Dancing With the Stars‘ contestant Chaz Bono, 42, who is living life as a man, was spotted moving out of the home she/he shared with ex-fiancee, Jennifer Elia. Last week Chaz announced the couple’s break-up after 12 years together. Bono was spotted hauling a large suitcase out of the home. Elia showed up a little while later to move her things out.

Celebrity gossip blog TMZ.com described Elia as looking “visibly distraught” upon her arrival But she looks relieved from where we’re sitting.

Both women were lesbians when they first met 12 years ago. Things were normal on the home front until Chaz, born Chastity Bono, decided she was a man yearning to be free. Bono had her healthy breasts surgically removed and began taking male hormones.

Bono and Elia attempted to live a somewhat ordinary life as a heterosexual couple — Chaz as a man, and Jennifer as “his” straight girlfriend. But the strain of pretending not to notice her man’s vagina may have been a bit too much for Elia.