Medical Minute: The Narcissist’s Silent Treatment

According to E! Online, troubled musician Kanye West gave the media the silent treatment as he walked the red carpet at the CDFA Fashion Awards yesterday. He told reporters multiple times that he wasn’t answering any questions and he barely made eye contact with the press.

In addition to not speaking to the media since after his album dropped (and flopped), Kanye hasn’t updated his Twitter account in months.

This silent treatment behavior by a narcissist is known as ‘mental murder’ because, in a sense, you are dead to them.

The silent treatment is one of the tools in the narcissist’s sinister arsenal. It is the ultimate rejection. In the narcissist’s arsenal, the silent treatment is a form of mental abuse.

When someone you love deeply gives you the silent treatment, the pain can be especially intense. The narcissist can ignore you for days, weeks, or even years. The narcissist usually ignores you until you apologize to them — even though they were the cause of the conflict in the first place!

This is why the behavior is so abusive because the narcissist knows that no healthy person would apologize for something they didn’t do. In this way they prey on your weakness and break down your defenses.

If you find yourself in a relationship with anyone who gives you the silent treatment for longer than 8 hours, please RUN!

Even if you think they are just upset with you — no one, not even children, will stay angry or hold a grudge for that long. Healthy individuals get over it and move on, or they seek to resolve the conflict.

The best way to deal with a narcissist who attempts to ‘mentally murder’ you by using the silent treatment is to pack your things and LEAVE. Cease all contact with him/her. Don’t try to beat him or her at their own game because you can’t win. Just leave with your dignity and your self esteem intact.

This has been your Medical Minute.

More Info On The Web

The Narcissist’s Silent Treatment – eHow

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121 Responses to “Medical Minute: The Narcissist’s Silent Treatment”

  1. 1
    CertifiedSexy says:

    :rofl: He just wants some attention!

  2. 2
    Feline Feminine says:

    :applause: @Sandra

    I had an ex who was a serious narcissist and he displayed ALL the behaviors you post about…

  3. 3
    FoxE says:

    :lol: Ok… I gave someone the silent treatment for more than a day.. So i’m a narcissist too? :shrugs:

  4. 4
    West Coast Chick says:

    :rofl:

    Kanye is getting more and more weird by the millisecond :blink:

    and those shoes without socks are killing me softly

  5. 5
    Dymond says:

    Y the eff would he walk the carpet if he didnt want to speak to the media?

    In other news, he looks cute here :coffee:

  6. 6
    FoxE says:

    SN: I do not like those shoes!! :no:

  7. 7
    West Coast Chick says:

    CertifiedSexy says:

    He just wants some attention! :rofl:

    _________________________

    I agree :coffee:

  8. 8
    LesBinLuv says:

    My joint get the silent treatment for weeks on in…and she’s a proven narcissit…you can’t expect me to believe I’m one too….

  9. 9
    Feline Feminine says:

    @Fox

    Only if that person was someone close to you (i.e. lives with you) and/or they were attempting to talk to you for the entire duration… :)

  10. 10
    West Coast Chick says:

    :shrugs: maybe his feet was hurting in those little Chinese sandal looking shoes… I know, I don’t be havin much to say when me feet hurt

  11. 11
    LesBinLuv says:

    I actually like the shoes…but I liked them better when Nino Brown wore them with a silk, hammer-pants suit!

  12. 12
    Feline Feminine says:

    @Les

    :nino:

  13. 13
    West Coast Chick says:

    There goes that rolled up sleeve Miami vice look that Auntie loves so much :rofl: I’d say, the look.. its coming back :yes:

  14. 14
    West Coast Chick says:

    FoxE says:

    SN: I do not like those shoes!! :no:

    __________________________________
    Fox….Ima let you finish.. but those velvet Chinese moccasins are the best damn shoes of all times…. OF ALL TIME!!! (drops mic) :lol:

  15. 15
    Eb says:

    I hold grudges :coffee:

  16. 16
    Feline Feminine says:

    @Eb

    Lol, I hold grudges too, big time…but if someone is attempting to talk to me or get my attention I will not ignore them…granted, I may still hold the negative sentiment, but ignoring someone is just plain flat out mean and ignorant…

  17. 17
    Mamacita says:

    Kanye’s actions are just a result of people taking EVERYTHING this man says and flipping to fit their own stories.

    I don’t blame him one bit. Everytime he does and interview or tweets something it becomes national news and is blown out of propotion. The man can’t sneeze without someone saying something negative.

    Like momma always said if you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all

    #TeamKanye

  18. 18
    PrytiBrownIs says:

    those look like velvet chinese slippers…maybe he realizes how much of a :nono: that look is n thats why hes not talkin

  19. 19
    Zoe B. says:

    I guess his Twitter followers are dead to him :shrugs: <——– Kanye Shrug

  20. 20
    OHoney says:

    *biting nails*
    Is there a website where i can take a quiz to see if I’m a “narcissist”?
    I ignore people when they piss me off. I feel like they are not worth my energy of an argument or anything for that matter.

  21. 21
    mrsloveleigh says:

    say what you will about Kanye but I am a fan and love his music. Would I still feel the same if I met him and he shaded me :shrug:
    but until then I fux with Ye’

  22. 22

    Honey
    apparently I’m a narcissist too so welcome to the family

  23. 23
    West Coast Chick says:

    OHoney says:

    *biting nails*
    Is there a website where i can take a quiz to see if I’m a “narcissist”?
    I ignore people when they piss me off. I feel like they are not worth my energy of an argument or anything for that matter.

    _______________________

    I think youre fine..Sandra mentioned that nobody did anything to Kanye.. he’s just mad for no reason and feels the media should “pay” :lol:

  24. 24
    YSoSerious says:

    Maybe Ye is tired of talking to people that will throw his words back in his face regardless of what he says. :coffee:

    For years people been telling Ye to shut up and now that he has, they still got something to say. Good grief!

  25. 25
    mrsloveleigh says:

    Who was the blck cop on Miami Vice Crockett or Tubbs?

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  28. 28
    West Coast Chick says:

    Mamacita says:

    Kanye’s actions are just a result of people taking EVERYTHING this man says and flipping to fit their own stories.

    ______________________

    :cosign:

    And honestly, I’d probably do the same thing :lol:

  29. 29
    CFREE says:

    I hate his shoes :crying:

  30. 30
    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    <— TUBS

  31. 31
    Yall still crazy says:

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder – An individual with this disorder is in love with himself/herself, and has little positive regard for others other than in a superficial manner. They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others.They believe they are special and deserve special treatment, regardless of the problems this creates for others. They readily take advantage of others, and tend to be quite arrogant. In actuality, they are very sensitive, and tend to not be able to tolerate any criticism or negative feedback. They usually seek treatment because they are frustrated in getting what they want. However, they often do not seek treatment, because they perceive everyone else as causing the problems, not themselves.
    ————————
    Yall know anybody like that? :lol:

  32. 32
    Daisy says:

    YEEZY :yahoo: :cheer:

  33. 33
    Yall still crazy says:

    Cha, there’s a jetski ride waiting for you over there—>(other post) :lol:

  34. 34
    CFREE says:

    “velvet chinese slippers” :rofl:

  35. 35

    Daisy
    every time I see Beyaki’s video I think of Riverdancin and can’t keep it together! LOL

  36. 36
    West Coast Chick says:

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder – An individual with this disorder is in love with himself/herself, and has little positive regard for others other than in a superficial manner. They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others.
    ______________________________

    :shocked: OMG! This is soooooooooo me

  37. 37
    Yall still crazy says:

    Shatt, he should’ve just thrown on some leggings(stretch pants)…

    :rofl:

  38. 38
    CFREE says:

    YallCrazy #31

    :ido:

  39. 39
    West Coast Chick says:

    LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS says:

    Daisy
    every time I see Beyaki’s video I think of Riverdancin and can’t keep it together! LOL

    ______________________

    beyonce’s run the world video is funny.. but my 2 yr old cracks up everytime she does that hunching part with her shoulders.. he thinks thats the funniest thing ever

  40. 40
    CFREE says:

    Yall still crazy says:

    Shatt, he should’ve just thrown on some leggings(stretch pants)…

    :dead:
    :ghost:

  41. 41

    Kanye is musical genius and like all geniuses, he may be a bit crazy.
    :coffee:

  42. 42

    Well folks I’m bout to leave so yall have a good one
    :steer: <<<< rollin out on the jet ski

  43. 43
    Ms. YaYa says:

    Eb says:
    I hold grudges
    ____________________________________
    I’m guilty of that too :ashamed:

  44. 44
    OHoney says:

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder – An individual with this disorder is in love with herself, They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others(it comes naturally though).They believe they are special and deserve special treatment, regardless. In actuality, they are very sensitive(#TeamCancer), and tend to not be able to tolerate negative feedback (cause they like things to be perfect). <<<<<< I edited this definition to describe me…so I guess I'm in the clear

  45. 45
    PrytiBrownIs says:

    West Coast Chick says:

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder – An individual with this disorder is in love with himself/herself, and has little positive regard for others other than in a superficial manner. They tend to be grandiose in how they present themselves, and tend to demand admiration from others.
    ______________________________

    :shocked: OMG! This is soooooooooo me

    ___________________________________________

    :ashamed: me too

  46. 46
    Zoe B. says:

    Are you a Narcissist? Take Dr. Drew’s test here —> http://www.0eb.com/

  47. 47
    OHoney says:

    Pryti is that you in that gravi? Aloow me to compliment that hair it looks ssssssooooooo healthy.

  48. 48
    Zoe B. says:

    Are you a Narcissist? Take Dr. Drew’s test here —–> http : // ww w.0 eb .com / (added spaces to avoid moderation)

  49. 49
  50. 50
    Yall still crazy says:

    Me too, Cfree!

    ——————————————

    *mouth wide open in shock* Would yall look at the narcissistic posting in post # 44! :lol:

    #ikidikid

  51. 51
    OHoney says:

    :rofl: shut up Yall!!! #50
    Thanks ZOE

  52. 52
    Yall still crazy says:

    Auntie needs to do her Medical Minute on the 10 Personality Disorders… Hmmmp…

  53. 53
    PrytiBrownIs says:

    o honey…yes ma’am thats me thanks. i did the big chop in Oct and have just let it grow back natural….but the credit is all due to them Dominican’s that keep me right lol

  54. 54
    Yall still crazy says:

    *waiting to see if “she” starts ignoring me*

    :lol:

  55. 55
    Yall still crazy says:

    :hi: Zoe, how have you been?

  56. 56
    ELove says:

    The ONLY THING matching in that Kanye Pic is the Purple carpet Along With The Effect of Slight Purple from the Slippers He’s wearing :blink:

    LQQKS At @mrsloveleigh Gravi… B-I-T-C-H-E-S :coffee:

  57. 57
    pointhimout says:

    is he wearing those slippers cuz he misses his mommy? :hugs: awwwwh Kanyeezy.

  58. 58
    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    THANKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS YALL STILLLLLLLL girl Im soakin wet, your drive pretty rough ya know :yes:

    Hey FOXY E :hug: WHERE YOU BEEN BOO!

  59. 59
    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    THANKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS YALL STILLLLLLLL girl Im soakin wet, your drive pretty rough ya know :yes:

    Hey FOXY E :hug: WHERE YOU BEEN BOO!

  60. 60
  61. 61
    OHoney says:

    Ok Bye peeps gotta go home now :steer: <<<<< not a jet-ski

  62. 62
    FrenchGal says:

    CHA CHA CHA CHA come esta bella! :kiss:

    @yall you sooo purtyyyyyyyyyyyyy when you ride ur jetski like that :wink:

  63. 63

    What’s the opposite of a narcissist?

    LET’S TALK ABOUT ME!
    Despite my undeniable greatness, I’m actually quite humble and modest. It takes quite a bit of practice and determination to not gloat about how perfect I am. You all should bask in my strength of will.
    :coffee:

  64. 64

    D*mn!!! I just call myself moving on. You know like eff em? Am I a narcissist too?

  65. 65
    Yall still crazy says:

    @Honey, you are one! You were the “she” in Post 54! :dead:

    #ikidikid
    __________________________________________________________

    Cha, you know we’re riding in the manatees with no license and you just gots to be showing off your tatas riding the damn jet ski backwards!

    :steer: <–Here this jetski is for you. I ain't goin to jail! Hmmp.. :lol:

  66. 66
    mrsloveleigh says:

    I took the test and scored a 15.I’m average I guess

  67. 67
    PrytiBrownIs says:

    mrsloveleigh says:

    I took the test and scored a 15.I’m average I guess
    _____________________________

    i got a 17…what the level to be a narcissist?

  68. 68
    MrUnapologetic says:

    If Kanye never speaks another word my world will continue. I feel equally the same about anyone who I deal with on an intimate level – the silent treatment is straight-up foolishness.

  69. 69
    West Coast Chick says:

    Zoe.. I took the test.. it said my score for vanity was high.. i wonder where he got that from, shooot??!!! It aint my fault that Im a chocolate beauty! :coffee:

  70. 70
    West Coast Chick says:

    PrytiBrownIs says:

    mrsloveleigh says:

    I took the test and scored a 15.I’m average I guess
    _____________________________

    i got a 17…what the level to be a narcissist?

    ______________________________________

    you must be a virgo… we think alike… mines was 18 :lol:

  71. 71
    West Coast Chick says:

    Man, I just don’t care™ says:

    What’s the opposite of a narcissist?

    LET’S TALK ABOUT ME!
    Despite my undeniable greatness, I’m actually quite humble and modest. It takes quite a bit of practice and determination to not gloat about how perfect I am. You all should bask in my strength of will.

    ___________________________

    And this is why I love Man :lol:

  72. 72
    Yall still crazy says:

    I’m a Virgo, so I’m not even gonna take the test.

    Errbody Bow Down :lol:

    #canignorefordecades :rofl:

  73. 73
    Sandra Rose says:

    FoxE says:

    Ok… I gave someone the silent treatment for more than a day.. So i’m a narcissist too?
    __________________

    No. It means you have narcissistic traits.

  74. 74
    West Coast Chick says:

    Yall still crazy says:

    I’m a Virgo, so I’m not even gonna take the test.

    Errbody Bow Down

    #canignorefordecades

    __________________________
    :cheers: ..its the truth.. we cant help it if we some bad bishes :shrugs:

  75. 75
    Sandra Rose says:

    LesBinLuv says:

    you can’t expect me to believe I’m one too….
    __________________

    Victims of narcissists often become one themselves. For example, the children of narcissists. It’s a learned behavior. :/

  76. 76
    mrsloveleigh says:

    I guess you have to just go by the highs and lows in each catagory. I was low in vanity medium in just about all the others

  77. 77
    YSoSerious says:

    I keep people on my nignore list. :shrugs:

  78. 78
    FrenchGal says:

    :cya: goodnight my beautiful people! :waves:

  79. 79
    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    West Coast Chick says:

    Zoe.. I took the test.. it said my score for vanity was high.. i wonder where he got that from, shooot??!!! It aint my fault that Im a chocolate beauty!

    YES YOU ARE :kiss:

  80. 80
    Yall still crazy says:

    Soo true @ West! & Sandra…

    I know a family of narcissists. The grandma, the mom, her daughter, and now her grandson.

    They hate being called out on their shatt too. That’s when the “ignoring” starts…

  81. 81
    PrytiBrownIs says:

    West Coast Chick says:

    PrytiBrownIs says:

    mrsloveleigh says:

    I took the test and scored a 15.I’m average I guess
    _____________________________

    i got a 17…what the level to be a narcissist?

    ______________________________________

    you must be a virgo… we think alike… mines was 18 :lol:
    __________________________________________

    nope aquarius but people always think imma virgo lol

  82. 82
    YSoSerious says:

    And I wouldn’t trust any test from Dr. Drew anyway. :coffee:

  83. 83
    Yall still crazy says:

    :bye: Frenchie :steer: <–jetski

  84. 84
    West Coast Chick says:

    welp, It said Im vain, but I really dont like when people continuously compliment me :shrugs: I do think highly of myself, but hell, if you knew me, you would too :shrugs:

    #imtheshyt

  85. 85
    Sandra Rose says:

    OHoney says:

    I ignore people when they piss me off. I feel like they are not worth my energy of an argument or anything for that matter.
    __________________

    You definitely have narcissistic traits. And, yes, narcissistic traits can progress into full blown narcissism. But usually narcissists aren’t self aware, and they don’t know they are narcissists. I hope that helps? :(

  86. 86
    Ms. YaYa says:

    I am too ashamed to repeat my score; I’m about to retake the test…:pc:

  87. 87
    West Coast Chick says:

    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    West Coast Chick says:

    Zoe.. I took the test.. it said my score for vanity was high.. i wonder where he got that from, shooot??!!! It aint my fault that Im a chocolate beauty!

    YES YOU ARE :kiss:

    ____________________________
    Awe boo.. I love me some Cha Chizzle :kiss:

  88. 88
    Sandra Rose says:

    Yall still crazy says:

    Auntie needs to do her Medical Minute on the 10 Personality Disorders… Hmmmp…
    ________________

    I would have to write a book. :no:

  89. 89
    grlnva says:

    wow, :tape: well, 5 days, and counting. its a deserved silence :argue:

  90. 90
    Sandra Rose says:

    Goodnight @ FrenchGal :bye:

  91. 91
    Sandra Rose says:

    What’s the opposite of a narcissist?

    LET’S TALK ABOUT ME!
    Despite my undeniable greatness, I’m actually quite humble and modest. It takes quite a bit of practice and determination to not gloat about how perfect I am. You all should bask in my strength of will.
    ___________________

    :lol:

  92. 92
    mrsloveleigh says:

    Ms YaYa those cheeks hanging out the bottom of your gravies shorts :dead:
    lol

  93. 93
    MSVALLDAY says:

    WOW I had a friend who acted exactly like this! This is so crazy b/c you just described her to the T!!!! As a result of this behavior we didn’t speak for over a year and we grew up together. It’s crazy b/c our relationship was ruined we are not even that close anymore.

  94. 94
    Yall still crazy says:

    Sandra Rose says:

    Yall still crazy says:

    Auntie needs to do her Medical Minute on the 10 Personality Disorders… Hmmmp…
    ________________

    I would have to write a book.
    ________________________________________________________
    No, you wouldn’t Auntie. You could post one a week! You’ve already covered this one.

    #behelpfultoyourreaders

  95. 95
    Yall still crazy says:

    Msvallday, you should be happy!!!! When one meets a narcissist you show run in the opposite direction! Consider yorself lucky… :hug:

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    YSoSerious says:

    I scored a 5. Is that bad? :think:

  97. 97
    Ms. YaYa says:

    @ mrsloveleigh: I thought I would provide a lil eye candy for you guys

  98. 98
    ELove says:

    @YSO
    So Dr. Dew… Ahh I Mean Dr. Drew created that test Huh THEN I KNOW it’s extremely FLAWED, I Mean… He is a Drug Counselor WHOSE Patients GET WORSE or DIES from Their Drug Addiction (Right ?!!?) :coffee:

  99. 99
    MSVALLDAY says:

    Yall still crazy says:

    Msvallday, you should be happy!!!! When one meets a narcissist you show run in the opposite direction! Consider yorself lucky…
    _________________________________________________________________________

    I am happy now b/c I realize she has a toxic personality and I really don’t need that kind of drama in my life, but we were so close and we grew up together so it was hard b/c I considered her one of my closest friends. Life goes on had to keep it moving!

  100. 100
    HOTT CHA CHA says:

    :steer: THANKS YALL HO BURGER NUMERO UNO :steer: <— doing donuts in a small pond :lol:

    YSOLOSOSERIOUS you still lub me …. :hug: I hope so, Im the onliest one that make your locs spark fireworks and shyt! YOU NEED ME 4th of July is coming up :rofl:

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    Yall still crazy says:

    *ashamed of score face*
    ———————————————–
    Yso,I think that’s pretty good.

  102. 102
    Ms. YaYa says:

    @ yall, I was ashamed of my score too. I took the test again

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    Yall still crazy says:

    Google personality tests and I’m sure the Official Psychology yada yada site has a better, more thorough test.

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    Atypical says:

    For years people been telling Ye to shut up and now that he has, they still got something to say.~

    Pretty much and :consign:

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    YSoSerious says:

    @CHA

    Why wouldn’t my stale ass still lub you? Bey will not keep us apart. :hugs:

    @ELOVE

    Exactly. And then you have to buy his damn book to find out what your score means. Of course. :coffee:

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    Yall still crazy says:

    Ya, I’m not going back there. Hmmp

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    West Coast Chick says:

    Atypical says:

    For years people been telling Ye to shut up and now that he has, they still got something to say.~

    _______________________________

    :lol: cant win for loosing

  108. 108

    IDK bout all that you talking Aunt Sandy Mae……

    I’m diggin his outfit……Sandy where the jeans come from? shoes? blazer?……

    actually that doesn’t matter, I’ll find it for less~~~

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    DMisses says:

    Poor Kanye, he hasn’t been the same since his mother passed. I know some of you are probably tired of people giving him excuses for his erratic behavior but I don’t know what it feels like to lose my mother so I won’t judge him. I hope he gets better because he’s really a talented artist, but I can’t support music that worships the dark side.

  110. 110
    Sandra Rose says:

    MSVALLDAY says:

    I am happy now b/c I realize she has a toxic personality and I really don’t need that kind of drama in my life, but we were so close and we grew up together so it was hard b/c I considered her one of my closest friends. Life goes on had to keep it moving!
    ____________________

    The reason you both grew apart is because she developed intense romantic feelings toward you, which always causes a problem with narcissists.

  111. 111
    Sandra Rose says:

    DMisses says:

    Poor Kanye, he hasn’t been the same since his mother passed.
    ________________

    Kanye was a narcissist before his mother passed. In fact, she was probably a narcissist, since narcissism is a learned behavior.

  112. 112
    lola773 says:

    I don’t hold conversations with ppl who have a problem with everything I say and do that does not affect them. Why debate personal preferences? :coffee:

  113. 113
    GoldenGurl says:

    SORRY… but Yeezys outfit looks gay as hayl.

    Niggas lookin so emasculated these days. smh

    Damn, where the mandingos at??

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    GAGIRL87 says:

    Kanye better werk bish that cream colored jacket, with the light demin skinny jeans and those bejeweled flats are giving this queens the fever… :yes:

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    GAGIRL87 says:

    typo these queens the fever…

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    Nesia Shanesia says:

    “Mental Murder” wowzer!

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    Destinee says:

    Sandra… u never cease to amaze me! :typing: Good observation!

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    pinksghetti says:

    Well now the media can’t put a negative spin on what Kanye says and refer to him as “the outspoken rapper”.

  119. 119
    Danielle says:

    after his album dropped (and flopped), Kanye hasn’t updated his Twitter account in months.

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    You know that album did not flop :lol: Matter of fact it went platinum…

    :heart: Yeezy!

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    Sportsmommy74 says:

    So Ms. Sandra, if my hubby and I can go a week without saying ONE WORD to each other, we’re both narccists?

  121. 121

    no one is looking for kanye anymore. NEXT

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