‘Marriage Isn’t for You’ Blog Post Goes Viral

Beyonce and Jay Z

Blogger Seth Adam Smith, a married man, wrote a blog post about overcoming his own selfishness on his way down the aisle with the Love of his life, Kim. Seth describes a conversation he had with his wise dad who told him point blank that marriage is not for men — though not in those exact words.

His dad’s exact words were:

Marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

Seth’s blog post has caught fire all over the Internet, on social media websites and message boards. It’s as if Seth’s message of self-sacrifice and consideration for others is a new concept in human behavior.

Personally, I think Seth cheated on Kim, and that’s what brought about his great metamorphosis. Seth and Kim are high school sweethearts who met when they were 15. It’s likely that Kim knows Seth is a dog — but she married him anyway, because dogs need Love too.

Read the full post here.



 


  • The Master Beta :D

    :sucksteeth: :tea:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    What kind of mess is this :tea:

  • LadieLeo

    That’s too long I need someone to sum that up for me?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    Personally, I think Seth cheated on Kim, and that’s what brought about his great metamorphosis. Seth and Kim are high school sweethearts

    :cloud:

    :hahaha:

  • lovezoe

    Sandra- are you happy. You just seem so cynical about everything.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    Marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

    I concur :tea:

  • The Master Beta :D

    Why are Jay & Bey up top :shrug:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I rebuke society trying to destroy the ministry of marriage….. I’m glad my parents only watch MSNBC, and movie channels cause surfing the net and watch these reality show along with number of other things will have ya mind in doubt about marriage……..

  • Just Looking

    Marriage is about making someone else happy!

    :applause:

    I agree ONE HUNDRED PERCENT, This dad is a wise person.

    But why is Beyonce Photo up there :shrug:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    Jay got on his Broach agane! :D

  • Caramel Rain

    That’s a nice pic of JnB. OTB, what year is this :thinking: I know you know :eek:

  • LadieLeo

    Awwww Leo you can tell your hotales to the roses make sure you censor them though

    *************************************************
    They aren’t really that exciting since I rarely go all the way….but now this is a question how you text me tell me you coming over to watch Walking Dead don’t ask tell me. But I don’t told you on Friday I’m in mourning and I plan on :koolaid: and :hump: this weekend. So I’m like well we gonna watch this Walking Dead and do what needs to be done. I gets up to my bedroom you in there a$$ naked cept some socks but then said you forgot to bring protection :smack: :mad: :cuss:

  • Just Looking

    What up Professor! you totally put me down huh?

    :sad: Kick Rocks and Trash Cans

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    SR
    Fix the typo in the title :pc:

  • GAGIRL87

    It’s likely that Kim knows Seth is a dog — but she married him anyway, because dogs need Love too
    _____________________________________________________________________

    :rofl:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    :kiss: COOKING Sorry :kona: :igotyouface:

  • GAGIRL87

    but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
    _____________________________________________________________________

    :think: :yes:

  • Caramel Rain

    LOL @ LoveZoe. :thinking:

  • Afiya

    Ain’t no sense in getting married if you don’t want committment, if you don’t want children and if you don’t really like the person yous murrin’ :winky:

  • cteastcoast

    this statement couldn’t be more correct

  • The Master Beta :D

    jeniefrumdabloc says:

    I rebuke society trying to destroy the ministry of marriage
    ___________________________

    :thankyou:

  • Caramel Rain

    Congrats on the new job, Mrs. Man :applause: good luck! Dont mess this up :lol:

  • GAGIRL87

    I want my husband to marry me bc he can’t live without me and I’m who he wants not bc I forced him too :mad:

  • marquez269

    Good afternoon everyone!!! Im back

  • cteastcoast

    you’ll be a lot more at peace in your relationship if both focused on this

  • Who Dat

    It’s likely that Kim knows Seth is a dog — but she married him anyway, because dogs need Love too.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Much like a “situational” friend of this very blog.

  • Caramel Rain

    I want to pull Bey’s dress up

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Hey Marquez :hug: how ya been

  • Just Looking

    @Professor – What up with Top Chef? Haven’t seen them roundst these parts. Is she cooking more :hump:

    :rofl:

  • marquez269

    @jenie wasssup!! I been good how have u been?

  • The Master Beta :D

    marquez269 :hi:

  • GAGIRL87

    GA is your bob shaved and tapered in the back?
    __________________________________________________________________

    Caramel it’s not shaved but he razored it! :)

  • marquez269

    @master :waves: (im posting frn my phone I hope I did it right?)

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    Just Looking says:

    @Professor – What up with Top Chef? Haven’t seen them roundst these parts. Is she cooking more :hump:

    :rofl:
    ====
    She’s bean preparing her Thanksgiving Meal Menu for weeks now yo! Getting Ready!!! :lol:
    SHe is gonna SLAM in the Kitchen Yo! :yes:

    :sarcasm:
    :hahaha:

  • Just Looking

    Much like a “situational” friend of this very blog.
    __________
    I like to refer to say SOMETIMEY

    Still waiting on that text/e-mail :tea;

  • LadieLeo

    I want to pull Bey’s dress up

    *****************
    :huh:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    :dead: Kdub
    :hi: Hey Marquez (CW)! :rofl:

  • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

    So old barren women shouldn’t get married?
    :huh:

  • marquez269

    @dtts I see dat joke is still alive :lol:

  • Thando

    I know I will be attacked for expressing my views on high school sweethearts getting married….

    Hooray for the guy! He has probably got himself a pliable female that he moulded to fit with his needs since she was still a naive ‘I love him, noone else will do’ little girl.

    Sad for her. Even sadder that she thinks people like me are just being jealous party poopers. She probably has never been with anyone else while she always forgave him doing his ‘boys will be boys’ behaviour (which he will most likely continue while she thinks marriage will change him).

    This is why he has already armed himself with a ready excuse for any future misconduct.

    I have always felt that girls should not marry the man who popped their cherry or high school sweetheart. I only support it if they break up, (let’s say during college), see other people and fate brings them back together. At least they have seen what’s out there and decided to make a go of things.

    Rambling on as usual…sorry :)

  • luVn_liFe…

    I just said last week
    It’s over rated and NOt for everyone :steer:

  • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

    @GA GIRL
    “GA is your bob shaved and tapered in the back?
    __________________________________________________________________

    Caramel it’s not shaved but he razored it
    _____________________________________

    :think:
    :popcorn:

  • OutsidetheBox

    That’s a nice pic of JnB. OTB, what year is this I know you know
    ______

    2009. Imma pretend you aint tryna be funny. :tea:

  • Just Looking

    :tea:

  • Caramel Rain

    :hahaha: Leo :hug: I mean, the tube top part..
    Thank GA. I bet is nice

  • Just Looking

    Sometimey :tea:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I’m sorry but if I went through marriage, if I was man with this logic, I would be one miserable azz :shrugs: hell no wonder some men can’t keep they peen out of other hot pockets IJS…..

    why get married if you’re only looking to please just the mate :huh:

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    @Care I hope Katie gets with a better man too. It wasn’t that long ago Bill was clowning Donna and Brooke for being hoes
    @Mrs. Man: Congrats on the new job. Promotion?
    @DTTS :hugs:

  • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

    I know I will be attacked for expressing my views on high school sweethearts getting married….

    Hooray for the guy! He has probably got himself a pliable female that he moulded to fit with his needs since she was still a naive ‘I love him, noone else will do’ little girl.

    Sad for her. Even sadder that she thinks people like me are just being jealous party poopers. She probably has never been with anyone else while she always forgave him doing his ‘boys will be boys’ behaviour (which he will most likely continue while she thinks marriage will change him).

    This is why he has already armed himself with a ready excuse for any future misconduct.

    I have always felt that girls should not marry the man who popped their cherry or high school sweetheart. I only support it if they break up, (let’s say during college), see other people and fate brings them back together. At least they have seen what’s out there and decided to make a go of things.

    Rambling on as usual…sorry
    ________________

    :huh:

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex! :yes:
    :lol:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Man, I just don’t care™ says:

    @GA GIRL
    “GA is your bob shaved and tapered in the back?
    __________________________________________________________________
    Caramel it’s not shaved but he razored it
    _____________________________________
    :think:
    :popcorn:
    November 4, 2013 at 2:49 pm
    __________________

    :dead: at this perv

  • OutsidetheBox

    Sandra its a typo in the post title. IDC about these petty things but some of your readers may. :tea:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    Cali :happy” DTS :kiss:

  • Caramel Rain

    OutsidetheBox says:

    That’s a nice pic of JnB. OTB, what year is this I know you know
    ______

    2009. Imma pretend you aint tryna be funny.
    ***********
    thanks for your response. Tryna be funny that you know the answer to this? or that JNB look good? :tea: negative to both :tea:
    I was tryna see if this was pre or post Matthew

  • LadieLeo

    Caramel Rain says:

    Leo I mean, the tube top part..

    ********************
    I was bout to say it ain’t friday :lol:

  • Just Looking

    jeniefrumdabloc says:

    I’m sorry but if I went through marriage, if I was man with this logic, I would be one miserable azz :shrugs: hell no wonder some men can’t keep they peen out of other hot pockets IJS…..
    why get married if you’re only looking to please just the mate :huh:
    ____________
    I didn’t take it as negative. Marriage is not 50/50. It is 100 per person and you have to always keep your spouse in mind, in all you say and do. That’s how I view, not in a bad way. :shrug:

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    Where is OTB. Friend …hold me. The dirty birds did me so wrong this weekend :no: I was in the Panthers stadium getting booed like a mug. One man told me I needed to hit the interstate and take my :buttshake: back to Atl. I was like :stop: actually um I live here. He felt lame. But I was really confused by these fans thinking that they get a check when their teams win :hahaha: I am all for my Falcons but I am not going to be screaming in people’s faces to leave.

  • luVn_liFe…

    IDC about these petty things but some of your readers may
    ~
    ~
    :lol:
    the ROSESkowlers :smack:
    :gossip:

  • OutsidetheBox

    :wave: <—-Comprehension. BOL!!! :hahaha: :popcorn:

  • LadieLeo

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex!

    **************************
    I agree with Man, that’s what it seems like the point is. I agree with Man, Lawd I’m really :crying:

  • The Master Beta :D

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex!
    ____________________________

    :hahaha:

  • Just Looking

    :waves: @ Jenie :happy:

  • Caramel Rain

    I have always felt that girls should not marry the man who popped their cherry or high school sweetheart. I only support it if they break up, (let’s say during college), see other people and fate brings them back together. At least they have seen what’s out there and decided to make a go of things.

    **************

    Ok.

  • SOTHERNGRL

    @OTB why is your girl sitting in that chair the way I sit on the toliet when I have had way to much to drank. Trying to decided whether to throw up or just gone head and pass the hell out.

  • KyCakes

    *Deep Sigh*
    :hi:
    Bizzle
    Dub
    DTTS
    Master Beta
    MisTaken
    Just
    Man
    Jenie
    GAGirl
    lovezoe
    Ladie Leo
    Afiya
    cteast
    marquez

  • luVn_liFe…

    @Jenie I think you missed the content, your thinking its all about the one mate?
    It’s all about living for each other 100

  • http://www.caboki.com/index.html Man, I just don’t care™

    @JENNIE
    I’m sorry but if I went through marriage, if I was man with this logic, I would be one miserable azz hell no wonder some men can’t keep they peen out of other hot pockets IJS…..
    why get married if you’re only looking to please just the mate
    ____________
    This dude’s dad sounded like he was trying to reason why his own marriage failed. :yes:

  • Caramel Rain

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex!
    ***********

    :thumpsup: he/she lost me

  • OutsidetheBox

    I know you know

    ________

    :tea:

  • luVn_liFe…

    :nana: KYCAKES

  • LadieLeo

    :hi: Ky

  • OutsidetheBox

    @Thando *whispers* I got it. :lol:

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    I have always felt that girls should not marry the man who popped their cherry or high school sweetheart. I only support it if they break up, (let’s say during college), see other people and fate brings them back together. At least they have seen what’s out there and decided to make a go of things.

    **************

    Ok.
    ____________________
    This shade her baby tickled me :cloud:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    ust Looking says:

    jeniefrumdabloc says:
    I’m sorry but if I went through marriage, if I was man with this logic, I would be one miserable azz :shrugs: hell no wonder some men can’t keep they peen out of other hot pockets IJS…..
    why get married if you’re only looking to please just the mate :huh:
    ____________
    I didn’t take it as negative. Marriage is not 50/50. It is 100 per person and you have to always keep your spouse in mind, in all you say and do. That’s how I view, not in a bad way.
    _______________

    I see what your saying :thumbsup:

  • Caramel Rain

    Ima take your comprehension, and wipe my ballz with them :buttshake:

  • luVn_liFe…

    ErmahGAWD :smack:

  • OutsidetheBox

    I am all for my Falcons but I am not going to be screaming in people’s faces to leave.

    ____________

    :rofl: *mind blown* Like them ladies who heckled the Jets fan and he decked them. :hahaha:

  • GAGIRL87

    Ky :kiss:

    Hey Man :hi:

  • KyCakes

    luVn :hug:

    How did I miss you, hun?

  • The Master Beta :D

    Ky :hi:

  • OutsidetheBox

    Ima take your comprehension, and wipe my ballz with them

    _________

    I read, “hit dog hollering”. :ha: :tea:

  • GAGIRL87

    Luvie :hug: :kiss: sup sexy bish?

  • LadieLeo

    Caramel Rain says:

    Ima take your comprehension, and wipe my ballz with them
    **********************************
    :huh:

  • luVn_liFe…

    78

    KyCakes says:

    luVn

    How did I miss you, hun?
    :chase: ExacTlY

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex
    ______________________
    Well clearly I am a loser and need to have my cherry popped a few more times to have lived :nun:

  • Caramel Rain

    OutsidetheBox says:

    I know you know

    ________

    :tea:

    *************’

    :ashamed: nevr mind :kona:

  • luVn_liFe…

    GAGIRL87 says:Luvie sup sexy bish?
    ~
    ~
    Thats U babes, ALL day :shock:

  • OutsidetheBox

    <—- Prepping for the storm Bey

    _____
    @SOTHERNGRL Apt eye. :lol: My mannie mannie Beyonces reflect my current moods most times. Im having some trouble with an OTB. Tryna decide how imma handle it. :brokenheart:

  • luVn_liFe…

    MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba says:

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex
    ______________________
    Well clearly I am a loser and need to have my cherry popped a few more times to have lived
    ~
    ~
    YUp
    alot more times Honestly :hahaha:

  • luVn_liFe…

    Im having some trouble with an OTB. Tryna decide how imma handle it.
    ~
    ~
    :(

  • Caramel Rain

    Leo, stop looking @ me like that.. Miscommunication :tea: IDK what’s wrong wif meh

  • OutsidetheBox

    Hey PhatCakes. :| Gimme a hug. :hug:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    You calling me Petty? :blink:

  • Caramel Rain

    MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba says:

    So sleep around?
    Things hoes say for $500 Alex
    ______________________
    Well clearly I am a loser and need to have my cherry popped a few more times to have lived
    *********
    Tuh. Me too… I am super loser. :oops:

  • KyCakes

    OutsidetheBox says:

    Hey PhatCakes. :| Gimme a hug. :hug:
    ——————————————————————–
    :think: Anything ELSE I can give you?

    I am here for you… :lol:

  • Caramel Rain

    <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers says:

    You calling me Petty
    ***********

    :yes:

  • Mrs.Man I Just Don’t Care

    :offtopic:

    So I can fly free with the new job. I’m compiling my list of places I want to travel…

    I’ve got:

    Vietnam
    St. Maarten
    Greece
    India
    Italy

    Need more….

  • Thando

    @Man

    If one is inclined to sleeping around then I’m quite certain this rosy high-school sweetheart situation would be non-existant…

    I however am angling towards developing healthy relationships with other people. Coitus need not be induldged in but at least one has experienced a relationship with a different partner. Stockhlom syndrome is real in these young relationships. Here in the UK there is a huge drive to cut the domestic violence in these teen relationships because some kids are taking it to another level thinking it’s proof of love. They know nothing else because the first partner they got with taught them this. Getting out and finding a nice guy will quickly erase this warped idea of love…there are other issues too that happen in young love that should not be.

    Just saying…

  • OutsidetheBox

    Well clearly I am a loser and need to have my cherry popped a few more times to have lived
    _____________

    Well I think your lack of other partnas might be ok..I mean, at least you comprehending. Some of us :eek:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    *takes back 92* *saves it for another day*
    ========
    *throws a real Cherry at Kenya’s head!* :rofl:

  • Just Looking

    Just as long as the ballz is clean, no one likes MUSTY BALLZ :tea:

    “Gentelmen”

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    :rofl: *mind blown* Like them ladies who heckled the Jets fan and he decked them
    ________________________
    Girl I was looking at them with their beers and tattered jerseys like :blink: you know you lame right? One man was like why don’t you get up an leave like the rest of the Falcons fans. I deadpanned “because like you I paid for my seat sooooo I am going to sit here and watch the game. Isn’t that not American?” He looked like :huh: Did she call me racist? Yes… I low key did sir.

  • Caramel Rain

    This passive aggressive mo fo… :rollseyes: :rofl: Bark

  • OutsidetheBox

    Thando :hahaha: :popcorn:

    *hands @Man an Intro to Logic book and all my green skittles*

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    YUp
    alot more times Honestly
    ____________________
    Oh how I despise you :lol:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    You ok OTB? :hug:
    ============
    Kenya, :mad: that was for her :eek: notchew! :cuss:
    :rofl: *smooches a cherry in your hair* :shrug:

  • luVn_liFe…

    :newpost:

  • Caramel Rain

    Thando says:

    @Man

    If one is inclined to sleeping around then I’m quite certain this rosy high-school sweetheart situation would be non-existant…

    I however am angling towards developing healthy relationships with other people. Coitus need not be induldged in but at least one has experienced a relationship with a different partner. Stockhlom syndrome is real in these young relationships. Here in the UK there is a huge drive to cut the domestic violence in these teen relationships because some kids are taking it to another level thinking it’s proof of love. They know nothing else because the first partner they got with taught them this. Getting out and finding a nice guy will quickly erase this warped idea of love…there are other issues too that happen in young love that should not be.

    Just saying…

    ***********

    ok

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    Mrs. Man
    How about Barbados, since you’ll be in the area :tea:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

    *smooshes* :kona:

  • OutsidetheBox

    Yes… I low key did sir.
    _________

    Cause you know the Falcons only got Black fans. And fans who abuse animals. :blink:

    :rofl: That game was terrible too. :|

  • SOTHERNGRL

    <—- Prepping for the storm Bey
    _____
    @SOTHERNGRL Apt eye. My mannie mannie Beyonces reflect my current moods most times. Im having some trouble with an OTB. Tryna decide how imma handle it.
    ———————————————————————–
    I'm sorry you are having a problem with one of the OTB'S but for some reason this looks like its one of the girls. I only had boys but this "looks" like a girl problem if that makes sense.

  • MisTaken :cell: The Black Mamba

    Here in the UK there is a huge drive to cut the domestic violence in these teen relationships
    ___________________
    :hi: Cheerio SR bio family member. Do you eat scones? Visit with the Queen :tea:

  • cteastcoast

    How do I post on another posters comment?? :newbie: