potty train

The son of a very well known pop icon (mother) and a media mogul (father) is nearly 5 years old and still wearing Pull Ups.

The issue may have to do with the child’s stubbornness and refusal to potty train.

Sources say the nannies are instructed not to force the boy to potty train. They are to let him potty train on his own schedule.

But child experts such as Roger Knapp say “Toilet training can be defined as delayed if the child is over 3 years of age” and still in Pull Ups. Such children grow up to have severe emotional and psychological problems.

Public schools in America won’t accept children age 5 and up who stubbornly refuse to potty train or are stool holders. Such children are difficult for teachers to handle because of their emotional problems and the constant disruptions in the classroom.

Stool holding can lead to medical problems such as constipation and impaction which may require hospitalization due to intestinal obstruction.

So what can parents do when children refuse to potty train or are stool holders?

Dr. Knapp says “Toilet training delays have several causes, both behavioral and organic. The cause is most often behavioral.”

Dr Knapp suggests using incentives to motivate your child to use the potty. The parent is locked in a power struggle with the child, and the child is winning. Incentives are rewards for good behaviors. Incentives gives the child a reason to abandon the struggle.

Rewards include toys, candy, costumes, a pet, whatever works to motivate your child to stop refusing.

Never withhold “social reinforcers” such as hugs and kisses, or parent-child activities, such as going to the zoo, the park, or a movie theater.

Other tips include:

  • Stop all reminders about using the toilet (let the child decide when to use the potty)
  • Avoid “practice runs” to the potty or toilet
  • Remove diapers and Pull Ups and let the child go bare bottom in the house
  • Give stars for using the toilet
  • Make the potty chair convenient
  • Replace diapers or Pull Ups with underwear for older children
  • Don’t punish or criticize for accidents
  • Let child empty diaper contents into toilet
  • Turn off the TV until the child has a movement or pees in the potty
  • Have doctors prescribe laxatives for stool holders
  • Have your child evaluated by pediatricians for behavioral or medical problems

  • This has been your Medical Minute

    More Info On the Web

    Potty Training Refusals – Dr. Roger Knapp

    Hot to Potty Train Stubborn Toddlers – Wonderbaby.org

    Potty Training – Care.com

    Toilet Training Problems, Ages 3 to 6 – HealthDay

    Potty Training the Completely Stubborn, Unmotivated Kid – Alphamom.com

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    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I figured as much and also you have to spend time with potty training, and patience.

    • SameoleJ

      Small children love learning new things and should be encouraged. Positive reinforcement and encouraging independence is also key. My oldest son taught his brothers to go, as they wanted to be like him. Definitely refrain from punishment for accidents, as it takes the “enjoyment” out of the experience and makes it more of a chore.

    • SameoleJ

      And a lot of smiling, even when it stinks……………….LITERALLY!!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Thats probably why you see more of him with her than the girl..He probably outta control and MiMi ain’t taking time with him.. to busy being Mariah..

    • SameoleJ

      And little boys tend to cling to mommy at that age.

    • Willetta

      Chile BYE!! HOW TO POTTY TRAIN YOUR 5 YEAR OLD. “Boy, if you don’t get your l’il a#$ on that pot, Ahma sting it up REAL GOOD for ya!!” After approximately 2-3 stingings, the child (barring autism and retardation) will decide that the pain associated with refusal to voluntarily use the potty is not worth the refusal efforts.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Yep. My kids potty use to play “How dry I am” lol..they would just go to sit so they can push the button so it would play. I would let them go bottom naked and I would sit the potty by the tv. and give them juice.. they would pee and I would make a big deal out of it. they would crack up cuz I would make crazy faces and pretend to fall out when they did number 2 from the smell. So they would love to go so they could make mommy pass out and act a fool!

    • AnonymousRose

      what about children still sucking bottles at 4 and 5 yrs old, yes its really real… I have a family member that child does this…she do it every night before he go to bed fix him a bottle……Whats Wrong with HIm or “HER”…He act normal on lil league baseball, know his school work like abc, know how to count…. can spell his name……IT MUST be HER

    • Mrs. ??????????

      Its a shame that boy is still in pull ups, Mariah is a lazy mom IMO, if she took time and patience with him years ago, he wouldn’t be in training pants at 5. Both of my kids were toilet trained well before age 2.

    • AnonymousRose

      lol

    • SameoleJ

      Exactly!! You have to make lessons enjoyable for them and even the simplest reward, like mommy passing out from their stinkies, makes it worthwhile to them.

    • AnonymousRose

      his daddy should be doing this.. as MAN of the House “THEN”

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I..can’t even DEAL when I see that! I told yall about my sisters friend whos son would climb up on her lap and just flip her titty out and suck milk.. he was like 4!!!

    • SG

      In the Hispanic culture they sometimes let the child decide when they no longer want the bottle. A girl I used to work with said she sucked a bottle up until age 7. She would get one at night and one would be her snack after school SMH. She didn’t know if she would allow her kids to do that because she had to spend too much money at the orthodontist for herself.

    • SameoleJ

      That is the mother, being too lazy to wean that baby off of the bottle. Some people would rather the child do that, because they don’t want to hear them whining. It sets a bad example for the child that whining equals getting their way.

    • AnonymousRose

      WTF…Chile I can’t,

      She always say he wont go to sleep if he dont have his ba-ba.. TF.. we just look at her like Heifer you Crazy….

    • AnonymousRose

      well dam

    • AnonymousRose

      thats what we be saying…..

    • It’s Taurus Season

      My aunt, now 55 years old, used to come home from SCHOOL and fix her own damn bottle per family lore?. My mom is 11 years older and my other aunt is 10 years older and had started refusing. She took matters into her own hands.

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      I didn’t follow any “system” with my youngest son.
      He’s never seen a potty.

      I just started putting him on the toilet around 9 months. He started wearing underwear around then too.

    • AnonymousRose

      wow, when did she stop doing this,

    • SameoleJ

      I have no excuses for MiMi, especially since she has nannies for them. My 4 year old grandson was trained by 18 months, off the bottle at 8 months and on a sippy cup and off the sippy cup, by 18 months, except for when traveling in the car. At 4 years old, he knows to have his purchases in the store scanned and how to swipe my card or use his cash (and wait for his change) to pay for them. He just told his mother last night that the girl in class that ate her buggies was trifling and not very ladylike.

    • tisha

      Mine too! Who wants to change a child that size it’s just laziness on the parents for not letting the nannies potty train him

    • SameoleJ

      You do realize that is a system, just your own version of it. LOL Good Morning

    • It’s Taurus Season

      For my aunt it was another kid under her who still had one. She felt some kind of way. My grandmother finally stopped that madness when she had the final child. But they was obviously gonna let her 5-6 yo ass do it FO’EVAH.

    • AnonymousRose

      lol

    • SameoleJ

      Damn shame!!

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

      Is thIs a free post, cuz….

    • It’s Taurus Season

      6. When they had the last baby. My grandfather was the one who allowed it to go on so long. My grandmother just went along.

    • Angela

      I am not in their household so I can only say he is too old for training pants….And I love his little Gucci jacket….

    • Bam Bam Li

      My daughter is 15 months and damn straight she’s been getting trained. Her daddy and I don’t play LOL. She loves it though and feels so proud when she uses her potty or tells me she wants to go. Don’t understand why people have children and don’t invest in them, you have too much money mariah more than enough to stay home and TOILET train this 5 year old, he doesn’t be wearing that during the damn day he isn’t sleeping where he might not be able to control his bladder.

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      Good morning. You right. My family thought I was being funny at first.

      My oldest son would be more adamant about staying clean, if he was wearing his “cool” character underwear. Opposed to training underwear. The baby doesn’t know any different.

    • Jusstlookn

      Goodbye

    • It’s Taurus Season

      Only way they could get her to drink anything.

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      That’s cold.

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

      Who was it that mentioned that Sisters In Law show? I watched the first show on demand. It’s a few I DONT care for. For them to be a hoity toity mess. Mix RHOA with RHOP and chicks with degrees.

    • Angela

      Look at the stain on the cuff of his sleeve….I know all kids get stains but I just bet his little butt got that stain from acting a pure fool and outta control????

    • stav

      Insane ! That is Mariah Carey’s son wearing 3k worth of Guccci , but she doesn’t take the time to potty train him, peoples priorities are in a state of disarray. She wants him to be geared up , but not capable of saying I need to use the bathroom. Poor MiMi !

    • Monday

      I just saw how ex friend of the blog Wendy Williams spoke about Rihanna on the cover of Vogue… She was very classy and spoke well about Ri & even added Rihanna can mess with any man she wants… I think Shade Room is about to have a very big lawsuit to have spread that old footage of Wendy with their “Shady” comment that Wendy is jealous of Rihanna…

      Wendy must have the biggest lawyer team of the country

    • Buttercup

      I struggled with potty training Lil Butter because of Nana, the sitter of the time. I’d drop him off with undies on, and he would have a pull up when I picked him up. She told me, “You did this with the pacifier. You didn’t it with the bolla, and now the pot. Lil girl, stop trying to grow him up so fast.” :crying1:

    • NeverSurprised

      My son was potty trained by age 2. He was also reading fluently by age 2. Both of those milestones were attained through lots of parental interaction and positive reinforcement. Shame on anyone who thinks that BEATING a young child is the path to success. Whether you call it “spanking” our “stinging” or anything else, it is still physical violence perpetrated against a child by a towering adult. Any adult should have enough intellectual superiority over a young child to be able to get him to do what you want him to do. It simply takes time, patience and love.

    • Monday

      I met kids who were 5 still in diaper and potty training… It does take patience..and lots of diaper money

    • Yoni

      “Nick and MaRIIII-YUH, got 5-year old baby’s in pull-up DI-PUHZ…”

    • Monday

      One kid I know sit on the potty with a book.. Just like grown up. And that kid was very motivated. I found it so cute

    • nucynu25

      Why would Wendy be jealous of Rih ? They are in 2 totally diff lanes …

    • iWasteTime

      Welp, I’ve been here for 2 hrs. Let me do what they pay me for.
      I haven’t done a lick of work …lol

    • nucynu25

      Just like folks in the hood .. Fresh Js on they feet but the kids dont have school supplies..

    • Mel

      Or they can go the West Indian route get that tree branch and place it in sight trust me no one wants to get hit with that so you will learn sheeiit I know I did ?

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      I meant following conveniental wisdom though. You put them on, they’ll go.

    • Monday

      Lmao… I’m laughing cause I can relate

    • stav

      Exactly! Or can’t say their ABC’s , but fresh dressed, rotten teeth , and know Young Thug word for word.

    • MUNCHOSGIRL

      Maybe he is potty trained but they don’t like taking him to public toilets.

    • SameoleJ

      That little boy is a mess. I keep telling people whoever he was in a past life, is soooooovery happy to be back!!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Monday I had 3 all exactly 3 years apart.. I could NOT have done it! Just imagine my oldest just turning 5 she in pullup, my son in diapers and a baby on the way about to be in diapers…

    • MUNCHOSGIRL

      Everyone in here judging, we see one photo, he is out in public, maybe they don’t let him use public restrooms

    • free

      my child. gotta have a book or an ipad….

    • SameoleJ

      Exactly!!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Girl.. I don’t do actafewlkids.. My kids were so well mannered. And it wasn’t because I beat them into it. They did get spankins err now and then when they did is to the extreme, but they behaved in public, they ate at restaurants without jumpin all over the chairs and acting out.. It starts at home with RAISING them…

    • stav

      Yeah OK! That would be confusing to a child , wear pull ups outside ( use the bathroom on yourself ), then in the house go to the bathroom . That makes no sense , children need consistency. He is a boy , he pees standing , and for anything else Mariah has enough money to take him to upscale facilities to use the bathroom , with seat covers. There is no excuse.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Wow that babys teeth gone suffer…

    • PhillyLala

      Yes my son did that when he was potty training, it is cute

    • Fendi

      This post is beyond disrespectful. Mariah nor Nick are obligated to explain why their child is wearing briefs. Did it ever occur to you that he may suffer from incontinence? Perhaps, he has developmental issues that disable him from functioning as other children his age, toilet usage included.

      You have repeatedly attacked this child, from his public behavior to him allegedly wearing Pull-Ups. It needs to stop. You need to stop. IDC that this is your blog. When you stoop so low as to disrespect innocent children, there’s a problem. This isn’t a “medical minute” or anything to enlighten your readers. It is a repeated attack against a child you don’t know and know nothing about personally. Cease and desist.

    • SameoleJ

      My oldest grandson, has Calvin Klein and Polo underwear with all these cool patterns, his momma been buying them since he was little. He loves his underwear and will have a fit if they aren’t clean. I thought I was being fancy buying character underwear, but nope she had to out do me!! He was in the car yesterday requesting hand sanitizer. SMH

    • Yoni

      At WHAT age? Because I know some 45 year old “boys” that still…..nevermind. *goes to send mean text messages*

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      ROFL!!!

    • SameoleJ

      Stay on topic, Miss Ma’am!!! LOL

    • nucynu25

      Sad

    • Yoni

      I’m trine. But boys and mommy’s in the same sentence does something to me. LMAO

    • Vonn

      Maybe the boy just has a ba donk a donk.

    • SameoleJ

      He is something else. At school they call him their little man. He is so well spoken and polite. The teacher said he even chastises the kids who don’t wash their hands before eating. His momma blames it on me!!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I saw this documentary done in China. the baby’s that don’t even walk were potty trained. The mother would take the kid to the restroom undo the cloth diaper and say “Pssspssspsss!” and the baby went. No disposables no pull ups just pssspssspss…

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      ROFL!

    • SummerBaby

      Good info Sandra! ??

    • nucynu25

      Pow ..

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I can’t do grown azz boys

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      ….

    • Yoni

      GIRL! Ain’t nothing wrong with a man loving his mama……but sometimes you gotta draw the damn line!

    • SameoleJ

      In her defense (I don’t believe I am doing this!!) she did say “it MAY have to do with…..”. But from his public displays, it seems that either he does suffer from a disability or they have no control over him, and if this is true (the disability) then MiMi needs to stop having him around things that set him off. I am saying this from a parent point of view. Hi Fendi!!!

    • Fendi

      Hi, J!

      You can comment from a parent’s perspective because you are a mother. Who did Sandra give birth to? I don’t have any children, so I won’t touch this with a 10 foot pole.

      She has been repeatedly firing shots at children lately, and it’s wholly inappropriate. She went out of her way to mention Moroccan’s outfit being Gucci in her first post. Now, she manufactured a story about him wearing Pull-Ups. Adults should never be jealous of children. Ever.

    • SameoleJ

      True and true

    • Low E. {CIRCA 1908}

      -WRITES THIS DOWN- LOW-1 IS 18 MONTHS AND LAZY AS CHIT.

    • Fendi

      Hi, Wut. Isn’t it early for popcorn, or nah? Lol

    • Full Monty

      Now yall know Mariah ain’t got no time for that. Remember when the kid was screaming for her and she ignored him and kept waiving at the camera LOL and you think she gonna potty train him? LMFAO! Those kids are going to be more spoiled then these Trump brats!

    • TerealistGA2015

      ???? YOU BETTA PREACH!!!!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I have gotta say this.. we have got to stop coddling our kids with disabilities. We have to find out how they learn and help them function. I have a friend whose kid is on the far end of the autistic scale. That girl is completing High School, has a job at Pizza Hut, and wants to be a vet assistant. The doctors say she has a mind of a 8 year old. But she never used it as an excuse. She potty trained on time as well. I worked for this company Called the Tommy Nobis Center, and AAAAALLL the workers are disabled in some way. They are smart and crafty in their own rights. When we coddle them and make people feel sorry for them instead of working and not allowing their disability to define them, thats when I get upset. They have the right to live normal lives and it starts with the parents taking time to develop them from the BEGINNING! I hope and pray that will all the money and resources that Mariah has that IF her son is among the disabled, she is doing everything she can to normalize his life.. with pullups on at 5 you gotta wonder…

    • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

      New post.

    • nucynu25

      Yesss

    • PhillyFacts

      I agree trifling parents are too preoccupied chasing the next yams, and pickles so much so that they are neglecting their children. $$ or not makes them no different than Sharkeisha in the hood.

    • Buttercupdreamsmom

      I’m actually going through this as we speak.. The little one will be 3 in may but will not poop n the potty if her life depended in it. She will tinkle all day but poop.. That’s a no no. Yesterday I used up her last pull-up and I told her today she will be putting on training panties… I can’t keep buying pull-ups. I reward her when she tinkles and I tell her if she poops she can get whatever she wants but she doesn’t want to poop save her life and I’m frustrated… ??????

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Fendi Chile I wanted to see who was gone jump on this HUUG! It is early doh…

    • SameoleJ

      Have you tried letting her take off all her clothes? Grandson #1 has to be completely naked in order to poop, or he won’t.

    • Fendi

      *hugs*

    • PhillyFacts

      Sit her on there all day till she goes, nature will eventually take it’s course then rejoice at the first cinnamon clump you see. My grandmother did it with all the kids and it worked every time.

    • SameoleJ

      So you was being a “troublemaker”?! CTHU, snatches your popcorn and runs!!

    • MissFLondon

      I dont want to judge as I am not a Mother but do all these celebrities have stubborn children?Because I don’t know any non famous 4 or 5 year olds in diapers. Granted, people tend to potty train earlier in England, but every time you see these mostly American A Listers, their children appear to have diapers? Surely if the parents haven’t the time or spirit to do this, they can get the children’s nannies to step in? I know a lot of people who were potty trained by their nannies. What am I missing here?

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Yep.. My son loved naked pooping.. thats how I knew he went LOL. Id be in the room and here hed come streaking in the room talking bout I potty mommy.. I would be like get your little tankin booty back in that room so I can wipe you!

    • Readytochokemothernatureonout

      My girls were easier than my boy but were trained by 2. I had three stairsteps and wasn’t loving the Pampers and pull up buying so the pot was their friend.

    • jazmine

      Just curious, why only call Mariah out? Isn’t this Nick’s responsibility as well?

    • Readytochokemothernatureonout

      Lol I thought that was just Ju

    • PhillyFacts

      LOL…This is my 18yo he still locks the bathroom door because he has to get butt naked in order to poo it’s weird but hey whatever works right.

    • Fendi

      There are neurological disorders that adversely affect children and adults, causing them to suffer from incontinence. My comment had NOTHING to do with coddling a child.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Yep.. give her apple juice and a banana and set her in front of the tv with her potty to distract her and let her sit. she will go..that apple banana mix will not let her resist LOL

    • Readytochokemothernatureonout

      Mine did they watched Barney, Teletubbies whilst on the potty

    • SameoleJ

      I honestly think it is a male thing!!

    • SameoleJ

      Yeah, seems to be a male thing.

    • n1kk1a

      It could just be a preventative measure used to keep him from having an accident while he’s out and about for hours.

    • NeverSurprised

      While I think it is helpful for some of the mothers here to discuss our experiences in the potty training area, it would obviously be a lot more fair to an innocent child to NOT post his photo. All I can say is, between the Erin Andrews verdict and the Hulk Hogan verdict, bloggers may want to think a second or third time before they post.

    • Ridingfinest

      How about the parents are simply not taking the time to potty train him, I’ve noticed with the males in my family it took them a longer to potty train than it did the girls.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      OH I know Fendi. I didn’t mean that about your comment. I just threw that out there doll. Yes there are some that just can’t because biologically they can’t hold it. Hell its grown people that can’t hold it that why there are depends that are perfectly fine. there are women who have had kids that can’t either. I was just speaking on using a disability to treat a kid different when the worst thing you can do is treat them different.

    • Fendi

      You better come through with the comment of the year! Especially with that Hulk Hogan verdict potentially being the death of Gawker. That $115 million verdict is only a partial verdict. The jury still has to deliberate re: punitive damages, which could bring his settlement to $500 million. Gawker doesn’t even have that kind of money.

      To add insult to injury, someone on TMZ stated that, per FL law, a judgment has to be paid in full before the appellant can appeal the verdict. I’m not sure if that’s true, because IDK FL law. If it is, then RIP Gawker.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I think when they appeal I read that they have to put like 50 mil in bond so that min is available if it is not over turned. So Gawkers is prolly bout to go belly up..

    • Fendi

      I feel you. I don’t agree with coddling. When my mom’s physicality was fading, I was busting my ass trying to get her to bust her ass so she didn’t succumb to everything that was attacking her. Her condition was treatable and she has since recovered. It was no joke, though. I think about little Monroe and how she has worn glasses since she was a baby. Anyone with a modicum of common sense knows that’s uncommon. I think MC had a tough pregnancy. I wouldn’t expect her to divulge whether she had complications and/or if her children have issues as a result. That’s between her and Nick.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Yep… Ive had ex’s who made a habit to do it before they got into the shower so theyd be on the toilet butt azz naked…I have to admit..I do that too when Im about to shower right after…

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      @b@buttercupdreamsmom:disqus
      @su@SummerBaby737:disqus
      @@luvmyjuju:disqus
      @@sameolej:disqus
      @Zo@lovzoe05:disqus

      Okay so this weekend we are chillin in the bed and he is going through his facebook so Im looking. I asked are you friends with any of your ex. He says here and hands me his phone. I said whats this for. He said you are curious about who i talk on the daily so here go through it. He grabs the remote and turns his back.. I was stunned.I gave him back his phone and said its not that serious to me. He text me his passcode and said if the curiosity strikes me in the middle of the night while he sleep. Should I have looked?

    • Fendi

      Good riddance. I used to visit that site until I started noticing how messy they’d gotten. I love how the racist site is now being annihilated by a fellow racist. I’m all for white-on-white destruction. May it continue.

    • Mrs Mary

      this is wrong on so many different levels. children are off limits Sandra, but you wouldn’t know that because you don’t have any of your own! http://www.msn.com/en-us/music/news/a-tale-of-two-albums-rihanna-soars-kanye-stumbles/ar-BBquzZF?li=BBnbfcL&ocid=spartandhp

    • free

      going down the wrong path….

    • MUNCHOSGIRL

      We live a very different lifestyle than they do. My children never wore pull ups, waste of money, they were just like pampers to me. Potty trained by 18 months, underwear from that point on, I always had an extra set of of clothes though, they accidents every so often.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I didn’t look. Was the wrong path me asking?

    • Tammie Reed

      So glad I never had to deal with this issue. My daughter was fully potty trained by age 1.5 and my son by 2. My son just refused to do it early. I didnt play that lazy crap and I know each chid is different but if you can sit and hold a conversation with me, bring me your diaper/pull up and tell me you’re wet etc you can go to the damn bathroom!

      I have friends that have kids that are old as hell and still NOT potty trained! I also hate to see moms who breast feed well after the kid has teeth and walking around…like WTH!!! My opinion though!

    • SG

      LOL

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Funny story, My son is in the middle so once he was potty trained well my youngest started which is a girl. She came crying in the room one day little panties all wet. I was like what happened. She said “I potty like AJ mommy!” I was like huh? She pulled her panties below her..outty and poked it out and pointed and said “I no potty like brudder” I laughed until i cried!

    • Cricket404

      That has the be stressful for everyone involved. They are adorable but seem fragile, if i saw a random pic of one I wouldnt recognize them without Mom or Dad.

    • SameoleJ

      If you asked and he gave it to you with no problem, leave it at that. The fact that he was willing to give it to you means he has nothing to hide and even if he is friends with his exes, it isn’t anything that he has a problem with you seeing.

    • SameoleJ

      No, you can ask if he is friends with his exes, as this may be something you are not comfortable with. I dealt with a guy who was cool with exes, and I was okay with it until one started causing problems, he refused to stop speaking to her, so I cut it off.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Ok, I didn’t look. I thought it was great that he did that. But I don’t want him to feel like I don’t trust him. On the flip side if he would have asked for my phone… I have old pics of..stuff.. I deleted it last night…

    • Auditor

      Kids are TOO MUCH

    • SameoleJ

      Then tell him that you liked and appreciated that fact that he trusted you. And how his openness and honestly made you feel.

    • Auditor

      He could be using that reverse psychology… my ass woulda looked

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      Ok. I don’t want to fug this up on some non trust ish. He is a truck driver too. He gave me access to his company site that shows where his truck is at all times. He did that this morning before he got on the road. He is doing all the right things to make me feel secure I guess..

    • Auditor

      Yea boys are usually much tougher

      But boys/men are slower period…so what can you expect? Lol

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I told him that…and showed him (blush)…

    • SameoleJ

      How? He didn’t have enough time to delete anything and didn’t know she was going to ask that question.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I have some stories about them 3 Little Wutts.. I swear…

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I have his passcode. So if the curiousity becomes too strong I might peek…

    • Auditor

      Reverse psychology as in ima give her access and pray to God she doesn’t look because I gave her all the keys and ammunition to look. Most people back off when someone does that to them. Real masterminds take advantage of that.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      You think? Now Im curious LOL

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      That is so sliiickk! Now you got me thinking.. I don’t know I have to pray on this.

    • Mrs. ??????????

      As far as I know, the kids live with Mariah. I’m not giving Nick a pass because they both have the responsibility to teach their kids the basics things in life. They both need to focus on this little boy and stop chasing the spotlight.

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      ROFL

    • Auditor

      Yup

    • Auditor

      My ex was like that…one reason why we’re not together. Thought the ish was weird lol. I’m like um wtf do you do at work?

    • imright

      being that Mariah was old & was having fertility probs…taking drugs 2 conceive…maybe they r a little behind n life…

    • imright

      u have a point

    • Auditor

      Could be…folks don’t think about those things trying to have children all late plus she’s half white so her eggs were rotten at 29 lol.

    • jussaying

      i thought this too… given that they are in public around cameras and perhaps she’s doing promo work where she can’t quickly get him and take him to the bathroom..

    • imright

      ? 29? u r a mess!

    • Auditor

      Lol all the white womans at all my jobs trying to conceive in their late 20s early 30s had issues and were on those fertility drugs.

    • LiiLaForde

      Although I don’t always agree with Auntie Sandra I really appreciate how she enlightens her fam with posts like this a lot of us don’t know the basics, we weren’t taught…. I’m a card carrying member of the Beyhive and I always criticize her in my mind for goin in on my girl but I love her! Great post!

    • TheWildChild

      Is that child, Moroccan, special needs? ? maybe the reason for delayed potty training.

    • SameoleJ

      Pray on it and look at it as a positive. Do you think he is the type to play mind games, which is what reverse psychology is? If you look at it negative, then that is what you are going to get from it. And once you sit and think he would do that to you, you start questioning other things and destroy your relationship. Just take it as he was open with you and leave it at that.

    • SameoleJ

      I know what it means, however if this is what he is into, then he had to have A. Thought she would ask and prepared his phone for it or B. Prayed to EVERY God available that she didn’t call his bluff….both would be playing with fire and chancing getting burned, when he could be just being honest.

    • SameoleJ

      So leave it alone. Don’t make problems where there are none. I am telling you this from experience.

    • SameoleJ

      So take those pluses and stop looking for minuses. We women tend to overthink things and can mess up a perfectly good relationship. If this man is showing you that he wants to be a good man for you, let him until he doesn’t show you that. Enjoy your time with him and leave all the other stuff alone.

    • Carrington

      Gucci jacket and pampers…

    • SameoleJ

      NOPE!! I will not allow the negative vibes to enter her happiness. Stop!!

    • Jamie Jay

      That’s Alicia Keys son

    • SameoleJ

      When my Son23 was a little over 2, we had to travel on the bus for a long distance and he had on a snowsuit. I put a pull up on him for the trip. We were almost there when he had to pee, I told him- Go ahead and pee, you have a pull up on. He screamed at the top of his lungs on a crowded bus: “I’m not a baby!! I’m not going to pee on myself!!” Everybody on the bus cracked up laughing and the bus driver said, “Don’t try to have that man peeing on himself, MOM!!” CTHU

    • SameoleJ

      At 5 though? Not if they are in a building with restrooms. Now a long plane ride, etc. maybe, but even they have restrooms. He may be special needs or plain ole stubborn!!

    • Auditor

      Lol I know soon as I wrote it…I’m like negra stop! Good vibes for you and yours.

    • SummerBaby

      That’s Mariah’s son in the pic up top.

    • SpideySense

      I was potty trained and reading by 2 as well. My mother would do a phonics work book with me every night before i started pre school and i ended up being the youngest in my grade my whole life. Can’t say single mothers don’t take the time, it just depends on the individual.

    • imright

      do u kno of any “issues” with the child(ren)?

    • Auditor

      Besides them not whooping their kids and kids being a lil too grown…naw not that I can remember.

    • SpideySense

      She was a little too old IMO when she genetically engineered her twins. We still don’t know enough about how IVF and other procedures will affect people in the long run. The key is to have children during your best reproductive years. If you miss the boat then you missed it.

      Older fathers pose a problem for offspring too. Older father’s are linked to autism and other developmental issues in children. Older mons are often linked with down syndrome, etc.

      If you have to create your babies in a lab then maybe having children wasnt God’s plan for you. Just saying . . .

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      LMAO! ???

    • SpideySense

      I know you didn’t post this for me to reply to but i have some experience in this department.

      I love his reaction to your question. My fiance (before we got to that point) did the same thing as he had nothing to hide. I have never gone snooping through his phone but the ease with which he handed it to me whenever i wanted to use it was great. The man is screaming “you can trust me!” Sounds like he may be a keeper.

      I don’t know your history though. So I got nothing if he’s been known to cheat in the past and this behavior is brand new.

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      Haha Lil GQ. My boys have all different kinds. I started to get them some Ethikas.

      But I was like… “I don’t even have these”.

      https://www.ethika.com/shop/kids/toddlers

    • SpideySense

      So cute ?

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      I used get mine out of bed at time and sit her on the toilet while one of feet was in a bowl of water. It made her pee everytime.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      My 4 year old her stinkies smells like grown man stank and she mostly eats fruit. I just don’t understand. It smells so bad, it could melt paint.

    • God’s child to the end

      Training both my daughters was hilarious. The oldest refused to use the potty once she realized it was a toilet for babies. I had to help her dangle on the regular toilet and my youngest insisted on seeing the restroom of every restaurant whether she had to go or not. And she refuse to use a port a potty at 3yrs. old. Lil’ mama held it until we found what SHE deemed a suitable restroom.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      I don’t blame your little one, you enter public restroom at your own risk. How many stories have you heard about the trifling stuff that people do in and to public restrooms.

    • SameoleJ

      I’ll have to tell his momma about them. She says I complain about her and the underwear, but I refuse to buy them socks or undershirts unless they are Gap. Just something about their socks …they are sturdy!! CTHU- I call them the best dressed unemployed men I know.

    • Auditor

      Dead

    • SameoleJ

      He was adamant and then told my mom on me!!

    • SameoleJ

      That was Son23 as a baby and toddler…….like what are you eating?! Shhesh!!

    • Auditor

      Hmmm

    • Lindac

      My Mother use to say, if a child can say “DaDa” he can learn to say “PP” or DoDo.”

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      You got find what works and she would be too sleepy to fight and I didn’t behave to really worry about her pissing the bed.

    • Auditor

      Yea my nephew is being stubborn as hell. Knows wth he’s doing too. I’ll gather up all these tips and send em.

    • http://www.sandrarose.com Django the God

      I like Gap just because thw store is so big. Well, the one I go to. Something for everybody.

      I was just reminiscing with my mom, how mad I used to get wheb she made me wear colored socks from Benetton to school… Everybody else socks was white. I’d be looking down at me ankles like…

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      Mines is a Pisces, so stubborn is partially her name, so I had to pull out those ninja moves own her when I was potty training and it also helped to have her in daycare with other children her age, so they could help each other. You know how other children will get you together if you ain’t right.

    • JazzyPudding

      Fruit putrefies in the gut…that’s the smell.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      I have to tell her close to the toilet lid after you wipe and flush and shut the door. It has turned my stomach, many times. Smells straight hellish.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      Damn.?

    • Auditor

      Yup he’s a Pisces too! And yup keep telling them to take him around other kids his age. They don’t listen…

    • http://www.facebook.com/lisa.daniels.7311 Lisa Daniels

      That’s only way to break a stubborn child is to put them around other children their age, so they can grow up because Susie, Keisha and Bobby an em can wipe their own ass, say their abcs and 123s, as well as tell where the nearest McDonald’s,Walmart and Kroger. Can you do all that?

    • ShadyBaby

      Thank you I needed this. Trying to train my 2.5 year old. Someone always helped with my other two.

    • Auditor

      True

    • free

      what sameoleJ said: “So leave it alone. Don’t make problems where there are none. I am telling you this from experience.”

    • free

      ^^^^^^^ this right here.

    • free

      please don’t tell me you gon track that man truck all up and down the road lol. i have been married for almost 8 years and when my husband say he going to the store, well i guess his azz is going to the store! i remember a saying from this old lady that you don’t have to believe them but you gotta believe IN them. my grandma spent her life tracking down my grandpa and his car was right where it was supposed to be but she STILL had it in her mind that he was cheating.

    • stanley

      lol They raised that child to be nasty, that’s why

    • barbeez

      Daycares will force you to get that child’s behind on the toilet. I blame the parent. I have a relative who enjoyed changing her child’s diaper because she could make sure he was clean. When I kept his big three old behind …he used that darn toilet. That poop was too sticky and I couldn’t repeat…couldn’t change no pooped up diaper. I’d wipe him and flushed the toilet but no way was I change poop the same size as an adult.

    • barbeez

      The boy seems to be more of a handful than the girl. He acted a fool when she was getting her star on the Walk of Fame.

    • MrsThurstonHowell

      Some of my friends’ husbands still behave like that.

      In front of the tv and all. Except they like beer now.

    • Tracy Taylor

      Who child this is???

    • PhillyFacts

      Lol

    • Lakie O’Sean Rivers

      Who are the parents?

    • Fendi

      Please forgive me for asking because I’m not trying to overstep, but does he do that in public restrooms?!.

    • Fendi

      ????? @ your mention of kids with teeth breastfeeding. When they can walk over, pull a teet out, and say, “I’m hungry,” they’re too old, IMO, to be breastfeeding. It seems really strange to me that kids who are in kindergarten are being breastfed. Buy those mugs a Lunchable or make them a sandwich. Smh

    • sunni_daze

      Let me guess….Mariah and Nick’s son

    • PhillyFacts

      I asked lol he said ” awe mom come on, what chu means I don’t poop in public.”? He said yes he does it at family members, his girlfriend parents house, and ” my friends cribs” he’s strange. I’m like boy how I can never poo at a friends house eh.

    • Fendi

      Lol. Well, whatever makes him comfortable. I’ve never heard of disrobing completely before, but apparently it’s more common than I realized. ??? Thanks!

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      I thought so I don’t want to start this distrust. But I think he had his last woman distrust him that is why he gave me alll this info up front. But I won’t take advantage of it. I have got to just relax and breath…

    • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

      You are so right. Especially for a truck driver. I gotta trust him and believe in him or Ill go crazy wondering. so I am going to be a good woman and just love him…unless he start exhibiting the signs of cheating..

    • Sharr Lee

      My neighbors kids ran the halls naked…but they have all learned

    • n1kk1a

      Thanks for thinking outside of the box with me! ?

    • Monday

      Ipad to poop??

      Ohhh naw

    • Monday

      Whoa. Lot of props to you!!! ?

    • Monday

      It was on Shade Room page a few weeks ago… And everyone jumped in and share the post as fact… I said the same thing.

      One of my friend even came for me as she knows I “appreciate” Wendy’s work ethic, after many facts and receipts on my part she silently erase the whole conversation..

    • http://2urbangirls.com 2UrbanGirls

      Figured out the child. He wet himself at the wof ceremony. I believe you wrote about that too!

    • mesmerizineyez .

      5 is way too d*mn old. If you’re on a road trip, in the car or on a outing for a long period of time and the child might fall asleep or is not able to get to a bathroom in time but other than that NO

    • Hannah

      Remove diapers and Pull Ups and let the child go bare bottom in the house

      Spoken like a person who doesn’t have to clean up the floor and furniture when the child wets or messes on them.