fanMAIL: Stereotyping in hospital emergency rooms

Yesterday’s post about a black woman who died after being profiled as a drug seeker by an emergency room physician hit home with a number of my readers.

One reader told me she didn’t realize she was stereotyped by emergency room doctors and nurses until she read my post. Below are a few of the emails from loyal readers who shared their experiences with indifferent health care professionals in emergency rooms around the country.

Loyal reader Kim H. writes:

Thank you Sandra for your advice in the Anna Brown story!

Years ago before I entered the medical field, I went to the ED. I had chest pains and feared for my life. I was seen by the physician, and could not for the life of me understand why he was so angry. I ABSOLUTELY hate that I let him blow me off, and call me a liar. This happened years ago, and I almost want to request my medical records so I can file a complaint. I think I will. Wish me luck.

Kim H.

Loyal reader Stacie N. writes:

Good Morning Sandra! . . . As a specialist for the Michigan Department of Licensing and Regulatory Affairs – we license all of the health professionals in Michigan, including Nurses. So, I have a deep appreciation for you and the work you have done as a nurse. Nurses run the entire hospitals now! I also have a 5 year old daughter with intestinal/colonic issues that she has been suffering from for over 2 years (we have been through 4 pediatric gastroenterologists and are still searching for answers) She is currently being seen at UofM Children’s Hospital which is “supposed” to be the best in the state! – So, I too am aware of the many incompetencies in the medical field as well – Unfortunately there are far too many to count.

It is so sad, but we are ALL stereotyped, wherever we go! My 19 year old son was taken to emergency two weeks ago by ambulance with a serious bump on his head (that he got at his job – McDonalds) Once the ambulance arrived at the hosp, they wanted to have him wait in the waiting room, which was packed (@ 10am) with about 20-30 African-Americans and one white man, in a community that is about 20-30% Black. . . I put up a fuss and explained where I worked and told them I would not wait 3-4 hours to see a Resident! I would rather drive him to our family doctor first. . . needless to say they rushed him into the MRI and CT Scans and when we left two hours later, that waiting room looked that same as when we arrived. Let’s not even get started in talking about the disparities between the care for Black men! Talk about an atrocity! It is a shame how our people are treated in almost every segment of this society. It hurts my heart.

Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

Loyal reader Adrienne, aka rossboss (Sandra Rose username), writes:

Good Afternoon Ms. Rose!
I have been a follower/lurker of your site for YEARS….since before it turned into a blog…back when all you did was post your fabulous photos….when you were a dot.net :) I always visit, but have rarely, if ever, commented. When I first heard the story of Anna Brown, I was heartbroken, and for me, it hit closer to home than the Trayvon Martin case. Although both are tragic, I couldn’t stop thinking about Anna. When I read your post today about Ms. Brown and your niece Shelly, (at work) the tears started and won’t stop. My mom is a Sickle Cell patient as well. Typically we contact her PCP prior to a hospital/ER visit and he has orders waiting on her when we reach the hospital. One time, she was in such severe pain, that we arrived at the ER before her doctor’s orders arrived, so she was seen by one of the ER doctors. Once learning my mom was a Sickle Cell patient, his entire attitude towards her changed. At the time, my mom was in her 40s and because we’ve assisted with her health care all our lives, my siblings and I also knew what medicines yielded the best for her and which ones she couldn’t take. When he offered to give her Morphine, we objected b/c in the past she had issues with Morphine. At that point he began to talk down to her/us, make statements about “all Sickle Cell patients wanting pain meds” and all “they” were seeking was a “quick high.” Maybe he thought because we were polite and humble we would just take his insults and go, but by the end of the night, not only had we ripped him a new butt hole, my mom’s PCP had done so as well, and the Chief of Staff of the hospital called us for several days after apologizing and making sure my mom was OK. I know in my heart, had we not intervened, my mom could have very well been Anna Brown or Shelly. It has been years (my mom is now 58) but each time we have a hospital/ER visit we demand the best treatment possible so as not to be labeled or stereotyped. My heart goes out to your sister and your family – I have lost family members to Sickle Cell disease.

You probably get thousands of letters/emails each day and may never read this, but for some reason, I just had to write (privately) to get this off my chest….



 


68 Responses to “fanMAIL: Stereotyping in hospital emergency rooms”

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    OutsidetheBox says:

    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    Ya mama. :coffee:

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    Mamacita says:

    “Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)”

    :rofl: What?

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    EB says:

    I think it’s great you communicate with your readers and read their emails

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    CD FENTY says:

    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)
    **************************
    OTB says:
    Ya mama.
    ************************
    And yo greasy greasy grand pappy :coffee:

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    EB says:

    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    *throws chair*

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    OutsidetheBox says:

    And yo daddy in the alley…with that busted ass tranny. :coffee:

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    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    ———–
    This totally voids any and all receipts… trying to get your letter published via Blue Ivy… shame.

    Why didn’t Sandra post my letter about that time I took a monistat 1 and it got real bad before it got better and I had thought I had had a fection but wen I went to the doc all I had was a going away yeast infection. i thought I had the clap or something. I paid $25 co pay for nothin.

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    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    _________________
    UMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! :shrugs: Damn boo somehow you managed to make this about Bey!

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    CD FENTY says:

    So let me get this straight this FISH is so distraught about retelling the story about her son but remembers to slip in a diss about Beyonce.

    *Picks up chair that EB threw* Here HOE have a seat ____ (u dont get a back to the seat just sit yo retarded ass straight up) :coffee:

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    The Makeup Maven says:

    :dead: @ OTB! :rofl:

    :offtopic:
    I’m full AS SHYT!
    *picks teef*

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    Choco aka Hippie says:

    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    _________________
    UMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! Damn boo somehow you managed to make this about Bey!

    —–
    Everest Institute graduate

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    YSoSrs says:

    “Stacie N”

    Really hunty? Really? :coffee:

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    OutsidetheBox says:

    And yo daddy in the alley…with that busted ass tranny.
    ——–

    Yo mama so fat she jumped up in the sky and got stuck

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    YSoSrs says:

    And it’s HEELS hunty. Not HEALS. :coffee:

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    Mamacita says:

    “____ (u dont get a back to the seat just sit yo retarded ass straight up)”

    :hahaha:

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    Everest Institute graduate
    _______________
    Im not even a fan but I mean delirium doesn’t discriminate :coffee:

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    mizzdallas says:

    I’m hungry what am I gonna eat for lunch?

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    @MizzD
    Im eating pupusa’s :yes: #YUM

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    JMO says:

    MP & Tatted :hug:

    Sandra, tell these loyal readers to comment more often! Wouldn’t that help you increase traffic to your blog? Plus, more people would make things much more interesting. :biggrin:

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    mizzdallas says:

    I’m hungry what am I gonna eat for lunch?

    ———–
    Today the fish plates have catfish nuggets OAN Beyonce is wearing underwear today per Stacie N … <— this just in

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    YSoSrs says:

    <—For Dimpz from my private stash. :grin:

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    CD FENTY says:

    MP :hugs:

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    Sassy! Muthaf**king, Sassy! says:

    Where the fukk is WCC?

    I need to speak to her!!!

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    Sassy! Muthaf**king, Sassy! says:

    @OTB/JMO

    To answer your questions from yesterday. I do not have an “in” at ASOS, they just ship me my sh*t REALLLYYYYYY quickly. :shrug:

    “Oooh, I think they like me…”

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    yallcrazy says:

    *closes OTB’s ears*

    Since yall talking about the heels, is there any footage of her walking, not still shots, because I was thinking yesterday when I saw a pregnant woman walking, with that “duck walk” like we all do towards the end, and I was wondering if there’s any videos of her duck walking? :coffee:

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    The Makeup Maven says:

    @ :cool: :hug:

    @ YSO – I wished’ed you a :happybirthday: BUT UMMMM, ‘OL DUDE LOOKING RATHER, SHALL I SAYYYYYYYYYY….TATTED! :yes:

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    mizzdallas says:

    @choco

    :no: I cant eat that I will be at my farting up a storm!!

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    JMO says:

    :think: Sassy … did you call and verbally assassinate someone over the phone at ASOS?? Could that be the reason for your quick shipments?

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    mizzdallas says:

    Today the fish plates have catfish nuggets OAN Beyonce is wearing underwear today per Stacie N … <— this just in

    :rofl: Mmmmmm I wouldnt mind some Ronnie's catfish straight out of souf dallas!!

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    yallcrazy says:

    Yep Jmo, they’re scared… (they = lurkers = ASOS reps) :rofl:

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    yallcrazy says:

    ANybody see the measurements of BIC on ****? :dead:

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    YSoSrs says:

    @CHATTED

    Thank you again. :hugs:

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    CD FENTY says:

    Charles M. Blow ?just tweeted:
    it’s time for my son to decide: Princeton, Yale, Penn, Darthmouth, Wesleyan, Rice, Johns Hopkins, etc. It’s a celebration in my house!!!
    ***************************
    Charles Blow is my BFF in my head :love:

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    JMO says:

    yallcrazy says:

    Yep Jmo, they’re scared… (they = lurkers = laptop users = ASOS reps) :rofl:
    _______________________________________________________

    :lol:

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    JMO says:

    CD FENTY says:

    Charles M. Blow ?just tweeted:
    it’s time for my son to decide: Princeton, Yale, Penn, Darthmouth, Wesleyan, Rice, Johns Hopkins, etc. It’s a celebration in my house!!!
    ***************************
    Charles Blow is my BFF in my head :love:
    ______________________________________________________

    I saw Howard in there too :coffee: :biggrin:

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    yallcrazy says:

    m t oh wow is what I was trying to say in 34 :coffee:

    So nobody’s got an opinion on the duck walk? :cuss:

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    CD FENTY says:

    @MP
    I’m sure u did :lol: He said he applied to 14 colleges and got accepted to all. :claps:

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    KeepingItClassy84 says:

    Oil Sheen Jones (The artist formally kwn as Dawn Sheen) says:

    Ps. . . On a lighter note — don’t you find it interesting how Beyonce wore sky high heals during her entire “pregnancy” but has the nerve to be wearing flats now?? Doesn’t that seem odd :0)

    ———–
    This totally voids any and all receipts… trying to get your letter published via Blue Ivy… shame.

    Why didn’t Sandra post my letter about that time I took a monistat 1 and it got real bad before it got better and I had thought I had had a fection but wen I went to the doc all I had was a going away yeast infection. i thought I had the clap or something. I paid $25 co pay for nothin.

    :dead:

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    Hey ladieeeeeeeeees!!!! :hi:

    @ FeFe- I saw you were dry humpin’ yestiddy! :rofl:

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    @ CD- I will be lurkin’ through my phone now due to that gravi. I just wasted a good forkful of my Chipotle because that thang scared me so bad.

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    The Makeup Maven says:

    :whistle:
    How can I stand here with you
    And not be moved by you

    Heeeeeey Shelle :hug: PUUUURTI GRAVI!

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    JMO says:

    @MP :lol: Thats great

    @Classy, :think: has anyone ever told you, you look like that actress on that tyler perry show? I think her name is Demetria McKinney.

    @belle … :hi: cute gravi!

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    :waves: @lashelle

    So you saw that anaconda too?! :lol:

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    NaijaGal says:

    FCUK ASOS…MOTHERFCUKERS TOOK MY MONEY AND TOLD ME THE ISH WAS SHIPPED AND IN MY AREA…3 WEEKS LATER NO SHIPMENT AND AFTER GOING THROUGH HELL TO GET SOMEONE TO RESPOND HEATHER TELLS ME THAT IT NEVER SHIPPED AND THEY’D REFUND ME MY MONEY…B*TCHES :cuss:

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    yallcrazy says:

    Hey Shellbell :waves:

    *ignores Dawn like she does me* :nana:

    CD & Jmo, who yall talmbout? #nosey

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    yallcrazy says:

    Fi, I died alittle too when you said *sits on heel* :ghost:

    :hahaha:

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    NaijaGal says:

    @lashelle isn’t Chipotle just the best :love:

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    yallcrazy says:

    Naija, that’s how I feel about flirty girl fitness, fukc them mofos! :cuss: Charging my card & I wasn’t even there! Bastids! :chase:

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    @ Tatts- Hey Honey. You know I rarely log in any more. & THANK YOU!!! :hug:

    @ FeFe- I just HOLLERED when I saw you put “sittin’ on my heel” I started to log in THEN. But I didn’t want to interrupt. I didn’t get to see the pic, but I read about it.

    @JMO- Hey Sugar Water! Thaaank you :)

    @Yall- Hey! Hey! Hey! Happy Friday!

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    CD FENTY says:

    @Yall
    Charles Blow tweeted saying how his son applied to 14 colleges and got accepted to all of them :coffee:

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    yallcrazy says:

    Fi, I just remembered I have Ms. Jefferson’s gravi on that e-mail.

    :woohoo:

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    @Naija- GIIIIIIRL YES. This is my comfort food. I was having a bad mornin’, but Chipotle fixed that REAL quick like!
    (Meant to tell you the other week, CUTE GRAVI!!!!! )

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    CD FENTY says:

    @Lashelle

    Sawwwrrryyyy :biggrin:

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    @Smurfette

    Is it still the same pic? Because I have the pic but when I tried to forward it to Choco it was the new pic she has up now…I think that happened because I just copied and pasted it and didn’t do a “right click, save as”…

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    yallcrazy says:

    Fi, I’m on it now :pc:

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    yallcrazy says:

    Fi, how it this possible? How did the gravi change on my e-mail? :wtf: is really going on? :thinking:

    I show a real Mother Jefferson on the original e-mail you sent yesterday… :shrug:

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    @yall

    I know, that’s what I’m trying to tell you…lol…I think had I actually SAVED the picture that wouldn’t have happened…but I just copied and pasted it… :wail:

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    So what y’all are basically sayin’ is, I can’t get an email of the ” Infamous Pee-nus”?

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    @lashelle

    *sniffles*

    nope… :cry:

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    *In my IGO voice* – “HEFFAS!”

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    :rofl: I’s sawwry….hopefully Mother J will put it back up soon…

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    KDub says:

    Heels vs. Heals huh?

    Used in a sentence….

    Anybody got some extra Monistat? I got a cut on my heel that needs to be heal(ed).

    *exits

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    mzwhang90210 says:

    is my gravi working yet???

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