I know I'm all late with this, but I had a lunch/business meeting yesterday with a new fashion blogger named Sarah Chapman (more on that later).

Singer Christina Milian showed off her and rapper The Dream's adorable baby girl, Violet, in the latest issue of US magazine, which makes little sense because 99% of US magazine readers don't have a clue who she is, and don't care. Anyway, The Dream was in Atlanta recently and why did one of my readers send me a long email about how he tried to come onto her at some nightclub? Based on what she wrote, the best I could tell was that he was being nice. This is why black men disrespect our women because when they are being nice to us (and being themselves), we women tend to take it the wrong way. I know some of you ladies find it hard to believe, but every man doesn't want you!

Essence magazine published this photo of Singer Jill Scott and her big boy, Jett Hamilton Roberts. He turns 1 this month. Isn't he handsome? Too bad his daddy, Mo'Nique's drummer Lil' Jon Roberts, is a snake. He had two babies by other women and just played poor Jill's emotional heartstrings. I'm sure you've heard that sordid story by now.

Lil Wayne's baby mama Sarah posted this twit pic of her and Lil Wayne's son, cutie pie Dwayne III yesterday. Little Weezy turns 2 in October. I don't know who the little girl is.

And congrats to singer Robin Thicke and actress Paula Patton. She gave birth to the couple's first child -- a boy -- on Tuesday. They named him Julian.

Aspiring rapper, Quincy Brown, son of 80s R&B singer Al B Sure and sometime model/socialite Kim Porter, posted this pic on his Twitter from his photo shoot for his upcoming mixtape yesterday. Isn't he handsome? Wouldn't you love to take him home to mama? Such a clean cut young man (why is he rapping?) My regular readers will recall I wrote about Quincy being pursued by Hollywood's elite starlets. But I'm told he totally ignores them and chooses the 'round the way girls instead.

  • lovezoe

    Beautiful babies.

  • twchoc1

    SR...the little girl in Sarah's picture is her daughter..they are so cute!

  • http://twitter.com/Q_ATLANTIS Q_ATLANTIS

    hello everyone! I feel like I've been neglecting you all since I haven't been posting comments. I've been busy as a bee signing up for grad school and signing up my son for pre-k.

    :sorry:

  • cheeks8683

    Good Morning everybody!!! All the children look good. I love Jill Scott. Out of all the couples in "Why did I get Married too" I think her relationship was the most realistic...all the other ish was too much...Poor Tyler, he writes his movies in the form of a soap opra with too many stoylines...I was reading the post from yesterday...I love how this blog attracts people who know how to express their views for the most part without sounding ignorant...I only wish I had the time to post as much as I want to but my job does not allow for such :(..By the time I play catch-up in the late evening all the fun people are gone...

  • http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    beautiful children

  • Niecy

    All the babies are QTpies. Sorry I might be the only one but I have not heard what happened with Jill and her BD. Please spill or tell me where I can find the story. Quincy is the spitting image of his dad. Can't wait to see Robin and Paula's new edition.

  • Niecy

    Sorry new addition.

  • Krysi J

    "Based on what she wrote, the best I could tell was that he was being nice. This is why black men disrespect our women because when they are being nice to us (and being themselves), we women tend to take it the wrong way. I know some of you ladies find it hard to believe, but every man doesn’t want you!"
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    This statement is SO true, just like every female doesn't respond to men being nice to her for the simple fact that she could careless...sometimes females have too much on there mind to be bothered up with flirting especially when they know a man is married. :rolleyes:

    The babies are so precious....Violet is so CUTE....all of the kids are.

  • Daisy

    Morning

    Jills lil boy is uber cute and she looked FAB on the cover of Essence. I hope her new cd is good I didn't care for the last one.

    Waynes son is a cutie patootie

    Christina and babygirl are cute I don't like the name Violet though

    Q is handsome

    No comment on Sarah being a blogger :coffee:

  • SoulWithSass

    OMG! Jill's baby is soooooooooooooo adorable!! I want to pick him up & play with him! oohhh!! He's gorgeous-look at those big old, bright eyes!!

    And Violet looks just like her daddy...look at them lips. LOL!

    Adorable babies.

  • Anna

    Jill's son is 1, how old is the pic? Jill has a sucker in her hand, is the boy going to go to Preschool with it? :lol: All the pics are nice.

  • http://oneperfectassistant.com ggouch

    Damn that Kid straight up got his daddy's eyebrows!!...he looks like Kim had not part in the conception, other than someone saying...here, can you hold this for 9 months.

    TEAM JILL!! and her constant quest for love. Girl he will come!!

    Congrats to Christina and Dream: for their beautiful baby girl!!

  • bigtyme

    christina was in bring it on 2 and some other movie w/ tommy lee jones...i doubt the readers of us weekly know her for her singing "talent" but for her acting skills. all the children are adorable!

  • kwall

    Co-sign on the story with Jill. Spill it.

    And does THIS mean Sarah has retired ubber early at the tender age of less than 25 as a nail tech? She’s not doing nails in Cincy no more? Bummer.

  • Cinderella

    Good Morning everybody. All the babies are cute and look happy. For those wondering about Jill & her babydaddy's situation, they broke up shortly after the baby was born. Allegedly, he was cheating.

  • QuettaV

    Really cute babies..... Quincy looks like his father Al B Sure..

  • Daisy

    I didn't get that from the Jill in Essence article :shrug:

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    Good morning all...

    All of those chirrens are soooooo adorable. Speaking of the Dream, he is on Rickey Smiley right now :coffee: I didn't hear that story about Jill's husband cheating. Damn, are there any men that DON'T cheat?? Sara's daughter looks like Dora the Explorer in that outfit. :lol:

  • free

    i though SR was gonna say quincy had a baby. why is his pic up there?

  • The Original MsG

    Awwww....love seeing pictures of the babies! Quincy is looks so much like his dad that its scary.

    Congrats to Paula and Robin! I know that little Julian better be ready to sing and act.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Those babies are adorable...all of them.
    Quick question, when is Quincy going to address this unibrow sitcyashun?

    I don't feel bad for Jill Scott, I don't think anything happened to her regarding the baby's father, that she didn't let happen. I don't think she cares, she has a child she was told she would never be able to her, so i'm sure that's enough joy in her life.

  • shunda

    Cute babies! Kwall you know have a baby by Wayne baby be a millionaire. Lmao!

  • Daisy

    Jill wasn't married to the drummer. I never heard her ex hubby cheated she said the marriage fell apart the more succesful she became which is usually how it happens.

    I got that Jill and the drummer were only "in love" when they were on the road in their isolated world but once they were in real world it wasn't the same. I think he was a re bound n Jill loves love #justmy02

  • flsun99

    All the babies are cute. Jill's son's eyes are so beautiful and big. He is a cutie. I love Jill and can't wait to see her in June.

    OMGeeee, that damn Quincy is his DAD all over again. I thought you had put up a throw back picture Sandra.

    Good morning all and Happy Thursday~!

  • speakinmymind

    all the kiddies are adorable and hopefully Weezy III will take after his mother in the looks department as he gets older. :prays:
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    “Based on what she wrote, the best I could tell was that he was being nice. This is why black men disrespect our women because when they are being nice to us (and being themselves), we women tend to take it the wrong way. I know some of you ladies find it hard to believe, but every man doesn’t want you!”

    --so true, SandraRose. these desperate @$$ chicks in Atlanta are notorious for tooting their stankasses up in a man's face just cuz he smiles or says hello to them.

  • biglegs36

    Beautiful chirens!

  • speakinmymind

    oh, and i don't think Quincy is cute.at.all he's too darn arrogant and that alone makes him extremely unattractive in my book. now his daddy could get it back in the day...not so much nowadays cuz he needs to lose a few.

  • FloridaChick813

    Daisy Says:

    Morning

    Jills lil boy is uber cute and she looked FAB on the cover of Essence. I hope her new cd is good I didn’t care for the last one.

    Waynes son is a cutie patootie

    Christina and babygirl are cute I don’t like the name Violet though

    Q is handsome

    No comment on Sarah being a blogger
    _________________

    :cosign: EVERYTHING!!! '

    Morning Daisy :D And everybody else!!!!

  • Tasha

    Cute babies!

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Daisy Says:
    Jill wasn’t married to the drummer. I never heard her ex hubby cheated she said the marriage fell apart the more succesful she became which is usually how it happens.

    I got that Jill and the drummer were only “in love” when they were on the road in their isolated world but once they were in real world it wasn’t the same. I think he was a re bound n Jill loves love #justmy02
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    He went right back to his long term girlfriend (i don't think he was married) after him and Jill stopped smashing. Why should we dog him out?

  • shakura80

    Sandra,do you know 99% of US readers?! All the babies are too cute, 'specially lil Violet! No comment about Q because I could end up on some kind of sex offenders reigster in the UK and the US so I will sum it up as :hump:

    ANYWAYS morning yall, nearly home time for me, have to wait til at least 2pm/3pm to get Sandra's news so by the time it all comes through its home time :)x

  • Daisy

    Hey Flo *waves*

    Krsyi :welcome: back

    I am glad I can separte personality/attitude from looks and appearance

    So now a woman can't smile back and speak to a man (after he spoke n smiled 1st) I thought black women were always accused of being bishes and not speaking/smiling but now if u do that its a bad thing :confused: no every man doesn't want me nor do I want every man that I speak/smile at

  • aqtpie

    Aww all the children are cute. I dont see any Christina in Violet nor Kim in Quincy, they both look their fathers. Congrats to Robin & Paula.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Jill Scott is a disgrace... SMH.

    Christina Millian looks "Momish" already.

    Lil Wayne's 10th or 11th (can't keep count) baby mama is niiiiiiiiice. Seems she got a taste for dark meat too.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    HEY KRYSI J!!!

  • Daisy

    @Karaz who dogged out the drummer

    @man :rolleyes: Jill is far from a disgrace

  • VIBABY

    Lol, I think the nice thing is so true. Some men ARE just being nice. I dont think that every man wants me but my hubby sure does... :lolol: The minute I say a man said so and so he says "didnt you tell him you were married". WTH? I'm suppose to say I'm married when a man says hello? I would look crazy as hell.

    Now as for the babies. AWWWWWWWW, they are just precious. Jills son is as pretty as she is, and Christina and the Dream have a cutiepie too. Love baby pics.
    I dare Al B Sure to say Quincy isnt his child....

  • flsun99

    @ Man, why is Jill a disgrace?? Just asking

  • Zephyr1979

    All those babies are cutie pies but Jill Scott's son takes the cake! He is soooo sweet!

  • VIBABY

    How the hell is Jill Scott a disgrace?

    Waving hard @ Flo! Hey girl!

  • starr

    i'd like to why Jill Scott is a Disgrace too? :coffee:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Jill Scott is the epitimy of everything that is wrong with the black community in every way.

    I guess you can point to her recording "success" (which is debatable) as a positive, not sure you can point to anything else tho.

    Just my two cents.

  • FloridaChick813

    The minute I say a man said so and so he says “didnt you tell him you were married”. WTH?
    _____________________

    :rofl: Over protective self.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    welll at least we know that that's dream's baby...looks just like him.

    good morning :coffee:

  • FloridaChick813

    Hey VIBABY & Man :D

  • Mspeng

    Violet looks identical to her daddy...she is so sweeet. And I like the name Violet. I wouldn't name my kid that but I think it's a pretty name for a pretty baby.

    I love Jill Scott...she is such a beautiful person inside and out. Her son is sweeeet.

    Lil Wayne's son looks like a light skinned version of him. I bet all his kids look like him. He's also sweeeet.

    Quincy is cute but needs to take some wax and create a separation between those brows. Poor Kim...she has 4 kids and not one could come out looking like her?????

  • gypsyeyes

    JIll Scott is a disgrace!!!!
    Boy them there is fighting words!!!

  • mirsmommy

    Awwwww, the babies are beautiful!!!!!! :yes:

    Good morning.

  • shannon04

    Cute cute kids

  • Al-Ameera

    @ Man, (in my best DMX voice) Here we go again! What makes Jill so disgraceful? Please explain

    Cute babies. Violet looks just like Dream

  • Daisy

    So black women are at the root of the issues in the black community should have known its always our fault to hear some ppl tell it :rolleyes: *sighs*

    Power to the people

    I'm black in I'm proud

    I love black people

    Fight the power

    Feel free to add on :lol:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    What's up at Florida Chick?

    **secretive wink**

  • VIBABY

    @Man, Because she had a baby and isnt married? Please explain because I want to understand.

    @Flo His azz is crazy and wants me to look crazy too. Can you imagine a man saying good morning, how are you, and I just flash my ring in his face? :lolol:

  • Tasha

    Jill is a strong woman..no matter what happened she will take care of hers..F**@! her baby daddy!

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Daisy Says:
    @Karaz who dogged out the drummer
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    Sandra is trying to by calling him a snake.

    Man... where are you going with the whole Jill Scott is a disgrace thing... I think you might be saying something I don't disagree with 100%

  • Krysi J

    :welcome: back Krysi

    HEY KRYSI J!!!
    -----------------------------------

    Hey fam, *waving*

    I don't know I know when a married man was being "nice" to me and I proceeded to be "nice" back it fell into the "whats your phone number line" and I fell into the "where is your ring" line. Sorry but, that "just being nice shyt" is just what it is in most cases...an excuse to flirt! I don't even play into that shyt anymore.

  • flsun99

    @Man, and she's a disgrace again because..... I didn't understand your response.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @VI BABY
    "Because she had a baby and isnt married?"
    ______________________________________________________________

    GASP!

  • gypsyeyes

    I'm sorry, I walked in a room and didn't speak. I'm on my best behavior today, well for right now until MAN explains this bullshyt about Jill being a disgrace in length.

  • Mspeng

    I don't understand the Jill Scott hate. How is she a disgrace? I need concrete examples because I LOVE Jilly from Philly.

  • VIBABY

    @Daisy

    Black is beautiful!

  • Soulstar81

    The kids are all cuties.

    Good morning everyone!!

  • FloridaChick813

    @ VIBABY -

    Man: Good Morning, How are you?

    You: Im just fine, and btw, very married!

    :lol:

    Hubby be like > :D

  • Daisy

    @karaz I don't read what sandra writes anymore I just look at the pics :lol:

    Yep figured that's where this was going

    :popcorn:

  • FloridaChick813

    Krysi J Says:

    back Krysi

    HEY KRYSI J!!!
    ———————————–

    Hey fam, *waving*

    I don’t know I know when a married man was being “nice” to me and I proceeded to be “nice” back it fell into the “whats your phone number line” and I fell into the “where is your ring” line. Sorry but, that “just being nice shyt” is just what it is in most cases…an excuse to flirt! I don’t even play into that shyt anymore.
    ________________

    I somewhat :cosign:

    Yesterday I was having a nice conversation with a guy co-worker about the weather. Next thing I know he was asking me on a date. I was trying to figure out why he even thought that was a option :shrug: Hell I was just "being nice" :rolleyes:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Daisy, sometimes its fun to read what she writes, its amazing the opinions that come out the other exit point...

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Why is everybody acting all "brand new" about Jill Scott?

    Did I miss the fact of her being annointed a saint or something?

    Can someone explain to me why Jill Scott ISN'T a disgrace?????

  • Anna

    FloridaChick813 Says:

    Krysi J Says:

    back Krysi

    HEY KRYSI J!!!
    ———————————–

    Hey fam, *waving*

    I don’t know I know when a married man was being “nice” to me and I proceeded to be “nice” back it fell into the “whats your phone number line” and I fell into the “where is your ring” line. Sorry but, that “just being nice shyt” is just what it is in most cases…an excuse to flirt! I don’t even play into that shyt anymore.
    ________________

    I somewhat

    Yesterday I was having a nice conversation with a guy co-worker about the weather. Next thing I know he was asking me on a date. I was trying to figure out why he even thought that was a option Hell I was just “being nice”
    ~~~~~~~
    Men think you are flirting when you are merely smiling and saying hi when they walk in your office. I am just doing my job. :lol:

  • ReadTheBlog

    Paula was pregnant for a long times, seems like. Either that or she started showing very early in her pregnancy.

    I bet she's glad it's over - I know she spent a mint of formal gowns to accomodate that belly of hers.

  • Daisy

    I said smile and speak didn't say anything about a convo so maybe that's why I was confused :shrug: anywhoo I think u can tell when somebody is being nice n when they are flirting within a convo

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    It's too early for this ---> :popcorn: :koolaid2:

  • Krysi J

    Yesterday I was having a nice conversation with a guy co-worker about the weather. Next thing I know he was asking me on a date. I was trying to figure out why he even thought that was a option Hell I was just “being nice”
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    :rofl: ....I'm not saying it happens in every case, but I'm simply thinking the chick felt like Dream was flirting with her and she knew he was married....Dream could have been being nice, but some dudes aren't just being nice....I think the senario can play out both ways, since I have been on the otherside of the senario I can understand why the female Sandra posted about could have gotten the "wrong idea" but I read ya loud and clear boo boo. All Im saying is, sometimes it iz, just what it iz.

  • Cinderella

    @ Man, I kinda agree with you. People dogged out Keyshia Cole for having a baby before marriage w/ someone she dated for a short while. Jill Scott did the same but wasn't criticized.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Man I don't care, disgrace might not be the word you meant to use, so please expound.

    I don't buy the whole "I became successful and he couldn't handle it" bit though, especially since they got married after her commercial successes started. :shrugs:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Jill Scott is racist, ignorant, promotes the ills of our community (remember "Gettin in the Way" anyone?, overweight being "beautiful", being part of a harem, etc.) Basically all she needs is a "drug habit" and she would embody EVERY single stereotype. SMH.

    I see right through that hypocrite and that's saying something!

  • pinksghetti

    Aww those babies are all so cute!! Man, Quincy looks just like his hot daddy Al B. I'm glad he's at least 18 so I don't feel weird think he's hot too, LOL.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Cinderella Says:
    @ Man, I kinda agree with you. People dogged out Keyshia Cole for having a baby before marriage w/ someone she dated for a short while. Jill Scott did the same but wasn’t criticized.

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    Good point, but I think it's because Jill Scott is supposed to be "deep" and therefore her being a baby mama is because the man couldn't deal with a strong black positive woman vs Keyshia being the offspring of Frankie and not being "polished."

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @CINDERELLA
    "I kinda agree with you. People dogged out Keyshia Cole for having a baby before marriage w/ someone she dated for a short while. Jill Scott did the same but wasn’t criticized."
    _________________________________________________________________

    Yup. It's all about "image" with that cow, Jill Scott. She puts a hankerchief on her head and she becomes "down to Earth" while Keysha Cole puts color in her hair and she becomes "ghetto."

    Keysha doesn't promote obesity and being part of harem and racism (under the guise of "black pride").

    I could go on but I don't see the point of it.

  • FloridaChick813

    Krysi J Says:

    Yesterday I was having a nice conversation with a guy co-worker about the weather. Next thing I know he was asking me on a date. I was trying to figure out why he even thought that was a option Hell I was just “being nice”
    ———————————————————

    ….I’m not saying it happens in every case, but I’m simply thinking the chick felt like Dream was flirting with her and she knew he was married….Dream could have been being nice, but some dudes aren’t just being nice….I think the senario can play out both ways, since I have been on the otherside of the senario I can understand why the female Sandra posted about could have gotten the “wrong idea” but I read ya loud and clear boo boo. All Im saying is, sometimes it iz, just what it iz.
    _________________

    and I agree with you boo. I feel like when most men talk or speak they have some kind of motive behind it :yes:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Man, Jill doesn't come across as authentic to me either, but how many people in the entertainment industry come across as actually authentic?
    I don't buy the stories she sells regarding her personal life, but that doesn't matter either.

  • VAALLDAY

    Lovely looking kids

  • Daisy

    I don't recall KCole (whom I also love) getting dogged out for getting prg rather getting a tatt of his name on her :shrug:

    Jill is a classy,beautiful,talented,spiritual artist :cheer: far from a disgrace IMO

    #carryon

  • FloridaChick813

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    Jill Scott is racist, ignorant, promotes the ills of our community (remember “Gettin in the Way” anyone?, overweight being “beautiful”, being part of a harem, etc.) Basically all she needs is a “drug habit” and she would embody EVERY single stereotype. SMH.

    I see right through that hypocrite and that’s saying something!
    _____________________

    I have to agree with the racist part. I liked her til she exposed her thoughts on the "winch" and now I wanna slap her as.s

    Pure ignorance. Down here in the south, you damn near see more interracial couples then couples of the same race.

  • gypsyeyes

    Sounds like someone has some issues with black full figured and single mothers. There were probably somethings that you needed to know about me before we had e-sex the other day.

  • VIBABY

    @Karaz That is not a good point unless the same people had two different reactions to both women. Saying some people dogged Keyshia must mean that some people didnt.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    I missed the part about Jill Scott being racist...can anyone fill me in on this?

    and didn't she marry and get pregnant and her husband left her? Or am I wrong?

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KARA Z
    "Man, Jill doesn’t come across as authentic to me either, but how many people in the entertainment industry come across as actually authentic?
    I don’t buy the stories she sells regarding her personal life, but that doesn’t matter either."
    ___________________________________________________________________

    I agree, there are a lot "fake" people in the entertainment industry as a whole (although we aren't discussing the entire industry). I call it like I see it and if we were talking about another artist that I felt the same way about, I would say it then as well.

    Again, she is a disgrace and I cringe when I see her on television because everyting out of her mouth seems like a gimmick.

    **that being said I think she is great actress, but that doesn't change my personal opinion of her**

  • Krysi J

    I said smile and speak didn’t say anything about a convo so maybe that’s why I was confused anywhoo I think u can tell when somebody is being nice n when they are flirting within a convo

    ---------------------------------------------------------

    Exactly, but you know females always get called bytches when they don't stick around for the punch line. :shrugs: I live in a small city, so I'm pretty informed about the people around me when it comes to whose married and whose not so yea, I don't waste time. However, I know that in some cases you are in places where you wouldn't know if a man was married or not and you are simply saying you can't brush off every man you meet just because he says hello, but Im just sharing my OWN experience from the other side of the fence, so don't take it the wrong way. Men always tend to take a woman not wasting her time as being MEAN or as her being a bytch, Its nothing wrong with speaking and saying hello...but buying drinks, talking bout how ya look, and wanting to know if you're involved and shyt like that is not being nice, its flirting.

  • Daisy

    Jill is NOT a racist did yall read the essence article? She said love whomever you want she gave her 02 on the matter and black folks can't be racist the word is prejudice

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @FLORIDA CHICK
    "I have to agree with the racist part. I liked her til she exposed her thoughts on the “winch” and now I wanna slap her as.s

    Pure ignorance. Down here in the south, you damn near see more interracial couples then couples of the same race."
    _________________________________________________________________

    Yup. But she parades her humungous azz on t.v. acting like it is some sort of "black relationship pride" that is promoting.

    Of course, all of this comes out on the eve of the release of a movie about "black relationships" staring her.

    But, of course "some" people fail to recognize it as such because she wears a hankerchief on her head so she must be filled with "black pride." SMH.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MS. TRUTH
    "didn’t she marry and get pregnant and her husband left her? Or am I wrong?"
    __________________________________________________________________

    That is wrong.

  • SangriaSugar

    All of the children are cuties!!!

  • Daisy

    @mstruth Jill isn't a racist she did an article about interacial dating and gave her 02 that's all.

  • FloridaChick813

    gypsyeyes Says:

    Sounds like someone has some issues with black full figured and single mothers. There were probably somethings that you needed to know about me before we had e-sex the other day.
    _____________

    :lolol: Ya'll are too much

    HEY GYPSY

  • Krysi J

    Sounds like someone has some issues with black full figured and single mothers. There were probably somethings that you needed to know about me before we had e-sex the other day.

    ---------------------------------------------------------

    :eek: what the hell...

    :rofl: I missed a lot I see!!!

  • pyt305

    All the kids are cute!! And Quincy is cute too

  • Anna

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    Paula was pregnant for a long times, seems like. Either that or she started showing very early in her pregnancy.
    ~~~~~~
    She had a miscarriage and got pregnant a few months later.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @GYPSY EYES
    "Sounds like someone has some issues with black full figured and single mothers. There were probably somethings that you needed to know about me before we had e-sex the other day."
    __________________________________________________________________

    Nope, nothing against single mothers or full figured women.

    Jill WILLFULLY became part of a HAREM. There's a difference.

    AND she PROMOTES "obesity" as being "beautiful." Which it is not.

  • pinksghetti

    @ Man, I don't know about all that regarding Jill Scott. I do find it weird though that she was with her ex-husband for years and never had a child but dated this drummer for what seemed like a short time and then had a baby together and broke up so soon afterwards. Maybe the husband was sterile or she was only with the drummer to have a child (that's the way it seemed to me). I'm not into her music but she seems cool in my book.

  • flsun99

    Daisy says
    Jill is a classy,beautiful,talented,spiritual artist far from a disgrace IMO

    #carryon
    :cosign: In one of her concerts she said everyone thought she was all positive and deep because she had a natural. She stated sometimes she was positive and deep and sometimes she wasn't; but she was human just like everyone else, making mistakes and moving on. Disgrace is a bit harsh IMO, but we are entitled to our opinions. To me, she keeps it real. Her article in Essence about interracial dating was REAL (IMO), whether it came off racist to others or not...a lot of sisters feel that way sometimes. She isn't ashame of who she is or what she has experienced AND I could care less if she had a baby out of wedlock. I love her music and she's very talented.

  • VIBABY

    Jill Scott is not racist, where the fluck did that come from? She had an emotional reaction, she didt spit on the dude or his wife. Sorry, but when I walk into my sons classroom and every "black" child in there is really off white I have a reaction too. When I am the only black mother in the classroom, but my hubby is surrounded by black men I HAVE A DAMN REACTION.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    so they were engaged when she got pregnant, is that what happened?

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Jill Scott just recently became full-figured

  • FloridaChick813

    Opinions are like as.sholes, everyone has one.

    But when your in the "lime light" its best not to expose all your thoughts or opinions. Cause me being a cuban, italian, indian & white lady, who is currently dating a black man, thats offensive to me. I be dammed if I buy another Jill Scott album, and it sucks cause I LOVE her. She's beautiful!

  • free

    Man, I just don't care™ Says: Again, she is a disgrace and I cringe when I see her on television because everyting out of her mouth seems like a gimmick.

    **************************************

    she IS dramatic. i think that's the persona she's created over the years so she plays it up.

  • gypsyeyes

    Yeah Krysi you missed somethings the other day.
    @Man- I notice that the weight issue keeps coming into play, I guess my natural hair(sometimes handkerchief on head) humungous single parenting azz is not worthy of conversation now, huh?
    Everyone has a preference yes, but you just blanketed the whole thing so a couple of my toes just got stepped on.
    But it's all good cause everyone can't handle all of this. :rofl:

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    Jill Scott just recently became full-figured
    ~~~~~~~~~
    ??????????

  • FloridaChick813

    Im just wandering whats the difference in seeing a white woman & black man, then a black woman & white man???

    Anyone???

    Anyone???

  • free

    flsun99 Says: In one of her concerts she said everyone thought she was all positive and deep because she had a natural. She stated sometimes she was positive and deep and sometimes she wasn’t; but she was human just like everyone else, making mistakes and moving on.

    *********************************************

    no she created and fostered that image but she succumbed to the dyck and the feelings it creates just like everybody else. her music is freaky anyway so i'm not surprised.

    man, i don't see jill as obese; she's just a big gul. gabby is obese.

  • gypsyeyes

    @Karaz-Jill Scott has always been full figured.

    Some women feel that they are beautiful at any size. I'll be damned if I don't think/know that I'm beautiful. I shouldn't feel beautiful because I'm plus size? I tell you one thing, A lie don't care who tells it.

    I'm beautiful everyday!!!

  • FloridaChick813

    VIBABY Says:

    Jill Scott is not racist, where the fluck did that come from? She had an emotional reaction, she didt spit on the dude or his wife. Sorry, but when I walk into my sons classroom and every “black” child in there is really off white I have a reaction too. When I am the only black mother in the classroom, but my hubby is surrounded by black men I HAVE A DAMN REACTION.
    ________________

    And I can understand this. But when your in the publix eye and make your thoughts verbal, not everyone is going to agree.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    Anna Says:
    KaraZ Says:

    Jill Scott just recently became full-figured
    ~~~~~~~~~
    ??????????
    --------------------------------------------------------------
    She was obese before, not thick, not healthy, not big-boned & not full-figured.

  • Anna

    KaraZ Says:

    Anna Says:
    KaraZ Says:

    Jill Scott just recently became full-figured
    ~~~~~~~~~
    ??????????
    ————————————————————–
    She was obese before, not thick, not healthy, not big-boned & not full-figured.
    ~~~~~
    got cha.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    I personally think Jill Scott was more on the full figured side before and is now closer to the overweight (I won't say obese) side now. :shrug:

  • FloridaChick813

    gypsyeyes Says:

    @Karaz-Jill Scott has always been full figured.

    Some women feel that they are beautiful at any size. I’ll be damned if I don’t think/know that I’m beautiful. I shouldn’t feel beautiful because I’m plus size? I tell you one thing, A lie don’t care who tells it.

    I’m beautiful everyday!!!
    __________________

    I know thats right! Long as your healthy & happy, there is no reason NOT to feel beautiful. and you my friend, are beautiful! ;)

  • allwrightyden

    Quincy is so cute! He looks just like his daddy!

  • Krysi J

    humungous single parenting azz is not worthy of conversation now, huh?
    -------------------------------------------------------

    oh well, Man....in that case I'm not worthy of conversation either boo boo....I have 2 KIDS...COUNT EM' 2!!! and I have yet to lose the wait from having my baby girl.

    #stereotype#1.5Milli :grin:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @gypsyeyes,

    You should feel like you're beautiful, because you are beautiful, your avatar proves that ( love your cheekbones). Jill Scott is also a beautiful woman, her size (past or present) cannot take away from the fact that she has gorgeous features & the facial symmetry that humans beings find universally attractive.

  • Daisy

    Everybody doesnt have to agree w/what Jill said but SHE ISNT RACIST either because of what she said :rolleyes:

    Jill didnt create any image she showed us a hood side in her video and always repped for Philly she is who she is the good bad and ugly we all have many different sides. Jill is no different

    Jill discussed her prg and how she prayed for her cycle to go away YEARS ago (cause it was so painful) and it did(for the most part) and then she PRAYED for YEARS to get prg and she never did so she thought she couldnt have kids and then BAM she was prg.

    #Team Jill

    Jill looked FAB on Tylers movie special dropped most of her aby weight.

  • VIBABY

    @Flor

    I dont expect anybody to agree and she didnt either. She had a reaction and tried to explain why. It wasnt a topic to agree or disagree with. She wasnt asking for a cosign. Calling her racist is NOT disagreeing with her. She clearly stated she is all for love no matter where you find it, but the pinch she felt is real to many women. That does not make them racist.

  • gypsyeyes

    Thanks Flo-At this point I'm just messing with MAN cause everyone has their opinions and if that's what he thinks...I can't fault anyone for having opinions and preferences. MAN, you are still my e-homie!!
    But Flo- I didn't realize that you weren't black. You are just a plethera of nationalaties (loves it)

  • Krysi J

    Some women feel that they are beautiful at any size. I’ll be damned if I don’t think/know that I’m beautiful. I shouldn’t feel beautiful because I’m plus size? I tell you one thing, A lie don’t care who tells it.

    I’m beautiful everyday!!!

    --------------------------------------------------------

    :cosign:

    why the hell would I ever feel otherwise is the question???

    please.... :coffee: get with it or get lost

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @man I don't care... well brother I can't ride with you on ALL of what you said, but I do think her situation (& many situations with multiple baby mamas involved a la Diddy, Lil Wayne) is pseudo polygamy.

  • gypsyeyes

    Thanks Karaz!!!!

  • Danielle84

    I so love Jill Scott! That is a beautiful pic of her and her son. All the children are cute! Christina's baby does look like Dream :-)

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @FREE
    "**************************************

    she IS dramatic. i think that’s the persona she’s created over the years so she plays it up."
    __________________________________________________________________

    Yup...

  • FloridaChick813

    VIBABY Says:

    @Flor

    I dont expect anybody to agree and she didnt either. She had a reaction and tried to explain why. It wasnt a topic to agree or disagree with. She wasnt asking for a cosign. Calling her racist is NOT disagreeing with her. She clearly stated she is all for love no matter where you find it, but the pinch she felt is real to many women. That does not make them racist.
    _____________

    Good Point :yes:
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    @ Gypsy - Yes Im all mixed up, but truth me told, my skin is pale, so to most, im white. IDK if ya'll remember her, But texiricanmami(or some ish like that) and I discussed this before. :lol:

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    I don't think Jill Scott is racist., She said what most people of many races feel when they see a member of their community (be it black, white, Arab, Ethiopian, nouveau-riche etc.) step out of those boundaries and willfully chose an "outsider" over someone just like them.

  • winenroses

    Getting married before you start procreating just seems to

    be a thing of the past nowadays.

  • starr

    I saw where this post was going

  • Anna

    winenroses Says:

    Getting married before you start procreating just seems to

    be a thing of the past nowadays.
    ~~~~~~~~~
    The way way distant past.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    Them babies are soooooo cute. All of em.

  • Danielle84

    Oh goodness I agree with whoever said it's way too early for this!
    I :heart: Jill Scott! Tired of people looking down on somebody because they had a child out of wedlock. Has anyone ever thought some people just don't want to get married?

    I like Keyshia's music but she was ghetto before the baby! It wasn't just the hair color either!

  • starr

    Why is she racist? Cuz she articulately stated her opinion. No where in that article did i read her saying she doesn't like interracial couples...she explained why some black women react the way they did. Its becoming so easy to call people racist that its gonna lose its true meaning. And should celebs not voice there opinions now? They should just be quiet. We don't have to agree with them, but they have a right to say wtf is there mind.

    And Team Jill Scott. And Jill is one of the most beautiful in black entertainment imo.

  • free

    flo, i think you have a valid question but it's real deep. i was trying to type it out but found myself really hiding my true thoughts and also having too much to say.

    so i will go with my BASE FEELING: my gut reaction is like i don't like white women with black men cause i don't want them getting what we got. i know this sounds crazy but the black male is a damn specimen. i worship his colors, his physique, his persona, and his struggles. i honestly believe there is no combination like him on this planet. and that shit was years in the making. like a bullet that is customized to a certain weapon, a white man is not going to ever have the same attributes because he doesn't come from the same stock.

    there was a time when he would be dehumanized all kinds of ways for so much as looking at a white woman or being to close to her. i wasn't there but i can't get over what i've learned and heard from my own people about it. the white woman was off limits. he was an animal, wild, etc.therefore now she is a prize to the black man because he can have her and flaunt her w/o consequence. and he is a prize to her for the same reason. but for me, if she was too good for him then, she should not have him now.

    i do believe that people fall in love with all races though and white girls with black men, if they are really down, are ok i guess. i've had some joneses for white guys too and maybe i could be with one, who knows. but i just feel how i feel and it could be racist but i don't feel that way just out of meanness but jealousy.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    For the record, I have NOTHING against single PARENTS (got some single Dads too and chit happens sometimes) or FULL figured sistas.

    BUT, don't be a hypocrite and promote chit detriminal the culture you are profitting from and CLAIM to love.

  • flsun99

    We all are beautiful in our own right. My closet has clothes ranging from sizes 6-14 and damit I am one donut & a biscuit away from a 14. But I'm beautiful nevertheless!

  • Danielle84

    starr Says:
    And Team Jill Scott. And Jill is one of the most beautiful in black entertainment imo
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Im with you! I love her music. I also think she is beautiful (full figured & all) and one of the most talented artists out right now. I seen her live in Philly once and I loved it!

  • Daisy

    How is Jill a hypcrite I dont ever recall her going in on single mothers?? Jill is pretty quiet anyway as far as press goes until she has a new project coming out.

  • Daisy

    @Danielle Jill puts on a FAB show I have seen her 3-4x. I didnt like her last cd but I am hoping this new one is much better. Jill is prettier than alot of artist out right now she has a natural beauty which is rare in the biz IMO.

  • Cinnamon Kisses

    I also think jill is beautiful. Her skin is so smooth....she is a Beautiful BLACK woman.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Jill Scott made statements that if ANYONE else would have made would have been described as "racist." Pure and simple.

    Black men, EVERY BODY for that matter, should be able to do what they feel is best for them.

    That doesn't make them:

    self-haters
    brain washed
    stupid
    unappreciative
    etc.

    How many people "hurt" by interracial dating were even attempting to date the person whom "hurt" them? Chances are very few...

  • FloridaChick813

    @ Free, I appreciate your honesty!

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    I think Man has referenced a few comments within the past couple of days regarding full figured woman that are borderline offensive but hey, it's a blog. Everyone can speak their minds. :shrugs: I've read worse.

  • FloridaChick813

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    Jill Scott made statements that if ANYONE else would have made would have been described as “racist.” Pure and simple.
    _____________

    I agree. If a white woman would have said "OMG, I HATE TO SEE A WHITE MAN WITH A BLACK WOMAN" - All he.ll wouldv'e broke lose.

    Dont shoot, im just sayin!

  • gypsyeyes

    Ms.kaylamomma Says:

    I think Man has referenced a few comments within the past couple of days regarding full figured woman that are borderline offensive but hey, it’s a blog. Everyone can speak their minds. I’ve read worse.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Yes I've observed the same that is why I say everyone has their preferences. But I'm not gonna clown the person/body type that I'm not attracted to.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @GYPSY EYES
    "I think Man has referenced a few comments within the past couple of days regarding full figured woman that are borderline offensive but hey, it’s a blog. Everyone can speak their minds. I’ve read worse.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Yes I’ve observed the same that is why I say everyone has their preferences. But I’m not gonna clown the person/body type that I’m not attracted to."
    ___________________________________________________________________

    If you took anything that I said personally I apologize. That was not my intent and perhaps my words were wreckless. I don't have anything against anyone, but I DO call it like I see it.

    I particularly take offense to these "celebrities" that promote and celebrate things detriminal to the community that they profit from.

    I find it funny that a rapper DENOUNCES selling drugs and it is still construed as "glamorizing" the activity. Yet, an "overweight" celebrity is "respected" for claiming their unhealthiness is "beautiful."

    Our community needs to wisen up.

  • http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

    @Man what rapper has denounced selling drugs and is still being criticized for glamourizing the activity? I can't name but 5 rappers, so I've never heard of this.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KARA Z
    "what rapper has denounced selling drugs and is still being criticized for glamourizing the activity? I can’t name but 5 rappers, so I’ve never heard of this."
    ________________________________________________________________

    The FIRST one that comes to mind is Jay Z. (I despise Jay Z) Nas...T.I.

    Etc.

  • free

    FloridaChick813 Says: @ Free, I appreciate your honesty!

    ***********************************************

    no problem. i just think there is basis. since it's so far back in history, people say this is a new age, forget about it, etc. but although the confederate flag flying doesn't bother me at all, something about this does.

    on the other hand, if a white woman says she hates to see a white woman with a black man, i would ask why? what is the basis of that?

  • sbabyface29

    I think if Jill had a choice, things would be different. But what can you really choose as a woman in love. Most of the time, for single mothers, the baby comes when we are in our lowest times of life & very vulnerable. A lot of us were raised by single mothers or had single grand mothers or aunts, hell a lot of us who claim that it is such a disgrace have killed our precious gifts from God & think just because everyone else doesn't know everything is okay. People, she is promoting what we need. She isn't God & can't make eveything she wants to happen. What is she doing? Raising her child. She ain't in the projects, she ain't on welfare. Let a sister breath. Damn!
    As for Quincey, yea he dates the round the way girls, but will probably marry or wife up the model or actress. Let's be real.

  • mstayindc

    Ok so I read Jill's article about interracial dating and nothing about it seems racist. I think (as ppl above have stated) she was expressing what alot of black women think. It goes back to the idea of "this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore" and thats where the "sting" comes in. I do not think Jill is a disgrace, that seems a bit harsh. I think she is a human with different layers, as we all do. She has that whole conscious, black is beautiful side and the i'll smack that trick for messing with my man side.

  • KrayZKat

    I don't think many white women would say they hate seeing white men with any woman because they know they have white man on lock. White women don't have to worry about their men "jumping ship" because even though many white men date "out" white women will always be at the top of their list. Even if they've had bad experiences, many, if not most white men would never put them into a generalized category like SOME brothers do black women.White women are supposedly the prize for men of all races.

    The reason I believe a lot of BM get attacked is because so many of them make excuses as to why date someone who clearly doesn't look like him. I mean, many black men have issues with themselves. Yes, I do mean self-hatred. They'd never admit it, but it's obvious. They are the only ones that date outside their race more. Why is that? And then they have to nerve to put black women down and speak negatively about us. They expect us to cosign their colorstruck ways. This sister won't do it. If a person is in love, so be it, but some of these men are just racist against their own.

    Black women that date out don't seem to have the same hang ups. Most black women would never date out anyway. We are forever loyal to our brothers. JMO.

    Sorry for the long dissertation.

  • Redeemed777

    This needs to be repeated again:

    KrayZKat Says:
    I don’t think many white women would say they hate seeing white men with any woman because they know they have white man on lock. White women don’t have to worry about their men “jumping ship” because even though many white men date “out” white women will always be at the top of their list. Even if they’ve had bad experiences, many, if not most white men would never put them into a generalized category like SOME brothers do black women.White women are supposedly the prize for men of all races.

    The reason I believe a lot of BM get attacked is because so many of them make excuses as to why date someone who clearly doesn’t look like him. I mean, many black men have issues with themselves. Yes, I do mean self-hatred. They’d never admit it, but it’s obvious. They are the only ones that date outside their race more. Why is that? And then they have to nerve to put black women down and speak negatively about us. They expect us to cosign their colorstruck ways. This sister won’t do it. If a person is in love, so be it, but some of these men are just racist against their own.

    Black women that date out don’t seem to have the same hang ups. Most black women would never date out anyway. We are forever loyal to our brothers. JMO.

    Sorry for the long dissertation.

  • Redeemed777

    And again:

    KrayZKat Says:
    I don’t think many white women would say they hate seeing white men with any woman because they know they have white man on lock. White women don’t have to worry about their men “jumping ship” because even though many white men date “out” white women will always be at the top of their list. Even if they’ve had bad experiences, many, if not most white men would never put them into a generalized category like SOME brothers do black women.White women are supposedly the prize for men of all races.

    The reason I believe a lot of BM get attacked is because so many of them make excuses as to why date someone who clearly doesn’t look like him. I mean, many black men have issues with themselves. Yes, I do mean self-hatred. They’d never admit it, but it’s obvious. They are the only ones that date outside their race more. Why is that? And then they have to nerve to put black women down and speak negatively about us. They expect us to cosign their colorstruck ways. This sister won’t do it. If a person is in love, so be it, but some of these men are just racist against their own.

    Black women that date out don’t seem to have the same hang ups. Most black women would never date out anyway. We are forever loyal to our brothers. JMO.

    Sorry for the long dissertation.

  • Redeemed777

    If only Black Men knew how deep this shit is.

    My people perish for lack of knowledge.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAY Z KAT
    "I don’t think many white women would say they hate seeing white men with any woman because they know they have white man on lock. White women don’t have to worry about their men “jumping ship” because even though many white men date “out” white women will always be at the top of their list. Even if they’ve had bad experiences, many, if not most white men would never put them into a generalized category like SOME brothers do black women.White women are supposedly the prize for men of all races.

    The reason I believe a lot of BM get attacked is because so many of them make excuses as to why date someone who clearly doesn’t look like him. I mean, many black men have issues with themselves. Yes, I do mean self-hatred. They’d never admit it, but it’s obvious. They are the only ones that date outside their race more. Why is that? And then they have to nerve to put black women down and speak negatively about us. They expect us to cosign their colorstruck ways. This sister won’t do it. If a person is in love, so be it, but some of these men are just racist against their own.

    Black women that date out don’t seem to have the same hang ups. Most black women would never date out anyway. We are forever loyal to our brothers. JMO.

    Sorry for the long dissertation."
    _________________________________________________________________

    Most black men are just as aware of the history of the Black Men/White Women relationship as black women are.

    Take a look at the numbers, 80% of black men marry black women. EIGHTY PERCENT!!!!

    Now, of that remaining 20% of black men... how many of them are married to another minority (hispanic/asian/indian/etc)? I will be conservative (lie) and say 1%. That leaves 19%...

    Now, of that 19%, how many of them are "desired" by black women? Again, I will be conservative (lie) and say 18%.

    So basically, 18% of the black male population chose to marry a white woman for whatever reason and now "many black men have issues with themselves."

    "Many" equals less than 20%????????? GTFOH.

    Let me ask you this, do black women that marry white men have "self hatred?"

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @M STAY IN DC
    "Ok so I read Jill’s article about interracial dating and nothing about it seems racist. I think (as ppl above have stated) she was expressing what alot of black women think. It goes back to the idea of “this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore” and thats where the “sting” comes in. I do not think Jill is a disgrace, that seems a bit harsh. I think she is a human with different layers, as we all do. She has that whole conscious, black is beautiful side and the i’ll smack that trick for messing with my man side."
    __________________________________________________________________

    Just because "a lot of black women think it" doesn't mean it's not racist.

    Whoever has the idea "this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore" appears to have a self esteem issue.

    Why would his "lil bit of money/success" even be relevant?

  • Anna

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @M STAY IN DC
    “Ok so I read Jill’s article about interracial dating and nothing about it seems racist. I think (as ppl above have stated) she was expressing what alot of black women think. It goes back to the idea of “this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore” and thats where the “sting” comes in. I do not think Jill is a disgrace, that seems a bit harsh. I think she is a human with different layers, as we all do. She has that whole conscious, black is beautiful side and the i’ll smack that trick for messing with my man side.”
    __________________________________________________________________

    Just because “a lot of black women think it” doesn’t mean it’s not racist.

    Whoever has the idea “this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore” appears to have a self esteem issue.

    Why would his “lil bit of money/success” even be relevant?
    ~~~~~~~~~
    I don't know about the relevency but this is just history repeating itself over and over again. Black women have long talked about how a black man gets money/success and leaves the black wife for a white wife. Nothing racist about Jills opinion, it is what it is.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @ANNA
    "I don’t know about the relevency but this is just history repeating itself over and over again. Black women have long talked about how a black man gets money/success and leaves the black wife for a white wife. Nothing racist about Jills opinion, it is what it is."
    ___________________________________________________________________

    "Black women have long talked about how a black man gets money/success and leaves the black wife for a white wife."
    And they have long been wrong...At least according to statistics. Still don't see why a man's "lil bit of success/money" has anything to do with it.

    Restricting someone's options/actions based on race seems like racism to me. But I guess it is up to interpretation.

  • free

    Man, I just don't care™ Says: Just because “a lot of black women think it” doesn’t mean it’s not racist.

    Whoever has the idea “this black man has a lil bit of money/success so a black woman isnt good enough anymore” appears to have a self esteem issue.

    Why would his “lil bit of money/success” even be relevant?

    ***********************************************

    i don't see white women with the poor ones! they ain't down with the struggle. now, i do see some white women with crackhead black men but the women are crackheads too.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @FREE
    "i don’t see white women with the poor ones! they ain’t down with the struggle. now, i do see some white women with crackhead black men but the women are crackheads too."
    ____________________________________________________________________

    NOBODY is "down with the struggle." When did "struggling" men become the pinnacle for black women... or any woman?

    Like I said, 80% of black men are married to black women. Even if we give 1% to other races and 1% as "undesirable" (for whatever reason) that leaves 18% to white women.

    How many of those black men are just gettin in where they fit in? ALL of them have "self hate?" Please.

  • free

    Man, I just don't care™ Says: NOBODY is “down with the struggle.” When did “struggling” men become the pinnacle for black women… or any woman?

    I BELIEVE YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT. I'M NOT SPEAKING IN TONGUES WHEN I TALK ABOUT THE DIFFICULTIES BLACK MEN FACE AND BLACK WOMEN GO RIGHT THROUGH IT WITH THEM. IN FACT, MANY WOMEN LOVE THEM BROTHERS MORE THAN THE SUCCESSFUL, LESS CHALLENGED ONES BECAUSE OF OUR INSTINCT TO NURTURE.

    Like I said, 80% of black men are married to black women. Even if we give 1% to other races and 1% as “undesirable” (for whatever reason) that leaves 18% to white women.

    I DON'T REALLY THINK IT'S ABOUT PERCENTAGES. IF I HAVE A THOUSAND AND I LOSE ONE, DOES THAT MAKE ME CHANGE MY FEELINGS ABOUT THE ONE?

    How many of those black men are just gettin in where they fit in? ALL of them have “self hate?” Please.

    I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT SELF-HATE. I THINK IT'S MORE LIKE TROPHY-ISM. SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IT'S HATE BUT I DON'T.

  • FloridaChick813

    Well my man isnt rich, nor does he come from a family of money. I am actually the bread winner in our house, even though we do split everything.

    Sidenote: He is not a crackhead, and neither am I :nono:

  • FloridaChick813

    Also, not to be on a soap box or nothing. But how about my struggle. He.ll I gotta deal with the negative comments about white women and black men ((such as listed above)) from black people and white people. So wtf?

    I just dont get it.

    Everybody has struggles. Everybody goes through something. Every relationship deals with struggles.

    You dont think white people dont struggle?? LIES

    You dont think hispanic people dont struggle?? LIES

    Everybody goes through something.
    Maybe Im with my man because I love him very much..
    Maybe Im with him because he makes me feel like nobody else has..
    Maybe he's with me because he loves me..
    Maybe he's with me because Im always there.

    I've seen my boo with $17,000 in the bank. Those funds are no longer available.. But I am! Im still here!

    Im just saying, before you comment on a situation, think about it. You never know whats going on unless your IN that situation.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @FREE
    1. "I BELIEVE YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT. I’M NOT SPEAKING IN TONGUES WHEN I TALK ABOUT THE DIFFICULTIES BLACK MEN FACE AND BLACK WOMEN GO RIGHT THROUGH IT WITH THEM. IN FACT, MANY WOMEN LOVE THEM BROTHERS MORE THAN THE SUCCESSFUL, LESS CHALLENGED ONES BECAUSE OF OUR INSTINCT TO NURTURE."

    1. Yes, and a people can go through a struggle with someone of a different race. Even if the struggle isn't "identical." Also, a common history/advesary may create a bond, but doesn't mean you can't have a bond with someone else for something of your choosing. Maybe a religious, spiritual, goals, ambitions, etc. Yes, I do understand what you are saying by the way, just that a black man being with a white woman is not an "insult" or "lack of knowledge" about the struggle.

    2. I DON’T REALLY THINK IT’S ABOUT PERCENTAGES. IF I HAVE A THOUSAND AND I LOSE ONE, DOES THAT MAKE ME CHANGE MY FEELINGS ABOUT THE ONE?

    2. The question is, can that ONE make you change your feelings about the other 999? I merely bring up the percentages to illustrate exactly how small a group a number we are talking and for that to be kept in perspective. Sometimes, I don't believe it is.

    3. I DIDN’T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT SELF-HATE. I THINK IT’S MORE LIKE TROPHY-ISM. SOME PEOPLE BELIEVE IT’S HATE BUT I DON’T.

    3. No, you didn't say anything about "self-hate" (that was someone else) so I'm sorry I addressed that to you. I can understand the "Trophy" response in general. Not necessarily specific to white women, but just in general for an attractive woman of any race.

  • KrayZKat

    Of course all people struggle - I, for one, am not talking about the struggles every human being has daily, but black people have been struggling for over 400 years yet we still stand. Why must I mention the past? Because the past has deep roots and historical impact. We still have mad hatred directed at us (even toward our president who is mixed). We still get maligned, stereotyped, put down, etc. At every turn, someone is coming at us. There's no way anyone can give me a sob story about white people and "their stuggles." Hell, they have that good ole white priviledge on their side, so please...

    I live in a town full of mixed couples and black men walk around like their shit don't stink. Tell me women of other races have to deal with such hatred coming from their own.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAY Z KAT
    "There’s no way anyone can give me a sob story about white people and “their stuggles.”

    I had to laugh at that...

    "I live in a town full of mixed couples and black men walk around like their **** don’t stink. Tell me women of other races have to deal with such hatred coming from their own."

    What town is this? How does their walk translate into hatred towards black women?????????? I can never understand that? I fall in love with Becky so I must HATE Kesha??? GTFOH! Just sounds like low self esteem to me.

  • mstayindc

    I think that some not all black men view white women as a trophy, a status symbol or upgrade and this is where the issue is for me, its insulting. I personally know a man that told his son that when he moves up to DC(he got a promotion at work) he has to get a cadillac and a white woman. THIS type of thinking is where the whole black man/white woman becomes an issue for some people.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @MS DC
    "I think that some not all black men view white women as a trophy, a status symbol or upgrade and this is where the issue is for me, its insulting. I personally know a man that told his son that when he moves up to DC(he got a promotion at work) he has to get a cadillac and a white woman. THIS type of thinking is where the whole black man/white woman becomes an issue for some people."
    _______________________________________________________________________

    Ok. Not even knowing that person, it seemed more faceticious than snincere. I think his remark was more a statement about the history of how black men are PERCEIVED than anything else. Driving Cadillacs and lusting after white women.

    Apparently black men view BLACK WOMEN as trophies and prizes as evidenced by any marriage statistic that you review.

    For black women to compare themselves to white women speaks of a perceived threat where none exists. Again, a symptom of low self esteem.

  • Ms.Everything

    Aww those are some beautiful babies... brought tears to my eyes. Ah well, Sandra I love how positive you were too!! And I can't wait to see Paula and Robin"s little boy

  • tintin1979

    dream and christina's baby is so cute, too bad their relationship is all a sham. Wayne's son don't look like him, and Jill's boy it too cute, look how chunky he is.