A recent survey shows secret romances costs an average of $2,664 over six months. The reason is simple: unlike your wife or your girlfriend, you have to really impress a secret lover who has other options.

According to a recent survey, the average affair lasts six months and costs $444 a month, or $2,664 in total. The survey, conducted by a British retail company researching American spending habits, broke down the expenses incurred in a typical fling, such as hotel bills ($123), dinner and drink tabs ($162), gifts ($54), and date activities (movie tickets, $69, and "other," $36.)

But experts say the cost of having an affair is actually higher. Much higher. "Secret cell phones, airline tickets, secret credit cards, hotel rooms—the costs can be astronomical," said Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Santa Monica, California. "I know a woman and her lover who would book a hotel room to the tune of $2,500 a week. And keeping a mistress in an apartment—that can run in the hundreds of thousands." Source

Durvasula cautions spouses to look for signs that their husband (or wife) is straying. "It's not that hard to tell," she insists. "You don't have to be freakin' Magnum P.I."

Surprisingly, experts say the partner who strayed usually suffers the most emotionally after he or she is caught.

"As a woman, I didn't have to put any money out, but still, the cost to me was incalculable," said Sheila Hageman, 43, a married writer and mother of three from Stratford, Connecticut. "All the lying, the guilt, knowing I hurt someone I really loved—and still do love—I have to live with that the rest of my life."

"The cheating had nothing to do with him and with our relationship," she continued. "It had to do with the pain I was in. I was looking to feel loved, to feel valuable. In the process I threw myself away."

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    • Beta

      It ain't tricking if you got it

    • Beta

      Speaking of this that show Satisfaction looks like it's going to be good premieres tomorrow I will be watching

    • Wasting time

      Le Sigh :facepalm:

    • https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=663758563679083 VDot

      But experts say the cost of having an affair is actually higher. Much higher.

      ________________________

      :yes: Not that I know anything about it, but I agree :lol:

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      I'll keep my money :tea: Make it rain at home

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      :typing: Derek gets up to cut on some music to drone out the moans from Wasting because it is making him go noodle limp. He pops a Viagra on the low and hopes it doesn’t knock out his Valtrex medicine like it did last time. Mariah was real mad when she got that herp. He might even say she seemed slightly off since then :thinking: As he walks byke to Waste the music blasts :whistle: Let me lick you up and down till you say stop :dance: AYE! AYE! AYE! Wasting begins to dance. He is slightly thrown off because she has added hairbows to the plaits he made and they are jingling :dead: (laughing at my D self now) He was never one to back down from a challenge and he turns her around and slow grinds on her. He makes a move to join her most intimate place and she shudders. As he moves back he panics. He is tangled in her vortex :facepalm: One of the hairbow balls is snapped around Jeter’s peter

    • lovezoe

      Don't believe it. If someone messing around with someone they KNOW is married, give them a happy meal and the back seat of your jeep

    • Beta

      Ya'll got some wild ass imaginations :lol:

    • https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=663758563679083 VDot

      Wasting begins to dance. He is slightly thrown off because she has added hairbows to the plaits he made and they are jingling

      _______________________________________

      :crying: REAL TEARS :rofl: :hahaha: :lol: :rofl:

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      That’s all I got Beta :lol: I am tapped out. You bee lee me?
      Ok Waste I feel like I have earned the real story. Don’t you think? :waiting:

    • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

      Had to heat my lunch up :popcorn:

    • SOTHERNGRL

      But experts say the cost of having an affair is actually higher. Much higher.
      **********************
      I should hope so cause this is a cheap azz nicca right here. This chit averages out to $444.00 a month. ION think this is called balling.

    • http://dmhanmation.wordpress.com/2013/05/27/woman-loses-both-arms-and-legs-after-taking-injection-fo User Friendly

      He is tangled in her vortex
      _________________

      Cole you stoopit! :chase:

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      @V: I am weak!! You hear me. WEAK :hahaha: :hahaha: :hahaha:
      All I hear in my head is AYE!AYE!AYE! and a chick dancing with her coochie hair tied with hair knockers like ping ping ping :dance:

    • http://dmhanmation.wordpress.com/2013/05/27/woman-loses-both-arms-and-legs-after-taking-injection-fo User Friendly

      SOTHERNGRL says:

      I should hope so cause this is a cheap azz nicca right here. This chit averages out to $444.00 a month. ION think this is called balling.
      __________________

      well you know Applebees has that 2 for 1 entree going on so......

      but then you gotta buy 2 valemtimes gifts, 2 christms presents, pay half on 2 sets of bills. :phew: thats too dam much!

    • https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=663758563679083 VDot

      As he moves back he panics. He is tangled in her vortex :facepalm: One of the hairbow balls is snapped around Jeter’s peter

      __________________________

      Even though Jeter is panic, he breathes and starts to act like he is in the world series. He knows the next steps are crucial to his survival. He taps Time Waster on the azz to get her attention (she couldn't hear his cries for help because she was knee deep with her raspy growls). She thinks the taps are for her to bust it wide open so she attempts to :shakebutt: but he grips her azz and yells :stop: we need to walk slowly to the bathroom" Carefully he guides her to the bathroom, with her hair bows falling out along the way. In the bathroom, he grabs his clippers and begins shaving her bush. Time Waster thinks it's more foreplay and cums off the strength of that alone.

    • https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=663758563679083 VDot

      I'm about to go to lunch! GIVE US THE REAL STORY TIME WASTER!!! :angry: :mad:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

      Puzzy shaving foreplay :dead: I wish I never started this game :wails:

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      well you know Applebees has that 2 for 1 entree going on so……

      but then you gotta buy 2 valemtimes gifts, 2 christms presents, pay half on 2 sets of bills. :phew: thats too dam much!
      __________________
      Eye knew I wasn’t the only one that did he 2 for $20 quick math calculations :dead:

      @V: She came off the strength that somebody cared enough to shave her? :crying1: Like that big girl prolly cried off Man caring enough to do her full throttle for 15 minutes in the light. #allroadsleadbacktoapplebees

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      :offtopic: Is we even on topic? :lol: Anybody else keep rewinding that video where Joseline got boo’d to where Stevie came on and they dropped the beat for “If Ain’t About the Money” and started dancing :dance: Buddy was TURNT UP :rofl: I was like AYE! AYE! AYE! I expected Diddles to come out and do his little cha cha slide :offtopic: Is we even on topic? :lol: Anybody else keep rewinding that video where Joseline got boo’d to where Stevie came on and they dropped the beat for “If Ain’t About the Money” and started dancing :dance: Buddy was TURNT UP :rofl: I was like AYE! AYE! AYE! I expected Diddles to come out and do his little cha cha slide

    • libra80sbaby

      I aint got merch to say about this topic other than...nigguh, you already cheating behind my back and giving MY dack away...don't be out here giving my damn MONEY away too :nono:

    • SOTHERNGRL

      Puzzy shaving foreplay I wish I never started this game
      *************************
      You know damn well what you get round here. Damn Craziness. @V & @Mistake storeis are better than the actual story.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      APPLEBEE'S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      :coffee:

    • http://www.facebook.com/juanhustle JuanHustle

      Them folks always talking about them $200 dates gonna have a field day with this research.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      @SOUTHERN
      "But experts say the cost of having an affair is actually higher. Much higher.
      **********************
      I should hope so cause this is a cheap azz nicca right here. This chit averages out to $444.00 a month. ION think this is called balling.
      ______________________

      :shocked:

      DA PHUCK????

      :facepalm: Hoes is gettin MO' greedy! No $444 a month for some side puzzy is CHEAP???????

    • Milky

      playing with her cootie cat, trying to braid her hairs. He puts a side part in her bush and finds the “magical button”. As he starts to push the button,

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^:dead: VDot and Taken are so crazay.. I love it..... Wasting you do owe them the real story for this. Get to spilling :waiting:

    • Bliss

      $2,600 isn't that much to spend over 6 months. If it's $10,000 or more than yes it is a problem :yes:

    • sassyshe

      What cheap hoe accepts a $54 gift?

    • Wasting time

      It is nowhere near y'all imagination!

      It was innocent and in a group setting the first time. He was in a local restaurant; I was a teenager with a couple of my friends and I spotted him, he was already signing autographs so I stood on line too. It was my turn and I may or may not have freaked and puked near his shoes :embarrassed:
      The second time was a few weeks later at a Yankee event and this time I was ready and took one look at me, smiled and said the restaurants name and took 2 steps back! He signed my shirt though.

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      What cheap hoe accepts a $54 gift?
      _____________________
      you'd be surprised. The Game said he took Kim K to McDonalds did not supersize it and he smashed :shrugs:

    • Milky

      we need to walk slowly to the bathroom” Carefully he guides her to the bathroom, with her hair bows falling out along the way. In the bathroom, he grabs his clippers and begins shaving her bush. Time Waster thinks it’s more foreplay and cums off the strength of that alone.
      ___________________
      After Ms. Time cums all ova Jeter's clippers he realizes that he used the same clippers that he shaves his batting cage and had forgot to clean them after he used them. He neglects to tell Ms. Time due to the bear growls that she calls sexy moaning. He then pushes her into the shower to try to do the "MimiRod" After Ms. Time grabs the shower rod to position herself she slips on a bar of soap on to the floor and buss her azz. Embarrased she slowly gets up, but Jetter says that was sexy as hell (anotha lie told). Jetter thinks I am going through all of this just to conquer this poon??????

    • luVn_liFe…

      lovezoe says: Don’t believe it. If someone messing around with someone they KNOW is married, give them a happy meal and the back seat of your jeep
      ~~~~
      libra80sbaby says: you already cheating behind my back and giving MY dack away…don’t be out here giving my damn MONEY away too
      ~~~~~

      :cosign: on BOTH

    • Milky

      Wasting time says:

      It is nowhere near y’all imagination!

      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      there is no :hump: in this story or no bush! Girl you can do betta than this! Did you at least get :lick: rubbed against. Goes back to keep reading the real story (vdot and taken's version)

    • luVn_liFe…

      sassyshe says: What cheap hoe accepts a $54 gift?
      ~~~~~~~
      :wtf: is a $54 gift!???
      a box of godiva chocolates?

      long stemmed Roses?

      keep that shyte and save it for a few more months <_< then get back at it

    • Milky

      $54 on gifts??? that's not even a hairdo!!! They must have some goodd good Jetter dack!!!

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      So now yall turning down $54 dollar gifts?????????????

      Man, I need one of these 3 world hoes!

    • luVn_liFe…

      WHET? Wasting didn't :hunch: JETER?? Who started that lie then?
      Had me :mad: with her ass :tea:

    • Milky

      Man, I just don't care™ says:

      So now yall turning down $54 dollar gifts?????????????
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      I would accept a $54 gift from you boo! :love: I would love you for free :boobs:

    • luVn_liFe…

      I spend $54 myself when Im treating myself to a gourmet restaurant some where

      :nono:

    • Milky

      WHET? Wasting didn’t JETER?? Who started that lie then?
      Had me with her ass
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      that is what her lying azz told us yesterday. Now she want to recant :cuss: Whispers " I still love you wasting"

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      @LUVN
      "I spend $54 myself when Im treating myself to a gourmet restaurant some where"
      _____________

      So when it's YO' money $54 is good enough. But a nigga gotta spend MO' then what you spend on YOURSELF?

      :facepalm:

      :eek:

      :facepalm:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      @MILKY

      I know you a true lady!
      :yes:

    • luVn_liFe…

      Milky says:

      WHET? Wasting didn’t JETER?? Who started that lie then?
      Had me with her ass
      ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
      that is what her lying azz told us yesterday. Now she want to recant :cuss:
      ~~~~~
      hrmpH

    • sassyshe

      luVn_liFe... says:

      sassyshe says: What cheap hoe accepts a $54 gift?
      ~~~~~~~
      is a $54 gift!???
      a box of godiva chocolates?

      long stemmed Roses?

      keep that shyte and save it for a few more months <_< then get back at it
      -------------------------------------------------------------------------
      :cosign:

      I mean if Im gonna be a side hoe it should at least be worth it. Cause if $54 is all you can afford then you can afford a side hoe.

    • http://bossip.com/994960/random-ridiculousness-one-legged-woman-tries-to-twerk-like-a-thot-video-430 MisTaken is #unbothered :cool:

      “MimiRod” After Ms. Time grabs the shower rod to position herself she slips on a bar of soap on to the floor and buss her azz
      ________________
      BYE :crying1:

    • luVn_liFe…

      Man, I just don't care™ says:

      @LUVN
      “I spend $54 myself when Im treating myself to a gourmet restaurant some where”
      _____________

      So when it’s YO’ money $54 is good enough. But a nigga gotta spend MO’ then what you spend on YOURSELF?
      ~~~~~
      DUH! :smack: other wise whats the purpose of the extra curricular activities
      :tea:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

      In Users defense she said she would let us know Jeters STD STATUS when they did fuggg..then some Roses took it as if they actually had fugged. Still funny as hail tho.

    • sassyshe

      Man, I just don't care™ says:

      @LUVN
      “I spend $54 myself when Im treating myself to a gourmet restaurant some where”
      _____________

      So when it’s YO’ money $54 is good enough. But a nigga gotta spend MO’ then what you spend on YOURSELF?
      ______________________________________________________________________
      Exactly now that wasnt so hard to understand

    • luVn_liFe…

      sassyshe says: Exactly now that wasnt so hard to understand
      ~~~~
      :tea:

      mmmKaY

    • Milky

      @dats Wasting actually said they :hump: but wouldnt give us any details so the Roses made up their own story!! :rofl:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2SQh007k6U missyJ

      @wasting

      Your story missing the nekkid :angry:

    • luVn_liFe…

      anybody here ever lowered their calorie intake by 1000 and still remained active (gym)?

    • http://dmhanmation.wordpress.com/2013/05/27/woman-loses-both-arms-and-legs-after-taking-injection-fo User Friendly

      DA PHUCK????

      Hoes is gettin MO’ greedy! No $444 a month for some side puzzy is CHEAP???????
      ________________________________

      I think they are talking about mistresses and "kept" women. side hoes are free thats why they talk so dam much and always wanna fight---they havent been paid to keep quiet.

      I do know somebody thats paying half the rent in one place and half the mortgage at home with his wife. got kids in both households. that negro STAY borrowing money. its expensive if you planning on KEEPING all of them.

    • Milky

      :newpost: Morning UnWood Addition

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      @LUVN
      "“I spend $54 myself when Im treating myself to a gourmet restaurant some where”
      _____________

      So when it’s YO’ money $54 is good enough. But a nigga gotta spend MO’ then what you spend on YOURSELF?
      ~~~~~
      DUH! other wise whats the purpose of the extra curricular activities
      _______________________
      :facepalm:

      See, women should have to list their price by law. Then this chit would make everyone happy.

    • Milky

      Edition :duh:

    • Wasting time

      But But But !!
      I never had said I :humping: 'd him
      :crying:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

      @milky thats not the way I read it she kept saying she wanted to despite him maybe having the herps and she wld let us know if it was true later. She posted that twice. I ont feel like going back to that post so carry on :rofl:

    • http://dmhanmation.wordpress.com/2013/05/27/woman-loses-both-arms-and-legs-after-taking-injection-fo User Friendly

      luVn_liFe... says:

      anybody here ever lowered their calorie intake by 1000 and still remained active (gym)?
      ____________________________

      hell no! a bitch would diiiiie! aint nobody tryna be out here looking like Calista Flockhart (Ally McBeal) bony ass. :nono:

      ass meat be done shriveled up and died.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BpImj7RI0Rc Man, I just don’t care™

      DA PHUCK????

      Hoes is gettin MO’ greedy! No $444 a month for some side puzzy is CHEAP???????
      ________________________________

      I think they are talking about mistresses and “kept” women. side hoes are free thats why they talk so dam much and always wanna fight—they havent been paid to keep quiet.

      I do know somebody thats paying half the rent in one place and half the mortgage at home with his wife. got kids in both households. that negro STAY borrowing money. its expensive if you planning on KEEPING all of them.
      _________________________

      Man.. very few niggas got "kept" women. VERY FEW. For this reason. Side hoes ain't free. :nono:

      I don't know who told you that lie.

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

      @man why come side hoes aint free? The side hoe is the one where you fugg at her house or the byke of the car..the most you buy a side hoe is a combo meal...mistresses? Now thats different

    • OpinionHated

      cheating is a selfish act committed by weak minded narcacists (LeBron/Puffy/JLo) - you have to on some level be very self absorbed to hurt somebody by having an affair - better to just leave... I don't get the cheating thing because it just seems like a lot of games... I have no patience for bullchit - if you ain't feelin me no mo just tell me and i'll leave yno hard feelings ou don't have to string me along to save my "feelings" I'd rather be hurt by your rejection than hurt by the std you infect me with... yuck... this is my greatest reason for not cheating - you don't know how many people you phucking.. like that commercial where peopel keep multiplying...and they tell two friends and so on and so on... yuck....

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S8jrHDNQVE&list=HL1365174233 <–Doesn't Talk To Strangers

      (Richard Dawson voice) :woot: Survey Says...

      :rofl:

      Powerful people (men/women) are hard to please, and if they are ABLE, then they have the resources to make themselves happy :shrug:
      :tea:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VPIs6REdG2Q datsmdubya2u

      @Opinionhated

      To a certain extent Crickett is right nuthin straightens a man right out than not being able to get puzzy... if nobody will fugg a dude he does what he needs to do to get puzzy whether that is getting a job an apt or whatever.. ask your grandmother cause byke in the day a man at least had to have the, appearance of being ish or nobody wld fugg wid em. Now we dont gave any requirements so they stay trife cause they can get puzzay anyway. But lets face it blk women aint gonna give up on blk cawk :no:

    • SellieBaby

      I've been cheated on in the past and what upsets me the most is ALWAYS the dam* money...
      Told him he don't have enough money to be cheating.