omar slim white

After the break, friend of the blog Omar “Slim” White shares his unique perspective on relationships.

By Omar "Slim" White:

Letter to my Future Wife

Throughout the years Ive dated several types of women. Beautiful, outgoing, spontaneous. You name it! On the flip side, my relationships never last more than 3 years at best.

Not because of chemistry, but more because of differences in worldly views, life purpose, spiritual purpose, skill set, spiritual growth etc...

The most beautiful thing in crossing paths with those women wasn't just sharing precious moments, but also preparing myself for something greater. You see my brothers and sisters, one of the mysteries of the universe is relationships.

"You don't know yourself until you experience yourself through someone else. You can't SEE yourself until you SEE yourself through something else" ~Omar Slim White~

Sometimes we think we know ourself but we can never truly understand ourself on a deeper level until we interact with others. For example you may bring competitiveness out of someone. You may bring jealousy out of someone. You may bring anger out of someone. A person may be blind to what may surface unless a situational test occurs.

Within the genetic structure of every living being contain codes. Within those codes contain instructions. So when you interact with other beings something inside their information will bring out information inside of you. So always remember that relationships are designed to "make you" or "break you."

Never hold grudges. Never hold resentment and Never hold baggage. Everyone you meet is designed to enhance you but many times we don't see it that way because emotions may prevent the lesson from being extracted.

Every woman that I met would always have a quality that attracted me but also a flaw that would repel me. So I began to be more patient. Then I realized patience had to be used with discernment and nobody can wait for ever. I would always think to myself if only I could put all these women in just one body lol.

Dealing with me wasn't a walk in the park either. I too had flaws. I would do more teaching than building. I became a father more than a lover, so I had to learn how to turn teacher mode off and just be a friend at times. I had to learn to be more gentle. I had to learn to listen even if I heard errors. Sometimes we expect people to come to the table wholesome but this jungle we live in will strain you. So the master has to have the necessary skill set to deal with broken vessels.

So for me I found myself too busy playing "clean up man" rather than "lean on man" lol.

If I ever cross paths with any more beautiful women, don't ever be intimated by my growth. Just have the humility to allow me to guide you. Just have the heart available so that I can heal it. Bring your best shoes and be prepared to grow with me. It will be uncomfortable but it can't be any other way dealing with me lol.

Love your future

www.OmarSlimWhite.com

  • MyPussyCatDNAFacts

    Sounds like you need a puppy.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    he must be a scorpio...... lol I agree with him

  • Olivia Nope

    or a hobby, but either way, something else to do other than chronicling how he's finally a full fledged adult ready to deal with a full fledged adult woman.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Just have the humility to allow me to guide you. Just have the heart available so that I can heal it.
    ___________

    Real shyt ret here ..... I see ya Omar .... he sounds wise to me ..... good advice sir

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    So, he doesn't bring anything to the table that needs the teaching, patience or advice of a woman? Nor will he have a flaw she would rather he didn't? He has it all figured out... if only the next woman will sit back and let him fix her. He acts like his only flaws fell on the type of woman he was dealing with and her baggage.

    Every time this dude gets a post on here, I think narcissist times 100 Alex.

    Thank you Mr. M.L.P., for being my husband, father of my children and friend. Niggas like this make me appreciate you everyday. I will be thanking you in several ways this evening thanks to this moron.

    This FOB needs to get the FOH.

  • Futuredocdonte

    Wait.... Did this dude quote... HIMSELF?! ???
    As if he knew he said something PROFOUND ???. Ya'll are too smart for me

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    His advice in this post IMO is very good ....... he wants to lead .... (he is man) and he should IMO depending on what ya looking for in a relationship..... personally I have no problem now letting my bew help heal my heart etc ......

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    I read a bit more in to what he is saying but, I'm happy for you.

  • Futuredocdonte

    The level of narcissism within these posts at this point amuse me. Especially when his flaws were being "a teacher" ?

    Slim, sir, from one married man to someone who sounds like he's trying to get there, you would be surprised how much you change when you change the perspective from being one who teaches to one who learns. You might just find that the one with the issues is the one staring back at you in the mirror....

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    What it do Donte " "

  • Lorenzo Chaps

    And he's serious. No one is going to get a check mark on everything. SMH. Club promoters are whores, point blank. That's why he isn't married. Stop it. Vivica says hi.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Thank you bew ..... I'm happy for everyone hell lolol

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    You better be glad we are both married or I would e-kiss you right now.

  • Futuredocdonte

    What I pissed u off or sum? I gets no love in these blog streets no more ?

  • Futuredocdonte

    ??? that very last sentence = you petty

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Ha Ha see gif ......

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Nope. I asked downstairs, who is Ian Connor?

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Slim strikes as someone who doesn't want an equal, someone beneath him. A Shanequa he can mold but still keep her line. He got all these attributes but single, can't keep a long term relationship.

  • Low E. TUH!

    I CAN ROCK WITH A FEW COUNTS, BUT BETWEEN THE LINES - I SEE "I CAN DO NO WRONG"...JMO

  • Low E. TUH!

    :WAVES:

  • Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy

    Who's asking for these post from the Mr. Miyagi Delaghetto anyway? Not saying you can't pluck an nugget or two from his ramblings, but who asked? Can't find a wife yet you got time to type. Oh OK.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    WHOOT

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Umm hmm anywhoo listening to Luffah
    https://youtu.be/3X2vyeK6jdE

  • Sexy CJ

    True Story...........

  • Tammie Reed

    That photo is disturbing, thats all I got lol.

  • Sexy CJ

    ***********

  • Sexy CJ

    **********

  • Soda

    Some people try to be too deep. I'm surprised he didn't start this letter with Cancer and my name is Slim,
    And I like a woman that loves everything and everybody
    Because I love everybody and everything
    And you know what, ladies, if you feel that this is you
    Then this is what I want you to do
    Float, float, float on

  • 2MIDDLEFINGERSUP

    #STFU #BAN #MANWHORE

  • Auditor

    Lol how?

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    I get what he's trying to say. Seems as if he left the other part out. It comes across as all the women are flawed and beneath him...and they need to be fixed.

    This is probably the part where I'm carrying his bags to the foyer (yes, let me help you), opening the door and telling him, "It's not you...it's me."

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    I HATE YOU FOR THIS!

  • Sexy CJ

    I'm surprised he didn't start this letter with Cancer and my name is Slim...........

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    ? Chile...lemme go polish my vortex, come back and read this again to see if it has reached the 12th of never within the depths of my soul.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Crine

  • Sexy CJ

    ...............

  • Auditor

    No wonder...cancers NEED to ALWAYS be in a relationship...they just can't get right...

  • mainey

    If you attracted someone who needed fixing then there is something in you that needs healing. Seek a professional licsw.

  • product of 79

    ??? good 1

  • product of 79

    TALK TO 'EM G?

  • <—Doesn'tTalkToStrangers

    OH we polishing vortices tonight huh?!?! ??????

  • <—Doesn'tTalkToStrangers

    Genetic Structure Code
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Spell it! ?????

  • <—Doesn'tTalkToStrangers

    Then dump her ???

  • DivineMsM

    School yo boy, Doc!

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Ain't that the truth Ruth

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    This song is beautiful but it depresses me

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Delaghetto

    "I just died"

  • Mel

    ??????I just hollered I'm sure the neighbors heard me

  • Jusstlookn

    The vaginia is so muscular. It scared me.

  • MyPussyCatDNAFacts

    I'm not sure he is ready. He still wants to "guide her." Like she can't guide herself.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    The woman in that picture wouldn't deal with him.

  • MyPussyCatDNAFacts

    LOL!

  • Jusstlookn

    4 of many viutres of my marriage.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    And a motherly hug ?

  • Auditor

    lol my body is pretty muscular

  • Mel

    So he was playing clean up man to Viv? He was mending what fitty broke? Viv wasn't future enough? These are serious questions ?

  • Saharabutnotdry

    RIP to me ?

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Lmao

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Hey there ???

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Now that's deep sir!

  • Jusstlookn

    Dear Young Slim - All the things that may have separted you and the beautiful women yout met, should have been discussed before you became intimate. A man should make love to a womans mind before they have intercourse. It is my belief, if discuss these things you will know in a short time period; perhaps in the first 90 days. Its amazing if you ask the hard questions what you will learn about someone.

    Best of Luck on your Journey
    Mrs. Lookn

  • MookieFly

    Ooooo I hate chu lol. I was laughing for a good minute and swallowed my gum.

  • Jusstlookn

    Lol...her vaginia looks likes balls hanging on the side. There you made me say it.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    It's always the "deep ones " that will make you regret the day you met them .
    The closet is wide open , come out sir .

  • Auditor

    lol naw that's just muscular booty meat *goes to check mine* lol

  • MystyBlu

    Ummm if this is supposed to be a letter to his future wife, and he is saying his "flaw" is being a teacher in his relationships then why is he lecturing? If I got this letter from my guy I'd trash it. He always focuses on what women do wrong in relationships and how he has to fix all the women he's with. Maybe he should choose better partners and not wait 3 years to get to know them. I get some of his points but his delivery destroys the message IMO

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Child...

  • Jusstlookn

    Love it...and get out my thoughts.

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    I ain't reading all that. Is this an open post?

  • Jusstlookn

    Whispers he did...white or red? 1st bottle or 2nd?

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    It is I love this too
    https://youtu.be/iiqfsXm7VnU

  • Jusstlookn

    Whispers the all are.
    Offtopic..

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Seriously ! If I didn't know who he is I would swear he was one of my exes .its all an act , mf can't live their truths so they direct their "wisdom" towards women . GTFOH!
    The Rose Garden needs to gift him a mirror for his burfday. Js

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Nope just says guest post...

  • Jusstlookn

    Turns up volume.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Better become , this guy is full of caca

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    Yesssssss

  • Jusstlookn

    Dear heart...he got more of them, than me and you put together.

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    I'm trying to pretend it matters.

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Sashay sashay

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    Ugh I didn't even read the headline I guess.

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    Ha!

  • JustB

    All these thoughts and messages and he is still single...and that first sentence of the last paragraph makes me think...he's just not that into women...point blank...stop tryn to justify...js

  • Well.well$well

    Why is he quoting himself? ??Anyway I agree with some of the post however I was kind of thrown off by how he called himself the clean up man as I'd he didn't contribute to the ending of any of his relationships. Like none of them? TFOH. Slim has flaws too and after reading the whole post it's probably him.

  • Teresa Uriel

    can somebody tell Mr. Omar that this is how marriage is done---->https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDEC2moUKfY

  • Saharabutnotdry

    De Nile

  • Well.well$well

    Not just a river in Egypt..

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Sexactly

  • testtee

    He wants a puppet.. Lol..

  • Readytochokemothernatureonout

    I looked for the words open post I ain't read this one post...

  • Saharabutnotdry

    He can just get a Becky and stfu seriously!

  • ramosyo

    He seems like he talks to much.. His stroke better match that mouth!!!!

  • Jusstlookn

    Love Gregory Porter...this was nice ceremony. There is more to marriage than a ceremony.

  • whitty hutton

    Good lordt...**rolls eyes**

  • Guest

    I'm dying at these comments. I read it & here's my interpretation.... He's open to learning & growing with a future partner, and is looking for someone who wants the same. No matter the outcome or how far it goes, he won't harbor resentment, guilt, etc. You'll break a record if you last longer than 3 years with him.

    Now I realize why I've never read one of his OpEds in the past.

  • Jusstlookn

    I read the first part and thought...he he crazy, weird or confused about what he really wants.

  • Maxey Ross

    3 YEARS? get back after you put real time in.

  • Jusstlookn

    Cant breeve

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Where you been?

  • Jusstlookn

    Right

  • whitty hutton

    **throws rocks at u** ????? le weep...le sigh...le weep...????

  • testtee

    I get what he is saying but he just needs to hush up & keep searching until he finds a good fit.. He might die before then but at least he won't be a quitter.. Lol

  • Teresa Uriel

    The Bishop who officiated this wedding told both of them what they needed to know about the married life. These two have been betroth to each other for a year or more.
    This organization does things the RIGHTEOUS way, and they teach men DISCIPLINE and how to love their wives as themselves. The women are taught how to love and be a pillar of rest to their husband.

  • whitty hutton

    intimated = intimidated

    Sheesh...and had the nerve to say listening even when he hears "errors". Nigga please...??

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    I hate men that feel like they need to give us advice. That's that shyt I don't like *in my Kanye voice*

  • whitty hutton

    Workin and lurkin. How u? I catch up at night. My dogs be lookin at me lol'ing like wtf wrong with mama?!? ??

  • Saharabutnotdry

    What he is finding out is not new nor false , it's that " I hold the secret to ..." That's annoying added to him thinking he is the prefect man .
    He needs a stronger man and just be happy .

  • Saharabutnotdry

    You would think they had uteruses in a previous life .

  • whitty hutton

    Ignant! ????

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Good. How you living biggie smalls?

  • harley_quinn2.0

    If I ever cross paths with any more beautiful women, don’t ever be intimated by my growth. Just have the humility to allow me to guide you. Just have the heart available so that I can heal it. Bring your best shoes and be prepared to grow with me. It will be uncomfortable but it can’t be any other way dealing with me lol.
    ...............

  • Tammie Reed

    LOL!

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Exactly real spill

  • Tammie Reed

    Look by her crotch area argh!

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Exactly like go head on with all that

  • harley_quinn2.0

    Dealing with me wasn’t a walk in the park either. I too had flaws.

    ^^^^^^
    Could've fooled me.....I thought you had it all together ???

  • Jusstlookn

    That gif......?

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Really I was surprised he had flaws too I thought he was 100 percent perfect I'm soooo shocked. I couldn't beweave it ???

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    He just want to be smhart.

  • Jusstlookn

    Please

  • Jen_n_juice

    I thought this was a letter *le sigh* Let me go read this short story

  • harley_quinn2.0

    Gets on my last damn nerve

  • bran

    Have a homegirl who "dated" him. He was a quick min man and use to bring strange smelling food to her house. Really weird. And...wore his shades inside the home. She said she let him come through a few times but he was just too off.

  • harley_quinn2.0

    I'm tired of this fool and his Dear Abby advice column

  • harley_quinn2.0

    I just fell out reading this ????

  • bran

    "who's asking for these post..." I read no further and just died on the spot LOL

  • bran

    and he's telling his "future wife" about all his past hoes. I wonder if he could take a woman telling him about all of their past men. SMH

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    Are these posts like community service? Are these posted to improve his self esteem? He's vegan (I like my meat) and he talks too much... that's 3 strikes. Yes 3, depending on the day some are weighted more than 1.

  • MsSincerity

    #Tyrese #shutthefuckup

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    Vegan, talks too much, and weak sex game. DENIED DENIED DENIED. Where's the ban stamp?

  • MissHarlem

    ?? always comedy

  • Queen B

    Maybe u shudve wrote this post! ???

  • Ajavee

    What the hell???

  • Ajavee

    My thoughts exactly. Who is he trying to guide?

  • Queen B

    Dude i just really wanna fvck ? Thats it thats all

  • Ajavee

    Boom?

  • Ajavee

    The man or woman in the mirror.

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    On the flip side, my relationships never last more than 3 years at best.

    skill set
    ^^^^
    So how long does it take to figure out the bish can't suck dick? Real question

  • Ajavee

    LMAO?

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    We never getting along over meat. I'm not microwaving my bacon bc you don't want me to fry it in your skillet. I'm not giving bacon up either. Where do we go from that point? Nowhere. Bc by noon Imma be home. At my house. Eating a BLT.

  • Canary Red™

    She a mess - it just tickles me! ????

  • Jusstlookn

    Checks time...almost 10pm.

    Okay you got tired of not being S****

    Wall slides...???????

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    You see my brothers and sisters, one of the mysteries of the universe is relationships.
    ^^^^
    Not world peace? Race relations? World hunger?

    Fukkin relationships. Whole wide world Craig.

  • Jusstlookn

    You and DTTs drankn same liqqa?

  • MissHarlem

    I may not eat it everyday but that's the main reason I don't anymore. So I can eat it forevaa. Bacon reigns

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Girl. Why yall ain't smoke signal me about this here post? We in here watching draft. Smdh.

  • Cricket404

    I would like to hear what the females he has dated have to say, a lot of woman are brain washable, unless after 3 years they wise up. Brothers will have you leaving your God, stop eating pork becoming a vegan and covering your body from head to toe for the right one.

  • MissHarlem

    Stfu already gotdamn. Walking contradiction ass if I ever seen one Lawd hesus!

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Supreme. Bacon reigns supreme. I will end it with you we at the IHOP and you got your face all twisted over my bacon. Nigga don't call me no more. How about that? Tuh

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    I'm on yak. What DTTS got lol.?

  • Canary Red™

    "Just have the humility to allow me to guide you. Just have the heart available so that I can heal it."

    YES! The realist thing I'm looking for a man to say and willing to do!????

    Dig deep Omar - now you talking!

  • MystyBlu

    I don't think there's much mystery as to why his relationships haven't worked. Can't always be everyone else...sometimes it's you. :(

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Every woman that I met would always have a quality that attracted me but also a flaw that would repel me.
    ^^^^^
    I knew you were not down with Viv hanging her wigs on your doorknob at night before sexy time. I knew it.

  • Low E. TUH!

    OFF TOPIC: WATCHING GREENLEAF... DIDN'T EEEEM KNOW IT WAS BASED IN/AROUND MEMPHIS...OPRAH TRIED IT WITH THE "TAKE 240" ???? 240 IS ALWAYS UGLY SMH

  • Low E. TUH!

    THOUGHT YOU KNEW

  • MystyBlu

    I'm in a deep depression since they traded my hubby to friggin Orlando!!!! *rocks back and forth in the fetal position*

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    He beyond annoying

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Him and his big schlong gonna be okay in Orlando. Let me go find gifs of his fine ass dancing

  • MissHarlem

    Very. Wise people aren't the ones shouting from the mountain tops like Tarzan that their wise. He needs to learn humility and realize it's his ass that's also flawed. In the meantime Stfu bruh

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    Oh my.

  • MystyBlu

    But I don't want him to goooooo! LMAO he's always dancing

  • MissHarlem

    TUH

  • MystyBlu

    Though that thang may be able to reach me now from Orlando...I just need the tip!

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    I'm gone on eat a bacon bacon sandwich just because. And cook his veggies in bacon fat.

  • Jusstlookn

    They so annoyed, they neva wanna speak of him.

  • Fabulousbrownme

    ????I'm crying because I do/have done that. Two years into my relationship I walked into my boo's house, snatched my wig off and threw it right on top of the lamp shade. He ain't say not one word. Then again I have a head full of hair & all my edges. Not sure if I can say the same for Viv

  • Jusstlookn

    Me and Smokey watchn draft going back and forth abouth these young men...saying they gonna fugg up. He mad..I an saying they humble. He saying screw being humble...you made it. Talk smack...

  • IAmLegend

    I know Sandra be reading these comments laughing her azz off. She know what she be doin when she post this man letters. She be like "It's a slow newz day. Let me see if Slim got one of dem letters to get the roses laughing today". He send em to her on notebook paper written in crayon lol.

  • DivineMsM

    Evening Rosays & Low.
    I really enjoyed it. Watched all three episodes twice already.

  • DivineMsM

    She got us lit this Thur. eve! Hi Juss!!!

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    You give it till noon? I didn't give it 5 minutes. As soon as he said "I'm veg..", I'd say "Good day sir".

  • Loyal Lifestyle

    LMAO????I want a puppy..??. Lol! I love puppies..

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    ?omG! ???

  • B.Sweet is Savage

    Bacon fat gives great flavor to veggies.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    STAWP IT!!!

  • Low E. TUH!

    G'EVENING I'M MAD I ONLY HAVE EPS 1 & 4...HAVE TO RECORD 2 & 3 TOMORROW HMMPH

  • Low E. TUH!

    THIS

  • Loyal Lifestyle

    ???LMAO @ It's not you it's me. One of my favorite "dumping you" lines..

  • https://www.etsy.com/shop/AMarieNaturals Lovezoe

    No wonder Keri was making that Popsicle disappear in her mouth.

  • KB

    I just hollered, "It's not you...it's me."

    Me & you are here ?.

  • http://yeuphonic.com @yeuphonic

    Your username is one of my 'fave-writ' songs ?

  • Nya Jacobsen

    Dude kinda long winded. That's definitely one of his flaws.

  • MystyBlu

    She'd need to make an Arizona can disappear!
    ???

  • Loyal Lifestyle

    Real tears?????OMG OMG OMG yew play too much..

  • KB

    Flat line _____________?

  • Loyal Lifestyle

    Why why oh me oh my why oh why ??

  • KB

    Whatchu talking about Willis, dem toes up have me messed up.

  • Loyal Lifestyle

    ??????

  • LibraGirlonly

    So in other words you are not perfect either. Who died and left you in charge of guiding women. Lol

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    So the master has to have the necessary skill set to deal with broken vessels.
    ..................................

    To whom is dis man referring as "the master" (lower case)? ?

    *unplugs vortex and goes off the grid* ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Come thru Doc!??

  • DivineMsM

    Ep4 is up already? I have to keep an eye out for it.

  • DivineMsM

    Hey hey hey Ms Nancy

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Oh gosh! ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    GP has a beautiful voice!

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Doo rag ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    You said he spittin that 'mother wit'?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    HILARIOUS!

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Dear Abby, Lmao!!! ????

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Str8!?

  • hottlanta

    Like Russell said about Ciara that he was sent her to "lead her.

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    ...?

  • hottlanta

    ROTFLMAO.

  • KB

    This post has some good points and bad. Not everyone needs a "clean up man" and coming across that way to often can repel even the most patient and compassionate woman. Although everyone is learning, if your approach is always "teacher mode" you could be coming across as condescending. That woman may have already crossed his path but his approach was offputting, just a thought. I'm sure he has a lot to offer someone and vice versa. I don't know where or if he's looking but taking time away from dating and getting reacquainted with one's self may help.

    I too find it difficult being single in this jungle but being with the wrong person for even a short period is a slow death sentence, so I'll wait.

    BTW MyPussyCatDNAFacts - I did get a puppy. ?

  • hottlanta

    That line from the Floaters song, Float On when he said "Hi my name is Larry and I like a woman who loves everything and everybody. I went to sleep trying to take it all in. When a man is long winded like that he is short on the sex action. It's been proven time and time again,

  • Anonymouse

    Not Mr. Miyagi Delaghetto ???

  • hottlanta

    the women got bored with his butt and moved on. I don't believe that we all should operate by the 90 day rule because some of us get in in 9 seconds and some get it in 9 years. Different stroke for different folks. How is Steve gonna incorporate 90 days for someone when he married Majorie within 90 days of divorcing his second wife.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    ? Viv has hair.

  • hottlanta

    I just hope he doesn't lead the prayer at Thanksgiving this year being this long winded to talk about nothing. we would starve,

  • leapyearpisces

    This dude is a narcissist. THE END.

  • Finding Forever…

    How do you become a Guest Poster? What are the requirements? Just wondering. There are probably many other EXPERTS who could provide insight & I'm thinking it would be a lot more appreciated than such (based on observation ONLY). I'm thinking Slim's well has runneth driest (profound enough? LOL). He REALLY gets the people going. I LOVE IT & LAUGH MUCH! Thanks for that Slim...there's a positive I've taken. The (gif) reaction of the blog owner when THIS HERE came across her eyes & she decided to be HOSPITABLE & post anyway.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Did you guys read about the woman that was stabbed on the redline here in Chicago ?
    People are posting her pictures swimming in blood all over fb . Wth is wrong with people ?
    RIP young lady .

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Mucus and all..

  • Saharabutnotdry

    First : You have to be a Georgia ? Resident .
    Please roses add on..

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    ...runneth driesth

    ~Mo'Nique sigh~

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    She got to get all the bacon residue out her mouf before he give her his 'soul'...

    :kona:

  • Finding Forever…

    She looks like an overly steroid enhanced Foxxy Cleopatra. Even the lady parts of all kinds are flexing & poppin' muscles. A TRUE death grip for any man. Slim included, LOL.

  • TheWildChild

    It's You ? She/these women are maybe just not that into him. ?it seems like dude is off in left field. ? Since he's such a knight in shining armor, love recognize love after a few moments, not 3 years. ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Relation
    Ships

    *sails the fugg away* ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    So tickled right now. ?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    :chase: ?

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Rhymes with Romo.

  • stav

    As the complement to men that God made us to be, we don't worry about many things, unless we are dealing with men that are insecure within themselves, and therefore try to make us insecure within ourselves. If you have a foundation that makes you aware of your wrongs, and holds you accountable. Then you try to do your utmost to correct that, without that true guidance (Biblical)(the truth ) , you do anything. And try to blame others for your shortcomings. We never can stop growing, and seeking truth. Never stop!

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Dodo...bird
    Bozo...clown
    Nono...cain't get right
    Soso...could be, could be not

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    How are you out here looking like Waldo? If you gonna lead at least know where da hayle YOU going. Find out where you are first, literally and figuratively.

    I need a nap.

  • MyPussyCatDNAFacts

    Look at that muscle under her big toe.

  • Sexy CJ

    Mmmm.........Hmmm......

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    And he needs a map

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Lmao!

  • rachel

    Maybe he might meet a woman who has grown more than he has... would he be intimidated by her? Would he be able to "grow" with her? SMH.

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    LoGo... LoGout!?

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Profound indeed...?

  • Finding Forever…

    Could one be the ability to quote one's self (as he so eloquently did above ;)) & sound profound while doing such? Well at least for you & your ears it sounds REAL profound. To others (gif)...

  • Auditor

    He guide that mouf right on this cl*t!

  • Auditor

    Amen...narcissism...

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Hey boo! ??

  • Auditor

    Well if we solved the "relationship" problem between the sexes and races then yes I believe we could solve all that ish...sadly...

  • Auditor

    I loved her! My momma used to read that column to me and my sister as kids growing up lol

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Right. He needs to get his discernment up!

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Real questions

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    Exactly!

  • rachel

    Whoa! She is bursting those watermelons in the cover picture... Why is there a crow bird in front of her pxxxx? Maybe it explains why he hasn't been in a relationship with a woman for more than three years...

    Did he forget to include fried chicken in the cover picture? SMH.

  • Paige

    This man is wacko! Get some help Slim! If you keep having the same situations to repeat themselves it's probably YOU!!

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    That's what I say when Tony Romo hits the field.... Petty I know

  • IAmLegend

    I heard about that. I refuse to look at the pictures or the videos. I can't believe no one helped her.

  • Antigone Heart

    Omar is a narcissist.

    The "letter" is filled with disjointed information. It would seem that Omar stopped being controlling, and pretended to listen to his partners only to get what he wanted but abandoned the relationships once the oppressed became awakened. How can someone whose "letter" lacks humility or assured growth ask another to mute their individuality and submit to reconditioning? The answer is a narcissist; a person who is oblivious to the feelings of others or lacks empathy.

    The entire "letter" reads of someone who wants to be in ultimate control; complete with bragging, personal prejudices, and biases. Why not also state that Christian Grey was his role model? As this "letter" reads like an [informal] contract to "the submissive."

    Does the submissive agree to heed my casual requirements and guide for molding?

    Perhaps, this "letter" will attract some "beautiful" and in-need-of-crisis-resolution woman.

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    So, by Slim publishing this letter to his future wife on SR, is it an indication that he believes she's to be found here?

    *ladies, line up single file, in reverse descending order of flawlessness and porcine appreciation*

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Maybe I'm crazy, but I dig what he's saying. What I took from it was- everybody thinks their chit doesn't stink until you're made aware that it does, be patient with others because they're only human and their chit stinks too LOL, and growth is always necessary. The quest for self is always intriguing. He also sounds as though he's taken relationship lessons in the past for a revised future.

  • Fendi

    Perhaps, the woman of his dreams is blind. Blind people need guidance, especially when they don't have seeing eye dogs.

  • Fendi

    You like Omar "Slim" White? Or is your reply the female equivalent of "deez nuts?"

  • Fendi

    Your last sentence is pure gold.

  • Luv Pitties

    And for the low low price of $19.95.....

  • Fendi

    He crazy. Simple as that.

  • Fendi

    I'm crying @ "Mr. Miyagi Delaghetto" and Soda typing "float, float, float on."

    I'm weak rn.

  • Fendi

    I had to scroll back up. ?????

  • Fendi

    ...

  • DeeFromLA

    The ego on this dude is amazing. I wonder if he ever considered he may be the one who needs a guide and a teacher. Father? Boy Bye

  • Miany

    Dead...why did I start reading your post in the melody

  • lexdiamonz

    whaaaattt kind of special peter pan BULLSH*T is this... slim .. the doors of the closet are open.. won't you come on .. let him use you...LET HIM ease your pain!!!!
    FOH B

  • lexdiamonz

    WORD life kid . this nicca so deep....
    he shallow **sips tea**

  • Lovelove

    I checked out after the second sentence...my attention span can't take all that....

  • http://Copblock.org Brenden’s Back #BlockDeez?

    Y'all so mean? I didn't read the write up. He never responded to the pics I allegedly emailed him?????? So, but I ain't gone be rude like y'all???

  • Realnigga101

    That's what the man is supposed to do.

  • Renee Bee

    OMG! So many great observations.

  • Ajavee

    So you're joking right?

  • Fendi
  • Luvbug

    He needs to wake up he's too self centered

  • Jusstlookn

    People are sick

  • Jusstlookn

    Other experts...what are his credentials?

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    We already had a Male here who was looking for. ...you know what Nan? Nvmd.

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Dickhead

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Us? Sorry. I thought you were a dude all this time

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    Well, hello and good morning, Sir...respectfully. ?

  • Jusstlookn

    Ha Lmbo. Yeah, I have never followed Steve's rules. The 90 day rule existed lOng before that book came out. Employers...been using for 90 days for devades, psychologlogist, the courts. But I certainly would not consider a serious realtionship in less than 7 days.

  • Jusstlookn

    Hey babes?

  • Pamela

    Lol. He sure did. Classic. Even Shakespeare never quoted himself.

  • Rayne

    Fool Lmaoooo

  • Jusstlookn

    https://youtu.be/mWBxeJHxBUM

    Omar Slim...Viv speaking on him. She broke up with him. So she say

  • yoni

    And Bethany sittin there lookin REAL dumb with that wig on. REAL DUMB!

  • Milani

    lol!!!

  • Milani

    LOL, this Triple H gif!!! That's exactly what I did reading this letter.

  • Jusstlookn

    Extra dumb

  • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    In the end I thought the Messiah was speaking to me with that broken vessel let me guide you stuff. To be fair I'm just waking up and I havent stretched , prayed and or thank the real Jesus in my life yet. He may have been told he looks like black Jesus but I believe a woman should be healed and made whole before she gets in a relationship.

  • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    +100

  • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    We said say grace and preached a sermon!!!

  • free

    how many "nigga please"s is it gonna take for these posts to go away?

  • free

    i too was thinking that this fuccer's wife is going to be subjugated as hell.

  • TE69

    I can never finish reading anything he writes since the one of the first letters that was posted on this site. He writes like he thinks he is some philosophical prophet and half the time he does not use the correct punctuation mark or grammar.

  • TE69

    He also seems full of himself. "i had to learn to listen even if I heard were errors, and I became a father than a lover". Seems like he thinks his only flaw was that he was better than the women he dated but they could not accept that.

  • Auditor

    Lol Deez nuts...I can't do men with hair...

  • Jusstlookn

    Oh my gawd....the nail. Dead died goodbye.

  • Buttercup

    I can never get those 2 minutes I spend reading this back.

  • Buttercup

    I'm okay with a man wanting to lead- guide on the other hand is no bueno.

  • Auditor

    Yup same thing I said... narcissist...

  • Auditor

    Me too

  • Buttercup

    "I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways. No message could've been any clearer. If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and make that change." Schmone.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Beware of people looking for perfection. Who's to say these women didn't have moments when they were aggravated or bothered by some of his traits but looked past that because the good out weighed the bad as we ALL have something about ourselves that's undesirable to someone out there. Nobody is perfect and God help the woman he finally "chooses" whose got to walk on eggshells her entire life to please this pompous egomaniac...

  • Buttercup

    He seems to be painfully insecure and tries to exercise power over those he interacts with in order to find validation. Those types are SEW emotionally draining.

  • i troll it like i see it

    You probably can't tell him anything about himself either, you would be immediately shut down. My father is like this, just a raging egomaniac. It bothers me when a man tries to say he's single because there has been something wrong with all the women he's been with, bout time to look in the mirror buddy.

  • Auditor

    You can be guided and taught by a master....

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Girl I seen "us" and was like who TF US is...?

  • i troll it like i see it

    Nailed it.

  • Auditor

    I became a father more than a lover, so I had to learn how to turn teacher mode off and just be a friend at times. I had to learn to be more gentle.

    This right here sounds like he abuses women...might have worked in your early 20s...but after a certain age you can't tell me ish...I'm set in my ways and not changing.

  • lil goodie

    Words of a old azz thirsty thot...... (DON'T NOBODY WANTCHEW)FOB?

  • Buttercup

    *sails the fugg away*
    ==========
    :ghost:

  • Auditor

    Lol it's coo y'all thought I was a man too...hell I put up the butterfly pic and some folks still don't know lol

  • Lisa daniels

    ???? I hatecyou.???

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Some folks below said Omar a Captain Save A Hoe. (Meme)

    Problem with some, is they run up on one or two who don't need saving, and get their ass and life handed to em.

  • Auditor

    Word on the street is he's a Cancer...they are captain save a ho's...but couldn't save their selves if their life depended on it...

  • yoni

    THIS IS SOOOOOO TRUE!

  • yoni

    I became a father more than a lover, so I had to learn how to turn teacher mode off and just be a friend at times.

    Shit wannabe, brokedown pimps say.

  • hottlanta

    He could lead me to hell and I am not suppose to say anything to him. I don't need instructions 24/7 that like being my father and sometimes that leads into arrogance and controlling. Then if you have a fight he will utter those famous words, "If it wasn't for me you wouldn't have anything or be anybody. I MADE you.

  • Low E. TUH!

    INDEEDT. FELL ASLEEP ON IT...BEST SLEEP ALL WEEK. GONNA TRY IT AGAIN TONIGHT...IT HAD SOME PRESENT DAY ISSUES FROM WHAT I RECALL

  • Low E. TUH!

    THIS ONE CANCER...MAN OH MAN. HE HAD ISSUES THO.

  • Low E. TUH!

    "THE KEY IS TO CONTROL HER MIND"

    FOMF! -DUB VOICE-

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    They do it to feel good about themselves. Especially if there has been one who made him feel emasulated or lesser in anyway. My particular Captain Save A Hoe thought I needed saving. Aries. Brung his ass over here, and realized he was mistook. Don't nothing need saving round here playboy. Don't let these meager surroundings fool you. I live below my means on purpose. He has moved on to other hoe saving missions. This one wasn't for him. I wish him the best out there in one of America's worse communities. Straight slummin.

  • hottlanta

    Some people have met one day and be together everyday and are quite happy. Different strokes for different folks. All of our love journeys are different there is no one rule playbook to love that can please everybody.

  • Auditor

    Yup I messed around with a Cancer...I can go on for days about his issues. Only reason I stayed is cause I needed his income and was sick at the time. I'll never fck with another one and we're supposed to be compatible...fck naw!

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    Never had one of those. Cancer. Glad yall told me

  • felinelurker

    Had an ex say that to me once. O really? bc when we got together, I had a college degree & job...

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    And as long as your mind is strong. Tuh. I can obviously get over a nig in 30 days or less lol.

  • Auditor

    Lol oh I know...mine moved on to a baby momma that had two kids by two different men...JUST HAD a baby...mind you he has no kids of his own...I'm sitting here like damn was I messing around with a child molester...sigh...

  • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

    FUCi need a time refund..or a Men in Black Deneurolizer to forget this self stroking ego messaging Im so smart I say dumbshyt LETTER! A person who claims to know everything knows nothing at all..He obviously doesn't know he just repelled women who are smart educated and prolly can teach HIM about himself. Slim needs a passive just made it out of high school with a shaky D minus who big goal is to be the baddest stripper or the fastest Waffle House waitress. I see why your relationships failed..you aimed too high..

  • hottlanta

    Yep treating someone as a project as if you are perfect and don't need any guidance. Remember that movie Bobbie Brown was in. When she met him he was all jacked up and she took him and cleaned him up. She was walking around all proud saying look what I created my baby ain't gonna leave me, he's mines. Then one day he came across and saw himself in the mirror and her project she was guiding turned against her and left her. Phadrea thought she was doing the same thing with Apollo. He gets outta jail, clean him up, trying to guide him,do this, do that and look what happened. Don't lead me love me with your flaws because I love you with yours.

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    You rose above. All that matters

  • Auditor

    True true

  • Realnigga101

    You've been messing with the wrong men darling, get with a real nigga like me and we can change all that.

  • felinelurker

    I get what he's trying to say. Seems as if he left the other part out. It comes across as all the women are flawed and beneath him...and they need to be fixed.
    -----------------------------------------------------
    THIS is the part I don't like when preachers (men & women) talk down on women IN their sermons. They leave out men's flaws.

  • Jon

    I understood what he was saying about being a teacher. As men and women you can find yourself in relationships with people whom are broken and find yourself in a 'teaching role' rather than a 'partner role'. It's not that that's where you wanted to be or be in the role just where you found yourself. If you are the person in the relationship is more whole and you find yourself in a relationship with someone who is broken you find yourself often times feeling like their mom or dad. Why? You're telling them things that you feel they should already know and getting frustrated and their getting frustrated with you because they feel you're trying to be their mom or dad when you're not you just want them to be on the same emotional or mental level as you. That's not a diss but let's be honest a lot of us are in relationship where we are unequally yoked. We just feel like "oh we have to grow together and get to know one another"! What if it's not that he's right you want to be in a relationship where this person is on the same spiritual, mental, emotional level as you. Not everyone wants to keep building people up and not be fulfilled in a relationship it gets old and it's draining. Women always are talking about how they want a man to lead but when one tries he's a narcissist. We can both learn from each other the man isn't going to have all the answer neither is the woman but one will edge out the other in terms of where they are in their growth process. Like Slim stated he found himself being hard at times to these women, it takes a certain type of woman to come in that has the ability to bring him to a place where he is comfortable in being gentle. You become hard so to say because you feel like you're saying the same thing over and over not realizing you're letting it dictate how you talk to not only that woman but ones to come. You then have to take note of it and correct your actions and your words. Growth is a beautiful things it's even better when you can start it with someone whom is on the same level as you.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    Hey Sandra, what's your take on your country leaving the EU?

  • Auditor

    Yup I saw that...so it went through? They leaving?

  • KIC came to slay!

    Dub I know you got my MF message ??

  • iWasteTime

    Good Morning!
    I'm so mad I missed this post.
    I know the comments are off the chain.

  • Let Your Soul Glow

    So it would appear. The paper I'm reading described it as a messy divorce that would take a couple of years to hash out all the details. The vote was so close though, I wonder if they will do a recount or something.

  • Low E. TUH!

    PIPE WAS EVERYDAMNTHING...EMOTIONALLY DETACHED AF

  • Auditor

    Yup I get what you're saying...been there myself...with a Cancer man and don't wanna go there again...I became verbally abusive lol.

    My definition of lead is...you see me exhausted...take charge and cook dinner or fold the clothes or put gas in my car. I see you exhausted and I'll do the same for you. You know I've been having bad days at work...come home and massage me and chat with me about my day and I'll do the same for you. That simple sh!t...is TOO much to ask for nowadays...

  • MzFutureLCSW

    *So the master has to have the necessary skill set to deal with broken vessels.
    *Just have the heart available so that I can heal it.
    *don’t ever be intimated by my growth.

  • MzFutureLCSW

    As a mature woman. As a Christian woman, I "feel some kind of way" abt the sentences I pasted in my previous post. But, I get what he means.
    I seem to attract the type of men that he meets in women.
    When you read text books and take classes and just READ, you gain & obtain information that others may not have, so if you are not careful or full of yourself, BOOM!

  • Buttercup

    The value of the pound has plummeted. I'm thinking about taking Lil Butter for a vacay there during his fall break.

  • DivineMsM

    Glad you got much needed sleep ( soooo Gel-ous). All week, have been trying to get my sleep back to my usual pattern

  • SummerBaby

    I'm so mad I missed this post. I don't have time to read all the comments right now. I get what he's saying to a certain point, but the more I read of his letter I was like wait whet?!

  • Auditor

    Dang yea I could imagine the work that has to be done to break away

  • Low E. TUH!

    INTIMATED...STILL STUCK.

  • MissyJ

    I just had to politely ask a man not to contact me anymore cause he wanted to save me and negroe I don't need SAVED. You mad cause when you stopped by without an invite, I had dished in my sink? So whet? Wash them then, don't come back at me like you shouldn't have dishes... yes he did!
    I'm not gonna have some flavor of the month picking me apart. You take me as I am or you leave me setting there on the curb. I'll will manage to continue breathing either way.
    I ain't like him cause he was short, he wasn't as educated as I prefer, he ain't have no muscles, wasn't light skindt, had 2 chirren with 2 different mommas, was from the cesspool of Detroit, had a negative outlook on just about everything.. to name a few.. Did I say chit? NO! If I chose to deal with you, I deal with YOU.. the end

  • Glorious Sun

    say the mo'fo who stay single. boyyee bye!

  • Low E. TUH!

    SENTIMENTS! I'M RACING HOME TODAY...BAKE THESE BRATS SOME FISH AND CALL IT A NITE!

  • Da Puppet Mistress

    I'm just getting to work. Long long ass morning.

  • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

    One last WTF Question
    What are you zackly symbolizing with the "Strong Sista" smashin' Watermelons with her bare feet? I honestly want to know. Is that you are trying to say you are smashing the stereotype? Well your letter just stereotyped strong black women as hurt creatures that need your healing... You sir need to go to the corner and rethink your message..or find becky with the goot hair to be your lapdog to lay at your feet..

  • Full Monty

    See that's his problem thinking he a teacher. Women don't want to hear that crap. You not their daddy. Comes a point in time where you have to look at the man in the mirror.

  • Full Monty

    Yup I had an ex tell me you gonna see me on tv playing ball and cry. Well my tv work just fine but I still haven't seen him yet!

  • Full Monty

    I saw that too and it boggles me because I really didn't even think he dated black women.

  • Buttercup

    You mad cause when you stopped by without an invite, I had dished in my sink?
    =============
    He wouldn't have seen the dishes in the sink, because he wouldn't have made it in. Folks already know not to come by unannounced to my place.

  • Sheyonce

    Right, I caught that too. Apparently he hasn't learned much if that's still his approach.

  • Wuts got Petty Davis Eyes..

    Im waiting on Viv to say and THATS WHY I dumped his stupid azz!

  • Low E. TUH!

    CONSTANT PESSIMISM IS A NO BRAINER...DEUCES

  • ThickyFromPhilly

    Good Morning!!! This fool really wrote a four page letter exclaiming to all women that he is now perfect. Da fukk....I can't. Not once has he mentioned his future wife being his partner only a pet who follows. So for this nukka all I got is FOMF with this bullshat!

  • Jusstlookn

    agree, but I can guarentee most of his relationships were superficial as we talking about him. NOT YOU and I. Correct?

  • hottlanta

    My favorite parting words they always say is "you ain't gonna find no one else like me. I always say I sure hope not. They be looking at you like a deer in headlights after that.

  • SameoleJ

    "Just have the humility to allow me to guide you."
    "So the master has to have the necessary skill set to deal with broken vessels."

    So Slim done wrote another "Love Letter" to himself, about himself, encouraging and glorifying himself. I see this is one of those classes I'll play hookie from!!

  • Auditor

    Better call before you come...just don't pop up over out the bluuuuueee...*outkadt*

  • SameoleJ

    All this is true and if he had used the eloquent words and humility that you used up top....I could rock with him through this whole "Love Letter". However, as usual, he deviates from being open and enlightening to narcissistic and his words lose their power.

  • SameoleJ

    I'm still trying to read whatever followed that first sentence/question....Let me go see if I can stop laughing!!

  • Jon

    I agree! As you can see most of the women on here are slamming him. This is why the dynamic in the black households are off. Black women want a males physical but not the head of the house mindset. So many of them have been doing it by themselves or watched someone do it by themselves they think what they're spewing out is right. It's not relationships are 50/50 but at certain points the man is going to have to lead. At no point do most white men not know they are the head of their house. But as black men some of us have to fight for that title even if we are doing everything to fit the position description!

  • SameoleJ

    And us all to reply....WE SEE!!!

  • Jon

    Ok I see your point

  • SameoleJ

    Chile, I was all like Yay he gets it....and then like Naw, He don't!! But I was not surprised.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thank you, Jon. I'm glad someone said it. Every other culture knows the black man is the head of the household. I can't even say it's a race factor, because Jamaicans and other Caribbean women of African descent also know that men are head of household. The problem lies with black women in America who are very disrespectful toward men.

  • SameoleJ

    Surely you jest!!! Slim's post, although holding some truths (and most of his post do)...went its usual route wherein he is the all knowing savior. He is not, and any real, conscience man would know and acknowledge that a real relationship is about knowing when you should and allow your significant other to take the lead, as they are stronger at that particular thing. If your woman is better at managing money, let her take the lead.....if you are a secure PERSON, this does not diminish you, it actually shows your inner strength that you can acknowledge a weakness.

  • SameoleJ

    If you lead, I am going to ask where we are going? I want to make sure I have selected the right one to follow. There is nothing worst than following the "man should lead" mantra only to be following a fool. The issue is that a lot (not all men) find those questions offensive and get upset, when they really are valid. If you are leading, please come with a destination, doesn't have to be 10 years down the line....but at least have an idea of where you are going.

  • SameoleJ

    And there it is!!! They want the perks of a strong woman, but can't take the things that made her strong!!

  • Jon

    You're welcome! There is a bad taste that it seems to leave in American black women's mouth! It's not a negative thing. That's our place, when you have been shown the correct example I don't think it's a hard concept. More black men need to step up into the role of being the head instead of playing the part. This also happens because a lot of black women ( only speaking to you guys right now other cultures do it too) except mediocre men and get mediocre results and when a man of substance and means come along you don't know what he looks like. You're intimidated by him much like some men are intimidated when they're around confident black women. So in their insecurities they try and find fault in them to bring them down to their level. The smart ones know this and don't play into it though.

  • MissyJ

    I was trying to be hospitable... My last mistake. You got the nerve to come judging me??? Nah

  • Buttercup

    I hope that you do too.

  • SameoleJ

    .......

  • SameoleJ

    Amen!!!

  • Jon

    You're right @ @SameoleJ you have to be willing to let your partner step in when necessary because both of you should bring something to the table. I have felt like him though you feel like you're teaching a person rather simply loving them. It's not because you want to! It's because you've remained in the relationship you love that person and you want them to do better. Soon though if your not careful you become condescending and irritating to the other person even though your behavior is so because of theirs but they don't realize this. It's like if you're in a relationship and your significant other is nasty or let's say not on your level of clean. To where you're constantly picking up and cleaning up behind them. Eventually you're going to get mad and frustrated and take it out on them verbally. They want take into consideration that you're speaking to them this way because of their actions they just take into account that you're speaking to them in a disrespectful manner. When respect goes both ways if I tell you I have a problem with something over and over and you disregard me then soon those same actions will be applied to your feelings.

  • SameoleJ

    Then you have to realize and accept that you are not evenly yoked and move on. People can adjust their actions, if and when they want to and if they value what they have. If not, then you have to decide what you can live with. My last situation, was constant flirting and disrespect, I had to make the decision that after 6+ years, I could not live with it for the rest of my life and should have left sooner. When it is all said and done, if we cannot take an honest look at ourselves and see where we could improve and be truthful with it.....we are doomed to destroy any and every relationship, simply because we are not whole and if you cannot be honest with you, how can you be honest with anyone else. Slim's problem is what a lot of people deal with- refusing to take the time to work on themselves and jumping from situation to situation, so that they can avoid self reflection and evaluation---and he, just like those others, will only find happiness for a short period of time. If it last past 6 months to a year, it will be because the other person won't let go.

  • Auditor

    Yup if he had said it your way...I'd be on board...

  • BKLYNS MAMA

    All I got from this long....sermon...is dude is CONTROLLING...just like another FOB.

  • Auditor

    Eh most Black men are either weak or think they're being the head of household and are down right abusive....no in between. Where are these men you speak of? I got no qualms of "bowing down" to my man...but you gotta have some "right, good sense"...as my grandma would say. I'm not trying to teach you what is right and what is wrong. Drugs did a number on my generation...they just ain't sh!t. Then wanna blame someone else for their problems.

    I had one negra tell me Black folks can't do what they wanna do. I'm like sir...wtf do you mean? He never could answer the question. I'm like um I do EVERYTHING I wanna do...sh!t just came back from Hawaii...only negra in the WHOLE damn city from what I saw. Went zip lining, tried snorkeling, and flew over the volcanoes. My life is beyond goodt and I'm blessed. Don't EVER tell me I can't do what I wanna do...cause I've already DONE IT. A mindset like that is why you ain't sh!t. We got a Black president nigga...gtfo my face!

  • Auditor

    Preach

  • SameoleJ

    I try to rock out with our men, but then Slims come along and I just CANNOT!!!

  • Auditor

    Preach again! No one takes a good, hard look at their self... ESPECIALLY in their 20s...just jumping from relationship to relationship. Been technically single for almost 3 years and man it has felt GOOD... I've grown SO much. I know what I want and need and no one can break me.

  • Auditor

    Preach AGAIN...don't take me for a ride to NOWHERE!

  • Guess Who

    Lawd...this NINJA again

  • SameoleJ

    I have been on a path of some real deep self evaluation, as I was to a point that I was questioning myself and thinking I was asking for too much. Then I had to look deeper and say, you have some inner issues, therefore you are not in a place to select and attract the person you want. I took full accountability for me and my actions and boy did it hurt...but it was necessary. Am I whole again, or was I ever whole? I had to ask that question of me. And I was not or I would not have stayed for as long as I did. I call myself beautifully broken, as what has come out of all of this is more than I thought I could be. I am at peace, no ill will, no ill thoughts, well wishes are genuine and I love myself so much. No more settling, but always willing to compromise for something worthwhile.

  • Jon

    Lol I agree a lot of those men are weak but they are being taken in and when don't rise to the occasion we have another broken family. Women should make these men get themselves together before entering relationships and having kids with them. We as men have to do a whole lot better but women also have to stop accepting our mediocrity because of said potential!

  • LibraGirlonly

    He should choose women he can grow with and not ones who are broken and if he chooses broken women it's his fault not the woman. He comes of as a self righteous a hole.

  • LibraGirlonly

    If you want to be the man of a household then be a MAN first. You are welcome!!!

  • LibraGirlonly

    I look for guidance from within and from the Creator. We can learn and grow together but you guide a child not an adult OKAYYY.

  • Buttercup

    I would've kicked him out like ole Marty Mart, "Nie gets to steppin! Step! Step!"

  • Jon

    A lot of us are though. We're still treated a certain type of way. It takes a strong person to take the abuse and give out love. What happens if I am the MAN as you say but you've been dealing with boys your whole life?! Can you appreciate me or will you dog me and call me lame because I'm making the attempt to be better and improve our lives but you can't see that or you're scared of coming out of your comfort zone so you sabotage us. Most of the time with the same type of dude who broke you in the first place!

  • Smith Jane

    I lost interest/the point about half way through. Yeah sometimes folks bring out different spirits (jealousy, competiveness etc) in you, but what does that have to do with "future wife"? Like I think I missed the point of the post. If you find yourself attracting women that are emotionally/mentally stunted, then perhaps the problem is you. We are who we attract. Broken people often seek out individuals who are just as broken.

  • Meme81

    Maybe he's just lookin' for a woman who can kick box the hell outta some watermelon. That's a heck of a skill.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Slim should just get a blowup doll and forget about real relationships....

  • SameoleJ

    So now that I looked closer at the image....
    1. She has an afro to depict her afrocentric power
    2. Drop kicking watermelons while crows fly/flee/just happen to be there
    3. Does all this while rocking a two piece Wonderwoman bikini/outfit/hero suit
    4. With hard nipples and her crotch out and
    5. Her toes look like knuckles and she may not have had to "fight all her life", but she been drop kicking watermelons for some time.

    Um, yeah Slim-----You complete us!! SMDH

  • Smith Jane

    How can a black man step up and lead the household when he was never taught or shown how? It perplexes me how often black women say c h i t like this. Do y'all (black women) understand the role that women play in their children (both male & female) lives? It is a vicious cycle that begins with women. If you continue to pick emotionally stunted boys (or ones who don't intimidate you) why do you automatically expect that they will somehow impart great examples of manhood to their child? It is the women who have got to do better. You need to do better at picking fathers and husbands. Try to find a man that you would want your child to emulate. These boys never grow into adulthood because they are being raised by single mothers or "men" that have never graduated into adulthood.

  • Soon2BWife

    Too long for me to read something that will go in one ear and out the other.

  • Smith Jane

    If you need to be led then there's the problem right there. I've never felt pressured into being led. If I'm in a relationship with you it's because we share common goals, values, and morals. Therefore, any directions (concerning our livelihood, career, relationship etc) will automatically be a mutual effort on my part. There's no incessant questioning or needing to know "where we are going", because the outline is clear. I think if you ever find yourself in a position where you're questioning the direction of your relationship, then you've picked the wrong person or the two of you don't share the same goals. No woman or man should need to be led. Either we are in agreement, as to the dynamics of our relationship and its goals, or we're not. It's that simple. I also think what confuses black women (about the whole letting a man lead) is that they don't understand what it means to not be divisive. Everything, with most black ppl, is a "debate". You can't ask them to do anything without them giving you 10 reasons (hypothetical of course!) why they can't or it won't work. It's like we have the spirit of being argumentative. It's not even constructive, they argue (not for edufication) but to push stupidity.

  • SameoleJ

    Huhn?! Who said anyone needed to be led? The Bible says that a man should be the head of his household and in this conversation when we say lead, we are taking about taking the lead as the head of that household. Of course, nobody is being led like some village idiot. We are also saying that if you are Leading/ taking the lead/ being head of the household, you should have a destination and as head of the household, he should be able to articulate to the woman he is to marry that plan. Then they as a unit can decide what direction that will take. And in order to agree to the dynamics of the relationship, you have to have had a discussion, as most agreements are the direct result of a diccussion or conversation, correct?

    Here we go with the "Black ppl" mess, which should have made me ignore your comment.....ALL people debate, no matter the color ALL races give reasons why something may not work, as WE as humans have that innate need to ask questions to gain clarity.

    But anyhoo!!!! I don't want to start a debate. SMH

  • Smith Jane

    Yeah I'd have to see some examples of what he was dealing with, in its proper context. Black men are known for having high expectations, especially when it concerns black women lol. They like: I want em physically fit, no kids, educated, no weave, have her own house, car, and don't need to rely on no man to pay their bills. Which is fine, but, meanwhile this guy will be: living on assistance with 5 kids by 3 different women, unemployed, barely GED, living in section 8 housing, with no car. Like, how do you fix your mouth to expect any of these things from a potential partner when you bring absolutely nothing yo the relationship? And then have the nerve to nitpick the woman apart about what she don't got, when you got less than her? Lol that's why I dont take men like Slim at face value. They always claim to have their c h i t together but they bring nothing but unnecessary drama

  • Shira Harding-James

    Sit down Slimm

  • Full Monty

    I know that's right. Never downgrade always upgrade!

  • Full Monty

    I forgot they were together.

  • Wayup!

    ????

  • Wayup!

    At the very END of this rant he mentioned in passing he too had flaws. ..yet failed to mention what said flaws were??
    I can name 1 of the bat for me is that long a$$ bih made hair!

  • Wayup!

    Preachhhhhh?

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    LOL I'm not a fan of a man that has to spend more time in the mirror than me either. I'm a short to bald fade lovin type of chick. Him and the pink oil moisturizer perm fails on Love and Hip Hop are a no go for me.

  • Sammie

    but i thought he was gay

  • LaGrl562

    This nigga is delusional..........................that is all

  • TaylorFinallyMadeIt

    Baha

  • Desiree

    LMAO!

  • Wayup!

    Chileeeee I know this my be a stereotype but for ME if a dude hair long to me he gay...wrong I know ? but my preference for sure?

  • Antigone Heart

    I respect your opinion.

    Jon there is a difference in someone who seeks to lead vs. someone who seeks to control. The factors behind the two are a prelude to one's character.
    The only [consistent] inference from Slim's "letter" is his copious idiosyncrasies; one of them being Slim's incessant and at times intermittent need to encircle the "letter" (with not so subtle) nuisances or praise of himself.
    One could concur that the aforementioned was further compounded by Slim's off-putted decision to quote himself in the middle of autobiographical "letter" already interwoven with amorous statements about science and his desires for trainable women; the choice seems paradoxical.

    It is not a mistake that the ninth paragraph (of the "letter) begins with a false and brief extract of self-reflection, but follows through with a closing statement that reverts back to self-adulation; albeit a third party reference ("the master").

    In the end, people may be held accountable by their words and Slim's words are not earnest, but boastful. The "letter" does not support any discernable growth, and it would appear that Slim only seeks women he can control. Also, please stop with the hasty generalization about women as it logical fallacies invalidates any argument and implications about the commenter's character.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_hyTxAKqdLQ

  • Auditor

    Truth I'm currently on the I don't care path...hoping one day I actually DO care. Cause I have anxiety and if I care TOO much it hurts. But I felt every word you said...

  • TeeTee

    And that is why I don't date men...

  • Jones

    Why is the guy so lame?

  • Jon

    I liked that you felt the need to use all those big words! Yes even to someone who's smart you seemed to go out of your way to come as being extra educated about a topic on a gossip site. Lol my statements were not meant to generalize all black women put it is a vast amount of you who I know personally or from afar who exhibit these characteristics. Yes slim comes off as egotistical but some of the things he stated were true. He does need to stop jocking hisself and take a look in the mirror.

  • Antigone Heart

    I am who I am and for the most part I make no qualms about how others perceive me or my use of speech. However, what is telling is someone who opines with remarks such as "big words", and with that I can not follow you.

    In my rebuttal when I referred to the hasty generalization about women I did not specify a race origin group (black women), but your response did, and that is also telling; all logical fallacies will still render an argument unsound.

    Jon, implications aside I do not place boundaries on my writing no matter the given platform and it is not an act of pretense.

    Have a good day, sir.

  • Jon

    Nice response! If you read my previous post I stated that I was speaking specifically to black women when it came to this post. I don't have a problem with your use of the English language my problem comes because I think you only chose to do so because you felt the need to dissect my post. It would be nice if most had the vocabulary that you exhibit on this but then again they may practice situational awarenes. You have to realize who your audience is and speak to people on their level. Something that you don't care to do because it's more important for you to come across as educated for strangers rather than actually reaching one with what you have to provide to the conversation. One thing that is also telling that you did was that you felt the need to dismiss me after you finish making your point. Why? Yes you said good day sir but we know it was condescending and a dismal.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    you can have whateva you liiikkkeeeeeee...
    lol

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Agree! And I understood every damn word you said. Keep being you on here.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Many other cultures hide the abusiveness in the household almost to the point of it being illegal to report. Thin line between head of home and controlling of another human's life to the point they have to conform to your way of being but, you are not willing to do the same.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    nigga with a bunch of invoices and no receipts.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    This is how cults begin.

  • Enoughsaid2020

    This ninja here, is looking for a very submissive women. I had flaws, no you have flaws forever, nobody is perfect. SMH!

  • darealwifey

    The expectations some men have of women are oppressive to the spirit. The standards are inhuman and unrealistic and unfair. So, some people really do need to be by themselves.

  • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

    ???

  • SameoleJ

    A man is the head of the household and therefore is considered the "leader". NOBODY is being led in the way you are looking at it. If he is the head and the head goes in one direction, does not it lead the body into that direction as well? I have a mind of own, but will allow my significant other to take the lead in the relationship, however only if I am okay with the direction he wants to go in, I would be fine going down that road with him. Of course we will make decisions together, but if I respect his position as head of the household and and he has proven that it is a plan that will prosper us. Okay, I am really done now. Imma need you to go get some happy and stop thinking so negatively!!

  • SameoleJ

    AMEN!!!

  • Fawn Grier

    Very, very well said.

  • Fawn Grier

    I wish I'd read these words in my twenties! I had to learn the hard way.

  • Liah

    Boy Bye....

  • Antigone Heart

    Jon, my rebuttal pertained to this specific post and for the sake of argument any outside factors such as outside posts is not a prerequisite for a response. However, nudging others to review other posted commentary on a "gossip blog" to dismiss one's own faulty reasoning (generalizing) is more of dependent and remissive choice to have others define your stance. The latter will not work as faulty reasoning does not equal sound reasoning.

    The aforementioned post did not reference black women nor did it reference any of your previous posts ; it referenced women in general. Perhaps, like Slim it would have been conducive for you to cite or quote yourself. However, to enact a defense mechanism to rationalize your use of broadly generalizing women in that you feign inculpability for it, but blame me, is in itself an act of convolution.

    As for as my writing style I do not target people and your beliefs on the matter are again your own or a matter of your perception. Also, continuing to assess my writing style is a second example of convolution as my original rebuttal has not been countered on its merit by you. It would appear that you are offended by my writing style. I will state that you will not reach anyone with generalizing women or by using faulty reasoning unless you use "situational awareness" (correct spelling) to target a desired demographic on a "gossip blog."

    Note: "Good day" is a formal greeting not necessarily a dismissal (correct spelling) or condescending but that is your perception.

  • Antigone Heart

    Thanks ReadingIsFundamental4Real.

  • Luv Pitties

    That and complimentary kool-aid.

  • Smith Jane

    Lol I think you're missing my point, or I'm not explaining my position clearly. Black women instinctively don't trust black men to be a position of leadership, when it comes to relationships. Yet they will agree to be in a relationship with a black man, as long as the leadership role or head of the household is her herself or is shared jointly. My point is, why even enter a relationship with the guy if you don't want him to be the head of the household? To be in a position of leadership implies trust that you both want the same things and are willing to jointly make those sacrifices. It just seems so asinine to me. I guess this explains why there's such a high rate of divorces (in general) and such a low amount of marriages in our community. There's no communication and no trust.

  • Smith Jane

    Again, you're misunderstanding my comment(s). How do you get to the level of intimacy or a relationship? You court/date/hang out for a few months or years, and then decide to be exclusive, right? At that point, what that guys motives, morals, goals should be clear to you. Hell, after 2-3 dates, if you ask the right questions, or are just perceptive enough, you can pick up on whether the guy has the same goals and values as you. You don't wait until after you've been fawking and have a kid or three to start asking questions about where he's trying to lead your household and why. That's asinine. You should know by date 3 what this dude is about. It is only at that point should you even entertain the notion of marriage and a family. Women aren't doing their due diligence and then wonder why they're not comfortable being led by their baby daddy. Because, to allow someone else to make decisions for you and your family, implies trust, and trust involves venting that person to make sure they're up to the task to do so. These are requirements that black women rarely use when it comes to who they marry and fawk. That's why the notion of having a head of household (someone other than themselves) is terrifying, because it requires critical thinking about a se x u al partner and hubby. Hope that clarifies it!

  • Mister Fantastic

    I just came for the comments...

  • Luv Pitties

    And a complimentary cup of kool-aid

  • Antigone Heart

    ?

  • Felicia Kelley

    Not into niggas!!

    But Men, I do!!

  • Felicia Kelley

    EXACTLY

  • Felicia Kelley

    If he was ALL THAT his relationships would have lasted more than 3 years!!
    How come you attract all these broken women??

  • Realnigga101

    I'm a real man. What's your instagram babe?

  • Felicia Kelley

    No instagram

  • Antigone Heart

    "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

    1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (New International Version)

     https://m.youtube.com/?#/watch?v=34RnvBQ6KIk

  • Sleepy One

    Good answer, duh boo I don't want another like you.

  • Tee Jay

    sounds like he still wants to be a father than a companion to me... "allow me to guide you"... let's learn to walk together because I don't need anyone to guide me.

  • S T

    Hehehe! @ "...I sure hope not." LMAo. Chile.....

  • S T

    Waaaaaait, that person was for real?????? (*Clasps pearls) "Nigga" and "babe"? OMG. It's worse out there than I thought!!! Lol. U handled it well though!! ;0)

  • S T

    Hehehee!! Y'all are a mess up in here!!! :0)

  • Liah

    Boy Bye???

  • S T

    Perfectly put. His condescension is so off-putting, it's now comical.

  • Diamond

    Hey ladies, if I want some true advice look up this Guy named Derrick Jaxn on YouTube. He's the real deal holy field

  • testtee

    He is so busy trying to be a teacher and a "man" he is missing out on life and a beautiful relationship.. I bet he is afraid of love.. I know a distraction when i see it.. Lol

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    I dont agree with this

  • kekeb

    Annnnnd what part of this says, I want to love you, cherish you, spend my life with you??? All I got from this was, "I'm right; you're wrong, but I'm patient enough to deal with you whilst I mold you into a tolerable woman." . .

  • Saharabutnotdry

    He is scuuurd of the notion that is love . A damaged baby that didn't get help .

  • http://totallifechanges.com/PurTEA VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Next time Omar writes I'm going to put on my church hat, gloves, pearls, and drink communion wine and a peice of bread!!

  • Fendi

    I saw this on IG under the Explore section. ???

  • Akhenaton

    2.9 years and counting

  • Akhenaton

    omar providing training...

  • Carmen

    you're ugly. lol

  • Brazen Beauty

    I will say this was very well written. I can agree with him on several factors. But weather he needs a puppy or perhaps write a book on relationships, his judgement is sound.

  • Arii

    He's such a turn off.

  • OfficialDime

    Who?????

  • Butter CreamFactory

    That's what I thought too.. They don't know #newschoolcrap

  • Vegas1989

    Girl, you made my morning...You made me bust out laughing...Girl I got to go warm up my lunch now....SMH....LOL...

  • Vegas1989

    Amen....My honey be trying to say stuff that is slick..but I tell him. That my father is dead and gone..He was the only man to tell me what to do. Bye Boy...LOL.....Don't get me wrong but the man is in charge but if you talking sideways...I'm gone...I have a degree and a great job. Don't need you but I choose to be with you...I having tied the knot yet..

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY

    Yes, I am baffled as to why everyone must 'allow' him to do want he prefers in the relationship. It's almost as though he is saying, you know this is me now, don't try to alter it. TF? A woman could very well come along and be that one woman who he needs to follow and remain silent to see her resiliency. I believe as he stated; his past and the women he shared that past with were women who needed that. I think he needs to seek women who are built up and can be his equal or get a cat. Just talking out loud. (-_-)

  • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

    I bet if you dm him he'll remember you tho

  • Felicia Kelley

    Lol?????

    Who knows??

  • S T

    Hope not. But I don't shock easy anymore. Lol. So chile, u never know! These dudes be on 1??

  • Felicia Kelley

    HUNTY!!! I just shakes my head!!