In light of allegations of a cheating scandal involving Barack Obama and his former campaign aide, surprisingly there are no photos available of the two of them together.

According to a loyal reader, the photo that most media outlets have been running with is not Vera Baker. Loyal reader Kandyce B. says the woman in the picture is her sorority sister named "Irene S" (I'm waiting for Kandyce to respond to my request for a picture of Irene to compare).

Though the national media has known about Vera Baker for years, they have kept the details of her alleged fling with Obama hush hush. The cheating scandal resurfaced due to new evidence in the form of hotel surveillance video, according to the National Enquirer:

"On-site hotel surveillance video camera footage could provide indisputable evidence. Investigators are working to obtain the tape. If the tape surfaces, it will explode the scandal."

For a woman who raised millions for Senator Obama during his successful 2004 campaign, there are no photos available anywhere of the two of them together at fundraising events. That's odd.

Even Baker's company website,, has been taken offline. Isn't she still doing business? Or are the rumors true that she was exiled to the Caribbean isle to hide out with enough cash to keep her quiet for years?

  • MizzFedUp

    Damn you on this Sandra, you not playing today lol. Why is everyone so interested in busting him with this women? I'm sure she wouldn't be the first to have slept with him- he is the most powerful man in the world. Is everyone expecting women to drop from the sky like with Woods?

  • KayCeiSoul

    Shyt, they look more like brother and sister than Dips. That lady's life is about to be hell on wheels because of the media. And who authorizes the dirt digging search game? If even if he was on a hotel camera (which I know he is smart enough to know there ARE hotel cameras) that still isn't a porno of them in the room. I'd need to see that to believe it.

    More people please. :coffee:

  • KaraZ

    Okay, I don't see how where Obama's penis has been is anyone's business but Michelle's, Barack's and their God. Personally I don't care, the only penis I care about is the hubby's. As long as he's not breaking any laws and doing his job, I couldn't give a fcuk who he fcuks.

    But even if he's cheating, that shouldn't end his presidency, after all it was just 12 years ago that Bill Clinton was caught cheating with a woman and lied about it, and he still finished his term.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Fess up now Barack! You can claim an some sort of "addiction."

    Private Eye Sandra Rose is on the case. Quit while you are ahead.

  • DivaPT

    until i see video footage or picture this story is still weaker than an old man knees

  • Daisy

    Thank you Jesus for giving me the heart that you did :pray: AMEN

    *taking bets on how many stories on this subject we will have by Mon*

  • Natasy

    Sandra --- You r so full of ish. Its always more videos and unnamed sources that these magazines are always saying could be revealed and if revealed will be EXPLOSIVE :rolleyes: . Please believe that if Obama was having an affair, it would have came out during the elections. They were trying hard to slander him. (Your blatant lies and misrepresentation of Pres Obama is the main reasons I can't stand you. You don't to "drink the kool-aid" but I never once heard you say anything about Bush ruining the country, entering two inane endless wars, running up the country's debt, arousing the anger and disdain of other nations. Sandra, please find a cliff and walk off the edge.

  • jazi65

    Obama haters will say & do anything to bring this man down. Lets see the footage or sthu!

  • Ebony

    Where's the sex tape :coffee:

  • birdofbeauty09

    LMFAO @Natasy, "...please find a cliff and walk of the edge."

    DEAD and GONE! Pls tell my folks I tried hard to get that Masters, but this right here...nah, I couldn't make it. LOL

  • attorneymom

    When I see a tape & pictures, then I will believe it.

    The sad thing is this young woman's life will never be the same again. If she is in fact a jumpoff, I don't feel sorry for her.

    What happened to all the Josephs of the world? Everyone wants to be like David. Blank stare.

  • ohpretty1

    You're going at this hard for there to be no tape as of now...

  • MrsHawthorne77


    Okay people I need advice. The hubby and I were separated from Dec 2009 up until a few weeks ago. The other day I had to use his cell phone and while I was dialing out a text message popped up that said, "I guess I can't see you so I'm gonna stop asking". I questioned him about it, he told me it was nothing serious. So I asked him to discontinue communication with any female he might have been in contact with during our separation and he promised. Low and behold this morning, some female left a voicemail indicating that "she was just returning his call". Once he came in from the barbershop I let him have it.

    My question is am I wrong? Did I handle it the best way? What next?

    FYI - All comments and opinions are welcome because our relationship has been to hell and back and I'm not sure I trust him. We've been together since 2006, married since Nov 2008, and we have a 1 year old daughter together.

  • attorneymom

    @MrsHawthorne, whip his azz! Seriously, he shouldn't be dealing with any other female(s) unless there is a divorce. As his wife, you have every right to snoop and check (confront) him if you find anything.

  • DivaPT

    @13 all men cheat you can either deal with the situation or leave him for another man who will eventually cheat he's not gonna cut off any of his females friends he's only going to be more care about you finding out you two just need to have a conversation about him being more respectful towards you

  • starr


    I was gonna write something totally different until i realized it said u were separated until a few weeks ago. Does that mean you aren't separated anymore? Trying to work things out?

    Well, if y'all are trying to work things ago...I would of let him have too!!! If he's serious about trying to work things out...he need to cut those other women off. If he's not serious. Chucks the deuce. It ain't worth it.

  • starr

    Missed the 1 year old daughter part. Doesn't change my opionion though.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @ Attorneymom, I really wanted to whip his azz, but I don't think I have enough bail money stashed away.

    @DivaPT, I'm beginning to think that is true. I know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and everyone has faults (including myself) but we just had the conversation yesterday afternoon about him cutting off the conversations. In my opinon he proved that he is incapable of fulfilling his promise (and vows for that matter).

    @Starr, yes we are supposed to be reconciling. He begged me for months to come back home...fed me all types of lines about how he missed his family and he will do anything to have us back. I really wanted my marriage to work, but at this point I'm seriously considering throwing in the towel.

  • KrayZKat

    MrsHawthorne, sister, please do not believe that all men cheat. That is simply not true. Generalizing a group of people based on the actions of some just isn't right. JMO. All men lacking character cheat, and if he was cheating on you, then you have every right to confront him especially now since he supposedly wants you back. I would kick him to the curb until he's willing to prove to you that he is sincere. Talk is cheap and actions speak so much louder than words.

    I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. Do what's right for you and your baby.

  • KrayZKat

    @MrsHawthorne, I might be stretching it here, but you said that she mentioned "returning his call." Do you think he was trying to cut it loose with her? Just a thought. Maybe out there on this, but then again, as I think about it, he should just ignore her calls if that was the case. Anyway, I do wish you the very best on this very difficult situation.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @KrayZKat, I never wanted to believe that all men cheat. I also didn't want to live in a fantasy world so while I never went "looking" for anything I also don't ignore my gut feelings. I doubt that he was calling her to break things off because he just keeps saying that he didn't do anything. He claims he doesn't know why she's calling him.

  • KrayZKat

    @MrsHawthorne, yeah, I know what you mean about not ignoring our gut. Us women have a certain intuitiveness and we know when something isn't right. I don't blame you for listening to it. The ball is in his court and it appears he's been put on notice that if he wants you like he says he does, he needs to restore your trust in him. Without that trust, how can a relationship stand? I wish you the best.

  • DivaPT

    @21 dont fall for the " i dont know why she's calling me " line and it doesnt make sense to ask anymore questions because your gut intuitions will never fail you

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @KraZyKat, thanks for the well wishes. I really appreciate those words right now.

    @DivaPT, yeah I know the whole "I don't know why she's calling me" thing is a joke. That's why I'm weighing my options right now on what my next move will be.

  • KrayZKat

    @MrsHawthorne, you are very welcome. I know this is a very difficult time now for you. My heart really goes out to you. Hang in there, sista!

  • Daisy

    @mrshawthorne I shall :pray: for you and your situation that God may guide you in the right direction. Have you all tried counseling? Was he cheating before yall separated?

  • Yadda Yadda

    @ MrsHathorne

    I commend you for putting all efforts forth toward your marriage. What ever your final decision is I wish you and your family many good years to come.

  • attorneymom

    KrayZKat writes: "MrsHawthorne, sister, please do not believe that all men cheat. That is simply not true. Generalizing a group of people based on the actions of some just isn’t right."

    You better preach!!!

  • attorneymom

    @MrsHawthorne, I hope you are feeling better today.

  • GottaBigOne

    . . . N-E-X-T!!!

  • cahjan

    @ Mrs Hawthorne, I have to agree with KrayZKat that he may have called her to tell her not to call him anymore. IMO, having the talk, just a day or two ago gives him an opening to "advise" the other ladies he has been communicating with that he will no longer be "in touch" with them. However, as most women will feel in their gut, this will not be the only topic of conversation, should it occur.

    Having dealt with a similar relationship situation, I would suggest seeking counseling to determine the underlying cause of the separation and determine if both parties are willing to trust each other and move forward, without digging up old skeletons anytime its convenient. If you are turly taking him back to work things out then you must have a forgiving heart and do your part to make things right between you. As long as you do your part, you should be free from guilt if the relationship doesn't work.

    Lastly, I believe you mentioned the child for a sympathy factor. Do what's best for the safety, and psyche of your child and yourself...not what makes you look good in the eyes of others. Prayer changes things and GOD will provide your guidance...not me or anybody else.

    Prayerfully yours,

  • KaraZ


    You need to get a grip and put down his phone. How do you know he didn't call her a while ago before the talk and she just now got around to returning his call. How do you know he's even involved with said woman? Put yourself in his shoes, would you want to be attacked every time he perceives that you did something wrong? There's a better way to communicate that actually yields results. Letting him have it, is not good for you and puts him on the defensive, where he's trying to protect himself not work with you.

    If you want to work on your relationship, you need to let some things that happened in the past go. Please for your sanity, stop snooping! Trust me, when you go looking for something, you will find it AND whatever you find might not even be what you think it is. You have to make a decision on whether you want to trust him or not, and you can tweak that decision based on his behavior.

    Either you left something out or you're overreacting to nothing. She did say she was returning his call, not I want to lick your balls right? Going off on him for no real reason (based on the info given) is not building any kind of real foundation for renewing your relationship. Personally, I don't think that's what you want right now, because it seems that you have one foot out the door already.

    I suggest that you both seek couple's counseling to help you both mend your relationship, if that's what you do want. I also suggest that you stop asking people who are not invested in your happiness or peace of mind for advice, everyone will give you advice based on their perspective which in no way mirrors yours and may be colored with their bias from their experiences. Some people wouldn't even follow the advice they have given, so please take it all with a grain of salt. Do what you believe is best for you.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @Daisy, Yadda, Attorneymom - Thanks a bunch guys.

    @Cahjan - I didn't mention our child as a sympathy factor. Mentioning our child is only to give a better view of the situation. It DOES make a difference if you have children with someone what direction needs to be taken because once you bring a child into this world it's a no longer just about you and your mate. But thanks for your input and take on the situation.

    @KaraZ - Believe me when I say I have let the past go, hence my willingness to take him back and try to move forward. Cheating has not been a problem once we got married. There were other things going on which lead to our separation but I would be writing a book if I went into all of that. I am just a firm believer that when you screw up and you are given another chance to prove yourself there are certain actions one must take in order to be taken seriously.

    My husband is a bricklayer. He was making a little over $30/hr up until Feb of 2008 when we moved from NJ to ATL. The union he belongs to had no work available and he was collecting unemployment. We got married Nov 2008 and I was the only one actually working. He couldn't take being unemployed so we decided to come back north but settled in PA April 2009 because my water broke 6 weeks early and we happened to be in PA at the time. We went to counseling because he was having trouble coping witht the fact that the union couldn't get him back to work and he began to drink heavily. At that point we both started couples counseling and I was put on 20mg Prozac because I had the weight of being a new moom, working full time, being a fulltime student pursuing my bachelors, AND dealing with his BS. I had him admitted to an inpatient program back in Nov 2009 because it was tearing our marriage apart. He hit me and of course my momma ain't raise no punk so I checked his chin and I left him because I refuse to let my baby girl see us fighting like that.

    Now I don't care what he did when we were apart because since that day he hit me I had no intentions on taking his azz back. But he begged and pleaded and went to talk to my mother, dad and anybody else who would listen that he wanted his marriage to work and he would do anything to get us back. He has since taken work outside of the union (which could get him in trouble if the union finds out) but he said he did it to show that he is serious about mending our marriage and even if its only paying him $12/hr he would rather do that than to lose his family.

    So with that being said, I feel I have the right to stay on his azz. I don't think its wrong for me to get some perspectives from people who are on the outside looking in because sometimes we can't see the forest for the trees. And thanks for your input as well.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @Mrs. Hawthorne

    Let me understand this:
    •you marry and have a child with a gainfully employed man in less than four years

    •he agrees to move, and leave his well paying UNION job (I'm assuming for you because no reason is given for the move)

    •to your knowledge, he was and has been faithful during the relationship

    •you move again for him to find a job to replace the original job he gave up

    •still unable to locate work (as a result of the move), he begins drinking

    •tired of his "bs" you have him admitted

    •he hits you (no explaination as to what occurred
    prior to the physical altercation)

    •you hit him back and leave him

    •he begs and pleads for his family back

    •you forbid communication with females

    Wow. Seems like he gave up his UNION job, moved twice, swallowed his pride TWICE (by being admitted AND begging for you back), has been faithful, took a lower paying job and agreed to not communicate with other females. And you are upset about two vague messages after sneaking into his phone?

    WOOOOOOOOOOOOW! I'm sure he has a niiiiiice Mother's Day gift for you coming up.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @Man, I just don't care" - thank you for your opinion.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @Mrs. Hawthorne

    Your welcom! :D

    I have a few questions if you don't mind.
    1. What prompted the first move?
    2. Honestly, did you ever resent him and "his BS?"
    3. What preceded the physical altercation?
    4. Would you have taken him back if you didn't have your daughter?

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @Man I Just don't care - (Just to give you a little background info: My husband and I dated for a brief moment when I was a teenager, so we already knew a little bit about each other. His grandmother owned a few properties in the town we grew up in and my aunt rented one of her properties for well over 10 years. My grandmother and his grandmother used to go fishing together way before we even knew each other)

    1. We had been together for about a year and in Sept 2007 we had a son who passed away a fewe hours after his birth. At that point in our relationship there was cheating on his part and I after I lost our baby I decided that I needed a change so I told him that I was moving to ATL and he said he was going to come with me so we could have a fresh start.

    2. I never resented him because I understood why he was feeling the way he was. I tried to stay positive and just do the best that I could to handle the bills. At one point he did take $20K out of his annuity to help out while I was pregnant but that's only because he totalled his car after making a bad decision one night (a whole other story for a whole nother day).

    3. I came home from work and he was drunk. He asked me to call the bank to see why his unemployment check had not been deposited. I informed him that it was deposited but I needed it to pay the electric bill. Without saying one word he hauled off and punched me in the face. FYI, the check was $140.00.

    4. No I would not have taken him back if I didn't have my daughter.

    5. I will alwys love him. But I am not in love with him.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @Mrs. Hawthorne

    Thanks, didn't expect you to answer...

    OK. I'm going to bee 100 with you. I think you should move on. If you didn't resent him before, eventually you will. I also think he truly loves you, despite his past mistakes. However, that is not an excuse for his actions.

    What's best for YOU IS what's best for your daughter. An unhappy Mom is makes an unhappy child...

  • MrsHawthorne77

    @Man I just don't care, LOL why wouldn't I answer? I'm not the type of person to ask for opinions and then clam up when someone says something that I don't agree with. I think more people need to be willing to accept criticism as that is truly the only way to grow as an individual.

    Per the suggestion of my therapist, I have taken a semester off from school and taken a leave of absence from work so that I can get myself together. My medication has been changed from 20mg Prozac to 50mg Zoloft last week. I am not enthusiastic about being on depression medication, but I must admit that it gives me the patience that I need with my daughter and keeps me from taking out any frustrations on her. I took her out of daycare and she stays at home with me and I am loving it.

    I agree with you that he loves me but I'm not sure that me coming back home was the best choice. I am seriously considering moving back to ATL in August. If things don't take a turn for the best between now and then, I'm gone.

  • SangriaSugar


    I didn't say anything before because I have never been married and I don't know the dymanics of married couples even though most of the people I work with are married. But truthfully, after reading your last post it sounds like you already know what you want to were just looking for confirmation.

    I don't think any of this had to do with the messages that you found because you don't know the contexts of them but rather what you were feeling in your heart the whole time. The messages just gave you more of a reason to not want to be there. You said yourself that your daughter is reason you are trying to work this out and that you are not in love with him...therefore you should do what you feel is right for you and your daughter. Just make sure that your husband has an active role in your daughter's life.

  • SangriaSugar

    dymanics = dynamics

  • Daisy

    :popcorn: Bless your heart MrsHawthorne. Will you always have to be on meds? Have you all been to counseling together? Is he still drinking? Are you sure you arent in love with him anymore and not just mad? I am not married nor do I have kids so I cant really help but I am NOSEY as hell hence the 20questions :D

  • MrsHawthorne77


    WOW! That's funny how you said the messages just gave me more of a reason not to want to be here because he said the same thing to me yesterday. Honestly I would love for my marriage to work. When we took our vows we promised each other that we would stay together for better or for worse, through sickness and health, til death do us part. My mother keeps reminding me that alcohol abuse is a sickness and that's why I didn't leave back when it really became a problem. I really do think that some people rush to divorce and really don't stick it out and work things out, but at the same time things changed when he hit me.

    I never looked down on him because he wasn't working. I felt like since we got married that makes us a team and it was my job to play my position and take one for the team. He even said that he appreciated the fact that I always made him feel good about himself when he was down and out. But I have lost so much respect for him as a man for putting his hands on me. It actually hurts me that I want to walk away but my heart and my mind just won't allow me to submit to him like I used to. I stay on guard ready to counteract if he should try to hit me again and I don't want to live my life like that. I also don't want our daughter to grow up seeing her dad hit her mom and then she'll grow up thinking its okay to let a man hit her.

  • SangriaSugar


    I will keep you in my prayers. Are you and he attending couple's counseling now? Not just so that you can try to work things out now but also so that if you do decide to seperate that you don't carry the fear in your heart that you have towards abuse and have it cripple you emotionally. What you say about abuse is true...especially since you have a daughter...never let her think abouse of any kind is OK. I know that God will keep you with him always sister!!

  • MrsHawthorne77


    :LOL: at the popcorn emoticon!! My mom keeps telling me I should write a book because our relatiobship has gone through so much for us to have only been together since April 2006.

    Hopefully I can get myself motivated long enough to do it.

    And thanks again for the well wishes!

  • MrsHawthorne77


    No we are no longer attending couples counseling as of September 2009, but I still see the same therapist for my individual counseling.

    And thank you for your kind words. It really makes me feel good.

  • MrsHawthorne77


    Not too sure how long I'll need to be on the meds. My last doctor visit was Thursday and that's when they switched me to Zoloft. I did notice that ther prescription was authorized for 30 pills per month for the year up until 4/30/2011.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    Daissy I think I'm wayyyy past being mad. I feel numb. When we have sex I don't feel anything. Its like I'm sleeping with a stranger off the street. And we have only had sex 3 times since I've been back home. I just don't want him to touch me in a sexual way because I feel nasty like I'm being abused or something. Its weird how my feelings for him have changed so dramatically.

  • Daisy

    BING DING DING DING your issue (well at least IMO and partially) is the fact that you no longer respect him as a man cause he put his hands on you. Did you all discuss that in counseling? Did he come from a violent home? Does he have a temper overall? Was he drunk? Are you afraid around him? Are you scared that IF you take him back and he hits you again that it will be your fault for taking him back?

  • MrsHawthorne77


    To be honest I am more afraid of what I'm gonna do to him. I feel like a kid in school who always gets bullied and imy greatest fear at this point in my life is that he's gonna hit me and I'm gonna pick something up and knock him upside his head and he's not gonna come out of it. He only talks bad to me when he's been drinking and yes he was drunk that evening when he punched me in my face.

    He didn't grow up in a violent home, but his parents were divorced by the time he was 5 and he was shipped around the family living in NJ, MS, and Detroit because his mom wasn't much in the mother department so I've heard. My aunts went to school with his aunts and they know a lot about their family history that he doesn't know I am privy to.

    Now he does have the utmost respect for his step-mother. He told my mom one day that she basically raised him.

  • MrsHawthorne77

    I talk to my counselor about it but he never got counseling. He just says he knows he was wrong and it'll never happen again, but I don't believe him.

  • KaraZ


    I feel for you, you're dealing with quite a bit on your plate and thank God you're pushing through. Like Sangria said, sounds like you want to leave. I don't blame you. Personally violence/terrorism of any kind, no matter how temporary, is a non-negotiable for me. My non-negotiables are not the same for every other person though. You say he was drunk when he lost his mind and hit you, and unless he has given up drinking for good, I understand why you don't trust that it will never happen again.

    I don't know what advice to give you, except pray and do what you believe is best for you. You're the one walking in your shoes and will have to live with the consequences either way.

    RE: The sex. I think the Zoloft is contributing quite a bit to that and coupled with your loss of respect for him, its no wonder you feel that way.