Beyonce's azz, who is THICK....yes those hips will never leave that lower body...yall don't talk that shyt about ALICIA KEYS...wit azz and hips for days....

    the next time you get an idea to write Sandra Rose an email of your opinion based ONLY on black woman do us a favor and DON'T.

    bytch.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    Standing at 5'10...size 12..Yes, according to that freaking BMI chart I am considered overweight. Although I have GREAT cholesterol levels and never experienced high blood pressure or anything of that nature, I will never be anything smaller that what I am. Back when I was 125lbs, everyone thought I was sick and dying. When I climbed up to 176lbs everyone thought I was pregnant. Can't win for trying. Tired of making other folks happy or living according to other folks expectations. I have found a happy medium. I love EACH and EVERY curve of my body. I wouldn't change a thing!!!

  • Anna

    I am a size 12 or 14 depending on the brand name of the clothes. I am 5'9" and 150#. The heaviest I have ever weighed is 163# (and that was before giving birth). 5 or 10# does not make a difference if lost or gained on me because I am tall. Rodney is only speaking about his preference. There are real men out there who are "chubby chasers". Every fat person is not unhealthy and every thin person is not healthy. We (Americans) are overweight, under exercised and especially in the minority communities uninformed when it comes to healthy choices. We don't get yearly checkups, beit dental or health. I think most times we choose to keep ourselves "down". There are clinics in every city but some ppl choose to stay away. I have much more to say but I get so mad at this subject. We Have Choices.

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    LovelyLady Says:

    I HAT TO SEE COTTAGE CHEESE THUNDER THIGHS ON CHICKS IN THE SUMMER. And not all black men want a women with all that extra azz, hips or whatever. Some want an in shape woman.
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    Why do you care what any man wants physically and why do you look down on people who don't meet your physical standards? And that size 7 you boast of, the dude that wrote the letter is talking to YOU when he is referring to women carrying 20 extra pounds. You are bigger than many of the video hoochies Sandra posts on this site. As for cottage cheese, watch out girl because it's coming. It is not weight related and you can't exercise it off. But don't worry about it because your beauty is not just skin deep my sista and please don't let these triflin ass men who only want to screw you for a while anyway have you questioning that. See what this nigga done started?

  • http://nwmasssmedia.com NichelleWalker/nwmasssmedia.com

    Well I am a 12 sometimes I can get into 11 depending on the brand of jean. But my waist is small so as long as I'm happy I can care less what America calls overweight. Or anyone else saying that almost overweight. I'm living my life for me, now I'll be thirty in a couple of years and I can truly say I can care less. Nigga's ain't shyt anyways so who cares what they want on they arm.. Not me, I ain't checking for these dust lying no good cheating ninja's. You can be shaped like Beyonce and look like Halle and can cook like Big Momma. Them Mofo's still will cheat so whatever... I like my size and get plenty of holla's so what one man doesn't like there’s one

  • Krysi J

    No different than us having to put up with your little winners and still smile like were not sitting back thinking wtf.

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    OK!.....half deez niccahs got all deez opinions don't have and never will keep a woman they desire on their arm because of this alone. Just like they judge us according to size, we judge them according to d*ck...if ya ain working with nothing don't even look my damn way. Then ya wanna talk about a bytch stuck up cuz she won't holla back cuz you looking like a LAME with white air force ones, and a fukking roca wear t-shirt on....bytch please. He'll never pull a fly female, what real nicca take time out to write a fukking fan letter to Sandra Rose??? Save dat shyt.

  • Daisy

    @NW I co sign on not living your life for a man I never had that problem or syndrome I have ALWAYS been in love with some ME!

    @Yvonne I didnt read his letter so I am good if he thinks I am fat at a size 6/8 oh well so swell LIFE indeed GOES ON!..lol

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    NichelleWalker/nwmasssmedia.com and Anna

    You better preach! Ladies we have bigger fish to fry than to worry about looking fabulous for some negro who just wants to screw us. If you want to be respected and/or married, you have to get that mental right. Love you first no matter what you are. Love of self is a much more powerful motivator to get all facets of your life together than love of some damn man.

  • Lala11_7

    That post is a PRIME example of bitchassness at its finest!!!

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    @# 20 ha ha ha I love it................priceless lmao lmao bahahaha

  • LovelyLady

    Bird Says:

    LovelyLady Says:

    I HAT TO SEE COTTAGE CHEESE THUNDER THIGHS ON CHICKS IN THE SUMMER. And not all black men want a women with all that extra azz, hips or whatever. Some want an in shape woman.
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    Why do you care what any man wants physically and why do you look down on people who don’t meet your physical standards? And that size 7 you boast of, the dude that wrote the letter is talking to YOU when he is referring to women carrying 20 extra pounds. You are bigger than many of the video hoochies Sandra posts on this site. As for cottage cheese, watch out girl because it’s coming. It is not weight related and you can’t exercise it off. But don’t worry about it because your beauty is not just skin deep my sista and please don’t let these triflin ass men who only want to screw you for a while anyway have you questioning that. See what this nigga done started?
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    I never said i care want a man thinks. I am fine with my shape and no where near over weight., i am 5'8, 145 lbs not fat around the stomach or thighs. I was saying me PERSONALLY don't like to see thunder things in the summer (yuck), but i would never look down on someone because of their weight. I could give a sh*t about what most men want, Im happy being me and the way i am just like every one else should be.

    My point is black women think ALL black men want a thick chick with BIG HUGE bootys when thats not the case. Some dont want all them extra hips and thighs.

  • LovelyLady

    JUST LIKE MOST WOMEN DONT WANNA SEE NO NICCA WIT A POT BELLY WALKING AROUND WITH NO SHIRT ON, I DONT LIKE SEEING THUNDER THIGHS AND COTTAGE CHESSE AZZ, JUST MY OPINION.

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    LovelyLady Says:

    My point is black women think ALL black men want a thick chick with BIG HUGE bootys when thats not the case. Some dont want all them extra hips and thighs.
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    First, this may be a little bit of a debate, but not an agrument. I want to make sure you know I'm not coming from an angry place.

    You are implying that all black women think all men want thick chicks. That's not true at all. It sounds like you have met some thick women who are madly in love with themselves as well they should be. Just as you should be in love with yourself despite what this negro says about you being "a little overweight" which is absolutely ridiculous. I'd call you thin all day everyday. There are married and attached women of all sizes and we can all see that so it would be a little irrational for any woman to think all men want thick chicks or like this guy is implying, all men want thin chicks. My whole point is, who gives a damn what they think? If they get with you because of your looks and stay with you longer than a hot minute then they will leave you when the looks inevitably fade if not before. Look at poor Halle who has been dogged out more than a little bit by numerous boyfriends and BOTH of her husbands. Looks are only good for what this guy mentioned; having a trophy in public. It's good for absolutely nothing else when it comes to relationships.

    Everyone should love themselves no matter what anyone thinks.

  • LovelyLady

    ^^^^

    BIRD,

    I TOTALLY AGREE!!!

  • iscream

    @ Nichelle comment 20... girl I usually don't always agree with you

    But

    That right there

    :clap: :clap: would've gave you more but 2 is the limit.

    @ 21 Krysi

    I love it when you go off like that. LMAO

  • KaraZ

    You know what the writer is thinking when he's reading these comments right??? :)

  • Kat

    lmao @ these comments! :blunt:

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    You know what the writer is thinking when he’s reading these comments right???
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    That we are some lazy ass fat B's?

  • Divinebrown

    I guarantee this writer of this letter is usually the only black dude in an all white club...

    I would BET SERIOUS MONEY ON IT. The more comfortable you are with your own looks....the more accepting of others you are. He must have some deep seeded insecurities he isnt speaking on. Just because you arent' fat...it doesnt make you fly.

    You may not be fat but are you CUTE, mufugga? That's what I wanna know.

    Bottom line...unless you are the Surgeon General, quit worrying about other peoples health.

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    Anna Says:

    KaraZ Says:

    You know what the writer is thinking when he’s reading these comments right???
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    That we are some lazy ass fat B’s?
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    I was about to respond, but you took the words right out of my mouth. Now get your butts off these dang computers and go throw up fat heffas.

  • Krysi J

    I was about to respond, but you took the words right out of my mouth. Now get your butts off these dang computers and go throw up fat heffas.
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    LMAO....okay, he wish we ALL were im sure so he could feel better about making that stupid azz statement, but boo "I'm too fly fah dat"....LOL! Call me what cha won't homie, but you'll never call me yo lady.

  • KaraZ

    Anna Says:

    KaraZ Says:

    You know what the writer is thinking when he’s reading these comments right???
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    That we are some lazy ass fat B’s?

    lol, you forgot angry...

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    Anna Says:

    KaraZ Says:

    You know what the writer is thinking when he’s reading these comments right???
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    That we are some lazy ass fat B’s?

    lol, you forgot angry…

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    How did I forget that? All men think black women are angry.

  • Kymystry

    Imma comment .. then go back and read what yall said .. I know yall roasted ole dude

    RODNEY .. EAT A DYCK .. !! the protein is good for you ;-)

  • http://nwmasssmedia.com NichelleWalker/nwmasssmedia.com

    Oh yeah Rodney one last thing before I take my fat black azz to bed. Size matters to us to. Please don't believe that lame myth about it doesn't matter the size if you know how to work it---- all lies---... So the next time your with your slim chick, and she's tell you she just wants to be good friends because she's not ready.. Let me translate that for you, sorry boo-boo ain't got no time for the little sticks..get ya weight up.lmao

    So why you ninja's sitting back talking about we need to loose 20-30 pounds, ya'll need to go somewhere and gain 3-4 inches then maybe us black women would be more ken to being submissive... Oh and if this helps Oprah said if you loose 30 pounds you will gain a inch...I can not verify this but she said it's true...

  • LUSCIOUS

    that nigga is a loser...end of story.