Brighter side of Darkness was 20th Century Records' answer to the Jackson 5 back in the 1970s. Their gold single, "Love Jones," dropped in 1972, and the group's debut album of the same name was released the following year. If I'm not mistaken, these kids had only one hit, and "Love Jones" was it.

But listen to the words:

    What is a love jones? Shucks, doll
    It's when you love someone very, very much
    And you just can't seem to get yourself together

The singer is describing the effects of Dopamine on his young brain. When we don't know how to describe what we're feeling, we assume we're in love, when we're really not. We're just under the powerful effects of Dopamine -- Nature's way of making you hawt for the person you are attracted to -- and hopefully, the result is that you have sex and reproduce. Then the Dopamine fades (within 2 months to 2 years) and you are left wondering what you ever saw in the person you thought you was attracted to. This is part of the reason why divorce rates are so high. 'Irreconcilable differences' simply means the sex was good and you thought you were in love, so you got married. But remember, sex has nothing to do with love!

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    :whistle: Love the oldies baby, we should have more of these days :yes:

  • CD FENTY

    :waves: Goodmoring Errbody

    :coffee:

  • The Makeup Maven

    Not that I haven't before auntie, by this is really starting to make more sense to me! :yes:

    Good morning, CD & Jenie AND EVERYONE ELSE WHO POST AFTER THIS! :hug:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    Another post about dope a mean. :coffee:

    I love this song though. :yes:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I tell ya why men don't dance no more :nono: I need a man that like to get down :danban1:

  • The Makeup Maven

    YSO :hug:

    BTW @ CD - I'mma need you to :stop: INTENTIONALLY trying to scurr me!
    :(

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Morning CD, Tatted ,YSoSrs, :hug: :waves:

  • lovezoe

    Motning everyone :waves:

  • jazi65

    Morning ev1 :hi:

    Sandra got me swayin at my desk :yes:

    I concur with jenie, can this be a weekly thing auntie?

  • breniqua

    Good morning luvs

    :hug:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Morning bre :hug:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Jazi :waves:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    :hugs: @CHATTED & JENIE

    I loves me a dancing man too. Usually. :yes:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Zoe :hug: :kiss:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    @JAZI

    It used to be a weekly thing. I don't know what happened. :shrugs:

  • breniqua

    :danban:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I gotta love jones :whistle: I gotta love jones :whistle:

  • NaijaGal

    Morning folks

    jenie
    breniqua
    YSO
    Tatted
    jazi
    lovezoe
    Mrs. Fenty
    :waves: :hug:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    YSoSrs says:

    @JAZI

    It used to be a weekly thing. I don’t know what happened. :shrugs:
    _______________________________

    :stop: Auntie you been holding out on us

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Naija :hug:

  • Mannie

    Morning Tatted Jenie Yso CD and errybody else

    :hi:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Mannie :hug: :kiss:

  • The Makeup Maven

    Hey ZoeZoe, Jazi, Naija & Breniqua :hug:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    :hugs: @NAIJA

  • brownskin A.K.A Creamy

    When I meet my hubby I was like this sooo in love and then I got married and had a child NOTE: child came before marriage. and stayed married 20 yrs, so this may be true in some cases, but not all, everybody's BODY dont produce the same amount of chemicals and how their chemicals respond to different things :shrugs:

  • breniqua

    Mornting Naija :hi:

  • amatrex

    Those dudes look like superheroes in those outfits, lol.

    I think the 1970s was one of the worst decades for fashion in American history.

  • Mannie

    sex has nothing to do with love!
    _______________________________

    I call bs but YSo say i talks bout the sexxx to much so...whats new SR fam?

  • breniqua

    :hug: @ Maven

  • Mannie

    Sup Naija Mama

    :kiss:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    :hi: @MANNIE

  • GeminEyez

    my post got deleted! (staring at Sandra)

    But i was asking does anyone know what happened to Ja Rule in jail, why did he get in trouble?

  • cheeks8683

    Mornin fam :wave:

    Dopamine is behind a lot of the desire we associate with eating and sexual intercourse. Similarly, all addictive drugs trigger dopamine (the "craving neurochemical") to stimulate the pleasure/reward center. So do gambling, shopping, overeating and other, seemingly unrelated, activities. Go shopping: dopamine. Smoke a cigarette: dopamine. Computer games: dopamine. Heroin: dopamine. Orgasm: dopamine. They all work somewhat differently on the brain, but all raise your dopamine.

  • Detective Iheart

    Morning :waves:

  • Detective Iheart

    @Gemini, I heard he got in trouble for callinig in to radio stations giving himself b-day shout outs :lol:

  • http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

    :danban: <---me doin the robot

    GM SR & FAM :waves:

    TaBew! :love: *check this out folk* :rofl:

    YSO! :hug: gm bewski!

    jenie!! :waves: hey mami!

  • The Makeup Maven

    Mannie Mannie Boo Bannie :hug:

  • CD FENTY

    :hugs: :hugs: Jenie, Tatted, Naija, Mannie, Gemini, Yso, Bre, Cheeks, Creamy, Lovezoe, Jazie and last but definitely not least Detective

  • CD FENTY

    :hugs: Fay

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    @MANNIE

    I didn't say you specifically talk about sex too much. That's where all the posts end up eventually. And sex and love don't have to have anything to do with each other. You can have one without the other and confusing the two is what leads to most problems in world of dating. :yes:

  • cheeks8683

    You get a bigger blast of dopamine eating high-calorie, high-fat foods than eating low-calorie vegetables. You may believe that you love ice cream, but you really love your blast of dopamine. You're genetically programmed to seek out high-calorie foods over others. Similarly, dopamine drives you to have sex over most other activities.

    So basically u like the rush...Gotcha auntie...

    I think ur on to something with this.... :thumbsup:

  • The Makeup Maven

    @ Fay Fay (my REAL bay bay) :love: OOOOH, WHEN YOU SAID THAT SHYT, LAWD I 'BOUT PISSED ON MYSELF! That was real comedy. 'Memba when I described Richard Pryor and "The Toy?" :rofl: GOOD TIMES YO, GOOD TIMES! :hahaha:

  • VDot

    sex has nothing to do with love .

    To quote my bird chest man Trey Songz :whistle:

    Sex ain't better than love :whistle:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    amatrex says:

    Those dudes look like superheroes in those outfits, lol.

    I think the 1970s was one of the worst decades for fashion in American history.
    _________________

    Maybe for men, but not women :nono: Fayla :hug: iHeart :hug: hey everyone sorry if I missed anyone :waves:

  • The Makeup Maven

    <--- hates CD! Cuz that shyt ain't right! :rofl:

    Heeeey Detective, Cheeks & GeminEyez :hug:

  • Detective Iheart

    ChocD :waves: Heeeeyyy bew Is that Tyra Sanchez from rupaul's drag race :thinking: :lol:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    :hugs: @FAYLA & CD

  • Detective Iheart

    Hey Fay,Tatted & Jenie :waves:

  • breniqua

    :newpost: and guess who it is about :yawn:

  • cheeks8683

    Morning cd :)

    I found this online too, very interesting: Two events happen simultaneously. Dopamine plummets and prolactin soars. Dopamine is "go get it!" and prolactin is "whoa!" This mechanism shifts your attention elsewhere: to hunting and gathering, taking care of babies, building shelters, and so forth. Without this natural, protective shutdown, you would pursue sex to the exclusion of all other activities.Dopamine is highly addictive; the rise in prolactin puts the brakes on.

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Oooooh CD you dead wrong for that :ha: gravie :rofl: bawahahhahahahahaha :hahaha:

  • CD FENTY

    @Tatted
    We at least u laughing at not scurred no moe of period man :lol:

    @Matlock
    Why yes it is :coffee:

  • http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

    Sorry for the emote overload Auntie :ashamed:

    <---cant stand Granny Clampits fuggin GUTS :cuss:

  • breniqua

    :hug: @ Fenty

  • Mannie

    YSoSrs says:

    @MANNIE

    I didn’t say you specifically talk about sex too much. That’s where all the posts end up eventually. And sex and love don’t have to have anything to do with each other. You can have one without the other and confusing the two is what leads to most problems in world of dating.
    __________________________

    I know just pickin wit you lady :heart: ...Umm i think you can have sex without love but i dont think you can have love without sex...

  • cheeks8683

    And some more, then I'm done....

    a balanced level of dopamine is necessary for good mental health. When dopamine drops, you feel like something is dreadfully wrong. Too much dopamine also leads to reckless behavior and restless anxiety, which can be quite severe. These uncomfortable feelings are then projected onto your partner. Bingo! Suddenly, he or she doesn't look so appealing. This is a very uncomfortable cycle to experience in your intimate relationship. During the "hangover," or "low-dopamine" portion of the cycle, you may feel abandoned, or as if someone is demanding things from you in ways that you cannot tolerate. Or you may desperately seek new highs (alcohol, sweets, new partners, pornography, and so forth) to raise your dopamine levels again.

  • The Makeup Maven

    Vdot & Amatrex :hug:

  • cheeks8683

    Its recommended to make love without conventional orgasm. By avoiding the extreme highs that over-stimulate the nerve cells in the primitive brain, you also avoid the temporary lows that accompany recovery. You keep your dopamine levels within ideal ranges. This produces a sense of wellbeing, which promotes harmony in your relationship.

    Yall there is actually a bunch of articles on this subject online....There is a real science behind it...Here I thought Auntie was just finding yet another way to try to jerk us around :rofl:

  • Detective Iheart

    @ChocD, What do these 2 have in common?? Am I missing something here :thinking:

  • CD FENTY

    @Detective

    Waka and Tyra are really the same person. Its a before and after pic :coffee:

  • The Makeup Maven

    @ CD - You are absolutely correct! :biggrin: ME NO SCURRED NO MO! :no:

  • Detective Iheart

    @ChocD, Ahhaaa so that explains why he/she talked like that on the show :yes:

  • CD FENTY

    @Detective
    1. Russy Simmons/Momma Jones
    2. Kirk Franklin/Plies
    3. Waka/Tyra

    They all are the same person tricky muthafuggas :lol:

  • LiberianJewels7

    Morning Everyone..... I guess my dopamine is always low because it takes me for ever to fall in love. I would like to learn more about serotonin and changing my diet. My job is stressing me and I'm not a fan of antidepressants. Bad side effects. Got tips?

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    :lol:

  • The Makeup Maven

    :dead: @ CD! :rofl:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    The Makeup Maven says:

    Not that I haven’t before auntie, by this is really starting to make more sense to me! :yes:
    _________________

    That means you read my posts. Thanks! :thumbsup:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    jazi65 says:

    I concur with jenie, can this be a weekly thing auntie?
    ________________

    Yes. I'll see if I can make that happen. :)

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    brownskin A.K.A Creamy says:

    When I meet my hubby I was like this sooo in love and then I got married and had a child
    _________________

    But are you still sooooo in love like you were before you had the baby? What you thought was love was actually the dopamine. So it worked and you got pregnant. Real love comes after the dopamine fades away. Real love stands the test of time. :yes:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    cheeks8683 says:

    Dopamine is behind a lot of the desire we associate with eating and sexual intercourse. Similarly, all addictive drugs trigger dopamine... They all work somewhat differently on the brain, but all raise your dopamine.
    ________________

    Kudos for doing your reasearch, hun! :thumbsup: The reason I keep bringing up dopamine is because I want you ladies to know that sex has nothing to do with love. It's the dopamine. So when you feel a strong sexual attraction to someone -- it's the dopamine. :yes:

  • jazi65

    Sandra Rose says:

    jazi65 says:

    I concur with jenie, can this be a weekly thing auntie?
    ________________

    Yes. I’ll see if I can make that happen.

    :danban1:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    LiberianJewels7: Remember sex has nothing to do with falling in love. Your dopamine is low and that's why you don't feel like having sex. But taking an antidepressant is not the answer (unless you really are depressed). Antidepressants block dopamine from being released in your brain. So you won't feel like having sex.

  • The Makeup Maven

    Sandra Rose says:

    The Makeup Maven says:

    Not that I haven’t before auntie, by this is really starting to make more sense to me! :yes:
    _________________

    That means you read my posts. Thanks! :thumbsup:
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Of course I do! :biggrin:

  • KayCeiSoul

    "The singer is describing the effects of Dopamine..." "When we don’t know how to describe what we’re feeling, we assume we’re in love, when we’re really not.

    :rofl:

    LOVE LOVE LOVE how you tied this is together Auntie. Loves it. :claps:

  • cheeks8683

    Dopamine is behind a lot of the desire we associate with eating and sexual intercourse. Similarly, all addictive drugs trigger dopamine… They all work somewhat differently on the brain, but all raise your dopamine.
    ________________

    Kudos for doing your reasearch, hun! The reason I keep bringing up dopamine is because I want you ladies to know that sex has nothing to do with love. It’s the dopamine. So when you feel a strong sexual attraction to someone — it’s the dopamine
    _________________________

    This is good stuff....Thanks for bringing it to our attention :)

  • RIP: Pillow-pet (9/11 – 01/12)

    Back when our parents were dope as hail, black was beautiful, and everyone lived black power.

    Sucks to be living today. Nobody believes in anything, and everybody wants to be white, or as close to looking as white as possible. Everybody calls everbody else a n-word, a bytch and a hoe. Puffy, Jayz and the puxxy-poppper are what passes for excellence today.

    What did Marvin Gaye say: Makes me wanna hollar!

  • LiberianJewels7

    Thanks Sandra... I did lose my urge to have sex. Guess I gotta do research on how to increase my dopamine levels
    cause I never had this problem.

  • RIP: Pillow-pet (9/11 – 01/12)

    This is part of the reason why divorce rates are so high. ‘Irreconcilable differences’ simply means the sex was good and you thought you were in love, so you got married
    ------------------------------------------------------

    I love hearing little girls squealing about some boy or man-boy they love. You can look at the damned tree-hugger and tell he ain't about sht. That he's still his momma's baby. But nooooo. "He's so cute and sexy. These girls need an extended stay in their childhood until they can stop describing men like they are baby dolls or plush toys.

  • RIP: Pillow-pet (9/11 – 01/12)

    LiberianJewels7 says:

    Thanks Sandra… I did lose my urge to have sex. Guess I gotta do research on how to increase my dopamine levels
    cause I never had this problem.
    ----------------------------------------

    Why you ain't havin' sex, gul? Oh, well. This is part of life. It ain't always a party.

  • http://www.linkedin.com/pub/nontika-blango/47/676/984 LiberianJewels7

    Sandra & RIP Pillow Pet: I just got out of a unhealthy 12 year relationship last summer and had no desire to date. I know love & sex are different and got my freak on a few times :) But I'm just not into the friends with benefits anymore. I've been working on myself and trying to be patient to attract a good man but it gets frustrating.I would love to be submissive but ppl take advantage of that. My doctor says try Match . Com but is that safe?

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Mannie says:

    …i dont think you can have love without sex…
    __________________

    Yes you can. Love has nothing to do with sex. Your loved ones (family members) don't have sex with you. Sex and love are not synonymous with each other. Sex is for the sole purpose of reproduction.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    RIP: Pillow-pet says:

    I love hearing little girls squealing about some boy or man-boy they love. You can look at the damned tree-hugger and tell he ain’t about sht. That he’s still his momma’s baby. But nooooo. “He’s so cute and sexy. These girls need an extended stay in their childhood until they can stop describing men like they are baby dolls or plush toys.
    _______________

    :applause:

  • LadeeA

    Sandra that is a very wise conclusion and I applaud you. One can only come to that understanding after having some experience. Not being sarcastic..

    I'm 33 years old and I came to that realization and understanding in my late 20's.

    Go Auntie! :cheer:

  • laterthannever

    >>Living proof.

  • MzTee

    I loved this song. This was the first record I ever owned. My dad bought me the 45. Damn, a sista is OLD. ????