Author: Women should surrender to their femininity and let men be men

Suzanne Venker

Controversial author Suzanne Venker’s book “The War on Men” irked the nerves of feminists everywhere by implying that females are inferior to males. In her new book, titled “How to Choose a Husband and Make Peace with Marriage”, Venker encourages women to “surrender” to their femininity and let men be men — if they want their marriages to succeed.

In her op-ed piece for Fox News titled “Let’s call a truce in the war on men,” Venker noted that females, in general, are nurturing and relational beings, who like to gather and nest and take care of people. While men are “loners” who are “content to mill about in their man caves. They like to hunt. They like to build things and kill things.”

Venker says that men can’t carry babies or nurse them, but they can provide for them. So let them.

Venker believes that women should be more complaisant in their roles as nurturers. Just as men are motivated by their primal instincts to be hunter/gatherers who kill to provide for their families.

She suggests that women “shouldn’t let their success in the workplace become the biggest thing in their lives.” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.

Venker asserts that the male and female gender roles are “equal, but different” — and she recommends that women “surrender” to men if they want to achieve everlasting love — which is earned, not given.

“We live in a new world,” writes Venker, where “women are struggling more than ever with how to rectify their desire for independence with their desire for love.”

“Just because you make your own money doesn’t mean your guy can’t pay the bill.”

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    333 Responses to “Author: Women should surrender to their femininity and let men be men”

    1. 1
      bubblicious says:

      No.

    2. 2
      FuturedocDonte says:

      Nothing like a woman that want a man but want to be the man in their relationship :coffee:

    3. 3

      Who the fugg “Iked” her up side the head?

    4. 4
    5. 5
      coco creamy says:

      Love my submissive role yea yall can judge me but I love it :lol:

    6. 6
      Donna del Gatto says:

      :coffee:

    7. 7

      But then again how is this any different from what Auntie says about how men are born to sew their seeds? :tea:

    8. 8
      Honycoatd says:

      I can agree. I am old fashioned. And I like a man being the MAN in the house… protecting and providing!

    9. 9
      candibfly says:

      *ignores the topic* why they ain’t got no Apple stores in the hood? ion feel like drivin far for this charger

    10. 10
      Eazy says:

      But who going around TRYING to be the queens and kings of the castles…but lesbians. What woman sitting around volunteering to play the man roles , shyt happens.

    11. 11

      @Candi you know why :lol: just go back to the post auntie put up about the dummy(s) who backed a truck into an apple store :lol:

    12. 12
      coco creamy says:

      Honycoatd says:

      I can agree. I am old fashioned. And I like a man being the MAN in the house… protecting and providing!

      _______________________________________________

      girl we are here. I learned from my momma, she set a very good example to me that is.

    13. 13
      Honycoatd says:

      Creamer we are on the same page.

    14. 14

      @DONTE
      Nothing like a woman that want a man but want to be the man in their relationship
      _____________

      :coffee:

    15. 15
      Gigi26 says:

      :shrugs:

      If more MEN acted like MEN then WOMEN wouldn’t be so quick to play the role of MAN in the damn relationship/marriage.

      Ole mammified/sissy bred ass niggas :tea:

    16. 16
      OutsidetheBox says:

      Lawwwddd do we have to. :kona:

    17. 17

      If a nigga allows a woman to be the “man” in the relationship he gets what he deserves. The life of a bytch azz nigga. SMH.

      **waits on one of these ladies to bring me a sandwhich and a drink**
      :waiting:

    18. 18
      OutsidetheBox says:

      The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.

      ________________________________________________________

      Sandra are these the biggest things in your life? Discuss. :tea:

    19. 19
      ThatgirlJD says:

      I agree…ladies fall back and let your man lead…if you don’t trust him to head the houshold…you with the wrong man.

    20. 20

      @Eazy while I see what you and the Author is saying, JIM CROW SAID EQUAL BUT DIFFERENT TOO! well separate but you get what i’m saying :lol:

    21. 21

      @GIGI
      “If more MEN acted like MEN then WOMEN wouldn’t be so quick to play the role of MAN in the damn relationship/marriage.

      Ole mammified/sissy bred ass niggas ”
      ____________________

      Women don’t even know a real man after one slaps them across the face.
      :shrugs:

    22. 22
      OutsidetheBox says:

      *looks up at the subs* :tea:

    23. 23
      bubblicious says:

      Sooo…It goes against my “feminine” nature to be a loner and a killer? Welp.

    24. 24
      Gigi26 says:

      If a nigga allows a woman to be the “man” in the relationship he gets what he deserves. The life of a bytch azz nigga. SMH.

      There ya go Man :yes: :applause:

      Too many fukk boys are playing that “bytch azz nigga” role comfortably, hell some think that shyt is “cool” or they’re “pimpin”

    25. 25
      OutsidetheBox says:

      Women don’t even know a real man after one slaps them across the face.
      ____________________

      Troll. :lol:

    26. 26
      bubblicious says:

      @SIS

      I don’t have to. In fact, I’m not. I need some lunch. Still ain’t got my shrimp.

    27. 27
      NaijaGal says:

      anwhy they ain’t got no Apple stores in the hood?
      ===================
      or starbucks

    28. 28

      If more MEN acted like MEN then WOMEN wouldn’t be so quick to play the role of MAN in the damn relationship/marriage.

      :cosign:

    29. 29
      coco creamy says:

      My man is the head and he knows it. my king and he get treated like such :shrugs: been like this for over 20 yrs now and refuse to go back to ms independent I dont even want that title if i got a man :coffee:

    30. 30
      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      coco creamy says:

      Love my submissive role yea yall can judge me but I love it
      ———————-
      :thumbsup: When you find that person you trust to be the lead in the household it is a freeing thing (for me ) I can’t just let any joka roll up and beat his chest and say “Me Man!” I love a man to do things to lovingly care for me. Not to control but care. Not to dominate but to be there supportively.

    31. 31
      Gigi26 says:

      Women don’t even know a real man after one slaps them across the face.
      ————————
      Man see just when I get from ageeing with yo ass! :lol: I don’t advocate domestic violence.

    32. 32
      Miany says:

      Everything is not for everyone. What’s the point in trying to put all men or all women in one box. Some women are happy to be dominant others are submissive. There is no set right or wrong way…To each his own.

    33. 33

      @OTB
      “*looks up at the subs* :coffee:
      ______________________

      Go on and fetch me a sprite with just a touch of ice while you’re at it.
      :waiting:

    34. 34
      candibfly says:

      i’m off today but i’m tempted to go up to work and get the shrimp linguine leftovers i left in the office fridge. why is life so hard?! :crying:

    35. 35
      Honycoatd says:

      Well if some women allowed men to do things without so much orders then some would fall into place naturally.

      In this whole scheme of trying to be equal… both males and females have forgotten about their roles and too much expectations have been laid at their feet.

      I don’t accept nor believe a man should fail at being the head of the family especially when protecting and providing for HIS family. But can’t expect him to do all that plus feed, look after children, clean and even take care of his woman with needs that she can do easily for herself.

      Granted many of us want a man to make good money but if he can’t right away let him go out and get 2 jobs to meet that need but don’t sit and complain about it if he can’t make 2 into 1. Support him and guide him but don’t put him down because of it.

    36. 36
      Donna del Gatto says:

      mayne fukk this topic…

      What I would like to know is why I got paid today and I’m already broke again before the day has ended…. :cuss:

    37. 37
      Eazy says:

      I dont agree with this foolishness up there. When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. If you see a man being treated like a puzzy…guess what? He is one :coffee:

    38. 38
      CurlyGirl says:

      How do you “let” a man be a man? If he is in fact “a man” he won’t have to worry about me trying to take over because he has already taken care of it. I wait on no one to handle business!! Either you are going to do it or fall back!! :tea:

    39. 39

      @OTB
      “Women don’t even know a real man after one slaps them across the face.
      ____________________

      Troll.
      _________

      You know what I meant.
      :coffee:

    40. 40
      Gigi26 says:

      When you find that person you trust to be the lead in the household it is a freeing thing (for me ) I can’t just let any joka roll up and beat his chest and say “Me Man!” I love a man to do things to lovingly care for me. Not to control but care. Not to dominate but to be there supportively.
      ———————

      :yes: ma’am.

    41. 41
      OutsidetheBox says:

      :bye: @SIS. Later hopefully?

    42. 42
      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      Bedazzled His Razzle says:

      If more MEN acted like MEN then WOMEN wouldn’t be so quick to play the role of MAN in the damn relationship/marriage.
      ———————————–
      :cosign:
      —————————-
      Double :cosign: Like I said, you can’t let every man have this role. Some men handle it destructively. If he hasn’t been taught to be the man he can’t lead.

    43. 43
      Ty says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.

      ________________________________________________________

      Sandra are these the biggest things in your life? Discuss.
      ___________
      :crying:

    44. 44
      OutsidetheBox says:

      mayne fukk this topic…

      What I would like to know is why I got paid today and I’m already broke again before the day has ended….
      _______________________

      Alla of this.

    45. 45
      Ty says:

      CurlyGirl says:

      How do you “let” a man be a man? If he is in fact “a man” he won’t have to worry about me trying to take over because he has already taken care of it. I wait on no one to handle business!! Either you are going to do it or fall back!!
      _______________
      :cosign: Grown folks shyt :coffee:

    46. 46

      @EAZY
      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. ”
      _______________________

      Naw, some of these hoes think they gotta “outshine” they nigga. Some niggas tolerate that chit instead of puttin them hoes in check is the problem.

      :coffee:

    47. 47
      candibfly says:

      @fefe cause u got bills and if u like me u haven’t adjusted to ur raise and be shoppin like u won the lotto :(

    48. 48
      Honycoatd says:

      Well I have always been told that with love you have to trust the person and once you trust them then love is naturally there.

      WE need to be more selective anyways… then all these weak men and women would be to a minimum and/or die off.

    49. 49
      OutsidetheBox says:

      How do you “let” a man be a man? If he is in fact “a man” he won’t have to worry about me trying to take over because he has already taken care of it. I wait on no one to handle business!! Either you are going to do it or fall back!!
      ___________________________

      :eek: <–me in agreement

      You cant control his actions. All you can do is be you, if its not for him, its not for him.

      I know lots of men who provide by staying home with kids, reversal of roles. Their marriages seems solid as any other but :shrug:

    50. 50
      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      To me the sign of a weak man is a man who has to state “Im the man!” Some women know when they are in the presence of a real man. His confidence is evident.

    51. 51

      When you find that person you trust to be the lead in the household it is a freeing thing (for me ) I can’t just let any joka roll up and beat his chest and say “Me Man!” I love a man to do things to lovingly care for me. Not to control but care. Not to dominate but to be there supportively.
      ——–
      thank you… my honey can be the head all he wants. he just needs to know that he doesnt do it out of the thought of “you’re my subordinate you do what I say when I say it!” NO. Your job is to provide with love and with care. Not because you THINK you have athoritay over me. the kids yes, but not your wife. Like I said I dont think the word surrender should be used unless its in sex.

    52. 52
      NaijaGal says:

      Miany says:

      Everything is not for everyone. What’s the point in trying to put all men or all women in one box. Some women are happy to be dominant others are submissive. There is no set right or wrong way…To each his own.
      =================
      :yes:

    53. 53

      @WUT
      “Like I said, you can’t let every man have this role. Some men handle it destructively. If he hasn’t been taught to be the man he can’t lead.”
      _________

      Bull chit.
      :coffee:

    54. 54
      Ty says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      mayne fukk this topic…

      What I would like to know is why I got paid today and I’m already broke again before the day has ended….
      _______________________

      Alla of this.
      ___________
      I just wish I could keep Uncle FICA outta my shyt :cuss:

    55. 55
      candibfly says:

      but more importantly, did we ever find out why jesse powell was blacklisted from the industry? :popcorn:

    56. 56
      coco creamy says:

      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      coco creamy says:

      Love my submissive role yea yall can judge me but I love it
      ———————-
      When you find that person you trust to be the lead in the household it is a freeing thing (for me ) I can’t just let any joka roll up and beat his chest and say “Me Man!” I love a man to do things to lovingly care for me. Not to control but care. Not to dominate but to be there supportively.

      _____________________________________________________________

      u are right that’s why its only been 2 men in my life that can even hold that title just 2 my past and the one I got now, but I look for leadership in a man all the rest of then was just boy toys. :lol:

    57. 57
      NaijaGal says:

      so this head of household thing…how does it start…only with marriage?boyfriends/girlfriends?

    58. 58
      Who Dat says:

      Let’s be real (TI voice from “ATL”)…

      MOST women I know make more money than their dude. So I am supposed to be living some kinda way so a MAN can feel good about HISSELF…so he can pay some bills?

      I am supposed to order a second rate steak so he can afford to pay the bill? I might want a lobster tail… but I cant get it cause HIS azz might not be able to pay for it…all so HE can feel good about HIS nutsack?

      Or we just supposed to not go out to eat period cause it aint HIS pay week…

      Somebody help me understand b/c I DON’T.

    59. 59
      Sandra Rose says:

      Eazy says:

      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion.”
      __________________

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me. :shrug:

    60. 60
      Donna del Gatto says:

      candibfly says:

      @fefe cause u got bills and if u like me u haven’t adjusted to ur raise and be shoppin like u won the lotto :(

      __________

      Is this my problem? Cuz I swear I got promoted back in the summer, and my pockets seem to STILL stay empty…oh yeah, and I did buy that new hard top convertible…I mean, but still! Shyt! :mad:

    61. 61

      @NAIJA
      “so this head of household thing…how does it start…only with marriage?boyfriends/girlfriends?”
      __________

      :think:
      I think it requires either marriage or at least a kid and living together..

    62. 62
      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      BLEEH, BLEEH, BLAH,BLAH,

      WHATEVER FLOATS YOUR BOAT, NOW WHAT WOULD BE SOME GOOD TEA IS A BOOK THAT DEFINES THE ROLE OF SAME SEX RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES, WHO SHOULD SUBMIT TO WHOM BASED ON INFERIORITY/SUPERIORITY BECAUSE GENDER COULDN’T POSSIBLY BE A FACTOR :coffee:

    63. 63
      Eazy says:

      so this head of household thing…how does it start…only with marriage?boyfriends/girlfriends?
      ______________________________
      good question. :popcorn:

    64. 64
      OutsidetheBox says:

      To me the sign of a weak man is a man who has to state “Im the man!” Some women know when they are in the presence of a real man. His confidence is evident.

      _____________________

      :eek: <—agreement

    65. 65
      Honycoatd says:

      Naija,

      IT depends… if you look at the person your with and see years or just cruising on a short lived joy ride.

    66. 66
      tchenel says:

      Nothing in that post I can honestly DISagree with…

      ALSO couldnt agree with this more:
      ” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.”

      ** So when it comes to the changes made after giving birth to a baby, lets celebrate our beauty. Beauty is complex and requires context Nurturing life is a beautiful thing :) God bless!

    67. 67

      @SANDRA
      ““When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion.”
      __________________

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.”
      _________________

      :stop:

      Hoooooooooooole up Sandra. Let em open their legs! Don’t stop em from doin that!

    68. 68
      Who Dat says:

      My lights about to be turned out…my husband/dude/S.O. aint got it so me and mine supposed to be in the fuggin DAHK so he can feel good?

      How does this work?

    69. 69
      coco creamy says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @EAZY
      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. ”
      _______________________

      Naw, some of these hoes think they gotta “outshine” they nigga. Some niggas tolerate that chit instead of puttin them hoes in check is the problem.

      ___________________________________________________

      @Man Yep I see that Crap in females I know with them buster they messing with my dude be like ummm nall we aint gone be able to do that, when he make a vow in that house that what it is, im no slave be he is loving nuturing and a dam good provider soooo im good :lol:

    70. 70

      @Naija, the traditional way (head of household) starts with marriage. I dont know what the heck it is today with so many different dinamics of couples (i.e. boy + boy adopting children and girl + girl with children or the traditional route, or just boy + girl and bastard children)

    71. 71
      WorkInProgress says:

      ” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life”
      ………..
      The hell it is. that’s why a lot of women get stuck when they adopt this mentality. Going throug a divorce and shyt. don’t know account number, life ins policy # (if there’s one), cant even balance a damn check book. B cos they sat back and submit and act dumb about their financial and emotional well being. If a man hold it down in every aspect of the relationship/marriage then I will breathe easy-never submit. But if he’s not by choice or whatever circumstance am taking matters into my own hands. Independence within a marriage/relationship is a beautiful thing.

    72. 72
      Eazy says:

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids?
      _____________________________________
      this not directed to me cause
      A. I dont have any kids
      B. I dont open my legs to any toms dycks nor harrys
      C. I believe in the natural order of men/women

    73. 73
      Miany says:

      Donna del Gatto says:

      mayne fukk this topic…

      What I would like to know is why I got paid today and I’m already broke again before the day has ended….

      ^^^^^^ Maaaaaaan I got so much bills the check be gone before the direct deposit posts…smdh

    74. 74
      Donna del Gatto says:

      I know lots of men who provide by staying home with kids, reversal of roles. Their marriages seems solid as any other but :shrugs:
      _____________

      I worked with a woman like this years ago…she was a hardcore mover and shaker in the banking business….she was FIERCE ya heard? But she birthed 5 kids and her husband was a happy Mr. Mom while she was out bringing home the bread…their marriage worked just fine… :yes:

    75. 75
      Who Dat says:

      but more importantly, did we ever find out why jesse powell was blacklisted from the industry?

      ^^

      He said NO prolly

      *waits with you*

      :popcorn:

    76. 76

      @COCO
      “when he make a vow in that house that what it is”
      __________

      As it should be. Like someone said, if you gotta question what that nigga decide, you shouldn’t be with him. Pure and simple.
      :coffee:

    77. 77
      OutsidetheBox says:

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence?
      _______________________________

      But you said we couldnt teach them how to be men..

    78. 78
      Honycoatd says:

      IMO if you are not willing to wait for a man to meet your size pocket then more on and get smeone that can match your pocket.

      Confidence in self and each other is important in a relationship.

      If you believe and support a person and they willingly accept the challenge and are willing to work to benefit you both then you have a winner.

    79. 79
      Gigi26 says:

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.
      ——————————————-
      Ummm how about these mammyfied sissies who RUN AWAY FROM FATHERHOOD SANDRA? :eek:

      Sandra you went too far son :kona:

      I understand what you’re saying but geez louise!

    80. 80
      NaijaGal says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.
      =====================
      tell’em Sandra…all you women are responsible for raising men, not their fathers…hmpf…she told yall

    81. 81

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.
      ————
      Although I’m married, I do not that you used “you women” categorizing all of your readers in the same box. :egg:

    82. 82
      candibfly says:

      ” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life”
      —————–

      was in the article? i ain’t eem read it :shrugs:

      anyway, nah i’m good on this. i’ll find others way to fill my empty, childless life :p

    83. 83
      bubblicious says:

      Hilarious. Simply hilarious. But I’m not here.

    84. 84
      goat76 says:

      This is a Monday thru Thursday topic.
      What’s up wit dat freaky shat?!?!

      But as for the topic, I’m single, I run my house, and doing a damn good job at it too. A Real Man being a Man!

    85. 85
      Donna del Gatto says:

      Who Dat says:

      My lights about to be turned out…my husband/dude/S.O. aint got it so me and mine supposed to be in the fuggin DAHK so he can feel good?

      How does this work?

      ____________

      You are TRULY reading my mind…I can more and have more but I’m supposed to settle for less just so he can beat on his chest and hold his ****? fukk that…

    86. 86

      “The hell it is. that’s why a lot of women get stuck when they adopt this mentality. Going throug a divorce and shyt. don’t know account number, life ins policy # (if there’s one), cant even balance a damn check book. B cos they sat back and submit and act dumb about their financial and emotional well being. If a man hold it down in every aspect of the relationship/marriage then I will breathe easy-never submit. But if he’s not by choice or whatever circumstance am taking matters into my own hands. Independence within a marriage/relationship is a beautiful thing.”-W.I.P.

      Dumbest chit posted today…
      :coffee:

    87. 87
      OutsidetheBox says:

      so this head of household thing…how does it start…only with marriage?boyfriends/girlfriends?
      ___________________________________

      In my long term relationships we never established a head, per se. They respected me.. I respected them by both of us doing what needed to be done for the household. Who keeps score?

    88. 88
      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      ACCORDING TO SOME WOMEN CAN’T TEACH BOYS SHIAT ONLY MEN CAN DO THAT, AND ORDER TO BE THE HEAD OF A HOUSEHOLD YOU MUST BE PRESENT, BUT OH YES I FORGET IF A MAN LEAVES OR STAY IS ALL DEPENDENT UPON THE WOMAN, AND IF HE CHOOSES NOT TO IT COULDN’T POSSIBLY BE OF NO FAULT OF HIS OWN, IT’S HIS MAMA DOING CAUSE SHE AINT RAISE HIM RIGHT AND HIS WOMAN’S DOING CAUSE SHE SHOULD HAVE CHOSEN BETTER OR BETTER YET SUBMITTED AND MADE MASS FEEL LIKE KING :coffee: YEP THAT COVERS IT GALS, KNOW YA PLACE, PLAY YOUR ROLE, AND ALL WILL END WELL IN THE END, YOUR FUTURE IS DEPENDENT UPON IT, IN MAN YOU SHOULD TRUST :coffee: YEP HE WILL LEADETH THE TO GREENER PASTURES, YOUR FIRST BORN AND LAST BORN WILL INHERIT THE WORLD AND THE KINGDOM IF YE FOLLOW YOUR MAN-LOL

      YEP AND IN THAT ORDER, GEESH-WHATEVA

    89. 89
      Who Dat says:

      The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.

      ^^

      Whose life? His…a man? That was HIS mama fuggin job.

      My name is not on the space of “mother” on that nukka birth certificate.

    90. 90
      coco creamy says:

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.”
      ___________________________________________________________

      yep sandra we here I say that all the time to young girls i want them to do better. :yes:

    91. 91

      KDubbs comment about the lights made me think of that scene in Bastard out of Carolina when that broad fed those babies peppered crackers with ketchup. :no:

      @ Shaun..Saw you post about that just being a “bad” spot. That’s why I make sure it never has breakage or anything.

    92. 92
      Bibi says:

      When you find that person you trust to be the lead in the household it is a freeing thing (for me ) I can’t just let any joka roll up and beat his chest and say “Me Man!” I love a man to do things to lovingly care for me. Not to control but care. Not to dominate but to be there supportively.

      :yes:

    93. 93
      NaijaGal says:

      WorkInProgress says:

      ” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life”
      ………..
      The hell it is. that’s why a lot of women get stuck when they adopt this mentality. Going throug a divorce and shyt. don’t know account number, life ins policy # (if there’s one), cant even balance a damn check book. B cos they sat back and submit and act dumb about their financial and emotional well being. If a man hold it down in every aspect of the relationship/marriage then I will breathe easy-never submit. But if he’s not by choice or whatever circumstance am taking matters into my own hands. Independence within a marriage/relationship is a beautiful thing.
      ===================
      chile if you don’t speak…tell it…Ethel all confused when Fred leaves her after 40 years of marriage for the secretary and she’s lost cause she don’t no anything outside of being a wife/mother

    94. 94
      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      The hell it is. that’s why a lot of women get stuck when they adopt this mentality. Going throug a divorce and shyt. don’t know account number, life ins policy # (if there’s one), cant even balance a damn check book. B cos they sat back and submit and act dumb about their financial and emotional well being. If a man hold it down in every aspect of the relationship/marriage then I will breathe easy-never submit. But if he’s not by choice or whatever circumstance am taking matters into my own hands. Independence within a marriage/relationship is a beautiful thing.”-W.I.P.
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

      :cosign: TRUE AS HELL

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      iyonah says:

      Unpopular current day opinion, but traditional current day.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      just boy + girl and bastard children
      ___________________________________

      Stay classy… :lol:

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      Who Dat says:

      Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.
      ^^^

      Chile BYE…my tubes ill tied.

      :coffee:

    98. 98
      Anna says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @EAZY
      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. ”
      _______________________

      Naw, some of these hoes think they gotta “outshine” they nigga. Some niggas tolerate that chit instead of puttin them hoes in check is the problem.
      ~~~~~~~~
      My first thought was Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.

    99. 99
      Sandra Rose says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      :stop:

      Hoooooooooooole up Sandra. Let em open their legs! Don’t stop em from doin that!
      __________________

      :rofl:

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      Keesh says:

      My husband loves to cook (he cook our family dinners every night)get the kids situated and go out and pay all the bills. He really is a Mr. Mom. He taught me how to care for our first son…As a matter of fact, he just called me at work and asked me what would I like to eat tonight and he got the good wood, Damn I love him.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I worked with a woman like this years ago…she was a hardcore mover and shaker in the banking business….she was FIERCE ya heard? But she birthed 5 kids and her husband was a happy Mr. Mom while she was out bringing home the bread…their marriage worked just fine…
      ________________________________

      I work with Alpha females like this. Engineers, surgeons, directors :yes: Married and seemingly happy.

    102. 102
      NaijaGal says:

      goat76 says:

      This is a Monday thru Thursday topic.
      What’s up wit dat freaky shat?!?!
      ==================
      I got the baby oil for your rub down before you start stripping for us

    103. 103
      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      Eazy says:

      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion.”
      __________________

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence? Or how about you women stop opening your legs to every man until you are SURE that he qualifies to be a father to your future kids? That seems simple enough to me.
      ————————————
      Well this woman knew her man was with her man for 15 years. This man is good to his kids, our kids despite us not being together….. I don’t interfere in his relationship with them. If he drops the ball he has to answer for that. I don’t bad mouth him but I don’t make excuses either.

    104. 104
      Sandra Rose says:

      tchenel says:

      So when it comes to the changes made after giving birth to a baby, lets celebrate our beauty. Beauty is complex and requires context Nurturing life is a beautiful thing :) God bless!
      _________________

      Well said :clap:

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      Gigi26 says:

      Idk. All I know is I go off of actions and not words. If you ain’t doing what needs to be done, someone else will. simple as pie :shrugs:

    106. 106
      Donna del Gatto says:

      @Sandra

      How about you women teaching boys how to be men by respecting their fathers in their presence?
      __________

      Wait, What????

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      @ANNA
      “My first thought was Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.”
      _______________

      Pose what? She must goin be pose the props or something and be “Set Coordinator” cause I know they won’t photograph that “Whirlpool” made body of hers.

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      Honycoatd says:

      But how is that submission though @ WIP

      I think that is low self esteem and being too submissive.

      IF its in the home or have anything to do with me or mine then I will need to know about it and keep track of it.

    109. 109
      Donna del Gatto says:

      Anna says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @EAZY
      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. ”
      _______________________

      Naw, some of these hoes think they gotta “outshine” they nigga. Some niggas tolerate that chit instead of puttin them hoes in check is the problem.
      ~~~~~~~~
      My first thought was Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.

      _____________

      Now Anna, you know I :heart: you to death….but don’t come up in here with that blasphemy! :mad:

    110. 110
      OutsidetheBox says:

      Ethel all confused when Fred leaves her after 40 years of marriage for the secretary and she’s lost cause she don’t no anything outside of being a wife/mother

      _______________________
      :eek:

    111. 111
      Sandra Rose says:

      Who Dat says:

      My lights about to be turned out…my husband/dude/S.O. aint got it so me and mine supposed to be in the fuggin DAHK so he can feel good?

      How does this work?
      ________________

      If your man is a good provider your lights will always be on.

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      Eazy says:

      Pose what? She must goin be pose the props or something and be “Set Coordinator” cause I know they won’t photograph that “Whirlpool” made body of hers.
      __________________________________
      :rofl:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Damn I love him.
      ________________

      :heart:

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      Who Dat says:

      Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.

      ^^

      But it is a magazine for men. :shrug:

    115. 115

      @WUT
      “I don’t interfere in his relationship with them. If he drops the ball he has to answer for that. I don’t bad mouth him but I don’t make excuses either.”
      _______________

      Excuses for what? Is the nigga there for them or he not? If he there what “excuse” you need to make?

      You need to be tellin them he a “GOOD FATHER.” That ain’t no “excuse” that’s the truth.
      :smack:

    116. 116
      coco creamy says:

      WorkInProgress says:

      ” The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life”
      ………..
      The hell it is. that’s why a lot of women get stuck when they adopt this mentality. Going throug a divorce and shyt. don’t know account number, life ins policy # (if there’s one), cant even balance a damn check book. B cos they sat back and submit and act dumb about their financial and emotional well being. If a man hold it down in every aspect of the relationship/marriage then I will breathe easy-never submit. But if he’s not by choice or whatever circumstance am taking matters into my own hands. Independence within a marriage/relationship is a beautiful thing.

      ___________________________________________________________

      the first thing my man looked for in me was brains, he was serious about being smart having his back if he fall. and he still on that, he said sex in very important but a smart woman is key. I think its how you look at whats important. but when a woman know what she should do its makes the relationship easier. Chile I dont even cuss my man out , and I know that ins not normal considering when i hear my female friend girls talk they cuss they man out all the time, my dude say ummm u need to loose them ladies :lol:

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      ninjarider_sb says:

      goat76 says:

      This is a Monday thru Thursday topic.
      What’s up wit dat freaky shat?!?!
      ————————————————————————
      Well I asked early this morning who all was getting dey back blown out tonight :hunching:

    118. 118

      OutsidetheBox says:

      just boy + girl and bastard children
      ___________________________________

      Stay classy…

      :lol:

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      @ Coco

      :yes: BOY-toys are fun (hence the reason mr tecky has never met my children… :coffee:

      But MEN baybaayyyy you can’t play with them they are the truth in all aspects, financially, sexually, emotionally, sexually, <—- :wink:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      But you said we couldnt teach them how to be men..
      ________________

      I meant show them by respecting their father so boys can see that respect goes both ways.

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      Ethel all confused when Fred leaves her after 40 years of marriage for the secretary and she’s lost cause she don’t no anything outside of being a wife/mother

      _______________________

      Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit.
      :coffee:

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      Gigi26 says:

      Pose what? She must goin be pose the props or something and be “Set Coordinator” cause I know they won’t photograph that “Whirlpool” made body of hers.

      :dead:

      Jackie be doing too much “Black Gucci Shades, 6 inch heels!”

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      105 Gigi26 says:

      Idk. All I know is I go off of actions and not words. If you ain’t doing what needs to be done, someone else will. simple as pie
      ———
      :yes:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Thanks NaijaGal. :)

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      goat76 says:

      NaijaGal says:

      goat76 says:

      This is a Monday thru Thursday topic.
      What’s up wit dat freaky shat?!?!
      ==================
      I got the baby oil for your rub down before you start stripping for us
      —————————————–
      Dat’s the shat I’m talking bout.

      Speaking of baby oil, it’s been a minute since I used this in one of my sessions. Gotta break out the air mattress for the oil party.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      If your man is a good provider your lights will always be on.
      ______________________________

      Even if he gets laid off..and weve taken your advice to stay at home and raise our kids “right” :huh:

      Your absolute-itis is astounding Sandra! Its all shades of gray. There is no formula. :no:

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      Honycoatd says:

      And to add… People can only be all THEY CAN BE! not what you, we or others want them to be.

      If you have a dirtbag then leave his ass out the door.

      If you want someone of substance then be someone of substance.

      We women make it too easy sometimes for these men.

      A man should proof that he is able to protect and provide for you once you decide to make a home with him.

    128. 128
      WorkInProgress says:

      That post and this post is all kinds of silly. B cos the dynamics of relationships/marriages changes from people tp people. what works for peter is not gonna work for Paul and vice versa. as long as the couples involved are happy with waht works fro them then Kudos. What I dont like is blatant disrespect and put down from the the so call HOH (be it male or female). Everbody and the mama aint gotta know you the man or you the woman holding down the fort.

    129. 129

      Jackie be doing too much “Black Gucci Shades, 6 inch heels!”
      ———–
      :dead: Well I’m glad she’s not set on having a music career at her age and that she said it was apart of her bucket list :rofl: I cant knock her for that one

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      Who Dat says:

      My lights about to be turned out…my husband/dude/S.O. aint got it so me and mine supposed to be in the fuggin DAHK so he can feel good?

      How does this work?
      ________________

      If your man is a good provider your lights will always be on.
      ^^^^^

      While we live in a one bedroom shack…since that is all he can afford huh? What am I supposed to do with my money? Wait…I am not supposed to work. I gotta stay home and make 3 meals and birth the babies and get ready to catch that dack when he get to the house huh?

      What in the June Cleaver hail? This is tew thousand and twelf. Women have been working for MOST of this century.

      :coffee:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      But you said we couldnt teach them how to be men..
      ________________

      I meant show them by respecting their father so boys can see that respect goes both ways.
      _______________________________________________
      Good so we are in agrrement. Its essential that women do/must help shape boys into men as well.

    132. 132
      NaijaGal says:

      Sandra :)

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      Ty says:

      @ANNA
      “My first thought was Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.”
      ____________
      :huh:
      What did she do with the pack of hot dogs on the back of her neck :think: How can u do Playboy with rolls/layers of neck :shrug:

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      Gigi26 says:

      Chile I dont even cuss my man out , and I know that ins not normal considering when i hear my female friend girls talk they cuss they man out all the time, my dude say ummm u need to loose them ladies
      ——————————-
      That’s a good man Creamy :yes: and he right, lose dem broads if they disrespecting their man

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      coco creamy says:

      Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit.

      __________________________________________________________

      @Man I see we hear >>>>>*.*<<<<< today ….

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      WorkInProgress says:

      meant that book. and sidenote Lets not forget roles are changing more women in the workforce. More women pursuing and obtaining Higher education

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit
      _________________________________________

      listen. Poor Ethel. :) Thank God my mama and daddy raised me to strive for better.

    138. 138
      candibfly says:

      *cuts on Family Reunion by the O’Jays*

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      Eazy says:

      Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit.
      ___________________________________
      And Ethel should be ok with this huh? :coffee:

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @WUT
      “I don’t interfere in his relationship with them. If he drops the ball he has to answer for that. I don’t bad mouth him but I don’t make excuses either.”
      _______________

      Excuses for what? Is the nigga there for them or he not? If he there what “excuse” you need to make?

      You need to be tellin them he a “GOOD FATHER.” That ain’t no “excuse” that’s the truth.
      ————————-
      :nono: I am not the one to make their minds up for them… Telling them he is a good father and him showing that he is a good father… I think one trumps the other. I don’t have to say to them everyday “Im a good mommy!” I do the things I need to do and he does too. But if he drops the ball, for instance tell them he is going to do something and it falls through… I am not going to step up and say “Well you know he’s a good daddy!” NOOOOO HE should contact them and say “That’s my fault I miss that one but I’ll make it up.” I will not force my opinion on them or give them any falsehoods. It’s their relationship(child and father) not ours.

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      NaijaGal says:

      Who Dat says:

      …and get ready to catch that dack when he get to the house huh?
      ===============
      and be ok with it if he’s slanging it elsewhere, cause it’s innate and chit

    142. 142
      Ty says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      If your man is a good provider your lights will always be on.
      ______________________________

      Even if he gets laid off..and weve taken your advice to stay at home and raise our kids “right”

      Your absolute-itis is astounding Sandra! Its all shades of gray. There is no formula.
      ____________
      :crying: I love how u worded this shyt :rofl:

    143. 143

      Chile I dont even cuss my man out , and I know that ins not normal considering when i hear my female friend girls talk they cuss they man out all the time, my dude say ummm u need to loose them ladies
      ——————————-
      That’s a good man Creamy and he right, lose dem broads if they disrespecting their man

      ______________________

      I fault them niggas for tolerating that chit. :no: <<<smh

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      Honycoatd says:

      No one (at least not me) is telling women that we should lose our identity and be at the foothold of men.

      Be a supporting factor, work and let that be the kickback if something happens to go wrong.

      I dislike lazy women and men. Nothing is handed to you but the skin on your back.

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      *sets out a tray of Water Mocassins* Some of yall need a drink…

      Fugg INTENSE and Naija for 80 and 88…. :rofl:

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      coco creamy says:

      Aint nothing like a proud woman that holds her head high when speaking on her man. :coffee: men respect that in a woman trust me they really do. when you can do that it can go far never said its perfect. but :coffee:

    147. 147
      Donna del Gatto says:

      Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit
      ____________

      Why is Fred “not leaving” Ethel something to strive for in life??? dayum I tell you ’bout desperate folks looking to hold onto just a piece of a man…smh…

      If I was Ethel, Fred better hope I never leave his ass!

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      Eazy says:

      Let me go get an ice cream sammich… :kona:

    149. 149
      NaijaGal says:

      :rollseyes: at some of these lies being spread but it’s your life, I just read it (fact or fiction)

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      supa says:

      as independent and strong as i am, i love being submissive in my relationship. i think that people have different definitions of what being submissive is, and mine definitely isn’t one that equates submission with giving permission to be disrespected and abused. i also know that while i don’t mind being submissive (taking off his shoes and socks, rubbing his feet, pouring his wine, not embarrassing him in front of his friends, not belittling him when we’re alone, etc…) that i have set boundaries and made sure that i am recognized as a whole woman – not someone looking for someone to complete her, but a woman looking for a man to compliment her. that, as well as my submissiveness has earned me so much respect, rewards and peace!! i am treated as an equal and with a lot of love. my man cooks for me, he is considerate of my feelings, shares his thoughts and worries with me, and we have learned how to communicate way better as a couple and individually. of course, things aren’t perfect, but we don’t have those nasty fights that are hard to bounce back from. that makes a world of a difference to me. as i’ve gotten older and wiser, being at peace and operating out of love have been at the top of my list and i’m grateful that i can be in such a relationship. it’s rough out there lol… another benefit to being submissive is that when i’m serious about something i don’t like, it’s respected and i’m listened to. too much nagging and disrespect can make a man not give 2 *ucks because if you’re always mad, he has no vested interest in appeasing you. you will find something else to be mad at lol….

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      And Ethel should be ok with this huh?

      ______________________________________
      Ethel betta get her ass in that kitchen. :tea: In heels. No cursing eva. :tea:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Who Dat says:

      Wait…I am not supposed to work. I gotta stay home and make 3 meals and birth the babies and get ready to catch that dack when he get to the house huh?
      ________________

      Women did that for hundreds of years with no complaints. Then you feminists came along with all your demands, telling women they are better than men. Now over 40% of black men are gay or bi. You happy now? :coffee:

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      Eazy says:

      *sets out a tray of Water Mocassins* Some of yall need a drink…
      _______________________________
      NIKKE :yahoo: This is my favorite drink in the whole wide world :happy:

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      Who Dat says:

      and be ok with it if he’s slanging it elsewhere, cause it’s innate and chit

      ^^

      Which is WHY me and MINE living in a one bedroom shack. And our lights off.

      Cause he over there taking care of that hoe and her’n too.

      SHEWWWWW glad this ish is just a ficitional synopsis. It is getting me pist like it is REAL FUGGIN LIFE.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      cause it’s innate and chit

      ___________________
      Bish gone. :rofl:

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      @WUT
      “I am not the one to make their minds up for them… Telling them he is a good father and him showing that he is a good father… I think one trumps the other. I don’t have to say to them everyday “Im a good mommy!” I do the things I need to do and he does too. But if he drops the ball, for instance tell them he is going to do something and it falls through… I am not going to step up and say “Well you know he’s a good daddy!” NOOOOO HE should contact them and say “That’s my fault I miss that one but I’ll make it up.” I will not force my opinion on them or give them any falsehoods. It’s their relationship(child and father) not ours.”
      _______________

      Wow, what a bunch of bullchit.

      If he is a good father, IN YOUR HONEST OPINON, that’s what he is. If in fact he isn’t, you sayin your kids too DUMB not to form their own opinion and determine that themselves.

      Your silence on something speaks just as loudly as your words. I hope I can always tell my kids “you have a good mother” whether I’m with her or not or even if she phucks up from time to time (since she human and all).

      Pride is muthaphucka sometimes. :no: <<<smh

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      NaijaGal says:

      :rolleyes: at some of these lies being spread but it’s your life, I just read it (fact or fiction)

      ___________

      *sniggles* girl, get outta my head!

    158. 158
      Eazy says:

      In heels. No cursing eva
      __________________________
      and get ready to get that used up dyck she was supposed to have exclusively…cause you know he supposed to be fertilizing the world :coffee:

    159. 159

      @SANDRA
      “Wait…I am not supposed to work. I gotta stay home and make 3 meals and birth the babies and get ready to catch that dack when he get to the house huh?
      ________________

      Women did that for hundreds of years with no complaints. Then you feminists came along with all your demands, telling women they are better than men. Now over 40% of black men are gay or bi. You happy now?”
      _______________

      :rofl:
      Sandra say yall goin learn today!

    160. 160
      candibfly says:

      who lyin tho? :popcorn:

      <— been out the loop for awhile

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      Eazy says:

      at some of these lies being spread but it’s your life, I just read it (fact or fiction)
      _____________________________
      peaches and herbs…peaches and herbs :coffee:

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      Honycoatd says:

      Guys and ladies I am off… My baby turns 6 tomorrow and having a cupcake sharing with friends at her after school.\

      Take care everyone.. be safe, relax and at peace this weekend.

      :hugs:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      @Sandra

      I’ve never considered myself a feminist, but I’ll be damned if I’m doing the same job a man is doing and they pay me less just because I’m a woman, or a man feels like he can tell me how to dress and sexually harass me in the office just because I am a woman…the feminist movement was very NECESSARY…

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      Eazy says:

      Sandra say yall goin learn today!
      ___________________
      so why is there so many lesbians? absentee mothers???????

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      @Supa Status?

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      @Supa Status?

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      WorkInProgress says:

      the first thing my man looked for in me was brains, he was serious about being smart having his back if he fall. and he still on that, he said sex in very important but a smart woman is key. I think its how you look at whats important. but when a woman know what she should do its makes the relationship easier. Chile I dont even cuss my man out , and I know that ins not normal considering when i hear my female friend girls talk they cuss they man out all the time, my dude say ummm u need to loose them ladies

      ………
      Agreed creamy. naturally am a go-getter. i learned from my mom who raise 7kids on her own. but I always give my mens a chance to hold the reins. my BF before I got married!@ OMG. that phucker was al over the place. his plans will change from month to month on the future of our relationship and he was all bark and no bite. I was like just cut the phuckery and tell it to the next victim. My hubby now. That man is heaven sent.

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      Gigi26 says:

      at some of these lies being spread but it’s your life, I just read it (fact or fiction)
      ——————————-
      At em or dap em as I always say :lol:

    169. 169
      goat76 says:

      And Coca-Cola was a nickle a hundred years ago…. Sandra just trollin y’all.

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      Eazy says:

      See ya Hony :hi:

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      @DONNA
      “Fred would cheat on Ehtel for 80 years but never leave her azz… not until Ethel got to thinking she ran chit
      ____________

      Why is Fred “not leaving” Ethel something to strive for in life??? dayum I tell you ’bout desperate folks looking to hold onto just a piece of a man…smh…

      If I was Ethel, Fred better hope I never leave his ass!”
      ____________________________

      Yes, that is something BOTH of them should strive for! Ain’t NAIR relationship lasted decades without some outside chit goin on! That’s a FACT.

      :coffee:

    172. 172
      Ty says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      Who Dat says:

      Wait…I am not supposed to work. I gotta stay home and make 3 meals and birth the babies and get ready to catch that dack when he get to the house huh?
      ________________

      Women did that for hundreds of years with no complaints. Then you feminists came along with all your demands, telling women they are better than men. Now over 40% of black men are gay or bi. You happy now
      _________
      :crying: U damn feminists handling your own and feeding your selves and shyt :rofl:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      SHEWWWWW glad this ish is just a ficitional synopsis. It is getting me pist like it is REAL FUGGIN LIFE.

      __________________________

      :rofl: :rofl:
      Its so funny cause if this was a blind post or letter that Choc posted the advice would be different.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      WorkInProgress says:

      when a woman know what she should do its makes the relationship easier. Chile I dont even cuss my man out , and I know that ins not normal considering when i hear my female friend girls talk they cuss they man out all the time, my dude say ummm u need to loose them ladies
      ________________

      He’s right, you know. :yes:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Have a good weekend, Honycoatd. :bye:

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      What’s a Water Moccasin? :shrug:

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      @EAZY
      “Sandra say yall goin learn today!
      ___________________
      so why is there so many lesbians? absentee mothers???????”
      __________

      Always been that way. It’s quite natural for women. Any research on sexuality will show that.

      It’s just more accepted now so females don’t have to hide behind “friendships” like women the age of Oprah/Gale would.
      :coffee:

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      Bigbadwolf says:

      The biggest thing in a woman’s life should be giving birth and nurturing life — even if she chooses not to be a mother.
      ______________________________

      I can kind of agree. I loved being a stay at home mother until my kids were in school. I feel like no one can teach your children like you can, because it all starts at home. I work because I like to make my own money and don’t want to have my hand out. He truly hates that I work and he feels like I shouldn’t. He pays all the bills and I spend my checks on whatever I want, which is the point of me working.

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      goat76 says:

      And Coca-Cola was a nickle a hundred years ago…. Sandra just trollin y’all.

      ____________

      :lol:

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      Anna says:

      Donna del Gatto says:

      Anna says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @EAZY
      “When a REAL man comes along, a woman naturally submits in my opinion. ”
      _______________________

      Naw, some of these hoes think they gotta “outshine” they nigga. Some niggas tolerate that chit instead of puttin them hoes in check is the problem.
      ~~~~~~~~
      My first thought was Jackie Christie. Speaking of her, I read that she is going to pose for Playboy.

      _____________

      Now Anna, you know I you to death….but don’t come up in here with that blasphemy!
      “““““““““““
      If I had to guess which one of the Basketball Wives would pose naked for Playboy Jackie Christie is the LAST name I would come up with…

      From RWS.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Donna del Gatto: No one is saying you can’t be that independent woman. But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.

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      Eazy says:

      What’s a Water Moccasin?
      ________________________-
      heaven in a glass :heart:

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      FuturedocDonte says:

      Can somebody fill me in on who ethel ill :rofl:

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      Keesh says:

      Happy Bday to your baby Hony…have a great weekend

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      FOLLOW YE TO THE EDGE OF THE EARTH, AND EVEN IFITH THEE EMBARKETH A CLIFF, JUMPETH FIRST SO THAT YE MAY PROVIDETH A SOFT LANDING PLACE FOR THE MASTER.. :coffee:

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      :cosign: #171…

      *makes Eazy another drink while I decide on the next round*

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      the feminist movement was very NECESSARY…
      ____________________________________________

      STILL. And Sandra is a denialist if she thinks the mvmt didnt help her in her life choices. :no:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Eazy says:

      so why is there so many lesbians? absentee mothers???????
      ___________________

      No. Absentee fathers and other environmental factors. Remember, a father doesn’t have to be biological, he just has to be there.

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      Eazy says:

      Always been that way. It’s quite natural for women. Any research on sexuality will show that.
      ________________________
      cut the bull. if its natural for women then its natural for men.

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      Who Dat says:

      Then you feminists came along with all your demands, telling women they are better than men.
      ^^^

      Hummph. I aint no feminist. They were in the 60’s and 70’s. I was raised by one though. :coffee: Glad to carry the torch forward into tew thousand and twelf.

      If she woulda left it up to our dad me and my sisters woulda fuggin STARVED ya heard? She WAS one of those who put all her faith into her husband. Was submissive. Didn’t know how to balance a checkbook. Went to work and gave her paycheck to him. THANK GOD for my godmother (or as some of the dudes will say…one of them hatin azz bishes) took her by the hand and showed her what was up before it was too late. My mother did not even learn to DRIVE until AFTER I was born. She was 27 yo and her BF taught her…So when it was time to colleck her babies and murk she was able to do so. Literally. :steer:

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      @Donta.. :lol: .. They done dragged the HoneyMooners into this and dependingon how old you are… let google be your friend.

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      @ Eazy…What’s in it?

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      Ty says:

      :dead: @ Naija

      :rofl: @ this entire post

      :peace: Hony

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      Cocoabana says:

      Intense, you had a Redeemed moment? :hahaha:

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      But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.

      ==========
      even if he has a secret family too. :tea:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Donna del Gatto: No one is saying you can’t be that independent woman. But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.

      ___________

      I could go into SO much detail about my own personal life/marriage right now, but I will decline and just say that I know what I’m talking about… :coffee:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Bigbadwolf says:

      I can kind of agree. I loved being a stay at home mother until my kids were in school. I feel like no one can teach your children like you can, because it all starts at home. I work because I like to make my own money and don’t want to have my hand out. He truly hates that I work and he feels like I shouldn’t. He pays all the bills and I spend my checks on whatever I want, which is the point of me working.
      _________________

      And that’s the way it should be. :yes: You did everything you were supposed to do as a mother for your pre-schoolers. And now you are reaping the benefits. :clap:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I was raised by one though.
      ___________________________
      :tea:

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      @Kdub.. Kudos to your mom and her BFF.. I would have never guessed that was her story but good to know she kept her sense of humor…

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      Keesh says:

      Ive learned (through my personal experiences) that men want to be in control. A real man wants to be that backbone for his family and support them. Sometimes letting a man know you are strong and independent will make him go find a woman that not only want him but more importantly need them. Its great to stroke your mans ego. Chill out, Im sure everyone know that you are capable of taking care of yourself but dont make him feel like he aint shiat about it. Example the Chris Brown situation…Karate Kid need and want him, Rhianna dont need him so he will always paddle between the two and eventually end up with the Karate Kid part II

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      @EAZY
      “Always been that way. It’s quite natural for women. Any research on sexuality will show that.
      ________________________
      cut the bull. if its natural for women then its natural for men.”
      ____________________________

      So you think men and women, which differ sexually, should behave in a IDENTICAL MANNER SEXUALLY????
      :shrugs:

      No babe, men and women are NOT identical so it is only logical that they would not behave identical or have identical motives/sexual behaviors.

      Come on now, let’s be for real here.

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      YEP LET A MAN BE A MAN WHICH IS ALLOWING HIM TO CHEAT, BECAUSE ACCORDING TO THE EXPERT MEN SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO PROCREATE, ALTHOUGH ALL SEX DOESN’T END IN PREGNANCY, BUT ALLOWETH THEE TO PRATICE MUCHETH, AND HE IN RETURN WELL PROVIDETH THE WITH A HUMBLE ABODE :coffee:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      “But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.”

      ==========

      Bedazzled says:

      even if he has a secret family too.
      _______________

      Yes.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      And now you are reaping the benefits.

      _______________________________________

      :rofl: Only cause you stayed at home with your kids, no other merit..? :rofl:

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      @SANDRA ROSE
      “I can already guess what your marriage is like just based on your comments.”
      _______________

      :shocked:
      :rofl:

      Chit den got real!

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      Shout out to Man… :yahoo:

      A Little Dack’ll Do…

      2 oz George ****el® Tennessee whiskey
      3 – 5 splashes Mountain Dew® citrus soda

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      Eazy says:

      @Dimpz Crown royal, peach snapps, and sweet and sour. thats what I use :grillL

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      goat76 says:

      Dis gone be good!

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      Keesh says:

      Bedazzled His Razzle says:

      But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.

      ==========
      even if he has a secret family too.

      There must be a reason he would want a secret family though

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      I have missed so much cause for the last hour our street aint have no lights. But what are yall talking about, skimming thru the comments I see a lot of PANK!

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      candibfly says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Donna del Gatto: I can already guess what your marriage is like just based on your comments.
      ———————-

      SMH

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      Gigi26 says:

      BUT ALLOWETH THEE TO PRATICE MUCHETH, AND HE IN RETURN WELL PROVIDETH THE WITH A HUMBLE ABODE

      AND bring you back AIDS or Herpes :yes: Can’t forget that tidbit

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      Sandra Rose says:

      “But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.”

      ==========

      Bedazzled says:

      even if he has a secret family too.
      _______________

      Yes.
      ———–

      So when are we going to meet your hubby @Sandra? Must have the perfect union between the two of you. :egg:

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      Eazy says:

      So you think men and women, which differ sexually, should behave in a IDENTICAL MANNER SEXUALLY????
      ___________________________________
      no but I believe that during adolescences, the brain develops the same in which cause same sex attachments to both genders. THEN the brain continues to develop in which the sexual preferences are established in a natural order

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Example the Chris Brown situation…Karate Kid need and want him, Rhianna dont need him so he will always paddle between the two and eventually end up with the Karate Kid part II
      _________________________________________

      @Keesh.. so what?? Riddle me…If he ends up with Karate so what? Would Rih die? Im lost on why you think Karate has won a “prize”?

      If he dont like Rih cause she cant stroke his ego like she stroke his member so fukking what?

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      candibfly says:

      then be surprised why she get dragged :lol:

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      Gigi26 says:

      Sandra you done went too damn far :no: Lawd :no:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      I live for the day this blog starts telling MEN how to raise their children, what they SHOULD be doing to keep a high paying job so that their wives can stay home barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, how only THEY can raise a boy to be a man, that they probably shouldn’t get married at all anyway because it is in their nature to sleep with a slew of women and populate the earth influencing a poor and almost non-existent family structure, seeing as though all this goes AGAINST the laws of marriage…I live for the day that stuff will contradict itself so much that humans will not know whether to shyt or go blind because no matter what they do, male or female, they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing…EVER…

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Man says:

      Always been that way. It’s quite natural for women. Any research on sexuality will show that.
      ________________________

      Eazy says:

      cut the bull. if its natural for women then its natural for men.
      ________________

      There is nothing natural about being a lesbian — and that’s coming from a lesbian.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      I almost 99% sure any woman here who isnt married could be if she wanted to…who is all this advice for? :shrug:

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      Eazy says:

      Oh no :popcorn:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      @ Donna del Gatto: I can already guess what your marriage is like just based on your comments.

      ____________

      Take your best shot… :coffee:

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      @NikkeMinxx says:

      MzD :love: Its Crown Royal, Peach Schnapps, pineapple juice, sweet/sour. and triople sec.

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      Ty says:

      @SANDRA ROSE
      “I can already guess what your marriage is like just based on your comments.”
      ___________
      :smack:

      *grabs Fefe and heads to :kona:

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      @EAZY
      “So you think men and women, which differ sexually, should behave in a IDENTICAL MANNER SEXUALLY????
      ___________________________________
      no but I believe that during adolescences, the brain develops the same in which cause same sex attachments to both genders. THEN the brain continues to develop in which the sexual preferences are established in a natural order
      __________________

      Uh huh… so basically they different. Which is what I said. So yes, it is natural for women and not so natural for men. That’s just what it is. Not a “bad” thing, just what it is.

      :hugs: Stop fighting with me beautiful!

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      then be surprised why she get dragged
      ____________________________

      :lol: :surprise: :hahaha:

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      CurlyGirl says:

      :blink:

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      coco creamy says:

      Errbody have a good weekend and be safe :waves: and yall not getting none :hump: make it ur business to get it :lol: j/k njoy ladies and Gents

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      HOW THE HELL SOMEONE WHOSE NOT MARRIED GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT A SUCCESFUL MARRIAGE ENTAILS, HONEY CHILE BOO,BOO PUHLEEZE :coffee:

      I SEEITH SOMEONE IS PRETENDETH TO BEITH JESUSITH AND IS ATTEMPTETH TO LEADEST THOUEST TO THE PROMISETH LANDETH, ALTHOUETH THEY SHOULD REPECTETH THEIR DEVINETH NATURETH, CAUSE THOUEST IS WOMENETH :coffee:

      THOUEST ARENT ALOUDETH TO LEADETH, STANDETH BEHINDETH YOUR MANETH AND ASKETH FOR PERMISSION TO SPEAKETH :shrugs:

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      Gigi26 says:

      Keesh, Rih and Karreuche are not married to Chris so to equate that into this is a moot point imo…

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Fe got edumacation and chit.

      Careful they dont take you out back and whup ya. :popcorn:

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      Ty says:

      YOUR NAME HERE! says:

      I have missed so much cause for the last hour our street aint have no lights.
      _____________
      Sandra hitting below the belt :nono: Same shyt different day :coffee: Your lights would’ve been on if u let a man be a man even if it was the power company’s fault :rollseyes:

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      @OTB
      “I almost 99% sure any woman here who isnt married could be if she wanted to…who is all this advice for? ”
      _______________________

      :stop:

      did you really mean ‘ANY’ woman here? I mean REALLY?

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      Eazy says:

      @Man cut it out. You know its not natural for either.

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      Who Dat says:

      “But if you want a successful marriage you will have to let a man be a man.”

      ==========

      Bedazzled says:

      even if he has a secret family too.
      _______________

      Yes.

      ^^^

      Then what happens when they show up to his fuggin FUNE?

      What happens if his marriage to HER is legal and you are the second wife but your dumb azz aint know it…and she kicking you and your kids out cause she own YOUR house? Your azz NOT getting a widers check…SHE is.

      All b/c you was submissive. :no:
      Those are the breaks huh?

      Promise I done seen enough LMN and read enough books and heard enough stories to know this ish happens. Obviously or it wouldnt crop up as a theme agane and agane.

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      HOW THE HELL SOMEONE WHOSE NOT MARRIED GOING TO TELL YOU WHAT A SUCCESFUL MARRIAGE ENTAILS, HONEY CHILE BOO,BOO PUHLEEZE

      I SEEITH SOMEONE IS PRETENDETH TO BEITH JESUSITH AND IS ATTEMPTETH TO LEADEST THOUEST TO THE PROMISETH LANDETH, ALTHOUETH THEY SHOULD REPECTETH THEIR DEVINETH NATURETH, CAUSE THOUEST IS WOMENETH

      THOUEST ARENT ALOUDETH TO LEADETH, STANDETH BEHINDETH YOUR MANETH AND ASKETH FOR PERMISSION TO SPEAKETH

      ==============
      :hahaha: :tea:

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      Eazy says:

      :rofl: Intense is killing me today

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      Sandra Rose says:

      I didn’t mean any disrespect to Donna del Gatto with my previous comment. I apologize if she was offended. I don’t pretend to know what her married life is like. I hope she will feel comfortable to share that with us. But I also understand if she doesn’t.

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Fe got edumacation and chit.

      Careful they dont take you out back and whup ya. :popcorn:

      __________

      Girl….smh….

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      @EAZY
      “cut it out. You know its not natural for either.”
      ______________

      I’m pretty sure it is very natural for women babe. Really.
      :yes:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Your lights would’ve been on if u let a man be a man even if it was the power company’s fault
      _____________________________

      :eek: :tea: That lady who’s sons drowned in Sandy waters? Her hubby at work with the power company? All her fault.

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      Eazy says:

      What happens if his marriage to HER is legal and you are the second wife but your dumb azz aint know it…and she kicking you and your kids out cause she own YOUR house? Your azz NOT getting a widers check…SHE is
      ______________________________
      Babbbby Ive seen this is real life and once he passed, the 1st wife cashed in leaving the common law high and dry. She let him carry on with the common law for 20+ years cause she knew what was up in the end. I was like dammmmn

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      candibfly says:

      in other news, brandy was on instagram beggin folks to follow ray j :coffee:

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      prynsexxx says:

      I’m sitting up here :rofl: at these videos I’m watching of these men that done either :snort: :blunt: or all of the above and in these gas and train stations :buttshake: ass nekkid TEARING SH!T UP!

      arkoa;rojr;aojr;lamrsjllmlwkrjaoserjejroslerlrjeojeorjss :rofl:

      <—- really trying to see some :jack:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      did you really mean ‘ANY’ woman here? I mean REALLY?
      __________________________________________________
      :yes:

      If you can fukk something living and breathing even after they have spent more than 10 minutes with you.. *shakes ring finger*

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      Diva says:

      What ya’ll talmbout? recap plz!

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      @SANDRA
      “I didn’t mean any disrespect to Donna del Gatto with my previous comment. I apologize if she was offended. I don’t pretend to know what her married life is like. I hope she will feel comfortable to share that with us. But I also understand if she doesn’t.”
      ______________________

      Sandra daring her to put her business out there! I see you!
      :lol:

      I swear, I think I know you sometimes Sandra.

      DON’T FALL FOR IT DONNA!

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @WUT
      “I am not the one to make their minds up for them… Telling them he is a good father and him showing that he is a good father… I think one trumps the other. I don’t have to say to them everyday “Im a good mommy!” I do the things I need to do and he does too. But if he drops the ball, for instance tell them he is going to do something and it falls through… I am not going to step up and say “Well you know he’s a good daddy!” NOOOOO HE should contact them and say “That’s my fault I miss that one but I’ll make it up.” I will not force my opinion on them or give them any falsehoods. It’s their relationship(child and father) not ours.”
      _______________

      Wow, what a bunch of bullchit.

      If he is a good father, IN YOUR HONEST OPINON, that’s what he is. If in fact he isn’t, you sayin your kids too DUMB not to form their own opinion and determine that themselves.

      Your silence on something speaks just as loudly as your words. I hope I can always tell my kids “you have a good mother” whether I’m with her or not or even if she phucks up from time to time (since she human and all).

      Pride is muthaphucka sometimes. <<<smh
      ——————————-
      You on some chest beating bullshyt right now

      I stated more than once that he is a good dad! My father is an excellent dad. How do I know… HEEEEEEEEE showed it. When he dropped the ball he would tell me he did. My mom made no excuses for him by affirming HIS MANHOOD TO ME?!!!
      :stop:
      PLEASE DUDE MISS ME WITH THAT!
      A man doesn't require anybody to make him look like a man or a good daddy.

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      FuturedocDonte says:

      :dead: at all these comments

      I feel like I’m playing double Dutch. Just waiting for the right time to jump in :nino:

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      :kiss: @ Nikke…I would probably die if I drank that though. I was so out of it from getting my tooth pulled, I didn’t even have my annual 1/2 drink for my BDay. :wail:

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      @Candi why she got to beg us doe? :tea:

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      Who Dat says:

      I have missed so much cause for the last hour our street aint have no lights

      ^^ Some woman let some man be in charge and he aint pay the bill.

      On your street lights

      its not his pay week

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      Sandra Rose says:

      I didn’t mean any disrespect to Donna del Gatto with my previous comment. I apologize if she was offended. I don’t pretend to know what her married life is like. I hope she will feel comfortable to share that with us. But I also understand if she doesn’t.

      ___________
      It’s ok Sandra, I’ve developed some EXTREMELY thick skin since I’ve been on your blog…so you have a ride to shade me if you like…but just know this, at times it does not matter ONE BIT how much a man is allowed to do his thing…if it isn’t in him and if he hasn’t had the necessary life experiences for him to understand HIS role, then he will not be successful at it no matter HOW a woman submits and stands back with her mouth closed…yes we all go through learning life experiences and no man is perfect…but it takes TWO to make a marriage or relationship harmonious…the woman is not the only responsible party BY FAR!

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Obviously or it wouldnt crop up as a theme agane and agane.
      ____________________

      Art imitates life. Weve had posters right here, say they had relatives with secret families.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      INTENSEMOCHA says:

      THOUEST ARENT ALOUDETH TO LEADETH, STANDETH BEHINDETH YOUR MANETH AND ASKETH FOR PERMISSION TO SPEAKETH
      _________________

      I dropped out of the heterosexual world because I decided early on that I could not conform to the pressures that married women are under. If that makes me weak, then so be it. But what is your excuse for not allowing men to be men? You can’t have it both ways. :no:

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      WorkInProgress says:

      Intense u killing me softly :hahaha:

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      Bigbadwolf says:

      Only cause you stayed at home with your kids, no other merit..?
      ______________________________
      :rofl: As in a convo yesterday, he also stayed doused in puzzay. :lol: Fortunately, he has his own business and he was actually able to take a month off with all of my boys to be at home with us.

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      goat76 says:

      Raised by my momma, granny, and aunt’s….guess I ain’t a man.

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.

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      @CANDI
      “in other news, brandy was on instagram beggin folks to follow ray j ”
      ____________

      Who are they?
      :coffee:

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      candibfly says:

      @razzle cause he’s a cornball i’m guessing. i unfollowed her :rofl:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.
      ____________________________

      Youre welcome. :tea:

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      This post is a lil intense.

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      Eazy says:

      I decided early on that I could not conform to the pressures that married women are under. If that makes me weak, then so be it
      __________________________
      are the roles not the same with long term lesbian relationships.? Ive never seen any last more than a couple years so im asking.

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      bubblicious says:

      @SANDRA to DONNA

      Really? Wow.

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      Gigi26 says:

      OKAY WHO DAT!!!

      There are laws that protect MARRIAGES and those side families that get started don’t get NARY A DIME if that nigga passes you wanna know why?

      Cuz Karma is a bytch. Don’t expect something from someone that kept you hidden. There’s a reason why he brings the WIFE out and keeps you in the house or sees you in the night and hangs with her during the day.

      If any woman accepts the role of hosting the secret family, she deserves all that she gets.

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      Eazy says:

      Raised by my momma, granny, and aunt’s….guess I ain’t a man.

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.
      __________________________
      you supposed to going world wide showing us how much of a man you are

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      Diva says:

      I’m gonna ask AGANE since nobody listened downstairs…who passing out dack on here that is over 3.5 inches? :waiting:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      @candi

      I only follow Brandy so I can shyt on her in my head…she annoys the total shyt out of me…I will never follow her lame ass brother…

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      I dropped out of the heterosexual world because I decided early on that I could not conform to the pressures that married women are under
      ———
      youre saying you couldnt do it but you’re telling us we should do it??

      :rofl: YOU SLAY MEH!! :hahaha:

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      @WUT
      “A man doesn’t require anybody to make him look like a man or a good daddy.”
      _____________

      You have already been missed cause you were never targeted. Who said anything about a man “requiring” anything from you? :blink:

      You CHOOSE to withhold your “opinion” of the dude due to some dumb azz rationale you have convinced yourself of.

      I told you what I thought of your logic, which is bullchit. The end.

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      WorkInProgress says:

      Cuz Karma is a bytch. Don’t expect something from someone that kept you hidden. There’s a reason why he brings the WIFE out and keeps you in the house or sees you in the night and hangs with her during the day.

      If any woman accepts the role of hosting the secret family, she deserves all that she gets.
      …………
      :applause:

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      Gigi26 says:

      in other news, brandy was on instagram beggin folks to follow ray j
      ———————————
      ****kin roach :no: *sprays raid*

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Ive never seen any last more than a couple years so im asking.

      _________________________________________________

      Oh yes you have. You just dont know it. Them little ladies up the road…they aint sisters. :tea:

      Thought Ms Maybell was Ms. Lois daughter for 15 yurrs. :no:

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      Wasn’t me Goat, I haven’t commented on the topic ONCE. :no:

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      @DIVA
      “I’m gonna ask AGANE since nobody listened downstairs…who passing out dack on here that is over 3.5 inches? ”
      __________________

      Beggars can’t be choosers! :nono:

      And **looks at your pic** you can’t even handle no 3.5 inches!

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      INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

      I dropped out of the heterosexual world because I decided early on that I could not conform to the pressures that married women are under. If that makes me weak, then so be it. But what is your excuse for not allowing men to be men? You can’t have it both ways.

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

      YOU HAVETH NO IDEATH WHAT I ALLOWETH OR DONTETH OR WHATETH MYETH TAKETH ON MENETH AND THEIR ROLESTETH IN MARRIAGETH ISITH :coffee:

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      Diva says:

      I’m gonna ask AGANE since nobody listened downstairs…who passing out dack on here that is over 3.5 inches?
      ———
      not Man.

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      Who Dat says:

      I am out. I am going on a date tonight and it is a first date too.

      @Prynn I will text you if I am at the local spot washing dishes cause I refused to bring money trying to be SUBMISSIVE…not knowing this man from a can of paint and not knowing if he REALLY gonna pay the bill.

      Bye. :steer:

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      candibfly says:

      speaking of peen, i’ve been getting peen pics in my mentions on twitter for some reason. y’all know i only talk about religion and volunteering for the homeless cats in Idaho so iono why i get em? :shrugs:

      i mean they were both big but that’s beside the point.

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      Bootcampgirl says:

      So, the two prankster DJ’s are suspended until further notice…

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      Ty says:

      goat76 says:

      Raised by my momma, granny, and aunt’s….guess I ain’t a man.

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.
      _______
      Dont let’em phuck up your day Goat :nono:

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      WorkInProgress says:

      Raised by my momma, granny, and aunt’s….guess I ain’t a man.

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.
      …………
      saweeee u know you is worthy. you is special. :)

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      Eazy says:

      Oh yes you have. You just dont know it. Them little ladies up the road…they aint sisters.
      _________________________________
      no for real, ive never seen one.

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      @MAN
      BY THE WAY
      My kids love their father very much. I can count on him to do what he needs to do. BUT there has been a couple times where he dropped the ball. HE FIXED THAT WITH HIS KIDS AS A MAN SHOULD. That shows my son that a man handles his business HIIIIIMSELF. No man should have to need a woman to affirm this.

      Thats how kids get effed up in the head mothers telling lies “Little Johnny your father is a goood man and he does the best he can.” “All the while Johnny Senior could give two shyts… I have seen women buy gifts and say its from their kids fathers… WHAT THE HELL IS THAT? Covering for a dead beat…stopthatshyt….

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      @Gigi

      :rofl: I was waiting on your roach comment! Raid sucks, break out that Black Flag yo!

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      :dead: @Dubb.

      Have fun gal! Dont speak too loudly! Dont show no smarts. Matter of fact, dont even speak! :wave:

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      bubblicious says:

      The dominating voices on this topic are from a self-hating lesbian and a dude that basically thinks that all women, barring a select few, are hos.

      Again, hilarious.

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      ninjarider_sb says:

      Bedazzled His Razzle says:

      Diva says:

      I’m gonna ask AGANE since nobody listened downstairs…who passing out dack on here that is over 3.5 inches?
      ———
      not Man.
      ————————————————————————

      :dead:

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      Diva says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @DIVA
      “I’m gonna ask AGANE since nobody listened downstairs…who passing out dack on here that is over 3.5 inches? ”
      __________________

      Beggars can’t be choosers!

      And **looks at your pic** you can’t even handle no 3.5 inches!
      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
      Nucca I ain’t begging especially for no small azz viena sausage. As far as what I can handle…. shid you got me BENT! :rofl:

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      Gigi26 says:

      I gotchu Donna!!

      *sprays black flag all over her page*

      Her album is fire but still :rofl:

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      Who Dat says:

      Raised by my momma, granny, and aunt’s….guess I ain’t a man.

      Y’all done fcuked up my day.

      ^^

      Which is WHY this post is a crock of SHAT…cause YOU are one of the GOOD ones.

      As a brotha you are doing the dayum thing. Just a GOOD dude.

      :hug:

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      :rofl: @INTENSE

      Keep your font in ancient history yo!

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      barring a select few

      _______________________
      Kim. K. is the select few, in case youre new here. Also Tiny is the de facto perfect wife. :tea: Get on your job ladies.

      #helpful

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      Gigi26 says:

      The dominating voices on this topic are from a self-hating lesbian and a dude that basically thinks that all women, barring a select few, are hos
      —————————–
      Can’t forget, that hates black women :yes:

      They look like horses but a living blow up doll who smashes everyone is essentially a queen that should be worshipped.

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      Eazy says:

      Kim. K. is the select few, in case youre new here. Also Tiny is the de facto perfect wife. Get on your job ladies.
      _________________________________
      ill pass :nono:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      shid you got me BENT!

      ____________________

      Chit i aint heard in fah-eva :rofl: :rofl:

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      bubblicious says:

      The dominating voices on this topic are from a self-hating lesbian and a dude that basically thinks that all women, barring a select few, are hos.
      Again, hilarious.
      _______________
      The realest shyt I’ve seen all day! :applause:

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      candibfly says:

      i was about to say i ain’t heard that since elem/middle school :hahaha:

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @WUT
      “A man doesn’t require anybody to make him look like a man or a good daddy.”
      _____________
      You have already been missed cause you were never targeted. Who said anything about a man “requiring” anything from you?

      You CHOOSE to withhold your “opinion” of the dude due to some dumb azz rationale you have convinced yourself of.

      I told you what I thought of your logic, which is bullchit. The end.
      ——————————
      :smack: such an azz <—see I can give an opinon of half azzz men.

      I choose to withhold my opion because it is marred by our past. Why should I pretend for the sake of my kids so they can grow up and do the same to theres… I guess you want me to tell them there IS A SANTA CLAUSE AND JESUS IS WHITE TOO HUH? :rolleyes:

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      @WUT
      Thats how kids get effed up in the head mothers telling lies “Little Johnny your father is a goood man and he does the best he can.” “All the while Johnny Senior could give two shyts… I have seen women buy gifts and say its from their kids fathers… WHAT THE HELL IS THAT? Covering for a dead beat…stopthatshyt….

      __________________________________

      I didn’t say “cover for him” or anything of that nature. I said be honest. If you think he is a good man, say so. If you think he is a good man that messed up on something, say that too. It’s really not complicated.

      Why should you sit there and bite your tongue if you honestly think he is a good man? That’s that dumb chit that serves no purpose. Giving your opinion on why he is a good man reinforces to your CHILD what a “good man” is… provided that is truly what you believe.

      Like I said, all I’m saying is be honest. But whatever, them yo kids. Do what you feel is best.

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      barring a select few

      _______________________
      Kim. K. is the select few, in case youre new here. Also Tiny is the de facto perfect wife. Get on your job ladies.

      #helpful
      ——–
      nah I’m good! :tea:

    306. 306

      I thought that this was supposed to be freaky friday not fugged up friday.

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      goat76 says:

      Thanks K-Weezy!!!

      Just when I thought I was gonna have to go out and teabagg somebody’s daughter tonight just to prove my manhood. You saved that poor girl’s face/ I mean you saved the day!!

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      @GIGI
      “The dominating voices on this topic are from a self-hating lesbian and a dude that basically thinks that all women, barring a select few, are hos
      —————————–
      Can’t forget, that hates black women

      They look like horses but a living blow up doll who smashes everyone is essentially a queen that should be worshipped.
      __________________________________

      Huh? You ain’t eva in yo life heard me say I hate any group of women other than fat women!
      :mad:

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      Ididntreallymeanit says:

      This woman on Judge Alex hates being black

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      goat76 says:

      Thanks K-Weezy!!!

      Just when I thought I was gonna have to go out and teabagg somebody’s daughter tonight just to prove my manhood. You saved that poor girl’s face/ I mean you saved the day!!

      _____________

      :rofl: :rofl:

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      Just when I thought I was gonna have to go out and teabagg somebody’s daughter tonight just to prove my manhood. You saved that poor girl’s face/ I mean you saved the day!!

      ______________________

      Niceeee :rofl:

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      Yall still talking about this?

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      FuturedocDonte says:

      And **looks at your pic** you can’t even handle no 3.5 inches!

      :ghost:

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      Ididntreallymeanit says:

      This woman on Judge Alex hates being black
      ——-
      changed her last name from williams to appl-something because williams was too urbanized lol

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      candibfly says:

      @man so u and big shirley broke up? :shocked: u back on the market dawg

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      :newpost: is up…

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      OutsidetheBox says:

      This woman on Judge Alex hates being black
      _____________________________________

      Freeze curls? :thinking: Spiffy backpack?

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      goat76 says:

      So who wants to see if I can lick them dry???

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      bubblicious says:

      @SIS

      I see you. I am also dead.

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      WUT IZ UR PROBLEM NOW says:

      @WUT
      Thats how kids get effed up in the head mothers telling lies “Little Johnny your father is a goood man and he does the best he can.” “All the while Johnny Senior could give two shyts… I have seen women buy gifts and say its from their kids fathers… WHAT THE HELL IS THAT? Covering for a dead beat…stopthatshyt….

      __________________________________

      I didn’t say “cover for him” or anything of that nature. I said be honest. If you think he is a good man, say so. If you think he is a good man that messed up on something, say that too. It’s really not complicated.

      Why should you sit there and bite your tongue if you honestly think he is a good man? That’s that dumb chit that serves no purpose. Giving your opinion on why he is a good man reinforces to your CHILD what a “good man” is… provided that is truly what you believe.

      Like I said, all I’m saying is be honest. But whatever, them yo kids. Do what you feel is best.

      ——————————-
      I still think that is for absentee fathers. My kids have never seen a bad interaction between us even when we split. We sat down and we said we loved them and him not being in the house has nothing to do with them. From there he prooves he is a great dad! I don’t have too. He does.

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      ninjarider_sb says:

      YOUR NAME HERE! says:

      I thought that this was supposed to be freaky friday not fugged up friday
      ————————————————————————
      me too :think:

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      @DIVA
      “Beggars can’t be choosers!

      And **looks at your pic** you can’t even handle no 3.5 inches!
      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
      Nucca I ain’t begging especially for no small azz viena sausage. As far as what I can handle…. shid you got me BENT! ”
      __________________

      :lick: <me
      :hump: <us
      :hunch: <us
      :jack: <me
      :wail: <you
      :zzz: <you

      :eggs: <you next day
      :coffee: <me next day

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      goat76 says:

      So who wants to see if I can lick them dry???

      ____________

      :hahaha: this dude is CLOWNIN’ today!

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      Donna del Gatto says:

      OMG! :wail: @Man’s #323

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      @CANDI
      “so u and big shirley broke up? u back on the market dawg”
      _________________

      I ain’t EVA date that big azz guhl!

      We was just spending time together and phucking sometimes.
      :coffee:

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      Diva says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @DIVA
      “Beggars can’t be choosers!

      And **looks at your pic** you can’t even handle no 3.5 inches!
      ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
      Nucca I ain’t begging especially for no small azz viena sausage. As far as what I can handle…. shid you got me BENT! ”
      __________________

      <me
      <us
      <us
      <me
      <you
      <you

      <you next day
      <me next day

      —————————–
      Nucca please you

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      likeCaesar says:

      I was raised by a single mother who always empowered me to be the man of the house and make household decisions within reason. My dad was also a huge part of my life and encouraged her to give me more and more responsibility as I grew older. He guided me and showed me how to follow through on those responsibilities. She would always tell me how important it was for a man to be the head of the house and I trust and believe in her methods.

      I see so many angry women who have been hurt by their fathers or past lovers and think its ok to be bitter. They often transfer these feelings to the daughters and even worse…their sons. Its time for the black community to acknowledge mental illnesses and seek professional help instead of brushing it under the rug.

      Those angry Destiny’s Child/I hate men attitudes will leave you alone and bitter…

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      Sandra Rose says:

      bubblicious says:

      The dominating voices on this topic are from a self-hating lesbian and a dude that basically thinks that all women, barring a select few, are hos.
      ________________

      I know who the dude is, but who’s the self hating lesbian? :shrug:

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      Sandra Rose says:

      likeCaesar says: says:

      I see so many angry women who have been hurt by their fathers or past lovers and think its ok to be bitter. They often transfer these feelings to the daughters and even worse…their sons. Its time for the black community to acknowledge mental illnesses and seek professional help instead of brushing it under the rug.
      Those angry Destiny’s Child/I hate men attitudes will leave you alone and bitter…
      _________________

      That was deep. :clap:

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      Fatkat says:

      Ok, see there’s nothing wrong with pretending or might I say letting the man feel and think he is in control but he knows his place as well. Don’t think marriages that have lasted for more than 30 years is because the woman let the man run over her. That man was no dummy, he knew his place and knew he needed his wife too. If it wasn’t for their wives that man would wear the same dirty ass underware for weeks, live in filth and eat/drink spoiled food. Men are lazy when it comes to doing what they feel a woman should do but not lazy when it comes to providing for his family. Just letting a man think he is in control is the key…come on ladies you too can win that actress award. Notice I used the word “man”, dont care how old a guy is, if he’s not doing what a man should do, you are actually his mother and some girls are fine by that in the beginning.

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      Sandra Rose says:

      supa says:

      i love being submissive in my relationship. i think that people have different definitions of what being submissive is, and mine definitely isn’t one that equates submission with giving permission to be disrespected and abused…. i also know that while i don’t mind being submissive (taking off his shoes and socks, rubbing his feet, pouring his wine, not embarrassing him in front of his friends, not belittling him when we’re alone, etc…) that i have set boundaries and made sure that i am recognized as a whole woman – not someone looking for someone to complete her, but a woman looking for a man to compliment her. that, as well as my submissiveness has earned me so much respect, rewards and peace!! i am treated as an equal and with a lot of love.
      ___________________

      ^^^^ All of this! T.I. is with Tiny because she is submissive and lets him feel like a man. He can run through a hundred women and not find one like her. Women today are afraid of being submissive because of their insecurities. Tiny was raised by good parents who led by example. As a result, Tiny, her sister and brother are in long term relationships with their spouses. Submission is an integral part of life. We submit to our bosses at work or we don’t get paid. We submit to people in authority, why shouldn’t we submit to our men at home?

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      Sandra Rose says:

      Fatkat says:

      Ok, see there’s nothing wrong with pretending or might I say letting the man feel and think he is in control but he knows his place as well. Don’t think marriages that have lasted for more than 30 years is because the woman let the man run over her. That man was no dummy, he knew his place and knew he needed his wife too. If it wasn’t for their wives that man would wear the same dirty ass underware for weeks, live in filth and eat/drink spoiled food. Men are lazy when it comes to doing what they feel a woman should do but not lazy when it comes to providing for his family. Just letting a man think he is in control is the key…come on ladies you too can win that actress award. Notice I used the word “man”, dont care how old a guy is, if he’s not doing what a man should do, you are actually his mother and some girls are fine by that in the beginning.
      __________________

      Exactly! Well said. :clap: It’s not rocket science. Women have been “acting” their parts for hundreds of years. The problem is that today’s women are terrible actresses.

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