HWNSNBS Disfigures His Neck With New Tattoo *Update*

Sandra Mae,

Why is it dudes can go to jail for shooting, stabbing <– or be associated with those who do, or even be CONVICTED of selling drugs to people (thus contributing to the demise of entire communities) and still get love from you (T.I. comes to mind) but Chris Brown had ONE night of terrible judgement, paid a price (just like T.I., Jeezy and several others) but you refuse to give THIS black man another chance to redeem himself?

I hated CB (I won't speak his name on HERE either since I don't want to get el banned – LOL) when this thing happened and I really felt like he deserved whatever came of the drama HE created, but at what point do we let him learn from a stupid, youthful, HORRIBLE mistake and let him back into the fold of the community?

If we can forgive murderers, drug dealers, thieves and, in some cases, CHILD MOLESTORS (My mind's tellin' me no!) why destroy the rest of this kid's life for a mistake he made at 20 where he and the other party seem to be trying to get past it themselves?

*disclaimer* This post is in NO way in support of hitting in ANY way – and that goes for both, men AND women!

First thing's first: Let's stop teaching black children that, "Boys don't hit girls!" and teach them that, "You don't hit ANYBODY unless you're a parent and your belief system is that you feel the need to discipline them in a way that doesn't border on abuse."

When we reprimand our little boys in front of our daughters and inform him that he is not allowed to hit his sister (even though he hit her in response to BEING hit) we send HER the message that she has a license to HIT men just because she's a girl because her mama and daddy have taught her that "boys don't hit girls" – and then she becomes a teenager and eventually a woman who thinks that she can get all up in a man's face pointing, hitting and slapping – he's expected to just take it because he's apparently been born with some magical patience that allows him to stand there or simply walk away.

As a father, I don't believe that men should hit girls either… but I don't believe that my son was born with some curse that requires him to become an abuse VICTIM either.

I don't know too many people that can just take being hit at any given time – what happens if on that ONE day, she catches him off guard and he reaches out in response and tags her a$$ before he realizes it? Then suddenly, HE ain't $hit????

Quit teaching your daughter's that $hit because EVERYBODY doesn't raise their son's to believe that you can't hit women – some parents raise their son's to believe that, "If they hit you, you hit their a$$ back!" (and those parents don't always make the gender distinction).

Then, when your daughter, whose been hitting MEN her entire life because you taught her that WRONG $hit finally runs up on that crazy brother who beats her ignorant a$$, you want to call up all your cousins and get one of their a$$es put in jail because her boyfriend hit her BACK!

Get it together, black folk.