Chris Brown Prays For Us

It seems like you’re taking this whole situation with him personal which is why I believe Nichelle is saying that you perhaps have been a victim of dv and are directing your anger at Chris the way that you are. And she gave the example of why she was so angry about the AK/Swizz/Mashonda drama because it happened to her. So maybe the person you helped in the dv case that you mentioned earlier was you. That’s what it seems like she is saying Candi and it also appears that way to me. I feel the same way when I read stories about jumpoffs getting ahead at the expense of others because its happened to me.

Maybe you’ve never been a victim of dv, I hope you haven’t because as a victim I wouldn’t wish that upon anyone. However, I hope that your dislike/anger towards this situation with Chris is also directed towards other celebrity woman beaters who actually have a history of repeatedly beating women and continue to do so with no remorse such as Charlie Sheen, Don Cornelius, Jay Z, Sean Penn and countless other actors/athletes/entertainers who were allowed to have their actions swept under a rug while they continued on with their careers. You said that he’s hit other women but you’ve yet to name these women. All we know is of one instance which was horrible but is still mostly speculation because the truth of exactly what occurred has yet to come out. We saw the pictures of her, but we never saw photos of him after the incident. Her forehead bruises were consistent with having your head fly into the dashboard which is what happened when he slammed on the brakes. He did put his hands on her which was wrong but many people have said that she also put her hands on him. She said they were both a danger to each other and she also has a history of violence. No woman deserves to be beat, no one. But there is a difference between being brutally beaten by the person you love and mutual combat which is why I gave my examples above. When I look at this case, I see two immature young people with anger issues who finally got themselves into trouble. One got off scott free and the other has been crucified by an industry filled with people who’ve committed far more heinous crimes than he did.

My last point on this is if you truly have never experienced the pain of having your boyfriend/husband beat you for no reason other than to break you down as a woman than while you can count yourself blessed you also can not imagine what the pain of domestic violence actually feels like. You can sympathize all day but it is not the same. If women who have experienced it, lived through it and survived it can forgive this young man than why can’t you? You’re entitled to an opinion but you said 1. That this wasn’t his first time hitting a woman but when asked for details you can’t give them and got defensive and 2. That maybe women have experienced or witnessed dv can’t help but to see him for the “devil child” that he is and now two people who actually have experienced dv are telling you that we don’t see him as a devil child at all but someone who made a mistake and you’re still defensive. You don’t have to buy his cds, or be his fan. I’m not that big of a fan cause I’m too old for his kinda music BUT I will call something out as being wrong when I see it and the treatment he’s getting is wrong especially when people lie to justify hating him or use dv victims for sympathy to get others to hate him when they’ve never actually experienced it themselves. Sandra has never liked the boy even before last February so its not surprising she doesn’t now but his tweet was mild, semi positive yet even that is being used against him.

You’re entitled to like/dislike whomever you please but don’t throw accusations without facts or use empty sympathy tactics that you know nothing about since you “have never experienced domestic violence” Now I really am done

Why did I come back in here? Welp, here I go… @Candi, sweetie those cut and paste comments of mine did nothing to validate your point so why did you even bother? No one on here is advocating domestic violence, I said I’ve been a victim of it as did Nichelle nor is anyone condoning what he did. I’m going to assume you’re having a bad day because that didn’t make sense, I’m not on prozac never have been nor do I need it. And nowhere did I double talk my point stayed consistent throughout each comment. I never attacked you, stating that you need a midol is simply because you’re acting like you have pms with your responses. You opened yourself up for people to ask more questions when you clearly stated she was not the only woman he hit, I asked for more detail as did someone else. That’s not teaming up against you, its asking for more info on your claim, which you have not provided. I don’t believe there are other women because that info would have come out by now especially with the amount of people who hate this boy and have been digging in his past and life looking for dirt to sling. Not to mention that he is young rich and black surely if there was another incident we would’ve seen another court case and likely a lawsuit. You said that dv victims may feel that he’s a devil child. All I did was state that I’m a victim and I don’t feel that way. You also said that you’ve supported someone who experienced a dv situation. You brought that into the conversation. Just because a group of people on a blog share similar views does not mean were ganging up on you and just because I state my opinion does not mean I’m trying to convert you. Unless your name is Rihanna you’ve come across as way too invested in the entire situation. And as I said before I’m not really a fan of his just disgusted by the hatred I see towards him while other criminals some who’ve committed the same crime as Chris multiple times and some who’ve committed far worse are routinely forgive and praised by the media and people. I believe he deserves a second chance, too many people are granted 2nd chances for worse offenses. When I see him I see a young man whose not even 21 trying to change but people aren’t giving him that chance. He volunteers at dv shelters, is doing his community service, apologized more than he should and has been involved in charity work since this happened. I believe people can change and I think he will. That is my opinion you feel otherwise that’s fine but you took a difference of opinion and simple questions regarding your comments on a blog and turned it into something personal which is why I advised you to calm down and reread the comments you felt were attacking you. I’ve been on this site for 3 years and these were polite compared to some debates/arguments that I’ve seen on here.

Back @ topic: for the 20/20 interview, she didn’t outright say she hit him, she said that they were both dangerous to each other, that even if she did that didn’t give him the right to hit her and when asked out right she said no she didn’t hit him. The police report contradicts that though and so many people from his camp were saying that she used to hit him all the time plus a couple years ago she talked about smashing her brother in the head with a bottle so it doesn’t seem like a stretch to think that she may have also hit him that night. Especially when you consider how easily her photos were released (which was against the law) and the police report with her statement yet no one released his mug shot or his statement regarding that night. I live out here and la county and city releases all mugshots regardless of the “rules”, tmz can get there hands on anything so it seemed to me and others that there is a lot of missing information and public opinion was purposely twisted in her favor. That doesn’t justify him hitting her but everyone has their breaking point. I know I was personally offended watching the interview because she was making herself the poster child role model for dv and in my eyes after what I’ve experienced personally and witnessed that one night does not make her the helpless victim like the media and her camp were building her to be. I’m not saying she wasn’t hurt or traumatized but if she hit him first that night she lost a fight whereas there are women who’ve been beaten to the ground for burning the chicken or for the tone in their voice those women are true victims in my eyes. I’ve yet to see her at a shelter speaking to women who’ve been abused and I believe its because she knows her situation wasn’t what it. I’m not a celebrity but I have spoken at shelters regarding my situation and what I’ve overcome. I don’t speak to my family/friends too much because it embarrasses me but I will discuss it if I feel that my story can help someone which is why I don’t see why she didn’t use her celebrity to reach out to these victims. The sad thing is he has done more to raise awareness and help victims than she has while she was the one claiming to be a role model and saying that she spoke out to help young women overcome