The Female Narcissist
Here is another post in my ongoing series on narcissism. For you men who are healthy and would never fall into a female narcissist’s trap, another post will be up shortly.
When the female narcissist targets you, she moves with great speed. The first time you meet her she seems to appear out of nowhere. But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.
She has figured out your vulnerabilities and she will use them to get what she wants: fame (if you’re a celebrity), power, or wealth.
The female Narcissist is attractive, intelligent, very charming and highly confident that she can take everything you own. These women lack what healthy women possess naturally; a conscience, character, empathy for others, etc.
The female narcissist makes up for what she lacks by constructing a false sense of self. Then she projects that false self to others. In her rigid world, she is queen and the world revolves around her. Hell hath no fury like the rage you will encounter if you don’t completely ignore your needs for hers.
You might think you’re in love with her, but her ultimate goal is to destroy you (emotionally) and leave your life in ruins. The only thing that will save you is if you recognize the early warning signs and get out in time.
The narcissistic female craves attention. Most celebrities are narcissists, as are most reality TV stars. The female narcissist usually takes a job that guarantees her a high level of attention such as broadcast journalism, sports announcing, blogging, strip clubs, publicists, prostitution, pr0n films, etc.
There are many warning signs and red flags that you are dealing with a female narcissist. Here are some that you have probably already experienced:
Other symptoms include: a grandiose sense of self; living in a fantasy world of perfect beauty, love, power, genius, etc.; thinks of herself as special and only able to be understood by special people; demands excessive amounts of praise or admiration from others; feels entitled to automatic defense, compliance or favorable treatment from others; is exploitative towards others; lacks empathy with others; is envious of others, or feels they are envious of him; has an attitude of haughtiness or arrogance. Source
You probably have a female narcissist in your life and not even know it because you don’t have anything she wants.
You probably think she’s an attractive, successful woman who has her life together — except that she doesn’t have a man or she seems to have problems keeping men. Other than that, she seems perfect to you.
The female narcissist seeks female friends to subjugate them or to steal elements of their personalities, since she doesn’t have a personality of her own. You might think that her imitating your personality or style is a form of flattery, but it is not. Have you seen the movie Single White Female?
The narcissist’s closest female friends are almost always lessors; not as attractive as she is or not as successful or as materialistic. Her female friends serve only to boost her ego and to make her feel superior.
If you are friends with a narcissist, you are an object to her — a mirror that she holds up to see a reflection of herself in. You’re flattered that she loves your company, when in fact she can’t bear to be alone with her empty mirrors.
If you force her to see you as an individual, rather than as a mirror of herself, she will dump you and find another “best friend” to “mirror” herself in. This is because the female narcissist has a very distorted image of self (like a vampire who can’t see her reflection). Your face is a mirror of the image the narcissist projects.
Since the female narcissist has no sense of self, she can’t pass by a mirror without checking her reflection. The female narcissist’s house features an abundance of mirrors and photos of herself.
Some narcissistic females can be heterosexual one minute or lesbian the next. She flip flops with ease. Whatever role she has to play to snag her target, she will play it to perfection.
The female narcissist usually has no interest in sex. She uses sex the way a hunter uses bait; to trap a man. The female narcissist sees a man’s need for sex as a weakness — and she despises him for his weakness. Once she subjugates a man (gets him under her complete control), their sex life decreases or ceases entirely — if they have a sex life at all.
A narcissistic female has been a narcissist all her life. Narcissists are not born that way, they are created. By the time you meet her in adulthood, she has sharpened all the tools in her arsenal. Her ultimate goal is to woo you, then leave your life in ruins before she moves on to her next victim.
The female narcissist is an empty vessel inside. She needs her victims to fill that empty void. But because she has the mind of a child, she attacks you relentlessly — like a child abuses her toys — whenever you step out of line.
She doesn’t have the moral compass to understand that she’s hurting you emotionally or mentally; your pain gives her life.
She is not going to change for you, so don’t kid yourself.
There is only one way to deal with a narcissist: LEAVE. RUN as fast as you can and don’t look back.
Men (and women), educate yourselves so you don’t fall victim to a narcissist.
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So… like Kenya from RHOA?
Glad this ain’t my bew
Holiday Heart was one too…
Overkil
If she fine and she phucking I dont think anyone cares about the female narcissist Sandra.
@OTB
Some hoe got Sandra worked up this morning…
Did someone break your heart Sandra cuz this is…wow
But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.
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I ain’t reading all that, fcuk around and fall asleep on y’all.
Listen..
Sandra come on in here and pour the
on your love life bew! #wecare!
Narcissistic stare: An intense stare with no feeling behind it. You’ve seen how cats stare at prey before they pounce? In the narcissist’s world you are her prey
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Short font: *Bey lost face*
Am I the only one who see’s these “$27.99 Red Bottom” advertisements?
SR – so give us more examples of who you think fits this mold, besides Bey and Kim K.
one of them strippers done got their coins and bounced…woo woo woo
goat76 says:
I ain’t reading all that, fcuk around and fall asleep on y’all.
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Have you seen the movie Single White Female?
Dont eben talk to me about no CACB right about now.. they could get it and not in the bedroom *cracks knuckles*
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@ Naijagal
Am I the only one who see’s these “$27.99 Red Bottom” advertisements?
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Tell us more about your internet habits..
I love that blonde Diva!!
woo woo woo
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*mouths* Hate chu!
Oprahs Bunion says:
I love that blonde Diva!!
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Thanks I loved it too….can’t do that color with a relaxer
OutsidetheBox says:
Am I the only one who see’s these “$27.99 Red Bottom” advertisements?
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You know them ads are based on your cookies..
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EXACTLY!!
Hey KY
while I rub that booty!!
Hey Pry
Owwwwww @Diva!!! That blonde!
I almost made my first public hit on a bish in the Kangaroo. Little chick with a BAD blonde just like yourn going on. Chilleeee. Almost made me forget im in the closet. 
@ Diva – yes that will mess it up! The lightest I went with a relaxer was a honey blonde. LOVED IT!
I think I’m a narcissist but I have a conscience, character, empathy for others…. confusing lol. At the same time I will give someone the silent treatment if they aren’t treating me the way I should be treated.
OutsidetheBox says:
Owwwwww @Diva!!! That blonde! I almost made my first public hit on a bish in the Kangaroo. Little chick with a BAD blonde just like yourn going on. Chilleeee. Almost made me forget im in the closet.
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Thanks OTB….I miss the easiness of that style…I’m motivated to do it AGAIN
@diva: I love that hair in your gravi!!! *snap, snap, snap*
<—- she is a narcissist
Sandra…gone head baby…tell us her name…its okay
(holds auntie to my underdeveloped bosoms)
@Nakeya, thank you ma!
OutsidetheBox says:
Owwwwww @Diva!!! That blonde! I almost made my first public hit on a bish in the Kangaroo. Little chick with a BAD blonde just like yourn going on. Chilleeee. Almost made me forget im in the closet.
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So where do you usually find females? Craig’s List?
Some narcissistic females can be heterosexual one minute or lesbian the next. She flip flops with ease. Whatever role she has to play to snag her target, she will play it to perfection.
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She tole you she was a REAL lesbun…..and then went back with her baby daddy huh?
*whispers*
LAWD Sandra. I am so SORRY.
I might be a narcissist according to this
jeniefrumdabloc that cat though….lmao
She tole you she was a REAL lesbun…..and then went back with her baby daddy huh?
*whispers*
LAWD Sandra. I am so SORRY.
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#iHollered
OBbbbbb
<–you. Dont be giving out my trade secrets..j/k.
Tots why I dont get enough play tho, Im certain. Im so "scary" I have to wait for the approach. And I dont like studs and they the main ones who try.
Sandra post her info in an anon letter! We will e-link that bish to deaf! :shostfired:
You self centered selfish SLORE. When you getcho azz out the mirrah and read this…you just know you hurt Sandra to the cockles of her HEART. Got her posting BOOKS on this shyt. Sandranetta…you know all you gotta do is tell me her name and I AM ON IT. I will FIND her. Email me.
When you getcho azz out the mirrah and read this…you just know you hurt Sandra to the cockles of her HEART.
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I can’t with Dub anymore…
Interesting…I think I know a Narcissistic Man (Knew)…Always in the mirror; Walks ahead instead of beside; Keeps the sexiest pout; Keeps a good fade/line up; In the gym 25/8… Sexy as all get out, but I ain’t got tha time honay.
OutsidetheBox says:
Am I the only one who see’s these “$27.99 Red Bottom” advertisements?
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You know them ads are based on your cookies..
Tell us more about your internet habits.
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I promise on EVERYTHING I ain’t been looking at no shoes. LMAO I’m too
to venture pass this here site and Yahoo. I might get frisky sometimes and watch a lil YouTube but for the most part 
Narcissistic rage: an intense, furious anger that seems to come out of nowhere. It is intended to startle and shock you into complying to what she wants. She can be furious one minute and smiling the next, as if nothing happened.
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Did that bish…did she??? She put paws on you???? And then SMILED ABOUT THAT ISH?
NO MA’AM PAM.
KyCakes says:
But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.
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The horrible song with Kanye and La Roux popped in my head.. “I’m going in for the kiiiwll I’m doin’ it for the thriiiwwwlll I’m doin OOOOOOOOOO!”
She can be furious one minute and smiling the next, as if nothing happened.
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You came into contact with Kenya Moore? Kenya’s a “let’s be in”?
The female narcissist usually takes a job that guarantees her a high level of attention such as broadcast journalism, sports announcing, blogging, strip clubs, publicists, prostitution, pr0n films, etc.
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@Dawn-ee Sheen if you still logged on…Since you in the A…Imma need you to do a drive-by to this heffa place of fuggin BIDNESS. Break her leg or something.
Make her
feel
my
WRATH
The horrible song with Kanye and La Roux popped in my head.. “I’m going in for the kiiiwll I’m doin’ it for the thriiiwwwlll I’m doin OOOOOOOOOO!”
@ OTB – Me no likey studs either. But you gotta step out of that comfort zone and APPROACH. I’m “closeted” too, but I do it all the time. I just approach them on other things and THEN hit em with the BAMMMM!
jeniefrumdabloc says:
I might be a narcissist according to this
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Me toooooooooo
@Ace, I didn’t see the movie :sadface:
Social media makes it reeeeally easy to spot Narcissist’…
I guess…
Yo!! I’m not even going to lie!! my former best friend, former, because exactly what Sandra Rose described above, I witnessed it in her, is a narcissist!! she has a million pictures of herself. She gets men but can never keep them, and the way she talks about them, I always ask her, “why are u dating him, you don’t even sound like you like him”. she doesnt have sex with these guys. It turns her on when they chase after her. It can be any race, size. She doesnt even have a type. Then we got into this argument. She became this beast that I had never seen before, and afterwards, instead of apologizing, she goes “I forgive you”. I was so shocked when she said that. I knew then that she was a narcissist. All my other friends think she is so pretty and perfect and smart, but I know about her sad life because I am the one she talks to and tells how lonely she really is. I used to be shocked because i know for a fact she has all these NFL players talking to her, but this post makes lots of sense now.
thanks Sandra. People really need to be informed.
PS: what do you think can be done to rehabilitate a narcissist??
APPROACH
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Sounds like the description of the high end groupies… yooooo they know what NBA, NFL, MLB teams the player are going to before the general manager .. Its like theyre in a union or something
Proud to be an ol regualr ass nicca…
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PREACH ME AND SANDY ARE HERE
ON THIS TOPIC, I’M NOT SURE WHO THIS POST IS DIRECTED TOWARDS, I’M CERTAIN IT IS, HOWEVER EVEN WITH SHADE INTENDED TRUER WORDS HAVE NEVER BEEN SPOKEN
SINCERELY,
FORMER VICTIM NOW VICTOR OF A NARCISSIST
jaqyfine says:
Yo!! I’m not even going to lie!! my former best friend, former, because exactly what Sandra Rose described above, I witnessed it in her, is a narcissist!! she has a million pictures of herself. She gets men but can never keep them, and the way she talks about them, I always ask her, “why are u dating him, you don’t even sound like you like him”. she doesnt have sex with these guys. It turns her on when they chase after her. It can be any race, size. She doesnt even have a type. Then we got into this argument. She became this beast that I had never seen before, and afterwards, instead of apologizing, she goes “I forgive you”. I was so shocked when she said that. I knew then that she was a narcissist. All my other friends think she is so pretty and perfect and smart, but I know about her sad life because I am the one she talks to and tells how lonely she really is. I used to be shocked because i know for a fact she has all these NFL players talking to her, but this post makes lots of sense now.
Guilty Sounds a lot like a Leo female
thanks Sandra. People really need to be informed.
PS: what do you think can be done to rehabilitate a narcissist??
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@Diva
thought you said you had it so i moved it out for someone else…i’ll move it back in…one sec
According to this write up, everyone is a narcissist then. Hell i don’t think im more than i am but you can’t tell me my ish stank bc yours does too. I have empathy for others when its not self inflicted. Im single so if i didnt have mirrors in every room i wouldn’t see no dam body lol. That evil stare ish is for the birds…not giving nobody the death.eye unless that’s what i really want. I like to talk so i chose communications and SEX is overrated if you not in love. What make y’all a narc?!?!
I can admit to my flaws
Kynedy
@ace, leaving for lunch. I’ll move it when I get back in an hour.
*Atlanta Residents*
My family and I are coming to Atlanta this weekend. We are looking for a motel in a safe, clean location to stay Saturday night. Motel 6 has a lot of locations, but I don’t know how safe they are. Can you tell me if any of these are ok?
I-85 & Exit 73 Virginia Ave
1200 Virginia Ave
Atlanta, GA 30344
I-20 at Candler Road/SR 155, Exit #65
2572 Candler Road
Decatur, GA 30032
I-285 at Lawrenceville Highway, Exit #38
2810 Lawrenceville Highway
Tucker, GA 30084
I read all of this somewhere before…this comes from a book…gotta do my research.
I dealt with a narcissist. It’s a manipulative, hell-bent, roller coaster ride from point A to Z, and it takes a minute to realize that is what you’re dealing with.
They make you want to whack their azzes when it’s all said and done.
ol’ narcissist azz females…hmph!!
Bird says:
*Atlanta Residents*
My family and I are coming to Atlanta this weekend. We are looking for a motel in a safe, clean location to stay Saturday night. Motel 6 has a lot of locations, but I don’t know how safe they are. Can you tell me if any of these are ok?
I-85 & Exit 73 Virginia Ave
1200 Virginia Ave
Atlanta, GA 30344
^^^^^^^^^^^^ Don’t do it
I-20 at Candler Road/SR 155, Exit #65
Trap Haven !!!!
Signed you local Georgia Peach!
2572 Candler Road
Decatur, GA 30032
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I-285 at Lawrenceville Highway, Exit #38
2810 Lawrenceville Highway
Tucker, GA 30084
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Better then the first two
That bish said Trap haven
*jots down the addy* Chilllle. Mama need a new suite.
Thanks Jenie! I knew those damn prices were too good to be true. I’m not trying to spend to much on lodging. We go shat we want to do like the aquarium.
Motel 8
1451 Hudson Bridge Rd.
Stockbridge, GA 30281
United States (USA
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Try this area Bird. I live out in this area, safer then those other locations
@KAYCEI
YES!YES!
BUT THE BEST FEELING IN THE WORLD IS WHEN YOU STOP CARING AND REFUSE TO ENGAGE, THE MOFO BE RUNNING LIKE HELL AND FINALLY STOPS AND REALIZES YOU ARE NOT CHASING THEIR ARSE ANY MORE
jeniefrumdabloc says:
Motel 8
1451 Hudson Bridge Rd.
Stockbridge, GA 30281
United States (USA
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Try this area Bird. I live out in this area, safer then those other locations
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I am forever in your debt. Thanks!!
I HAVE seen what Sandra describes though. This chick I used to run with…it was the most bizarre ish ever in LIFE. She had big azz over the fireplace pic of herself. She wasn’t single. It wasn’t a bridal pic. It was a studio pic of her. Not her son, not her husband, not all of them together…her. In fact there were pics of her all over her house.
I don’t think I have SINCE seen no ish like that really. And I was thinking what woman house had I EVER been to and found or seen a solo tribute to themselves…ZERO. Zilch.
2572 Candler Road
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THAT Motel 6 is RIGHT by what I always call the Nukka Red Lobster. Its in the hood but it is the best fuggin place EVER far as portions. But don’t NOBODY go to it but black folks. Don’t nobody WORK there but black folks. I try not to do chains when I am traveling but on everything that I LOVE I try to go to this place if I can when I am in ATL. They feed cho azz like FAMILY yo
And I was thinking what woman house had I EVER been to and found or seen a solo tribute to themselves…ZERO. Zilch.
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And I was thinking what woman house had I EVER been to and found or seen a solo tribute to themselves…
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@jeniefrumdabloc says:
@Bird
Yeah…I fux with Stockbridge. Nice area. I grew up near the Candler Road parts, and uh… 0_0 ==> No ma’am… Lol Yeah…Stick to Stockbridge.
Virginia Ave. sounds like the Highlands to me…Yeah ==> Stick to Stockbridge.
@Bird
Skip Candler Rd. boo. They ain’t where you wanna be sweetie! I live her and I don’t wanna be there.
This is a prime example of my ex-best friend and my youngest sister. My ex best friend was not more attractive than me, in addition, she could not control me like she did all the other people in her life. Every thing else you described was totally on point. I deleted her ass from facebook and she continues to do things to get my attention, which is comical to me, because it only shows her insecurities. In the past, I would apologize like you mentioned, but I saw this was giving her more power and I believe when i turn the tables on her and called her out on her narcissistic ways, she was stunned. I have NO desire to ever become friends with her demented personality ever again. I actually feels sorry for her and the people who are involve in her life. she is really the most miserable person i ever met other than my youngest sister. I find that some ARIES and LEOS are the most narcissistic. They crave attention by any means necessary. Great job Sandra! I will post to facebook! Narcissist are medical minutes!
:co-sign: 
@Min Min………don’t forget……it’s “Kenya with a twirl.”
dam im late on this post but sandraaaa there has to be some medication for this !!! i have 2 friends like this but one is also bipolar i pray for them everyday they arent bad people but its always all about them and wanting attention, that proabably why they dont like eachother too lol