Justthefab.com bumped into actress Gabrielle Union at the UrbanWorld Film festival this past weekend.
When asked why she thinks so many successful, intelligent, independent black women are single, Gabby said, “I think [women] struggle” with giving power to men.
“My girlfriends and I are very independent,” said Union, 40. “We’ve been doing it WELL on our own for a long time, and sometimes that’s hard to give up a little power — to sort of acquiesce to another person and let somebody else lead sometimes — or all the time.”
Union, who is probably more familiar with being successful and lonely than most women, explained why she chose to date a much younger man (NBA star Dwyane Wade).
“Men who are in our age range also have a lot of options (read: gold diggers), and maybe sometimes it’s easier to go younger with a lot less expectation,” she said.
Gabby, who has put her storied dating history behind her, has been in a longterm relationship with Wade, 30, who left his wife for her. Union has had to dodge home wrecker accusations but she understands that most women will identify with the scorned ex-wife rather than with the woman who saved a young man from a bad marriage.
Union summed it all up by saying, “We’re up against a lot, but I think the person we see in the mirror is our biggest obstacle.”
Very well said!