Charlize Theron

South African actress Charlize Theron had her hands full dragging her 4-year-old son, Jackson, to her car after ballet class.

The little boy’s temper tantrum was caught on camera — unfortunately for the 40-year-old mother-of-2 who was quickly branded a “monster mom” by OK! magazine.

Single women like Charlize Theron mean well, but boy children are more at risk for emotional and behavioral problems when there is no father present.

Emotionally neglected children throw temper tantrums when they feel their situation is hopeless. A tantrum is their way of expressing that hopelessness and lack of control.

While temper tantrums may be common for 2-year-olds, they should outgrow this behavior by the time they reach 4 or 5.

Children who feel loved, nurtured and safe usually don’t throw temper tantrums at age 4, especially not in public.

Studies show that boys who are raised by their fathers grow up to be more emotionally balanced and mature than boys who are raised by their mothers or female relatives.

That’s because boys look to males in their environment to emulate and define their identities. Boys look to men to show them how to be a man. It’s instinctive in human beings.

There are numerous studies that show boys who grew up to be serial killers and rapists were raised by women who were the dominant parent or the only parent in the household.

In the early 1980s the FBI conducted a study of convicted sex-murderers and thrill-killers and found that 47% did not have a father present throughout most or all of their childhood, and of those that did have fathers present, 71% reported that their mother was the dominant parent. [Source]

Just some food for thought. What do you think?

  • Luv Pitties

    I know of a few children who have loving parents and are spoiled and therefore throw temper tantrums in public. There are also those whose parents are too lenient and make them think it’s okay to behave in this manner. My concern is why is he in ballet class with pink shoes at that???!

  • NegraGata

    Sandra you sound like you listen to Bill O’Reilly religiously…your last 3 paragraphs are soooo judgmental.

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    I love Charlize. That’s all I got!

  • http://www.shaunbraxton.com/index2.php#/home/ chester

    studies show boys raised by their mother grow up to be serial killers and rapist? Oh, okay. And good morning to you.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I tried not to type my thoughts but fugg it….

    1) He needs a haircut.
    2) Was he playing football or maybe soccer…why is he so dirty?
    3) I know that you cannot necessarily prevent a temper tantrum and you often have to yank a child up. BUT these optics…lawd…if she doesn’t look like a mammy dragging a damn baby slave away from his mother. I am so serious… whew… I probably would have said something had I been in that parking lot.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    I know a widow with 2 sons, one is in Columbia getting his MBA and the other is an Engineer. Neither had a father past the age of 4 and she never remarried. Your point is?

  • YOUR man chose BSweet #ohwell

    Charlize, honey, you don’t drag them by the arms. You pick them up and put them where you want them to be. He’s still small enough for that.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    Those pics make me feel some type of way, can’t quite describe it…but I don’t like it. ?

  • Blaque Mahogany

    See below….

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    My last 3 paragraphs are based on facts, not my personal opinions. Thank you for reading.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    What do you think?
    ^^^^
    That she adopted a child from her home country. That was fatherless any damn way.

  • WetPntees

    *Children who feel loved, nurtured and safe usually don’t throw temper tantrums at age 4, especially not in public.*

    No!! Children who get their azzes tore up where they ACT up usually don’t throw temper tantrums at ANY age…… My children know I will DROP THEM WHERE THEY STAND!!! #TryWho #NotThisMother

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Lmbo

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    I had both a mother and father in my life and my marriage is on the rocks, my friend who is the daughter of a single parent has the healthiest marriage I know. Statistics mean nothing when we are talking about human nature, feelings, emotions and sometimes just pure luck.

  • Yoni

    So were they all sold out of black or nude ballet shoes? I’m all for dance and creativity, but dammit, man. Really? The effeminization of the black male continues.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I didn’t even see the shoes…

  • iWasteTime

    we >>> <<< here today! What was the alternative, to leave him a orphan in his home country? What are the stats of what he would have become if not adopted.

  • WetPntees

    O_o

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Pink ballet shoes on a black boy is wrong. The shoes aren’t available in other colors?

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Single women like Charlize Theron mean well, but boy children are more at risk for emotional and behavioral problems when there is no father present.
    Agreed.

  • Full Monty

    All children throw temper tantrums from time to time especially spoiled rotten ones. Doesn’t mean that they are emotionally neglected. It just means that they are children and children do what children do. How many times did your mom have to have a conversation with you before you went to the store saying don’t ask me for nothing because I don’t have a lot of money. Whoever wrote this article obviously doesn’t have children.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    With her money? She could have shoes in plaid! Guess, she didn’t care. **shrugs**

  • WetPntees

    My thoughts EXACTLY!!!!!

  • harley_quinn2.0

    So the boy had a fit, he fell onto the hot azz pavement doing the most and she’s a monster because she had to drag him into the car. Whoever’s criticizing her better be parent of the year.

  • Missy

    Well as long as you don’t Sandra…

  • MzFutureLCSW

    There are numerous studies that show boys who grew up to be serial killers and rapists were raised by women who were the dominant parent or the only parent in the household.
    This is so on point.

  • WetPntees

    A white person criticized her… I’m willing to bet my tax money on that!!!! And ONLY my tax money….

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Exactly hit it on the dot.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    She had this boy in a dress!

  • Yoni

    I pray your marriage can be healed.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    What? Why do you say that? He’s not wearing a dress in the picture.

  • harley_quinn2.0

    You know it.

  • WetPntees

    Re-study your studies because I have 3 sons in which I raised alone and neither of them are what you researched… People are so biased!

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    Thank you so much!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Some of you are criticizing what Sandra wrote without even knowing nor understanding the research that was put into finding out this information. If you are not open to constructive criticism how can you properly parent. Many people believe that there should be 2 parent homes. Being a good parent is hard work and 1 person carrying the whole load is exhausting. Stop thinking someone is always attacking and tearing you down.

  • iWasteTime

    Children who feel loved, nurtured and safe usually don’t throw temper tantrums at age 4, especially not in public.
    ————
    lmaooooo!!!!!

  • harley_quinn2.0

    Chile I would’ve got worse.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Correct. Correct. I got some poster together who came days late the post last week about Charlize on she shouldn’t have adopted a black baby. Umm whites are only 10% of the SA population vs 80% black. If she wanted a baby from her home country, guess what basic math says his race probably was gonna be?

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Another picture that was posted on the web.

  • LeBrick James

    Well, lets be honest. One of the reasons so many single women are raising boys alone is because the fathers are not stepping up and being present in their sons’ lives.
    Very few single women choose to raise their sons alone. But we have too many men just dropping their seed and not making it a priority to be there to raise the sons/daughters they created.
    I was raised by a single mother so I know first-hand all the challenges that came with that. So I give props to all the single mothers raising their kids without the father present.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    The title to the story is another topic altogether ?

  • MzFutureLCSW

    She wrote that research was conducted. They interviewed and reinterviewed, etc serial killers to come to this conclusion.

  • WetPntees

    That’s why their children grow up being serial killers because of lack of discipline. They don’t believe in spankings (or whoopings). Spare the rod and spoil the child says the Lordt!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Oh, she cared. That is why she did it.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I’m just going to say….that there are African orphanages wherein the child still has both parents, who come to visit the child, but because of health reasons or financial reasons, the parent is unable to care for the child, so the child stays in the “orphanage”. If you remember back when Madonna (I believe) adopted the black kid, the child’s father kept saying he was tricked. That was why, the children are often sponsored at the orphanages until the parent(s) are able to take care of the kids.

    I don’t know if that is the situation here, but I just wanted to point that out. White people often go to Africa and some European countries and steal these kids from their families.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    Not the hot pavement ?? I like how you think!!!

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    I HAVE LOADS TO SAY BUT I’M BIASED AF RIGHT NOW.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Smh. I’m done…

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    FAR WORSE

  • LeBrick James

    Understood. But just because your 3 sons didnt turn out that way ( and God bless ’em) that doesnt negate the findings of those those studies that MzFuture is referring to.

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    LORD I FEEL THE WORD VOMIT COMING UP…FIGHTING HARD TO KEEP IT DOWN.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Yes, all people, who are not afraid to be themselves are biased. Including you. The study did not say ALL boys. So, why take it as such? Why take it so personal?

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    “IT JUST MEANS THAT THEY ARE MASTER MANIPULATORS AND CHILDREN DO WHAT CHILDREN DO.”

    JMO

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Share. We are all have a voice on this blog.

  • Yoni

    You’re welcome.

  • Yoni

    #pink

  • WetPntees

    Thank ya LeBrick

  • SpillyNillie

    Say it again! My son’s father is very much present but I guess I’m defined as the dominant parent. Honestly, I think I do a better job at preparing my son for the real world than his father does. Some women make better fathers than some men and that’s just the honest truth. How beneficial is an “ain’t shit daddy?”

  • Dani B.

    LeBrick James :-) so glad SOMEONE understands
    So TRUE! I am a SINGLE MOTHER , it was NOT by CHOICE. I would have loved for it to be another way, but this is what it was for me and MY children. yes, the struggle is REAL but I did what I had to do for MINE regardless of the “Fathers”.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    I can’t remember where I saw it yesterday, but she definitely had him in a dress child! I’m surprised Sandra didn’t post it up top.

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    I’M IN THE BOAT RIGHT BESIDE YOU HONEY…I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO MYSELF TO HELP. I’M JUST GONNA FLOAT OUTCHEA WITH YOU UNTIL I GET AN EPIPHANY…HELL I HAD A MAMA AND 2 DADDYS.

  • WetPntees

    +1K

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I just read up top that she allows or encourages him to wear dresses.

  • Mel

    Or maybe he sick of being forced to do ballet and walking around in some pink flats and decided this is the day the lord has mad for him to show out

  • harley_quinn2.0

    The sun is beaming LMAO

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Stop thinking someone is always attacking and tearing you down.
    ^^^^
    This goes to know your audience. It’s personal for a huge chunk of this blog. Not me directly. I aint got no boy chirens. But ok.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    it’s the worst. wishing you luck! *hugs*

  • Mel

    Aunty did you see Adele big ass with her son dressed in full Anna from frozencostume? I’m talking dress maryjane shoes the whole 9 plus his lil big self was sitting in a small ass stroller.

  • free

    i’m like…do lil boys really wear pink flats to ballet? i haven’t seen boys that young in ballet so i’on know……

  • WetPntees

    Boy aren’t you riding Sandra hard……. Side saddle or bareback???

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    Dragon4 had a fit at Barnes & Noble when he was 3 because I wouldn’t buy him a toy. Falling out on the ground, refusing to walk fit. Picked him up and he was literally kicking and screaming so I put him back down and dragged his butt to the car. As I’m buckling him in to his seat this sprite bitch pulls up behind my car yelling “That’s child abuse. CHILD ABUSE.” Well, I move fast, and was in front of her car in 3.7 seconds deadly calm saying “Since you think its better for me to let my child throw a tantrum and fall on the ground in a parking structure with cars coming than to put him in the car. Since dragging a disobedient 3 year old to the car rather than letting him roll in filth on the floor is child abuse please, wait here with me, call the police now. Report me. Right now.” She got quiet and asked me to please move, I said I’d be happy to and in the future she needs to watch her mouth and who she judges and mind her business.

  • free

    if his mama was black, this would be a post on childhood abuse and trauma cause i woulda been done popped that azz and threw him on in there.

  • stav

    You beat me to the punch, she had him wearing a pink dress, with matching ballet slippers. Would she allow or encourage this if the child were white or biologically hers?

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Agreed. But, believe Sandra knows her audience base but when it comes to certain beliefs, she does not back down nor back peddle. I respect that. (Sometimes she does say things JUST to get a reaction.)

  • Afiya

    Not a good look…at all.

  • side_i

    My ex was raised by both parents & he was an emotional basket case but he was also Jewish so that might’ve….never mind

  • Mel

    Me either I’ve never seen it so I don’t know what she trynna do I guess karate classes full . He chose to act out while cameras rolling too he ready to go back to the motherland

  • WetPntees

    Amen… Lmao

  • SpillyNillie

    I’m a single mother (share custody with father) and I didn’t feel attacked by the post. I try my best to co-parent because that was the hand I was dealt. The reality is my son does not live in a two parent household (at the moment) and there’s no reason to cry about it. All I can do is raise my son to the best of my ability and pray mightily over his life.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    LOL!

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    Being a good parent is hard work and 1 person carrying the whole load is exhausting.

    THIS IS THE STRUGGLE IN MY HOUSE RIGHT NOW…KIDS GOT STREP LAST WEEK AND I HAD CAR TROUBLE ON THE WAY TO GET LOW-2. THE OTHER LOWS WERE WITH THEIR DAD WHO STRAIGHT UP REFUSED TO TAKE THEM TO THE DOCTOR BECAUSE HE HAS A COMPLEX. THERE ARE SO MANY PIECES TO THIS COMPLEX I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START. THEY MISSED THE APPOINTMENT AND I HAD TO TAKE OFF TO GET THEM WELL THE NEXT DAY…IN SHORT I’M DROPPING OFF AND PICKING UP ALL 3 EVERY DAY NOW…MY KIDS ARE SMALL. AND I’M BEYOND EXHAUSTED. HE’S NOT WORKING…BUT STEADY WANNA SIT DOWN AND TALK SHIT OUT. IT AIN’T SHIT TO TALK ABOUT BECAUSE YOU WON’T STEP TF UP AND BE A DAMN MAN.

  • Bam Bam Li

    Yesss, motherhood! ??? these kids will try you like no other rofl, my daughter tried this Sunday while I went grocery shopping, had to shoot her that look real quick and wispered something real sweet to her. She sucked up those tears real quick. Kids do this regardless of having both parents or just one.

  • WetPntees

    L
    O
    L

  • WetPntees

    Thank you!!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Agreed. But, some of the people on this blog TAKE. IT. SO. PERSONAL.
    Touchy and sensitive. Research has been done on this. Do I believe all research? Absolutely NOT. But, I do know from my personal observations and most importantly, what God has shown me, that this is solid information.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    BLOOP! Ole nosy azz! Glad you got her together real quick.

  • WetPntees

    *Sprinkles a little God be with you peppa on your food*

  • free

    you are confusing research with SR’s dramaticalism…..

  • SpillyNillie

    But seriously, maybe lil Jackson’s toes were hurting. I mean, he was fresh out of ballet practice. His lil face screams agony. Like, damn my feet hurt!

  • Afiya

    Did I miss the post of Angela Yee dating Plies?

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    You a lie!!!! Are you SERIOUS???? Bwahahahahahaha!!!!

  • free

    you are confusing research with SR’s dramaticalism and penchant for fanaticalist musings….

  • WetPntees

    *passes you a brown bag* shrugs

  • iWasteTime

    What!!!!

  • Liljwells

    He needs a football for one..

  • free

    this lil boy trying it with his mama has nothing to do with single parent household…..

  • LeBrick James

    True.
    Go into any prison, and ask the men there (especially the black men) “Were you raised with your father in the home growing up?” I’m guessing over 90% of them will say no.

    In many ways I feel like I’ve beaten the odds. I’m grateful to God that I’ve never seen the inside of a jail cell.

  • Nonya Bizness

    I thought it was wrong he went trick or treating in an Elsa Dress with matching crocs, and was wearing a hat with a long blonde braid attached while he held onto a mermaid Barbie.

  • Mel

    So Angela Yee is the one with the sweet pwussay that have plies acting all kinds of sprung ?

  • It’s Taurus Season

    I also think folks take offense, when folks without a kid in sight is so very repetitively harsh on the art, profession, and commitment of parenting. Sure everyone is entitled to weigh in. But unless you are a parent there is no WAY you can begin to encompass the struggle. Single or married.

    I can’t speak for everyone here. But the reaction that the topic always garners overwhelmingly says yes.

  • Yoni

    Who?

  • SpillyNillie

    And I thought she had some sense…

  • hotntot95

    I don’t like it, never have…not all yt people have bad intentions but I truly believe they slick want indentured servants or (legal modern day slaves) I have yet to see a single black woman adopt a yt child, …..I’ll wait.

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

    i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t do you know what that mean?

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Same thing I said before in regards to someone else. Using those children for free labor and sex is well documented.

  • Milani

    How many times did your mom have to have a conversation with you before you went to the store saying don’t ask me for nothing…
    ==================================
    All of this^^^^^ Hell, even when I DO have the money, I tell my babies “Look, I’m about to go in here, get what I need to get and leave, ok? Don’t ask me for anything, don’t show out and act a fool in here, and don’t you dare embarrass me, ok? Understand?” I get a yes mommy and go about my business. They know better.

  • Mel

    Naw they wanna be dubbed cool for making them lil boys feel it’s ok to dress up like pansies cus after this pic came out the media labeled Adele as cool mom ?

  • WetPntees

    I only stated that to her because she stated that it was “on point” as if to say it was true. That research is opinionated and biased, so women like myself who can PROVE it to be wrong feel a tad bit offended to say the least.. No harm no foul!

  • SpillyNillie

    Cuz when I tell you I’ve seen lil Jack or Bella acting a straight DONKEY in public with BOTH parents in tow *sips tea x 2*

  • AListDiva29

    Sandra, u don’t have kids, so u cant really say they how they should be acting when u don’t deal with it on a regular basis. This post is reaching! Kids have fits for all kinds of reasons, plus they were in a parking lot, she had to make sure he didn’t get hit by a car! These kind of things happen all the time with kids, all mom’s on here have experienced this at one time or another, so it hardly means she’s not fit to raise a child!

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    Radio personality on the same show I mentioned last week. The Breakfast Club with Charlemagne the god & DJ Envy.

  • Yoni

    That black horse is BEAUTIFUL! How many inches and bundles can I get out of that tail tho’? :thinks:

  • SpillyNillie

    Cuz when I tell you I’ve seen little Jack or Bella acting a straight donkey in public with BOTH parents in tow *sips tea x 2*

  • harley_quinn2.0

    I bet she won’t do that again lol

  • SpillyNillie

    Cuz when I tell you I’ve seen lil Jack or Bella acting a straight FOOL in public with BOTH parents in tow *sips tea x 2*

  • SpillyNillie

    Aaayyyeeeee!

  • hotntot95

    Yep, or “playmates” for their biological kids…like pets, I don’t trust them at all.

  • Satin Panther

    This kid is going to grow up thinking he was born in the wrong body. Charlize is raising this child so she is gender bending him by having him only play with dolls and dress like a girl. Do y’all remember when Charlize was dating Sean Penn and it was reported that the cops had to be called while they were all hiking and the child was screaming bloody murder so much so to the point where on lookers called the cops bcuz they were concerned. Interesting.

  • LeBrick James

    I’d rather see these black kids raised by a white woman than to live in an orphanage.
    People seem to hate on these white celebrities adopting black kids, but…Where are the black celebrities adopting black kids?

  • WetPntees

    *HOLLERING* Chile bye….

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    But unless you are a parent there is no WAY you can begin to encompass the struggle. Single or married.
    ——–
    Say that!!!! Parenting is one of the most rewarding things you can do in life, but it is challenging, even under the best of circumstances.

  • iWasteTime

    From the title, the “stats” and the personal view of a non parent.
    The author of this post KNEW what they were doing! This is to get the people going.
    This post touches on at least 4 hot button issues all while using less than 300 words!
    Bravo

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    I wanted her to call the police. I don’t play that shyt. I’m no where near perfect but I do not and will not ever abuse my children in any way.

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    ***

  • Fyrebaybee

    I agree. Boys raised with no father or male presence often times grow into Mitches.

  • WetPntees

    I never once said I was not biased….. So….. *Grabs a handful of Parker’s chewy ice*

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Getcho ass away from this blog making sense sis! Log OUT. Ha! But then folks like well Sandra tryna give yall the education and yall dont eem want it. And taking it personal. WHET?

  • LibraGirlonly

    That’s not true I just watched one of those who done it shows in the ID channel. A guy who lived I the home with both parents whose father was a cop was going out in the middle of the new gut killing folk. Smh

  • Yoni

    This is to get the people going.
    ____________________
    I already KNEW THAT………and I haven’t even read it………yet. :tea:

  • Afiya

    I LOL, my husband was like who Plies…I showed him, he just shook his head. LMAO!!!!

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    If you have brothers, cousins, in-laws, etc that are doing good and can serve as a role model, you can plan activities with them and keep them in your son’s life. I think that’s what makes a difference. Having male relatives (not boyfriends) consistently in their lives. Wishing you luck!

  • harley_quinn2.0

    I’ve heard they dated in the past. They must have rekindled their relationship.

  • PhenomenalWomanThatIsMe

    So it’s always the mother’s fault. Got it. *insert eye roll here*

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    Dragon11 was with me. She was impressed with my speed. She said “Wow mom I didn’t know you could move THAT fast. That was like super hero fast.” ?

  • Yoni

    Not true. Because I know of TWO males with mammy and deddy in the home and they are mitches………#currently #40+yearsoldboffofem

  • Yoni

    New post – we’ll see if Tidal “fails” now

  • Afiya

    Watched the Breakfast Club, it was so obvious.

  • SpillyNillie

    While we talking about serial killers, what about the .5 cents of the world? What do we blame his pettiness and bitchassness on?

  • Yoni

    #seriousface

  • Milani

    this comment and that gif, LOL!!!!

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    Seriously, when people do that I’m always thinking, is this your first time on the blog?! **sigh**

  • Empress

    I hate to see children treated like political/social statements. I agree 100%. People will say that “gender roles” or characteristics are a myth but these are the same people who will say that “I knew I should have been born a girl instead of a boy when I wanted to wear female clothing, play with the girls, and wasn’t interested in boy activities”. Obviously gender roles/behavior etc are a reality. We need to stop the BS. If forcing/encouraging a transgender child to dress in the manner of their birth gender is cruel how is it not cruel to force/encourage a child who is not transgender to dress opposite their sex just because you think it’s “cool”?

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    Really??? Wow. Never would have pictured them together.

  • Yoni

    Got it. Kinda figured, but, whale…..still didn’t know who she was/is. I take that back, I’ve heard of her, but to pick her out in a lineup, would not be possible. LOL

  • SpillyNillie

    His father is very active in his life and so is my father. However, he lives with me so therefore, I’m the dominant parent.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    You are a super hero…you’re a mama! :)

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Did you notice the part that says single parent OR dominant mother? Since we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, we can only assume, from past research, that their mothers were the dominant figures in the household and their fathers were weak.

  • LeBrick James

    Thank ya, sister!

  • WetPntees

    Seems like it..

  • Luv Pitties

    Pink ballet shoes on any boy is wrong. I’m still wanting to know why he is in ballet. Effiminization of a black man, he’ll be just like Shiloh in reverse.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Studies have shown that women are not emotionally equipped to raise boys to be men.

  • SpillyNillie

    “Yo mama got mo heart than yo daddy b!tch ass; that’s who made you soft.”
    – Boosie

  • LibraGirlonly

    The President was raised by a single mother. The grandparents finished the job after the mom died. The mother planted the foundation he needed to grow into a good human being.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Homosexuality. Not all are like that. But he is.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Hanging out in bath houses.

  • CaliYoruba

    They come in black for males. Idk why she chose those.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Being a Peeping Tom.

  • SpillyNillie

    Chile…wrong answer!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I saw that. Adele is a few cupcakes short of an even dozen.

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    She was so funny telling DF the story later. “You KNOW how Austin is dad. You know. So this dumb lady called mom a child abuser and she moved like the Flash. It was so fast. I didn’t even see her move. She just popped up in front of the lady’s car!” ???

  • LeBrick James

    Sure Sandra, we get that.
    But with all due respect, shouldnt we be pointing the finger more at the men who are absent, than at the women who are struggling to raise these boys?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Are you referring to me? I included a link to verified research on serial killers.

  • Luv Pitties

    Looks like a scene from Roots: The New Generation to me

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Maybe the mother was the dominant figure in the household? Maybe the father was weak emotionally and allowed the mother to discipline the boy. A lot of weak men do that.

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Yep. A WHOLE lot of Presidents.

    Obama
    Clinton
    Jackson
    Jefferson
    Washington

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thanks hun. I didn’t conduct the research. I’m just making the results of the research available, as any good blogger would do.

  • Mrs Mary

    The little boy looks scared for his life, and by his body language he looks like he is being abused, child protective services needs to open up an investigation. Theron always scared me anyway! LOL

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    And yet not one kid in my family ever acted out like this in public.

  • Luv Pitties

    I am sorry to hear about your marriage and hope things will turn around for both of you.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    No one said anything about the race of the parent. Only that the parent should not be a single mother.

  • LibraGirlonly

    The fathers must have been weak. Lol

  • Yoni

    NO I didn’t notice it. But in one of the male’s case, his mother is not dominant. The father is, but the father is also weak when it comes to the public. In the house he rules. In public, he holds his head down when speaking to ppl. In the case of the other fella, I don’t know how his parent roles play out. I just know that he lives at home with both parents and has no sense of future readiness for himself or his son that he’s raising because the mama is a hoe. He chose to have a child with the LSLH “exotic”, don’t have custody of her prior kid, living out of a hotel, felony chick over the light skin, loc wearing, college educated, no kids, rental property owner chick…………and now he’s mad because she abandoned HIS child and he’s left to raise the baby “alone”. :tea:

  • harley_quinn2.0

    IG antics aside, he’s a very intelligent dude. I wouldn’t date him tho lol.

  • Mrs Mary

    exactly! let the child decide, you cannot make the child what you want the child to be. just be a good parent and guide them through schooling and give them love, but you cannot make them into a girl if they are a boy and vice verca.

  • Canary Red™

    That’s exactly what she is doing. She will give him back real soon, before he end up beating her a$$ one day.

  • PhenomenalWomanThatIsMe

    Let me know when they re-engineer children to suit your narrative, because I have yet to meet a child (of a single mother, gay parents, model citizen heterosexual parents, etc.) who doesn’t have bad/emotional days. This boy could be tired, hungry or just being cranky. His mother’s marital status has nothing to do with it. Further, I know plenty of good, hardworking men who were raised by single mothers and plenty of mitches who were raised by both parents. And before you throw shade at me, I was raised in a two-parent household and raising my son in one as well. BUT, I don’t judge people who are doing the best they can under the circumstances they’ve been given.

  • Well.well$well

    Kids who throw temper tantrums don’t feel loved. ?You must not have kids…

  • Paige

    Ballet class? That’s the problem right there. SMDH

  • LeBrick James

    Boom.
    Lots of weak husbands out there, not taking their rightful place. I’ve witnessed it up close, and it’s a pathetic thing to see.

  • Paige

    Let’s try no colors! Ballet is not for little black boys. He needs to be playing baseball, soccer, basket ball, anything but ballet!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    It’s easy to see why Sean left that camp.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    thank you!

  • LeBrick James

    youre serious?
    You know there are a lot of [straight] men who do ballet, right?

  • Paige

    I am very serious. I did not bring sexuality in to this. I simply said ballet for black boys is a bad idea.

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    Hey. It’s going to be alright. Don’t ever think otherwise. Get up, do your best everyday, and try and stay positive. I’m not saying problems will magically disappear but it is all going to work out. Either he will step up or he’ll keep it moving. That’s his decision to make. You can’t control what he does or does not do, you can only control what YOU choose to accept so don’t let his actions or lack thereof upset you. All you have to do is stay positive and keep pushing forward. You and your little ones will be alright as long as you are determined that you will be.

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    I wonder who my kids feel is the dominant parent…

  • Meme81

    What is wrong witchu?? LOLOLOL!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I’m not saying any one of you are bad parents. I’m only pointing to verified research that shows women may not be emotionally equipped to raise boys.

  • Paige

    This article should have been titled “Why white women should not adopt ethnic children”.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    Agreed!

  • mela.reign77

    Being a single mother has nothing to do with it. My mom raised boys and they knew and know to this day not to play with her. They’re respectful and I must say my mother did a great job. The problem is the law is telling people how to raise their children but let them not move fast enough, have a candy bar in their hand and whatever the case and they can shoot and kill them like their nothing. But if you discipline your children you’re a monster or deemed a bad parent. Stop it… little Jackson would have had a firm talking to when we got in the car. And not to mention all of these medications that they have kids on when they don’t want to deal with issues.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Why did I laugh out loud at this! ?? You’re a good parent who communicates effectively with her children. Some people in here take this post personally when that was not my intention.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    You KNOW how Austin is dad. You know.
    ————-
    This is such a big sister statement, I love it! I can’t wait until my youngest is old enough to get some statements like this from my big girl. LOL!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The researchers are all wrong?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    lawd, Jackson bout to stretch out ain’t he! LOL!
    (she’ll learn to walk on around to the driver’s side and get in and crank that motor… he’ll get his lil self together just long enough to finish that tantrum after he makes sure he’s inside the car, ROFL)

  • Renay Peters

    A FROZEN DOZEN!!

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    I wouldn’t know because my soldier turned out fine maybe because I tore into that behind when needed be and got him together immechedly once he emm tried to stray.

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    i WILL NOT BE TAKING ADVICE ON PARENTING FROM SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T HAVE ANY CHILDREN. GIRL BYE

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    I’M LOST AS HELL RIGHT NOW…CONSTANTLY GIVING MY ALL AND NEVER GETTING ANYTHING TO SHOW FOR ALL THAT I GAVE. THE STRESS IS KILLING MY BODY…I’M A SHELL OF WHO I USED TO BE AND VISIBLY UNHEALTHY. NOT EATING EXCEPT WHEN I’M AT WORK BECAUSE OTHERWISE I WOULDN’T HAVE THE ENERGY TO DO THE WORK. THE CONSTANT BACK AND FORTH IS WEIGHING ME DOWN…I HAVE A LOW TOLERANCE FOR PEOPLE WHO WON’T ACCEPT ACCOUNTABILITY FOR THEIR OWN ACTIONS…YOU CONSTANTLY WANNA SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT WHY YOU’RE SO FULL OF ISHT. I JUST CAN’T!

  • yallcrazy

    That pic is so sad. I think he knows that’s why he’s acting a plum fool. These stars do anything to keep their money coming. Those pink ballet shoes is to impress the gays

  • Meme81

    It seems like a lot of celebs are raising their kids ‘genderless’ or gender bending. Look at the Smith kids, Angelina’s son and Gwen Stefani’s sons. It’s a real thing they do. smh.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    You cannot be a father. You can only be a mother or a parent. As long as you are talking to him and he can mirror your behavior in being, respectful, responsible and relatable that will go a long way.

  • Rachel

    Why is this boy in ballet any way?? All that money she got wouldn’t taekwondo been better? At least it teaches kids discipline. All that photo above show is this kid is merely an accessory for s photo op gone bad. The nannies prob have better control of him.

  • free

    if the researchers assert that kids in two-parent homes don’t show out, they’re wrong.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    I’m raising a bright well balanced girl by myself , never ever threw a tantrum .
    Leave it to childless people to tell you everything about parenting lol

  • Saharabutnotdry

    An HIV + murderer

  • jazmine

    What if the dad dies should they give the kid up for adoption to a double parent home?

  • AnonymousRose

    umm, my only question is who the Fck was in the Ballet Class? she has only a black son correct? who the Fck jumping around in tights and twirling?

  • jazmine

    I guess it’d be better for him not to have a father in an African orphanage

  • TeeTee

    When a little black boy knows his worth

  • free

    if the researchers further assert that a 4 year old is showing out because he does not have a father present, yes, they’re wrong. anybody will tell you that young kids act out because they are not mature enough to fully control their thoughts and actions. the kid could be tired, hungry, not want to leave play, etc., any number of reasons for not getting in the car. has nothing to do with a mama or a daddy.

  • Full Monty

    LOL! And some kids can’t wait to go to the store and show out. Black and Hispanic mothers don’t play that at all. They will beat the brakes off their kids and look at you like mind your business.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Mine neveeeeeeer did , not at 2 not at 7 , she know better .
    I rule this mofo , throw a tantrum when u get married

  • MzFutureLCSW

    That right there: repetitively harsh on the art, profession, and commitment of parenting
    Harsh being the key word. I have no children by choice.
    But, I was a kid and I had some very negative experiences. Some, if not many would have been avoided if my trifling father had been present. After becoming an adult, I had a spiritual experience, where I knew EVERYTHING I had missed out on by having a trifling father. And do not get me wrong, my mother was trifling in her own way. People have to be willing to see when they are being overly sensitive and when constructive criticism is given, TAKE IT. Again, a child, any child WILL miss out on important MILESTONES in life by not having a HEALTHY father/male in their daily life.
    When I say something about parenting, I am saying it based on what I have seen or heard a person doing that shows their child NO respect. I do NOT need to have a child in order to know respect when I see it. I do not need to have a child in order to know that a parent that is almost NEVER consistent is NOT raising their child to be responsible nor reliable. When someone says, “See you don’t have any kids”, it is DEFLECTION because the truth hurts and some people just have rotten attitudes and like to argue or have low self esteem and can not handle the truth.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Honey , I grew up in the healthiest of households , parents still married , doing 45+ years ….
    I can’t keep a relationship to save my life !
    Analyse that..

  • ShelleDC

    Now Auntie I have a question … What about little boys whose father was raised by a woman. Cause my son is fine when he is not with his dad. Even though he loves him and will jump at the chance to see him. He comes back depressed ALL the time. He has shoes that he will not wear because his dad told him he better not get a crease in them. In fact he has three pair, two are too small now. But his dad told him he was his headache, he wish he never had him, he wish he stopped at his sister, and that he would be better if he was a boy.

  • askquestions

    Maybe the boy is starting to realize he’s just a social-studies project.

    I believe a single white woman has the right, or the means, to raise a black man.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    What makes you think that? The same way you are questioning Sandra is the same way you can be questioned. You have no idea, if this woman is a warm and loving parent. And neither does Sandra. But, after having life experiences and getting some SELF insight and reading text books, the pieces fall into place. People on the blog getting angry does nothing for one being humble and open to looking at themselves so they can be a better parent. It is not about the adults, it is about the child growing up balanced.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    No. A the end of the article, she cites a source. Go read the whole study.

  • imright

    kids act up all the time ? big deal

  • MzFutureLCSW

    LOL! May God be with you too, sis.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Auntie Sandrita , I hate to break it to you but … Mmmmm, this is not your cup of tea nor your expertise .

  • Saharabutnotdry

    African mommies ( black , white and brown ) don’t even ..!

  • Renee Bee

    I know it’s not easy but keep your head up.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Stoopid! ? This place cracks me up sometimes. Whether we agree or not with each other, there is always a way to find humor.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Exactly. It is exhausting. I can now have empathy for my mother, as an adult. She did it alone. She had no one to depend on and her nuclear family was NOT dead. I get that. The issue seems to be people becoming so defensive. It is best to have a 2 parent home. For multiple reasons. One reason, because it is exhausting.
    Sorry, you can not depend on the over grown boy, who is masquerading as a man. Hang in there, sis.

  • SameoleJ

    Mine will tell you ME!! Shoot my daughter just posted me on FB and said…..when your momma can help fix your car and you don’t need a mechanic!! My boys tell people in a heart beat, she is nice as hell until she is mad…..then we leave the premises!!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Exactly.

  • YouWearItWell

    Agree!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Not at all. I just agree and there is a lot of deflection going on.

  • SameoleJ

    Having a 2 parent house and his momma being a hexagonnaroon or something like that!!

  • guest

    She was mad at him prior to the pics probably due to he didn’t demonstrate good behavior AND PARTICIPATION in BALLET and She was mad at him and he obviously got frustrated..SMDH

  • SameoleJ

    And using them booty relaxer thingies- forgot the name already, but they supposed to make it smell like lavender.

  • 1/8

    The American family is a dying institution. Children need TWO, loving, legally committed parents in the home.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    That’s awful ! I would do something about it , he is mentally abusing him .

  • guest

    I bet that’s one of the reasons why her and SEAN PENN broke up because of that little boy. Sean probably wanted to discipline him and she won’t allow it.

  • SameoleJ

    I know about 3 that had a dominant daddy and still turned out to be mitches!! #SORRYGRANNYBUTYOURSONSAREMITCHES

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    While temper tantrums may be common for 2-year-olds, they should outgrow this behavior by the time they reach 4 or 5.
    ______________
    One of my kids tried it and had a tantrum once and I had one right along with her… in the middle of the mall :chase: :spank: :shotsfired:

  • Saharabutnotdry

    You are gay , GAY!!!! It’s dying with you .
    You are the perfect antidote to what you preach ! Talk about an oxymoron .

  • Scroogwap

    Black boys should be raised by black mothers.

  • SameoleJ

    REALLY?! You don’t say!!

  • 1/8

    There are tons of unwanted black children up for adoption; yet, no one, including other black people, seems to want them.

  • SameoleJ

    ….post touches on at least 4 hot button issues……More like……. post POUNDS AWAY on at least 4 hot button issues. LOL, she is a master!!

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Charlize is the THIRD white women that I’ve seen with a BLACK male child acting a fool in public. I will never for get the trashy white woman I witnessed dragging her black “son” across the street in the rain. He couldn’t have been no older than 2. He wasn’t walking fast enough for her so she starts dragging the child across the street. Then complains to him about his clothes getting muddy. I sat in my car watching them until I couldn’t take it anymore. I got out of my car walked up to them and asked the child if he’s okay. I gave that woman a piece of my mind that day, smh. The little boy wanted to leave with me, I felt so bad.

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    girl! you already know… ROFL!!! :hugs:

  • 1/8

    Why is ballet a bad idea for black boys?

  • Guest who

    Exactly I think children from single parent homes look at relationships differently mad place more to it emotionally IMO

  • T’acheItEzee15

    Jackson is a little cutie, so is Sandra Bullock’s son Louis. :-)

  • 1/8

    That’s an interesting story.

  • SameoleJ

    Let me go have this conversation with my 4 year old grandson, who just threw a tantrum with is DADDY the other day. Right after they had a “meeting of the minds” he was back to loving his dad and all that good stuff!! CTHU

  • SameoleJ

    How do your kids act in public? Taps fingers to the beat of Formation, while I wait for that answer…………………..

  • soflystann

    But kids act up, this is not uncommon. See how the media plays.. This picture screams WHITE WOMEN TERRORIZED BY BLACK MALE.. WILD Animal tamed by Master…

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Prove it! Some many unwanted WHITE children in the system yet they get, passed over for the black babies by their own kind. WHY? FYI celebrities and Americans are not allowed to adobt children from certain parts or Europe. These children were being used and abused so their respective countries put a stop on adoptions.The next options for these disgusting people AFRICA!

  • Paige

    I’m not going to start with you today 25%.?

  • mela.reign77

    Exactly.. I don’t have any but I know that this is not the case. Kids who throw tantrums are allowed to do so in the home so being out is no different. My God kids know better, it’s all about the look and I don’t have to touch them. Well all except for one, he doesn’t listen to save his life. Lmbo

  • Renee26

    I think these moms DID let the child decide…he wanted to wear a dress so she said ok..he wanted pink ballet slippers because everyone else in the class had pink ones so she said ok…pick a side. Do ya’ll want parents to say no or to let the kids make the choice

  • WetPntees

    Exactly Unita.. 99% of the time i’m just trying to make others laugh and find humor in most cases. Of course there are serious matters to consider in some of these posts and I do that accordingly; however some people take things FAR too seriously on these blogs..

  • SameoleJ

    Let’s take a quick tour of the human brain, stopping at a little blob of gray matter behind the eyebrows called the prefrontal cortex (PFC). This is the part of the brain that regulates emotion and controls social behavior. It’s also the last area of the brain to develop; it has only just begun to mature at age 4.

    http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/02/21/toddlers.temper.tantrums.parenting/

  • Renee26

    Football players are often encouraged to take ballet classes because it makes them lighter on their feet…why should ballet only be for girls?

  • BLACK *I*C*E*

    I come from a 2-parent household (Mother & Father). All 4 of they damn kids is crazy.
    Maybe the baby is just sleepy. My 5 year old acts different in public when she’s sleepy.
    In private she’ll just let me know and lay down somewhere.

  • WetPntees

    Thank yah

  • WetPntees

    LOL…. Yassss!! Take that sh** to YO own house…. Not mines….

  • WetPntees

    I was referring my last comment to MzFuture, but since you responded I never agreed that women can raise boys better. In my case I feel I’ve done an OUTSTANDING job raising the 3 of mine. HOWEVER it is very hard, considering there are MANY things that I cannot be able to explain in depth to a man versus how well I can explain it to my teenage daughter. A males presence is DEFINITELY needed to help keep that young man grounded up into adulthood so my blessings are going out to all the single women out there including myself who try to do it ALL whilst remaining a strong woman of God… *takes a bow*

  • 1/8

    A 4 year old throwing a tantrum is a clear indication the child has poor coping skills. Over-protective parents who prevent their children from problem-solving or dealing with disappointment, create unstable children.

  • WetPntees

    HA!!!!! So it’s NOT us single mothers’ faults after-all now is it?!

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Hey Nan (((hugs)))) Chile I don’t play those games :coffee:

  • WetPntees

    Problem solved in 4. 3. 2. 1 (BAP!!)

  • WetPntees

    *twirling* Ha!! Almost pictured that…

  • Fendi

    He was also dressed as Elsa from Frozen, dress and all, in another series of pics. Prior to that, I’ve seen a pic of him in a Elsa from Frozen hat with blonde braids attached in either side. That’s not appropriate for a male child. Someone needs to pay their house a visit, because she has been shown to repeatedly feminize this child via his wardrobe.

  • Anonymouse

    That doesn’t mean a thing. There are tons of people who appear to be successful but have a ton of emotional and mental problems.

  • Fendi

    Why is he in ballet anyway? Boys his age are typically in sports. He should be playing tee ball or some other sport in a pee wee league.

  • Renee26

    There is always research and statistics that can back up any topic…just like Sandra found statistics that point the finger at single mothers someone else can find other statistics that show just the opposite. The post was meant to be negative so people will see it as such.

  • Auditor

    Yup being sleepy does it every time. Hell I act out when sleepy, hungry, or constipated lol.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    And there are tons of people who are unsuccessful and still have emotional and mental problems. If you can raise someone that’s not a failure, you did good. People don’t pay bills with mental happiness, bills are paid with money and that comes from having a good job/education. So don’t reduce the value of how far those boys have come.

    My whole point is that you can’t say someone will turn out a certain way because their father was not around. Yes, it makes it harder for their mother to raise them properly but it can be done and I simply gave you an example.

  • Paige

    ^^Says the person who obviously had no knowledge of child development. ? if he were 12 throwing a tantrum I would agree, but 4y/o GTFOH

  • 1/8

    Read “Shattered Bonds: The Color of Child Welfare.”

    When that book was written (2002), 95% of the children in foster care in Chicago, were black.

  • Auditor

    Lol that’s what I do with my nephew or I laugh at him. He calms down quick.

  • BLACK *I*C*E*

    LMAO!!

  • Auditor

    Exactly quit letting that child be abused!

  • That’s Interesting

    Uh huh. I been had my eye on you, Charlize. Sandra Bullock too.

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    He’s not playing football now.

  • Auditor

    Yup the younger they are the easier it is!

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    She wants to be “cool” smh!

  • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

    Then don’t. If it doesn’t make you happy, help you evolve, or serve a positive purpose in the lives of you and your children you have to be strong enough to eliminate it. It’s not any easy decision, and it’s one you have to be sureo of before you make it. I understand. Many of us do. We’ve been there in some way, shape, or form. It sounds so corny to say but if you change your mind you change your life. I was laying in bed one night many years ago at my wits end and lower than I’ve ever been and it hit me that this can’t be MY life. I could not keep telling myself how hard everything was. I had to start being my own cheerleader and my own damn hero. Nothing changed overnight but when I put the work in to changing my thought process slowly but surely it DID change. Your kids have a mother who loves them. You have a roof over your head. Food to eat. A car to drive. The power to change any part of your life if you are willing to do the work. You got this. *Hug* Focus on the blessings girl. Thank God for the good. Work on what you can change. Learn to let go of what you can’t. You are doing so much better than you think. You are succeeding already. You just have to see it.

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Explain why white people don’t adopt white children? Why do they pass over the white ones for a black one? Why?

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    Exactly!

  • Saharabutnotdry

    LOL

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    That’s right!

  • 1/8

    No shade. I seriously want to hear your opinion on why it’s a bad idea.

  • LeBrick James

    I’m guessing that probably 95% of all 4 yr olds throw tantrums.

  • LeBrick James

    and black fathers too.

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Not a story, its something that really took place. I still think about the little boy from time to time. I sometimes walk around the area I saw him and his ” mother ” from time to time hoping to see him again.

  • Auditor

    I don’t think it’s an issue IF the child voluntarily said he wanted to do it. I wouldn’t force my son to do it though.

  • LeBrick James

    Maybe if more black families would adopt black kids this wouldnt be an issue.
    Most black kids who grow up in orphanages are destined to a difficult life ahead. If a loving white family wants to adopt them, I have no problem with that.

  • Amel

    Maybe he asked to take ballet. People read too much into these things. Let children be children.

  • Auditor

    Exactly that’s one of my “giving back” to adopt an orphan. Whenever I get my life lol.

  • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

    THIS MADE ME CRY…THANK YOU.

  • That’s Interesting

    Looking at the pic closely, she doesn’t even look frustrated. She looks angry…like she’s mad as hell. The little boy is defensive in his little body language. I doubt she ever coddles him, even though she appears to be raising him to be a big sissy in every other way. She does not look like a loving mother. At all.

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    My youngest son did when he was three due to being non verbal and Autistic. It was short term but I never yanked him up or made him feel bad. It took patience and love to calm him down. I know as a mother that has gone through it not to speak for another child’s behavior but I can say that she didn’t have to yank him up. Something was definitely going on with him and he was wanting to be heard.

  • That’s Interesting

    Loving is the key word.

  • sunni_daze

    So she just gonna force this poor little black boy into fagdom. I mean damn she had him a Frozen Blonde wig and now this shyt.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    #Fagdom?

  • Auditor

    Lol pretty much

  • sunni_daze

    Yes they are avaliable in tan and black, black being best for boys.

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    This is what adoption agency’s don’t want you to see.

  • Auditor

    Say what?

  • mela.reign77

    I had to go back and look at the two photos again and for some reason I’m cracking up. Now I know it’s not funny but the silly part in me says it is.. In the first photo it apears that he’s saying ” let me go right now!” She looks like she’s saying Oh my gosh Jackson don’t do this to mommy, people are watching, get up and get in the car. Second photo it looks like he’s saying I don’t care I’m out of here!” Kmsl… I’m sorry but it does.

  • Fyrebaybee

    I didn’t say all.. and I haven’t met every man raised by a single mother, vice versa, but from my experience, the men I’ve met raised by women have female tendencies. Their verbiage and such is that of the mother and it’s unattractive to me. That’s all I’m saying.

  • LuvMyBrownSkin?

    Thank you!

  • Luv Pitties

    It isn’t but looking at how these celebrities (Adele and Gwen Stefani) are putting heir their male children in dresses and other girl clothing it leaves the door open for this question. I don’t believe this child requested to plié.

  • Luv Pitties

    These celebrities are not allowing their boys to be boys. They are forcing their sick agendas onto these children. Once again I doubt he asked for this activity. Explain to me the pink shoes was that him being a child as well?

  • It’s Taurus Season

    Too bad she aint American.

  • Roc

    I hate to say this, but it’s a white people thing. The only children that you see even entertaining this mess is them. Their son will come and say “I want to be a girl” on Tuesday, and have a new wardrobe of dresses and bows on Wednesday. It never occurs that they may just be imaginative. They full on help make them gay

  • LeBrick James

    Lots of white people adopt white children.
    And Asian children.
    And black children.
    It’s not like they’re only adopting black children.

  • Renee26

    You never know, he may have….the kids he plays with may all take the class. we will never know because we don’t live in her home

  • Luv Pitties

    And we see how the Smith kids turned out.

  • Paige

    I didn’t say that. 4 year olds typically do not have the “coping skills” or life experiences to deal with frustrations as older children and adults do. Some 4 year olds will sulk, some will cry, and some will throw tantrums. You people kill me b/c you think you know so darn much.

  • Chaseboogie The Prince

    They should take the kid back from her.

  • Auditor

    Yup I said I’d never mess with another dude that didn’t have a father figure in his life. They have serious issues…

  • Luv Pitties

    I bet you his circle of friends are little white girls.

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    A black child has no business being adopted by a white family. How does that white family explain history to a black child with out being racist and or bias? I would never adopt a white child, I have nothing to give or teach a white child.

  • 1/8

    She and her children live in America. Her broken home is part of the American family dynamic.

  • Auditor

    Lol this could be me and my nephew. He turned 3 in January. Whoo he got a rock head and refuses to listen. Says he enjoys whippings. I don’t know what we’re going to do with him!

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Another thing, these children need homes desperetly right? So why is there a fee with adopting a child? Why is money even involved? Adoption is a legal way to sell children. I’m not paying 18 grand for a kid, I don’t understand why I have too.

  • Full Monty

    See that is part of the problem now with people. Why something has to be going on with him? Kids act out and act up on any given day. Doesn’t mean she is bad parent nor does it mean that she doesn’t have patience with her child. Folk read wayyyyyy too much into photos and “body language”. And children don’t always need to be heard. Seen yes but not always heard. U forget, this is a celebrity kid and they don’t know the meaning of the word no!

  • 1/8

    Based on the books and documentaries I’ve seen, some whites adopt black children, because it’s easier and cheaper. Yes, it cost less to adopt a black child, because there is less competition. Sad, but true.

  • Full Monty

    What! He enjoy whippings LOL! I can’t!

  • Full Monty

    Same with Angelina and Brad’s daughter. They dress that little girl like a boy and cut her hair short. D just don’t get it. Celebrity kids I tell ya. Jaden Smith dressing in dresses. smh!

  • Mrs. (Asexual) Elmo

    I don’t think she is a bad mom. Sometimes when I see a mother in distress. I try to give her a hand. It takes a village to raise a child.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Everybody has had their toddler fall out and show out in public occasionally, we just were not caught on camera. It’s not that unusual, he’s young.

  • God’s child to the end

    My nephew didn’t even cry when his Dad would spank him. Just stare at you. Punishments turned out to be more effective.

  • mela.reign77

    I agree , but dang look at the prices. Is that legal, to charge for adoption, that is? it’s like a slave trade or something. I used to be a foster mother and when I tell you its so sad to see so many kids that has been in the system since birth. I really would love to adopt eventually. I think kids are such a blessing, well all except for one of my God kids he’s Satan son… Lmbo just kidding. He’s a handful but he gives the best hugs. :) But you are so right I wish a lot people thought like that. Sorry so long :(

  • God’s child to the end

    I’ve seen church folk act like this when the food is slow! Maybe the boy is hangry. I don’t know one child who doesn’t get cranky when hungry.

  • Auditor

    Yup that’s what we do. From what I hear alot of boys are like that. Can’t beat em into submission lol

  • Auditor

    Yup says he only loves me and no one else lol. He be cracking me up.

  • Auditor

    Yes should be a crime. Guess only the rich are fortunate to adopt…

    And props for being a foster mom…I couldn’t do it but I will adopt one day. My grandmother did it for a long time.

  • the guest

    Little boys should not be placed in ballet classes by parents. Boys do not have to start ballet young like girls to excel. Boys can choose to start as young teens if they choose. While a lot of teen boys into ballet are gay, most get into ballet to meet girls. Some of the biggest womanizers in the world are ballet dancers.

    Personally, I don’t believe in boys taking ballet classes. Even though Mikael Baryshnikov is fine as hell and very heterosexual.

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Which is wrong on so many levels. Those kids needs homes , why are they being sold? I wouldn’t mind if my tax dollars were used to take care of those children.

  • SameoleJ

    This is what the experts say, so I am going to go with them, since they have studied a various array of children.

  • the guest

    Why are women doing this to their sons?????!!!!!!

    You don’t under any circumstance dress a boy in girls clothing or costumes.

  • mela.reign77

    That’s what I was thinking. And thank you so much, it was a little tough because they gave me a 9 year old when I was only 25, but we did good. She got a little older and started to look at me like a big sister instead of mommy. Boys and the works were into play and I did not know how to handle that at the time. But I wouldn’t change it for nothing in the world. I was able to offer her a stable home, teach her a few things and she taught me a few as well. :) And Kuddos to your Grandma, not a lot of people can do it.

  • ShelleDC

    Oh he no longer has access to them. After threatening to take them from me. I literally laughed at him and chucked the deuces.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Good for you and them !

  • 88

    I told ya’ll I had a feeling this woman was abusing that young boy If she’s doing this is public I can just imagine what this crazy white bish is doing to him behind closed doors.

  • askquestions

    I agree.

  • Sincerity7

    I’m sure that child is dealing with a bunch of internal issues: being adopted, no father in the home, mother of a different race etc. etc. I hope he’s in therapy just to help him work through his multi-layered situation. And maybe he’s just mad about having to take ballet class. LOL

  • Yoni

    I get it.

  • free

    lawd i cain’t! lololol

  • free

    i ain’t gon lie. don’t tell me food is served at 1 and it’s 1:45 and the shyt ain’t ready….

  • WHYDFMLII

    All children throw tantrums but both girls and boys are usually better off from a two parent household. There are always exceptions but that is usually the best environment for children to be raised in. I remember my little cousin wasn’t sitting still and acting a fool so her mother told her to stop, of course she didn’t listen until her father told her to sit down and she did it immediately.

  • Auditor

    Lol yup my daddy’s voice scares me every time and he makes this face to go along with it. I zips it.

  • Auditor

    Really lol

  • 1/8

    Your tax dollars ARE being used to take care of them. The fees associated with adoptions are supposedly for administrative, background checks, counseling, legal, and medical costs.

  • free

    d*mn, this gives me the sads….

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    PREACH! !!!! Statistics don’t mean SHIT!!! Especially when dealing with determined people

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Lmao yes!!! Taking that boy from his mammie

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    You speak nothing but FACTS. Hope your marriage heals.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    I know a woman just like you. Parents been married 47 years altogether been together 50 years. She can’t keep a man past one month. Sadly she’s addicted to pills to help her cope with her loneliness. She has a boss job too. Crazy word we live in FACTS not STATS.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    thank you so much!

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    THATS SO STUPID. SHE SHOULD’VE JUST ADOPTED A LIL GIRL THEN…,,,GEESH

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    You’re welcome

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    I don’t believe that. I think something more sinisters going on. 18 grand to adopt a baby? Come on!

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Truth .
    I can keep them , they want to be kept but it’s boring to me spending your whole life with only one person .

  • Ant Hill

    I wish a bia would with my son…I’d put hands on both of them. Adele fat a** needs to take several seats.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    STANDING OVATION

  • Ant Hill

    bia be gone with that foolishness…ain’t nan damn person encourage no football player to take ballet.

  • Ant Hill

    You are not very mart are you? Did the article say NO male child will ever be successful with a male figure present? No it did not..bye angry bird…I don’t have to guess that you are single with no man…surprise.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    The title of the article is “Why Single Women Shouldn’t Raise Boys Alone” and my response shows that I don’t agree with that.

    The name calling gives me an idea of the type of person you are. Bye.

  • Anna Maria

    You stated that single women should not raise boys. What if the father dies; gets sick; leaves the mother, etc.? Your comment makes no sense unless you are referring to single mothers who willfully raise boys through adoption or foster care. I raised my son mostly alone and he grew up to be a well-adjusted man. Ditto for many of my friends.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    You’re welcome

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Ohhhh ok.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Then just float like a butterfly and st in like a bee and be free! Lol

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Sting

  • starbright9449

    My niece just turned five and still does this crap when she’s with her Mom. She doesn’t try it while with my brother, with him she acts accordingly and proper. Her mother has her spoiled and disrespectful that’s why the little girl is always embarrassing her out in public.

  • starbright9449

    Lmao.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    I disagree.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Big Mama said wherever we showed out that’s where it was going to be. I remember one time my cousin got it with a loaf of Wonder Bread in aisle 2…or was it Butternut? I’m almost positive it was Wonder Bread.

  • atll9979

    “Some women make better fathers”…..this comment is sooooo telling of your attitude and delusion….could be the reason, you’re not with the father….how is the father “ain’t ish daddy” when you just said he is very much present.

  • Torae

    Two year olds don’t listen and are basically act like little drunk people. Sandra is right at 4 a child shouldn’t be acting out like this if they can communicate. I have a two year old and a 9 year old. The two year old is learning and is getting better but when my 9 year old was 4 at that age she knew better. All me or my husband had to do was look at her and she knew what was up. But I think people give their kids too many options what do you want to eat? What do you want to wear? What do you want to do? I think it gives them a sense of entitlement. They shouldn’t go into stores expecting to get something because if they do and the one time they don’t get what they want then there goes the temper tantrums. Also this kid should be playing football, soccer or baseball not doing ballet. After football or soccer he wouldn’t have the energy to have a temper tantrum.

  • Auditor

    I’m pretty sure she means VOLUNTARY having a baby alone. I don’t think many folks would fault a single mother that husband died of cancer or went to war and died.

  • Auditor

    Agreed

  • Sal Penya

    Pink is just a color. I don’t know why people get upset about boys wearing pink or purple. Pink isn’t just for women.

  • TheRealLee

    I agree with what you are saying however, ballet is perfectly OK. If the boy develops an interest in ballet, he needs to do it now for ligament and bone conditioning. Ultimately he might want to move onto other sports as most children do.

  • Sal Penya

    Ballet is for anyone who wants to be in ballet. Why the hell can’t a black boy be in ballet but a white boy can? Good god, ballet is very challenging and a great sport. Do you think being in ballet makes you gay? Is that why you don’t like black boys in ballet?

  • SpillyNillie

    Find you something else to do because I wasn’t referring to my son’s father first of all. And secondly, I know some ain’t shit ass dads who refuse to be fathers and the mothers have stepped up to the plate and play the role of both mother and father. Attitude? None. Delusional? Far from it.

  • Candace

    And I don’t know if anyone here saw it, but the kid was pictured wearing a DRESS on his way to a kid’s party. Even if it was a costume party (I want to believe it was), I was still confused as hell!

  • Luv Pitties

    I disagree. Haven’t you seen those “It’s a girl” signs identified with pink and “It’s a boy” signs with blue? The only think pink is unisex for is Pepto Bismol.

  • Alicia.Ashe

    Lol

  • Alicia.Ashe

    Look like he’s just having a bad day. We all have those, some days I want to slap the shyt out of folks. Meh.

  • Sal Penya

    Pink is only a “girl” color in a few cultures. Across the pond, pink is considered both a female and male color in many countries. It’s stupid to believe that a colors have gender. I’m not religious, but I know most of the people on this site are. Where in the bible does it say pink is only for girls? If god created all the colors, why did he decide that certain colors (pink and blue) are for assigned genders, but yellow, green and red are for everyone? Please explain. Also, the “pink for girls and blue for boys” has only been around in the US since the 1940s. Black people were segregated in the 1940s as well. We moved on from that, can’t we move on from gendered colors?

  • Luv Pitties

    It is stupid to believe that colors themselves have a gender, but tell me what man have you seen looks good in pink? The bible does speak about effeminate men though, and dressing boys in female clothing and encouraging that they continue to do so is putting them on a path of confusion and begins a slippery slope.

    Tell me Sal do you dress your sons in feminine clothing or pink?

  • Sal Penya

    I don’t have any kids, but my brothers wear pink tees from time to time. Why didn’t you answer my question? You’re avoiding my point. What does the color pink have to do with “feminine” clothing? Is a pink t-shirt feminine? Are you female? Do you wear blue? Isn’t blue the boy color to you? So why do so many females wear blue? Are they unfeminine and manly? I ask again, please explain.

  • Sal Penya

    I’ve seen several men look good in pink, my brothers and father included. Please explain to me how the hell pink, a color, is feminine? Some random people in the 1940s decided that pink was a “Female” color. Men have been wearing pink since the dawn of man, it has nothing to do with femininity. It’s ridiculous to think that wearing pink is a slippery slope. And don’t even get me started on that “slope”.
    And to answer your question, no I don’t have any children. I have friends and family that wear pink and look great. And don’t even ask me if they’re gay, they aren’t.

  • barbeez

    Some kids are spoiled. I was and I threw temper tantrums whenever…however well into my teens. He’ just spoiled.

  • barbeez

    I would have said…NO!! You’re a damn boy. Now you’ll wear black ballet shoes or I’ll put you on a football team….you lil pansey. Political correctness doesn’t live in my house.

  • barbeez

    why the pink shoes?

  • T3

    This I can’t stand! This is foolish!

  • http://realitytea.com/ Lady Chatterley’s Lover

    you lil pansy… LOL

  • http://realitytea.com/ Lady Chatterley’s Lover

    Especially white moms to black sons who are already behind the eight ball.

  • Luv Pitties

    Because it is. Lets explore the slope, ok today he is in pink ballet shoes and tomorrow he is in a dress (sliding further down the slope) you have yet to address that.

    I am assuming your siblings are adults who choose and buy their own attire. Did your brothers wear pink anything as children? I’m not going to ask if they are gay, that’s not my business; we are talking specifically about dressing little boys in pink. As far as men wearing pink that is my opinion I do not think men look good in pink.

  • KB

    She should hire me as a Nanny and give me 6 months. This handsome boy would be good and well behaved.

  • KB

    I feel for her though being a single parent isn’t easy. My Mother did it with three (3) girls and my younger siblings have some unresolved animosity towards her. As the oldest I had some issues with our upbringing but as I got older realized and understood what my Mom had to have been going through. I had one child RIP and my two sisters have 3 between them and going through the same thing our Mom did. They would rather place all the blame on my Mom for how their children are instead of be a family. It breaks my heart. Apologies for the 10min therapy session. ??

  • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    I liked Adele but she is getting on my nerves. She is trying to do too much!

  • Cole

    No, they are available. She’s with that Bullshit! Although as a mother of both genders, I do know that putting on a pink pair of ballet slippers isn’t going to turn my child into a gay boy, it’s just annoying that she chose pink over white or black.

  • Joshua McDowell

    I said the same thing. She needs to put that little boy in little league football or baseball or something.

  • Joshua McDowell

    People must never heard of Alvin Ailey

  • Joshua McDowell

    Boys can take ballet. You must never heard of Alvin Ailey.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You mean openly gay Alvin Ailey? The one who struggled with mental illness?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Are you referring to openly gay Alvin Ailey?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    It sounds like you did an amazing job raising 3 boys by yourself. That’s not the ideal situation though. Look at our community. Look at all our black men in prisons or dead.

  • Celestewriter

    Looks like Black men need to be better examples to boys living with their single mom, eh?

  • CosmoBeauty

    Donald Trump was raised in a 2 parent white household and he’s still bat-sh!t cra-cra! So… What’s your point?? Blacks getting the blame again.??

  • Darcy Olsen

    Unbelievable that you’d condemn this woman for adoption. This child was an orphan. Single parenting may not be “ideal” but she’s given him a family. She should be supported not shamed.

  • MistaO

    All points very true, been trying to tell females this since the whole i don’t need no man craze took off.

    Yea pink shoes, ballet class, and there exists wonder why he’s acting out?

    Same reason Madonna’s son wants to be with his Father. And she has the nerve (and selfishness ) to try to fight that.

  • shell

    Sicko.

  • shell

    This is all sick….

  • shell

    She knows exactly what she’s doing. She’s been dressing him like a wierdo since he was a baby….

  • shell

    100%

  • JENNYJONES1

    BALLET SHOES COME IN PINK, NUDE OR BLACK SO HOW DO WE KNOW SHE DIDN’T LET HER SON PICK OUT HIS OWN SHOES AND HE LIKED THOSE AND/OR MAYBE HE’S G@Y? WE ALL KNOW MEN FROM CHILDHOOD THAT NOOOOO ONE WAS SURPRISED WHEN WE SAW THEM WITH THEIR BOYFRIENDS AS ADULTS B/C WE ALL KNEW FROM THE JUMP THEY WERE G@Y. AND JUST MAYBE IT’S AS SIMPLE AS THE INSTRUCTOR ONLY ALLOWING PINK? THEY ARE IN CALIFORNIA. LOL!!!
    ALSO EVERY KID IN LIFE HAS HAD A TEMPER TANTRUM WHETHER THEY HAVE 1, 2 OR 12 PARENTS AND ARE RICH OR POOR. NOW MOST PROBABLY GOT THEIR A$$ WHIPPED LIKE A SLAVE FOR SHOWING OUT THE DIFFERENCE IS WE’LL NEVER KNOW ABOUT THIS B/C 99.9% OF THOSE PARENTS AREN’T FAMOUS SO NO ONE CARED……….JENNY JONES!!!

  • MzFutureLCSW

    It is the continuation of feminizing Black men, so that
    Whites feel safe. There are many articles and studies on this topic. I encourage you to read them. Very informative.

  • stanhope

    Utter bullshyt

  • Catherina

    Honestly? He was probably just tired and ppl are making a mountain out of a mole hill. Tantrums are still very normal in 4 year olds, independent of gender, marital status of parents etc. No one is doing the boy a favour stigmatising him…

  • darealwifey

    The boy could be autistic, but she seems to be struggling with him.

  • Barb Yohn

    Bullshit! The writer has no clue. How dare she label single Mom’s unworthy of raising boys. Pink is a COLOUR, not a GENDER! I will never buy this magazine again, or look at it on line. Disgusting..

  • Barb Yohn

    Why are you so concerned with the colour of shoes? Homophobic, seems to be you have the problem here.

  • Barb Yohn

    I encourage you to post links to this bullshit…We will wait..

  • Barb Yohn

    You are the definition of what is wrong with society today. Non acceptance, non tolerance and stupidity.

  • Barb Yohn

    Did you know that football players take ballet for balance? Are they all pansies as well??

  • Barb Yohn

    Racist

  • Barb Yohn

    Plenty of football players do

  • Barb Yohn

    Probably liked the colour shit head

  • Barb Yohn

    Why isn’t ballet for everyone? Why does he need to be playing organised sports at age 4? Why mention the colour of his skin as there are many black male ballet dancers? Cause you’re a RACIST,

  • Barb Yohn

    So what? You’re a racist…and you have an ignorant following.Proud??

  • Barb Yohn

    Why?

  • Barb Yohn

    Or maybe HE picked the colour you dipshit…I feel for your children

  • Cole

    Do you feel? No need to feel bad for my babies, they are well taken care of. I pity you though because it’s quite clear you’ve got a mental problem and you cannot read NOR comprehend what people write. Here let me map it out for YOU, you dumb, lop lame DYKE broad….

    1. You
    2.Need
    3. To
    4. Go
    5.Suck
    6. A
    7. Dick

    ?

  • MzFutureLCSW

    Did I strike a nerve? We are both welcomed to our own opinion. If you are interested in research, feel free to Google.
    Have a Blessed and Fruitful day, sis!

  • Deeds

    You the one who has no clue. Pussy can’t raise a dick. Women are unqualified to raise boys. And your little comment is insignificant & Invalid. Women are inferior by nature. You can’t fight that by being a feminist.

  • ?????? ???????

    if you want to learn karate you go to a karate master not a taekwando master, same applies if you want to raise a man a woman cannot do it

  • Tony Montana

    Idiot