Medical Minute: Borderline Personality Disorder
The big news in the blog stratosphere over the weekend was the continuing trials and tribulations of “American Idol” winner Fantasia Barrino, who is being sued by a woman for breaking up her marriage.
You all know the story that the mainstream media has just caught a whiff of due of the aforementioned lawsuit.
Here’s CNN‘s take on the story:
Paula Cook, who separated from her husband, Antwaun Cook, in June, filed the documents — seeking child custody, alimony and other monetary support — Wednesday in Mecklenburg County District Court.
The documents allege Antwaun Cook began the affair with Barrino, 26, in August 2009 after the pair met at a Charlotte-area T-Mobile store where Cook is employed.
Barrino… treated Cook to a lavish lifestyle, flying him to Atlanta, Georgia; Miami, Florida; New York; Los Angeles, California; and Barbados, the documents allege.
The pair “have at times recorded their illicit sexual activity,” according to the documents.
I know you are growing wary of me throwing around the N-word. But you should know that 90% of the celebrities that you worship are narcissists — and the reason our society (YOU) place celebrity narcissists on a pedestal is because we are a nation of narcissist enablers.
Narcissists belong in the category of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This means that while most of them are beautiful and charming, they are deep down rotten to the core and there is no treatment for what ails them. So how do you deal with one?
You don’t.
You avoid them like the plague — but first you have to learn to recognize them, which is why I’m here to teach you what to look for.
How do you know when you’re dealing with a NPD/BPD? — they move quickly to ‘own’ you.
Shortly after meeting one, they decide your lives should merge and you should move in together. If the NPD is a man, he will propose to you within 30 days after meeting you. If the NPD is a woman, she will pressure you to marry her after a week. This is not normal behavior — and no matter what you think you feel: you are not in love.
No matter what you think you feel, you will never be happy in a relationship with a NPD. You will always be ‘on edge’ or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you somehow manage to find a little happiness, your narcissist will make it their priority to make you miserable.
Like most malignant narcissists, Fantasia is a taker who strongly believes she is entitled to what is yours. This means your money, your man, your personal property, and sometimes your life.
The NPD/BPD is an empty, soulless human being who has no empathy or compassion for your feelings. The NPD is an empty shell who requires external triggers in order to feel human like you.
It isn’t enough for Fantasia to find a man — she must take your man in order to feel complete.
According to court documents, Fantasia boldly flaunted Mrs. Cook’s husband in her face and taunted her often.
Fantasia interrupted a phone call between Mrs. Cook and Antwaun, telling her, “He don’t want you. Maybe the next time you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”
This excerpt from Arachnoid.com explains the thought processes of celebrity narcissists like Fantasia – The Takers of The World:
You can easily detect narcissists, including the everyday non-malignant kind, by how they process personal interactions. To a normal person, anything you do for them is a gift, and they will normally thank you for it, and possibly think of a way to reciprocate in kind. To a narcissist, by contrast, anything you do is part of an instant obligation you have to [her], it is never good enough, and you have a permanent responsibility to try harder to please [her]. Your efforts will always [fail], but the narcissist will generously let you try again. And again.
This is Fantasia’s 2nd known incidence of interfering in relationships to take what she wants in an effort to make herself feel whole. If you recall, she also stole Grand Hustle rapper Young Dro from his longtime girlfriend (they are back together now).
Since there is no cure for narcissism; each incidence will only make her worse. Your marriage is not safe with NPDs like Fantasia on the prowl. If you are a narcissist enabler, then you are easy prey for a NPD.
Learn how to identify narcissists/BPDs in your life before they identify — and destroy you.
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Describes my ex to a “T”!
WOW!!!! I know a good number of people who fit this category. Kind of scary
@ Budda, get out of my head. I thought the same thing when I read it.
Maybe our ex is the same person
the mere fact that “tasia” took her man is embarrassment enough LOL!!!!! s
S/N: Is it me or does dude look a lil zesty in that picture?
I wouldn’t go so far as to say that Fantasia suffers from a borderline personality disorder, but I will agree that she’s a typical “hood-rat” that likes to bop with other women’s man.
Ew to the men that hit that…
I don’t like her bikini bottom.
Bikinis aren’t appropriate for all body types. A one-piece would have fit her better.
IsaiahsMom says:
I don’t like her bikini bottom.
Bikinis aren’t appropriate for all body types. A one-piece would have fit her better.
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I frickin’ concur…..Plus she’s a pathetic liar. Lest not forget the scankalicious tatt.
Sandra you should have just done a post on Fanny and posted the tape. Other than that
Everybody is either gay, DL or a narcissist. You should become a therapist as much time as you spend diagnosing celebs.
oops *Let us*……..What was I thinking???
Please tell me this fruity looking dude does not have “Thug Life” ala Tupac tatted on his stomach…..
That disease seems to be spreading in the entertainment world lately because there is quite a few famous women that have “stolen” someone’s man. BTW, Fantasia looks really pretty in that picture promoting her CD at least.
“But you should know that 90% of the celebrities that you worship are narcissists — and the reason our society (YOU) place celebrity narcissists on a pedestal is because we are a nation of narcissist enablers.”
I don’t worship any celebrity
They are regular people just like joe blow down the street…
And if it wasn’t for the “nation of narcissist enablers” there would be no Sandra Rose dot com….now would there?
Anywhoo….As for this Fantasia story..I’m not really surprised. You can take the chick out the hood but….well you know the rest
Its funny how she clearly intervened in this man’s marriage no legal separation was filed they were living as husband and wife until he met Fannie Mae however no one is calling her a home wrecker.. WOW
This is not the first time this story has presented itself…. I hope the wife wins… Since A. Keys allegedly broke up Mashonda’s marriage I wonder why she has not sued you know why because on paper legally they were separated and she has no grounds… The inconsistency and hypocrisy kills me………..
Please tell me this fruity looking dude does not have “Thug Life” ala Tupac tatted on his stomach
Actually I think it says “Nupe 4 Life” as in Kappa Alpha Psi brother….
SMH…….
mmm mmm morning Fukkery tastes like French Vanilla Cappuccino.
HEY SR FAM
GM renegade…..
Mornin Fam!
The tatt say “Nupe 4 Life”
@Snooty..i think they have called her a homewrecker.
This is nothing new celebs and rgular folk been cheating since the beginning of time
Rene would that be the “new” chapter of the Kappas?!?!?!
@Brown…what new chapter??
Hey Snooty Pa-tootie!!!!
Heyyyy!!! @Brown…It’s monday and I must be slow….but what “new” chapter?
I guess I was the only one that got the email with the gay guys tryin to form their own chapter
Hey Sanoots!
I guess I was the only one that got the email with the gay guys tryin to form their own chapter
can u send me that email? I’m a brother of Kappa Alpha Psi and I haven’t heard of such. If they gay and they are brothers and they follow the proper protocal then it is what it is…
Just check out the twist in Twan’s walk.
Fantasia is a home wrecker…she ain no different.
But really no one has to say much about it because its already bitting her in the azz….its such a low blow, no one even cares to acknowledge it….those record sales are going to be the p.it.ts
Yall I was inspired to do a throwback gravi! I like to call it “Ode To THE 90′s”
@ M-Promp: is that Regina from “Steve Harvey” in your profile photo? I think she’s a cutie!
@Brown: That guy in your profile photo gets me all hot and bothered…
Thank you SR poster for being my inspiration!
She looks like she stinks.
Isaiah I changed it!
@ Rapist
So u sayin you wnat me to go thru my 1200 + emails to see if i still have that dam email! I think not!
therapist1911 says:
can u send me that email? I’m a brother of Kappa Alpha Psi and I haven’t heard of such. If they gay and they are brothers and they follow the proper protocal then it is what it is…
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*Team Gay Rights*
offtopic:
Y’all–I can’t stop watching that Antoine Dodson Autotune remix on u-tube. That’s my shyt! I heard you can purchase the ring-tone?! That’s what’s up!
whatdoesitmatter says:
She looks like she stinks.
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@ Brown
I miss the guy already…*sobs*
Wait–are those “home-girl” earrings going on in that photo??? Heck yeah! Pretty fly!
Seeing Tasia in a sex tape:
She look like she can suck a bowling ball out of a vacuum cleaner. Twan look like he like those little balls in his butt.
@therapist1911 Shout to the Crimson and Creame Fam!
All I can say is the sh.it is about to really hit the fan on this one…Fantasia should be SHAME
Charlotte, NC standup
In NC, a wife can sue the mistress for breaking up her marriage. Last year, a court awarded the wife millions from the mistress because the mistress had an affair with the husband.
I hope Paula gets Fanny on this.
Y’all–I can’t stop watching that Antoine Dodson Autotune remix on u-tube. That’s my shyt! I heard you can purchase the ring-tone?! That’s what’s up!
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*white guy on the PIANO at the end of the remix*
“HE’ssSSSss CLimbing in YO wWindDDOWs
HE’sSs STan-CHINg YO PEOPLE UUUuuup”
whatdoesitmatter says:
She looks like she stinks.
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but as I always say…how you get him, is how you lose him! I don’t why these women think that by taking someone else husband, who has a wife and kids..are safe from that hands of KARMA…oh she will get hers..that **** isnt cute! never mind her being a celebrity (Iguess) she should have more respect for herself than that…ughhhh she just makes me sick!!
& who would wanna be with her anyway..look at her????? YUK
Fantasia is CLEARLY wrong as is the cheating husband, but why is the wife “suing” Fantasia? Her husband has no responsibility in this? Will she get her husband and a happy marriage back? If the wife doesn’t hold the husband accountable, they will feel free to go out and cheat because obviously, they don’t have to suffer the consequences. Just sad…
Krysi J says:
Y’all–I can’t stop watching that Antoine Dodson Autotune remix on u-tube. That’s my shyt! I heard you can purchase the ring-tone?! That’s what’s up!
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*white guy on the PIANO at the end of the remix*
“HE’ssSSSss CLimbing in YO wWindDDOWs
HE’sSs STan-CHINg YO PEOPLE UUUuuup”
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Aye–he hit that note, don’t he???? Girl! I be ROLLING!!!
My favorite part? “…and hide your husband ’cause they raping everybody out here” Wow! So now they raping everybody, huh?
@Rapist
I was mistaken, it was the Omegas
I would not want to be in this situation or have my name associated with anything like this. Just all around messy…..
Morning Brown & therapist & Krysi………
How does one go about “stealing” a man? Or Woman? SMDH
I’m rootin for the wife in this, but ummmmm, if she sues, how much is she really gonna get???? Cuz ummmmm, ain’t Fannie broke????
QueenSJ says:
Fantasia is CLEARLY wrong as is the cheating husband, but why is the wife “suing” Fantasia? Her husband has no responsibility in this? Will she get her husband and a happy marriage back? If the wife doesn’t hold the husband accountable, they will feel free to go out and cheat because obviously, they don’t have to suffer the consequences. Just sad…
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whatdoesitmatter says:
She looks like she stinks.
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@QueenSJ…according to CNN, the wife is not suing Fanny….I said Paula should sue because of a NC law that allows a wife to do so.
According to CNN…”Paula Cook is seeking custody of her two children, ages 6 and 2, with Antwaun Cook, as well as child support, alimony, attorney’s fees and ownership of the couple’s former marital home.”
@Brown.. I love the new old pic….. How was your weekend?
Hey Al-meera
and hide your husband ’cause they raping everybody out here”
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*claps while singing*
“You don’t have to COME and CONFESS..we LOOKING FOR U
We gon FIIIiiiIIid YOU, we gon FIIIIIiiiiiID you,
so you can run and tell dat
run and tell dat
run and tell dat
Homeboy
Homeboy
Homeboy”
*I can’t stop singing it*
HEY SNOOTY
Hello All. There are 3 sides to every story: her side, his side and what actually happened. I don’t believe in spouse stealing but it takes 2 to tango. Besides, 80% of married men cut out at some point in their marriage. (It’s the dog in them.) Look at King Soloman, one of God’s main men in the Bible, said to be one of the smartest men of his time, who had 700 wives and 300 concubines! And guess what? He was ‘black but comely’ meaning black but handsome. Hmmmm, what happens to a concubine’s soul? I believe they were forced into these arrangements. Anyone?
Opps Al-Ameera
HEY BROOOOOOoooooOOOOOWWWWwwwwNNNnnnnn
you still shanking fools?
lexdiamonz says: the mere fact that “tasia” took her man is embarrassment enough LOL!!!!!
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this best sums up my response. i would have handled this ish as quietly as possible.
Snoots I’m typin the email rat now!
Undercooked fish sticks, Snooty?
but 
Mernin’ erryone!
free says:
lexdiamonz says: the mere fact that “tasia” took her man is embarrassment enough LOL!!!!!
Guess he’s going slummin
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this best sums up my response. i would have handled this ish as quietly as possible.
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Krysi J says:
HEY BROOOOOOoooooOOOOOWWWWwwwwNNNnnnnn
you still shanking fools?
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Cuz he looked at me crazy……..
You know how I do Krysi!!!
I am a Fantasia fan but this isn’t a good look for her. Marriage is something that I believe in and I don’t care how long you’ve been “seperated”, you are still married. As a matter of fact I would even be skeptical of somebody who is “recently” divorced, people carry around baggage for a while and I don’t want to be a part of drama, can’t stand drama.
IsaiahsMom says:
@ M-Promp: is that Regina from “Steve Harvey” in your profile photo? I think she’s a cutie!
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Yeah that’s her, but I like to think of her as Tasha Mack these days. You know from “The Game?”
So Tasia couldn’t pull a ballplayer, entrepreneur, rapper, dopeboy…?
The best she could do was a T-Mobile salesperson? Dam.n, not Verizon or Sprint or AT&T but T-Mobile? She better be getting free service out of this deal…
@Brown..thanks for clearing that up
@Lovezoe….crimson and creme love
@Snooty…goood morning
Sandra, this story is ridiculous girl. Fantasia is a young lady who is not very bright or learned who fell for this dude for whatever reason and did whatever she needed to lure him away from his family. That’s all. Ain’t no need for a medical minute on this one.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, there’s a Fantasia fan and a very loyal SR poster that is missing from this post. I wouldn’t comment either. She is an embarrassment to her loyal fans.
@kearalove…. Morning
Al-Ameera says:
@ Budda, get out of my head. I thought the same thing when I read it.
Maybe our ex is the same person
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ROFL! It might be! If it was, I would not be surprised!
kearalove says:
So Tasia couldn’t pull a ballplayer, entrepreneur, rapper, dopeboy…? The best she could do was a T-Mobile salesperson? Dam.n, not Verizon or Sprint or AT&T but T-Mobile? She better be getting free service out of this deal…
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Hey–maybe he has a good benefits package? Shoot! That’s what I’m checking for now! Can you offer me good dental coverage???
@beenaroundtheworld
No I understood your post. It was just a question in general that I wanted to write on. And I used quotes for ‘suing’ because the wife is filing for child support and in addition, there’s huge speculation that she will be suing Fantasia for “stealing” her husband, or whatever that means.
IsaiahsMom says:
Hey–maybe he has a good benefits package? Shoot! That’s what I’m checking for now! Can you offer me good dental coverage???
True, true…
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Good Morning everybody.
Homewrecking is the new black.
Cinderella – YOU LYING TO ME! Are they just backwoods crazy and country slow in NC?
“He don’t want you. Maybe the next time you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”
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I call bull! Fantasia doesn’t know how to use subject-verb agreement; the wife is lying!!
I call bull! Fantasia doesn’t know how to use subject-verb agreement; the wife is lying!!
Looking at her is the number one reason I refuse to get a tattoo. It just looks nasty.
renegadesince1985 says:
And if it wasn’t for the “nation of narcissist enablers” there would be no Sandra Rose dot com….now would there?
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That’s not true. You come to Sandrarose.com for the entertainment value, not to enable me. Also, I am not a narcissist because I do not seek the limelight; I actually run from it.
CivilEngineer says:
“He don’t want you. Maybe the next time you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”
OMG CIVIL
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I call bull! Fantasia doesn’t know how to use subject-verb agreement; the wife is lying!!
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@Sandra I had an issue with posting a comment when i attempted to send my comment a white screen came up saying this page is not available…..
I DONT THINK HER ASS SHOULD GET **** DONT SUE FANNIE SUE YO CHEATIN ASS HUSBAND >:(>:(>:(>:(>:(
LOL! Civil
I think the bigger issue is why this obviously successful and world reknown chick can’t find someone of her own? Is her esteem that low? I mean at some point in life, and with success like hers, one would remove themselves from a low-life mentally.
I guess this is what happens when you get a GED – acting all brand new and wrecking homes and sh*t!
Sandra, I do, I have to log in repeatedly if I refresh a page. I usually have to clear my cookies for it to act right!
pinksghetti says:
That disease seems to be spreading in the entertainment world lately because there is quite a few famous women that have “stolen” someone’s man.
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Actually this ‘disease’ is spreading in our society which is why you see so much more media attention being given to Narcissism. Google the word “narcissist” to see what I mean. Our society is made up of two personality types: narcissists and their enablers. We all enable narcissists just by worshipping celebrities. Nowhere else in the world do we worship celebrities more than in the U.S. It’s a form of sickness. How do you know if you’re an enabler? If you cry when a star dies but you don’t cry when a family member dies.
JLO, she should be made an example of – and all these other homewrecking hos. Some people actually do take their marriage vows seriously. If you wanna ‘ackafool’, why you gotta stay married? So when you see ain’t sh*t out there, you can come back home to LIKELY the only person to put up with your bull sh*t? HELL TO THE NAW!
Why should any woman or child have to go through family dysfunction just cause they daddy wanna get his dick wet?
In the state of NC, if your husband commits adultry you can sue his mistress for “Alienation of Affection”. I am sure Tasia will be served in 5…4…3…2…LOL!
It’s very important that most of you understand that you might be a narcissist enabler – someone who worships others. That trait will make you a very easy prey for narcissists (they can spot you from a mile away).
They will take everything you own and leave you broke and brokenhearted. If you meet a man who seems so bigger than life that you wait by the phone for his call (that usually never comes because he has bigger prey than you so you end up calling him first) — you might be a narcissist enabler.
Read this article on Businessweek.com. It’s very good. It explains how these men are very charming when they meet you, but they are filled with hostility toward you.
@QueenSJ….ok sorry sis, I misunderstood where you were going with your comment. I got it now!
@Ardentphotog you are cutting up sideways. I forgot about the JLo and Marc Anthony situation, but his wife did put them on blast. I am so glad I am back home so I can watch this unfold on Channel 14 news
@Cinderella they have a video of the Whites at some bar asking for autographs and photos with Antoine Dodson- I guess he will be on his local narcissist steez in 5,4,3,2…..
On the other hand, if you are a woman who can see right through a narcissist’s charms and cut him off before he can do damage, then please applaud yourself. You belong to a very small minority of women.
Homewrecking women, get youselves some self esteem! Learn to love yourself, get to know yourself and know that the world won’t love you any less if you do not have a man in your life – geesh!
@Sandra
I wasn’t calling you a narcissist
I was saying if people weren’t “enabling” these narcissistic celebs then blogs (including yours) wouldn’t be that popular. 
QueenSJ says:
Fantasia is CLEARLY wrong as is the cheating husband, but why is the wife “suing” Fantasia? Her husband has no responsibility in this? Will she get her husband and a happy marriage back? If the wife doesn’t hold the husband accountable, they will feel free to go out and cheat because obviously, they don’t have to suffer the consequences. Just sad…
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Doesn’t alimony and child support hold him accountable?
A narcissist would bore me and I’ve met some they getz NONE
Fantasia can sing and I like her music but I wonder if she is really aware of what she is doing-COOK is on the DL so the ex-wife needs to thank her lucky stars! But damn woman are getting sued now for breaking up a home-I say GOOD FOR THEM!
Team Soon to be ex wife
Sandra I had trouble logging in the other day. I had to keep trying and around the 7th time it let me log in
I’m still confused on how she could sue him for alimony…does that mean she didn’t work?? How could they make a living off of T-Mobile…was he even salaried?
By the by, I’m flabbergasted by these “proper” ladies sitting by while these women steal their men. Please know that I would have caught a charge behind Fantasia’s azz. This is the first out of the Gabby, Alicia, Tasia situations where the hubby was definately still with his wife while the affair was going on. There was hope for this marraige and Fantasia wrecked it for nothing. That man is not going to stay with her after she gets broke so why take him from his children? Yeah, I’da got in that azz for real. Later for all that “I ain’t fightin’ for no man crap.” I have and will continue to do so. You will not swoop down on my situation with ease. Especially when children are involved.
@Civil they stated his wife is an elementary school teacher so they have 2 incomes coming in :-/
Civil, you can ask, but you might not get it. She hsouldn’t miss out on something that may be available to her.
Awe Lord not Fanny pack/back pack again…
HE IS MARRIED MISS CELIE…
M-A-RAH-RAH….you know what…just fuggin FORGET IT!
*This dude really IS a sidekick. He works for T-Mobile don’t he?
renegadesince1985 says:
@Sandra
I wasn’t calling you a narcissist I was saying if people weren’t “enabling” these narcissistic celebs then blogs (including yours) wouldn’t be that popular.
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Got ‘cha!
And you’re right. 
Where are the ECU folks who went to school with Mr. Cook back in 98ish??? Wilmington natives or got peeps from there…?? Please inform the rest of the SR masses about his “questionable” ….goings on. I’ve already heard.
*lurks…
@ SnootyPooty1, ardentphotog and militaryspouse1: I’ll work on those issues you’ve been having. Thanks for the input.
@beenaroundtheworld… No worries boo, you’re good.
@shaybytheway… I see where you’re going but it’s still something that I question. There are many men who pay child support and alimony but did not cheat, believe it or not. With these situations, all I see is an emotionally damaged wife bypassing a husband who sits back eating popcorn (and one who made vows to her) and charging towards the mistress with a vengeance. Like someone else commented before me, it takes two to tango but you’re beef should be with your husband waaaay before it’s with his sideline piece.
Fannie Mae Fannie Mae, you low self esteem having trick. I’m betting she got off more on stealing a man from a woman who looks better than her than actually just falling for Mr T Mobile.
And I said it once and I’ll say it again. Yes, a woman has no responsibility to the other woman in a marriage but she should have enough self respect and values not to get involved in that kind of situation and become a 3rd party in a relationship. HOME WRECKING BISHES..all of them. Gabby, Fannie, ALICIA ALL of them. Keep your legs clothes to MARRIED MEN.
I live here in Charlotte and this story made the local news. Paula Cook is a well-respected high school teacher here who just started her principal internship last school year. If you go to cms website, it’ll show her bio.
Homeskillet do got a lil sugar in his tank!! She better watch that. She is his free ride while he riding her bro backstage.
I wish Fantasia well.
There are lots of narcissists roaming this earth. I think Fantasia suffers more from low self esteem and insecurity.
Sandra, this particular post of yours poses a serious liability.
As a psychology major, it has been repeatedly pointed out to me that Borderline Personality Disorder is a stigmatized, misdiagnosed, and poorly understood disorder. You have essentially fused Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder together, which is dangerously prejudicial. You have made sweeping generalizations without properly explaining the actual diagnostic criteria for BPD–to an audience of readers who likely have no personal knowledge of the disorder to weigh against your judgement.
I myself was diagnosed by a psychologist as having a “mild case” of BPD within the first 15 minutes of my evaluation after a night when I slashed my arm intentionally but unintentionally deep after a fight with my fiance. My psychologist based his diagnosis on my self-mutilation and extreme fear of abandonment.
Not long ago a psychiatrist evaluated me and was utterly shocked that I had been diagnosed with BPD. This highly educated man was under the false impression that people with BPD are all insufferable self centered assholes, and found me to be far too “humble, likable, considerate” to have BPD. What an immature diagnostic process, I thought to myself. I may or may not have the disorder, but I identify with the peer reviewed descriptions of it. I believe in my case it’s more of a convergent evolution type of situation, a syndrome that coincides with much of the diagnostic criteria of BPD while lacking some key traits. At any rate, being diagnosed with BPD helped me to reform and come to terms with many of my character flaws and when I read pieces like what you have just written I am alarmed and saddened. Demonizing narcissism and sociopathy is one thing, but BPD is thought to be the result of deeply traumatic childhood experiences, anxiety, and the feeling of having “no emotional skin.” These people are often very empathetic and loving, kind-hearted as well as manipulative and dishonest, and their tendency towards clinging on quickly is hardly as sinister as you describe it. There is enough debate in the scientific community about whether or not to entirely reform and rename the diagnosis, split it up into different disorders, or throw it out altogether that those with a public platform like yourself who are not experts in the field of psychology have no business writing defamatory and misinformed blogs on the subject.
Kudos to you Sandra Rose for clearly always keeping us informed before it hits the internet, tv, etc!!!!! You reported this affair quite some time ago even mentioning the “COOK” tattoo which is now being talked it.
@ aniyvwiya:
I can understand why you would feel that way.
RealGAPeach says:
Kudos to you Sandra Rose for clearly always keeping us informed before it hits the internet, tv, etc!!!!! You reported this affair quite some time ago even mentioning the “COOK” tattoo which is now being talked it.
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To be fair, I didn’t report this first. I think I was one of the last bloggers to report on this, because
I’m a little unclear as to why you included BPD into this article, because it seems the focus of the article was NPD/narcissism?