Luther “Luke Skyywalker” Campbell reacts to his daughter calling him a deadbeat dad

@RENEGADE
“How you a “deadbeat” and you paid child support for umpteen years? That nigga ain’t eva want you! Get over it.”
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WOW…really? That’s cold…even for you Man SMH

I can’t imagine just “getting over” not having my father….Thank God for strong men like my Dad!!!
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People do exactly that everyday. Why she should be treated any different. I think Luke was fairly tame in his response.

@SHANNON
“shannon04 says: @Free…true…but All the money in the world being spent on children for their care and wellbeing will never amount to what is gained from having a true, consistent presence in the life of your children, and your kids knowing that they have that. No $$$ will ever amount to that.”
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If the man told you specifically that he DIDN’T want children, you knew he was a rapper and that he was promiscuous, would you have unprotected sex with him AND carry his baby to full term?

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“You can’t tell somebody to just get over it. Everyone deals with things differently. What if you had cancer and was about to die, and someone told you to just get over it you are going to die one day anyway. How would that make you feel? This girl is just blowing off steam the way she feels she needs to.”
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How can you not understand the jist of what I’m saying? I can’t make the English any more simplistic.

You know, it’s funny you should mention being told of cancer. LOL. Anyway, using that scenario, I WOULD HAVE TO GET OVER IT! I specifically said that everyone deals with things differently, and that being said, a GROWN WOMAN tryin to “shame” someone into some sort of relationship is asinine and ridiculous.

When people do ridiculous things shouldn’t they be prepared for the consequences?

@MAMACITA
“I saw people mention the fact the the MOTHER laid down with him without protection but HE DID TOO! She wasn’t the only one that knew the consequences and he didn’t stop her and she didn’t stop him. The child was non-existent when they chose to do this so HOW IS THIS THE CHILD’S FAULT and how does Luke catch slack for abandoning his children. I don’t care what the mother has done it’s still HIS CHILD and the child didn’t CHOOSE TO BE IN THE SITUATION! GTFOH!!!!!!!”
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I’m sorry, but if Luke didn’t want the child I don’t see the need in condemning him.

True, he didn’t use protection, shame on him, and he paid the consequence (literally) by paying child support.

You can’t FORCE someone to love something they don’t love. AND that doesn’t make them a bad person.

@KEARALOVE
“I’m just wondering, if Luke knew that he didn’t want kids, and he knew that he didn’t like using protection (at that time), why didn’t he just get a vasectomy? Problem solved.”
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Um… yeah, that’s like killing a fly with a gun.

yeah yeah, they can be reversed and are safe blah blah blah.

Let me tell you this 99.99999% of niggas ain’t tryin to get chit cut,snipped,tweaked,chipped,finagled,etc. by the dyck.

@CINDERLLA
“I can’t believe some people are trying to rationale being a deadbeat father. Fatherhood is more than providing monetary support to your children. It’s about playing an active role in the lives of your children. Loving them unconditionally and supporting their hopes and dreams. Believing in them and nuturing their self-esteem. Spending quality time with them and teaching them morals and values. Creating life-long memories that a child will cherish.”
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I will answer if I have children if you explain why it is relevant.

Now, should LITERAL sperm donors also be obligated to “love their offspring unconditionally, support their hopes and dreams, believe in them, nuture them and teach them morals and values?

I’m referring to the sperm donors that go to the hospital and “deposit” sperm. Should they have the same expectations on them?

@SPEAKIN MY MIND
“in my opinion (back in my single days), i never depended on the guy to have condoms cuz i always had my own and wouldn’t dare give it up without one, even if it was a one-night stand. so i fault women who lay down with men unprotected and have babies out of wedlock moreso than the man. women, it’s our bodies that have to carry and nurture babies. if you break up with a man during your pregnancy, the baby doesn’t go away with the relationship. if you have the baby and don’t plan to drop the child off on the man’s doorstep for him to raise and care for, then you can’t complain if it’s years of heartache and frustration trying to get him to take care of the child. we all have choices and are responsible for the repercussions of those choices.”
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I think this should be distributed everywhere!

@CINDERELLA
“Just when I think you can’t sink to new low, you prove me wrong. Whether or not he wanted the children or not makes no difference. They are here and he’s LEGALLY and MORALLY obligated to take care of them. Not just financially but physically and emotionally. Going by your posts today, I hope you never conceive a child.”
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Whether he wanted the child or not makes ALL the difference! It’s ridiculous to ignore that fact! LOL. No wonder there are so many …”broken homes” (SMH, most of these “homes” were never fixed).

When you force something unwanted on someone, they RESENT IT. That’s human nature. A baby is no different.

As for child support being “legal”… do you know the HISTORY of child support? It’s little more than legalized black mail so as to not have the cost of unwanted children on the backs of tax payers. The true crime of it all is that tax payers wind up paying more ENFORCING the ignorant laws than they would just supporting the child themselves. LOL.

@CINDERELLA
“Are you trying to be a smart azz? Actual sperm donors give up their rights to their potential children BEFORE reproduction. There is no connection b/w them and the potential mothers. These men are sometimes compensated for their sperm. You can’t compare these men to males who can’t put on a condom and then turn around and complain when a child is conceived.”
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LOL. I could argue that sperm donors doesn’t in fact give up their right because some have been held liable for child support in courts (you can goole it).

That’s not the point tho. Luke impregnating a woman he didn’t have any sort of relationship is EXACTLY like a sperm donor bustin in a cup and impregnanting a random woman.

I notice you didn’t answer the question however, should sperm donors be expected to have a relationship with children they concieve?

@KEE KEE 83
“I don’t think that sperm donors have to love their kids, but the difference between them and men in luke’s situation is that luke n**ted inside of the baby mamas without a rubber-irresponsible.

If a man that has money tells a groupie or girlfriend that he doesn’t want kids, is it realistic to think that the woman will take heed and abort the child? Or would she keep it as her meal ticket? Being a man of luke’s status at the time, I am sure that he knew that the broads didn’t care whether or not he wanted children. So why was he raw-dogging groupies. Why is it the children’s fault?

If a woman has a child with a man that she knows doesn’t want kids, she should kick herself for that, but don’t take it out on the kids. If a man knows that he doesn’t want kids, get a snip-snip or always use a rubber or 2.”
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Why does it make a difference whether he bust in a cup or inside of her? You know females always sayin they on the pill and chit like that so IF that is the case we should “fault” Luke for believing it????

Even if he was “irresponsible” for not putting on a rubber, he fulfilled his **legal** obligation by paying the child support.

WHY SHOULD HE BE FORCED INTO A RELATIONSHIP HE NEVER WANTED? I don’t understand that. What other circumstance is a person FORCED into a relationship they don’t want?

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“You are funny and very entertaining. Why do you tap dance around the questions that you are being asked? Do you have children? Are you male or female? Or what are you? Inquiring minds want to know??”
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I’m “tapdancing” around them because people tend to “consider the messenger” and not “the message.”

I’m trying to avoid that. At the end of the day, I feel

-Luke’s daughter is grown
-Luke paid his child support
-Luke was equivalent to sperm donor and not obligated to a relationship
-Luke’s daughter needs to get over it
-Luke’s daughter could have handled things without going public to shame
-Luke’s daughter should accept the consequences of going public like she did

@CINDERELLA
“ACTUAL sperm donors who deposit sperm at a SPERM BANK shouldn’t be expected to have a relationship with the children that are conceived.
Having unprotected sex with a person you don’t know/don’t have a relationship with isn’t the same as donating sperm.”
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Please, explain the difference.

@KEE KEE 83
“It is sad that you don’t see the difference between bustin in a cup and bustin in a woman. Yes it is Luke’s fault for believing a chick in the same way that it would be a woman’s fault for believing that a man was always going to be there for her and raise their child when the woman didn’t really know the man. Luke is not obligated to love his children. There are plenty of a–holes out here that treat their children like crap because THEY made the mistake and now THEY have to live with it.”
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By all means, please let me know the pertinent differences between bustin in a cup and bustin in this groupie?

You know what, I DO agree it was Luke’s fault for not being more cautious with this woman being in that the laws are set up to black mail. He is completely at fault in that regard. That being he said, he PAID FOR IT, LITEREALLY.

A lot of men that “treat their children like crap because THEY made the mistake” do so do to the fact that unwanted kids are legally forced on them and they resent the child instead of the laws. I don’t believe a man should be FORCED to have a relationship he doesn’t want, but I also don’t think that gives anyone a right to abuse someone else.

@CINDERELLA
“It’s sad that you don’t understand the difference and need an explanation.”
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Well I find it “sad” that it has yet to be “expalined” to me.

Now, I REQUESTED an explanation because I wanted to here people’s rationale. Sadly, I KNEW no one would comply with this request because they know that the truth is, given the scenario, there are no differences. Except for how the act if physically carried out, but in principal, it’s the same. That’s why no one answered and that is sad.

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“If I can get to the core of the person, then I can get a better understanding of the reasons behind you comments. Sometimes people reject the message because of the the person delivering the message can sometimes come off as a hypocrite or the lack thereof….”
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Exactly. A message can stand on it’s own merits. Which is why, for now, I’m ignoring the question. (I’m sure someone will inform you however)

That being said, is there something that I said that you specifically agree/disagree with?

If so, what?

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“I bascially disagree with all of it. But I was just making convo and killing time. If you are that secretive about your gender and whether or not you have children, then maybe there is a bigger issue and maybe you should be the topic for today.. LOL”
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So you believe relationships should be FORCED onto people who don’t want them?????

You agree that Lucreeeeeesha should have gone public to try and shame someone into footing her bills “having a relationshp” with her???

SMH. I tell ya.

And I’m far from secretive. I’ve discussed those questions numerous times on here. I just don’t feel it is pertinent to what I’m saying. Either you agree or you don’t. My personal life shouldn’t influence your determination one way or another.

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“I think you are one to hide behind your computer. You probably didn’t to voice your opinion except when you are here. You probably type things just to see what reaction you will get or who will agree with you. I don’t think that people should forced into loving someone. But I think that A father shouldn’t disown his child. Maybe you hide your personal business because there is a deeper issue going on with you. This computer is a way that you can have control for once in your life. So you say I don’t have to tell my gender if I want to.”
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I think you are one to try to “analyze” those who have a view point vastly different from your own. Perhaps because their viewpoint has a logic that you were aware of, but hoped to never openly acknowledge.

Being threatened by such a thing, one begins to rationalize the possilbe motivations of one that would dare speak of an obvious and ugly truth. The theories abound from “you must be this ugly thing of which you speak” to “you are acting out” or some variation of the like.

Never does one want to acknowledge the pure practicality of what is said.

Yes, a FATHER shouldn’t disown his child, but donating sperm does not make one a “Father.” I’m not sure why you feel I am “hiding” something when I clearly stated that all of your questions have been discussed at length before. Maybe it’s because you don’t want to consider what I am saying.

@MAMACITA
“So you said she needs to suck it up and accept that fact the he doesn’t love her and never wanted her but why can’t he suck it up and accept the fact that he brought a child in this world and HE IS HER FATHER! Isn’t it the same thing….accepting the situation you’ve been given and make the best of it? Why does he get a pass and he doesn’t have to accept HIS REALITY but SHE DOES? Kinda contradictory don’t you think???????”
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HE DID THAT ALREADY! He paid for a child he never agreed to have for 18 years due to the ignorant laws that force him to do it!

What else does he need to do???????????

He accepted the consequences, 18 years of black mail “child support” and moved on. Exactly what else are you proposing that he “accept?”

He should be FORCED to endure a relationship he doens’t want as well? I guess that will be the next “law” to pass. LOL.

SMH.

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“I am sorry that you had a rough childhood, that you were molested, and I am sorry for what you are going through now. But I am not going to tell you to get over it, but rather face it. You don’t have to lash out at anybody, lash out at your own demons.”
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LOL.

Yeah, I must have had a rough childhood and been molested because SURELY there is no basis in the fact that this grown azz woman needs to move on and you can’t force a grown azz man to have a relationship with someone he doesn’t want to have a relationship with.

loooool. I mean, there is absolutely NO WAY there could be in any truth in that…

…coud there?

@KWALL
“Ummm… he did that.”
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“ummmm….no he didn’t. when you do that you NEVER stop.

being a man never stops.
accepting your kid as your own never stops.
the job of a parent never stops.”
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Ok, so in regards to Lucreeeeesha, Luke should ______________.

He has paid his child support, she is 18. Are you saying he should be in her life, when he never wanted her in the first place?

@KWALL
“exactly what else the dude was supposed to do if he didn’t want a relationship with the child.
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have a vasectomy.

wear a condom.”
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And he PAID for that. He can’t change the past. She’s here, he paid for her, and everybody should move on.

What am I missing here?

@SANDRA
“the thing about that is that a child cannot get over the fac that ur father does not want nothing to do with him that child will grown up with self estem issues u will never get over the fact that ur own blood does not love u or accept u….”-Man, I just don’t care™

““the thing about that is that a child cannot get over the fac that ur father does not want nothing to do with him that child will grown up with self estem issues u will never get over the fact that ur own blood does not love u or accept u….”–LAKER CRAZY

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That’s only true in the case of small children. Luke’s kids are fully grown freeloaders who need to get jobs to support themselves. I agree with him that he only has one child — the baby. The rest of his kids are adults.

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AND I agree with you, “…fully grown free loaders who need to get jobs to support themselves…”

@FREE
“man, we have officially reached the time where it makes no sense whatsoever for you to respond any further. it’s pretty clear to me why we have so many lil mouths to feed running around these streets.

i’m just going to say that it saddens me that women feel like it’s ok to have babies with ANYBODY and suddenly expect the guy to become mature, become responsible, become financially stable, and most importantly become loving toward them and the child.

there is a big elephant in the room and this that THIS MOFO SCREWED YOU WITH NO INTENTION OF HAVING A CHILD, YOU KNEW IT, AND YOU SHOULD NOT ABUSE YOUR BODY OR YOUR OFFSPRING BY BRINGING AN UNWANTED CHILD INTO THE WORLD. but you do it anyway because you KNOW you can at least get his money and attention through the court system. if the shoe was on the other foot, the court systems would be empty because men would never have these kids. it ain’t even about the money, THEY DON’T WANT THEM!!! can’t you understand that simple statement?

we use the excuse “he did it with me” too much. that’s a cop out. WE, AS WOMEN, NEED TO DO BETTER BECAUSE LIFE ORIGINATES WITH US. YOU have to look at the innocent child every day and deal with the consequences. YOU have to make a way out of no way. YOU are responsible. that’s why the courts give YOU all the favoritism and leeway. a man actually has to fight for joint custody but automatically gets his funds taken.

ladies, have some f*cking respect for yourself! do you let anybody just do what they want to do to you or do you have a mind of your own? i see all the females talking cash sh*t on here about every other topic but all of a sudden when it comes to babies it’s like, “duh, he put his raw d*ck in me and so well, uh, what’s a girl supposed to do?” it’s really just sad.”
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AMEN AND

I hate it when women try to make it sound like reproduction is 50/50. It may take TWO indredients (sperm/egg) but there is ONE chef (THE WOMAN)!

SHE decides who she sleeps with
SHE decides who she will sleep with raw
SHE decides if a pregnancy goes full term
SHE decides whether she will take BC

Truth be told, men just tryin to bust one. And when you all horny and chit in the moment, you ain’t thankin bout the REST OF YOUR LIFE. The blood from your brain goin to yo’ dyck anyway so you know you ain’t thinking right. Prolly been drinking too.

Women have MONTHS before hand AND afterwards to make reproductive decisions but a man is held EQUALLY liable for this decision.

If I bring ingredients to a cook, ain’t the COOK responsible for the food?

@THA SPINAL TRUTH
“Thinking like that, you are not fit to be a father. God forbids someone thinks of your daughter in that matter and she ends up pregnant, oh but wait, I know you wouldn’t have children. I have figured that out from your comments. Or maybe you have children and don’t take of them because you don’t feel responsible. You are so IGNUT, it’s not even funny, and anybody that cosigns with that ish you say is ignut to.”
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Naw, I’m just tellin you the truth and you know it.

If I have a daughter I will tell her to be prepared to take care of a baby by herself if she wants one. Even if the father WANTS to be around he could pass away unexpectedly. You just never now and it’s best to be prepared. But I guess in this world of “entitlement” no one does that anymore.

Basically just be prepared for life. Chit happens and NOBODY OWES YOU CHIT!

@KWALL
“Yeah, but who is MORE responsible? The person that brought 50% of the ingredients AND COOKED THE FOOD…

…or the person that brought the other 50% and didn’t cook?
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they both are b/c…..

SOMEBODY gotta clean up the gatdayum kitchen after the meal is over.”
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LOL. Whatever! You know I’m speaking the flat out truth. The only reason there are so many “dead beats” is because “wreckless puzzy women” are subsidized to have these kids.

Your tax dollars act as a collection agency for women who slept with people who never agreed to have children with them.

@MAMA CITA
“My friend that is not a fact…that too is your opinion. Parents are responsible for their children. If you don’t agree then so be it but that is what I know so whatever…”
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LOL. What?

Maybe I didn’t state clearly what I mean. Parents CHOOSE to be “responsible” to their children. It isn’t a “necessity” is what I’m saying. Their is an “option.”

1 + 1 = 2, their is no “option.” That’s the answer every single time without deviation. The fact that every child is NOT with their parent is evidence that it is OPTIONAL for a parent to take care of their child. They don’t HAVE to do it, they choose to.

That’s what I meam by “it’s a fact” that no one is “responsible” to anyone else because they always have a choice to NOT be involved with the other person. It’s really indisputable.

LOL, this isn’t about us “agreeing.” At least not on that.

@MAMACITA
“I have failed to see how child support is so evil. Many men CHOOSE to walk away and not support their families. I have a friend who got pregnant and her bf talked her into keeping the child. He said he would be there and step up to the plate. 7 months into the pregnancy he walks away. This is a case where the man WANTED the child and then CHOSE to walk away. Why can’t she make his azz pay child support? So she gets to struggle paying bills while he moves on to a new chick and acts like his daughter doesn’t exist? And she hasn’t seen a dime from him! While you continue to act like child support is such a burden think about all the people who really NEED it to survive. That’s all i’m saying. Not all men are up front about not wanting kids. Some want kids and when the child gets here they realize they aren’t ready. It’s not always black and white.”
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Yes, child support is “evil” because it is a ridiculous “law” in principal and in enforcement. It’s ridiculous in principal because as I stated earlier, the courts have dictated 50/50 LIABILITY where CLEARLY there is not 50/50 RESPONSIBILITY. It is ridiculous in enforcement because the math is indisputable. It is more inefficient, time consuming and costly than other methods.

Now, as for your friend, I always ask single parents: “What would you have done had this person died?” Yeah, that SOUNDS bad, but it’s a question of preparation more than anything else. I can understand her frustration for not receiving a dime and all, but if this guy was to pass away she would be in the SAME BOAT. That tells me she didn’t prepare for the possibility that he wouldn’t be around.
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@MAMACITA
“Yeah she would have to do it by herself if he dies but he’s not dead so what does that have to do with him living 10 minutes away and not even coming to see this child that he convinced her he would there for? He doesn’t even attempt to do anything. I’m sorry but guys like that are why child support was made a law. Too many people walk around making bad decisions with no consequence because they expect someone else to clean up their mess. I ain’t buying it.”
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Like I said, it was question of “preparation” more than anything else. Yeah, he is still here but he might as well be dead (in regards to supporting the child). It’s too bad your friend made a decision based off the word of someone else instead of her own preparation for that decision. I’m sure she won’t do that again.

Child Support laws were created to keep child rearing costs off the back of the taxpayer. The “welfare” of the child was never at the heart of the decision to institute the law, no matter how much anyone tries to convince you otherwise. And like I said, as with all stupid laws, they tend to not work out too well. Just like this hasn’t.