Oscar winning actress and comedienne Mo'Nique is not very happy with talk show maven Oprah Winfrey right now. As you know, Mo'Nique's brother Gerald Imes appeared on Oprah's show on Monday where he recalled molesting his younger sister when he was a teenager.

Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For most black families it's a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly. Rarely does the police or social services get involved since the acts of incest often go unreported until the young victims confide in outsiders.

When I worked as a nurse at a juvenile facility, roughly 50% of the detainees there were incarcerated for molesting their younger sisters and brothers.

But according to Radaronline.com, Mo'Nique denies the molestation ever ocurred -- at least not the way her brother recalls it.

Winfrey - who also suffered sexual abuse - wanted to make sure that the Precious star fully understood what her estranged brother would say after he originally approached her to appear on the show. On the show - which aired on Monday - Imes confirmed that the molestation continued for a year or two, starting when he was 13 and Mo'Nique was 7 or 8.
But Mo'Nique believes her brother lied on the show and didn't convey the full extent of what he did to her. As a result, her relationship with her brother and her parents, who also appeared on the show, is worse than ever.


Source: RO

Photos: JustJared.com

  • KrayZKat

    According to Oprah, when the show started, she stated that Mo knew about and gave her blessings. I don't see where it said she wasn't happy with Oprah though. Maybe I missed it???

  • shawnette00

    "But according to Radaronline.com, Mo’Nique denies the molestation ever ocurred — at least not the way her brother recalls it"

    Ok I dont understand where this statement is coming from, when half the world read the article in Ebony or Essence (cant remember which one)where Monique came forward with this allegation........ I hope they can heal and get past this but ultimately it will be Moniques choice because she is the victim

  • missy

    I can understand why Monique may be upset..But They have to work it out...

    They don't have to be BFF's but w/e works for them to have a healthier relationship...Let go and Let God deal with him...

  • FloridaChick813

    Whats Oprah got to do with it?????

    :shrug:

  • Daisy

    I will wait on Monique to comment on her show or in an interview because according to Oprah she had Moniques blessing to have her brother on so this gets a *side eye* for now

    #carryon

  • brownelovely

    I would definitely hope that Oprah cleared this with Monique first or considered her feelings. However, once this was put out there in the magazine he does have a right to speak on his actions, no matter how disgusting.

  • KrayZKat

    correction: "about the interview"

  • tampa813

    She shouldn't be upset if she okayed the interview. Besides she always talked about how she was abused as a child.

  • cheeks8683

    See I thought Monique would be upset. All while the interview went on I was like...hmmmmm, I don't think monique is gonna be cool with this. Oprah said she spoke to her before she accepted but I still was iffy about it.

  • crzasallgetout

    But where does it state that Mo is upset with Oprah?

  • Shauny

    I'm missing that part of this story where Mo is upset with Oprah.

    Also, you sure did move around when you were a nurse. Tons of jobs and examples to go with your stories.

    Lastly, that "Mo denies the molestation ever occured" is a flat out fabrication since I read/hear about it in just about every interview she's done. Just because he didn't go into detail doesn't mean it didn't happen.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    ¿¿¿So Mo'Nique is upset at OPRAH because her BROTHER didn't tell the full extent of his molestation???

    Hmmm.... that doesn't make any sense.

    Anyway, I hope Mo'Nique can let all of that go. She can't change her brother's or her parents' actions/mentality, just her own.

  • KrayZKat

    "...But Mo’Nique believes her brother lied on the show and didn’t convey the full extent of what he did to her. As a result, her relationship with her brother and her parents, who also appeared on the show, is worse than ever."

    Oprah gave this pervert a forum to tell his side of the story, so why would Mo be upset w/Oprah? I still don't get it.

  • FloridaChick813

    Also, you sure did move around when you were a nurse. Tons of jobs and examples to go with your stories.
    ___________

    :cosign:

  • nevesnanna

    There are always three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth. Only Mo and her brother know what happen, and she as the victim will see it differently than her brother, ther molester. He even admitted he was on drugs, so his mind isn't probably that clear anyway.

    Now, for those who saw the interview, Oprah did say she called Mo and got her blessing. Not to mention, Oprah asked Mo's parents is this situation what caused friction in the family. Mo's mom and dad said, NO. The issues with them started BEFORE she came out in public with the story about being molested.

    I remember Mo talking about this long before the Precious role. She never elaborated on it, but she had talked about being molested years ago. It just became interesting to the public because of the role she played and the attention she garnered from playing the role.

    Her mom and dad felt like she should have sat down with them BEFORE spilling the whole tea before the world so they could know how to deal with it. I don't necessarily agree, because Mo is a grown woman. She can talk when she pleases.

    I can, however, attest to how parenter perceive things because I swear, if I bring up stuff to my mom that happened in my childhood, she will sit there and look at me like I'm crazy...like it didn't happen.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @SANDRA ROSE
    "Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For MOST black families it’s a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly..."
    _____________________________________________________________________

    Are you trying to tell us something about your past Sandra?

  • cheeks8683

    The whole situation is messed up so of course people are gonna have strong feelings about it. I just think its sad that she is not in contact with her family at all, even her parents.

  • biglegs36

    I didn't read anything that said Mo was upset! Besides that she has spoken on this subject several times herself, so why would she be mad now?

  • nevesnanna

    I meant "parents perceive"...

  • FloridaChick813

    nevesnanna Says:

    There are always three sides to a story, his, hers and the truth.
    ______________

    Thats my favorite quote :D

  • va_shawty

    I seriously doubt Monique is upset with Oprah. On Oprah's website, it states "Before agreeing to do the interview, Oprah says she spoke to Mo'Nique. While she didn't want to be involved, Oprah says Mo'Nique gave her blessing in hopes that her brother's account might save another family."

  • Ebony

    Month should have never gave Oprah her blessings to do the interview :coffee:

  • http://twitter.com/dckim74 dcwife1622

    Monique shouldn't have went public if she didn't want her brother or her parents to respond. This is a sad situation across the board....

  • Ebony

    Meant to put Month not month, bb spell check in full effect* :lol:

  • missy

    I don't believe the story but I can understand why she can be upset with her brother going on t.v and how he made it seem..because she did have a different story then him...

  • Jamillah

    This is definitely a tragedy for the family. I watched the show and the parents appear to be good people who handled the situation the only way they knew how. I wonder why she is also estranged from them? Most parents love their children unconditionally and I hope that Monique is not upset with her parents because they have contact with her brother. He claims that he was also molested. Maybe its the people in her life now who are telling her what to do. Its not rare for controlling husbands to tell their wives who they can and cannot have contact with. I don't know Monique's husband but he appears to very controlling and I hope she doesnt lose the ability to think for herself.

  • Daisy

    I can say that my sisters baby daddy was molested and forced to molest his younger sister as well while their step dad watched. The step dad is still in prison. The sister went on to have 3 babies gave one up for adoption and was a stripper for awhile as well. My sisters baby daddy is MAD at the world and been in and out of prison because he has yet to deal with what happened to him as a kid. Very sad and heartbreaking.

  • Tink Tink

    Man, I just don't care™ Says:

    @SANDRA ROSE
    “Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For MOST black families it’s a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly…”
    ____________________________________________________________

    Are you trying to tell us something about your past Sandra?
    ____________________________________________________________
    I know this lady that got molested/raped as a young girl by her uncle (she italian/puerto rican) and now she's a dyke because she swore she would never let another man touch her again....is that what happened to you SR

  • Daisy

    @Jamillah :cosign: your theory on the parents I said the same thing yesterday and thought I was the only one who felt that way after most ppl went in on the parents.

  • bigtyme

    i just did not understand why it was necessary to have him on the show. loves oprah, but i think she missed the boat w/ this how...

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    The dude admitted to sexually molesting his underage sister on national t.v. Exactly what else did she want him to include in the confession?

    Hatred can consume you...

  • chase

    I don't get it, maybe I'm missing something... Where in this post did Monique say she was mad at Oprah!!! Where is her reasoning or her explanation....

  • Kitrina

    Reading if fundamental, she is not upset with Oprah but at the her family for telling half truths.
    Is the Chris Brown interview coming next Oprah?

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    I think Sandra is reaching just becuz Mo disputes the facts recalled doesn't mean she is miffed with Oprah!

  • bigtyme

    Jamillah Says:

    This is definitely a tragedy for the family. I watched the show and the parents appear to be good people who handled the situation the only way they knew how. I wonder why she is also estranged from them? Most parents love their children unconditionally and I hope that Monique is not upset with her parents because they have contact with her brother. He claims that he was also molested. Maybe its the people in her life now who are telling her what to do. Its not rare for controlling husbands to tell their wives who they can and cannot have contact with. I don’t know Monique’s husband but he appears to very controlling and I hope she doesnt lose the ability to think for herself.
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    i agree about the estrangement w/ the parents. my mother in law was molested by her uncle and she doesn't talk to her other aunts or uncles b/c they still talk to him...i just don't understand that...that's their brother...then again...i have never been in that position, so i really don't know how i would react.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    could've saw this coming a mile away. Who really wants SOMEONE else, let along the prep, exposing their business like that. I don't blame her on this one.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    she looks just like her dad also

  • Tink Tink

    @ms. truth

    she exposed the information herself, than gave her blessings to the big 'O' to do the interview.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @TINK TINK
    "I know this lady that got molested/raped as a young girl by her uncle (she italian/puerto rican) and now she’s a dyke because she swore she would never let another man touch her again….is that what happened to you SR"
    ___________________________________________________________________

    I've read similar hypothesis regarding molestation and homosexuality. I don't know if that's the case ALL the time but I could see it being the case some of the time.

  • tampa813

    Wow@ these stories of underage molestation. I can't imagine dealing with something like that or how it'll effect the victims, but there should be some type of closure otherwise there's gonna be a lifetime of pain and anger I'm sure.

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    Tink Tink Says:

    @ms. truth

    she exposed the information herself, than gave her blessings to the big ‘O’ to do the interview.

    ---------------------

    I understand that. But personally (and this is my opinion), I wouldn't want the person that did it to me going somewhere sharing what he did to me. At least let her have that little bit of being able to share the story herself.

  • chase

    Jamillah Says:
    This is definitely a tragedy for the family. I watched the show and the parents appear to be good people who handled the situation the only way they knew how. I wonder why she is also estranged from them? Most parents love their children unconditionally and I hope that Monique is not upset with her parents because they have contact with her brother. He claims that he was also molested. Maybe its the people in her life now who are telling her what to do. Its not rare for controlling husbands to tell their wives who they can and cannot have contact with. I don’t know Monique’s husband but he appears to very controlling and I hope she doesnt lose the ability to think for herself.
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    Oooooh chile' I said the same thing to my hubby. I know it is more to the story of why she is not speaking to the rest of the family and I wondered if it had to do with the hubby. I said the same thing about Key Cole and her family, did her man have some thing to do with her kicking them to the curb.

    On the other hand my mom swears up and down that my hubby had something to do with me not dealing with her anymore. She will tell anyone that will listen that my hubby brainwashed me. Truth be told he was the one that told me to give her another chance. I had an awakening after having my son and I realized that I did not need that toxicity in my life no more. Thankfully it was the best decision I ever made.

    I say all that to say it could be either one of those reasons or a combination of the two.....

  • LadyLew

    This whole post is ridiculous. You could have done better SR. How wouls these juveniles u work with be there and occupy 50% of the jail if it such a big family secret?
    And why would Mo be mad at Oprah for her lying azz brother?

  • Daisy

    @mstruth had monique not given her approval her brother woldnt have been on the show this isn't Oprahs fault and I don't think Monique is mad at her anyway

    @whoever asked was CBreezys interview next IMO if I were Oprah I would have had BOTH CB and Rihanna on the show telling their stories together that was the interview 2 be had to me anyway

  • Quitta

    Why would Mo be mad at O? I thought she already shared this information. :shrugs:

  • crzasallgetout

    @chase
    I feel you on the mom situation. SOMETIMES it's best to cut all ties with family. Don't hold a grudge but you don't have to have them in your life. People find that hard to believe but every family is different. Just because it's your mom doesn't make it a right to be in your life. Mine is a FOOL!! she wasn't even at my wedding. I didn't need negativity in that day.

  • Quitta

    Daisy - @whoever asked was CBreezys interview next IMO if I were Oprah I would have had BOTH CB and Rihanna on the show telling their stories together that was the interview 2 be had to me anyway
    ____
    Oh please no. I'm so tired of hearing the 36 different versions of this story.

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    Monique shouldn't have agreed to let Oprah interview her molester. Monique doesn't even want to be in the same room with him (I don't blame her)...so someone should have advised her...that seeing on hearing his interview would not be easy...nor will it ease her pain.

    Just like in the movie Precious...the molester's testimony didn't make the victim want to give her a hug. Just makes the victim despise the predator even more. :sad:

  • http://twitter.com/mrs_truth ms.truth

    Daisy Says:

    @mstruth had monique not given her approval her brother woldnt have been on the show this isn’t Oprahs fault and I don’t think Monique is mad at her anyway

    ---------------

    I'm not saying it's Oprah's fault. Again, personally, I wouldn't want the person that molested, raped, sexually assaulted, whatever, me to be sharing their story about what they did to me. At least let me have being able to share my story and help other women, without the prep trying to barge in and tell his side of the story.

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    Daisy - @whoever asked was CBreezys interview next IMO if I were Oprah I would have had BOTH CB and Rihanna on the show telling their stories together that was the interview 2 be had to me anyway
    _____________________________________
    Now that would have made for GOOD TV!!!!!!

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @CORPORATE HOOD
    "Just like in the movie Precious…the molester’s testimony didn’t make the victim want to give her a hug. Just makes the victim despise the predator even more. "
    ________________________________________________________________

    Yup.

  • Daisy

    @quitta I was saying back then not NOW nobody cares anymore now but then that wld have been must see TV

    I agree as well some other fam issue is behind Monique cutting her parents off but I :pray: they all find peace n the future.

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    @Man...sidebar: nothing on your hoodrat checklist applied to me. However, I embrace the term HOOD in my name. I earned the title by the unorthodox way I handle situations.

    For example: the 400lb molester who tried me when I was 11 is no longer around to tell the story.
    #thatsallihavetosayaboutthat

  • pinksghetti

    I didn't see the interview but the idea of that man being on Oprah disturbed me and I was surprised that Monique was ok with it. It's understandable that she is upset about the whole thing.

  • MistaO

    Please, please I wish people would stop with the subtle generalizations directed at Black people. It makes you sick to see how not only are outside groups pros at this, but this mess is propagated on media directed at Black people specifically.

    ****Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For most black families it’s a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly***

    This statement, by whomever wrote it, is another example of what I'm saying. Maybe all this ole disgusting type behavior is true for some of you, but trust, MOST Black people don't come up in households that are indicative of the "Precious" mantra... And folks should quit playing like we all some dayum fools because contrary to DESIRED belief, we aren't...

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @CORPORATE HOOD B-TCH
    "nothing on your hoodrat checklist applied to me. However, I embrace the term HOOD in my name. I earned the title by the unorthodox way I handle situations.

    For example: the 400lb molester who tried me when I was 11 is no longer around to tell the story.
    #thatsallihavetosayaboutthat"
    ____________________________________________________________________

    Ain't NO shame in being "hood" and if people read the list as "negative" then that says something about them...

    Sometimes, situations need to be handled with unorthodox methods!

    Do you babe do you!

  • chase

    crzasallgetout Says:
    @chase
    I feel you on the mom situation. SOMETIMES it’s best to cut all ties with family. Don’t hold a grudge but you don’t have to have them in your life. People find that hard to believe but every family is different. Just because it’s your mom doesn’t make it a right to be in your life. Mine is a FOOL!! she wasn’t even at my wedding. I didn’t need negativity in that day.
    -------------------------
    Lol so true you can't choose your family but you can definitely choose what family members you want to deal with...

  • CorporateHoodB-tch

    Did anyone listen to V103 in Atlanta this morning?
    A young lady wrote about how she had constantly molested by different family members. She currently has 5 kids by 5 differnent baby daddy's. She was sad when she admitted to her kids that she didn't know how to love them unconditionally because she had never received that type of love from a parent.

    I wanted to tell her the first step is acknowledgement of that. Now get the help you need to raise your kids to be better. (she may have mentioned therapy but I didn't hear the whole story)

  • Ashley

    Oprah is a hypocrit. She says she wont interview abusers but she does. Dont get me wrong, whatever happened between CB and Rihanna was wrong. But, those that sexuallly assault children are disgusting! But its okay to interview these individuals? wow

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    I understand why Mo has beef with her parents. She told them what was happening to her and they basically didnt believe her. That's some bullsh*t. Its hard enough for a child tell when this type of sh*t is happening to them and then when she tells the people she should be able to tell anything, they doubt her??

    Now I'm all about trying to work things out for the sake of family but it seems like her brother learned how to make excuses for his actions from their parents. They all need to take responsibility for how they treated her and dealt with the situation.

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Also instead of blaming everything on her man (which he may not be sh*t either) people should realize that when a woman has kids, she sometimes decides that it is time to take out the trash. She didnt want that dude around her kids.

    When she did the interview about him, her parents didnt have her back AGAIN. That was the final straw for her. That was the chance she was giving them to redeem themselves and they failed. She feels as if its more important to her parents to shut her up than it is to be in her life.

    She decided to let them continue to coddle her brother and moved on with her life. IMO

  • Tink Tink

    @ Daisy

    I understand what you are trying to say, I would've told 'O' hell no....There is this saying, "never allow the predator to tell the prey's story"

  • Tink Tink

    SPH:

    You talking like you and Monique had a one on one about the situation

  • Candi Apple

    :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

  • Daisy

    Her parents did BELIEvE her so that's a lie her mother said on Oprah she believed Monique and TOLD her such. Did ppl watch the same show that I saw???

    Now her parents may not have handled the situation well I believe they did the best they cld but to say her parents didn't believe her is not being truthful based on what Moniques mother said.

  • scorpio

    Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For most black families it’s a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly. Rarely does the police or social services get involved since the acts of incest often go unreported until the young victims confide in outsiders.
    ------------------------------------------------------------

    I don't agree with this statement. Total Over generalization. Does it happen in black families? Of course it does, but in MOST black families. I think not. We would have heard more on this subject by now if it was the case. I totally think there's a lot of sexual disfunction in the black community, but I don't think incest is a deep dark secret our community is hiding.

  • http://myspace.com/katgirl33 katgirl33

    Hey family....

    I saw the show, and I don't understand/see where Monique would be upset with Oprah....Oprah let him speak, showed clips of where Monique said how she felt to Barbara Walters, and the World when she accepted her awards.....

    It seems to me that she would be more upset with her family, as it looked like to me they was trying to sweep it under the rug....her family is ticked at her (I could tell) for going public....that slimy brother especially....

    Looks to me that Oprah had her back...Monique said she didn't want no parts of the show, but gave Oprah the go ahead to do it......let's not forget that O didn't go looking for this man, he came to her....

    I don't think Monique is mad at Oprah...if anything, she helped the family to deal with it....Monique kicked it off by going public....

    I kinda had a problem with the brother's spiritual advisor telling him to don't dwell in the past, but live in the now.....I'm sorry, but he got to deal with that before he can live in the now....

    I think that this is Monique's way of dealing with it, admitting that it happened to her, and distancing herself from the family.....O hit it on the head when she told them that it is related to why Monique don't deal with the family...her parents didn't think Monique distancing herself was relevant to the situation....

  • Jamillah

    I want to add that I had a very protective father who watched us like hawks. I used to hate the way he wouldn't let me us do anything or go anywhere. Then I grew and started meeting new friends. So many of them have been molested that its ridiculous.

    1. My roommate in the Air Force was raped by her uncle from the ages of 5 to 11. Didn't tell her mom until she was in her 30's. She is now a lesbian.

    2. A male friend was repeatedly raped by a female babysitter beginning at the age of 11.

    3. Another male friend could not use his left hand for years because he had been forced to fondle a man.

    4. A female friend in high school was having sex with her uncle on a daily basis in the home she shared with him and her grandmother. She was 14 and I was 15 when she told me.

    5. I just reconnected with a high school friend a few days ago who told me her father raped and beat her from the time she was 11 years old. Her parents were divorced and she lived with her father. She told her mother when she was 18 and her mother asked "what did you do to make him do that to you?"

    I could go on and on. It's way more common than you think. Its a serious problem and we have to protect our children and look out for them. We have to teach them not to be afraid to tell us. An abuser will threaten their lives but you have to let your children know that you will do anything to keep them protected. WE have a responsibility to keep offenders away from our children. Never put a man ahead of your child.

  • intensemocha

    Siblings molesting each other is nothing new to the black community. For most black families it’s a shameless secret that no one wishes to discuss publicly. Rarely does the police or social services get involved since the acts of incest often go unreported until the young victims confide in outsiders
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    AINT THAT THE TRUTH, THAT'S WHY GROWING UP THERE WAS ALWAYS A HOUSE RULE, CHILDREN WERE NEVER ALLOWED TO PLAY ALONE UNSUPERVISED, ESPECIALLY BOYS & GIRLS

    YOU HAD TO BE IN EYE SHOT, WHERE SOMEBODY COULD SEE WHAT WAS GOING ON

    AND CACKLING HENS, GO ON AND ON ABOUT LIL GIRLZ BEING FAST IN THE AZZ ALL THE WHILE KNOWING SOME GROWN MAN/FAMILY MEMBER HAS BEEN TOUCHING THE CHILD

    AS ALWAYS-WOMEN FIND IT EASIER TO PLACE BLAME ON THE VICTIM, TYPICALLY ANOTHER WOMEN/FEMALE -TO AVOID DEALING DIRECTLY WITH THE REAL ISSUE-THE MAN!

    LET US NOT FORGET ALTHOUGH MOTHERS SHOULD PROTECT THEIR CHILDREN, WHOSE REARING THESE MOLESTERS-WE ARE, OUR COMMUNITY EVERY TIME WE TURN A BLIND EYE, TO A GROWN NASTY MAN HAVING HIS WAY WITH A CHILD WHOSE NOT OF AGE OR DOESN'T HAVE MATURITY TO CONSENT TO SEX!

  • intensemocha

    THE SITUATION IS TABOO-WHY DO YOU THINK THE PRECIOUS MOVIE WAS SO SUCCESSFUL AND GARNERED SO MUCH ATTENTION

    THE RESPONSE AND FEEDBACK REGARDING SIMILAR SITUATIONS WAS ASTOUNDING

    MONIQUE TOLD A STORY THAT WAS INDEED TABOO-MOLESTATION IN BLACK FAMILIES AND COMMUNITIES IS RAMPANT

    I MY OPINION, THAT'S WHY SO MANY PEOPLE ARE CONFUSED ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL IDENTITY, TEEN PREGNANCY, MULTIPLE BABY DADDY'S, POVERTY, VIOLENCE ETC.

    WHEN YOU DON'T SHOW LOVE IT CAN'T BE RECIPROCATED-THE AFFECTS OF ABUSE SEXUAL AND PHYSICAL IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY IS PLAYING OUT IN THE MEDIA EVERYDAY

    I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH FINGERS TO COUNT ON MY HAND, THE NUMEROUS OF YOUNG GIRLS THAT WAS HAVING SEX AT 12, 13, 14 AND MOST OF THEM WERE SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE AGE 18 OR ABOVE, THEY WERE LABLED AS HOT, AND NOBODY DID ANYTHING ABOUT IT, AS THESE MEN EXPLOITED AND ABUSE THEM

    IT'S ABOUT TIME-SOME LIGHT HAS BEEN SHED ON THE SITUATION

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    No that's not a LIE and her mother DIDNT BELIEVE her so I have the quote for you:

    "My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again. I'll never forget my mother saying, 'If it's true, it will surface again,' and I remember thinking, Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?"

    They are wrong and they feel guilty and that's why they went on Oprah to try and explain themselves. #FAIL

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    @ INTENSEMOCHA
    You did that!!! :preach: Tell it like it is lady.

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    This type of BS is very common. Some people would rather hide their "shame" than to deal with the situation. Some women will choose to stay with a man that abuses their kids because they don't want to lose HIM and have anomosity towards the child for breaking up their relationship.

    Some women, and I'm speaking on black women because these are the women I know, will do anything to get/keep a man and that includes letting them abuse their kids sexually and physically.

    So when I see a "hoe" I know that chick got some sh*t with her. Everybody has problems and needs to take responsibility for their actions but I know that no one is born a WHORE. That is learned behavior.

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Tink Tink Says:

    SPH:

    You talking like you and Monique had a one on one about the situation
    _________________________________________________
    LOL. Girl I have a brain in this head and I use it. You dont have to be a genius to read between the lines.

  • KrayZKat

    :claps: @ Intense!

    I remember during the R. Kelly debacle, some of the horrid and nasty comments made about the young VICTIM, yet excusing that grown man's behavior. This happens all too often, and I believe if a mother is aware of abuse happening in the home, she is just as culpable as the abuser because that child is HER child and one of the jobs as a parent is PROTECTOR.

  • Raven

    Feeling you on that INTENSEMOCHA, well said!

  • bigtyme

    whoever said we have to protect our children is right...my daddy was the same way...if he thought a man was paying me too much attention he was quick to ask questions and make it known that shit was appropriate...i'm thinking of my aunt who let her exboyfriend go over to her house and check up on her 14 year old while she was out of town...he raped her...he was a pervert, but why would my aunt send him over there was the question my dad had...we have to protect our children...don't let random men or women get close to them and listen/watch the warning signs that something is going on...b/c they are there!

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    Shauny Says:

    Also, you sure did move around when you were a nurse. Tons of jobs and examples to go with your stories.
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    Yes and you're quick to throw out fake statistics too. Your most black households are incestuous and more than 50% of inmates were locked up for incest stats are ridiculous and not even remotely believable. Come on Sandra. Do you really think of us that way?

  • starstatus

    It happens more than what people think. Most molesting and sexual abuse occurs by someone the victim knows. It's not about tearing black people apart, but it's facts. I think if you have boy and girl children you have to keep this in mind. Kids get curious and do inappropriate things that they may not mean intentionally.

    Monique an dher brother may need counseling.

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    THIS IS SOME BULL SHYT! MONIQUE GAVE OPRAH PERMISSION TO DO THE INTERVIEW WITH HER BROTHER, IT MIGHT HELP SOMEONE ELSE. SHE JUST DECLINED TO BE APART OF IT. SANDRA YOU NEED HELP HUNNY.

    I WAS MOLESTED(FONDLED) AS A CHILD BY SEVERAL MALE RELATIVES. IT HAS MADE A VERY PROTECTIVE PARENT AND I AM VERY DISTANT FROM FAMILY. I DON'T HOLD A GRUDGE I JUST CHOSE TO CUT A LARGE PORTION OF MY FAMILY OFF!