I found this interesting comment (among many) in an earlier post I wrote about black men who think LSLH/white women were a better catch. The responses in that post were mixed, with most women defending other sistas for raising today's men to be the sorriest crop of brothas in history.
The old adage used to be, you can't turn a ho into a housewife. So the question for today is: is it now OK to turn a ho into a housewife since Kanye West, Lamar Odom and just about every rapper is doing it?
Loyal reader Nichelle Walker writes:
Most of them do these days –- look at Kanye with Amber. Men now [would] rather have a stripper than a hardworking woman. It has taken over even with Khloe: she has been with at least 5 men I know of This year alone yet she can still get married. Men don’t value themselves any longer. So I don’t agree. I believe black men have set their standards low, it was a point where a man wouldn’t dare try to turn a hoe-into-a housewife but now that’s what they want damn a good woman…
You know how I feel about this subject.
We have all seen the disaster that's resulted from black women raising black men alone in the last 30 years.
The bottom line is: It takes a man to raise a man. A female is not a proper substitute for a man in a boy's life. We need to do better.
If you're a single woman raising black boys, it is imperative that you have a man in their lives. You don't have to be sleeping with the guy -- he could be their uncles or male family members or just a friend. But he has to be there regularly in your sons lives to teach them how to be men. That means showing an interest in what they do, calling often to check up on them, taking them to ball games every weekend, etc.
In case you missed it: A female is not a proper substitute for a man in a boy's life. And ladies, it would help if you stop putting black men down in front of your sons.