Didn't I tell you Fantasia had mental problems?

Troubled singer Fantasia Barrino was rushed to a N. Carolina hospital last night for treatment of a "medication overdose."

This news comes on the heels of a suit filed by Paula Cook naming Fantasia at fault for breaking up her marriage. Paula Cook included the words 'sex tape' in the legal documents, but Paula's friends say there is no such sex tape.

Fantasia and Mrs. Cook's estranged husband, Antwuan Cook, have carried on a very public affair for almost a year.

Yesterday, Fantasia's reps rushed to deny the accusations against Fantasia, painting her as next to godly with the heart of a pure Saint. Sometime later, Fantasia swallowed the pills.

Im not surprised that Fantasia took such drastic action. Some people with Borderline personality Disorder will swallow just enough pills to make themselves sick in a desperate bid to gain sympathy.

I'm not saying this is the case with Fantasia. We here at Sandrarose.com wish Fantasia a speedy recovery.

According to the report, Barrino was taken to Carolinas Medical Center-Pineville around 8:55 PM ... the report says her condition was not life-threatening.

According to the report, it's unclear whether the OD was intentional or accidental.

As we previously reported -- Barrino was recently accused of making a sex tape with a married man and destroying his marriage.Read More...

Thanks to loyal reader Tamara for the tip!

  • cedramyers

    Fantasia was setup by the husband and wife. All of a sudden the wife has a sex tape of her and Fanny and her husband. It was a setup from the get go. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ money talks.

  • spongebobfan

    wow fanny. if you cant take the heat stay out the kitchen. if you gonna be scandalous, do so and forget the haters. dont crack.
    i wish you well fanny. you do have a daughter that should be above this mess.

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Sandra I don't think you can guage how many pills to take to make yourself sick

  • kearalove

    Im not surprised that Fantasia took such drastic action. Some people with Borderline personality Disorder will swallow just enough pills to make themselves sick in a desperate bid to gain sympathy.
    :cosign:

    She did what was necessary to put the spotlight back on her, esp. with that new album getting ready to come out. Homewreckers' albums do not sell well-- ask The Nightmare.

    #TeamPaulaCook right here :cheer:

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    So sad...she's in my prayers...

  • Danielle84

    :pray: for Fantasia! I really hope this was accidental and had nothing to do with that Cook guy because she has a child to think about. I wish her all the best with this whole situation.

  • lacountrygirl

    I have no sympathy for women who step out with married men, IF, it's true she knew he was married (including a "troubled" marriage). Myself included...

    #getithowyoulive

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    She isn't inteligent enough to know how many pills to take and how 2 versus 12 is gonna affect her body

  • lacountrygirl

    kearalove says:

    Im not surprised that Fantasia took such drastic action. Some people with Borderline personality Disorder will swallow just enough pills to make themselves sick in a desperate bid to gain sympathy.

    She did what was necessary to put the spotlight back on her, esp. with that new album getting ready to come out. Homewreckers’ albums do not sell well– ask The Nightmare.

    #TeamPaulaCook right here
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    LMBO @ "The Nightmare"

  • Danielle84

    I can care less about the next woman's home. Fantasia and Alicia Keys are great entertainers. Whatever they do in their personal life has nothing to do with me because it doesn't affect me personally :coffee:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    New Album coming out and a scandalous affair is brought to light, records sales to spike soon after.

    All part of the "Hollywood Formula" followed by A. Keys, Monica, Keyshia Cole, Mary J. Blige, Etc.

    Ain't nothing wrong with that hoe. :no:

  • cheeks8683

    Well...I'm sure it was accidental. Prolly couldn't read the bottle....I know I'm wrong for that!!!!

  • HALLE’S MUM

    @ MAn
    Ain’t nothing wrong with that hoe.

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    :dead: , :rofl:

  • spongebobfan

    i, however, dont agree with the NC law that blames the woman.

  • http://myspace.com/theflyestmom Nekita

    You know what..............

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    Damn I so don't wanna be mean but I am WTF she is DUMB as a box of rocks...she know her azz thinks she cute and really not so if she phoning ppls wives and talking ish then trying off herself I say LET THE GIRL BE!

  • buddapecan

    SURELY there was a better picture of Tasia you could have used! ROFL

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    Wow! :blink: I can't help but worry about her daughter and how terrified she must be. No matter how bad life may get, it's never worth taking your life especially when you risk the possibility of leaving innocent children behind. In my opinion, it's a coward's way out. As someone up top mentioned, you got yourself into the situation; deal with the consequences of your choice. I pray she's ok and uses this time to get her mind together. She has a daughter depending on her.

  • Anna

    I hope she gets it together for Zion's sake. I have nothing mean to say. :lol:

  • spongebobfan

    i always felt differently about this situation than a keys. im on the part that swizz marriage was already over and he fell for a keys (hell he fathered a child right before he got with a keys while still married) swizz and keys dated fell in love and when his marrage was dont, they got married. some people think its wrong. but i wont wait till a piece of paper tells me i can date.
    now in fanny case from what i read. she met dude in a tmobile store, dude was happily married and they started a affair based on him wanting to bang a celeb for money or what not, and fanny think dude is cute. she got turned out by dude(bug ugly tattoo) and now all of this is catching up to her. sads:(

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    It's no use in harboring hate and saying 'She got what she deserved.' You may not have sympathy, but there are many people who have hearts. I'm not excusing her from sleeping with a married man. But it's pathetic to wish harm on her when WE ALL have done some crazy things and made mistakes.

  • CivilEngineer

    This some....#hoeshyt

  • lourie

    @ spongebob

    If the wife sued under the "alienation of affection" law that has nothing to do with the outside party being male or female. Either a wife or husband can sue an outsider based upon that law. It's usually used by spurned spouses to go after outsiders who are believed to have money though poor people can be sued, too, if your state has that law.

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Queen
    No one wished harm on her but her damnself I didn't put those pills down her throat we are commenting on how dumb the whole thing is..

  • http://myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

    I think she cracked under the pressure. Plus I'm sure all this negative publicity is hurting her relationship. Like I said, poor thang. She know not what she do.

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    This some….#hoeshyt
    __________
    :rofl:

  • buddapecan

    spongebobfan says:
    i, however, dont agree with the NC law that blames the woman.
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    The plantiff (wife) has to prove that the mistress caused the dissolve of the married. So if the man is still with the mistress at the time of the divorce, if there is a "tape" or any other evidence of his shady behavior during the marriage...case closed. *shrug*

  • MS.G

    I haven't been on here in awhile...and now i remember why...i can't believe you all on here! leave that girl alone...she may be in the entertainment biz...but she's human just like the rest of us...don't tell me ya'll shit don't stink either!...She was rised in the church so she's protected...the devil just has demons coming at her left and right! So what she fell for a LOSER...that's something she has to deal with! Instead of beating the girl up try up lifting her and praying for her and her family! IGNORANT AZZ BLACK FOLK!

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Oh Fanny!! You poor little, mentally challenged hoe. I hope that you get well soon. I've known bishes with good sense that have done this same type shit. At least you are slow.

    Get your finances in order because you will be paying this Mrs Cook & Co.
    I feel bad for you though. Yeah, you are trifling but you obviously have no self worth. You doing all this behind a married t-mobile dude. He aint even the Verizon geek with the network behind him. SMH at you boo.

    Get well soon :cry:

  • peanutbuttercup

    Fantasia is a classic case of someone with BDP, especially with this new development of her taking pills. She is totally playing the victim.

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    :pray: she gets better and works out this mess she's in. I said it yesterday but I'll say it again anyway that woman's issue needs to be with her husband, eff what the law says she can do, unless Fanny held a gun to her husbands head and said nigga you gonna eff me or else, she didn't break up that home. The man who stood at the alter and said vows with her did and I doubt she would have blasted another womans name all through the divorce documents if he cheated with anyone else but since Fantasia is famous and she wants sympathy she put her name everywhere and will probably try to sue. Not saying Fantasia was right to sleep with this womans husband but God will deal with her, damaging her name, career and public image is so not cool. I don't care what it is I'm not putting all my personal business out in the streets for some revenge that isn't even gonna take the pain away and make me look bad. And if she's lying about the tape, she just committed a crime and Fantasia needs to sue her ass right back

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    I haven’t been on here in awhile…and now i remember why…i can’t believe you all on here! leave that girl alone…she may be in the entertainment biz…but she’s human just like the rest of us…don’t tell me ya’ll **** don’t stink either!…She was rised in the church so she’s protected…the devil just has demons coming at her left and right! So what she fell for a LOSER…that’s something she has to deal with! Instead of beating the girl up try up lifting her and praying for her and her family! IGNORANT AZZ BLACK FOLK!
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    Please join Tasia and taking said pills ppl don't have to be on her side leave folks be you are IGNORANT for thinking you can tell us how to feel GTFOD

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    At least you are slow.
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    :rofl:

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    Verizon geek with the network behind him. SMH at you boo.
    __________________
    :rofl: you on a roll :rofl:

  • Ebony

    This some fatal attraction shyt right here. Next they'll be a bunny boiling on the stove. I hope she didn't try to kill herself because she does have a child :blink:

  • kearalove

    cheeks8683 says:

    Well…I’m sure it was accidental. Prolly couldn’t read the bottle….I know I’m wrong for that!!!!
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    Bye bye Cheeks... to the :kona: you need to go... :lol:

  • Princess Smarty-Pants

    @Al (and whiomever) :offtopic: I just read a book called Sunday's Child, it's the first of a trilogy written by Tom Lewis. (I have the second one but haven't started yet and the third one isn't available on Kindle yet) Great read, but I am now in the middle of a book called Still Missing. Interesting concept. What're you reading?

  • MS.G

    Sorry chicky...but i'm covered...only pills i'll ever take are One A Day's...it's obvious that you have problems anytime u come back with something negative especially when someone is talking about being covered in the blood and prayer!...

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    Feel better Tasia!

    :cheer1: Team Fantasia Fan

  • Shauny

    Damn girl, forget the fallout over not keeping your legs clothes to married men, think about your child. I hope this wasn't interntional.

    SMH@ saying his wife set Fanny up. So his wife just knew that her T Mobile employed hubby was going to be to good to refuse and Fannie would lose all good sense and go getting tatts, buying bikes, nice trips, red carpets and she was going to what....be humiliated for being the woman left for Tasia...come better.

    From what I read about the wife she's educated and a teacher soon to be principal hopeful, I don't see it. Hell with Fanny's money woes and her having like 7 dependents outside of her child, she may end up catching up funds wise :shrug:

  • birdofbeauty09

    :cosign: with spongebobfan first post. You can't display your relationship w/a married man and NOT expact backlash to come.

    I :pray: she recovers like many have said, she has a daughter to think about...

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Not the boiled rabbit @ Ebony!! LMAO

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKKxPtP6XjQ renegadesince1985

    You doing all this behind a married t-mobile dude. He aint even the Verizon geek with the network behind him.

    :rofl: Can you hear me now??? Goooooodddd

  • whatdoesitmatter

    wow, that chick crazy, huh? Get it together Fanny you have a daughter to take care of.

  • kearalove

    renegadesince1985 says:

    You doing all this behind a married t-mobile dude. He aint even the Verizon geek with the network behind him.

    Can you hear me now??? Goooooodddd

    :rofl:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    All this ova a nigga at T-mobile?
    :shrugs:

  • buddapecan

    Ms. Everything says:
    Not saying Fantasia was right to sleep with this womans husband but God will deal with her, damaging her name, career and public image is so not cool. I don’t care what it is I’m not putting all my personal business out in the streets for some revenge that isn’t even gonna take the pain away and make me look bad.
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    What about the wife's name, career and public image? She's a school teacher and she has a family. I'm sure she's embarrased that her husband is walking hand in hand with Fantasia for everybody to see. The court documents are public knowledge and Tasia is a celebrity so that's why this is in the news. I have a friend who sued her husband's mistress and they broke! LOL! I think it's about the principal of the matter...knowing he was married and sleeping with him anyway. Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, "A man can't cheat unless he have someone to cheat with."

  • kearalove

    If Fanny ain't want this drama, she shouldn't have gotten tat-tat-tatted up w/ Cookie's name blazing on her tittay, then put em out on display for the world to see. :shrug:

  • ajonesy

    i'm convinced.

    anyone who doesn't agree with being able to sue (the other man or woman) and is ok with fannys actions - is single or unmarried.

    seriously.

    tis all.

  • MS.G

    how ya'll know it's over him...it could be everything...family...baby daddy, friends...who knows what the girl has going on! Sandra put out there and ya'll run with it! it's one thing to gossip about their weave, clotes, etc...but someone's health ain't no joking matter!

  • CivilEngineer

    You get what you pay for? Should have went to AT&T...coulda got an iPhone and a single man

  • http://smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

    If she was serious, she'd be DEAD. Point blank and period.

    Now, I do have a problem with the fact that Fantasia's homewrecking made front page news, but Alicia's is being swept under the rug. Why is that Sandra? Is it because Alicia is LSLH????

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @MsG
    blah blah I have a problem with ppl trying to censor others -

  • kwall

    AND somewhere in Charlotte....Paula Sloan Cook is drinking herself a big ole glass of vino...Do dirt and get dirt.

    Hopefully if there is a problem she will get the help she needs. This is kinda drastic over a gay looking T-Mobile Kappa from Wilmington....but also timely in that...ain't she dropping an album? Hopefully this IS for publicity...but again...if it ain't....

    #gethelp

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    And I just read the comments, some of y'all are cruel... regardless of the mistakes/bad choices she's made she's somebodies child, sister and most importantly mother who got hospitalized be it life threatening or not. Just because people are celebs does not make them immune to mistakes and doesn't make them immune to criticism. People all over the place were going hard as hell on this girl yesterday, this story made CNN and all the network news can you imagine how that must feel? Its like the girls who slept with a guy in hs and got labeled a hoe and teased non stop, those girls od too and then people get emotional and say bullying has to stop but what the hell is this? You never know what somebody else is going through til shyt like this happens

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    Danielle84 says:

    I can care less about the next woman’s home. Fantasia and Alicia Keys are great entertainers. Whatever they do in their personal life has nothing to do with me because it doesn’t affect me personally

    :cosign: :cosign:

  • MS.G

    Aye Choco...BITCH BTFU...if you feelin a certain kinda way about urself ONLINE...that's cool...but don't come for me! where all adults here ur comments are just that...yours!

  • cheeks8683

    SugarPieHoneybunn says:

    Oh Fanny!! You poor little, mentally challenged hoe. I hope that you get well soon. I’ve known bishes with good sense that have done this same type ****. At least you are slow.

    Get your finances in order because you will be paying this Mrs Cook & Co.
    I feel bad for you though. Yeah, you are trifling but you obviously have no self worth. You doing all this behind a married t-mobile dude. He aint even the Verizon geek with the network behind him. SMH at you boo.

    Get well soon
    ___________________________________________________________________

    LMBO!!!! Could have at least messed with someone who worked in the apple store so she could have gotten the hook up on the i-phones and the i-pads...

  • MS.G

    Ms. Everything says:

    And I just read the comments, some of y’all are cruel… regardless of the mistakes/bad choices she’s made she’s somebodies child, sister and most importantly mother who got hospitalized be it life threatening or not. Just because people are celebs does not make them immune to mistakes and doesn’t make them immune to criticism. People all over the place were going hard as hell on this girl yesterday, this story made CNN and all the network news can you imagine how that must feel? Its like the girls who slept with a guy in hs and got labeled a hoe and teased non stop, those girls od too and then people get emotional and say bullying has to stop but what the hell is this? You never know what somebody else is going through til shyt like this happens
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    :cosign: that's all i'm saying!

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    @Choco

    Okay, so you've never made a mistake. You've never done anything dumb. You've never made a bad decision. You've never had to overcome anything. Girl please. It's necessary to be critical of others (especially since this is a blog) but what you and a few others are saying is just sad...

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @MsG
    IMO you came for me I'm one the ones talkin ish about the situation I'm not ignorant cuz I don't have your POV- I know my comments are mine so Y are calling ppl ignorant black folks you are that to me! Enuf of this leave me alone

  • Shauny

    Teeny - quit preaching on here and gone somewhere and visit your sister. Tell her love from the SR family

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    MS.G says:

    Ms. Everything says:

    And I just read the comments, some of y’all are cruel… regardless of the mistakes/bad choices she’s made she’s somebodies child, sister and most importantly mother who got hospitalized be it life threatening or not. Just because people are celebs does not make them immune to mistakes and doesn’t make them immune to criticism. People all over the place were going hard as hell on this girl yesterday, this story made CNN and all the network news can you imagine how that must feel? Its like the girls who slept with a guy in hs and got labeled a hoe and teased non stop, those girls od too and then people get emotional and say bullying has to stop but what the hell is this? You never know what somebody else is going through til shyt like this happens
    ————————————————————————-
    :cosign: that’s all i’m saying!
    _______________________________________________________________
    Agreed... :yes:

  • kearalove

    kwall says:

    Hopefully if there is a problem she will get the help she needs. This is kinda drastic over a gay looking T-Mobile Kappa from Wilmington….but also timely in that…ain’t she dropping an album? Hopefully this IS for publicity…but again…if it ain’t….
    ____________
    From what I've heard, 'Twaun 'Twaun got some :gay: secrets in the closet that's ready to spill out...maybe Fanny finally heard a few of em? :shrug:

  • aniyvwiya

    Sandra, you just got done calling her out mainly for having "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" and now in this post you are exclusively mentioning "Borderline Personality Disorder." Is it your opinion that these two diagnoses are comorbid or what?
    If she overdosed half-heartedly or with the intention of killing herself, all it is definitive proof of is an adjustment disorder. Suicide attempts/actual suicide are indeed common among sufferers of BPD. Self-mutilation is one of the most common features, but wrongly attributed by some as a "cry for help." I began self-mutilating at 13 and kept it hidden from everyone successfully for a few years until my aunt, a registered nurse, noticed cuts on my arms and didn't buy my story about having reached into the dishwasher accidentally cutting myself on knives pointing upwards...
    I cut to release and to see the blood, to remind myself that I was alive, but found it embarrassing to tell anyone about. If a friend found out I played it off like I was just real hardcore or something, lol. Going to the ER for a wound that was accidentally too extreme [adipose tissue bulging out of my forearm!] I was MORTIFIED. I did not get off on the sympathy, I was constantly trying to downplay my actions with self-deprecating humor, I didn't want special treatment, I apologized to the doctor for having to waste his time stitching up some idiot who would have the nerve to cut herself in such a way and I MEANT it.
    You seem to characterize BPD too closely with Antisocial Personality Disorder and NPD, which you know is a polarizing matter. APD and NPD are two disorders that basically condemn individuals to being unworthy of sympathy, understanding, or patience. That in itself is troubling, especially because this view is reflected in the behavior and attitudes of MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS, to see you try to include BPD into the condemned lot is really offensive.
    We all want to believe in monsters, and now that Great White Sharks are letting us hitch rides on their fins and vampires sparkle in the sunlight, I guess it's convenient to turn our sights to psychological disorders. The problem with that is that diagnostic standards change infinitely, and we still can't figure out why some diagnosed "psychopaths" are non-violent even though they supposedly lack all empathy for other human beings while other psychopaths kill prolifically. In fact, plenty of murderers can't even be diagnosed as psychopaths, go figure, right? The point is, there is so much gray area even in the most extreme personality disorders that to trot out pop-scientific theories about celebrities and condemn them for lesser disorders when you don't even know them personally much less in the capacity of a mental health professional, and in the same breath condemn an entire group of people who actually do suffer from the disorder is so bigoted and irresponsible.
    I agree that people should be wary of individuals who display narcissistic and antisocial personality traits, and I agree that some people with BPD can be described as displaying antisocial/narcissistic personality traits. HOWEVER, antisocial/narcissistic personality traits are not a requisite aspect of Borderline Personality Disorder, so why the blurred definitions?

    http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.com/main/dsmiv.htm

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Queen
    Yep yep and yep and guess what ppl would and could talk about it RIGHT!

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Oh some real type shyt, Fanstasia is a typical broad with no self-esteem. You cant buy that shyt with all the money in the world. That's why, SOMETIMES, I have a special place in my heart for some hoes. They aint out there screwing around because they like to fukk. They really be wanting some attention and will do ANY and EVERTHING to get it. They really believe that ATTENTION=LOVE. :nono:

    Its really sad but this is why some women cant and wont get along with other women. Its too many bishes out here who are willing to do ANYTHING to get a man. A bish will get out the bed in the middle of the night to bail a BROKE nicca out of jail but wont take her homegirl to the store to get some groceries for her kids. #realshyt

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Keara
    Thank you I was already like y are yall fighting over a man who likes men!

  • BROWNSUGAPOET

    Smokie I know people that have tried to shoot themselves in the head and the gun jammed or some kinda way the bullet moved and they are still alive so you can't say if she was erious she would be dead

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    Oh my @ Shauny!! Not Teeny!!! :rofl:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SIetxPjTBs CorporateHoodB-tch

    CivilEngineer says:

    You get what you pay for? Should have went to AT&T…coulda got an iPhone and a single man
    ____________________________________

    :rofl: ROTFLMBAO!!! :rofl:

  • aqtpie

    I highly doubt that he and the wife had a strong & happy marriage. IMO HAPPILY married people don't cheat!!! I can't stand home wrecking enablers and home wreckers "the ones who stepped out on their spouses" even less but I don't wish attempting/suicide on anyone. I hope she and Zion are okay!!!

  • ajonesy

    Just because people are celebs does not make them immune to mistakes and doesn’t make them immune to criticism.

    _____

    i have made tons of mistakes, but sleeping with someone's man was never one of them. it ain't hard to figure out.

    and yeah she's someones mother, sister and daughter. but she didnt care about any of that so why should why should the public?

    please step your soapboxes people.

  • buddapecan

    SugarPieHoneybunn says:
    Oh some real type shyt, Fanstasia is a typical broad with no self-esteem. You cant buy that shyt with all the money in the world. That’s why, SOMETIMES, I have a special place in my heart for some hoes. They aint out there screwing around because they like to fukk. They really be wanting some attention and will do ANY and EVERTHING to get it. They really believe that ATTENTION=LOVE.
    Its really sad but this is why some women cant and wont get along with other women. Its too many bishes out here who are willing to do ANYTHING to get a man. A bish will get out the bed in the middle of the night to bail a BROKE nicca out of jail but wont take her homegirl to the store to get some groceries for her kids. #realshyt
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    :preach:

  • ajonesy

    *please step off your soapboxes people.

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    @Buddapecan, I've been there and I'm not saying she's not humiliated or hurt I know she is but what's the point of suing the other woman? Honestly, hell at least fighting you get some aggression out but suing you might get a couple dollars and you just created a huge legal problem and wasting tax payer dollars behind a sorry ass man that's probably been cheating with more than one. All women should respect themselves not to do another womans man but at the same time she married him not Fantasia, he broke the vows not Fantasia, he humiliated his wife, not Fantasia, he chose to go places where he'd be photographed with her, not Fantasia. He did that so he should be the one paying. It was his marriage. Plus she didn't do anything wrong, public sympathy will already go to her in this, her career isn't ruined and won't be by this BUT Fantasia's career is already in trouble and dependant on her fans image of her. She can't get a job, singing is all she can really do, take that away and she can't feed her child. I mean I've been in the wifes shoes and worse but at the same time this right here is pointless. Her real anger needs to be with him, her lawyers time and resources need to be on getting her a good divorce from him not on including Fantasia. And Sandra said her friends said she doesn't have a tape, but she put that in the documents so if she lied just to further tarnish this womans career she just screwed herself, blew her own case and that will affect her job and standing in the community. Imo some things just aren't worth it period, the best revenge is moving on and doing better. Hell let Fantasia keep his cell phone slanging ass, id be passing him off giving her his stuff in trashbags and telling her to have fun taking care of his trifiling ass

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    please step off your soapboxes people.
    :clap:

  • lacountrygirl

    Choco says:

    @MsG
    IMO you came for me I’m one the ones talkin ish about the situation I’m not ignorant cuz I don’t have your POV- I know my comments are mine so Y are calling ppl ignorant black folks you are that to me! Enuf of this leave me alone
    __________________________

    :cosign:

  • CivilEngineer

    Like Fanny's mama told her back in high school, "baby, you gotta work what cha got to get what cha want"

    So she got a bottle of pills and worked them :yes:

    I do hope she's ok though, learn from the dumb stuff...it makes you smarter!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Hi aniyvwiya:
    I edited your comment because it was way too long and contained information that goes way over some of my readers heads. It is not necessary for you to write a book. I have a nursing degree and you are still in school. So I am not debating you.

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    “Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.” Benjamin Franklin

    How do we(the public) know the details of Alicia Keys and this Fantasia fiasco other than what we have read or seen on TV.

    SEPERATED= NOT TOGETHER

  • 2cents

    The crazy part about all of this is had this been an everyday woman you would not be hearing about it, but this GED, illilterate b*tch gonna be getting appearance fees to discuss her "breakdown".. I aint mad at you Tasia..*thinkingwhythef&ckdididgotocollegeagain*

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    @Choco

    Of course. People talk all day every day. But what I'm saying is that, for your wrongdoings, you would not want anyone condemning, constantly ridiculing and harboring hate towards you.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    SugarPieHoneybunn says:

    Oh some real type shyt, Fanstasia is a typical broad with no self-esteem. You cant buy that shyt with all the money in the world. That’s why, SOMETIMES, I have a special place in my heart for some hoes. They aint out there screwing around because they like to fukk. They really be wanting some attention and will do ANY and EVERTHING to get it. They really believe that ATTENTION=LOVE.

    Its really sad but this is why some women cant and wont get along with other women. Its too many bishes out here who are willing to do ANYTHING to get a man. A bish will get out the bed in the middle of the night to bail a BROKE nicca out of jail but wont take her homegirl to the store to get some groceries for her kids. #realshyt
    *********
    So true! I just feel bad for Fantasia. Honestly, I don't think she had a clue things were going to get THIS bad. Having a "little" fun will always cost you big in the long run. :yes:

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    This is just sad. What they really need to do is get this child some mental help. #deadserious

    It's clear that mental issues run in her family. The reality show showed us that. A man is the least of her problems. Her issues run deaper than that.

    She will keep on having problems until she gets some help. She was raised in the chruch but it seems that she cant get in touch with her holy side right now. She needs a psychiatrist. :yes:

  • MS.G

    Choco says:

    @MsG
    IMO you came for me I’m one the ones talkin ish about the situation I’m not ignorant cuz I don’t have your POV- I know my comments are mine so Y are calling ppl ignorant black folks you are that to me! Enuf of this leave me alone

    -------------------------------------------------------------------------
    So that's how ya'll get down in here...leave me alone!...nuff said! lol...u have a good one sweetie

  • Shauny

    I can’t stand home wrecking enablers and home wreckers “the ones who stepped out on their spouses”
    ********************************************
    :cosign: The trifling spouse that cheats or the tramp male or female that becomes the 3rd party in a marrige (good/bad/ugly)...THEY'RE STILL MARRIED. Keep it moving til it's done

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Ms. Everything says:

    And Sandra said her friends said she doesn’t have a tape, but she put that in the documents so if she lied just to further tarnish this womans career she just screwed herself, blew her own case and that will affect her job and standing in the community.
    ________________________

    That's what I was told; that there is no sex tape. So if she indeed claimed there was a sex tape, then she can be held in contempt of court.

  • PAHairston

    Hello All. Over the years, I've known of at least 5 ministers, from DC to VA, who've had sex with a member of their church and got them pregnant! Men of the cloth!! Now that's a disgrace before God! That said, I wonder how many on here has snuck around with a married man? How did Jesus put it: Let the man without sin cast the first stone. I wish Fantasia well. May she get well and stay strong for her daughter and for herself. That is all.

  • ajonesy

    actually

    SEPARATED = STILL MARRIED last time i checked.

    #noshade #imjustsaying

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Aniy
    Wow you shared a lot and thank you for the background info do you speak to groups about this illness like have forums?

  • http://youtube.com/hushvisionfilms BK2ATLMAN

    Damn, i been hiding in the other post.. lol didn't even see this one.. DAMN out of all the pics thats the best you can find @Sandra :blunt:

  • ajonesy

    @ PAHairston

    lmao where? i need names lol

  • Shauny

    Is Fannie getting all of this media attention for the lawsuit though? Because I've heard (and I'll have to go look this up) that wife ISN'T suing for anything other than spousal and child support.

    If that's the case why if Fannie on Nancy Grace, Inside Edition, US Weekly, Yahoo, EVERYWHERE but AKeys was NO WHERE? Guess her money isn't long enough

  • lacountrygirl

    If tasia KNEW what she was getting into then she deserves all the backlash she is getting. I don't want her to die and wish her well. BUT...if you make your bed, then lay in it. You don't make a year long mistake or yell it's one when you get caught. The wife does have beef with her if tasia mae knew. Just like tasia mae has a family so does the wife and her kid. She is NOT the victim. The wife and child are victims of tasia and :gay: . I am sincere when I say I wish her well though.

  • CivilEngineer

    :claps: @aniyvwiya...for posting the longest comment EVER!

  • http://twitter.com/Queensj QueenSJ

    Ms. Everything says:

    @Buddapecan, I’ve been there and I’m not saying she’s not humiliated or hurt I know she is but what’s the point of suing the other woman? Honestly, hell at least fighting you get some aggression out but suing you might get a couple dollars and you just created a huge legal problem and wasting tax payer dollars behind a sorry ass man that’s probably been cheating with more than one. All women should respect themselves not to do another womans man but at the same time she married him not Fantasia, he broke the vows not Fantasia, he humiliated his wife, not Fantasia, he chose to go places where he’d be photographed with her, not Fantasia. He did that so he should be the one paying. It was his marriage. Plus she didn’t do anything wrong, public sympathy will already go to her in this, her career isn’t ruined and won’t be by this BUT Fantasia’s career is already in trouble and dependant on her fans image of her. She can’t get a job, singing is all she can really do, take that away and she can’t feed her child. I mean I’ve been in the wifes shoes and worse but at the same time this right here is pointless. Her real anger needs to be with him, her lawyers time and resources need to be on getting her a good divorce from him not on including Fantasia. And Sandra said her friends said she doesn’t have a tape, but she put that in the documents so if she lied just to further tarnish this womans career she just screwed herself, blew her own case and that will affect her job and standing in the community. Imo some things just aren’t worth it period, the best revenge is moving on and doing better. Hell let Fantasia keep his cell phone slanging ass, id be passing him off giving her his stuff in trashbags and telling her to have fun taking care of his trifiling ass
    ________________________________________________________________
    :preach:

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    So that’s how ya’ll get down in here…leave me alone!…nuff said! lol…u have a good one sweetie
    ___________________
    You have a condescending tone and for real who is yall this is between us and not even- yeah you know what leave me alone means right JUST THAT
    You have a good one also sweetie :rollseyes:

  • http://youtube.com/hushvisionfilms BK2ATLMAN

    She should of known better then to trust a man with a name like Antwuan :gay:

  • SangriaSugar

    :think:

    WOW...SMDH

    How in the world do ya'll know this was over him??? Please explain that to me....

    For all ya'll know she could have been having trouble sleeping and has a presciption but it wasn't helping so she took another pill to help out.

    OOOHHH and all the e-psychologists/e-psychiatrists need to stop acting like they know whats up...unless you have a degree in the chit don't diagnose

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    for posting the longest comment EVER!
    ++++++++

    Not true... there are more

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Sandra, you just got done calling her out mainly for having “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” and now in this post you are exclusively mentioning “Borderline Personality Disorder.” Is it your opinion that these two diagnoses are comorbid or what?
    ____________________________

    Yes, the two diagnoses are very similar and fall within the same category. :rolleyes:

    Edited:

    I did not call her out for having NPD. As you can see, I titled yesterday's post Borderline Personality Disorder. I used NPD and BPD interchangeably within my post because they are very similar, as is antisocial personality disorder. My readers are smart enough to read up on each disorder for themselves. I am not a psychiatrist and I have never examined Fantasia, but I came damn close to guessing out what her mental issue was.

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    CivilEngineer says:
    @aniyvwiya…for posting the longest comment EVER!
    _____________________________________
    LMAO!!!!

  • ajonesy

    for all of you who like playing captain save a h.o.e, you are on the wrong blog.

    sorry.

    #clickclosetoexit

  • http://youtube.com/hushvisionfilms BK2ATLMAN

    :cosign: SangriaSugar online psychologists, got their degrees from Wiki

  • http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?ref=profile&id=1335451522 therapist1911

    The sad thing is most of you believe everything you read on a gossip site. 50% of this is true...prehaps. just know Fantasia is not as bad as most of you think. But I'm not here to defend or make anyone a believer.

    I just hope she make a full recovery. The sad thing if it was Fantasia it would be another woman. I hope Mrs. Cooke can heal as well. And all kids involved.

    Some of you are cruel but at least you are consistent.

  • SugarPieHoneybunn

    PAHairston says:
    I wonder how many on here has snuck around with a married man? How did Jesus put it: Let the man without sin cast the first stone. I wish Fantasia well. May she get well and stay strong for her daughter and for herself. That is all.
    ____________________
    :preach:

  • http://youtube.com/hushvisionfilms BK2ATLMAN

    You don't want that, All those stones, the site would be down.. :shotsfired1:

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Queen
    I'm not apart of this equation - Fantasia is a public figure who publicly dated a married man and publicly had his name tattooeed on her so I don't get where you are going with this it doesn't matter that I wouldn't want ppl talking about me the reality of it is that ppl will...

  • CivilEngineer

    :yawn: enough e-banging...have the kids gone back to school in Atlanta?

  • PAHairston

    For what it's worth, I met my husband during his second separation. On their 3rd anniversary, he can home and his wife was packing and took their 2 yr old and left. Their first separation lasted 3 yrs, no tipping back and forth, no hooking up for sex, nothing. After 3 yrs, they briefly got back together and after about 6 months, he came home and the locks were changed. I met him 3 yrs after their second separation and he had no intention of going back to her, EVER. Yet she told me once: You didn't give my marriage a chance to work. Yeah? Not in my book. She didn't want him and to this day, 14 yrs later, hasn't gotten over the fact that HE filed for divorce. It's the choicest we make in life but truth be told, if I had to do it over again? My Momma, God rest her soul, told me that I would have this woman in my back pocket for the next 17 yrs! I had a very, very wise mother, God rest her soul! Again, the choices we make in life often come back to haunt us!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    ajonesy says:

    for all of you who like playing captain save a h.o.e, you are on the wrong blog.
    sorry.
    #clickclosetoexit
    ______________________

    :coffee:

  • lakercrazy

    ok im just going to walk out of this chit right here why is there so many looooooong azz coments?? are people preaching again??? hope fantasia has a full recovery and gets her mind right and wasent she the one that couldnt spell so how can she read the dam prescription bottle???

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    for all of you who like playing captain save a h.o.e, you are on the wrong blog.
    ____________
    :rofl: Right like okay we all feel our own way but need to be chastised cuz we are not playing nice WTF

  • MS.G

    Look if the girl likes married men that's between her and God....personally ive never been with someone else's man...husband whatever! i've been approached plenty of times but my mother taught me well...and i teach my daughter the same thing at 12...u never want what someone else has...just bcs it looks good doesn't mean that it is! what's sad is how everyone is blaming Tasia...but y is this Ni*** gettin away with this...the truth of the matter is he probably doesn't want either one of them...so who cares!

  • Starr

    I hope it was not intentional...but timing has me raising my brows.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    PAHairston says:

    Yet she told me once: You didn’t give my marriage a chance to work.
    ________________________

    She was right; you wouldn't want someone to do that to you. Think about it... we have to start treating people the way we would want to be treated. It's not that hard.

  • PAHairston

    But remember: it takes 2 to make a marriage and 2 to break one.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Starr says:

    I hope it was not intentional…but timing has me raising my brows.
    ________________________

    It was intentional -- it was intended to gain sympathy. It's called manipulative behavior.

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    @ajones its not a soapbox but we don't know what this man said to her when they got together, we don't know their history whether she found out after it came out that he was married but had already fallen, we don't know so why judge. Hell this man could've been saying his wife was a crazy stalker baby mama who couldn't understand its over but wishing harm, or saying she deserves whatever she's going through now without the facts is way too much. Everytime one of these stories comes out everyone takes one side and runs with it but you can not break up a happy home period. The only people who can break up any relationship, happy or bad, are the people who are in that relationship.

    And yes, I'm single now but I was married and my husband cheated but my issue was always with him until I left at the end. They weren't the ones committed to me, he was. I took issue with two, one because I almost lost the baby I was carrying behind her telling lies and the other because she knew me personally but in both cases I wasn't about to risk myself and me being around my kids by fighting the broads and I wouldn't have sued. They both got theirs in the end without me having to do a damn thing. The last one just finished calling and apologizing to me for doing what she did cause now she has him and sees what I had to deal with and the other one he took care of on his own. Why waste time you could spend working and healing yourself so you can move on to better things and people by suing and going after a person who doesn't owe you shyt? Fantasia didn't make or break one commitment to her it was her husband who did :shrugs:

  • cheeks8683

    Ok so I've made mistakes (talking about people, lied, maybe hurt a few feelings--but only if they did something first). But never have I messed with anyone who is married, heck if a dude had a gf I tossed him the duces cause its just wrong...So uhhh is it ok if I thow my pebble lol??? Ok I'ma stop I'm really praying for the girl. This whole hollywood thing can get crazy and if u don't have the right people surrounding u telling u are worth something u will fall for anything (in this case a light-skinned customer service rep a t-mobile). She just needs new people...:shrugs:

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    ajonesy says:

    actually

    SEPARATED = STILL MARRIED last time i checked.

    #noshade #imjustsayin

    ummm SEPERATED DOES MEAN STILL MARRIED IM NO FOOL, I HAVE BEEN THERE.

    While seperated my "estranged husband" and I lived in two different places and we did our own thing until the marriage was dissolved. Anybody I came in contact with could either deal or keep it moving. If he was to fall in love with someone during the seperation so be it. I would not be showing up calling the other person a homewrecker, muhfriggin home been wrecked.

    IMO this nicca cheated with more chicks than Fantasia and NOW its NEWS cause she got fame behind her name.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    Sandra Rose says:

    PAHairston says:

    Yet she told me once: You didn’t give my marriage a chance to work.
    ________________________

    She was right; you wouldn’t want someone to do that to you. Think about it… we have to start treating people the way we would want to be treated. It’s not that hard.
    *********
    Well said! I live by that saying...Every now and then, I fall short but I am always quick to apologize. :lol:

  • PAHairston

    So Sandra, are you saying that my husband should have stayed married to this woman, separated for years with no sex, no love, no home, no nothing? She even told him that she didn't love him anymore! Should he still be hanging on, hoping, praying, that she would take him back? Didn't you hear me? She left HIM twice! His mother said she has a syndrome: She don't want him but don't want anyone else to have him! She made no mores to get him back, EVER! This is all I have to say on the subject. After all, when did YOU become an expert on male/female relationships? Peace.

  • ajonesy

    @ Ms. Everything

    i agree with you.

    but at the same time women have all the power.

    if women had more respect for themselves and each other most of their (our) problems would be solved. so while i agree the wife should be mad at her husband, i feel like fantasia (as a woman) should have more respect for herself as well. i mean what exactly is she teaching her daughter?

    plain and simple.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Shauny says:

    Is Fannie getting all of this media attention for the lawsuit though? Because I’ve heard (and I’ll have to go look this up) that wife ISN’T suing for anything other than spousal and child support.
    ______________________

    Because the wife claimed there was a sex tape. So all the blogs came running. Funny thing is there is no sex tape. :lol:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    PAHairston says:

    So Sandra, are you saying that my husband should have stayed married to this woman, separated for years with no sex, no love, no home, no nothing?
    _____________________

    it's funny how you say "my husband" as if he wasn't her husband first. The fact is you interfered in a marriage that was not over yet. You will have to live with that guilt. I hope that never happens to you. That is all.

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    ajonesy says:

    @ Ms. Everything

    i agree with you.

    but at the same time women have all the power.

    if women had more respect for themselves and each other most of their (our) problems would be solved. so while i agree the wife should be mad at her husband, i feel like fantasia (as a woman) should have more respect for herself as well. i mean what exactly is she teaching her daughter?

    plain and simple.
    ********
    :preach: :cosign:

  • ajonesy

    @ T.Y'z Cha Cha says

    ok i gotcha.

    @ PAHairston

    no. u allow him to get his affairs together with a clear head and no distractions. if its meant to be you can wait for him once the ink has dried.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @CIVIL
    " :claps: @aniyvwiya…for posting the longest comment EVER!"
    ___________________________________________________________________________

    :rofl:

    Nigga hail ain't filled up yet! You need to stop!

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Man
    and Civil knows damn well that is not the longest post

  • PAHairston

    Actually, I feel no guilt whatsoever. Like I said, it's the choices that we make in life. She chose not to want her "husband" anymore so someone else, me, came along and scooped HER husband up. Now he is MY HUSBAND. I'm outta here!

  • ajonesy

    PAHairston says:

    So Sandra, are you saying that my husband should have stayed married to this woman, separated for years with no sex, no love, no home, no nothing?
    _____________________

    it’s funny how you say “my husband” as if he wasn’t her husband first. The fact is you interfered in a marriage that was not over yet. You will have to live with that guilt. I hope that never happens to you. That is all.

    -----

    exactly. couples go thru stuff all the time. and when u are trying to figure out whats best, how can you do that with a clear mind if this extra person is in their ear with their own motives?

    #noshade #realtalk

  • SangriaSugar

    IMO this nicca cheated with more chicks than Fantasia and NOW its NEWS cause she got fame behind her name.
    _________________

    :cosign:

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    therapist1911 says:

    The sad thing is most of you believe everything you read on a gossip site. 50% of this is true…prehaps. just know Fantasia is not as bad as most of you think. But I’m not here to defend or make anyone a believer.

    I just hope she make a full recovery. The sad thing if it was Fantasia it would be another woman. I hope Mrs. Cooke can heal as well. And all kids involved.

    Some of you are cruel but at least you are consistent.

    :cosign:

  • MS.G

    well idk about dealing with married men...boyfriends..whatever...i'm just sayin..pray for that girl regardless how u feel...and if anyone felt that i was chastizing...for one i'm a mother...and two somethings are just meant to be left alone! don't get me wrong i have my days when i go hard..but not when it's about a person's health or child...it's not a good look! My God! stay prayed Fam!

  • lakercrazy

    PAHairston says:

    So Sandra, are you saying that my husband should have stayed married to this woman, separated for years with no sex, no love, no home, no nothing?
    _____________________

    it’s funny how you say “my husband” as if he wasn’t her husband first. The fact is you interfered in a marriage that was not over yet. You will have to live with that guilt. I hope that never happens to you. That is all.
    ____________________________________________________________________
    :dead:
    dont mess with the QUEEN B bishes :rofl:
    get them sandra :shotsfired:

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    :newpost:

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    IMO PAHairston maybe your husband still loved her which is y he was sticking around IDK I take that back I don't want to get involved :lol:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    "...if women had more respect for themselves and each other..."-A. Jonesy
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    :rofl:

    "Ain't no honor amount thieves."
    "All's fair in love and war."

  • http://smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

    Fantasia has always been an open book. Honesty, self-respect, and personal responsibility are values she wears proudly.

    Fantasia believed Mr. Cook when he told her he was not happy in his marriage and his heart was not in it. She believed him when he told her he and Mrs. Cook separated in the late summer of 2009. She believed Mr. Cook when he told her he lived elsewhere.

  • http://smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

    Oh that's from her DUMB rep's latest statement. The rep needs to zip it.

  • Shauny

    I might be missing some good shyt but I fly right pass those mini novels. Fvck that, I read enough at work...sawwry

  • ajonesy

    @ Smokie

    u tryng to be funny? lol.

  • http://gravatar.com/avatar/0e3dd0989333fb4dbfefdb522ee5bd4e.png aniyvwiya

    Sandra, you think this is a debate, when it's merely a matter of clarification. Also, none of that would go over reader's heads, readers here are mostly intelligent which is why your generalizations about serious disorders concern me--readers here are intelligent enough to actually read them and absorb the information. I just want them to absorb accurate information and I thought you'd be interested in clarifying things for people. I respect nurses and nursing degrees, etc., but even actual doctors get Axis II disorders confused with one another so your degree in nursing doesn't really say much. Whereas I was not proposing a strict interpretation of a disorder (I was asking you to clarify your joint "diagnosis"), as I am still in school, you DO, and then get snide when someone questions you? There was no need for you to get disrespectful with me. I am a polite and reasonable poster.

  • lakercrazy

    Shauny says:

    I might be missing some good shyt but I fly right pass those mini novels. Fvck that, I read enough at work…sawwry
    _________________________________________________________
    ok!!! came into the post and i was like dang is somebody preaching i aint got time to read a dam book!!

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    Fvck that, I read enough at work…sawwry
    ______________
    :rofl: you and me both the other one was informative with the medical info but I promise I be like my head hurt I aint reading all that shat :lol:

  • Lovely One

    @ aqtpie says:
    I highly doubt that he and the wife had a strong & happy marriage. IMO HAPPILY married people don’t cheat!!! I can’t stand home wrecking enablers and home wreckers “the ones who stepped out on their spouses” even less but I don’t wish attempting/suicide on anyone. I hope she and Zion are okay!!!
    -------------------------------------
    I saw a study once that proved that ppl are more likely to cheat when they are happy in their relationship.

    People dont need to be unhappy to cheat. There are men and women out there who cheat daily and have no intention or desire to leave their SO.

    Back on subject. Fanny is wrong & I think she has low self esteem. Still does not excuse her actions but I hope she gets well...physically and mentally.

  • ajonesy

    @ Smokie

    lmao oh ok.

    but for real. women act so fcking stupid. if u wanna know if a man is married or involved it aint hard to find out. men are slow and arent that good at lying.

    #realtalk

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    ajonesy says:

    @ PAHairston
    no. u allow him to get his affairs together with a clear head and no distractions. if its meant to be you can wait for him once the ink has dried.
    _________________________

    Some of us are so quick to step into another woman's ready-made life because we want what we don't have. It doesn't take a psychiatrist to figure out that you don't interfere in a troubled marriage. Hopefully PAHairston never experiences that type of heartache.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AJONESY
    "lmao oh ok.

    but for real. women act so fcking stupid. if u wanna know if a man is married or involved it aint hard to find out. men are slow and arent that good at lying.

    #realtalk"
    _________________________________________________________________________

    True. :yes:

    Nor do we need to be. Most of these hoes will accept any ol thing you tell 'em.

  • whatdoesitmatter

    Hey Smokie, you know her like that? If so, I hope you told her to leave him alone until he got his house straight before bringing him in hers.

    I wouldn't believe anything a man says to me after I find out he's married. Happy home or not. No conversation till your status is single. Period.

  • cheeks8683

    I might be missing some good shyt but I fly right pass those mini novels. Fvck that, I read enough at work…sawwry

    ______________________________________________

    So true I think she said something about sandra mis-diagnosing fanni, I don't know I only skimmed the first couple lines lol!

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    Sandra, I'm still married if you want to get technical and that's why I will usually speak on it. I've been seperated, legally seperated for 3 years (it just hit 3 years) but long story short, my marriage isn't saveable, he's living with another woman in another state but refuses to cooperate in the divorce because this is his last little ounce of control he has in my life. You can only file for divorce under the terms of abandonment here after 3 years of zero contact, we still have contact cause he calls me from random #'s for help but he won't give an address or telephone # where he lives and doesn't work so I can't have him served. The judge granted us seperated with a custody agreement for the kids, now this man has moved on with his life but is that hateful and controlling towards me that he can't bare for me to move on with mine. Idk one person in my shoes who would ever say don't date cause you're cheating. Bitter people do ish like this, they hold up divorces, refuse to give in, keep dragging you back in court for crazy stuff, its a form of abuse but they do it and then people who've never been in that situation are quick to judge and call out names. You don't know what you will do until you are knee deep in a situation. Why deny yourself being able to connect, love and have support from someone for YEARS because the other party wants to be difficult? This isn't that situation but people go in on Akeys, Gabrielle Union and stuff when you only know a 1/3 of the truth. Now I've passed the 3 year mark, finally have an address on my ex cause he's locked up and I will be fully divorced soon but I wish I would've stayed single the whole 3 years during my prime because that nigga wants to be a controlling sorry bastard and didn't want me happy

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    HOT DAYUM this mofo going south quick :rofl:

    @Man
    U r crazy but you may be right

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0SIetxPjTBs CorporateHoodB-tch

    :cheer: #teampaulacook :cheer:
    I would sue the schit out of any woman that even so much as interfered in my marriage. Let known tattoo my hubby's name on any parts of her stank body while we were still married or separated. We are not through until I say we are. So, if in my mind we still have a chance of working things out and he has not filed for divorce yet...then she is just a bish in the way. JMO

  • VIBABY

    Bless her homewrecking heart.......

    :dead: @ Sandra...ouch.

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @spongebobfan
    :cosign: 1000%

  • https://www.createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ Shauny

    :cosign: that A Keys statement. Its never mentioned in white media how A Keys stepped into Swizz marriage. Or how she was knocked up before the ink on his divorce was signed. And his wife was extremely vocal about Alicia being a third wheel.

    Now she is parading around with his other child that he cheated on his wife for to produce.

    I personally feel sorry for Fanny. It must suck to feel like the whole world is crumbling in on you (even though I don't condone what she did).

    Funny reading some of these comments. Some of yall can't even handle the pressure of getting dragged on this blog but got the nerve to judge Fanny. Same way you "claimed" you were DONE bc of a few comments. Imagine how she felt with millions of comments. Glad God spared her life. And her song bittersweet is doing well.

  • ajonesy

    ajonesy says:

    @ PAHairston
    no. u allow him to get his affairs together with a clear head and no distractions. if its meant to be you can wait for him once the ink has dried.
    _________________________

    Some of us are so quick to step into another woman’s ready-made life because we want what we don’t have. It doesn’t take a psychiatrist to figure out that you don’t interfere in a troubled marriage. Hopefully PAHairston never experiences that type of heartache.

    ----

    exactly. which goes back to my point of women need to respect each other more.

    i hope her marriage works out. i wish her well. but i hope she never has to be on the receiving end of that situation.

  • PAHairston

    Sandra, I had to come back and ask you one question: If my memory serves me right, didn't you once post that you treat people how they treat you? Did the great SandraRose just contradict herself?

  • ajonesy

    @ man.

    and the sad part is. u are absolutely correct. lol

  • KrayZKat

    Ms. Everything says:

    she gets better and works out this mess she’s in. I said it yesterday but I’ll say it again anyway that woman’s issue needs to be with her husband, eff what the law says she can do, unless Fanny held a gun to her husbands head and said nigga you gonna eff me or else, she didn’t break up that home. The man who stood at the alter and said vows with her did and I doubt she would have blasted another womans name all through the divorce documents if he cheated with anyone else but since Fantasia is famous and she wants sympathy she put her name everywhere and will probably try to sue. Not saying Fantasia was right to sleep with this womans husband but God will deal with her, damaging her name, career and public image is so not cool. I don’t care what it is I’m not putting all my personal business out in the streets for some revenge that isn’t even gonna take the pain away and make me look bad. And if she’s lying about the tape, she just committed a crime and Fantasia needs to sue her ass right back
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    :claps: I agree with you 100!!!

  • SangriaSugar

    :yes: @Man...thats true...some women do accept some of the worst bullchit lines/excuses...EVER...knowing that chit makes no sense....then wanna cry and act like they never saw it coming

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @MsE
    I don't want to dialogue with you but I must say I find you contradictory and hypocritical I will even go so far as to say you are delusional you had the audacity to tell me to do better like your past and life is so much better - SMFH- please don't respond with a book you deserved this comment...

  • Daisy

    #stillteamTasia :cheer:

    I :pray: she has a speedy recovery and it was indeed an accident

    *walks out singing Bittersweet* I can't wait to get her new cd!!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ aniyvwiya:

    I answered your question a couple of times. I said BPD and NPD fall within the same category of personality disorders. They both share some of the same characteristics. My blog is not a medical setting. So I don't go deep into the details of medical diagnoses. I'm sorry that a doctor misdiagnosed you with BPD (or whatever), but you are (or were) a cutter. And whether you want to believe it or not, one person can be diagnosed with both NPD and BPD.

  • ajonesy

    @ ms everything

    #noshade but a real question, looking for an honest answer.

    "Why deny yourself being able to connect, love and have support from someone for YEARS because the other party wants to be difficult? "

    but how can you move on and connect with someone, and give them your all if you aren't all there? because you can't be all there if a part of your life is still attached to your ex.

    right? (or wrong?)

  • Daisy

    @MsEverything you did that two snaps and a point!!!

  • Starr

    I just saw a statement on tmz....

    I refuse to believe that tasia or any woman would be that stupid to believe everything a man says like that....

  • http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

    :popcorn: I have a feeling this is about to get Reaaaaallll interesting..

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @SANGRIA SUGAR
    "…thats true…some women do accept some of the worst bullchit lines/excuses…EVER…knowing that chit makes no sense….then wanna cry and act like they never saw it coming"
    __________________________________________________________________________

    :yes:

    I know. I aint EVA sat down and tried to think of some "logical, air tight, 'Johnnie Cochran' law defense" type chit.

    "I was wit some of my niggas girl. Quit trippin."

    We ain't gotta say chit else. What's even better, if (when) she do catch me, I'm going to "complain" that the bytch was "all over me" and she goin mad at the chick! ROFLMAO. It never fails.

  • Starr

    I was waitin on u Daisy :lol:

  • ajonesy

    @ Man

    ok but all girls dont fall for that sh*t. i never did. so what do u do with the ones that are a little smarter? toss them aside?

    i'm almost afraid of what u will respond. lol

  • chase

    I feel sorry for the wife, I have been in a similar situation and it sucks big time...

  • Val

    wow- this is soo sad! I pray that she's OK- I just love love love Fanny's new song and video!!!

    teamfantasia :yahoo:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AJONESY
    "ok but all girls dont fall for that sh*t. i never did. so what do u do with the ones that are a little smarter? toss them aside?

    i’m almost afraid of what u will respond. lol"
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    Depends. Most of the time chalk it up as a loss and move on. If she REALLY wants you, she'll believe you are from Jupiter if you tell her that. If she ain't believing your lie, she ain't got faith in you anyway.

    Let that hoe go. :shrugs:

  • Lovely One

    @ Ms. Everything says:

    I understand where you are coming from, but I tend to believe (I could be wrong) that your situation is in the minority and not the norm.

    I do not think Alicia Keys or Fantasia fit into your situation. They really seem like two women who decided they wanted that married man (with no special circumstance) But that's just my opinion :shrugs:

  • lakercrazy

    im out for the day yall keep cuting these mothat flukas sandra lol #srmob coming thru!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    PAHairston says:

    Actually, I feel no guilt whatsoever. Like I said, it’s the choices that we make in life. She chose not to want her “husband” anymore so someone else, me, came along and scooped HER husband up. Now he is MY HUSBAND. I’m outta here!
    ______________________

    Hopefully no one disrespects the sanctity of your marriage vows by assuming your marriage is over, and comes and scoops your husband up. Have a great evening PA.

  • ajonesy

    @ Man

    but do u really want a girl who will believe you are from Jupiter? lol. she might be good for a fck, but what else? lol.

    this almost makes me wish i was born a man. bishes are so fcking stupid. lol. seriously.

  • aqtpie

    Lovely One says:
    I saw a study once that proved that ppl are more likely to cheat when they are happy in their relationship. People dont need to be unhappy to cheat.
    **********
    I personally believe that study was/is a bunch of BS, like a lot of studies/statistics are. IMO Married people that aren't lacking ANYTHING in ALL aspects of their marriage (I am speaking solely about what the married cheating spouse believe is lacking and not the sometimes oblivious cheated on spouse believes) have no NEED to cheat UNLESS they are plain greedy. Example: My brother cheated on his wife (sorry dog) and later he explained what he felt was missing in their marriage, while his lovely wife had no clue of his feelings or that their marriage lacked of anything. Again that's just MY opinion and with opinions there is no right or wrongs.
    _______________
    Lovely One Says:
    There are men and women out there who cheat daily and have no intention or desire to leave their SO.
    ***********
    Now I believe that!!!

  • Daisy

    @Mseverything I have a cousin and a gfriend in your same situation my gfriend even longer. She did finally meet with a divorce lawyer again last week though. They both let the men that they date know upfront that they are legally still married but have filed. I hate that somebody has the right to hold/trap you in a marriage cause they arent ready to sign on the dotted line (neither can afford a contested divorce which is about 3-5k) So hey I can't judge you or them for continuing to live their lives and dating. Every situation is different IMO :shrug: I think adultry is a sin just like fornication, lying, stealing, killing etc but for some reason people act otherwise on blogs.

    @Starr HERE I GO :lol: You know I am still holding it down for Tasia as an artist. I don't wish evil or harm on anybody. God will get you better than man ever can and he has gotten me several times cause I am after all a sinner saved by grace.

  • aqtpie

    VIBABY says:
    Bless her homewrecking heart…….
    ************
    :rofl:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    BK2ATLMAN says:

    DAMN out of all the pics thats the best you can find @Sandra
    ________________________

    Actually, it was. :/

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    Why deny yourself being able to connect, love and have support from someone for YEARS because the other party wants to be difficult? This isn’t that situation but people go in on Akeys, Gabrielle Union and stuff when you only know a 1/3 of the truth.

    Funny reading some of these comments. Some of yall can’t even handle the pressure of getting dragged on this blog but got the nerve to judge Fanny. Same way you “claimed” you were DONE bc of a few comments. Imagine how she felt with millions of comments.

    :cosign:

    :newpost:

  • KrayZKat

    "Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: "A woman can't cheat with a married man if he wasn't so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife." People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AJONESY
    "but do u really want a girl who will believe you are from Jupiter? lol. she might be good for a fck, but what else? lol.

    this almost makes me wish i was born a man. bishes are so fcking stupid. lol. seriously."
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    A good fck is like 80-95% of what she needs to be...

    Don't get fooled by the grass being greener cause everything has it's pros and cons. But it IS easier to be a dude. LOL. :yes:

  • aqtpie

    ajonesy says:
    if women had more respect for themselves and each other most of their (our) problems would be solved. so while i agree the wife should be mad at her husband, i feel like fantasia (as a woman) should have more respect for herself as well. i mean what exactly is she teaching her daughter?

    plain and simple.
    ********
    I see where you are coming from but if more married couples (as a whole) respected their spouses and vows then most of their (our) problems would be solved. In this case, yes the wife should be mad at Fantasia for enabling a home wrecker but the brunt of the anger should be placed on her vow breaking, home wrecking husband. He as the HUSBAND took vows before GOD to her, where is his respect for himself, his wife and their children? What exactly is he teaching his children?

    I personally have NEVER and would NEVER mess with a married or legally separated man, "even if he hadn't seen his still legally married wife in 20 years".

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    Let known tattoo my hubby’s name on any parts of her stank body while we were still married or separated.

    FANTASIA + COOK TATTOO ON UPPER LEFT SHOULDER = DYCKMATIZED :yahoo:

  • Daisy

    Let me add that I also pray for and wish the wife well before I get accused of being un sympathic again

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Smokie says:

    If she was serious, she’d be DEAD. Point blank and period.

    Now, I do have a problem with the fact that Fantasia’s homewrecking made front page news, but Alicia’s is being swept under the rug. Why is that Sandra? Is it because Alicia is LSLH????
    ___________________

    No, the difference is Alicia and Swizz don't have a sex tape. For that matter, neither does Fantasia and Cook. But that's what all the hooplah is about.

  • chase

    It also seems like Mr. Cook was doing a lot of lying to Fanny and his wife.. He told Fanny that he was separated and took her to his crib to prove he lived alone. She fell for it and the rest is history...

  • ajonesy

    KrayZKat says:

    “Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.

    ----

    its not a pass. women possess the power to make men do (or not do) anything.

    if u dont recognize the power, then your wasting it.

  • http://smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

    KrayZKat says:

    “Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _____

    A lot of women, specifically black women, identify with the male for some reason. They side with the male. Hence, all the mothers who are actively raising sorry sons.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAZY KAT
    "“Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t."
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    You can't blame a man for his NATURE though! That's like telling a horse to bark. That was the point of what the Pastor was trying to say.

  • http://mobile.twitter.com/iamwonderchick2 LesBinLuv

    Damn Tasia!!!!!

  • Ebony

    All I want to know is WTF is this -----> :yahoo: and how do people make their comments bold :shrug:

  • Val

    KrayZKat says
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _________________________________________________________________________
    :cosign: So, the wife blames fantasia b-cuz her husband didnt want her anymore??? If he would have choose a bum instead, would that have made a difference??? why is fantasia to blame??? Im confused???
    was she and fantasia friends before?? why does she expect loyalty from fantasia and not her husband?? didnt the husband step out on the paula chick??? well maybe she should be suing his azz then- #justsayin

  • ajonesy

    @ man. lmao. which is why i'm glad my husband and i have 3 boys.

    @ aqtpie. dont get me wrong. i agree with you. i think she (the wife) should be mad at both. but she can try and get money from him as well. not sure how much tmobile nyggas making tho. lol

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @EBONY

    () "insert comment here" ()

    **remove the parantheses...**

  • SangriaSugar

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    @SANGRIA SUGAR
    “…thats true…some women do accept some of the worst bullchit lines/excuses…EVER…knowing that chit makes no sense….then wanna cry and act like they never saw it coming”
    __________________________________________________________________________

    I know. I aint EVA sat down and tried to think of some “logical, air tight, ‘Johnnie Cochran’ law defense” type chit.

    “I was wit some of my niggas girl. Quit trippin.”

    We ain’t gotta say chit else. What’s even better, if (when) she do catch me, I’m going to “complain” that the bytch was “all over me” and she goin mad at the chick! ROFLMAO. It never fails.

    _________________________

    OH CHIT!!!! :dead:

    I've heard so many guys give that some arguement...damn bastards!!!

    :rofl:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Dammit

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    aqtpie says:

    Lovely One says:
    I saw a study once that proved that ppl are more likely to cheat when they are happy in their relationship. People dont need to be unhappy to cheat.
    **********
    I personally believe that study was/is a bunch of BS, like a lot of studies/statistics are. IMO Married people that aren’t lacking ANYTHING in ALL aspects of their marriage (I am speaking solely about what the married cheating spouse believe is lacking and not the sometimes oblivious cheated on spouse believes) have no NEED to cheat UNLESS they are plain greedy.

    :preach:

  • ajonesy

    Val says:

    KrayZKat says
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _________________________________________________________________________
    :cosign: So, the wife blames fantasia b-cuz her husband didnt want her anymore??? If he would have choose a bum instead, would that have made a difference??? why is fantasia to blame??? Im confused???
    was she and fantasia friends before?? why does she expect loyalty from fantasia and not her husband?? didnt the husband step out on the paula chick??? well maybe she should be suing his azz then- #justsayin

    ----

    no. if fantasia was smart, she could have used her power and made him leave his wife without ever coming in between them.

    fantasia doesnt know how to use the power which is why she is lost.

    p.ussy is some powerful sh.t

    and u get more use out of if, when u dont use it.

    trust what i say.

  • Anna

    Lovely One says:

    @ Ms. Everything says:

    I understand where you are coming from, but I tend to believe (I could be wrong) that your situation is in the minority and not the norm.

    I do not think Alicia Keys or Fantasia fit into your situation. They really seem like two women who decided they wanted that married man (with no special circumstance) But that’s just my opinion

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    It's been reported that Mashonda told/asked AK to back off and let them work out their marriage (Mashonda states that she didn't know there were problems in her marriage. AK did not back off. Mashonda should have sued AK. :lol: Mashonda wasn't done with her marriage and we hear of no steps taken to save the marriage ie. Counsling, Leaving AK alone to work on your marriage.

  • Ebony

    Thanks @ man :yahoo:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @AJONESY
    "no. if fantasia was smart, she could have used her power and made him leave his wife without ever coming in between them.

    fantasia doesnt know how to use the power which is why she is lost.

    p.ussy is some powerful sh.t

    and u get more use out of if, when u dont use it.

    trust what i say.
    __________________________________________________________________________

    :pray:
    Thank God there's always a thirsty hoe somewhere!

  • ajonesy

    @ man. lmao. shut up. lol

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @EBONY
    It actually didn't come out right.

    1. make the ""
    4. enter your comment that you would like to bold
    5. make a ""

    Voila!

  • kwall

    No, the difference is Alicia and Swizz don’t have a sex tape. For that matter, neither does Fantasia and Cook. But that’s what all the hooplah is about.
    -----------------------------------------------------------
    the difference is that swizz divorced mashonda in ORDER to MARRY akeys.

    the difference is that akeys don't have a BIG ARSE tat saying "BEATS" or no simple azz ish like that....then when folks was like "oh ain't he married???"...then get that shat covered up to say kgfndfjkgnjfdn or whatever the fukkk "cook" got turned into on her shoulder.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    Dammnit Ebony, just goolge HTML code! I can't even type this chit in. Grrrr...

  • Maya_Marie

    Good Afternoon SR Family!

    WOW!

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    Last thing cause I'm at the dr but @ajones I agree women have a lot of power in these cases but he should've been the one saying no I'm married, it was his marriage yet she's the one being held accountable for its demise. It wasn't her marriage to save period so I don't see the purpose of going after her and with her money if the wife decides to sue then she'll be paying more than he did when he is the main one at fault (because it was up to him to do right by his wife)

    @Sandra, for PA this woman left her husband twice, with no contact except when he found someone else. She sounds a lot like my ex to me but you have to be in that situation to understand. She doesn't sound like a woman who wanted her husband, she sounds like a little girl who wanted to play games with her husband, have her cake and eat it too thinking he would always come back up until the day he didn't. These situations happen ALL the time but no one speaks on it unless one party gets butthurt that the other has moved on or for whatever reason and then they turn on the waterworks and tell a bitter one sided account to get sympathy. A lot like the narcisstic personality disorder you mentioned....

    And I'm up front and honest with any guy I date and once they hear the story behind why my marriage is lagging they have always understood. Divorces are rarely quick and easy matters ESPECIALLY when there are extinuating circumstances involved. A lot of seperations especially legal ones do not end with the couple back together... and with that said I'm out

  • kwall

    No, the difference is Alicia and Swizz don’t have a sex tape. For that matter, neither does Fantasia and Cook. But that’s what all the hooplah is about.
    --------------------------------------------
    the difference is that paula cook was a class act and took her azz to court and sued dat azz...like the state of nc allows you to do...when folk stroll in t-mobile to renew teeny's phone... but instead walk out with your husband numma....instead of taking to twitter like mashonda did.

  • KrayZKat

    ajonesy says:

    KrayZKat says:

    “Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.

    —-

    its not a pass. women possess the power to make men do (or not do) anything.

    if u dont recognize the power, then your wasting it.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    ajonesy - Really? So you mean to tell me a grown ass man has no responsibility whatsoever for his actions? No one can make anyone do ANYTHING they don't want to do. No one can MAKE you do anything you don't want to do. He's supposed to be a thinking human being, not a robot. Are you really serious?

  • Silhouette

    Couldn't finish reading all the comments I just died at the new smiley :yahoo:
    *scrolls back up to finish*

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    "Really? So you mean to tell me a grown ass man has no responsibility whatsoever for his actions? No one can make anyone do ANYTHING they don’t want to do. No one can MAKE you do anything you don’t want to do. He’s supposed to be a thinking human being, not a robot. Are you really serious?"-Krazy Kat
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    :think:

    She musta never whipped that puzz on a nigga real good...

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    Question:

    Why didnt Mashonda go after Swizz Beatz other Baby Mama, the one overseas with the baby thats about 2???..he was real busy getting his poke on left and right but A Keys got the short end of the stick because of who she is.

    She also said that she was pregnant when Swizz oldest son was concieved but she lost her baby. Seems to me Mashonda been fighting over a man that was only hers on paper for a little minute now.

    Mashonda may have wanted to work her marriage out but it takes two to do that and seems like SB was not interested. :shrugs:

  • KrayZKat

    Smokie says:

    KrayZKat says:

    “Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _____

    A lot of women, specifically black women, identify with the male for some reason. They side with the male. Hence, all the mothers who are actively raising sorry sons.
    ~~~~~~~~~~

    @Smokie - you are 100% correct! You know what I think it is? I think a lot of woman need someone to direct their angry towards, and it's easier to direct it at the jump off and not HER MAN. It's kind of like an excuse to keep his cheating, trifling ass around.

  • KrayZKat

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    @KRAZY KAT
    ““Yes, he was the one who took the vows but in the words of my Pastor, “A man can’t cheat unless he have someone to cheat with.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.”
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    You can’t blame a man for his NATURE though! That’s like telling a horse to bark. That was the point of what the Pastor was trying to say.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~

    @Man - so then when many women call men "dogs" they are correct because dogs follow their nature. They smell a female dog in heat, and off they go ready to mount and pump. I though men had brains (not the one between their legs), but the one God game them to think with. I call b.s. on that "nature" excuse.

  • ajonesy

    @ KrayZKat

    no. thats not what i'm saying. women (black, white and green) all complain about the same sh*t.

    men not respecting them, being treated like s.ex objects, being cheating on, etc.

    but the reality is. a man will only do what a woman allows him to. women have the power.

    men do have responsibility. and mr tmobile should have to account for his actions and hurting his wife and the mother of his children.

    and yes fantasia could have made mr tmobile leave his wife by divorcing her, then walk off into the sunset with her. without looking like a cheap, low-class sideline-h.oe

  • ajonesy

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    “Really? So you mean to tell me a grown ass man has no responsibility whatsoever for his actions? No one can make anyone do ANYTHING they don’t want to do. No one can MAKE you do anything you don’t want to do. He’s supposed to be a thinking human being, not a robot. Are you really serious?”-Krazy Kat
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    :think:

    She musta never whipped that puzz on a nigga real good…

    -----

    huh man? or even given him that idea that he would get it as a reward.

    if u do it right p.ussy can be dangled on the end of a stick like a damn carrot.

  • KrayZKat

    Val says:

    KrayZKat says
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _________________________________________________________________________
    So, the wife blames fantasia b-cuz her husband didnt want her anymore??? If he would have choose a bum instead, would that have made a difference??? why is fantasia to blame??? Im confused???
    was she and fantasia friends before?? why does she expect loyalty from fantasia and not her husband?? didnt the husband step out on the paula chick??? well maybe she should be suing his azz then- #justsayin
    ~~~~~~~~
    @Val - that's what it looks like to me too. Yeah, I'm confused as well. I'm always confused with these conversations because the jump off is ALWAYS put on blast, and very few people make mention of the real one to blame - HUBBY. SMH.

    This nonsense about suing the other woman is wack. She's trifling, but the wife needs to hit the husband where it hurts.

  • CreoleCutie7

    Good afternoon everybody :hug:..My prayers for Fanny..I peeked in right ontime .... :popcorn:

  • Val

    @ Anna... thats some funny shyt! :lol:

    poor mashanda- she should have asked SWIZZ to back off- her loyalty lies with her husband, not akeys.. she should have realized that akeys doesn't owe her shyt.. but that man that took those vows with you does..

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAZY KAT
    "so then when many women call men “dogs” they are correct because dogs follow their nature. They smell a female dog in heat, and off they go ready to mount and pump...."
    ___________________________________________________________________________

    Yes. That's why the term has been around for so lond and stuck. There is some truth in stereotypes.
    :coffee:

  • ajonesy

    @ KrayZKat

    IMO getting back at the ex should always be assumed. thats a given and almost automatic. just because we are voicing our opinions about fanny doesn't mean the guy gets a pass.

    nope not at all.

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @A JONESY
    "huh man? or even given him that idea that he would get it as a reward.

    if u do it right p.ussy can be dangled on the end of a stick like a damn carrot."
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    that only work with sorry azz niggas or a nigga hard up behind you. Other wise:

    "...there's always another thirsty hoe somewhere." :yes:

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @ T.Y'z Cha Cha........ :cosign:

    IMO if you are living separate lives because one person wants to be selfish and not give you a divorce i guess people expect you to not date until this person gives you a divorce that is crazy some people cant even go 5 days without sex let alone years waiting for their wife/husband to divorce them.

    Swizzy was legally separated when he started messing with A.keys married on paper is not the same thing as people functioning as husband and wife. Swizzy had a baby with another woman b4 he started messing with A key while married to Mashonda its funny how she leaves that part out in all of her venting........ I cant wait to A. Keys finally speaks out to shut all the people blaming her for a marriage that had already been dissolved.. FYI Celebrity divorces can take forever just as regular divorce if only one party agrees and wants to make the entire situation a job

  • ajonesy

    @ val.

    "she should have realized that akeys doesn’t owe her shyt.. but that man that took those vows with you does.."

    u are right. but as a women she does owe her respect. point blank. but alicia wont see that until it happens to her.

    not wishing bad on her. thats just how it works. tis all.

  • Val

    KrayZKat :cheers:

    and... :preach:

  • ajonesy

    @ man

    so yeah. i can go both ways. "thirsty" mofos are on both sides. lol

  • KrayZKat

    ajonesy says:

    Val says:

    KrayZKat says
    Well I have one: “A woman can’t cheat with a married man if he wasn’t so willing to share his penis with someone other than his wife.” People always give the man a pass for his bullsh*t.
    _________________________________________________________________________
    So, the wife blames fantasia b-cuz her husband didnt want her anymore??? If he would have choose a bum instead, would that have made a difference??? why is fantasia to blame??? Im confused???
    was she and fantasia friends before?? why does she expect loyalty from fantasia and not her husband?? didnt the husband step out on the paula chick??? well maybe she should be suing his azz then- #justsayin

    —-

    no. if fantasia was smart, she could have used her power and made him leave his wife without ever coming in between them.

    fantasia doesnt know how to use the power which is why she is lost.

    p.ussy is some powerful sh.t

    and u get more use out of if, when u dont use it.

    trust what i say.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    @ajonesy - If Fantasia was smart, she would've left him where she found him. Any man willing to leave his wife/children, without divorce papers in hand, isn't, in my opinion, worth having. I don't care how good his pipe is.

    Pu$$y might be powerful, but it's easy to come by. Once Fantasia secured him, I'm sure he'd be jumping to the new stuff. Trifling men, unless they suffer the consequences for their mess, never stop cheating.

    The funny thing is that when a woman does use her "goods" to manipulate, she's called a hoe, slut, and she's put down (hmmm, I seem to remember someone by the name of Karrinne Stephans, aka "supahead.") Just saw her story last night on TV One's "Life After." She used hers, but you see how people talk about her like a dog.

  • ajonesy

    @ KrayZKat

    agreed.

  • http://www.facebook.com/evieannie speaknoevil

    This is sooooo sad!!!!

  • kwall

    DEADDDDDDDDDDDDDD at our two resident men on this board here TODAY.

    * Ain’t nothing wrong with that hoe.

    * This some….#hoeshyt

    HOW did I MISS that ish....??????????? I died a slow def after reading that...

  • KrayZKat

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    “Really? So you mean to tell me a grown ass man has no responsibility whatsoever for his actions? No one can make anyone do ANYTHING they don’t want to do. No one can MAKE you do anything you don’t want to do. He’s supposed to be a thinking human being, not a robot. Are you really serious?”-Krazy Kat
    _________________________________________________________________________
    She musta never whipped that puzz on a nigga real good…
    ~~~~~~~~~~
    Maybe or maybe not, but there's always some other female that has the better goods. Wouldn't you agree?

  • ajonesy

    @ KrayZKat

    oh and i didnt see the show.
    and karrine was halfway smart.

    she used it and did it well, but she is fcking delusional.

    being delusional will never get u respect.

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    LOL.. how can you expect a woman that dont know you or owe you anything to respect you. let alone trying to demand it this right here is hysterical at best that like saying a woman walking pass you on the street better respect... you start telling random people that and let me know how that works out for you... :yahoo:

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    I'm glad I'm a man. I could care less bout anotha nigga's "marriage." If I'm feelin a woman, a nigga wife, sister, cousin, friend from way back, WHATEVER.... I'm tryin to hit. Married or not.

    Thank God a man can't be a "homewrecker" (LOL), not that we would care anyway. The whole argument is stupid. :shrugs:

    #wejusttryintofuggregardless

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    T.Y'z Cha Cha says:

    Question:
    Why didnt Mashonda go after Swizz Beatz other Baby Mama, the one overseas with the baby thats about 2???..he was real busy getting his poke on left and right but A Keys got the short end of the stick because of who she is.
    She also said that she was pregnant when Swizz oldest son was concieved but she lost her baby. Seems to me Mashonda been fighting over a man that was only hers on paper for a little minute now.
    Mashonda may have wanted to work her marriage out but it takes two to do that and seems like SB was not interested.
    _________________________________________________________________________
    :cosign: girl you are all in my thoughts today ^5

  • kwall

    No, the difference is Alicia and Swizz don’t have a sex tape. For that matter, neither does Fantasia and Cook. But that’s what all the hooplah is about.
    ---------------------------------------
    the difference is did we see akeys giving interviews tambout she don't even KNOW swizz beats...then see them someplace together holding hands the next day? no we did not.

    did however see fanny pack do such. one minute its i need a man in my tax bracket....idk NOBODY named no cook...then see him and her all up in the awards shows, on vacation together...some folks just can't STFU...

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAZY KAT
    "She musta never whipped that puzz on a nigga real good…
    ~~~~~~~~~~
    Maybe or maybe not, but there’s always some other female that has the better goods. Wouldn’t you agree?"
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    Nope.

  • ajonesy

    @ SnootyPooty1

    yeah ok. your laughing. but your response is the reason why Man and his friends can always find another "thirsty" h.oe around the corner.

    smh.

  • T.Y’z Cha Cha

    SnootyPooty1 says:

    LOL.. how can you expect a woman that dont know you or owe you anything to respect you. let alone trying to demand it this right here is hysterical at best that like saying a woman walking pass you on the street better respect… you start telling random people that and let me know how that works out for you…

    I will be waiting too :whistle:

    Snooty....I see we are >>>>>>>HERE<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
    :offtopic:

    Sandra can we get the new post of Erykah Badu and her BLONDE MOHAWK

  • LADYTEE

    I pray that Fantasia is doing okay. This is a picture of us when she came and spoke at our luncheon. She is a very nice individual and whatever the circumstances are that happen it is always 3 sides to a story. She was very humble and thanked God for all of her blessings. I will continue to pray for her. All of us have done something in our past that wasn't right but that doesn't make everyone a bad individual.

  • KrayZKat

    ajonesy says:

    @ KrayZKat

    no. thats not what i’m saying. women (black, white and green) all complain about the same sh*t.

    men not respecting them, being treated like s.ex objects, being cheating on, etc.

    but the reality is. a man will only do what a woman allows him to. women have the power.

    men do have responsibility. and mr tmobile should have to account for his actions and hurting his wife and the mother of his children.

    and yes fantasia could have made mr tmobile leave his wife by divorcing her, then walk off into the sunset with her. without looking like a cheap, low-class sideline-h.oe

    ~~~~~~~~~~~
    Okay, I got it now. If you allow someone to disrespect you, they will. That's so true. Yes, he should be accountable for what he did. I agree 100!

  • KrayZKat

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    @KRAZY KAT
    “She musta never whipped that puzz on a nigga real good…
    ~~~~~~~~~~
    Maybe or maybe not, but there’s always some other female that has the better goods. Wouldn’t you agree?”
    _________________________________________________________________________
    Nope.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Awww, come on, Man. A man can get the best cooch in the world, and there's always another female with some coochie tricks up her dress.

  • KrayZKat

    oh and i didnt see the show.
    and karrine was halfway smart.

    she used it and did it well, but she is fcking delusional.

    being delusional will never get u respect.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~
    It was very interesting Yeah, I guess she did well, but she seems to have a lot of demons from her past. Her mom was very abusive and she was raped at 17. She's no dummy, but she is def delusional.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    PAHairston says:

    Sandra, I had to come back and ask you one question: If my memory serves me right, didn’t you once post that you treat people how they treat you? Did the great SandraRose just contradict herself?
    _____________________

    How did I contradict myself?

  • Man, I just don’t care™

    @KRAZY KAT
    "Maybe or maybe not, but there’s always some other female that has the better goods. Wouldn’t you agree?”
    _________________________________________________________________________
    Nope.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Awww, come on, Man. A man can get the best cooch in the world, and there’s always another female with some coochie tricks up her dress."
    ____________________________________________________________________________

    Yeah. But the thing is, puzzy is good regardless. So at the end of the day, even if it's "bad" by comparison, it's still "good."

    That's why it is so hard to turn down...

  • ajonesy

    @ KrayZKat

    yeah my friend told me about it. i'll have to find it online. she told me a few parts and i was geting annoyed and she was only recalling what karrine was saying.

    i thought she was a savvy business girl when she first came on the scene.

    then she started talking.

  • ajonesy

    @ man

    ok then. under what circumstances do u turn it down? just curious.

  • LADYTEE

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    I’m glad I’m a man. I could care less bout anotha nigga’s “marriage.” If I’m feelin a woman, a nigga wife, sister, cousin, friend from way back, WHATEVER…. I’m tryin to hit. Married or not.

    Thank God a man can’t be a “homewrecker” (LOL), not that we would care anyway. The whole argument is stupid.

    #wejusttryintofuggregardless

    lol :rofl:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Ebony says:

    All I want to know is WTF is this —–> :yahoo: and how do people make their comments bold
    _____________________

    That's an emoticon, and you bold words by placing them inside these < B> < /B> with no spaces. Like this: < B> bold word < /B> (but without the spaces)

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    Came back just to say :preach: @Val, KrayZ, Daisy & Snooty. Its so wrong that one person can hold another one prisoner in a marriage that's over just to be bitter and spiteful and yes @LovelyOne its very very common because of how long divorces can last. Some divorces carry on longer than the actual marriage did and there's a reason why they ask you on the divorce paperwork for the date of seperation. No judge will hold a person accountable for dating someone else after the date put down on the paperwork. Its far less common for couples who have taken the steps to initiate the divorce, have it filed, and hired attornies to reconcile. It happens but more often then not the couple continues on to being officially divorced.

    To the itty bitty roach lying there trying to bait me, I'm not trying to get my shoes dirty so you can wait for somebody else to step on you. The only reason you got a reaction from me the last time was because of something going on with me personally it won't happen again cause with what I'm dealing with now you're not even a quarter of a blimp on my radar. Try that negative shyt with someone else cause now is not the time nor the day and since you know so much about my life than you should know that

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Ms. Everything says:

    @Sandra, for PA this woman left her husband twice, with no contact except when he found someone else.
    _______________________

    His wife told PA that she interfered in her marriage while she was trying to make it work. That is a very valid statement from the horse's mouth. A real woman will wait until the ink dries on the divorce papers before she makes her move -- unless she's insecure.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Anna Says:

    It’s been reported that Mashonda told/asked AK to back off and let them work out their marriage (Mashonda states that she didn’t know there were problems in her marriage. AK did not back off. Mashonda should have sued AK.
    __________________________

    If that's the case, then Alicia is extremely insecure, impatient and selfish.

  • KrayZKat

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    @KRAZY KAT
    “Maybe or maybe not, but there’s always some other female that has the better goods. Wouldn’t you agree?”
    _________________________________________________________________________
    Nope.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Awww, come on, Man. A man can get the best cooch in the world, and there’s always another female with some coochie tricks up her dress.”
    _________________________________________________________________________
    Yeah. But the thing is, puzzy is good regardless. So at the end of the day, even if it’s “bad” by comparison, it’s still “good.”

    That’s why it is so hard to turn down…
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Okay, you're a man so I'll take your word for it. :shrugs:

  • https://www.createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Sandra Rose said

    Some of us are so quick to step into another woman’s ready-made life because we want what we don’t have. It doesn’t take a psychiatrist to figure out that you don’t interfere in a troubled marriage. Hopefully PAHairston never experiences that type of heartache.
    *******************************************************
    I'm really surprised that you are coming at people like this....

    Does it not apply to you? I do recall you saying you had an affair with a married woman.

    So, I guess in your case it's okay because no matter how hard you try you can never step in her husbands shoes... :coffee:

    #noshade #justsaying

  • KrayZKat

    ajonesy says:

    @ KrayZKat

    yeah my friend told me about it. i’ll have to find it online. she told me a few parts and i was geting annoyed and she was only recalling what karrine was saying.

    i thought she was a savvy business girl when she first came on the scene.

    then she started talking.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    I'm sure you can find it online. After hearing her talk about her life, I could understand why she did what she did. It's kinda sad.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Sandra Rose said
    Some of us are so quick to step into another woman’s ready-made life because we want what we don’t have. It doesn’t take a psychiatrist to figure out that you don’t interfere in a troubled marriage. Hopefully PAHairston never experiences that type of heartache.
    *******************************************************
    iscream says:
    I’m really surprised that you are coming at people like this….
    Does it not apply to you? I do recall you saying you had an affair with a married woman.
    _______________________

    I was hoping no one would remember that. :/

  • https://www.createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ Sandra :hug: :rofl:

    I won't tell nobody else but we all fall short. ;)

  • Ebony

    @ Sandra :yahoo: <------ is that Antoine Dobson?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKKxPtP6XjQ renegadesince1985

    :dead: At iscream....girl you know you have the memory of an elephant.... :lol: an elephant never forgets...

  • Ebony

    test

  • http://mylifeinthesun782.blogspot.com Ms. Everything

    Sandra she said that woman left him twice, changed the locks, no contact and then after the second seperation when they got together, after he filed for divorce she called her talking that interference bs. If she wanted to work things out then she would've been calling her husband at the time, trying to set up counseling, at least trying to talk things out. Why wait until he's ready to move on to call the woman, not your husband, and say we're trying to work things out? That's a girl playing games period. If she wanted her marriage to work she would've been doing whatever it takes to make that marriage work. I tried counseling, got other people involved, talked to my pastor, had people praying for us I put in work to attempt to save my marriage so I know the steps you take when you really want it to work. You can't leave for months and years at a time and then say oh well I'm trying to save our family, it doesn't work that way. People aren't pawns you can play with and do whatever to and expect them to just go with the flow because you're married on paper. Marriage is a lifestyle, that takes two active participants who are both willing and able and COMMITTED to put in hard work and effort to make it last. Its so much more than just a paper you sign at the courthouse. Without those two people both working together you have a bullshyt piece of paper. Might as well have saved the tree and dated forever but that's why marriages fail because people assume that once they're married its all easy and that paper will save them, it doesn't

  • http://mobile.twitter.com/iamwonderchick2 LesBinLuv

    ()testing just like Ebony...just glad she asked before me()

  • http://mobile.twitter.com/iamwonderchick2 LesBinLuv

    Test #2

  • http://mobile.twitter.com/iamwonderchick2 LesBinLuv

    Now I'm cooking wit grease baby

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    ajonesy.... Let behave now your entitled to your opinion as well as I am... No need for insults I am far from any hoe and would never mess with a married man or anyone else man.....

    I have been married and I left my husband and he refused to give me a divorce he wanted to try and i had enough.. I am speaking from my experience and no he did not cheat. It was just time to move on

  • kwall

    @ Sandra :yahoo: <—— is that Antoine Dobson?
    --------------------------------------------------------

    idk if it is supposed to be an emoti of HIS azz or not....but i am :dead: you asked....and i am even MORE :dead: that ERRYBODY know who HE IS now...that he is a household name!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    iscream says:

    @ Sandra
    I won’t tell nobody else but we all fall short.
    ________________________

    The difference is she was happily married. She loved her husband and kids and she had no intentions of leaving him. I was the side piece. I know it was wrong, but I was young (in college). I did not break up a happy home so my conscience is clear. :/

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    I have far to much respect for myself to share a man with anyone and I am to good of a woman to settle for anything less than what is going to make me happy.... I would rather be alone than to have a piece of a man thats been around a few times or two and back. But hey thats just me

    Name calling is for children.... Some people are so immature

    pardon my typos in post #272

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Ebony says:

    @ Sandra < —— is that Antoine Dobson? __________________ :lol:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    T.Y'z Cha Cha says:

    Sandra can we get the new post of Erykah Badu and her BLONDE MOHAWK
    ___________________

    Isn't that blond 'do about a week old?

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Ebony says:

    test
    _____

    LesBinLuv says:

    Test #2
    __________

    :yahoo:

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    But what wasnt reported was that he fathered another child while the were still functioning as husband and wife... He at least went public with Alicia after him and Mashonda were legally separated on paper...

    Tasia had this man name tattooed on her chest big as day Stevie wonder saw it

  • Ebony

    :yahoo: <---------- that's what that gay flight attendant did yesterday

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    Hey LES

  • Lovely One

    test

  • kwall

    :yahoo: <———- that's what that gay flight attendant did yesterday
    ----------------------------------------------------------

    ______________________^^^ FLATFUCKIN LINE. getcho azz off this blog ebony.

    me and my coworkers CRIED til snot came this morning about his azz...the VISUAL...that dude spazzed out...after getting bonked in the head by a suitcase...cussed the person out OVER the LOUDspeaker...grabbed some brews...and gave they azz TWO FANGAS and MURKED.....

  • Daisy

    @iscream DEAD and GONE at you calling Sandra out :rofl:

    @Snooty ^5 about the name calling not being necessary :nono:

  • Ebony

    @ kwall I have always been scared to fly. Now I have to be worried about fligh attendants going ham no ma'am.

  • ajonesy

    #noshade snooty

    I wasn't trying to insult u. Lol I enjoyed the convo lol. I don't take this sh.it here seriously no ma'am

  • buddapecan

    Since I quoted my Pastor, let me be clear...as a Pastor he holds the husband accountable for making the marriage work because the MAN chose the WOMAN he wanted to marry. So his statement is from a place of accountability. And like @Man said earlier (and like Sandra has said several times), it is not in a man's nature to be with ONE woman. But when a man makes the decision to marry and be monogamous, it's hard for him because its so many women who don't respect themselves, yet alone another woman's marriage.

    I am in no way saying Mr T-Mobile (or any other cheater) is not responsible. What I am saying is that women can be scandalous and will sleep with your husband knowing full well he's married and not care. And if that is the case, they should be held accountable just as like the cheating husband will be.

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @Daisy missy people need to extend their vernacular......

    Anyone can hurl insults it takes a mature person to hold an intelligent conversation thats meaningful

  • http://myspace.com/mullatos SnootyPooty1

    @ajonesy........ No worries I dont either but I refused to entertain or hold conversations with people who call me names when its totally uncalled for.....I dont attack anyone on this blog or call them out of their names. I Treat people how I would like to be treated kindness goes a long way...

  • pointhimout

    this is not my medical minute or moment, but I think most people have a couple screws loose. trust me when i say we all have something that will make us snap too, of course, we just dont know what that is.

  • Jerrie

    In Gods eyes sin is sin whether you lied, cheated, or whatever you did. No one is better than the other believe that. So why the one that cheated got there lives right with God is now going to heaven and the one that lied is going to hell. Remember that.

  • http://gravatar.com/avatar/0e3dd0989333fb4dbfefdb522ee5bd4e.png aniyvwiya

    @Choco: Appreciated :)
    @CivilEngineer: Important matters merit extensive replies.
    @Sandra: I don't believe I was misdiagnosed, that's the thing. I believe that I was correctly diagnosed for the most part, and that my overall good natured personality skews people away from believing I have BPD because it is considered to be an ugly, cold hearted disorder akin to APD and NPD due to misconception and stigmatization. I feel this is an unfair judgement.
    >>Antisocial personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.7): a pervasive disregard for the law and the rights of others.
    Borderline personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.83): extreme "black and white" thinking, instability in relationships, self-image, identity and behavior.
    Histrionic personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.50): pervasive attention-seeking behavior including inappropriate sexual seductiveness and shallow or exaggerated emotions.
    Narcissistic personality disorder (DSM-IV code 301.81): a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.<<
    APD-disregard for the rights of others
    BPD-instability in relationships, identity, and self-image.
    NPD-grandiosity, lack of empathy

    Do you realize how BPD differs dramatically from the other two?
    I agree that they can occur simultaneously in one person, my *only issue* is that you made them appear to be one in the same! I
    On a related note, I believe Angelina Jolie is a clear example of a celebrity with BPD and yes I do think her affair with Brad Pitt is an example of how some people with BPD seek validation via a perceived challenge. She then proceeded to amp up her humanitarian efforts to counterbalance the hit to her public image as well as to fulfill an inner need to do something good with her life, because people with BPD are not incapable of empathy as you have implied either accidentally or intentionally. She's manipulative, calculating, charming, self-centered in terms of romantic pursuits, but also capable of extreme behavior that can manifest in extreme goodness and extreme selfishness. It's all about extremes. Fantasia sort of seems to me like she's just messed up--I don't see definitive traits of a personality disorder. She may indeed have an Axis I disorder

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ aniyvwiya:

    I'm done debating with you. Holla back when you actually graduate with a degree and you've been working in the real world for at least a year. :bye:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ aniyvwiya:

    In describing people with BPD, I noticed that you left out self harming behavior such as wrist cutting and suicide attempts.

  • http://gravatar.com/avatar/0e3dd0989333fb4dbfefdb522ee5bd4e.png aniyvwiya

    @Sandra, you realize how snooty you come off? I could sink to your level and insult you, but that's not my thing. A student who studies these disorders extensively and interns in institutional settings is not necessarily that far below a nurse in terms of understanding the clinical characteristics of psychological disorders--unless you were a nurse in a psych setting of course. Even still, you know I know what I'm talking about which is why you won't "debate" [aka answer my questions]me. Get some manners. This alpha-female thing is very rude and unnecessary when you are dealing with someone like myself.
    I guess you didn't read my "overly long" comments where I discussed not only my own self mutilation but its prevalence in the population of those diagnosed with BPD. It's a major factor. I even said it's why I was immediately diagnosed with BPD after my incident at the ER. Angelina Jolie, a celebrity I feel presents all the superficial indications of having BPD, self-mutilated and has admitted to enjoying self-harm/extreme tattoo sessions/etc.
    You know more about Fantasia than I do, but my overall impression of her life has been extremely chaotic to the point that I think she may have something more serious than an Axis II disorder. She doesn't seem to be able to hold it together for any period of time.
    I have a question-in your experience as a nurse, did you find yourself encountering people with BPD who displayed overtly antisocial characteristics? I'm genuinely curious, because I know the disorders coincide frequently but I disagree that BPD=APD=NPD more or less and I'd like to know specifically why you think so.

  • http://gravatar.com/avatar/0e3dd0989333fb4dbfefdb522ee5bd4e.png aniyvwiya

    "Narcissists belong in the category of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This means that while most of them are beautiful and charming, they are deep down rotten to the core and there is no treatment for what ails them. So how do you deal with one?"

    THIS is where I bristled, because you did not state "these disorders are often occur simultaneously but are two different disorders." A / mark is not adequate, some people here will never again read about personality disorders and take your word as the gospel. Then, when they meet a person who reveals to them that they have BPD, they may assume that this person is the dreaded "narcissist" that Sandra Rose wrote feverishly about, ROTTEN TO THE CORE, as you said. I've had personal experience with this and it was devastating. I revealed to my fiance that I had been diagnosed with BPD, he googled, went to various websites but stumbled upon several that were so prejudiced that he actually began to judge me and suspect me of basically being a sociopath! The website he read was written by a man scorned by a woman he dated who allegedly suffered from BPD. His tone was similar to yours. I eventually asked one of my professors, an esteemed mental health professional who worked extensively with actual sociopaths [at one point worked on an ambitious project to determine whether or not these individuals could ever be effectively treated] not to mention narcissists [now those ARE two disorders that coincide very frequently], to sit down with my fiance and explain to him that what was being written by lay bloggers was bullshit. He said that while those with BPD may "drain the life out of you" at times, they are a far cry from "rotten to the core" sociopaths and narcissists.
    Incidentally, he tended to discount the writings of Dr. Sam Vaknin, someone I'm pretty sure you're familiar with judging from your characterizations of narcissists.
    Anyway, done with the long winded comments on this subject, just hope you understand where I'm coming from as a human being and also that you might not resort to defensive offense in dealing with people who respectfully criticize some of what you say.