Shonda Rhimes

TV screenwriter Shonda Rhimes, 45, nearly came out of the closet during her speech at the Human Rights Campaign gala in LA on Saturday.

Rhimes, who is best known for her gay-themed TV shows, spoke about creating a fantasy place in her mind as a child. "A space for ME to exist... Until I could find my people in the real world." It is assumed that by "my people," she means lesbians and gays -- whom she refers to as a "tribe" of people.

Rhimes, who was born in Chicago to parents who were educators, shared a home with two brothers and three sisters. But she describes her childhood as lonely and isolated.

Rhimes never married. She has 2 adopted daughters and a 3rd daughter via a surrogate.

Her lesbian orientation is not a very well-kept secret in Hollywood.

Check out Shonda's quotes from the Human Rights Campaign below:

10. "I did not have friends. No one is meaner than a pack of human beings faced with someone who is different. I was very much alone. So… I wrote."

9. "You see, Shondaland, the imaginary land of Shonda, has existed since I was 11 years old. I built it in my mind as a place to hold my stories. A safe place. A space for my characters to exist. A space for ME to exist [...] Until I could find my people in the real world."

8. "I don’t know if anyone has noticed but I only ever write about one thing: being alone. The fear of being alone, the desire to not be alone, the attempts we make to find our person, to keep our person, to convince our person to not leave us alone, the joy of being with our person and thus no longer alone, the devastation of being left alone. The need to hear the words: You are not alone."

7. "I really hate the word 'diversity.' It suggests something…other. As if it is something…special. Or rare. Diversity! As if there is something unusual about telling stories involving women and people of color and LGBTQ characters on TV. I have a different word: normalizing. I’m normalizing TV. I am making TV look like the world looks. Women, people of color, LGBTQ people equal way more than 50% of the population. Which means it ain’t out of the ordinary."

6. "You should get to turn on the TV and see your tribe. The goal is that everyone should get to turn on the TV and see someone who looks like them and loves like them."

5. "And just as important, everyone should turn on the TV and see someone who doesn’t look like them and love like them. Because, perhaps then, they will learn from them. Perhaps then, they will not isolate them. Marginalize them. Erase them. Perhaps they will even come to recognize themselves in them. Perhaps they will even learn to love them."

4. "If you never see young Connor Walsh on How To Get Away Murder getting to have the same kind of slutty dating life we’ve seen straight characters have on TV season after season after season. If you never see any of those people on TV, what do you learn about your importance in the fabric of society? What do straight people learn? What does that tell young people?"

3. "I get letters and tweets and people coming up to me on the street. Telling me so many incredible stories. The dad telling me about how something he saw on one of my shows gave him a way to understand his son when he came out. Or the teenagers, all the teenagers man, who tell me they learned the language to talk to their parents about being gay or lesbian."

2. "There were times in my youth when writing those stories in Shondaland quite literally saved my life. And now I get kids telling me it quite literally saves theirs. That is beyond humbling."

1. "Finally I want to say this: if you are a kid and you are out there and you are chubby and not so cute and nerdy and shy and invisible and in pain, whatever your race, whatever your gender, whatever your sexual orientation, I’m standing here to tell you: you are not alone. Your tribe of people, they are out there in the world. Waiting for you."

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    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      :think: oh, i get it... like 'a tribe called queer'? :kona:

    • FuturedocDonte

      I figured she was batting for the other team when she said "if you call the scenes "gay-scenes" you are not only tardy to the party, you're not invited".

      What kinda party she having :shrug:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqjT_YqmNas Long Time Lurker

      :thinks: Even though Heller Keller can tell that she likes :lick: She could be talking about anything. :shrug:

      She's black, kinda chunky, not a traditional beauty, and a woman. I'm not sure how old she is, but I'm sure she never saw any of these 'powerful' images displayed on a TV on a daily basis when she was younger.

      :coffee:

    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      “Finally I want to say this: if you are a kid and you are out there and you are chubby and not so cute and nerdy and shy and invisible and in pain, whatever your race, whatever your gender, whatever your sexual orientation, I’m standing here to tell you: you are not alone. Your tribe of people, they are out there in the world. Waiting for you.”
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      this kinda makes me sad :brokenheart:
      (but it also broadens the possibility of what she calls her "tribe" :think: as she listed a whole lot more than just LGBTQ :kona: )
      anyway, iont care bout this lady 'orientation' ...she's really really talented, and for that i applaud her :clap: :shrug:

    • http://youtu.be/7fSfM0vk0qk Hair Lova Formerly Known As Dark Ceaser

      FuturedocDonte says:

      I figured she was batting for the other team when she said “if you call the scenes “gay-scenes” you are not only tardy to the party, you’re not invited”.

      What kinda party she having :shrug:
      ___________

      A party down below..... You've gone too far Biggs, you've gone too far.

    • http://dan.l@superiorworks.com SugarFoot

      Who
      ______________
      See this is what I am talking about the face you make when parents just don’t understand.
      Folks be sleeping on Safaree. Thinking he lame and stuff. But he humble.. and wear nice ostentatious clothes sometimes. Not because he wants to be like look at me. But because that’s what he does. Nicki didn’t deserve him. She deserves Meek Mill.
      ___________
      Oh I like his abs :yes: Are they airbrushed on :think:

    • http://dan.l@superiorworks.com SugarFoot

      FuturedocDonte says:

      I figured she was batting for the other team when she said “if you call the scenes “gay-scenes” you are not only tardy to the party, you’re not invited”.

      What kinda party she having
      ________
      McDonalds party since she looks like Grimace :shrug:

    • http://youtu.be/bQaBEm_mh5U MisTaken: So thick :buttshake: she make everybody else in the room so uncomfortable :winky:

      @Sugar :no: that is all him. Skinny swole :rofl:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqjT_YqmNas Long Time Lurker

      SugarFoot says:

      McDonalds party since she looks like Grimace :shrug:
      ___________________________

      :ghost:

      AND...
      The Grinch
      Slimer (Ghostbusters)

      Feel free to add on.... :rofl:

    • http://youtu.be/7fSfM0vk0qk Hair Lova Formerly Known As Dark Ceaser

      McDonalds party since she looks like Grimace :shrug:
      ______

      Ok I'm not fuggin with yawl today. Not today

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals lovezoe

      :ghost:

    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybcNSoh8vI4 VDot

      :clap: Go head on Shonda!!! :applause:

    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybcNSoh8vI4 VDot

      Nicki didn’t deserve him. She deserves Meek Mill.

      ********

      :hahaha: I don't know why this tickled me as much as it did. :lol:

    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      see! we was almost >>>here<<< Lurker :facepalm: ...then you had to go and ruin it :lol:

      anyway, who your baby insult this weekend? :popcorn: :hahaha:

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals lovezoe

      When we gone discuss RHOA?

    • iWasteTime

      She is right!
      Let ALL people know they are not alone and there is someone for everyone.
      :yes:

    • http://dan.l@superiorworks.com SugarFoot

      lovezoe says:

      When we gone discuss RHOA?
      ________________
      Chile Im sick of Nathaniel and his antics :chase: That wig was scattered, smothered, and covered hunty :crying:

    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      :think: i was gone say if she lookin for a 'tribe' of big womenz to get with, she could get with my aunties on my deddy side, but they not shy, bett not tell 'em they not crute, and the menz seem to love 'all' of em :kona:

    • http://youtu.be/bQaBEm_mh5U MisTaken: So thick :buttshake: she make everybody else in the room so uncomfortable :winky:

      On topic. As for Shonda. Really I don’t want to speak on this because I have not the energy to have this conversation but I will give it a quick note. Shonda and these “new blacks” are pissing me off. They always want to “normalize” everything and act as if something does have a label you are being separatists or hating. No actually there is such a thing as being female… a particular gender, ethnicity, race.. or mixture of them… excluding gender in most cases. It sounds wonderful and full of rainbows and unicorns to say we are all one race. The human race. On a fundamental level I believe that. Everyone should have the right to live their life as they see fit as long as they are not killing, stealing, molesting, harassing folks or impeding on their ability to live a quality life. But what you won’t do is shame me into believing that something is wrong with me for what I like. Why can’t you like what you like and I like what I like? Because by telling me that my preference is wrong you are doing the very thing you are sitting on your screaming soapbox about. You are: Judging. Attempting to shame. Causing division.

    • http://dan.l@superiorworks.com SugarFoot

      Skinny swole
      ___________
      oh oxymoron like Man's hairline in reverse :thumbsup: I got it....I think :rofl: :hahaha:

    • http://youtu.be/bQaBEm_mh5U MisTaken: So thick :buttshake: she make everybody else in the room so uncomfortable :winky:

      Oh my little sermon on the blog :dead: has more so with people trying to tell me what I need to do with my tv and my spare time. Not about equal rights for gays, etc. I think if Ricky wants to marry Bobby let the be Ricky Bobby. That is a religious issue and should have nothing to do with state law. Let them have benefits. I was more so speaking about folks like Patricia Arquette saying white women need help now because blacks and gays are straight. New blacks saying they don’t see color and we need to stop talking about racism…etc…
      :kona:

    • SummerBaby

      :newpost:

    • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqjT_YqmNas Long Time Lurker

      Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: ...that's all. :tea: says:

      see! we was almost >>>here<<< Lurker :facepalm: …then you had to go and ruin it :lol:

      anyway, who your baby insult this weekend? :popcorn: :hahaha:
      _______________________________

      You just know she did, huh?

      Went to "Auntie's" house to set up her computer. Lil Mama just kept standing all of 2 feet from the whole time.

      Auntie asked her if she wanted something to snack on, something to drink, want to sit and watch cartoons. To which she kept answering, no.

      She was crowding me, so I told her go get something to drink and sit down.

      Shit hit me with the Kanye, "YOU SEE THIS HOUSE :eek: I don't want nothing to drink or to sit down."

      Couldn't even get mad, I felt like I needed a shower when we left. :no:

    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      Taken finna have Shonda's tribe picketing outside the blog :kona:

      :offtopic: :preach: :lolsign: :ido: :cya: :hater: <---tribe picket line

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals lovezoe

      YOU SEE THIS HOUSE :eek: I don't want nothing to drink or to sit down."

      Couldn't even get mad, I felt like I needed a shower when we left. :no:
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      :ghost: :dead: :rofl: :rofl:

    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybcNSoh8vI4 VDot

      "YOU SEE THIS HOUSE :eek: I don't want nothing to drink or to sit down."

      *********

      I :heart: her :hahaha: :hahaha:

    • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybcNSoh8vI4 VDot

      <—tribe picket line

      ******

      :rofl: :rofl:

      Take Take you got all of that from the speech above? Did we read the same thing? :huh:

    • https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=0TMzDWwIj7Y Nancy Drew Wears Prada :nun: …that’s all. :tea:

      "YOU SEE THIS HOUSE I don't want nothing to drink or to sit down."

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      :rofl: :hahaha: you doin a good job! :thumbsup: :crying1: :ghost:

    • http://youtu.be/bQaBEm_mh5U MisTaken: So thick :buttshake: she make everybody else in the room so uncomfortable :winky:

      @VDot I am just saying Onika deserved Safaree but this Nicki Minaj.. oh she finna get BURNT by Meek. She high level. Let me upgrade you talking. Purple labels popping. Meanwhile she smashing a dude soon to be the equivalent of Memphitz Bleek in 90s.. hot then…not so much now…

    • http://youtu.be/7fSfM0vk0qk Hair Lova Formerly Known As Dark Ceaser

      No actually there is such a thing as being female… a particular gender, ethnicity, race.. or mixture of them… excluding gender in most cases. It sounds wonderful and full of rainbows and unicorns to say we are all one race.
      ______

      They are trying to erase that train of thought, and it's not fair.

    • Angie Brown

      I have stopped watching a lot of shows because of the homosexuality content.
      The vampires and werewolves are getting in on the action. They act as if it's a ratings booster. Cartoons, too.
      Is there no end?. I have started watching wildlife drama, face off and Alaska, the last frontier.

    • dblhelixman

      No, there is no end. As long as there have been animal species there have been same sex pair bonds. I applaud you for not watching shows "because of the homosexuality content." That represents one less intolerant bigot gathering fodder for ammunition against a marginalized group. And while you have been enjoying subsidized benefits, inheritance rights, rights to make medical decisions about your beloved (if you are married) and be there in times of crisis, we have in part paid for it and now with marriage equality we finally are not picking up the tab for your legal right to inherit without tax should your husband (if you have one) predecease you. I don't watch shows which feature religious proselytizing of hate and intolerance. There have been far more people historically killed and tortured in the world by zealots than by people of the LGBTQ community. Religion is a clear and present danger. The LGBTQ community is not. We are not going away. We are born different. If you can't accept that you are depriving yourself of a lot of wonderful, creative people who are and have been tremendous contributors to society. If you dig deeply you'll probably find that gay people are involved in the production of the shows you like. Look in the mirror: do you want to see a bigot staring back at you? I love straight people, characters, etc., immensely and can't imagine discounting a segment of humanity simply because of who they love (when it is consenting adults).