The big news in the blog stratosphere over the weekend was the continuing trials and tribulations of “American Idol” winner Fantasia Barrino, who is being sued by a woman for breaking up her marriage.
You all know the story that the mainstream media has just caught a whiff of due of the aforementioned lawsuit.
Here’s CNN‘s take on the story:
Paula Cook, who separated from her husband, Antwaun Cook, in June, filed the documents — seeking child custody, alimony and other monetary support — Wednesday in Mecklenburg County District Court.
The documents allege Antwaun Cook began the affair with Barrino, 26, in August 2009 after the pair met at a Charlotte-area T-Mobile store where Cook is employed.
Barrino… treated Cook to a lavish lifestyle, flying him to Atlanta, Georgia; Miami, Florida; New York; Los Angeles, California; and Barbados, the documents allege.
The pair “have at times recorded their illicit sexual activity,” according to the documents.
I know you are growing wary of me throwing around the N-word. But you should know that 90% of the celebrities that you worship are narcissists — and the reason our society (YOU) place celebrity narcissists on a pedestal is because we are a nation of narcissist enablers.
Narcissists belong in the category of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This means that while most of them are beautiful and charming, they are deep down rotten to the core and there is no treatment for what ails them. So how do you deal with one?
You avoid them like the plague — but first you have to learn to recognize them, which is why I’m here to teach you what to look for.
How do you know when you’re dealing with a NPD/BPD? — they move quickly to ‘own’ you.
Shortly after meeting one, they decide your lives should merge and you should move in together. If the NPD is a man, he will propose to you within 30 days after meeting you. If the NPD is a woman, she will pressure you to marry her after a week. This is not normal behavior — and no matter what you think you feel: you are not in love.
No matter what you think you feel, you will never be happy in a relationship with a NPD. You will always be ‘on edge’ or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you somehow manage to find a little happiness, your narcissist will make it their priority to make you miserable.
Like most malignant narcissists, Fantasia is a taker who strongly believes she is entitled to what is yours. This means your money, your man, your personal property, and sometimes your life.
The NPD/BPD is an empty, soulless human being who has no empathy or compassion for your feelings. The NPD is an empty shell who requires external triggers in order to feel human like you.
It isn’t enough for Fantasia to find a man — she must take your man in order to feel complete.
According to court documents, Fantasia boldly flaunted Mrs. Cook’s husband in her face and taunted her often.
Fantasia interrupted a phone call between Mrs. Cook and Antwaun, telling her, “He don’t want you. Maybe the next time you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”
This excerpt from Arachnoid.com explains the thought processes of celebrity narcissists like Fantasia – The Takers of The World:
You can easily detect narcissists, including the everyday non-malignant kind, by how they process personal interactions. To a normal person, anything you do for them is a gift, and they will normally thank you for it, and possibly think of a way to reciprocate in kind. To a narcissist, by contrast, anything you do is part of an instant obligation you have to [her], it is never good enough, and you have a permanent responsibility to try harder to please [her]. Your efforts will always [fail], but the narcissist will generously let you try again. And again.
This is Fantasia’s 2nd known incidence of interfering in relationships to take what she wants in an effort to make herself feel whole. If you recall, she also stole Grand Hustle rapper Young Dro from his longtime girlfriend (they are back together now).
Since there is no cure for narcissism; each incidence will only make her worse. Your marriage is not safe with NPDs like Fantasia on the prowl. If you are a narcissist enabler, then you are easy prey for a NPD.
Learn how to identify narcissists/BPDs in your life before they identify — and destroy you.