Jada Pinkett’s open Letter to a friend who is getting divorced

Jada writes open letter

Actress Jada Pinkett-Smith penned an open letter to a friend who has decided to get a divorce. In her letter, which she posted on her Facebook page, Jada said couples who hope to grow old together must give each other space and time apart to miss each other.

By sheer coincidence, actress Gabrielle Union and her boyfriend Dwyane Wade separated for a time over the summer when rumors swirled that Wade stepped out on Union with a sports groupie.

Jada, who admits to having an open marriage with husband Will Smith, wrote that marriages “inevitably” experience “difficult moments” that call for a break. Jada said she spent time speaking to elders who have been married for 25+ years to get a perspective on what Love is. She said one of the couples spent several years apart before they realized their Love for one another.

But the key to a successful marriage is a lot more complex than just giving each other space. The real problem is that women, who are raised to be “daddy’s little girl,” are obsessed with being married — something that men are not uniquely qualified for.

Until women understand that being married is not the goal (raising children is), and that they should allow men to be men — the divorce rate will continue to skyrocket.

Marriage is man-made. And like everything that is man-made, marriages are doomed to fail.

A letter to a dear friend:
You came to see me last night to tell me that you have decided to get a divorce. Last night I only listened, but this morning I woke up with a hope for you. For the past five years, I have been meeting with elders who have been married for 25+ years to get understanding from many perspectives as to what marriage and love is all about. Almost all the couples have said that at some point in their marriage they have stumbled upon inevitably difficult moments that called for a break. I spoke to one couple who had a few years apart only to re-discover their desire to grow old together and to do what was necessary to continue to deepen their love for one another. My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce. Answers to big questions need time to find lasting truth vs the truth of the moment. After this process the answer may be the same, but at least you will have the clarity to go about it all with certainty and integrity, but you may also find that spark that could save and rekindle your marriage.
My humble thoughts.
J

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    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      This hoe always blabbin her mouth.
      :facepalm:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      Until women understand that being married is not the goal (raising children is), and that they should allow men to be men — the divorce rate will continue to skyrocket.
      ________
      :coffee:

    • gypsyeyes

      She couldn’t call her and tell her this tho? Good Morning!

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      Marriage is man-made. And like everything that is man-made, marriages are doomed to fail.
      _____________________________________________________

      *Passes Sandra a snickers* :rollseyes:

    • http://thegameonbetblog.tumblr.com/ Bird

      Shut up Jada. Why you tryin to raise adults, but you think kids don’t need raising. Hollywierd done turned Jada into a totally differant person. I don’t like her anymore.

    • OutsidetheBox

      My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce.
      _____________

      :huh: Say WET nah™… I before E except after C. Well. Thats…Weird.

      :tea: Who would think it out? Jada that scientology done got to your brains.

    • OutsidetheBox

      She couldn’t call her and tell her this tho? Good Morning!

      ____________

      Merning!! :wave:

      I think she does this for the wider audiences benefit. Her FB is one of my faves.

    • Anna

      Jada, who admits to having an open marriage with husband Will Smith,
      ~~~~~~~~
      I missed that memo.

    • YoSoyXamaycan

      Hmmm the question I wanna know the answer to is… Who is getting a divorce? #nosey

      On topic I have to agree some relationships need space to breathe or rekindle a spark.

    • Dymond

      women are obsessed with being married
      ————————-
      I believe in marriage but this is true :coffee:

      I wonder why Jada and Will sold their dream house

    • OutsidetheBox

      This hoe always blabbin her mouth.
      _____________

      Or fonting her fukking fingers but :facepalm:

      #semantics.

    • BoringMale

      Im curious why is marriage always a goal for some people? For some people marriage the wedding is more important than anything. I dont get it.

    • lola

      She does have a lot of free time to pen open letters.

      Signed,

      Daddy’s lil girl
      Single
      No kids
      Homeowner
      B.S. MBA
      #poorme

      :rollseyes:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      During this break, does she recommend seeing other people too?

    • Ty

      Bird says:

      Shut up Jada. Why you tryin to raise adults, but you think kids don’t need raising. Hollywierd done turned Jada into a totally differant person. I don’t like her anymore.
      __________
      :coffee: Imma leave the Smith kids alone u know they’re rich :rolleyes:

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      She couldn’t tell her friend this vs face to face? What’d she wait till she left then :typing: everybody gin be like who was at her house last night

    • Brownskin Cutie (Carrington’s E-boo)

      Lawd, can we get the old Jada back?

    • OutsidetheBox

      I missed that memo.
      ___________

      Will prolly did too. He had me DYING laughing talking about he was laYed up in the bed and Jada was sound asleep and he got a Google notif about her filing for Divorce from him.

      :huh: <–how Will say he was looking at Jada.

      :rofl:

    • Gigi26

      Ahhh I feel for the friend who read this and was like “This big mouth hoe subbing me :lol:, can’t tell her shyt no mo”

      Sandra, Marriage is NOT MAN-MADE, it is ordained by God, meaning when you are READY with no ulterior motives, you make your vows to each other and to God to honor each other. If that involves a separation period, so be it. There is supposed to be respect, honor and loyalty there. People think marriage is supposed to change your relationship, make it magically better, or to change the people in the relationship. Nope, you’re sadly mistaken if you think a ceremony or a piece of paper will do that. It’s the MINDFRAME of marriage itself that will either end in love for life or divorce :tea:

      Again, if respect, loyalty, and love aren’t present, they have no business getting married. Vows ain’t nothing to play with.

    • http://www.amazon.com/gotta-make-Heaven-going-thru/product-reviews/1448656729/ref=sr_1_1_cm_cr_acr_t iscream

      I wonder if these friends are in her head. If I knew her I would never share personal things with her cause she stays putting people business on FB.

      As far as her message. Different strokes for different folks. Do what makes you happy in your marriage. Trying to follow what works for others can leave you unhappy.

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      :rolleyes:

    • OutsidetheBox

      Daddy’s lil girl
      Single
      No kids
      Homeowner
      B.S. MBA
      #poorme

      ______

      That was funny. :hahaha: Woo woo woo. #first worl’ prollems craig.

    • Ty

      @ JMO probably aren’t her and Will swingers :thankyou:

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      Jada just cause you and Will work hard at being sister wives don’t mean other want to be

    • Gigi26

      And nah, some women are desparate for a fukking WEDDING but not Marriage. Two separate things. One is pomp n circumstance, the other is the reality.

      A party with a nice dress ain’t nothing but a party. Marriage is the life after the party. Niggs ain’t ready for that life but so damn desparate for it :no:

    • OutsidetheBox

      cause she stays putting people business on FB.
      ____________

      :yes:

      :popcorn: <–me :thinking: i wonder who Jada tombout.. :lol:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      Jada said couples who hope to grow old together must give each other space and time apart to miss each other.
      _________________
      Why do folks think this lady is so smart….. I mean Ion get that shyt one bit :shrugs:

    • OutsidetheBox

      *Passes Sandra a snickers*
      ___________

      She read like herself to me. :shrug: :rofl:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      Brownskin Cutie (Carrington’s E-boo) says:

      Lawd, can we get the old Jada back?
      ____________________

      :cosign:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Jmo (regarding your friend)
      In IL that’s the law.
      He signed (green) paternity papers and that’s ALL that’s recognized :yes:

      No matter what any dna tests or anything say :no:

      He shouldn’t have signed anything!!! Unless he was certain that it was his kid :tea: #dontsignthegreenpapers :eek:

      Theee only way for him to not pay is for her to end the cs case against him, otherwise, he’ll be paying :shrug: and she’ll likely keep taking him back to court yearly or every two years to get increases.

    • OutsidetheBox

      Who is getting a divorce? #nosey
      ________

      That part. Prolly one of her “church” frens tho.

    • OutsidetheBox

      Oh please. :lol: :rofl: :dead:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      Gigi26 says:

      Ahhh I feel for the friend who read this and was like “This big mouth hoe subbing me :lol: , can’t tell her shyt no mo”
      Sandra, Marriage is NOT MAN-MADE, it is ordained by God, meaning when you are READY with no ulterior motives, you make your vows to each other and to God to honor each other. If that involves a separation period, so be it. There is supposed to be respect, honor and loyalty there. People think marriage is supposed to change your relationship, make it magically better, or to change the people in the relationship. Nope, you’re sadly mistaken if you think a ceremony or a piece of paper will do that. It’s the MINDFRAME of marriage itself that will either end in love for life or divorce :tea:
      Again, if respect, loyalty, and love aren’t present, they have no business getting married. Vows ain’t nothing to play with.
      ____________

      :tea: Agreed …..

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      I didn’t read this :eek:
      Somebody ‘recap Jada’s letter’ pls
      :waiting:

    • Gigi26

      And Jada need to worry about her weirdo ass kids, one telling kids to drop out of school and the other looking like some sorta freak of nature. FOH Jada, if I were that friend I would curse her straight out in the comments section if she posted this on FB or call her :lol:

      Maybe i’ll sub her ass on twitter too, since she so damn finga happy :lol:

    • Dymond

      :dance: DTTS in the place

    • OutsidetheBox

      Again, if respect, loyalty, and love aren’t present, they have no business getting married. Vows ain’t nothing to play with
      _______________

      :|

      :cell: <–on with the pound.

    • Ty

      Gigi26 says:

      And nah, some women are desparate for a fukking WEDDING but not Marriage. Two separate things. One is pomp n circumstance, the other is the reality.
      ____________
      Or spend thousands on a wedding and the bride and groom have to move in their parents basement to pay it off :smack:

      :chase:

    • Jessie

      Marriage is not man-made. Marriage was ordained by God.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      :waves: <–for ALL, cept MsTake :hahaha:

    • deedeegirl

      I’m pretty sure it’s easy to be married to Will Smith. When you husband is Will Smith it’s probably easy to have a good attitude about him getting some cookie from other women on the side, maybe when your husband is Will Smith, you don’t mind him taking a risk with your life. But in reality I had a really hard time being married to a man that thinks marriage is not something to be serious about. I’m giving you, as my husband, the ability to choose life or death for me, should something happen and I cannot make that decision for myself, and you can’t do something as simple as keep your d!ck in your pants? You think it’s ok to take a risk with my life you so can get a little extra on the side? You think you are entitled to a little something extra on the side when you have me doing handstands and swinging from the chandeliers at home?

      No, I don’t think you’re ready for the responsibility of being a spouse, and so, sometimes, divorce is the right decision. And I feel just fine about that.

    • OutsidetheBox

      Somebody ‘recap Jada’s letter’ pls
      __________

      :hahaha: You wrong for that. Its twelve sentences.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Dymond says:

      :dance: DTTS in the place

      :yahoo: How you be? :)

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Somebody ‘recap Jada’s letter’ pls
      __________

      :hahaha: You wrong for that. Its twelve sentences.
      (stubborn only child voice) BUT, ION wanna read :eek:

    • Gigi26

      OTB: :rofl:

    • Ty

      Yall :hug:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Oh GG! :rofl:

    • OutsidetheBox

      if I were that friend I would curse her straight out in the comments section if she posted this on FB or call her
      __________

      But then you would give yourself up. :lol: Prolly call her.

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      My hope for you is this, that you consider taking the route that some of our elders have taken in giving your marriage some space and time before the drastic decision of divorce
      ____________________

      All I know is, no elder in my family did this shyt :tea: Jada on that shyt ! <<<Gotta be …

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Ty, Is Esq still letting dem babies roast? :lol:
      :waiting:

    • Gigi26

      I had a really hard time being married to a man that thinks marriage is not something to be serious about. I’m giving you, as my husband, the ability to choose life or death for me, should something happen and I cannot make that decision for myself, and you can’t do something as simple as keep your d!ck in your pants? You think it’s ok to take a risk with my life you so can get a little extra on the side? You think you are entitled to a little something extra on the side when you have me doing handstands and swinging from the chandeliers at home?

      No, I don’t think you’re ready for the responsibility of being a spouse, and so, sometimes, divorce is the right decision. And I feel just fine about that.
      ————————————————–
      I agree 100% :yes:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      DTS :waves:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      Jada ol sickening azz must be a friend of the blog.
      :think:

    • Gigi26

      But then you would give yourself up. Prolly call her.
      ————————

      So if I curse her out in the third person i’ll still blow myself up? :rofl:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      I’mma eat a bone-in filetm today, and I’mma finish it :eek: #yallcare

    • Dymond

      Jada wrote this letter to Will :nono: ain’t no “friend” :coffee:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      Stay together long enough and someone is bound to cheat.

    • OutsidetheBox

      *low growl* @DTTS

      Ummm Her friend came to see her the night before saying she was getting a divorce.

      Jada talked about meeting with “elders” for the last couple of yrs, those who have been married for 25+ yrs, in an effort to gain marital advice.

      Almost all the couples go thru a moment when they don’t want to be together. They recommend talking a cooling off period. Give the marriage space and time, however you see fit, before you say goodbye for good.

      She acknowledges that your feelings may not change but at least you have given it sincere thought and not just emotional action.

      I really cant understand why everyone so annoyed by it. ?my thoughts, not herN. :shrug:

      Brought to you today. i think its the 22 23rd. :yes:

    • Ty

      @ Yall I think so :yes:

      Imma leave her stroller on the porch u ring the bell and we will run off at the same time :rofl:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Jenny :hug:
      ===========
      Man, THANKS :sarcasm: for having me thinking about your azz everytime I see an Applebee’s outta town :huh:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      *low growl* @DTTS

      :love:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      Jada wrote this letter to Will ain’t no “friend”

      by Dymond on Sep 23, 2013 at 1:17 pm
      ____
      I concur.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Ty, we shall employ a getaway driver :rofl:

      :steer:

    • OutsidetheBox

      So if I curse her out in the third person i’ll still blow myself up?

      ______

      Im sure somebody handling it on her timeline as we font. :hahaha:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      @DTTS
      “Man, THANKS for having me thinking about your azz everytime I see an Applebee’s outta”
      ________
      :rofl:

      :thumbsup:

      U should get a lil moist too cause u know
      Applebee’s = Give that puzzy up!

    • OutsidetheBox

      Stay together long enough and someone is bound to cheat.

      __________

      Clearly you missed the thread where it was decided that we all some bad b!tches. :huh:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      *breaks off that snickers and passes it to Man*

      :rollseyes:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      Im sure these old people Jada consulted with told her to eat something and feed her kids and put actual clothes on them.

      She aint include that part tho.
      :coffee:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      “Man, THANKS for having me thinking about your azz everytime I see an Applebee’s outta”
      ___________________________________________________

      This! I thought it was just me … I just shake my damn head :lol:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      @OTB
      “Stay together long enough and someone is bound to cheat.

      __________

      Clearly you missed the thread where it was decided that we all some bad b!tches. ”
      ______
      Bad as in how?
      :huh:

    • OutsidetheBox

      All I know is, no elder in my family did this shyt
      _____________

      maybe Im misunderstanding what jada is saying.. :thinking: Youre saying no elder in your family has had to think about their marriage?

    • OutsidetheBox

      Bad as in how?
      ______________

      :nun: <— That bad.

      :huh:

    • OutsidetheBox

      Im sure these old people Jada consulted with told her to eat something and feed her kids and put actual clothes on them.

      She aint include that part tho
      ________________

      LordT. :hahaha:

    • OutsidetheBox

      Man assuming you be IN the applebee’s. :no:

      :rofl:

    • Dymond

      I can use a few days to myself nah and I ain’t even married yet :facepalm:

    • Gigi26

      Im sure these old people Jada consulted with told her to eat something and feed her kids and put actual clothes on them.

      She aint include that part tho
      —————————————–
      :rofl: :rofl: you ain’t shyt!

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Clearly you missed the thread where it was decided that we all some bad b!tches. ”

      :hahaha:

      Signed,
      Bad Bish

      :lol:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Jmo, you see what I fonted to you up there :rolleyes: <–not an eyeroll :D

    • OutsidetheBox

      Awww @Fay. Come mere. :hug:

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      yeah @ Fay. I’ve been featured on the radio show a few times spreading my message of not being shyt when I was still down there. I know the founders really well actually. They really ain’t shyt.

      by ChanAintShyt on Sep 23, 2013 at 12:49 pm
      ———–
      So tell. So you know Crip :hahaha/

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      OutsidetheBox says:

      All I know is, no elder in my family did this shyt
      _____________
      maybe Im misunderstanding what jada is saying.. :thinking: Youre saying no elder in your family has had to think about their marriage?
      __________________________

      Yep u misunderstanding, no elder in my fam that I know of took a break from each other. Even the miserable marriages…. they stuck it out, even if it wasn’t healthy marriage till death :tea: That’s how them old country folks did things back in the day

    • OutsidetheBox

      I can use a few days to myself nah and I ain’t even married yet
      ___________

      Naw. Married ppl cant be introverts. :rules:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      @DTTS :yes:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Awww @Fay. Come mere. :hug:

      :huh: Is “something” going on?

    • OutsidetheBox

      Ok. I wasnt misunderstanding but thats something @Jenie. Wow. Interesting.

      They was just like twin beds for us. :lol:

    • OutsidetheBox

      So tell. So you know Crip :hahaha/
      ___________

      I tried to nig-nore you down sturrs. :hahaha:

      I be he do. :popcorn:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      *raises my voice* Is everything ok? :cuss:

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      :coffee:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      So tell. So you know Crip :hahaha/
      ___________

      I tried to nig-nore you down sturrs. :hahaha:
      ======
      She is REALLY ‘something else’, isn’t she?! :eek:

      :rofl:

    • OutsidetheBox

      DTTS :no: she was/is having some feelings about being a Black. Thas all. Or maybe its more about them feeling she a “black.” Inbox her. :yes:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      :coffee:

      Even if you have to think about all the J names *snickers*, and not seeing them as usual :eek: #hypotheticalyougot3kidsquestion

    • Dymond

      Calgon please take my co-worker the eff away! There! I put it in the universe!!!!!!!! She is driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!! :angry:

    • OutsidetheBox

      :no: Not I said the (phat)cat. You fukk with me, you put a rang on it, you stuck with me. :huh:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers says:

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:
      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      :coffee:
      Even if you have to think about all the J names *snickers*, and not seeing them as usual :eek: #hypotheticalyougot3kidsquestion
      ____________________

      :lol: You got a good memory :tea:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      DTTS :no: she was/is having some feelings about being a Black. Thas all. Or maybe its more about them feeling she a “black.” Inbox her. :yes:

      I am really silly & not gonna font what is in my head right now :straightfacenow:

      :pc: <–checking on her now… #thx

    • OutsidetheBox

      :hahaha: I cant take MissusTee. @DTTS And our sorry ass falcons lost to them “retarded sharks” <–her words so she been sour since yester-dee.

      :rofl: Tee cray!!! :heart:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      ________________

      Most folks will :tea: and get married in a heart beat !

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      I tried to nig-nore you down sturrs.
      ======
      She is REALLY ‘something else’, isn’t she?!
      by <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers on Sep 23, 2013 at 1:33 pm
      ——–
      The people wanna know :eek:

      Nosey: who don't wanna be blk :popcorn: on lunch bored

    • OutsidetheBox

      #hypotheticalyougot3kidsquestion
      _____________

      Im sure he’s prepared.

      :eek: @Man.

    • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

      @DTS
      :huh:

      What do my children’s names startig wit “J” have to do with me gettin a divorce?

    • OutsidetheBox

      Most folks will and get married in a heart beat !
      _____________

      :yes: So why all the “Jada is crazy”? All she is saying is “think about it” right? :thinking:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: <–Man's kiddies waiting for their pickup time, talmbout Daddy we wanna go to Applebees!
      :kona:

      Jenny :rofl:

    • Dymond

      You fukk with me, you put a rang on it, you stuck with me.
      ————————————
      :blink: no matter what? Not I, said the cat

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      _________________________________________

      and that my friends is the problem smh

    • OutsidetheBox

      who don’t wanna be blk
      _____________

      LTOSR. :no:

      She Black (with a big B) and she proud.

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      I cant take MissusTee. @DTTS And our sorry ass falcons lost to them “retarded sharks” <–her words so she been sour since yester-dee.
      Tee cray!!!
      by OutsidetheBox on Sep 23, 2013 at 1:36 pm
      ———-
      I was hurt :crying1: I was the only woman and Falcons fan in a room full of in-law men :no:
      They falcons ways start out strong and then the secondary loses it for us.
      Me first half :cheer:
      Me second half :kona:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Man, I just don’t care™ says:

      @DTS
      :huh:

      What do my children’s names startig wit “J” have to do with me gettin a divorce?

      Settle Down Cowboy :huh:

      I just couldn’t remember the spelling of your (future) kids names, and was trying to make you think about them, when you’re typing that you’d do it ‘in a heartbeat’. Tis all. #justhinkaboutthekids :eek:

    • OutsidetheBox

      no matter what? Not I, said the cat
      _______________

      Kinda of. Its why I’m not married. I cant get over the “what ifs”. :eek:

      #commitmentphobe
      #ireallydontevenlikepeople
      #lovecats

    • Dymond

      now I do believe in working through all of your options first, but I’m not staying married forever just because

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      Anyone see dem BEARS though?! :tea:

    • gypsyeyes

      These KIND bars are so good. Peanut butter and dark chocolate. Oh and Bizzle I saw that I before E shyt…nigga you aint slick!

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      I was hurt :crying1: I was the only woman and Falcons fan in a room full of in-law men :no:

      NOBODY CARES!!!! :eek:

      :hahaha: #Loser :dead:

    • OutsidetheBox

      and that my friends is the problem smh
      ________________

      You got a 50/50 chance of being happy. :eek:

      Them some terrible odds. :lol:

    • OutsidetheBox

      Da Burrs. :woot:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      no matter what? Not I, said the cat
      _______________

      Kinda of. Its why I’m not married. I cant get over the “what ifs”. :eek:

      #commitmentphobe
      #ireallydontevenlikepeople
      #lovecats

      *chortle-snorts* :rofl:

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      <<<will divorce in a heart beat
      _________________________________________

      and that my friends is the problem smh

      by JMO on Sep 23, 2013 at 1:40 pm
      ———-
      Amen :tea:
      Aside from battery and cheating you gotta work it out. And if you look at some of the happiest couples today (25 years in) some of them have cheated and are still together. Now I ain't there yet :lol: in forgiving that ….. But God knows my heart

    • OutsidetheBox

      now I do believe in working through all of your options first, but I’m not staying married forever just because

      _____________

      I think most logical ppl think this way.

    • Dymond

      :lol: you do NOT seem like a cat person OTB

    • OutsidetheBox

      Settle Down Cowboy
      _____________

      Cause cowboy boots have at least a 2in heel amiright

      :thankyou:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      SR where’s our ‘football’ emo to match :bball:

      :waiting:
      Oh and a B’Please one, and maybe a Windmill one :shrug:

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      Don’t nobody care about dem funky bears :rolleyes:
      Waiter on the SR speaker :cell: bitter party of one your table is ready

    • OutsidetheBox

      Whats a KIND bar? :eek: #hungry #hippo-ish

      :hug: @Gyp. That musta been one of them voices in my head. *twitches*

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      OutsidetheBox says:

      Settle Down Cowboy
      _____________

      Cause cowboy boots have at least a 2in heel amiright

      :thankyou:

      :thinking: :shocked: I never thought of that! You are Correct! :yes:

      (coutry voice)
      Man, how many cowboy boots you got? What color? :grill:

    • Dymond

      My team plays tonight!! :yahoo: unfortunately it’s against Mr. Manning :bite:

    • Dymond

      where gyps and that gravi come from :dead:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      MsTake
      Did you let that baby go outside Friday? :whip:

    • OutsidetheBox

      you do NOT seem like a cat person OTB
      ____________

      Really?!?! :lol: I love felines!!! :eek:

      I havent had one in so many yurrs. Stil getting over :brokenheart: from my very first.

      They are independant. They dont smell. And they like to Take Care. Perfect for me. Nothing like me chirren.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      Ultimately, every relationship is different. You never know what you will tolerate UNTIL you are in that situation; HOW MUTHAFKIN EVA, some of the stories I hear from friends …. :nono: aint … no …… way …… in hell

      … makes you look at your own man like, damnn, maybe you aint that bad :hahaha:

    • flsun99

      I agree with her advice….but did she have to post the letter?

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba says:

      Don’t nobody care about dem funky bears :rolleyes:
      Waiter on the SR speaker :cell: bitter party of one your table is ready
      ________________________________________

      :rofl: :rofl:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      *adds to 128

      :eek: If the person you were talmbout is ‘interested in you’, and you are not quite that ‘into him’ yet, I vote leave him alone, because it’s gonna be one helluva ride :eek:

    • Dymond

      I don’t mind cats, but they are banned from my house. I got a boxer tho :eek: with ADHD :eek: and by the way, anybody want a dog? I’m looking to get rid of mine

    • OutsidetheBox

      ….. But God knows my heart
      ___________________

      :yes: Thats why he :nono: about you not letting that baby go outside cause it warnt no more bleach. Shame on it Missus. Shame on it. :hahaha:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6tKJvWWDP4&feature=youtu.be JMO

      OutsidetheBox says:

      you do NOT seem like a cat person OTB
      ____________

      Really?!?! :lol: I love felines!!! :eek:
      ___________________________________________

      :no: I just KNEW you had pitbulls chained up in the back yard

    • Dymond

      wait til y’all see the new post :eek:

    • OutsidetheBox

      where gyps and that gravi come from
      _________

      The depths of hell. :hahaha:

      Thats Miley and the big woman who (tried) to learn Miley how to Twerk. :eek:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      JMO says:

      OutsidetheBox says:

      you do NOT seem like a cat person OTB
      ____________

      Really?!?! :lol: I love felines!!! :eek:
      ___________________________________________

      :no: I just KNEW you had pitbulls chained up in the back yard

      Along with a tattoo of a Pitt “Killa” on her calf :hahaha: #ikidikid

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      Yeah, and ‘special occasion bleaching’ them babies :mad:

      :chase:

    • gypsyeyes

      Oh and I didn’t get a chance to speak on Jon Gosselin. That nigga was buying snow boards, ski mobiles and shyt. Trying to ball out like he didn’t have 8 kids. She just wanted to be realistic about the shyt that is why she didnt want other family members to be on the show,they weren’t helping until the cameras started rolling so she wanted the money herself. He is getting what he deserved. Cheating with the nanny when he up and quit his job as an IT guy when he should have just worked part time.

    • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

      Thats why he about you not letting that baby go outside cause it warnt no more bleach. Shame on it Missus. Shame on it.

      by OutsidetheBox on Sep 23, 2013 at 1:49 pm
      ———-
      :hahaha:
      Nope she didn’t go out DTTS. She gotta learn to pick smarter more obedient friends :eek: if I say don’t knock on my door or ring my bell no more then you better not. They gotta learn. I run my house not them kids. TUH karate:

    • Dymond

      what y’all trying to say about OTB? she ratchet? :popcorn:

    • Dymond

      yeah Jon ain’t ****

    • r2dmax

      “Marriage is man-made. And like everything that is man-made, marriages are doomed to fail.”

      Aunty,
      I don’t post much, but I had to comment on this one. Marriage was designed to form a permanent bond of union between man and woman, that they might be mutually helpful to each other. Living together in love and confidence, they could enjoy great happiness. God created woman as a mate for man by using the man’s rib as a base, thereby making woman man’s closest fleshly relative on earth, his own flesh.
      In Matthew 19:4-6 Jesus acknowledged the marriage arrangement: “In reply he said: “Did YOU not read that he who created them from [the] beginning made them male and female+ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother+ and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh’?+ 6 So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.”

      #foodforthought #truth