Pop singer Justin Bieber has so much wisdom for one so young. Bieber, 21, perfectly describes what Love is in a cover article for Complex magazine. He said, "Love is a choice, not a feeling."

You also fell in love at an early age.
Yes.

What did you learn from it?

"I learned a lot. I moved in with my girlfriend when I was 18. Started my own life with her. It was a marriage kind of thing. Living with a girl, it was just too much at that age. But we were so in love. Nothing else mattered. We were all about each other. But when it’s like that and you get your value from that, people will always disappoint you. Your girl or your dude, they’re always going to disappoint you. Your full identity can’t be in that person. My identity was in her. Her identity was in me. When stuff would happen, I would lose my freakin’ mind, and she would lose her mind, and we would fight so hard because we were so invested in each other. Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling. People have made it seem in movies that it’s this fairy tale. That’s not what love is. You’re not gonna want to love your girl sometimes but you’re gonna choose to love her. That’s something in life that I had to figure out. I can’t lean on people."

You’ve worked with a lot of artists; now you’re working with Kanye. How is he different?

"It’s his creative input. I’ll play a song, and he’ll be like, “Man this reminds me of like...a blacklight sunset,” or something. He’ll try to paint these pictures for you. It’s not the average way. He doesn’t just come in and say, “This sounds good; this sounds bad.” He’ll be like, “This is this because the world needs this.” He comes from a whole different point of view."

Do you think you’ll always compare relationships to the one you had with Selena?

"Yeah. You get scarred from certain things. Even like—I’m kind of seeing this girl, right? I’m shy about doing or saying certain things, and then I say it and it’s not even a problem. And I’ll remember when I couldn’t.... You’re just scarred and you don’t do something because in your last relationship they’d freak out, but [the new person is] just like, “What are you talking about?”

On religious freaks being too pushy

"Some people are bad communicators. They find something that works so well for them and they wanna share it, but they don’t know how to share it so they’re kind of pushy. There’s a lot of really weird stuff going on at churches. You ever flicked on a channel and a late-night church show is on? Sometimes it’s like, “You better do this or you gon’ die and you gon’ burn in hell!” And you’re like, I don’t want anything to do with this. I’m the same way. I’m not religious. I, personally, love Jesus and that was my salvation. I want to share what I’m going through and what I’m feeling and I think it shouldn’t be ostracized. I think that everybody should get their chance to share what they’re doing or where their journey is headed, whether they’re straight or gay or what they believe in. We’re in a place now in 2015 where people have gotta be open-minded. I actually feel better and more free now that I know what I can do and what I can’t do. My voice, I’m not gonna let it not be heard anymore. I’m gonna use my voice for a reason. I think that people, as soon as they start hearing me saying I’m a Christian, they’re like, “Whoa Justin, back up, take a step back.” Also, I do not want to shove this down anyone’s throat. I just wanna honestly live like Jesus. Not be Jesus—I could never—I don’t want that to come across weird. He created a pretty awesome template of how to love people and how to be gracious and kind. If you believe it, he died for our sins. Sometimes when I don’t feel like doing something, but I know it’s right, I remember, I’m pretty sure Jesus didn’t feel like going to the cross and dying so that we don’t have to feel what we should have to feel. What Jesus did when he came to the cross was basically say, “You don’t have to feel any of that stuff.” We could take out all of our insecurities, we could take away all of the hurt, all the pain, all the fear, all the trauma. That doesn’t need to be there. So all this healing that you’re trying to do, it’s unnecessary. We have the greatest healer of all and his name is Jesus Christ. And he really heals. This is it. It’s time that we all share our voice. Whatever you believe. Share it. I’m at a point where I’m not going to hold this in."

  • n1kk1a

    Ok, Justin. ?

  • Smith Jane

    Hmm... I got nothing

  • Mel

    His hair irks me

  • Bootcampgirl

    Dare I say it, pretty good responses from the Beib...:kona:

  • Brooklyn Zoo

    I like Justin

  • Buttercup

    On today's edition of "IG inspirational memes...."

  • Noirluv45

    He is so right about love.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    Chile boo. What this rich, spoiled manchild know about love? About as much as Breezy I suspect.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    I disagree...Love isn't a choice, it's a feeling....the choice is when you actually act on that feeling and choose to do what it takes to keep it.

  • 1/8

    I don't understand why an intelligent kid is always associated with utter ignorance.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    That past relationship thing is true. sucks sometimes, bc you don't want to repeat the same mistakes so you hold back.

  • L.T.L. Since 2007

    Whether you agree with The Biebs or not, this is a much better response than I would have expected from such a dyck head. Much better.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    Im glad he is growing up

  • Noirluv45

    Feelings fluctuate depending on the day or whatever a person is going through. Sandra talks about that all the time. When a person is with someone for years, they don't continue to have those same feelings. It's supposed to mature. That's why when people's relationships hit bumps, the "fall out of love" because they don't feel those butterflies anymore.

  • Noirluv45

    He knows a lot more than many people twice his age.

  • abby-o

    Oh well i wish i could choose to not love this boring ass hole that i do

  • Jessica

    Wow. Such wisdom.

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    New Post. Miko Grimes.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    But what happens when that feeling changes as it most likely will? I believe that's when you choose to love that person though at the moment you don't necessarily feel the love. Just my lil 2 cents, lol.

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Was this from High Biebs or Sober Biebs?????

  • Use_Coasters_aka_Sol_88

    I think he had some good answers, I'm pretty amazed & I enjoyed reading them.

    Damn you Justin!

  • Winner

    Isn't he racist

  • Prettyreddbone?

    You may know the right thing to do yet choose to do wrong. I guess he has to mature a bit more.

  • 1/8

    He's probably a follower.

  • Fendi

    "Love is a choice, not a feeling." Message to the gays. Come through, Kate Goss... I mean Ellen Degen... Awww, hell, Justin Bieber.

  • Fendi

    "When the dopamine wears off..." One of my favorite lines of hers, along with her frequent mentions of narcissists. I find myself quoting her on other blogs. Lol. And there's another term she uses that I just remembered - milquetoast. ? Definitely no shade whatsoever, SR. That should let you know how long I've been a lurker.

    Signed,

    Say it loud. I lurked and I'm proud.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    That's what so scary about love, feelings change. For me choosing love is based on different factors but once I'm in I'm not going nowhere. Al Green's, "let's stay together" is my anthem.

  • Queen Negus

    ??? that was for the dopemine comment only!!

  • Fendi

    Because he is a kid. He was working, earning $100 million+, digging his family out of poverty when he should've been playing in a gd sandbox. I'm not a baby, but trust when I say, I keep my surroundings light You will see lots of Hello Kitty, skateboard decks, sneakers, and other whimsical items around. If people equate me with being immature as a result, so be it. Life is stressful, not because it was meant to be, but because people will stress you tf out. I'd rather have Candy Crush and Soda Crush as my coping mechanisms than dark liquor and drugs. I suspect he is similar in his lifestyle choices. I saw him open the back of his Escalade to grab his skateboard and go ride the ramp and what I believe is an ex-bestie's skate shop. He also had a hoverboard in his SUV. Life is to be lived, so if you aren't living and doing it well, there is but one alternative. ????

  • MookieFly

    Wise words. Now is he actually living what he's preaching?

  • Fendi

    *curtsies twice...one time for the sistas who ain't here*

  • Fendi

    Thanks for the deletion of my non-offensive and quite rational post, SR. I was completely on topic.

  • lawless

    Love is based on many different factors,not just one thing. Feelings, choices, respect, ect, all play a part. When you first meet someone, the love is mostly based on how that person makes you feel, as your relationship grows older and you may lose those butterflies, that does not mean you no longer love that person, but this is where the relationship moves into making choices to stick with your love one, even though the relationship might get rocky, also, mutual respect and companionship can keep people together. you know what else? you can also love more than one person at a time, even though most people will be in denial about this, there are so many misconceptions and fairytales out there about love.

  • missmiami305

    Why is he always carrying Floyd's belts if he's so smart and articulate though........

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    well, he's a Piscean...deep thinkers.

    (That lady said that about her Piscean dog on that commercial.) LOL

  • Enoughsaid2020

    I was in love at that age, and live with someone. I have to agree with him on a lot of things he said.

  • JayCee087

    I didn't know you could reach megastardom and still be Christian. huh...

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    He's right, love IS a choice, not a feeling.

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    Exactly. I agree with him but he's still a little jerk imo.

  • LadyDujour

    yes you are so right about loving more than one person at a time. each person may give you different things you need.

  • maleorderside

    The mystery has been solved. Thanks Justin Beiber. ?

  • Lolalao

    I sung that..lol

  • Prettyreddbone?

    Proud lurker too but now we are free to join the conversation.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    Let's keep this information to ourselves. Don't want the menz to think its ok to cheat, lol.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    Outta the mouth of babes, I meant Biebs, lol.

  • LadyDujour

    dammit....okay :( lMAOOOO

  • Fendi

    ???

  • Fendi

    My maternal grandmother is a Pisces. She is the antithesis of a deep thinker. Lol. She is quite shallow and superficial. Maybe if she was a dog...

  • Fendi

    Not sure how "free" or welcome we are, but I honestly don't care. Some of the "regulars" seem to claim ownership of the blog. I'm not sure if there was some GoFundMe account that would entitle them to lay claim to this here site, but God bless them. I appreciate the cool people with warm and welcoming personalities who know how to employ levity, even amongst strangers. To quote an awesome person whose name escapes me, "When life hands you lemons, squirt life in the eye." My grip is firm. ??? They not ready.

  • sas318

    He's not very eloquent, but I like his comments about Jesus.

  • mzwhang90210

    You just have zero flucks left to give huh?
    LOLOLOL.

  • mzwhang90210

    Ummm..what happened with the guy? Did you call?

  • Prettyreddbone?

    I'm so happy go lucky, I never notice shade. I guess ignorance is bliss, lol. I come here to break the monotony of my day not to fight with folks. I have too many real life annoyances to let a blog bring me down. You are a rebel I see. Don't get in trouble out here in Sandra land so behave, lol.

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    Nooooo. That's just how we behave so as to not intimidate you lesser folk. We are very deep...LOL (as a puddle).

  • Queen Negus

    You know everybody says that BUT me? They have been kind and welcomed me with open arms and memos. If you treat them with respect and kindness you will receive it tenfold. I enjoy the Regulars and respect them based on too many Trolls come for them. Look at it like this if you are new they don't know if you will be a friend or foe?
    Ps I miss you Aroth and Kdub, I need a good azz laugh from yall comments?

  • Gemcards

    Yes

  • Gemcards

    Sounds more mature than most his age. Have to agree that love is not a feeling. How you feel differs from day to day. From some it could be hour to hour. When you live someone, you are making a choice that despite or against all odds, you love them.

  • Fendi

    I feel you! That's what is so great about the blog. You can interact with likeminded people (in some cases) and have positive exchanges about a myriad of topics. There are some very kind people here, but there are also a couple wigs I would snatch if I had a Hazmat suit. ?

  • Prettyreddbone?

    That's what I love about blogging, you can ignore ppl whereas in real life it's not that simple. Respect should be shown to everyone even if you don't agree with them. To be honest, trolls can be hilarious but then again I've never been sensitive. Hopefully we can all get along after all isn't the enemy T M Z, lol?

  • Fendi

    We'll have to agree to disagree re: treating people with respect and kindness and receiving it tenfold. Kind people are just kind. They are kind regardless of how they feel they are being treated. Written words can be left open for misinterpretation, largely due to tone. There are people here who think they bear enough significance in life that you would care to offend them. Lol. Narcissistic, much? Sometimes, people push me, and my response is, "That's not nice!" Others will push me and they'll be in the back of an ambalams (sic) praying to whatever they believe in that they survive. My motto - shoot your shot. Just make sure your aim is on point. If it's not... ???? I treat all with respect until they prove they are undeserving. Even then, I may fire a shot or 2, hit them with the hee, and go on about my life, because you can do that when you have one. (That is not an affront to you.)

  • Fendi

    I get along with some of the TMZ people - shock and awe. Perhaps it's a thing of azzh•les, unite. I assert myself to those future Grand Dragons. Their responses are to accuse me of being on "welfare," being dumb/stupid or uneducated, being jealous of them, etc. Sis: If I wanted a Kool-Aid mustache and a house full of children out of wedlock by random men, I could have them. Those sprites think the sun rises and sets on their flat posteriors. I've seen benches with more arch. I take all of it with a grain of Kosher salt. They wish someone was jealous of them, their trailers and their 3rd grade dropout statuses. Not I!

  • Prettyreddbone?

    I have been called names too, just yesterday someone said I look like a yt girl with bad hair, lol. Is it my fault I'm melanin challenged, nope. Why ppl make assumptions based on little to no facts is beyond me but those ppl make the world go 'round too. Between the rednecks to the bm who hate bw I've seen it all and I still blog with a smile. ?

  • Fendi

    The king of BM who hate BW rests on Mediaflakeout. His name is Nigg.Newton. He is defender of THOTs (see: Ne-yo's new gf) and detractor of decent BW. He ridicules BW every chance he gets, possibly because his mother went out to get a pack of cigarettes and never returned. Sadly, she never smoked. ???? When I see people like him, I know they are afflicted. I try to address them with the love of the Lord. Unfortunately, the same way Jesus can take the wheel, satan can ride shotgun. You have a very kind Spirit. That's why people pick on you. They'll try to break you because they wish they possessed your temperament. The fact that you see through the foolery makes you a victor. Keep up the great work! ?

  • Prettyreddbone?

    You too! You seem positive yet feisty.

  • Jean Paul Le’vonne

    Dis Bitch!

  • Fendi

    I will use the word 'assertive.' I'm certain that my personality stems from my occupation that doesn't occupy much of my time anymore. ? I have a new venture that I am shaping, and I am so enthusiastic. I won't dare allow anyone to steal my joy. ???

  • Prettyreddbone?

    We have something in common. I too feel my occupation cultivated my personality to a degree. Some deem my profession in very high regard while others feel my profession is full of egomaniacs. I digress. Happiness can be fleeting but joy....... No one can take that away!

  • Fendi

    Are you in law or medicine?

  • Prettyreddbone?

    You are bright my friend. Law ?

  • Fendi

    Ha! Same! When you said "egomaniacs," I knew!!! Lol

  • Prettyreddbone?

    I am too squeamish to be a MD but I love a good debate and have excellent writing skills. Student loan repayment sucks but I knew what I was getting myself into from the gate. It was nice chatting with you. I'm sure we will converse again soon. Until then???no evil, lol.

  • Fendi

    Nice chatting with you! ??? indeed. ?

  • AreSee

    Someone told me this a few weeks ago....and I believed him. With Justin saying it...it just doesn't carry much weight anymore...
    I kid... I kid... Good stuff Biebs!

  • Tea???

    Jb is working with Kanye now it all makes sense as to why his hair is styled like Ellen & his style is changing. Kanye will use him to be the artist he wants to be only it will work for JB because he's white kind of like how he's using Kim to be his human Barbie doll because well Kanye wouldn't look good in a dress.

  • IntroSpective

    I have thought the same thing before.

  • Queen Negus

    I care to offend no one on internet or in person. That's what Christians do, try it and maybe you won't be miserable online and off. Dueces?

  • Fendi

    Learn how to spell "deuces," then throw them up. If you were a true Christian, you wouldn't be accusatory towards me when I was actually being kind to you. Apparently, you missed the sentence where I clearly stated that my comment WAS NOT an affront to you.

    I'm blessed, HIGHLY favored, and very happy. My life is good. If yours was, you wouldn't feel the need to project negativity onto me. ?

  • Queen Negus

    ???? Trolls!!!

  • Queen Negus

    It was spelled right just take due replace with f and you have the rest!!

  • BRING THE PAYNE

    Gm,Tea...I cud only stomach so much of that.I feel,he's preparing his women fanbase.so when he walks out with a TRANNY...they won't lose their collective minds!

  • T3

    I'm impressed. Go Justin! I agree with him about love for the most part. I think it starts with a feeling and then has to be a choice at some point when challenges arise.

  • Nala Shakur

    Nobody noticed all the "666" anti christian writings, n penises drawn over him in the "Where Are You Now" video or just me? They show it so fast but its there smh. Let the pic tell it. Its all symbolic. Chained n drowning..smh

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    True but love evolves and a lot of people watch too much TV, they believe they know what it is. Passion doesn't mean love and love doesn't mean passion...Love is contentment to me; its that mac and cheese dish that you need to complete your plate...simple, not hard to make and filing but you can fvck it easy if you don't have the right balance.

  • Prettyreddbone?

    Mac and cheese, I like the analogy.

  • WHITTYwithWORDS

    I like your face...***blog compliments***...lol

  • Prettyreddbone?

    Awww, you are to kind ?

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    He was raised to have sense as kids grow especially in the spotlight or not they stray and lose their way a bit.

  • wouldn’t you like to know

    I love it.

  • EasyBreezy

    I'm annoyed about wasting the 5 minutes I spent perusing this publicity piece. In other news, what's the REAL reason behind Boehner's resignation?

  • Noirluv45

    The dopamine! That's it. I couldn't remember the word even though I've read it countless times.

    Oh, yeah, milquetoast. My mom used to use that term a lot. LOL.

    LOL @ "say it loud. I lurked and I'm proud." I've been a lurker for years as well, and trust, this site is very entertaining.

  • Noirluv45

    The dopamine! That's it. I couldn't remember the word even though I've read it countless times.

    Oh, yeah, milquetoast. My mom used to use that term a lot. LOL.

    LOL @ "say it loud. I lurked and I'm proud." I've been a lurker for years as well, and trust, this site is very entertaining.

  • shaybytheway

    I just could not make myself retain anything he said -_-

  • Gal Butler

    ????

  • Fendi

    But SR is right. There are a lot of milquetoast entities roaming the earth. And her assessments of couples who are drunk in love on dopamine are so factual. Once that mess wears off (see Tyga and Kylie)... Woo!!!