God has blessed Beyonce Knowles with a new family addition -- a baby boy named Nixon. Although this baby wasn't exactly planned, I'm sure his sisters Beyonce and Solange will welcome him with open arms. Even though the newborn's very existence proves to the world that their father Mathew Knowles is a shady, immoral, sneaky, dishonest, lying adulterer and male slore.

The girls should accept the baby anyway because, after all, he is a gift from God:

Beyonce Knowles is officially a big sister again -- a DNA test has confirmed that Mathew Knowles is the father of Alexsandra Wright's brand new baby boy ... sources tell TMZ.

With the DNA test a match, we're told lawyers for Knowles and Wright are in the final stages of negotiating a settlement for baby Nixon's child support.

Wright filed a paternity suit last October against Knowles -- who was temporarily ordered to pay $8,200 in monthly child support.

Wright claims she had an 18 month affair with Knowles. Read More...

  • TruGemini

    Whatever...Beyonce nem finna act like that baby don't even exist...

  • ohso

    I actually like Solange so I will give her the benefit of the doubt and say she will go see Nixon...now Beyawnce i dont think will cuz she dont wanna mess up her "image" :rofl:

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    I was hoping this baby wasn't his. Damn Mattie. Couldn't keep it in your pants??

    Good morning all :coffee:

  • ms.truth

    well he looks just like him...Tina must not have been on her job to let this female (NOT CUTE) take her man :coffee:

    Good morning...

  • danjas

    nah they prob won't acknowledge that baby at all. there's alot of pain behind it im sure. even though it's not the baby's fault. just a messy situation all the way around.

  • QuettaV

    Goooooood Morning SR peeps! Matty Knowles know he is dead tot he wrong for this one right here.

  • aqtpie

    Hopefully they will embrace their brother. I believe the rumors that Matthew and Tina haven't been together for a few years now.

  • http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    looks like matt will have to cut a bigger check

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    I wouldn't be mad if Bey and Solo don't accept the baby right away or acknowledge him...

    It is all about hurt I think eventually they will accept the child but you have to get over the fact that your father was trifilin enough to break his vows and hurt your mother and not take it out on the child...

    But if Bey was worrying about her image she will accept the child right away because that is the "good thing" to do...

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    A blind man can see that was his baby. His cute self looks just like that rolling stone. I guess they could accept the kid so that Julez can have a playmate :shrug: Shame that Bey has kept her nose clean of scandal all these years just to have her #1 protector destroy it all.

    @ms truth

    I disagree Matthew must not have been on his job with keeping it in his pants and honoring his vows he made before God. I don't see how any of this is Tina's fault. I guess that is suppose to go along with the Urban Myth of if you're good in bed your man won't stray. HA!

  • Buddafly

    Good morning SRfam!

    He knew this baby was his from the very beginning, IDK why he tried to deny him.

    Momma always say: "What's done in the dark always comes to the light!"

  • VAALLDAY

    Come on, he knew it was his. This is gas to a fire for Tina's divorce.

  • FloridaChick813

    @ms truth

    I disagree Matthew must not have been on his job with keeping it in his pants and honoring his vows he made before God. I don’t see how any of this is Tina’s fault. I guess that is suppose to go along with the Urban Myth of if you’re good in bed your man won’t stray. HA!
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    :cosign:

    GOOD MORNING EVERYBODY :D

  • Soulstar81

    Good morning everyone!

    The baby is a real cutie. Hopefully Bey and Solange will accept the baby, but it might take a little time.

    @ Buddafly
    Momma always say: “What’s done in the dark always comes to the light!”

    :cosign:

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Wright filed a paternity suit last October against Knowles — who was temporarily ordered to pay $8,200 in monthly child support.
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    8,200 A month :eek: what type of pampers is she buying.

    & now that the test has proven it is his kid I'm sure that price may go up. Well that's the price you pay when you wanna play. Bey should fire his ass and let him find his own way.

    I remember her once saying how her family is not like the Jackson's because blah blah blah. Yeah, you need to watch the words that come out of your mouth... :coffee:

  • flsun99

    Cute baby and he looks like old Mattie too. I'm sure Beyonce & Solange accept their baby brother. They are very family oriented and regardless of the situation, I'm sure little Mattie will be accepted and loved by his big sisters.

  • htown-chick

    CHA CHING!!
    that bish hit the lottery!and i doubt bey n solange would embrace the home wreckin skeezer and her bastard child..after all she did work 4 THEIR company and im sure smiled n tinas face while she was screwing their dad!plus they r too close 2 their mom who probably is embarrassed and hurt by the fact and the publicity of it!all that takes time..bey is a star but 1st n foremost shes human..

  • mirsmommy

    I can totally understand BeyNappy's and Solange's pain from this, especially seeing their mother hurt, cuz I, for one went through this when my Dad cheated on my Mom, and produced my little brother. And I can also feel Tina's pain, cuz I went through this wit my Hubby and my stepson. :yes: I did.

    But we as in myself, my Mom, and sisters got over our hurt and accepted the children, cuz they're the innocent ones in the situation.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Iscream- :cosign: everything you said...I mean if you don't have anything more in common with a dude besides sex...he still will cheat ..some men just cheat no matter how freaky or smart you are some men are so insecure they can't keep a good thing...

    Why blame Tina both were busy and she didn't open her legs and both are married...marriage should be 50/50 so both should share some blame some more than others though...

    good morning all...

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    htown-chick Says:
    CHA CHING!!
    that bish hit the lottery!and i doubt bey n solange would embrace the home wreckin skeezer and her bastard child..after all she did work 4 THEIR company and im sure smiled n tinas face while she was screwing their dad!plus they r too close 2 their mom who probably is embarrassed and hurt by the fact and the publicity of it!all that takes time..bey is a star but 1st n foremost shes human..
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    :cosign:

    I just wish I could've been the fly on the wall when he broke this news to Bey (I hope he told her before it hit the net). Jay baby you have to hold your wife down.

  • Anna

    ms.truth Says:

    well he looks just like him…Tina must not have been on her job to let this female (NOT CUTE) take her man.
    ~~~~
    Nobody can take someones man.

  • Chgoprime

    WOW this so disappointing!Is nobody faithful today? I bet Illuminati Bey is pissed!

  • highlyfavored

    @buddafly I agree...dirt don't keep well especially when u r in the public eye.

  • lovezoe

    We all knew the baby was his when he had to fork over $8200/month and there was not definite paternity test done.

  • htown-chick

    But we as in myself, my Mom, and sisters got over our hurt and accepted the children, cuz they’re the innocent ones in the situation.
    by mirsmommy
    ................
    ur better than me honey..my "baby daddy" had ababy on me.the lil girl is 6..2 yrs older than my son but i'll be damned if she steps foot n this house or be around my child with my knowledge
    *kanye shrug*

  • ms.truth

    I'm in no way blaming her, AT ALL, and I wasn't only referring to sex. This just reminds me of Why Did I Get Married and the 80/20 rule...this female must have had that 20 percent that Tina didn't have...rather it had been looks,sex, cooking, cleaning, relating to him, listening to him etc...and by the look of this female, it must have been cooking, cleaning, relating to him and listening to him...But after all, none of us knows what really went on, so it's all just speculation. :shrug:

  • FloridaChick813

    Hey Mirsmommy -

    Its funny how people say they would do this or that.. But until your in that situation, you never know what you'd do.. Good for you though, for doin the right thing..

  • ms.truth

    whether*...I can't stand incorrect grammar.

  • FloridaChick813

    Missy Says:

    ..some men just cheat no matter how freaky or smart you are some men are so insecure they can’t keep a good thing…
    _________________

    :cosign: Im not justifying it or making excuses, but its just the way most men are.

  • whatdoesitmatter

    Solange's son has an uncle younger than him,.......now that's ghetto.

  • ReadTheBlog

    So Lil Creole Pimp's Uncle is younger than him? I alwasy thought that was weird when that happened.

    I don't know what to say, I really don't.:shrug: Isn't it against biblical law for a man to be bustin babies at that age? :rofl:

  • ms.truth

    Anna Says:

    ms.truth Says:

    well he looks just like him…Tina must not have been on her job to let this female (NOT CUTE) take her man.
    ~~~~
    Nobody can take someones man.

    ============================================================

    Yes ma'am they can. You better believe that if I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be doing in a relationship, some other female will come along and make herself look better and snatch him on up. Happens all the time.

  • mirsmommy

    htown-chick Says:

    But we as in myself, my Mom, and sisters got over our hurt and accepted the children, cuz they’re the innocent ones in the situation.
    by mirsmommy
    …………….
    ur better than me honey..my “baby daddy” had ababy on me.the lil girl is 6..2 yrs older than my son but i’ll be damned if she steps foot n this house or be around my child with my knowledge
    *kanye shrug*
    ___________________________________________________________

    No doubt, to each his/her own, but my Husband and I have been together since I was 16 and he was 18. About four years into the relationship, we broke up for a while, and that's when my stepson came along. We decided to get back together when my stepson was a few months old, and we got married when I was 23, my Hubby was 25, and we been good ever since. We've had custody of my stepson since he was 3 cuz his mother wasn't worth trash, but it worked out for us all. :)

  • FloridaChick813

    htown-chick Says:

    But we as in myself, my Mom, and sisters got over our hurt and accepted the children, cuz they’re the innocent ones in the situation.
    by mirsmommy
    …………….
    ur better than me honey..my “baby daddy” had ababy on me.the lil girl is 6..2 yrs older than my son but i’ll be damned if she steps foot n this house or be around my child with my knowledge
    *kanye shrug*
    _________

    Are you still with baby daddy?

  • htown-chick

    I’m in no way blaming her, AT ALL, and I wasn’t only referring to sex. This just reminds me of Why Did I Get Married and the 80/20 rule…this female must have had that 20 percent that Tina didn’t have
    .................
    im appalled that u really believe the schit u are typing!i mean really?honey u can be the baddest bish walkin,put it down in bed,cook and clean and STILL get cheated on!when will women realize that if ur man is a cheater he will CHEAT regardless of what u are and arent doing!and im speaking from experience!therea nothing like NEW puzzy and conquering a challenge to a man thats been in a committed relationship for YEARS!and then ole matty turned n2 a millionaire and im sure had puzzy thrown at him left and right..sumthing he wasnt use 2 getting n his "regular" days!

  • mirsmommy

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    Hey Mirsmommy -

    Its funny how people say they would do this or that.. But until your in that situation, you never know what you’d do.. Good for you though, for doin the right thing..
    __________________________________________________________

    No doubt, but to each his or her own. I mean, me and Hubby moved on with our relationship from there and got married afterwards, but I can't blame my stepson. He had nuthin to do with it.

  • FloridaChick813

    This just reminds me of Why Did I Get Married and the 80/20 rule
    ___________

    Speakin of, I cant wait til PART 2 comes out :cheer:

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @Htwon @ Florida

    I wanted to know the same thing. Are you still with him? How can you not forgive the sin but forgive the sinner?

  • FloridaChick813

    whatdoesitmatter Says:

    Solange’s son has an uncle younger than him,…….now that’s ghetto.
    _________
    :rofl:

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    I'm crazy for puttin myself out there but I was the product of an affair and when I was younger I would go over to my dad's house and I could feel the tension and I could always tell my step sisters and stepmom didn't want me around and i was always made to feel like I wasn't worthy of being around and they were just tolerating me and to this day they don't really care for me and none of his side of the family really acknowledged me but he's closer to me than he is the rest of his kids and i look better than them so BOOYAH BYTCHES!!!!!!!!!!

  • ReadTheBlog

    #25 - how can your babydaddy have a baby on you when the child is older than yours? Were you guys just dating at the time, and he cheated?

    My brother had a baby on his girlfriend, and they are still together, and she is stupid, cause I couldn't do it. :nono:

  • ms.truth

    ok, maybe everyone is misunderstanding what I'm saying so LET ME CLEAR MYSELF UP!

    1) I'm not blaming Tina for being cheated on.
    2) I do believe that most men do cheat because they see something in another woman that their wife/fiancee/girlfriend, doesn't have. Just because he sees something in another woman that his wife/fiancee/girlfriend doesn't have DOES NOT make the other woman a better woman.
    3) ALL men do just have the nature to cheat, it's just a matter of if they grow out of it or not.

    :blink:

  • speakinmymind

    i don't see why Bey is being thrust into the center of her father's issue. accepting that baby is not an indicator of whether or not she's a "good" person. GTFOH! the child's mother may not want her baby to have a relationship with the Knowles'. i swear, folks always think they know what someone else is thinking, what they should do/shouldn't do, etc.

    the baby is adorable and i'm sure he will receive plenty of love and nurturing from his family...regardless of whether or not the Knowles' are a part of that family unit.

  • aqtpie

    @Mirsmommy ~ I'm glad that things worked out for you and your family. I personally feel if you took the man back *forgave him* for something that he CHOSE to do, *cheating and conceiving a child* then you should be able to except a child who had no choice in being conceived.

  • FloridaChick813

    mirsmommy Says:

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    Hey Mirsmommy -

    Its funny how people say they would do this or that.. But until your in that situation, you never know what you’d do.. Good for you though, for doin the right thing..
    __________________________________________________________

    No doubt, but to each his or her own. I mean, me and Hubby moved on with our relationship from there and got married afterwards, but I can’t blame my stepson. He had nuthin to do with it.
    _____________

    AMEN!

  • mirsmommy

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    I’m crazy for puttin myself out there but I was the product of an affair and when I was younger I would go over to my dad’s house and I could feel the tension and I could always tell my step sisters and stepmom didn’t want me around and i was always made to feel like I wasn’t worthy of being around and they were just tolerating me and to this day they don’t really care for me and none of his side of the family really acknowledged me but he’s closer to me than he is the rest of his kids and i look better than them so BOOYAH BYTCHES!!!!!!!!!!
    ________________________________________________________

    :rofl:

  • FloridaChick813

    htown-chick Says:

    im appalled that u really believe the schit u are typing!i mean really?honey u can be the baddest bish walkin,put it down in bed,cook and clean and STILL get cheated on!when will women realize that if ur man is a cheater he will CHEAT regardless of what u are and arent doing!and im speaking from experience!therea nothing like NEW puzzy and conquering a challenge to a man thats been in a committed relationship for YEARS!
    ________________
    :cosign:

  • mirsmommy

    aqtpie Says:

    @Mirsmommy ~ I’m glad that things worked out for you and your family. I personally feel if you took the man back *forgave him* for something that he CHOSE to do, *cheating and conceiving a child* then you should be able to except a child who had no choice in being conceived.
    _________________________________________________________

    I soooo :cosign: with you.

  • ReadTheBlog

    Brown :rofl: @ looking better! As for them not accepting you, #GIRLBYE It's their loss!

  • speakinmymind

    @ mstruth,

    how old are you?

  • htown-chick

    We’ve had custody of my stepson since he was 3 cuz his mother wasn’t worth trash, but it worked out for us all.
    by mirsmommy
    ..................
    i applaud u!thats some real,grown woman ish right there.me and my sons dad have been together for 14years.and yes we're still together.now if this child was conceived on a month we werent 2gether,i dont know.all i know is that when my baby was 2 i found out about the little girl..and 2 answer the question about forgiving the sinner and not the sin..its easier to forgive the sinner when the sin isnt in ur face. *another kanye shrug*
    im not sayin my actions are right..in fact i KNOW im wrong,but i guess thats MY way of dealing with it.maybe n time my feelings will change but as of now...

  • FloridaChick813

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    I’m crazy for puttin myself out there but I was the product of an affair and when I was younger I would go over to my dad’s house and I could feel the tension and I could always tell my step sisters and stepmom didn’t want me around and i was always made to feel like I wasn’t worthy of being around and they were just tolerating me and to this day they don’t really care for me and none of his side of the family really acknowledged me but he’s closer to me than he is the rest of his kids and i look better than them so BOOYAH BYTCHES!!!!!!!!!!
    ____________

    :rofl: Only you BrownSuga... Only you... :lol:

  • QuettaV

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    This just reminds me of Why Did I Get Married and the 80/20 rule
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    Speakin of, I cant wait til PART 2 comes out

    ____________________________________________________________

    i can't wait til it comes out either. I know Hustle man will have my copy for me before 3:30.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Wow @RTB I didn't even catch the age difference. Good detective work.

    No shade to no one but I personally couldn't be with a man who allowed me to dictate if his child could see him in his home or not. That's why I was so happy Puffy never married Kim. How can you marry a chick who doesn't accept your blood? :shrug: I understand cheating & things that remind you of that cheating is a hard thing to accept but if you are going to forgive the man then you should accept his child. JMO

    Plus you should keep your enemies closer.... know what I mean. ;)

  • mirsmommy

    htown-chick Says:

    We’ve had custody of my stepson since he was 3 cuz his mother wasn’t worth trash, but it worked out for us all.
    by mirsmommy
    ………………
    i applaud u!thats some real,grown woman ish right there.me and my sons dad have been together for 14years.and yes we’re still together.now if this child was conceived on a month we werent 2gether,i dont know.all i know is that when my baby was 2 i found out about the little girl..and 2 answer the question about forgiving the sinner and not the sin..its easier to forgive the sinner when the sin isnt in ur face. *another kanye shrug*
    im not sayin my actions are right..in fact i KNOW im wrong,but i guess thats MY way of dealing with it.maybe n time my feelings will change but as of now…
    ________________________________________________________

    I understand where you're coming from, because it is a constant reminder, but the man is a constant reminder of his actions as well. But I personally, had to realize that it wasn't the baby's fault, and put my feelings to the side, especially when I saw the f*ckery that was goin on with his birth mom.

  • ms.truth

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    I’m crazy for puttin myself out there but I was the product of an affair and when I was younger I would go over to my dad’s house and I could feel the tension and I could always tell my step sisters and stepmom didn’t want me around and i was always made to feel like I wasn’t worthy of being around and they were just tolerating me and to this day they don’t really care for me and none of his side of the family really acknowledged me but he’s closer to me than he is the rest of his kids and i look better than them so BOOYAH BYTCHES!!!!!!!!!!

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    So am I...but the kids that my dad had with his wife were all rough and hoeish, while I turned out to be the good one that went to college and got a good man. Stepmom treats me fine, but one of my sisters tries to turn me against my dad because I have the better relationship with him. He brags on me all the time, but downs them so I can see why she would be angry.

  • ms.truth

    I'm an 80s baby...

  • FloridaChick813

    @ htown -

    Thats not cool mama :nono:

    Thats an innocent child, that was brought into this world by YOUR MAN. If you cant accept his blood, then your not 100% accepting of him.

    Before I got into the relationship im in now, I told him from the front door. If you cant accept my son, if you dont like my son, then you dont like me. Point. Blank. Period.

    #notjudging #justsayin

  • mirsmommy

    ms.truth Says:

    BROWNSUGAPOET Says:

    I’m crazy for puttin myself out there but I was the product of an affair and when I was younger I would go over to my dad’s house and I could feel the tension and I could always tell my step sisters and stepmom didn’t want me around and i was always made to feel like I wasn’t worthy of being around and they were just tolerating me and to this day they don’t really care for me and none of his side of the family really acknowledged me but he’s closer to me than he is the rest of his kids and i look better than them so BOOYAH BYTCHES!!!!!!!!!!

    ==========================================================

    So am I…but the kids that my dad had with his wife were all rough and hoeish, while I turned out to be the good one that went to college and got a good man. Stepmom treats me fine, but one of my sisters tries to turn me against my dad because I have the better relationship with him. He brags on me all the time, but downs them so I can see why she would be angry.
    __________________________________________________________

    If your sister stops being a hoodrat, and doin HO activities, then your Dad would brag about her, too. :lol: Why she mad cuz she's the ho???? :shrugs:

  • Krysi J

    OOOOOOOOOOOOooooo Matthew :rofl: thats a shame :nono:

    ooo chile, these celebrities off the chain ain they?? :rofl:

  • ShoYaRight

    DEAD @ Juelz being 5 years older than his uncle.

  • danjas

    and sandra you a mess with that headline. you know darn well they aint "welcoming" nothing. lol

  • ReadTheBlog

    My brother that had a baby on his girlfriend was the product of a very long going affair.

  • speakinmymind

    just my .02...

    PEOPLE (not just men) cheat because of their lack of communication skills and internal esteem/emotional issues. they usually blame the other person because that's easier than being honest with themselves and dealing with their own issues/insecurities.

  • htown-chick

    @iscream
    no shade taken..its easy to SAY what u would do when ur not thrust into that situation..ive said those exact words and look at me now LIVING something totally different...

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Htown said

    and 2 answer the question about forgiving the sinner and not the sin..its easier to forgive the sinner when the sin isnt in ur face. *another kanye shrug*
    ********************************************
    I think it's easier to forgive the sinner when you plan on taking them back. It's easy to blame/be mad with the outsiders because you want nothing from them. But the one who caused the pain (the sinner) can be forgiven because if you stay mad at them you will have to move on with your life.

  • Daisy

    Morning..I got nothing :coffee:

  • jazi65

    I hope they don't shun that cute lil baby because of their dirty azz daddy. Now is he gonna own up on Kelly :lol:

  • ms.truth

    If your sister stops being a hoodrat, and doin HO activities, then your Dad would brag about her, too. :lol: Why she mad cuz she’s the ho???? :shrugs:

    =============================================================

    I thought that too. I found it funny that she quickly found her man to move in and play wifey with when she found out that I was engaged...whatever helps her feel better I guess...

  • speakinmymind

    @ms.truth

    like my momma always says, "keep on having birthdays". your perspective on a lot of things will change as you go through different life experiences. i'm not saying you're glib or haven't experienced anything, but once you walk a mile in the shoes of a spouse whose been cheated on, you may or may not have a different perspective on why a person cheats.

    #jussayin

  • htown-chick

    Thats not cool mama
    Thats an innocent child, that was brought into this world by YOUR MAN. If you cant accept his blood, then your not 100% accepting of him.
    ......................
    ur right and i guess im NOT 100% accepting of him..
    *ANOTHER kanye shrug*
    it is what it is tho..

  • QuettaV

    Matty will make money off this child just wait and watch... he will be the boy version of Beyonce.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @htown

    I have been in that situation in some way shape or form. & I agree 100% about walking in the shoes before you can understand. I haven't walked the exact path but there are women who left comments on here who have.

  • mirsmommy

    Well, wasn't it said that Camel-Z changed his last name to Knowles cuz they didn't have a male to carry on that name??? Well, they got what they wished for. :shrugs:

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Ms. Truth I don't know what he says to them about me because I don't talk to them, I tried when I was younger but realized they didn't really care. I was my mom's youngest so i still had siblings I was tight with. My problem was if you decide to take the man back then the child shouldn't have to pay for it. Women don't realize the resentment they have for the other woman and the act can have a life long lasting effect on that child. There hasn't been one time when I was around his wife and kids where I didn't feel outta place and I'm 35! So now when we see each other we either go out to eat or he comes to my house

  • ReadTheBlog

    I think people cheat out of greed and selfishness. Truly, people who cheat don't care about how the other person may feel, should it come to light, or else they wouldn't do it.

    I'd almost go as far to say that there is a behavioral disorder - engaging in wreckless behavior and disregarding the ramifications of said actions.

    Jail time?

  • ms.truth

    @speak

    I understand what you're saying, but I've actually been cheated on twice...def don't want to go through it again. But I did step back and take a realistic look on things. The females that I was cheated on with were doing something that I wasn't. So I'm just speaking from my experience. Everyone has different experiences...But I'm glad it happened, because I wasn't meant to be with neither one of them. God brought me my soul mate.

  • ShoYaRight

    CAN WE GET A GOT-DANM MONICA POST?!?! HER ALBUM IS FIYAH AND THIS IS HER MAIN BLOG SITE!!

    That rihanna gets 3 or 4 posts in a day sometime and Mo has gotten like one this week!!!

    please and thank you!

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Friend: Julez you wanna come out side and play?

    Julez: Naw homie I gotta babysit my damn uncle! WTH! I can't talk now man, I gotta go change his diaper!

  • speakinmymind

    some PEOPLE get a "rush" (for lack of a better word) from being manipulative/sneaky, and that's not just in referencing to cheating. a person has to decide what's the payoff from their behavior, and usually people who are manipulative/sneaky have self esteem issues and don't feel like their "true" selves are worthy of being accepted. if you're the spouse/significant other of someone who has cheated, you might want to start by asking the person 'Do they really think so little of themselves that whoring and sneaking around is the best they can bring to the table?'

    Cuz i only bring my best to whatever i'm involved in, hence my expectations are that the person i'm with will bring only their best, as well. so instead of blaming yourself and thinking you must not have done something right, place that b.s. right back where it belongs and challenge that person to get their shi.t together.

  • FloridaChick813

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    Jail time?
    ____________

    :yes: Thats playing with people's emotions. People kill people every day because someone played with their emotions

    :shotsfired1:

  • htown-chick

    I think it’s easier to forgive the sinner when you plan on taking them back. It’s easy to blame/be mad with the outsiders because you want nothing from them. But the one who caused the pain (the sinner) can be forgiven because if you stay mad at them you will have to move on with your life.
    by iscream
    .........................
    u hit the nail on the head with that one..you are dead on..i'll admit 2 that

  • ms.truth

    @Brown...I don't blame you. You don't have to have a relationship with them. Did you ever resent your stepmom though? I did for a while. I hated the fact that she was married to my father, and my mother wasn't. Luckily I grew out of it though.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    Ummm..I graduated with an Aunt and nephew in my class..They are both the same age...

    Hell I had a teacher who is in her late 30's teaching at the high school her sister went too...

    Some people are just whores..and I believe not all relationships are meant to be ....so its better to get a divorce or breakup..My priest said not all relationships are ordained by God ...

  • gypsyeyes

    I'm the product of that also. Bad thing is my stepmom was a teacher at the school that I caught my bus in front of for three years. For three years I watched my dad take this woman to school and didn't acknowledge me. For three years this woman rolled her eyes at me. For years she would hang up on me when I would call. He finally passed when I was 16 and when I went to the funeral she could hardly look at me. I'm devastated by this to this day. Please be careful how youtreat these children you don't know what that does to them in the long run. I know I just put myself out there but I felt it was needed.

  • QuettaV

    :newpost: please and thank you so very much!

  • ms.truth

    ShoYaRight Says:

    CAN WE GET A GOT-DANM MONICA POST?!?! HER ALBUM IS FIYAH AND THIS IS HER MAIN BLOG SITE!!

    That rihanna gets 3 or 4 posts in a day sometime and Mo has gotten like one this week!!!

    please and thank you!

    ============================================================

    :cosign: I've been trying to figure out what's up with that...since that "separation" with Rocko post...we've had NOTHING.

  • FloridaChick813

    @ ShoYaRight -

    I havent heard the whole album, but im glad to hear its good..

    Speaking of Rhi Rhi, I havent seen a post on her in a LONG time

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @gypsys

    :hug:

  • FloridaChick813

    gypsyeyes Says:

    I’m the product of that also. Bad thing is my stepmom was a teacher at the school that I caught my bus in front of for three years. For three years I watched my dad take this woman to school and didn’t acknowledge me. For three years this woman rolled her eyes at me. For years she would hang up on me when I would call. He finally passed when I was 16 and when I went to the funeral she could hardly look at me. I’m devastated by this to this day. Please be careful how youtreat these children you don’t know what that does to them in the long run. I know I just put myself out there but I felt it was needed.
    ______________

    Sorry to hear that Gypsy. Thats not cool at all :nono:

  • mirsmommy

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    Speaking of Rhi Rhi, I havent seen a post on her in a LONG time
    _______________________________________________________

    :danban1: & :cheer1:

  • speakinmymind

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    I think people cheat out of greed and selfishness. Truly, people who cheat don’t care about how the other person may feel, should it come to light, or else they wouldn’t do it.

    I’d almost go as far to say that there is a behavioral disorder - engaging in wreckless behavior and disregarding the ramifications of said actions.
    ------------------------------------------------
    i don't think it's that they don't care about the other person's feelings, but they only think/care about the perceived 'payoff' they're getting from their behavior; not realizing that their behavior is really a huge indication of their own lack of self worth and their inability to believe they are capable of being loved/accepted for who they really are. most times, they don't even know who they really are.

  • QuettaV

    PLease leave Rhianna wherever she may be!

    Did anyone watch the rest of the Bad Girls CLub Reunion.... Hated it!

  • speakinmymind

    @ gypsyeyes

    :hug:

  • Al-Ameera

    Good. At least Jay can go back to just "Carter" now since they have a boy to carry on the Knowles last name

  • FloridaChick813

    @ Speakinmymind -

    I like the way you analyzed it. Makes sense though.. I was with someone who cheated. And he always asked me why I liked him, why did I wanna be with him. I would say something about how I feel, and he'd say "not uh.. you dont like me like that.." :shrug: But its not the cheating that bothered me though.. Thats not why I gave up the relationship. I gave up because I was tired of proving myself. Constantly trying to show how I feel, and him not being able to see or accept it. :shrug:

  • mirsmommy

    QuettaV Says:

    PLease leave Rhianna wherever she may be!

    Did anyone watch the rest of the Bad Girls CLub Reunion…. Hated it!
    ______________________________________________________

    I missed it. What happened on this one???

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ Al

    Don't know if you saw my message the other day thanking you. ;) thanks :D

  • QuettaV

    Al-Ameera Says:

    Good. At least Jay can go back to just “Carter” now since they have a boy to carry on the Knowles last name
    -___________________________________________________________

    Did this fool change his last name for real?

  • FloridaChick813

    QuettaV Says:

    PLease leave Rhianna wherever she may be!

    Did anyone watch the rest of the Bad Girls CLub Reunion…. Hated it!
    __________

    I love Rhi Rhi :D

    That damn Bad Girls Club SMDH. Crazy B.i.t.c.h.e.s

  • QuettaV

    mirsmommy Says:

    QuettaV Says:

    PLease leave Rhianna wherever she may be!

    Did anyone watch the rest of the Bad Girls CLub Reunion…. Hated it!
    ______________________________________________________

    I missed it. What happened on this one???
    _____________________________________________________________

    not a dam thing interwesting. Flo shoulda whooped Natalie's azz more. Perez needed his azz beat too.. and too much pregnancy's

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qm2_ppqtZk missy

    @Quetta V -Yeah I watched it :yawn: ..I only like when Portia put "Crimson chin/jay leno/half moon/moon face/surfboard" in her place..everything else was predictable and boring...

    Amber and her boyfriend ..getting engaged was predictable....They will probably have a bad girls wedding... because im sure oxygen paid for that ring....

  • mirsmommy

    QuettaV Says:

    mirsmommy Says:

    QuettaV Says:

    PLease leave Rhianna wherever she may be!

    Did anyone watch the rest of the Bad Girls CLub Reunion…. Hated it!
    ______________________________________________________

    I missed it. What happened on this one???
    _____________________________________________________________

    not a dam thing interwesting. Flo shoulda whooped Natalie’s azz more. Perez needed his azz beat too.. and too much pregnancy’s
    ________________________________________________________

    Who else is pregnant besides Amber? Perez? :)

  • QuettaV

    interwesting= interesting....

  • ShoYaRight

    @ ms. truth (#87), you know sandy wanted to go in Rocko like nobody's business. I can picture how Sandy would write the post now and she would get all up in that azz till it is no joke. out of respect for mo, she didn't though. i don't know if she's feeling some type of way about not being able to do that.

    @ FloridaChick813 (#88) i loved the majority of the album instantly. it's about 2 or 3 songs that are growers, but yes, i would recommend it highly.

    @ mirsmommy (#91) my thoughts EX-ZACK-LEE!!!!!

  • QuettaV

    The girl who fought Natalie over saying something about her daughter.... I forgot her name..

  • FloridaChick813

    QuettaV Says:

    I missed it. What happened on this one???
    _____________________________________________________________

    not a dam thing interwesting. Flo shoulda whooped Natalie’s azz more. Perez needed his azz beat too.. and too much pregnancy’s
    _________________

    My sweetie said they showed up pregnant cause they were scared they were gonna get their behinds handed to them :lol:

    Awwwww, I thought The Alien and Predator were cute! Good for them!

  • FloridaChick813

    @ Mirsmommy -

    Portia showed up about 8 months

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Hmm, let me put myself in their shoes for a minute... I wouldn't want to see that child, I would never see him as my brother, just as a child my father had.

    If my father has children outside of his marriage to my mother, that sounds like his personal problem to me & he'd be out of his mind if he thinks any of his legitimate children will go out of their way to build a relationship with them. But my daddy already knows how I feel about mess like this, after one of our family friend's death and his secret family showed up at the funeral and sued his estate... we had a little talk.

  • Al-Ameera

    @ iscream, you’re welcome. I love reading, so always looking for a good book and like to support my sista’s. Plus I can tell people I sort of know a famous authoress :rofl:

    @ Quetta, I never read anything saying it wasn't true so I just assumed he really changed it. But again now he can drop it

  • mirsmommy

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    @ Mirsmommy -

    Portia showed up about 8 months
    ___________________________________________________

    Damn, for real. Too bad she couldn't try to rearrange Natlaie's Moon Chin again.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Ms Truth hell no I didn't resent her! My dad was messin aroun with another chick when i was in the 7th grade and he took me to her house and she took me shoppin and he cooked me catfish since he knew that was my favorite food at the time and i used to love scary movies so he rented a bunch of scary movies!

  • militaryspouse1

    I've known people who have done everything they could by their spouse and they still got cheated on,so just bcuz mathew's triffling behind cheated,doesn't mean Tina wasn't doing her job

  • ms.truth

    sooo, I took the day off today...and Wendy Williams just said that jumpoff was an extra on Scrubs.

  • Al-Ameera

    But I thought Matthew and Tiny had been on the outs for a few years before this even happened....no?

  • Krysi J

    ur right and i guess im NOT 100% accepting of him..
    *ANOTHER kanye shrug*
    it is what it is tho..
    ---------------------------------------------------------

    ?? :waiting: ..... :eek: .......... :shrugs:

    Umph...well I heard that boo.

    Anyway, I have no words for this type of situation....all I know is I would NOT be in it. Yea, a man could cheat, get another female pregnant, and it may be hard at first to deal with, but ON EVERYTHING I LOVE, just as sure as GOD has given me the strength to deal with whatever pain that man has handed me, I will be gone, weather he calls himself "SORRY" or not. Thats just not something Krysi could live with, and I said my name because I am only speaking about KRYSI, no one else. That way I wouldn't have to be forced to accept a damn thing I don't want to, child, and CHEATING EITHER.

  • ms.truth

    @Brown...

    :rofl: your dad sounds like mine...Poppa was a rolling stone...well he still is cause I'm still discovering new siblings :coffee: I'm through claiming brothers and sisters though. lol...I got enough already.

  • mirsmommy

    @ Ms.Truth

    :lol: I say the exact same thing about my father, too. Poppa was a damn rolling stone!!!!

    I'm older than my sister by a month and a half. I'm 28, and my little brother is 11. 8-)

  • FloridaChick813

    :clap: @ Krysi J

    Well said my dear!

  • FloridaChick813

    :clap: @ Krysi J

    Well said my dear!

  • lexdiamonz

    i guess house of dereon baby has a new model now fuck that beyonce finna put this kid to WERK!!!!

  • gypsyeyes

    Thanks for the e-love. I really have some deep rooting shyt going on with that though. He had another child outside of his marriage. I had a brother exactly one year older than me. We looked like twins and he lived with my grandmother(fathers mother). So he was accepted by all. He died in a car crash some years back so I have issues there also. I don't really deal with my grandmother but she has custody of my son's child. I used to visit but there is a lot that my heart can't take with that whole situation.

  • speakinmymind

    @ FloridaChick813

    i def understand why you left the relationship. i'm not condoning cheating but the actual act of cheating is just an indication of a whole bunch of other emotional/esteem issues a person has; usually carried over from childhood and family relationship dynamics. some people go through life "self-medicating" so they don't have to deal with what's really going on with them internally.

  • Daisy

    @gyps thanks for sharing I hope it helps somebody. The kids shld never be mis treated or not allowed to know their other sibilings IMO

    Yall bishes betta leave RhiRhi alone sorry I digress :lol:

  • OutsidetheBox

    Yeah, that sucka look just like Daniel.

    And they have been on the rocks for awhile; this was inevitable since he doesnt strap it up.

  • speakinmymind

    wuddup Daisy

    ain't nobody goin' in on ol' fivehead Rhi Rhi!! :lolol: :lolol:

  • FloridaChick813

    @ Speakinmymind -

    Damn, u sure you dont know him??? Your hittin it dead on the nail..

    ((in my "old" situation anyways))

  • FloridaChick813

    :lol: @ Daisy Mae

    I love that bish Rhi Rhi

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    gypsy you have a grandchild?

  • mirsmommy

    speakinmymind Says:

    wuddup Daisy

    ain’t nobody goin’ in on ol’ fivehead Rhi Rhi!!
    ____________________________________________________

    :rofl: With her suede wig and leather side burns. I betcha she don't have dreams, she has movies!!! "You'll never find, blum, blum, blum blum, a forehead like mine!!" :rofl:

    (c) Mike Epps

  • ms.truth

    @mirs

    my sister is older than me by 6 months. I fit in the middle of his wife's kids...men and their kids...

    Do white men have this issue or do they just keep theirs hidden? Because I've never heard of a white man having 5-6 kids with 3-4 babymommas.

  • FloridaChick813

    :rolf: @ Mirsmommy

    I LOOOOVVVVEEEEE All about the Benjamins..

    Funny story, one night when my sons dad and I were still together, we were at a bar and a white man called him the "N" word.. The first time, my BD let it slide.. The second time, he got a little pissed.. The third time, he went slap the f.U.c.K off, and hit dude in the head with his bottle and then said "I dont see you talkin ish now, with your leather wig and suede sideburns"... :lol:

    That ish was Hi-Lar-I-Ous!!!

  • speakinmymind

    mirsmommy Says:

    With her suede wig and leather side burns. I betcha she don’t have dreams, she has movies!!! “You’ll never find, blum, blum, blum blum, a forehead like mine!!”

    (c) Mike Epps
    -------------------------------------
    DEAD!! :rofl: :rofl:

  • Krysi J

    With her suede wig and leather side burns. I betcha she don’t have dreams, she has movies!!! “You’ll never find, blum, blum, blum blum, a forehead like mine!!”

    (c) Mike Epps

    ---------------------------------------------------------

    :rofl: I LOVE ThAT pART!!!

    What about when Mike Epps does the skit on T.I.'s KING cd?? tom bout

    "den you go and cut all ya hair off like a niccah, BYTCH YOUR HEAD LOOKS LIKE A DIRTY AZZ TENNIS BALL NOW!!!"

    :rofl:

  • QuettaV

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    @ Mirsmommy -

    Portia showed up about 8 months
    ___________________________________________________________

    yeah that's the heffa's name!

  • mirsmommy

    Krysi J Says:

    With her suede wig and leather side burns. I betcha she don’t have dreams, she has movies!!! “You’ll never find, blum, blum, blum blum, a forehead like mine!!”

    (c) Mike Epps

    ———————————————————

    I LOVE ThAT pART!!!

    What about when Mike Epps does the skit on T.I.’s KING cd?? tom bout

    “den you go and cut all ya hair off like a niccah, BYTCH YOUR HEAD LOOKS LIKE A DIRTY AZZ TENNIS BALL NOW!!!”
    _______________________________________________________

    :rofl: Mike Epps is a damn fool!!!!

    I Love the part in All About the Benjamins when he was in the store, talkin ish to that old man!!!!

    He said, "It's fifty, not seven fit-ty. Mr. Shelton I'm a kick yo a** one day. I seen you comin out the nursin home, I started to pop, pop, pop." :rofl:

  • speakinmymind

    @ FloridaChick813

    nope, don't know him. but it just goes to show that if you look a little deeper at people who behave like this, the issues are generally the same across the board. that's why i don't think cheating is such a dealbreaker. people fluck up all the dang time but if a person recognizes how their actions are a reflection of their own inadequacies, insecurities, lack of communication and coping skills, etc., then and only then can they begin to really come into themselves and grow/change for the better.

  • FloridaChick813

    LMAO @ Krysi J & MirsMommy

    I LOVE Mike Epps (aka) Day Day :lol:

  • mirsmommy

    Mr. Shelton: "I told you not to open the open the potato chips until ya pay for em"

    Mike Epps/Reggie Wright: "Well you got to tell me all the time, cuz I like potato chips"

    :rofl: That's one of my favorite movies!!!!

  • s_johnson07

    @htown-chick

    First of all, How can you call another child a bastard when you had your child out of wedlock also? If you want to go there, your child's a bastard too.

    Second, you need serious help. No seriously. I'm not kidding. You say you forgive the sinner but not the sin and you call the child a sin. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard and education is key. That child is not the sin. Your "babydaddy" cheating on you is the dirt. That child has nothing to do with being here and you just take it all out on him/her? That's horrible. If you want to hold your ghetto grudge against anybody, it's the guy who's in your home, one I would not put pass to still be cheating. You obviously don't think you deserve better and you obviously are harboring anger and obviously you are not happy...but then again, that's on you...

    PS. It seems like you wish something bad to happen to that child. Girl that will come back on you...Mark my words...

  • FloridaChick813

    @ Speakinmymind

    Preach on! I might be the only one who :cosign: 's but soo what..

  • mirsmommy

    Mike Epps: "I'm a have to take it to Da White, cuz you don't laugh at my jokes or nuthin"

    Mr. Shelton: "Da White who?"

    Mike Epps: "Da White around yo lip"

    :rofl:

  • gypsyeyes

    @ Brown- NO, Hell NO. Why you say that? No grandchildren here. And my son hasn't mailed me his purity ring from atlanta so I think he's still a virgin.

  • gypsyeyes

    s_johnson07 Says:

    @htown-chick

    First of all, How can you call another child a bastard when you had your child out of wedlock also? If you want to go there, your child’s a bastard too.

    Second, you need serious help. No seriously. I’m not kidding. You say you forgive the sinner but not the sin and you call the child a sin. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard and education is key. That child is not the sin. Your “babydaddy” cheating on you is the dirt. That child has nothing to do with being here and you just take it all out on him/her? That’s horrible. If you want to hold your ghetto grudge against anybody, it’s the guy who’s in your home, one I would not put pass to still be cheating. You obviously don’t think you deserve better and you obviously are harboring anger and obviously you are not happy…but then again, that’s on you…

    PS. It seems like you wish something bad to happen to that child. Girl that will come back on you…Mark my words…
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Preach on sister, preach on.

  • mirsmommy

    gypsyeyes Says:

    @ Brown- NO, Hell NO. Why you say that? No grandchildren here. And my son hasn’t mailed me his purity ring from atlanta so I think he’s still a virgin.
    ____________________________________________________

    Heyyy Gypsy

    In comment 122 you said your son's child. :lol:

  • LilMissRed

    sad situation caused my Matthew unfort. Hopefully they will accept this innocent baby because I can only imagine how he'd feel like the 'outsider' in this family

    personally.. wouldnt be me...to cheat on me would be one thing... and no I wouldnt forgive or stay with my man if he did cheat, but to bring a baby into the situation..... that'd be wayyyyy too much for me to deal with. I'd move on STAT.

  • gypsyeyes

    I was emotionally typing. I meant my brother's child. :rofl:

  • Anna

    mirsmommy Says:

    gypsyeyes Says:

    @ Brown- NO, Hell NO. Why you say that? No grandchildren here. And my son hasn’t mailed me his purity ring from atlanta so I think he’s still a virgin.
    ____________________________________________________

    Heyyy Gypsy

    In comment 122 you said your son’s child.
    ~~~
    I had to read that a few times. I think she meant her brothers son his being raised by their grandmother(his great grandmother).

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    s_johnson07

    I know we've had words before but sis you are sooo right! People we have to be care about the words we release over other folks especially kids because when our kids start goin through stuff and we start askin god why we sit to sit back and search ourselves to see if we put our mouths on anybody else's kids! You reap what you sew!

  • QuettaV

    gypsyeyes Says:

    s_johnson07 Says:

    @htown-chick

    First of all, How can you call another child a bastard when you had your child out of wedlock also? If you want to go there, your child’s a bastard too.

    Second, you need serious help. No seriously. I’m not kidding. You say you forgive the sinner but not the sin and you call the child a sin. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard and education is key. That child is not the sin. Your “babydaddy” cheating on you is the dirt. That child has nothing to do with being here and you just take it all out on him/her? That’s horrible. If you want to hold your ghetto grudge against anybody, it’s the guy who’s in your home, one I would not put pass to still be cheating. You obviously don’t think you deserve better and you obviously are harboring anger and obviously you are not happy…but then again, that’s on you…

    PS. It seems like you wish something bad to happen to that child. Girl that will come back on you…Mark my words…
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    that right there is the dam truth nothng but the truth soooooooooooo help me god! The baby had nothing to do with he/she father running up in the mother unprotected and knowing he was with someone else..

  • FloridaChick813

    :lol: @ Gypsy

  • MsGaMama_706

    Well i'm in that situation right now....i have a baby by someone who is in a relationship and i'll be damned if my child can't see his father

    I will make (her) life a living hell #realtalk

    And a little advice to those who dont want to have anything to do with your husbands/boo's outside child......you might want to get along with her bc trust and believe he still FUKIN HER....maybe if u and her had a nice relationship she wont mess around with him but piss her off and....well u know the rest...babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama

  • chase

    Been in this situation and it is no bueno...

    I will say a man is available as his options... That I do believe!!!

  • gypsyeyes

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    Well i’m in that situation right now….i have a baby by someone who is in a relationship and i’ll be damned if my child can’t see his father

    I will make (her) life a living hell #realtalk

    And a little advice to those who dont want to have anything to do with your husbands/boo’s outside child……you might want to get along with her bc trust and believe he still FUKIN HER….maybe if u and her had a nice relationship she wont mess around with him but piss her off and….well u know the rest…babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    so true!!!

  • speakinmymind

    @MsGaMama

    did you know he was in a relationship before you got pregnant?

  • FloridaChick813

    babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
    ___________________

    I disagree.. I wouldnt f.u.c.k. my baby daddy with your c00chie.. and I have MANY friends who feel the same way..

  • MsGaMama_706

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
    ___________________

    I disagree.. I wouldnt f.u.c.k. my baby daddy with your c00chie.. and I have MANY friends who feel the same way..

    -------------

    LOL....I'm saying if babymama is willing to fuk then 9 times out of 10 he will

  • speakinmymind

    i believe the only you can make someone's life a living hell if is if that person chooses to allow you to make it that way. a bish can ack a damn fool all she wants but if i choose not to respond, then she's just a bish ackin' a damn fool and i still have my sanity/peace of mind intact.

  • speakinmymind

    i believe the only way you can make someone's life a living hell if is if that person CHOOSES to allow you to make it that way. a bish can ack a damn fool all she wants but if i CHOOSE not to respond, then she's just a bish ackin' a damn fool and i still have my sanity/peace of mind intact.

  • MsGaMama_706

    speakinmymind Says:

    @MsGaMama

    did you know he was in a relationship before you got pregnant?

    ----------------------

    Yep....did i get pregnant on purpose...No

  • FloridaChick813

    @ speakinmymind -

    Im startin to like your post more and more :lol:

  • FloridaChick813

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
    ___________________

    I disagree.. I wouldnt f.u.c.k. my baby daddy with your c00chie.. and I have MANY friends who feel the same way..

    ————-

    LOL….I’m saying if babymama is willing to fuk then 9 times out of 10 he will
    ___________

    Yes, but why would you be content f.u.c.k.i.n.g a man that doesnt want you?? I mean, pretty much in his eyes, all your good for is s.e.x.

    #notjudging #justsaying

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    so did you take every precaution not to get pregnant????

  • mirsmommy

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    Well i’m in that situation right now….i have a baby by someone who is in a relationship and i’ll be damned if my child can’t see his father

    I will make (her) life a living hell #realtalk

    And a little advice to those who dont want to have anything to do with your husbands/boo’s outside child……you might want to get along with her bc trust and believe he still FUKIN HER….maybe if u and her had a nice relationship she wont mess around with him but piss her off and….well u know the rest…babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
    _________________________________________________________

    Quick Question. If you do go and f*ck him just to piss her off, what will that prove????

    no shade, just askin.

  • MsGaMama_706

    i'm not saying i still fuk wit him on that level but i know if i wanted to i could

    My point is the child has nothing to do with you and your husband/boo choose to do with yall relationship, and trying to keep him away from his child says a HELLUVA lot about you as a person.

  • speakinmymind

    @ MsGaMama

    i'm not judging you but it seems like you may need to work on why you 'settled' for being the chick on the side instead of KNOWING/BELIEVING that you are worthy of being in a committed, monogamous relationship.

    and is it just me or do a lot of people claim to get pregnant by accident?? i just find it hard to believe that there that many dang instances of birth control (pills, iuds, Depo, etc.) on the woman's part and condoms on the man's part fail repeatedly; and there hasn't been some national expose on the failure of contraceptives in the U.S.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    wait wait wait i just lost focus, so you voluntarily slept with a man who was in a relationship and then got pregnant and now you're braggin that you can make her life hell! he wants the relaionship WITH HER but just wants to FUCK YOU

  • speakinmymind

    @ Flo

    Thanks! just 'speakinmymind' ;)

  • ms.truth

    @MsGaMama_706

    if you knew he was in a relationship, why were you went him? I'm just curious...I could/can never understand why a woman would mess with a man that's already taken.

    also...are you from Augusta?

  • Daisy

    :rofl: I cant stand yall going in on my beloved RhiRhi like that! M Epps is a fool

    :popcorn: *I dont want the dirt thats being slung to land on my popcorn*

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    oh wait i forgot #noshade but you are proud that you can have sex with him if you want to :blink:

    crack head prostitutes can have sex to so that's not somethin you should be proud of

  • ms.truth

    and is it just me or do a lot of people claim to get pregnant by accident?? i just find it hard to believe that there that many dang instances of birth control (pills, iuds, Depo, etc.) on the woman’s part and condoms on the man’s part fail repeatedly; and there hasn’t been some national expose on the failure of contraceptives in the U.S.

    =============================================================

    :cosign: I NEVER understood that one...I'm guessing people are just dumb and don't know that egg+sperm=baby...vagina+penis=baby...no birth control+no condom=baby... :shrug: I don't get it.

  • speakinmymind

    @ Daisy

    whose slingin' dirt?? YET! :lolol:

  • FloridaChick813

    and is it just me or do a lot of people claim to get pregnant by accident?? i just find it hard to believe that there that many dang instances of birth control (pills, iuds, Depo, etc.) on the woman’s part and condoms on the man’s part fail repeatedly; and there hasn’t been some national expose on the failure of contraceptives in the U.S.
    _____________

    :cosign:

    Everybody knows when a female and male have s3x.. The possible outcome is a child..

  • MsGaMama_706

    Quick Question. If you do go and f*ck him just to piss her off, what will that prove????

    no shade, just askin.

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    Nothing but IF if wanted to i could

  • ms.truth

    with*...I can't get the correct word in for nothing today. goodness...I guess I needed this day off!

  • speakinmymind

    I NEVER understood that one…I’m guessing people are just dumb and don’t know that egg+sperm=baby…vagina+penis=baby…no birth control+no condom=baby…
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    love how you broke that down...

  • gypsyeyes

    I and my co-signing with msgamama was because some baby mama's will let them come back and flucks with them.

  • FloridaChick813

    :lol: @ Daisy

    **Cover it up**

  • speakinmymind

    @ gyps

    i knew where you were coming from. it's like a best friend or husband, after a while, explanations aren't needed cuz you just understand each other so well.

  • speakinmymind

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    Quick Question. If you do go and f*ck him just to piss her off, what will that prove????

    no shade, just askin.

    ——————–

    Nothing but IF if wanted to i could
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    just like he knows he can tell you 'bish, i'm going to the moon' and you'll believe it. trust and believe, you do not have the upper hand in any way, shape or form in this situation. buddy is playin' you like a $2 hoe. chile boo...this mess ain't nuthin' to be proud of!

  • FloridaChick813

    speakinmymind Says:

    @ gyps

    i knew where you were coming from. it’s like a best friend or husband, after a while, explanations aren’t needed cuz you just understand each other so well.
    _________________

    Soooo true... We know how u think Gypsy.

  • MsGaMama_706

    ok since it seems as if i need to put my whole life story out there detail by detail here it goes...

    me and my babydaddy go back to high school maybe even a little bit of middle school, we lost contact and when we met back up he said he didnt have a gf and so we started kickin it...but come to find out he was just separated from someone so there you have it

    and i guess condoms do break....not from augusta

  • Krysi J

    Quick Question. If you do go and f*ck him just to piss her off, what will that prove????

    no shade, just askin.

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    It will prove that he's a dog azz niccah and no matter how many times you "FORGIVE THE SIN" whatever the hell that is, he's still going to play you for a fool for accepting that bullshyt, with an old bytch or a new bytch who ever drops panties first.

  • mirsmommy

    @ MsGaMama_706

    Once again, no shade :wink: , but if he allows his GF/baby mama to have a grudge against your baby, and therefore won't deal with or see your baby, IMO, the grudge should be against his weak a** for letting a woman come between him and his child.

    I don't know your entire situation, or whether or not he sees your baby, but if he doesn't you should put your foot all in his a**.

    Just my opinion tho. :)

  • MsGaMama_706

    Krysi J Says:

    Quick Question. If you do go and f*ck him just to piss her off, what will that prove????

    no shade, just askin.

    ———————————————————

    It will prove that he’s a dog azz niccah and no matter how many times you “FORGIVE THE SIN” whatever the hell that is, he’s still going to play you for a fool for accepting that bullshyt, with an old bytch or a new bytch who ever drops panties first.

    _________________________

    Exactly

  • mirsmommy

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    ok since it seems as if i need to put my whole life story out there detail by detail here it goes…

    me and my babydaddy go back to high school maybe even a little bit of middle school, we lost contact and when we met back up he said he didnt have a gf and so we started kickin it…but come to find out he was just separated from someone so there you have it

    and i guess condoms do break….not from augusta
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    :lol: You ain't have to go and explain your situation.

  • MsGaMama_706

    mirsmommy Says:

    @ MsGaMama_706

    Once again, no shade , but if he allows his GF/baby mama to have a grudge against your baby, and therefore won’t deal with or see your baby, IMO, the grudge should be against his weak a** for letting a woman come between him and his child.

    I don’t know your entire situation, or whether or not he sees your baby, but if he doesn’t you should put your foot all in his a**.

    Just my opinion tho.
    ________________________

    No i dont have an issue with that he sees my son

    but she tried to come at me with DNA test and all that but i told him check her cuz u know whats up....so when that day came he was up there at the hospital signin that paper..like i thought he would have

    she may have a grudge against me but as long as she dont put her hands on my child, i dont giva fuk

  • gypsyeyes

    Oh ok, I don't fux with foolishness. I have enough problems. But I will say, A man will only do what you allow him to do. If you allow him to cut somethin' he gone cut somethin'. He's gonna say what he needs to say to bust a nut. Shyt he don't care if you get hurt cause he got his.

  • flsun99

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    Well i’m in that situation right now….i have a baby by someone who is in a relationship and i’ll be damned if my child can’t see his father

    I will make (her) life a living hell #realtalk

    And a little advice to those who dont want to have anything to do with your husbands/boo’s outside child……you might want to get along with her bc trust and believe he still FUKIN HER….maybe if u and her had a nice relationship she wont mess around with him but piss her off and….well u know the rest…babydaddy will always fuk wit babymama
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    That is truth right there. Many, many moons ago, my babydaddy had a child with another woman. I stayed (a little while) and I killed her with kindness and she hated me. I gave her no reason to dislike me. Enough was enough and I became tired and left. The chick & I allowed our children to have a relationship but OH we couldn't stand one another. She married him & I married someone. Our relationship evolved over the years. Fast foward 12 years. She and I had a talk a few months ago and she admitted that she hated me because I was so nice to her. She wanted me to hate her as much as she hated me. I told her I did, but i refused to let her know. Our relationship is so much better NOW; we email each other almost daily and it's not even about the kids most of the time; just life & whatnot. We actually have a GREAT relationship. He has other kids and she makes sure she has relationships with all his baby mamas. I think for the very same reason MsGaMA stated.

  • mirsmommy

    MsGaMama_706 Says:

    mirsmommy Says:

    @ MsGaMama_706

    Once again, no shade , but if he allows his GF/baby mama to have a grudge against your baby, and therefore won’t deal with or see your baby, IMO, the grudge should be against his weak a** for letting a woman come between him and his child.

    I don’t know your entire situation, or whether or not he sees your baby, but if he doesn’t you should put your foot all in his a**.

    Just my opinion tho.
    ________________________

    No i dont have an issue with that he sees my son

    but she tried to come at me with DNA test and all that but i told him check her cuz u know whats up….so when that day came he was up there at the hospital signin that paper..like i thought he would have

    she may have a grudge against me but as long as she dont put her hands on my child, i dont giva fuk
    _________________________________________________________

    At least he does deal with your baby.

  • ms.truth

    if the person I was with went out and had a child with another female, I simply couldn't be with him anymore. Too much drama, I know I would resent the child and you always gotta me bothered with the babymomma being in his life...it would be very hard for me to deal with because I always believe that what's mine, is mine. I shouldn't have to share with another female.

  • MsGaMama_706

    gypsyeyes Says:

    Oh ok, I don’t fux with foolishness. I have enough problems. But I will say, A man will only do what you allow him to do. If you allow him to cut somethin’ he gone cut somethin’. He’s gonna say what he needs to say to bust a nut. Shyt he don’t care if you get hurt cause he got his.
    ________________________________________________

    Ok so if he got his why he gotta go elsewhere to get his....is he not being satisfied or is it some women just dont care if he steps out on them as long as he come back home

    i'm young and not in a rush to be in a committed relationship. i see how nigg@s go from one chic to the next even if he is married/boo'd up. so i'm just enjoying my life until i find one who can prove hisself

  • Krysi J

    Oh ok, I don’t fux with foolishness. I have enough problems. But I will say, A man will only do what you allow him to do. If you allow him to cut somethin’ he gone cut somethin’. He’s gonna say what he needs to say to bust a nut. Shyt he don’t care if you get hurt cause he got his.

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    It goes both ways babe.....we all know what a man eventually does when we continue to let him get away with cheating........females really shouldn't act surprised when another female is impregnated....hell be lucky ya azz didn't get an STD for LIFE! Trust this was not dudes first time cheating at all...and that so called girlfriend knows that shyt....she's more pissed off that dude will have to take food outta her or her child's mouth by paying monthly child support now. Women always tryna justify some shyt around the actual problem THE MAN....and as long as NO ONE IS MARRIED, he's fukking 2 FOOLS NOT ONE! WTF....stupid all day long.

  • MsGaMama_706

    Krysi J Says:

    Oh ok, I don’t fux with foolishness. I have enough problems. But I will say, A man will only do what you allow him to do. If you allow him to cut somethin’ he gone cut somethin’. He’s gonna say what he needs to say to bust a nut. Shyt he don’t care if you get hurt cause he got his.

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    It goes both ways babe…..we all know what a man eventually does when we continue to let him get away with cheating……..females really shouldn’t act surprised when another female is impregnated….hell be lucky ya azz didn’t get an STD for LIFE! Trust this was not dudes first time cheating at all…and that so called girlfriend knows that shyt….she’s more pissed off that dude will have to take food outta her or her child’s mouth by paying monthly child support now. Women always tryna justify some shyt around the actual problem THE MAN….and as long as NO ONE IS MARRIED, he’s fukking 2 FOOLS NOT ONE! WTF….stupid all day long.
    ______________________

    in my case he's fuking 1 fool....we are still bestfriends but i know he fooling around and i'm pretty sure she knows just by the times he comes home at night and things...but that's her headache not mine...as long as babyboy sees his dad and gets taken care of.....shawty im straight

  • gypsyeyes

    Well see that is where there is a disconnect. I know that you are young because in some way shape or form you feel as though you have the power of the puzzy in your hands. I don't want to get all Iyanla on you but baby, you have to love your self first. Let me tell you, I have been there and done that. No matter how good you feel when it's going down and the gratification that you get knowing that he's there with you and not her. When he leaves, how do you feel? No one wants to be alone and temporarily he's YOUR man until he goes back home. Don't sell yourself short. There is a man that is gonna treat you so good that you are one day gonna feel like crap that you made someone else feel bad.

  • ms.truth

    and as long as NO ONE IS MARRIED, he’s fukking 2 FOOLS NOT ONE! WTF….stupid all day long.

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    A to the MEN!!

  • speakinmymind

    being young is not an excuse for being irresponsible with your body. i never settled for b.s. even when i was younger and single. guys always told me my expectations were too high which let me know they weren't on my level, not even for a quick fluck!

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Hey, Matthew has demonstrated to be a good father so congrats to him. I'm sure Beyonce and Solange and Kelly will welcome their brother into the family.

  • mirsmommy

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    Hey, Matthew has demonstrated to be a good father so congrats to him. I’m sure Beyonce and Solange and Kelly will welcome their brother into the family
    ______________________________________________________

    I read on another site, that they, all of the mentioned and crossed out, flew to meet their new baby brother.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    MsGAMama, you sound foolish. That is all.

    Actually no it isn't. It's one thing to make a bad decision, its quite another to not learn from it and be willing to make the same decision again.

  • Krysi J

    in my case he’s fuking 1 fool….we are still bestfriends but i know he fooling around and i’m pretty sure she knows just by the times he comes home at night and things…but that’s her headache not mine…as long as babyboy sees his dad and gets taken care of…..shawty im straight

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    child you don't even have to explain to me, I know this story too fukkin well.......people holling bout Girlfriend/babymama....he goes home to her/and you alone....WTF?? If everybody checking single on their W2's dude is not fukking married and is obviously privileged enough by his "girlfriend" to fukk whoever he wants and still "Come home", what kinda shyt is that....if you supposed to be stupid for fukking him if you wanted to, the chick at home is just as stupid for letting him do so....i never understand how shyt get justified....it h-town ain the only one forgiving the sinner. How bout a dude show you he can be faithful before you get married, that way you have vows to back up your decision to be played or not....cuz all that "girlfriend/boo/main lady" shyt ain gon get it. If it doesn't matter to a niccah that he has a girlfriend or lady why should it matter to ANYBODY?? When you go to the doctor with HIV or herpes who the hell you gon blame...the bytch ya man is fukking or the man who "comes home" to give it to you?? Ok well take the answer to that question and insert that shyt into the PROBLEM box.

  • http://www.twitter.com/onlinefan onlinefan

    i have 1/2 siblings also. we are all stair steps. in fact my brother is 8 months older than me!!!

    my mother said my father's family wanted to treat her like the bad guy, she wanted to do what was right by trying to let me be part of their family...since i was. but she said it wasn't worth it to try when they were mad at her and not my father.

    fast forward to i get hurt in school and see my father's name on the paperwork in the hospital. i didn't say anything to my mom, but some time later around jr. high time i put two & two together and found out i was going to school and friends with my siblings and cousins! still didn't say a word.

    jump to high school, my father's family was very active in the community and in sports so i would see him a lot. i would always catch him looking at me and i would make a point to leave. i never said anything to my siblings about knowing and i guess it was the same before them. looking back i remember my brother was always kind of protective/ and looking out for me in school even though we never said a word to each other about it. i even worked a job with one of my sisters during this time!

    one day when i was just starting college, my father showed up at my job and asked me if i knew who he was. i said yeah, i should have said "you're such & such's dad". he apologized for the years lost and said he wanted to get to know me.

    for whatever reason at first his mother and my oldest sibling treated me bad, made snide comments and such - but didn't really come out to my face with stuff. i don't know why. everyone else was kinda like "hey how u doing" and just blended me into the fold.nothing was spoken about all the years lost or why.

    over the years we got a little closer. all of my siblings had some kind of drama with them (jail, teen abortions/multiple pregnancies, drugs). i never had any of that. my grandmother went from saying negative things about me to praising me the more they all failed. in fact the whole family had these same types of drama - generational curse passed down i suppose. but not me.

    i didn't grow up like they did and get caught up in the streets. i still hate i didn't get to grow up with them because i missed out on a lot. but at the same time i am glad my mother took single motherhood in stride and didn't try to force me on them. she didn't deny them from seeing me but she didn't seek it out.

    ironically, one of my younger sister's and i became real tight and we would compare stories and she always says she wishes she had grown up like i did. i own my own home, have never been in any kind of major trouble-other than typical teenage stuff, i can't tell you nothing 'bout life in jail, having utilities cut off,doing or selling drugs,living off welfare, having multiple baby daddies, being grandmothers before 30 or having bad credit!

    i gave y'all that whole therapy session confession to say this...SHIT HAPPENS BUT DON'T TAKE IT OUT ON THE CHILD AND DENY THEM FAMILY. Be mad at the ninja for having a baby outside of you, but don't show it in front of the child. my mother never said a bad thing about my father or his family and how they treated her until after I was grown and could understand. She did it then so that I would understand why some of them gave me such a cold shoulder when I was brought around by my father.

    By not being closer earlier I have missed out on a lot of family gathering stuff. Can't share childhood stories of growing up. I got nieces, nephews, and now they have kids...I barely can keep up with all the names and who they belong to! But at least now we know we are family. I often think about people who don't know. You could end up working with, living next to or dating family and not even have a clue because somebody back in the day denied owledge or accept your existence.

    wooo lord, i done wrote a biography up in here. iscream & nichelle holla at me. i might have your next book idea!

  • MsGaMama_706

    being young is not an excuse for being irresponsible with your body. i never settled for b.s. even when i was younger and single. guys always told me my expectations were too high which let me know they weren’t on my level, not even for a quick fluck!
    ____________________________

    I maybe young but not irresponsible, i handle my business and make sure my son is taken good care of. I don't live to make anyones life a living hell but if you try to take away from my child by attempting to not let his father see him...then we have a problem houston!!! not saying fukin him would solve it but just saying that you should want a good relationship with your boo's babymama cuz she dont giva damn about u just her child...

    me and my son's father are the best of friends and as of the last couple of years fuking as never crossed our minds...well atleast nont mine but i do know he is still foolin around on ole girl but that's none of my business...my main concern is my son...point blank period!

    it's not about thinking i have the power of the pu$$y, i know my worth and i learned from my mistakes... i move forward not back....so if you are in this kind of situation but on the other side of the fence befriend the babymama atleast respect her and never try to keep a child from his/her father

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MIRSMOMMY
    "Hey, Matthew has demonstrated to be a good father so congrats to him. I’m sure Beyonce and Solange and Kelly will welcome their brother into the family
    ______________________________________________________

    I read on another site, that they, all of the mentioned and crossed out, flew to meet their new baby brother."
    ____________________________________________________________________

    I'm sure they all can't wait to spoil him. Obviously his marriage was over so not sure what the big deal is.

  • speakinmymind

    @ KrysiJ

    my sentiments exactly! people like to say there's no difference between being married and a longterm live-in relationship, but those same people take up space on a pew er' Sunday and claim to be believers and followers of Jesus Christ and the Bible!

  • Daisy

    @Speak you better :preach: at 189. I hate when men and even a few of my gfriends say my expectations are to high WTH. Cause I demand respect, honesty, and wont allow you to knowingly have your cake and eat it to??? :nono: I don't play that. Be consistent and say what you mean and mean what you say or keep it moving!

  • ms.truth

    krysi you better :preach: this is exactly why I can't get with females talking about they wifey without a ring...giving themselves responsibilities without the benefits...I DON'T think so...

  • ms.truth

    @Daisy...get outta my head. lol.

  • FloridaChick813

    Whooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    You ladies sure are speakin on some truth

  • ms.truth

    @Speak...I totally agree...before me and my fiancee really got in the church and stopped just playing "church", but actually trying to follow the Bible and live right, we were just living together, no marriage plans...but now we're trying to get it right and there is a HUGE difference between being a live-in spouse and being a married partner.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MsGaMama_706

    DO YOU BOO! DO YOU!!!

  • Reese

    Damn damn damn Matty! Say it aint so!

    Oh and this convo is very enlightening. All I can say is thank goodness I am nobodies baby mama.

    I feel bad though for these kids of rolling stone pappys. Especially if they don't know all thier siblings and they live in the same city. They probably end up dating each other...I swear that's why all the men in STL are short. lol

  • speakinmymind

    @ ms.truth

    some of my friends and family think i'm being 'uppity' when i talk like that but it's the truth. you can never make me believe that a live-in relationship is the SAME as being married. When you have a spiritual marriage ceremony (and i say 'spiritual' cuz not all marriage ceremonies are spiritual) you take VOWS with each other and enter into a COVENANT with God. now if you're walking the walk of being a believer, and not just talking the talk, you know good and dang well that's a helluva lot more divine than just being in a live-in relationship. The covenant of marriage is based on Biblical principles, not just sharing a last name and living under the same roof.

    i'm not saying a covenant marriage is infallible or better, but it is a totally different relationship.

  • Krysi J

    @MsGaMama_706

    DO YOU BOO! DO YOU!!!

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    Man!!! get yo azz outta this conversation....!!!

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "Man!!! get yo azz outta this conversation….!!!"
    ___________________________________________________________________

    ROLFMAO! You can learn a thing or two from a "go-getter" like Ms.GaMa_706! You gotta have an open mind ma!

  • Krysi J

    some of my friends and family think i’m being ‘uppity’ when i talk like that but it’s the truth. you can never make me believe that a live-in relationship is the SAME as being married. When you have a spiritual marriage ceremony (and i say ’spiritual’ cuz not all marriage ceremonies are spiritual) you take VOWS with each other and enter into a COVENANT with God. now if you’re walking the walk of being a believer, and not just talking the talk, you know good and dang well that’s a helluva lot more divine than just being in a live-in relationship. The covenant of marriage is based on Biblical principles, not just sharing a last name and living under the same roof.

    i’m not saying a covenant marriage is infallible or better, but it is a totally different relationship.

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    :yes: at least be married to back all that shyt about "he comes home" up. What difference does it make that he fukks another bytch on the regular and contracts HIV and "comes home" to give it to you??? :rolleyes:

    at least when you're married if you decide to keep a cheating azz niccah the vows of "sickness and in health" play into it... :rofl: though marrying a cheater didn't prevail.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Mayne ain't NO DIFFERENCE between being married or being "together" other than the "gubment" got an official contract and chit.

    You can fool YO'SELF into other wise but thats the ONLY difference.

    If you LOVE someone than you LOVE them whether you are married or not.

    I tell ya.

  • ms.truth

    @speak... yes, yes, yes...many people don't understand this...I'll admit, I didn't even understand it until I stopped playing church and really got in the word...there is a difference. There is a HUGE difference between a marriage between husband and wife or just a long term live in relationship, and a marriage between God, husband and wife...I used to just want the ring and change my last name, but now I know that there's SO much more to be desired from a marriage.

  • MsGaMama_706

    what u mean by "go getter"??

  • speakinmymind

    @ KrysiJ...you's a fool! :rofl:

    @ Man
    there is a difference between LEGAL marriage and the covenant of marriage. yes, legal marriage is going down to the courthouse and getting a marriage certificate. you can have a spiritual marriage ceremony and not be legally married. and i'm not fooling myself of anything, just stating facts which you are obviously oblivious to based on your response.

  • mirsmommy

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @KRYSI
    “Man!!! get yo azz outta this conversation….!!!”
    ___________________________________________________________________

    ROLFMAO! You can learn a thing or two from a “go-getter” like Ms.GaMa_706! You gotta have an open mind ma!
    _______________________________________________________

    :lol: @ Krysi

    Man, I just don't care, you are a damn mess. :lol:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Man, please stop trying to sell that nonsense to grown women with some sense. There is a huge difference between being together and being married. #1. You have the law on your side when you made that legal contract, common -law doesn't exist in most states nor does it provide you with the protection that a legal marriage does.

    The love might be the same but the ramifications and benefits are not even close.

  • Krysi J

    Mayne ain’t NO DIFFERENCE between being married or being “together” other than the “gubment” got an official contract and chit.

    You can fool YO’SELF into other wise but thats the ONLY difference.

    If you LOVE someone than you LOVE them whether you are married or not.

    I tell ya.

    ---------------------------------------------------------

    Yea but I've found that the difference between relationships that go on for years and years without a proposal and an actual marriage means the person you love actually loves you back. Sorry, but like H-town say "it iz what it iz"

    :rofl: Lawrd....all I see in this post is 1 finger pointing and 3 pointing right back 'atcha.... its all just an EPIC FAIL...bottom line. Go in on the men, not the women....don't give them the satisfaction cuz they are NOT the problem.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    speakinmymind Says:
    @ KrysiJ…you’s a fool!

    @ Man
    there is a difference between LEGAL marriage and the covenant of marriage. yes, legal marriage is going down to the courthouse and getting a marriage certificate. you can have a spiritual marriage ceremony and not be legally married. and i’m not fooling myself of anything, just stating facts which you are obviously oblivious to based on your response.
    -----------------------------------------------------------

    A spiritual marriage, sin't that what Brandy said she had to her baby daddy when she tried to pull the wool over our eyes?

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    @ KRYSI

    I :heart: YOU!!!!!

  • Al-Ameera

    ms.truth Says:
    @speak… yes, yes, yes…many people don’t understand this…I’ll admit, I didn’t even understand it until I stopped playing church and really got in the word…there is a difference. There is a HUGE difference between a marriage between husband and wife or just a long term live in relationship, and a marriage between God, husband and wife…I used to just want the ring and change my last name, but now I know that there’s SO much more to be desired from a marriage.
    *******************************
    Exactly! And I am convinced everyone knows this.

    In my opinion, the people who say there is no difference, are one of two things;

    1. The people that want someone to marry them BUT are trying to justify staying with the person that WON’T marry them. They are trying to convince themselves so they can be ok with it

    2. The people that don’t want to commit and are trying to convince the person they are with that it is no big difference so they don’t have to marry them.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MS. GA MA _706
    "what u mean by “go getter”??"
    ________________________________________________________________

    Not throwing shade, I'm just sayin you "do you" and ain't worried about people hatin.

    Gotta respect that.

  • speakinmymind

    @ KaraZ

    yes, i think that is what Brandy said about their relationship. like i stated, i'm not saying covenant marriage is infallible, but it is different than just being in a live-in relationship. Brandy was making it clear that they did not have a marriage certificate signed by a judge or cleric. and i didn't feel like she was trying to pull the wool over anyone's eyes.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "Yea but I’ve found that the difference between relationships that go on for years and years without a proposal and an actual marriage means the person you love actually loves you back. Sorry, but like H-town say “it iz what it iz”

    Lawrd….all I see in this post is 1 finger pointing and 3 pointing right back ‘atcha…. its all just an EPIC FAIL…bottom line. Go in on the men, not the women….don’t give them the satisfaction cuz they are NOT the problem."
    _____________________________________________________________________

    You got me lost on this one. You tryin to say that people that been together for years and years and aren't married means they DON'T love each other??????

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Man
    there is a difference between LEGAL marriage and the covenant of marriage. yes, legal marriage is going down to the courthouse and getting a marriage certificate. you can have a spiritual marriage ceremony and not be legally married. and i’m not fooling myself of anything, just stating facts which you are obviously oblivious to based on your response.
    ************************
    Both are needed!
    H3ll my Husbands parents didn't even recognize our legal marriage and didn't want us to live together until we had our religious wedding (in Africa). My parents agreed that we need a religious ceremony BUT I still want a legal certificate.
    Anyway a year later his parents got over us living together but are still planning this huge ceremony and goat slaughtering…whatever

  • commonswifey

    Its a possibility that I have a 3 year old sister and I'm 23. That news came out after my father passed. Im looking into getting to know her, its not her fault.

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Man,
    Who said anything about love? Marriage is about more than just "love". You can love someone and don't even like them, you can love someone and not want to spend the rest of your life with them, you can love someone that is no good for and etc.

  • speakinmymind

    @ Al-Ameera

    yes, i agree that both are needed.

  • speakinmymind

    oh...and :rofl: at the "goat slaughtering"

  • ms.truth

    :blink: goat slaughetering...Al, are you African btw?

  • Krysi J

    You got me lost on this one. You tryin to say that people that been together for years and years and aren’t married means they DON’T love each other??????

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    No I am saying that a man who drags out a relationship with a woman that clearly LOVES HIM, without taking the actions of a REAL MAN and marrying said women and still has the nerve to cheat caught or not with justification does NOT love his girlfriend/boo/main lady as much as he fukking claims. Man.....don't be silly all ya damn life ok, put away childish things...women are tired of lame azz excuses. :rolleyes:

  • MsGaMama_706

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @MS. GA MA _706
    “what u mean by “go getter”??”
    ________________________________________________________________

    Not throwing shade, I’m just sayin you “do you” and ain’t worried about people hatin.

    Gotta respect that.
    _______________________________

    Hey...u gotta "do u" u only live once and no matter if u do good or bad, you will always have haters...or someone judging you like they do no wrong...so i tell em "only God can judge me who da fuk is u"

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AL-AMEERA
    "Who said anything about love? Marriage is about more than just “love”. You can love someone and don’t even like them, you can love someone and not want to spend the rest of your life with them, you can love someone that is no good for and etc"
    _______________________________________________________________

    ¿¿¿ HUH ???

    I AGREE with you. I was asking Krysi about it because I interperted her statement to mean that people who have been together for years and not married meant they couldn't possibly love each other.

    Anyway, that's my point. Marriage is legal contract, no more no less.

    You can have a "spiritual wedding and ceremony" and not be "married."

    If you love someone, you love them. "Marriage Smarriage."

  • speakinmymind

    :popcorn: :argue: :shotsfired:

  • Al-Ameera

    Yeah ya'll goat slaughtering....I don't even eat meat, so you know I am over that.

    My husband is from West Africa and I'm a California girl!

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MS. GA MA _702
    "Hey…u gotta “do u” u only live once and no matter if u do good or bad, you will always have haters…or someone judging you like they do no wrong…so i tell em “only God can judge me who da fuk is u”
    _________________________________________________________________

    :preach:

    I tell people all the time, "You ain't livin right if you ain't got haters."

    All I know is "IMA DO ME." Fugg what ya' heard.

  • speakinmymind

    @ Man, I just don't care™

    tell your wife i said hello! :lolol: u're only talkin' this mess on a blog trying to incite us women. u prolly went all out with the double ring interfaith ceremony complete with a 30-person wedding party! :rofl:

  • ms.truth

    @MS. GA MA _702

    girl Man is setting you up for FAILURE... :rofl:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "No I am saying that a man who drags out a relationship with a woman that clearly LOVES HIM, without taking the actions of a REAL MAN and marrying said women and still has the nerve to cheat caught or not with justification does NOT love his girlfriend/boo/main lady as much as he fukking claims. Man…..don’t be silly all ya damn life ok, put away childish things…women are tired of lame azz excuses. "
    ______________________________________________________________________

    No, a REAL WOMAN will love and stand by her man REGARDLESS of marriage. If she REALLY loved this dude then she down through thick and thin. Anything else then she just lyin.

    Yo' marriage certificate ain't goin love you back but your man will!

  • ms.truth

    and I'm mad you used God and cussed in the same statement... :blink:

  • ELove

    @Krysi (#224) Oh So TRUE !!! :rofl:

    And it SEEMS LIKE Everyone (In That Family) that is capable of child-birth is Exercising That-Will EXCEPT FOR the Bread-Winner herself... And that's Beyounce Knowles ?!!!?

    Something just Ain't Right about that fact (Oh Well...) :shrugs:

  • Krysi J

    No, a REAL WOMAN will love and stand by her man REGARDLESS of marriage. If she REALLY loved this dude then she down through thick and thin. Anything else then she just lyin.

    Yo’ marriage certificate ain’t goin love you back but your man will!

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    so you got another excuse for why men don't marry their mates too? :coffee: let me just guess what it iz...

  • MsGaMama_706

    ms.truth Says:

    and I’m mad you used God and cussed in the same statement…
    __________________________

    oh so u holier than thou.....ok

    so i'm assuming u dont cuss at all...what's the difference

    girl bye...kill yaself

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @SPEAKIN MY MIND
    "tell your wife i said hello! u’re only talkin’ this mess on a blog trying to incite us women. u prolly went all out with the double ring interfaith ceremony complete with a 30-person wedding party! "
    ___________________________________________________________________

    :ROFL:

    Naw, just trying to get you to see you gotta live your life for YOU!

    I know I am.

  • ms.truth

    @MsGaMama

    yes ma'am you're correct, I do not use profanity. #thatisall because I refuse to address anything else you said.

  • mirsmommy

    :popcorn: <===== McDonalds *fries* and :koolaid2: <=== *Sweet Tea*

  • MsGaMama_706

    just like my pastor said....he cant stand "christians" that act like they don't sin and are PERFECT..like he said we ALL sin everyday and no sin is greater than another

    STFU!!!! please and thank you

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @KRYSI
    “No I am saying that a man who drags out a relationship with a woman that clearly LOVES HIM, without taking the actions of a REAL MAN and marrying said women and still has the nerve to cheat caught or not with justification does NOT love his girlfriend/boo/main lady as much as he fukking claims. Man…..don’t be silly all ya damn life ok, put away childish things…women are tired of lame azz excuses. ”
    ______________________________________________________________________

    No, a REAL WOMAN will love and stand by her man REGARDLESS of marriage. If she REALLY loved this dude then she down through thick and thin. Anything else then she just lyin.

    Yo’ marriage certificate ain’t goin love you back but your man will
    __________________________________

    KNEEEGGRROOWWWWW PUUHHLEEEEZZEEE!

    If a man REALLY loved his woman he would respect and honor her enough to put a ring on it and give her his last name and respect her enough to not take her through all that extra bullshyt!

  • speakinmymind

    @ Man

    you're not getting me to "see" anything and seeing as how we don't know each other personally, how do you know i don't live my life for me?? not trying to sound uppity, but we're on two totally different levels - intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "so you got another excuse for why men don’t marry their mates too? let me just guess what it iz…"
    __________________________________________________________________

    No "excuse" needed since their is nothing "wrong" with not marrying their mate.

    That being said, exactly how would being married be beneficial vs. just being togeter? Give me some examples or something.

  • ms.truth

    please tell me anywhere that I said I do not sin...that's where I got to stop you...because I KNOW I sin daily, actions and thoughts...therefore I REPENT on a daily basis. get your facts straight ma'am, cause obviously you don't know me.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @speakin

    Brandy first told us she was married and preggers... then when Robert kept insisting they were not married (truth) she came up with that spiritual marriage nonsense. Thing is she was spiritually married to her damn self, that is not a legal definition of marriage dear.

  • MsGaMama_706

    so u repent to do the same ish again the next day...girl bye ------>>>>>u may exit now

  • Krysi J

    Naw, just trying to get you to see you gotta live your life for YOU!

    I know I am.

    ------------------------------------------------------

    men usually do.....and that can be inserted into the PROBLEM box as well :coffee: I can't wait for the day when women start living their lifes for themselves instead of for worthless az men. They can have so much better in a man whose convicted in his wrong doings...or has a conscience at least.

  • ms.truth

    @MsGaMama

    I see I can't hold an intelligent convo with you, so I'm letting you have it honeyboo. :yawn:

  • speakinmymind

    @ KaraZ

    not sure if you're coming at me but i never said a spiritual ceremony was the legal definition of marriage. or was the "dear" part directed towards Brandy's statement regarding her relationship?

  • KrayZKat

    @Ms. Truth,

    I think your notion of, "I'm not giving him something the jumpoff is" needs to be reinvestigated a bit more. No one is perfect. Relationships aren't perfect, and when you live long enough, you'll know that while everything might be nice and tidy now, there are bumps in the road in EVERYONE'S relationships from time to time, so let me ask you? A person can never be everything to another person. It's impossible because humans aren't perfect. Now, should that give your man, your "soul mate" license to seek someone else who at that time may provide him with something you are not? What happened to communication and working thing out? That's one of the reasons why some marriages fail. It takes a strong man to be faithful, and not all men are hardwired to cheat. I don't and won't believe that, EVER. It's a choice they make. This is the problem I see with so many women. We give men a pass with this nonsense. You will never, ever be perfect. What about if he's not giving you everything you need? Is that going to be license for you to skip, and, if so, would he accept that? Somehow I doubt it. Again, no human being can possibly be everything to everyone. Talk to people who have been married for years. I do it all the time because I want to know what the REAL deal is.

    Cheating is an act of selfishness and a person's lack of integrity and character. This whole mess about men being hardwired to cheat is just an excuse for men to cheat and for women to use to excuse it.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Al-Ameera... I don't know if your man's culture is like mine, but in order for our children to have rights in the land we had to go through the traditional marriage rites (ours is wine drinking #WIN) but if we didn't do that step, if our children ever wanted to do anything (inherit our property, address elders, get married) they wouldn't be allowed. Even if we were married legally and in church/mosque, traditionally all i'd be considered is his concubine since he never "paid" for me.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @SPEAKIN MY MIND
    "you’re not getting me to “see” anything and seeing as how we don’t know each other personally, how do you know i don’t live my life for me?? not trying to sound uppity, but we’re on two totally different levels - intellectually, emotionally and spiritually."
    _______________________________________________________________

    My statement:

    "Naw, just trying to get you to see you gotta live your life for YOU!"

    was rhetorical and not necessarily directed at you personally. Just a general statement that I don't believe enough people live their lives for THEIR happiness as opposed to others. BUT, "if the shoe fits..."

    Now, that being said, since we DON'T know each other personally or what not, then by that logic YOU don't know if I'm on your level "intellectually, emotionally and spiritually" or not. Right?

    Didn't take you to be "uppity" either so no concerns there. :)

  • MsGaMama_706

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @SPEAKIN MY MIND
    “you’re not getting me to “see” anything and seeing as how we don’t know each other personally, how do you know i don’t live my life for me?? not trying to sound uppity, but we’re on two totally different levels - intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.”
    _______________________________________________________________

    My statement:

    “Naw, just trying to get you to see you gotta live your life for YOU!”

    was rhetorical and not necessarily directed at you personally. Just a general statement that I don’t believe enough people live their lives for THEIR happiness as opposed to others. BUT, “if the shoe fits…”

    Now, that being said, since we DON’T know each other personally or what not, then by that logic YOU don’t know if I’m on your level “intellectually, emotionally and spiritually” or not. Right?

    Didn’t take you to be “uppity” either so no concerns there.
    __________________________________

    Exactly

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @speaking, please put the e-gat down, I ate some sweet potatoes for breakfast, I have carbs in me, I was not coming at you. I come in peace *waving white flag*

  • Krysi J

    No “excuse” needed since their is nothing “wrong” with not marrying their mate.

    That being said, exactly how would being married be beneficial vs. just being togeter? Give me some examples or something.

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    :eek: you know whats said is i expected you to answer to be a LIE or a front that niccahs throw up when females question the status of their relationship after 2-3 years. Give you some examples huh? What the fukk for? If you don't know the benefits of being married to someone you genuinely love then you never will until you meet that someone you want to be make your wife. I feel so sorry for women wasting their time with these type of dudes...you sit in a relationship for so many years sometimes 8-10 get sold all these dreams of future plans and a wedding without a proposal, then you get cheated on over and over again, only to get LEFT by the niccah in the end and most of the time by the woman they wife up. They've had time to grow throughout your relationship hell you've given them the experience they need to be a good husband and then they realize....you're not the one....and they move on without consequence. SMH ..... its sad, women will get enough of those type of games one day.... I HOPE :eek:

  • speakinmymind

    @ Man

    ok, gotcha...thanks for clarifying. and my comment that we aren't on the same level emotionally, spiritually or intellectually was based on some of your comments regarding this issue. or maybe you're just playing devil's advocate and trying to rile us chicks up?!?

    and i agree that too many people live their lives to please others or because they're overly concerned about what people will say about their life choices. i 'freed' myself from that mess a long time ago and haven't looked back.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @KrazyKat

    you really hit the nail on the head. The cheated on partner is not the one responsible for the cheating, it's not about what they were or weren't doing for their partner; cheating has everything to do with the cheater and their self-centeredness.

  • Krysi J

    @Ms. Truth,

    I think your notion of, “I’m not giving him something the jumpoff is” needs to be reinvestigated a bit more. No one is perfect. Relationships aren’t perfect, and when you live long enough, you’ll know that while everything might be nice and tidy now, there are bumps in the road in EVERYONE’S relationships from time to time, so let me ask you? A person can never be everything to another person. It’s impossible because humans aren’t perfect. Now, should that give your man, your “soul mate” license to seek someone else who at that time may provide him with something you are not? What happened to communication and working thing out? That’s one of the reasons why some marriages fail. It takes a strong man to be faithful, and not all men are hardwired to cheat. I don’t and won’t believe that, EVER. It’s a choice they make. This is the problem I see with so many women. We give men a pass with this nonsense. You will never, ever be perfect. What about if he’s not giving you everything you need? Is that going to be license for you to skip, and, if so, would he accept that? Somehow I doubt it. Again, no human being can possibly be everything to everyone. Talk to people who have been married for years. I do it all the time because I want to know what the REAL deal is.

    Cheating is an act of selfishness and a person’s lack of integrity and character. This whole mess about men being hardwired to cheat is just an excuse for men to cheat and for women to use to excuse it.

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    YES!! :yes: :preach: :cosign:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAZY KAT
    "It takes a strong man to be faithful, and not all men are hardwired to cheat. I don’t and won’t believe that, EVER."
    _____________________________________________________________________

    Your faith in people is admirable!

  • Al-Ameera

    @Al-Ameera… I don’t know if your man’s culture is like mine, but in order for our children to have rights in the land we had to go through the traditional marriage rites (ours is wine drinking #WIN) but if we didn’t do that step, if our children ever wanted to do anything (inherit our property, address elders, get married) they wouldn’t be allowed. Even if we were married legally and in church/mosque, traditionally all i’d be considered is his concubine since he never “paid” for me.
    *****************************
    Yeah, it's basically the same. We have to go thru all kinds of stuff but I have no family in New York and He doesn't either except his younger brother and older cousin (who is a life saver by the way). We are going to Africa in Feb to have a Muslim wedding. He needs to give me a Dowery and all.

    I am saying that his parents know I'm his wife, we live together and I'm not going anywhere BUT make no mistakes about it, we still have to have a traditional wedding in Feb, there is no getting past that

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Krysi J Says:
    No “excuse” needed since their is nothing “wrong” with not marrying their mate.

    That being said, exactly how would being married be beneficial vs. just being togeter? Give me some examples or something.

    ———————————————————-

    you know whats said is i expected you to answer to be a LIE or a front that niccahs throw up when females question the status of their relationship after 2-3 years. Give you some examples huh? What the fukk for? If you don’t know the benefits of being married to someone you genuinely love then you never will until you meet that someone you want to be make your wife. I feel so sorry for women wasting their time with these type of dudes…you sit in a relationship for so many years sometimes 8-10 get sold all these dreams of future plans and a wedding without a proposal, then you get cheated on over and over again, only to get LEFT by the niccah in the end and most of the time by the woman they wife up. They’ve had time to grow throughout your relationship hell you’ve given them the experience they need to be a good husband and then they realize….you’re not the one….and they move on without consequence. SMH ….. its sad, women will get enough of those type of games one day…. I HOPE
    ------------------------------------------------------------

    Krysi even though I think you evil on the low... you are officially my friend in my head.

    I don't get why women spend YEARS prepping a man to be a good husband for another woman! Then when he breaks up with you and marries another woman a year after your break up you get mad. Umm nobody asked you to do alladat! That's your fault. The thing about us human beings is that we'll take advantage of people when they let us. So I do not fault a man for dating a woman for ten plus years when he knows good and well she is not the marrying type for him. Just like I don't fault chicks for running through a man's bank accounts when she knows good and well she is not checking for dude.

  • KrayZKat

    Krysi J Says:

    No “excuse” needed since their is nothing “wrong” with not marrying their mate.

    That being said, exactly how would being married be beneficial vs. just being togeter? Give me some examples or something.

    ———————————————————-

    you know whats said is i expected you to answer to be a LIE or a front that niccahs throw up when females question the status of their relationship after 2-3 years. Give you some examples huh? What the fukk for? If you don’t know the benefits of being married to someone you genuinely love then you never will until you meet that someone you want to be make your wife. I feel so sorry for women wasting their time with these type of dudes…you sit in a relationship for so many years sometimes 8-10 get sold all these dreams of future plans and a wedding without a proposal, then you get cheated on over and over again, only to get LEFT by the niccah in the end and most of the time by the woman they wife up. They’ve had time to grow throughout your relationship hell you’ve given them the experience they need to be a good husband and then they realize….you’re not the one….and they move on without consequence. SMH ….. its sad, women will get enough of those type of games one day…. I HOPE
    -------------------------------------------------
    :claps:

  • speakinmymind

    @ KrazyKat

    agree with you totally. i try to tell people that all the time. cheating ain't about you, it's totally about the other person. i can never be "cheated on" cuz that would entail me having a victim mentality, and i don't play 'victim' very well.

    whether it be selfishness, lack of integrity, etc.; it's still the result of that person's emotional issues/esteem.

  • KMALIK4

    *LOL* I am sitting at my desking laughing - hard! Sandra you are a mess...."Beyonce and Solange Welcomes a Baby Brother!" I Luv the intro to the article too! LMAO! Nice jab!

  • Krysi J

    Krysi even though I think you evil on the low… you are officially my friend in my head.

    ------------------------------------------------------

    :blink: why you think Im evil on the low?? :rofl:

    agree with you totally. i try to tell people that all the time. cheating ain’t about you, it’s totally about the other person. i can never be “cheated on” cuz that would entail me having a victim mentality, and i don’t play ‘victim’ very well.

    whether it be selfishness, lack of integrity, etc.; it’s still the result of that person’s emotional issues/esteem.

    ----------------------------------------------------------

    thats right :yes: cuz if you LOVE yourself enough you know that a niccah only cheated himself by losing YOU....but oh what a gain it iz to you, less time wasted and the opportunity to be with a man more deserving of the type of GOOD WOMAN you are.

  • http://talkingwithtami.com/blog talkingwithtami

    I just asked my hubby why men that have affairs don't use condoms. He said they start off using them but if its a long term affair, most of the times, they get laxed and thats when they slip up,dayum!

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Joy Behar from the View has dated her boyfriend Steve for 26 years and they never married. She seems to be happy. I'm just saying.... marriage isn't for everyone. :shrug:

  • speakinmymind

    Krysi J Says:
    thats right cuz if you LOVE yourself enough you know that a niccah only cheated himself by losing YOU….but oh what a gain it iz to you, less time wasted and the opportunity to be with a man more deserving of the type of GOOD WOMAN you are.
    --------------------------
    you said that!! :-D

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Krysi, just because you put up that cute picture doesn't mean I don't see how you are... I know you can e-shank someone when the need arises. The signs are there, no ma'm, I am not fooled :coffee: carry on.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "No “excuse” needed since their is nothing “wrong” with not marrying their mate.

    That being said, exactly how would being married be beneficial vs. just being togeter? Give me some examples or something.

    ———————————————————-

    you know whats said is i expected you to answer to be a LIE or a front that niccahs throw up when females question the status of their relationship after 2-3 years. Give you some examples huh? What the fukk for? If you don’t know the benefits of being married to someone you genuinely love then you never will until you meet that someone you want to be make your wife. I feel so sorry for women wasting their time with these type of dudes…you sit in a relationship for so many years sometimes 8-10 get sold all these dreams of future plans and a wedding without a proposal, then you get cheated on over and over again, only to get LEFT by the niccah in the end and most of the time by the woman they wife up. They’ve had time to grow throughout your relationship hell you’ve given them the experience they need to be a good husband and then they realize….you’re not the one….and they move on without consequence. SMH ….. its sad, women will get enough of those type of games one day…. I HOPE "
    __________________________________________________________________

    Uh huh. See, why is it the "simplest chit is the hardest to explain?"

    Anyway, there are plenty of women who are told UPFRONT that they man is AGAINST marriage and they still get into the relationship.

    Also got a lot of women sellin dreams to a nucca about him gettin some puzz so it all balances out in the end. Everybody sellin dreams to each other.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    :offtopic: @iscream... does she actually refer to him as her boyfriend at her age? that seems odd to me.

    As far as marriage not being for everyone, you're absolutely right it isn't. But when you're in a pseudo marriage, aren't you already showing that you want to be in some sort of permanent union? I don't get why you don't just legitimize yourself if you're going to play married.
    Do people actually enter long term (what they believe to be) committed relationships just to date in perpetuity? I think more people find themselves in these relationships by mistake, and because they're in that relationship & they realize the other person isn't willing to move forward they settle and tell themselves they don't want to be married.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    @ Krysi

    I Shanked Dat Foo.....

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @TALKING WITH TAMI
    "I just asked my hubby why men that have affairs don’t use condoms. He said they start off using them but if its a long term affair, most of the times, they get laxed and thats when they slip up,dayum!"
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    He right and um.... you betta watch that nucca! He know a lil too much.
    (just sayin)

  • ms.truth

    @Kray

    I don't know exactly what you are talking about, but I guessing it's when I said I looked back and they were doing something I wasn't?? If that's what you're referring to, then it goes back to what I said about 80/20. I know that a person can't be everything to someone. I simply said I stepped back and took a realistic look at what was going on, and tried to look at it from a man's point of view. And what I saw was, I wasn't doing something, the other female was, therefore, he cheated on me with her to get what I wasn't doing.

    And just to clear up the air...the person that I'm with now, my soul mate, is not the person that cheated on me. I left the 2 guys that did, because I just didn't have time for someone who didn't respect me more, and if they wanted what they got from the other female, then they might as well have been with her.

    Now that I have the man that I know God sent for me, I'm more willing to talk about our problems, because we are human, and we do have problems.

    hope that clears it up for you.

  • Ms.Everything

    I have a brother several months younger than me because my mother refused to have anything to do with the baby because his mother was a hotel maid who slept with a musician with a pregnant with. I've never met him, don't know his name or where to even find him, all of that information died with my daddy 17 years ago. I always date a year older or younger than me and only guys who know without a doubt who their father is because I have always had a fear that I will unknowingly marry my brother. I :clap: you Mirsmommy for the way you handled the situation with your husband but I also understand where you're coming from Htown because I've been in that situation as well. My husband had a daughter a couple months older than our son. We weren't together when that baby was conceived and I was told by him and the babys mom that the father was someone else. I actually befriended her because she was friends and worked with him. Halfway into my pregnancy she tells me that she's in love with him and he might be the father and 3 months before my son was born she gave birth to a little girl that looked just like my then-fiance and actually named her after him. I refuse to have anything to do with that child and wouldn't allow him to even speak to the mother. Yes it was wrong but just the thought of that woman hurt me to my core and even now many years later I still hurt thinking of it. No its not the babys fault but at the same time people need to think of the consequences of their actions. The chick was certified crazy (seriously she was bi polar schizo) and at one time threatened me and my family when it was because of their lies that I even continued my relationship with him. She was content being a side ho until she realized that I was more than azz to him and at that point decided to turn the tables. I am accepting of his older son, I love that little boy dearly and his mother and her family love my children and if his current girlfriend got pregnant I would be accepting of that child although I did tell him that he better not support any child before taking care of mine first. It all depends of the situation and I personally feel that if you bring a child into a situation oke that you can't expect or force the people directly hurt by your actions to accept and love your child as if the baby makes all the pain go away. The father has to be there but not his wife/gfriend and children. If they choose too than great but if they don't that's your fault and your problem. You made your bed so now you can lie in it. She knew Matthew was married with children when she slept with him and he knew it as well. Matthew and her are responsible for loving, caring and supporting that baby not Bey, not Solange and especially not Tina. If they do great but if they don't I can't fault them for it either because a baby is a joy but that little bundle of joy is also a reminder of what he did to his family. Oh and Ms. Truth, you can be the BEST wife, biggest freak, sexiest woman or most beautiful woman on the planet with diamonds between your legs and a man will still cheat on you if he wants to. I'm far far far from ugly, had 4 babies with a body that looks I haven't carried one, I can cook my ass off, clean a house, am one of the biggest freaks in the bedroom I know gave it to my husband damn near every day sometimes 2 or 3 times a day, played video games and watched sports like one of the guys, kept our finances in order, was the breadwinner but treated him like he was the king in our house, had all his friends jealous of what he had at home and guess what... he STILL cheated, he STILL lied, he STILL whupped my ass whenever he felt like it. A man will do what a man wants to do and nothing you do or some two bit skank does will change that. All you can do is pray for a man who loves God and loves his woman the way that a real man is supposed to and respects you and your vows enough to stay.

    Okay essays over, I'm going to read the rest of the comments now lol

  • Krysi J

    Joy Behar from the View has dated her boyfriend Steve for 26 years and they never married. She seems to be happy. I’m just saying…. marriage isn’t for everyone.
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    Yea I know another female in those shoes, and every chance the man gets he tries to get at his ex who bore all his children.....could it be that he never married this woman because he still loved the woman who turned his proposal down :shrugs: Women......GOD HELP US ALL.

    Krysi, just because you put up that cute picture doesn’t mean I don’t see how you are… I know you can e-shank someone when the need arises. The signs are there, no ma’m, I am not fooled carry on.

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    I understand if thats how u see it. I'm usually honest about the way I feel, so we can be e-friends but if I don't agree with what you are stating in a post Im not going to ignore it :shrugs: Im the same way in real life...matter fact all my friends are the same too....just REAL i guess. I don't owe anybody a lie, and Im not a fake person....if I come across fake people or people I believe are fake I treat them the same, but you'll never see us hang out and I don't consider them friends...only associates. You are right about me....i mean I wouldn't go as far as saying im evil but yea, a sugarcoater i am not.

  • speakinmymind

    KaraZ Says:

    @speaking, please put the e-gat down, I ate some sweet potatoes for breakfast, I have carbs in me, I was not coming at you. I come in peace *waving white flag*
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    i just scrolled up and saw your reply. noooo e-gat on my end. i guess i was confused about the tone. i'm just happy to know there's no e-beef between us cuz we're usually in agreement. :-D

  • Ms.Everything

    Oops pregnant wife not with. Sorry

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @Kara why you acting like you don't watch The View :lol: I think she calls him her beau. Not sure she says boyfriend. Most of the time she just calls him Steve.

    I agree with what you said (& for the record I am not one of those ppl that marriage isn't for) but people also settle for BS when they are married. Probably more so then if it you weren't out of the "forsake my vows" notion.

    Married men cheat just as often as men in committed relationships. They go upside your head, They bring home babies, They bring home diseases. If your with a dog a certificate won't change that. AND if he is a broke nicca (in this economy that could be a large #) you will not be collecting $200 when you pass go.

    I see people all the time come to court hollering about their husband not honoring the divorce and isn't paying them any money. (and these are people with money).

    Just giving an opinion on the flip side of the coin.

  • Krysi J

    Also got a lot of women sellin dreams to a nucca about him gettin some puzz so it all balances out in the end. Everybody sellin dreams to each other.

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    :claps: glad to hear they're still some of us around. cuz i ain giving ya SHIIIIIiiit until Im good and damn ready to! Let me see where your head is at, and if we are even about the same things...and if you could possibly be crazy az hell or harboring a lifelong STD....shyt some people don't like wasting time and they for damn sure ain giving up puzzy because a niccah want it....niggaz want puzzy all damn day long, what the fukk that gotta do with the females they are getting to know.

  • Krysi J

    @ Krysi

    I Shanked Dat Foo…..

    ---------------------------------------------------

    CAUSE HE LOOKED AT ME FUNNY!!! :rofl: oh yea and I :heart: you too BROWN, sorry got caught up in the convo!

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ms everything this may sound like a cheap plug but I swear you sound like a character in my book. :yes:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    speakinmymind Says:
    KaraZ Says:

    @speaking, please put the e-gat down, I ate some sweet potatoes for breakfast, I have carbs in me, I was not coming at you. I come in peace *waving white flag*
    ———————————–
    i just scrolled up and saw your reply. noooo e-gat on my end. i guess i was confused about the tone. i’m just happy to know there’s no e-beef between us cuz we’re usually in agreement.

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    Glad to know, we need to stop this e-black on black violence! :lolol:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI

    "Cuz i ain giving ya SHIIIIIiiit until Im good and damn ready to! Let me see where your head is at, and if we are even about the same things…and if you could possibly be crazy az hell..."

    Funny, that's the way men feel about marriage. Go figure...

  • Krysi J

    @ Iscream

    comment #217 please. THis is usually the order of things. Men usually have those tendencies B4 the wedding.

  • speakinmymind

    @ KARAZ
    Glad to know, we need to stop this e-black on black violence!
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    :lolol: :lolol:

  • Krysi J

    “Cuz i ain giving ya SHIIIIIiiit until Im good and damn ready to! Let me see where your head is at, and if we are even about the same things…and if you could possibly be crazy az hell…”

    Funny, that’s the way men feel about marriage. Go figure…

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    OH OK....now it makes sense why BOYS go out and find skanks to drop draws within 24 hours. Well, the type of MEN I like wouldn't entertain that type of bytch no way, so you're right boo, it all balances out.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @iscream, when I watch the View, you know I'm usually having a conniption over some ignorance Elizabish said or side-eying Sherri to pay attention.

    I agree some people settle in their marriages also. I guess everyone needs to do what makes them truly happy and forget about the rest... but don't lie to yourself about what makes you happy so you don't look as foolish as you feel. Don't sit up there and tell me you only want to play wife/husband, when you actually want to BE a wife/husband. Also have the courage to refuse to settle for less than what you want & know you deserve, stop investing in fugging sandcastles.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @Krysi

    I agree. But for some reason (some) people feel that once they say I do the man will start to say I don't (want to be with another woman).

    There was just some sports guy who said he slept with a chick the day of his wedding. Don't quote me but he said something like he slept with 30 women a week and after he got married he cut the number in half. Not out but down. smh

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "OH OK….now it makes sense why BOYS go out and find skanks to drop draws within 24 hours. Well, the type of MEN I like wouldn’t entertain that type of bytch no way, so you’re right boo, it all balances out."
    ________________________________________________________________

    I bet you're "men" have entertained their share of women like that. Just sayin.

    And stop all your :(... No one is "taken advantage" of with out THEIR participation. If marriage was so great dudes would be running to go do it. The fact is there is no benefit to it.

    If you love someone then love them and if you don't then don't. Seems simple to me.

  • ms.truth

    WOW @ "The fact is there is no benefit to it."

    So much wrong with this statement.

  • speakinmymind

    @ ms.truth

    there's so much wrong with his entire premise...and that's an understatement. :lolol:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    If marriage was so great dudes would be running to go do it!!!!

    If something is so "naturally good" and blah blah blah, why aren't people JUMPING at the chance to do it?

    Um... maybe because it's not as "good" as it's cracked up to be. You can fool some of the people some of the time but not all the people all the time.

  • Al-Ameera

    Ok. Can I just say this…..and this is directed at no one but I just hate when people in these long term relationships say stuff like “marriage is no biggie” and then refer to the person as their husband or wifey, or their partners parents as their in-laws and so on…..NO THEY ARE NOT ( :rofl: @ my IM moment)

    If marriage is no big deal than why use those phrases? I know why but will someone please humor me and tell me why people do that? And they try to make you feel beneath them because you’re actually married.

  • ms.truth

    @Man

    from a Biblical stand point, it's the devil at work. It isn't of God to think there's no benefit to marriage. God made marriage to be sacred, to even state that there's no benefit from marriage is downing what God created. But you got the pull of Satan on men these days, and a lot of men think that they're life is ending when they get married. The world is materialistic, what do you expect? A lot of men would rather have money, cars, clothes and hoes than having a wife and kids. From a personal standpoint, my fiancee wasn't too excited about marriage until he started reading the Bible and again, stopped playing "church". Every since then, he's been excited about getting married and starting a family.

  • ms.truth

    @Al...jealousy! they wish they had what you have.

  • Krysi J

    I agree. But for some reason (some) people feel that once they say I do the man will start to say I don’t (want to be with another woman).

    There was just some sports guy who said he slept with a chick the day of his wedding. Don’t quote me but he said something like he slept with 30 women a week and after he got married he cut the number in half. Not out but down. smh

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    Exactly, he was a cheater from the start, and she shouldn't have married him in the first place, but like Karaz said I guess she wanted to run thru that bank account, but let her feelings get involved first. SMH... I got a new saying not "can't we all just get along" but "can't we all just keep it real" :yes:

  • ms.truth

    also, it's them being sincere. they know they're not actually wifey or hubby, so they place these titles thinking it means something, when it really means nothing at all.

  • speakinmymind

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    If marriage was so great dudes would be running to go do it!!!!

    If something is so “naturally good” and blah blah blah, why aren’t people JUMPING at the chance to do it?

    Um… maybe because it’s not as “good” as it’s cracked up to be. You can fool some of the people some of the time but not all the people all the time.
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    you are a nut! :rofl:

    all the above are blanket statements that can be disputed or agreed with depending on which side of the pendulum a person swings. i'm convinced you say this kinda stuff for shi.ts and giggles, and not because these are your true beliefs.

  • ELove

    @Krysi (#310)
    Keeping It Real is so much SAFER !!! :lol:

  • ms.truth

    :wave: hey ELove...I hadn't seen you comment since I became a member... I was a lurker for years and recognized your name.

  • Krysi J

    I bet you’re “men” have entertained their share of women like that. Just sayin.

    And stop all your :(… No one is “taken advantage” of with out THEIR participation. If marriage was so great dudes would be running to go do it. The fact is there is no benefit to it.

    If you love someone then love them and if you don’t then don’t. Seems simple to me.

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    so dawG....cuz you are just fukking UNBELIEVEABLE :rofl:

    you mean to tell me.......not only do men expect us to embrace their cheating ways, but not to expect marriage either??!!! Well got dayUM gucci what the hell do yall want a woman for, go a fukk ah niccah in the azz hole if its like that, I heard their isn't much difference in the feeling of it....and there is no marriage involved usually by LAW :rofl: Dyck just ain that serious to me bruh, sorry...these females sound desperate for a man if they are going for all that bullshyt you tom bout.....hell naw.

    whatever...dude, this shyt is going nowhere...we're done.

  • ELove

    @ms.truth
    Waving Back at cha !!! I've Been MIA for a Hot-Minute :lol:

  • FloridaChick813

    iscream Says:

    @Krysi

    I agree. But for some reason (some) people feel that once they say I do the man will start to say I don’t (want to be with another woman).

    There was just some sports guy who said he slept with a chick the day of his wedding. Don’t quote me but he said something like he slept with 30 women a week and after he got married he cut the number in half. Not out but down. smh
    ________

    :yes: he sure did. He said he cheated the DAY AFTER he got married.

    Im with Krysi J, Whats the point of gettin married??? If your not ready, just say it, IM NOT READY :nono:

    :rolleyes:

  • Krysi J

    @Krysi (#310)
    Keeping It Real is so much SAFER !!!
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    Its the only waaaaaaAAAy :rofl:

  • ajonesy

    My 2 cents on most of the comments here:

    1. women do you. if u comfortable being single cool. but if u know u really wanna be married stop settling for the person u with if they dont.

    2. if women respected each other these problems would be a none issue. yeah this is ideal, but thats how i have always lived my life. i never sleep with another woman's man/bf or whatever, because i never wanted it done to me. karma people.

    3. if my husband cheated i would roll. point blank.

    4. if he had another baby i would roll. i'm not interested in raising anyone else kids. period. i wouldnt hate the child. but we wouldnt all be a happy family. heck naw.

    5. if u are a product of a side relationship and the other family doesnt accept you so what. just because u have siblings doesnt mean u need to be close. some brothers and sisters with the same parents arent close. so trust me u arent missing out on anything.

    6. if u slept with a man that u knew was with someone else, i have no respect for you. sorry.

    7. dont allow a man to convince u that living together is the same as being married. its not.

    8. off topic - stop fcking paying house with a man if you have kids in the house (especially little girls). having a man lay up in your bed and yall not married and he can come and go as he pleases is not cool.

    tis all.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI
    "so dawG….cuz you are just fukking UNBELIEVEABLE

    you mean to tell me…….not only do men expect us to embrace their cheating ways, but not to expect marriage either??!!! Well got dayUM gucci what the hell do yall want a woman for, go a fukk ah niccah in the azz hole if its like that, I heard their isn’t much difference in the feeling of it….and there is no marriage involved usually by LAW Dyck just ain that serious to me bruh, sorry…these females sound desperate for a man if they are going for all that bullshyt you tom bout…..hell naw.

    whatever…dude, this shyt is going nowhere…we’re done."
    ______________________________________________________________

    ¿¿¿ huh ???

    I never said women had to "accept a man's cheating ways." By all means, if they don't like it they have the right to leave.

    Nor am I saying that a woman shouldn't "expect" marriage.

    What I AM saying is that:

    1. there is no benefit from marriage that can't be had WITHOUT marriage

    2. No one is "taken advantge of" without their consent so accept that

    3. You can't satisfy everyone but you CAN satisfy yourself

  • Al-Ameera

    @ ajonesy....you basically sum'd it up

  • Ms.Everything

    @ Iscream :rofl: I've got stories for days, I've lived a little too much and seen way too much. I've been meaning to ask for the name of your book since I've got all this time on my hands now

    @ Topic: I finished reading all the comments and :cosign: speakin, karaz, & krysi J.

    I felt horrible hearing all the stories about those who weren't accepted by their fathers families, I've never looked at it from the perspective of the child who grows up that way since I have always been on the other side of the fence and although I still feel the same about the women it did give me something to think about as far as the child involved.

    @ MsGAmama.. I wanna ask how old you are but I'm gonna resist that but let me share something with you. My exhusbands current gf was his "best friend/fluck buddy" for 7 years while he always had a real gfriend on the side. When we got together he cut it all off and she ran around talking about how I stole her "man" flash forward 5 years and we're married with 3 kids, 1 on the way and she finds him on myspace, they start chatting and getting friendly again. A couple months later I put him out and she opens her door to him and tries to start a relationship with a married man who had been seperated (and not legally) for a day. We get back together (big surprise) 2 weeks later and she runs all over town talking that same ish again and how stupid I am, she assumed cause they were high school sweethearts (in her head) that they we're meant to be and me, the mother of his children, his WIFE was the ignorant one, the dumb one, the fool but she was the real chick, the one who'd always be there blah blah blah. I'm telling you this because with the exception of the fact that she was smart enough not to get pregnant you and her sound a lot alike. You allowed (broken condom or not) yourself to get pregnant by a man in a committed relationship who was able to run game on you because you had history when you were children (because high schoolers are children), you then demanded that not just him (which he should take care of the child cause he made the child) but she as well accept your child without acknowledging the fact that you helped bring pain into this womans life. You are sitting on a blog calling her a fool for staying with a man who cheats on her but I'm pretty sure if he left her you would be waiting with open arms (and legs). And your comment about be nice to the baby mama cause she is still flucking him made it really clear that you are still doing that man no matter how hard you're denying it. That situation is nothing to be proud of. Things happen, people make mistakes, but the key is to learn from those mistakes. Your baby deserves love from his father and family, but his girlfriend doesn't owe you anything other than to treat your child with respect should she see him and that's it because you and the man did this. The baby should not be treated differently I agree especially after reading these other women's stories but that woman doesn't owe you a d*mn thing and i hope you change your attitude about this real soon cause karma is a bish and you can't hurt people and not have it come back to you. In the case of my ex's girl when I finally had enough and put him out for good she took him right back and in 2 years she's lost 2 jobs because of him, 2 apartments cause he won't work and smokes her paychecks, her car is gone, he won't sleep with her but flaunts his other chicks around her and he spends half his time cussing her out cause she's not me. Now she finally sees the problem and its too late. I don't ebeef and I'm not trying to start nothing but your comments really rubbed me the wrong way especially since you're continuing to try and justify it without admitting where you were wrong

  • Krysi J

    @ ajonesy i agree 100% with everything you said except this

    5. if u are a product of a side relationship and the other family doesnt accept you so what. just because u have siblings doesnt mean u need to be close. some brothers and sisters with the same parents arent close. so trust me u arent missing out on anything.
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    :blink: I can't help but feel like this statement is for the purpose of justifying a woman who mistreats outside children in a MARRIAGE only should they even be considered outside anyway when its their HUSBANDS children?? They should have relationships with their siblings cuz I'll tell ya this unless the siblings are older children don't give a damn about all that, children are always happy about playmates children don't give a damn how they got here until they get old enough to understand what their MAMA and DADDY problem is. Women need to stop harboring their ill feelings towards the source of the problem "the cheater" and place the bad vibe where it belongs IN THE BEDROOM with the man who caused the pain. The only way I will deny my child from seeing his father is because I don't like the fact that he does anything for the child, or he doesn't treat him as he/she should be treated, or makes every effort to cause problems for me the woman who takes soul care of my child (example: having your family members ATTEMPT to harass me or call HRS) this will get you put in YOUR PLACE, we are the custodial parent so what we say goes and if you violate me with anything above I will react accordingly......but denying a child to see his father because of the woman he's with or anything else as petty no ma'am :nono:

  • ajonesy

    @ Ms.Everything

    i feel where u are coming from. as a married woman her comments irked me as well. its hard to judge people strictly on whats written but she did come off arrogant, like she had the upper hand. but in reality, when black women allow themselves to be nothing more than a baby momma, everyone loses. smh.

    #noshade @ MsGAmama - just saying

  • Ms.Everything

    Exactly @ ajonesy. But even outside of marriage that attitude bugs me and it seems like too many women especially younger ones have it. I recently had a friend who dated her hs sweetheart up until graduation and then broke up with him for someone else. A year later she gets dumped and goes crying to her ex only to find out his current girl is pregnant. For 9 months she talked ish about this chick, called her all kinds of hoes, the baby arrives and she starts talking about how they need to take custody from the mother and raise the little boy. That doesn't work and she gets pregnant on purpose, lost the baby unfortunately and gets mad at everyone but herself. And dude is still messing with both of them but she's convinced he only loves her and is just living with the girl for the baby. I ended the friendship because I got tired of the drama. It just seems like nowadays people only care about what they want and don't care who they hurt in the process without realizing that everything has a way of coming back to you

  • Krysi J

    3. You can’t satisfy everyone but you CAN satisfy yourself
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    NOW THIS....I can agree with :yes: Cause I will do this at all times babe, without hesitation :coffee:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRYSI

    You will come around to my wisdom in due time. Mark my words...

  • ajonesy

    @ Ms.Everything - i agree completely.

    i was just having a similar conversation (with myself lol) while reading another blog post.

    even men with nothing to offer walk around thinking they are the sh*t. and u wanna know why? because on every corner there is some desperate woman with no man, that will do any and everything for him and get nothing but some dyck in return.

    sorry i aint the one. i'd rather be alone than deal with the drama.

  • ajonesy

    @ man ...

    sorry homie i dont agree with this one ...

    1. there is no benefit from marriage that can’t be had WITHOUT marriage
    ___________________

    we both know this is untrue.

  • Krysi J

    @ Mrs. Everything comment #322, the bottom line is you chose to take him back after you caught him cheating, and even though you made the decision to marry him afterwards you obviously did not find happiness and left him (wasted time), now being that you married him taking him back could have been justified though you're lucky the consequence was not worse and the gurl who took him back, he treated her worse because thats what she was about in the first place :shurgs: doesn't make him less of a cheater cause he knew better than to be out in the open when he was with you. THE MAN was the source of the PROBLEM in the first place, and you're right the best friend deserved him because she is content with settling for that type of shyt, you weren't braVO :claps: One less fool in line to be with deez niccahs. #noshade

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @JONESY
    "sorry homie i dont agree with this one …

    1. there is no benefit from marriage that can’t be had WITHOUT marriage
    ___________________

    we both know this is untrue."
    ____________________________________________________________________

    LOL. We "both" know huh? We might "both" know a LOT of things but that ain't one of them.

    Marriage is an antiquated institution dying a slow death due to being obsolete.

    Of course, if you would be so kind as to give me ONE benefit that I have over looked I would be more than happy to retract my statments. :)

  • Krysi J

    @ Ms.Everything - i agree completely.

    i was just having a similar conversation (with myself lol) while reading another blog post.

    even men with nothing to offer walk around thinking they are the sh*t. and u wanna know why? because on every corner there is some desperate woman with no man, that will do any and everything for him and get nothing but some dyck in return.

    sorry i aint the one. i’d rather be alone than deal with the drama
    ---------------------------------------------------------

    YES BOO TELL IT :yes:

    side eyes Man and that foolishness :yawn: CHIIIIIIiiiiiile. :rolleyes:

  • ajonesy

    @ man - ok sure.

    tax benefits, estate planning, govt. benefits (esp. those serving in the military), employee benefits, medical benefits, legal benefits, plus more.

    i could go into detail but i wont.

    take in consideration these are what average everyday people would consider a benefit, not your local hoodrat. so if you were referring to that chick, sorry i can't relate.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AJONESY
    "tax benefits, estate planning, govt. benefits (esp. those serving in the military), employee benefits, medical benefits, legal benefits, plus more.

    i could go into detail but i wont.

    take in consideration these are what average everyday people would consider a benefit, not your local hoodrat. so if you were referring to that chick, sorry i can’t relate."
    __________________________________________________________________

    ROFLMAO. You can get ALL of those through Power of Attorney and other legal documents (Wills/Trusts/etc.) if deemed necessary.

    Not that all of those "benefits" are necessary for every situation.

    Plus, with the other legal documents you don't have to worry about your exposure through divorce (**looking at: Shaq, A.I., Tiger Woods, Michael Jordan, etc**)

    Oh yeah, there is actually a "marriage tax," as it is commonly referred to.

  • Ms.Everything

    @ Krysi, when the psycho girl got pregnant we weren't together yet and when him and I first started dating he cut off the side girl. Its a long drawn out story but the main part is he didn't cheat on me until after we were married but I knew he had cheated on his past gf's just like id cheated on past bf's at the time we were young (19 & 21) and just in love. Now after we were married and I found out about the cheating, yes I took him back. To me cheating isn't a dealbreaker in a marriage, it is in a regular bf/gf relationship but not a marriage where there is so much on the line. Its a problem, definitely not okay but my vows said better or for worse and I was willing to try and stick it out for my children and my marriage and we made it over 5 years which is much longer than many young couples. The final straw to my marriage was the abuse and when he got hooked on drugs.

  • ajonesy

    @ man ... really?

    u can get a power of attorney to tell get the military to give your baby mamma benefits? or increase your pay because your married? or get help for schooling?

    does power of attorney allow me to get credit for double the amount of childcare on my taxes?

    do yourself a favor. don't try me, i'm not the one. thanks!

  • ajonesy

    @ Ms.Everything

    i was with u until the last post lol. i'm at 5 years. no problems thus far (no deal breakers anyway). life is good.

    but if he cheated i would roll. point blank. lmao. sorry lol. sticking your peen in another chicks chocha is a f-ing deal breaker in my book.

    because the trust would be broken and he put my life at risk.

    now if u ask me that 20 years from now, my answer might be different, but for now? no ma'am. lol

  • Ms.Everything

    Ajonesy, I get what you're saying but to be honest its one of those things where you have to be in the situation to fully know what you would do and prior to finding out that he'd cheated I said the same thing. I found out at almost 7 months pregnant when I answered his phone and it was a girl on the other line telling me she's pregnant (a lie) and I went into pre term labor the next morning, was placed on full bedrest and needed him home to help with the other three kids and myself so as hard as it was I forgave him and believed him when he said that it was a one time thing and that it would never happen again. Especially after watching him cry in the hospital when he realized that his actions had almost killed our baby) At that point id had invested 6 years, 4 of them married, into this man and had 3 children. By the end of my pregnancy the drug abuse came out he beat me up real bad and our daughter was born close to a month early , I put him out (which is when he ran to her) but he came back and said he was ready to change and needed help so I put him in rehab for several months and we went through counseling got back together but unfortunately he relapsed the abuse got worse and I was done for good. Prior to the drugs he never cheated on me and when he was sober he didn't and to me divorce was not an option and had my life and my childrens lives not been at risk (he was on meth and having serious psychotic episodes) I probably would have continued trying at least a bit longer. Many couples have overcome cheating and gone on to successful faithful marriages which is another reason I was willing to forgive the first time because even great people make mistakes. Now I'm blessed that I never caught an std and I'm alive to tell my story. He damaged my spine during one of our last fights and I will be in pain for the rest of my life but I lived through it and am a better woman now but everyone is different and everyone has different deal breakers. Now should I ever remarry I'm older and wiser now and I just pray that God sends me a man on the same spiritual level as me so that I won't have to deal with that same pain

  • ajonesy

    well wow! this a special situation indeed. wherever he is i truly hope he gets help tho.

  • Ms.Everything

    You and me both but unfortunately I doubt he will. Right now he has it made free drugs, ass, food and shelter all hes missing is his family and until he hits rock bottom he wont see how important that is. His mom told me to make sure I keep up his life insurance policy so that when its time to bury him the money is there and our kids think hes so busy working he just cant make it out here (I dont believe in speaking badly about a parent in front of a child no matter how bad he/she might be)

  • danjas

    lord just help us all. the single folks and the married folks.

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    Man, I just don't care™

    that was funny!