Mike Epps Apologizes to Lira Galore for Calling Her a Man

Y’all say a little prayer for Lucy. I’ve been up most of the night with a dull ache from my hip down my leg. On my way to a job interview for a position I was offered. It would be a cush job, stupid benefits and perks. I’m not thrilled about the days and the pay. Almost 40% cut. The position was told to me by a friend with quite some pull, however, they know nothing of my current salary. They said it was negotiable. I just don’t know how much. ?

Try not to let them see you walk in doing the stanky leg and you’ll do just fine. Good luck!

Good Luck Lucy!!

40% Mon Dieu

Maybe she meant his previous show Survivor’s Remorse, but is that a sitcom?

Prayers up, you got this

Best of luck! I know, you know your worth, let them know. Let the negotiations begin. Then see about that ache you’re having.

Good luck!!!!!

Duval’s messy rant gives some insight into the utter disdain that certain black industry men feel for black women who aren’t their mothers or daughters.

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The disdain some of these artist appear to have for the black woman is heart breaking….

Mike bet not mess up these white folks money… He would be even worst off ? LOL nah doe so lil Duval savin ’em now??? Don’t save him he don’t wanna be saved in my J. Cole voice… It ain’t the mama’s fault tho Fr Fr they grown AF ?

I really can’t stand Lil’ Duval. He’s not funny and I am convinced he has a Napoleon complex. He is ALWAYS talking shit and involving himself in matters that do not and should not concern him.

At some point it is no longer the mother’s fault (if it ever was) and is in fact the man’s fault for being so mean and spiteful. You don’t grow into adulthood without realizing your behavior is wrong, when it is wrong.

Im confused what did Mike Epps say about her that warranted an apology. I keep looking for his wrongful message to her but all I see is Lil Duval???someone please clarify Im confused.

I guess because he called her a man?

I was gonna say the same thing! Thank you!!!!

Good luck. Negotiating is always tough.

I hate that little troll. always have. and he’s corny.

But Survivors Remorse wasn’t poorly rated either. I haz a confused lol

Oh no, not Lady T! What an ass.

He’s not funny at all…Just a big azz mouth. Someone should stick a dyck in it since it’s always open.

I do what I can LOL

YOU HAVE TO BE RAISED IN ORDER TO GROW…SOME PEOPLE JUST BECAME ADULTS WITHOUT LEARNING THE ACCOUNTABILITY FACTOR.

She is looking a lil unclockable up top…

They are all idiots. She put herself out there by sleeping around with a lot of men and when you do that men will not respect you, which is why Rick Ross pulled the plug on the engagement. His friends were laughing at him.

Yes, ladies, the same industry men whose music and concert tickets you buy hate you like you stole something.
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I have niggas in real life who hate my ass. So I can’t watch Black Doug and chuckle? Satin Struthers was an asshole. But I still watched.

He apologized like a real man is supposed to, and not because the producers of his poorly-rated TV sitcom asked him to. ?

SIDE NOTE: I HAVEN’T BEEN WATCHING STARZ BUT SURVIVOR’S REMORSE APPEARS TO BE RETURNING JULY 24!!

I haven’t even watched season 2 ?

Why hasn’t LIl Duval faded to black yet? And I thought Mike’s tweet was hilarious.

I have a few real life folks hating me too! I done pissed two off recently. ?

girlfriends, fiances and baby mothers does not make someone straight ask Yosaf Mack

I had to go back and reread….

I’m glad Day Day apologized

Napoleons !!

Hell no! I don’t buy shat!

My uncle is one of the most chauvinistic men I have ever met. He and my aunt have been married for 45 years and raised 5 children. They only had 1 son, and that apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

Does that include Prince? ?

YOU ARE TREMENDOUSLY SLACKING! THIS AND POWER I STAY CURRENT ON

TRANSLATION: PUT SOME RESPECK ON YA SELF!

No..Prince is exempt.

Ok. MOST men under 5’5. And Prince had a fat wallet to stand on so…that’s different

Just said that lmaoooo

Excluding Prince. Well of course he’s excluded. He was an enigma.

Zackly…they pushy and aggressive too. I just look down at em like REALLY??

lol. You just made me spit out my coffee. Good morning to ya!

An anomaly, extraordinaire.

Where can I find a pic of her? I’m curious to see what she looks like since he brags about her so much.

DUVAL ADMITS ON MANY AN OCCASION THAT HE’S SIMPLY RICH BROKE…LE SIGH

Wanna be in charge so bad.

????? Oh Sandra

We are here ><

I block that ass and keep it pushing

i don’t believe that the disdain, in which i am speaking of, that (some) men have for black women…is due soley to how the woman is presenting herself. Maybe in some cases…and in those cases, it has very little to do with the woman being black and more about her being a ratchet work in progress. There is an energy of disdain and aversion, that are on some of these black men, specifically in the industry, making them believe that the black woman is their enemy….and apparently the darker the woman, the more of an enemy she is considered.

I guess that means you won’t post anymore of Luda and TI music, huh?

*DJ Khaled voice*
?? Another one??

From Google: ‘Survivor’s Remorse’ is a situation comedy series about a basketball star in his early 20s, whose life changes after he signs a multimillion-dollar contract with a team in Atlanta. The show stars Mike Epps and Tichina Arnold. One of the executive producers is LeBron James. the 1st episode aired in 2014.

Steve helping her out right? good!! im tired of hearing abt her being fired! ppl get fired everyday B??

Uncle buck starts June 14th. That’s the show I was speaking of.

He did exhibit some of the traits. They tend to be extra competitive. Controlling. And womanizers. A lot of them are extra petty too. But damn it he was Pah-rinse. So nope.

Kudos to you for your font it was on point. Once you start loving yourself you just won’t give a F about what someone else says about you. It is exhilarating!!!! He knew her self esteem was low.

My mother said they have a lot to prove LOL.

Steve Harvey giving Tamar her own show…..

“But who knows what was really going on in the home.”
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Exactly. Having a trifling father in the home is sometimes worse than having no father.

Good question.

Nobody

“Yes, ladies, the same industry men whose music and concert tickets you buy hate you like you stole something.” – Sandra Rose Yaaas! And it’s not just the industry, many of our males are “Emotionally Homosexual”. I coined this term and have a theory about it. I am looking forward to a prominent Psychiatrist friend of mine using it in her research for her next published work(she said she is crediting me as she had never heard it before LOL But this is such a serious issue I am likely not the first person to use this term in Academia). Anyway, several factors, including unreported untreated sex abuse has disabled many Black men from viewing Black woman as anything other than objects. Everything you would normally expect from a relationship; trust, empathy, close bonds, forgiveness, etc is exclusively for their male to male friendships. When it comes to women, Emotionally Homosexual men feel “These Hoes ain’t Loyal” and “We Don;t Love these Hoes” Popular music is just a tool to express this behavior. We have a real problem.

You couldn’t be more wrong. Those rappers are 2 examples of men who take care of their women and children.

line up of women from light to dark floating on Instagram ..some of the captions have been horrible

Not I… and I refuse to waste DVR space!!!

Somebody. Not this body, but somebody.

“…he sure isn’t gay”
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Google the term “down low”.

She did say she was going to be on his show today and I despise Steve Harvey. So she’s not focusing on her singing career? I want her to win so I’ll see what she’s talking about.

Really? Do they respect women? One would say a man out here stealing babies by feigning broke is not one a person should support? Or a man who had the audacity to say some white Aussie changed the rap game for women.

Is Lira Ross ex?

We didn’t have that problem back in the day. Black women were uplifted and respected in the media when I was a child. Google back issues of Ebony magazine from the 1960s and 1970s. You will only see full page ads of black (dark skinned) women, not light skin or mixed race.

“But I don’t blame them; I blame their single mothers for not providing them with the proper male role models to teach them how to be men.”

And attitudes like this here is the exact reason the black male doesn’t even try to be a father to his children… Why even try when you will be given a pass for not trying by a society that clearly thinks he lacks the capability to raise his children better than he had things as so many parents across racial lines do.. No man whether raised by a father or not should be this disrespectful to women..

You despise Steve Harvey! Why?!!!

Those two AWESOME rappers are FOB….so they can do no wrong…So, yeah? but, we know the real….somebody call Shekinah Jo…Tiny old friend….I bet she has some interesting stories about that TIP guy… #IJS

But I don’t blame them; I blame their single mothers for not providing them with the proper male role models to teach them how to be men.
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? OK…I guess

All $ ain’t good $!

Yes

I did ?

And womanizers
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You mean hoes…

He probably hate the day

TIP does hold down his kids …..

Yes.

^^^^This! Having an emotionally cold, distant father in the home who doesn’t bond emotionally with his son or daughter is just as bad, if not worse than having no man in the home. Most of those children will grow up with emotional or cognitive dissonance. They will experience problems in life. These are men who grow up to be gay or down low (bisexual), or beat their girlfriends or wives, or can’t keep a job.

Oww…that last paragraph tho…it’s some hot truth tea…

They mess with them and still disrespect them…marriage and children don’t stop break babies and cheating.

Disgusting

Fawkin dwarf? these niccaz be too disrespectful…

Oop! I’m upvoting. Wish I had multiple e-personalities so they could vote too.

I don’t condone Black men belittling black women, but This whole IG model thing has really gotten out of hand. They are not models which is clear and they do not respect them selves which is evident from the post on the gram. They are IG Strippers which have moved from the pole to the internet.I have seen post from Lira’s Mom and obviously the apple did not fall far from the tree. Mike Epps is a comedian and gets paid for it so why are we shaming him?Lira gets paid for what? and why? this is what I can’t wrap my brain around. Wake up black people how can we be great with this tom foolery?

He a b!tch and acts as such. I don’t respect how he did his 1st wife and I was a fan. Kings of Comedy was my ish. Even had the soundtrack. He asks as a relationship guru and and he’s hypocrite.

Disclaimer , I am not bashing single moms BC I am one ..but honestly you would be a fool to beleive that the lack of fathers hasn’t contributed to some if these things . I bring my son around his grandpa & uncles as much as possible . Women can not teach men how to be men ,that’s why we have all these male bishes walking around . But we can teach them to respect women & to be a good person , but regardless the abscense of a father has an effect.

I smell a rat…her firing was a hoax, to gain interest.

This is true, but I don’t buy their music. If I get it as a gift it doesn’t count ?. Their lyrics can still be disrespectful though ?

Murder She Wrote was MY SHIT!

She probably rejected his advances. You know how these GROWN LITTLE BOYS act when rejected by a beautiful woman. Their WITTLE EGO HUTT. LOL

This whole IG model thing has really gotten out of hand
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T H I S….T H I S….T H I S!!!!!!

Mike Epps is a lame!

Yaaaaaas!

Mike Epps is no longer on that show.
He does have a show called Uncle Buck with Nia long that debuts on ABC June 14th

?? According to Nene, THOTn will remove a cl1t from one’s body

I blame rick ross for putting this harlot on a pedistal like she shyt when she not

Nope!!!! I was raised by both parents and I still ain’t shyt!!!! #living damn proof ???

We are >>>>here<<<<

exactly…and made a joke, in which he stated on stage. his new mixed cards were his better looking kids

Facts..if he calling his daughter bushes you should already know the next woman gets no sympathy …

What happened ?

Some Black men really need to open their eyes and see their being brainwashed. I am seeing so many things that is working against the black family lately. It’s like men are actually bashing black women and meanwhile black women are the highest educated demographic in the U.S. Black women are being very productive and striving to live the great American dream our ancestor fought for us to have.

And then when the black woman gets her education and wants to find a partner in a black man, she has to deal with not being accepted by him because she’s not light enough? That’s awful. It feels as if we’re still on the plantation trying to seek approval from massa. Another thing I’m noticing is A LOT of Black moms babying their boys and tough as hell on the girl. Black women got to stop this and I’m beginning to think this has alot to do with why our black boys are not growing up to be as productive as boy girls.

Or a man who had the audacity to say some white Aussie changed the rap game for women
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But this wasn’t disrespectful to the Black rappers at all *sarcasm* ?

exactly. couldn’t by my man but, i’m not mad at whatever they have going on in the harris household. they like it, i love it. …. seems like tip is always trying to get better and do better; not perfect but, better. he does come off as a controlling jerk but, who knows what really goes on. i don’t see his kids out there in a whole lot of trouble and his wife keeps popping out his babies soooo….. yay.

^A lot of truth here.

I am rooting for Affion Crockett. I like Deon too tho.

Exactly. What’s cool for subscribe channels and BET not cool for network telvision.

yeah, but he ended up dropping her asss. lol

That show was nominated as well so…. how bout idgaf about a thot and the troll who called out the thot. Ridiculous that this is a topic.

I LOVE Rickey Smiley. When he jumped and grabbed that boy by the back of his neck and said “Where are you going?” and then in the next episode told the tv viewers that if they didn’t like his discipline, they could come pick that bad ass boy up.. AND THEN the next episode he called his lawyer and told her he was ready to let his bad ass see how the real world was going to treat him… YESSSSSS!

And he cries publicly entirely too much.

she a prostitute plain and simple, albeit an ascetically pleasing prostitute. I follow a lot of IG prostitutes models with booking info and bathing suit videos as their business cards. I peeped that chit a long time ago, that social media is a way for those prostitutes models to take their hoeing hosting gigs on the road.

i respect Steve’s backstory.. from homeless to hustle to “made it”. he isn’t perfect and i don’t like everything about him but, i don’t knock any man who is always working to get better and helps others do the same. he has his “sell out” and bitch made moments but, whatever… what celebrity doesn’t?

Roland read him the bizness because he called for a boycott of the show. I agree with (some of) what Snoop AND Roland said. But THIS is what folks tend to speak of when it comes to black ppl. Divide and conquer. Two men on different sides of the line about one thing. Why can’t folks just have their own opinion of what they prefer to prefer (LOL) and go from there.

I was watching his morning show this morning… I like Roand Martin. He be acting like a girl sometimes but he goes hard in the paint. he’s like the homeboy that will call you on your sh*it but there’s no love lost..
But he has an abnormally large head like The Queen of Hearts and the balding doesn’t help – it’s quite a distraction.

He’s funny too

I like Roland as well. He’s funny.

Sometimes? I like Rolanda too.

I like how he and the girl twin stay beefing!

Right, if you dont want to watch dont watch but no need to attack each other .

LOL. I don’t know how that nignog wormed his way into our family. The men in my family treat the women like queens. He has his cool moments though. He taught me how to hunt, takes us out on his catamaran, and takes up time with Lil Butter. He shows him what a man “is supposed to do.” We agreed that he does not speak on his ideologies around Lil Butter. It’s been working for a year now. I think he had to realize that I am my mother’s child who does not entertain foolishness at all.

You’re right. I don’t support any of them who let their true feelings show. It’s a sad thing. A lot of Black Hollywood/entertainment men hate Black women. That’s why I refuse to give some of them my coin….they better call Becky with the good hair.

THIS. I just said this below. Snoop message came across as he was belittling the ones who WERE watching it. That is my issue.

I guess he just doesn’t want ppl to watch it.

Poor things. They have the depth of a kiddie pool. I’m sure that will take them far in life.

What I wondering whether he wanted to boycott because he thinks the original is better or is it he tired of slavery movies. They had that topic on D.L’s radio show yesterday.

He is tired of slave movies being made

I have liked him since I first saw him on Comic View way back when. Glad he’s making moves.

Black women got to stop this and I’m beginning to think this has alot to do with why our black boys are not growing up to be as productive as boy girls.
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Where is the responsibility for the black men to be great examples of how men love women and take care of their families? A woman can do many things, but I would be hard pressed to try to teach Lil Butter what it means to be a man.

He’s been around for a long time. Love that he’s doing it for the love not the fame.

I don’t find him funny like that. And Duval is whack. Period. He would NEVER get my coin. He acts just like a bytch. Always in someone business with his 2 cents and be wrong as hell. Doing the most for the absolute least.

Me either

I used to try to support Steve, but I had to give it up after he put on his cape for Paula Deen. I don’t e’em tune in to Family Feud anymore

And that’s the thing, I wasn’t in my feelings behind what he or Roland said. I’m like you, I ain’t watching it because I seen it the first time. That was enough for me. I got it. I understand that they are trying to show us our history/legacy. I get it. But, it didn’t (totally) start at ONLY Roots is what I think Snoop was getting at.

Her do look like a man tho. lol

I’ve been ehhh about Steve for a long time now. But I do appreciate his hustle. Man has gigs for days!

Kinda like the folks who hate empire BC it just shows us as thugs … I got my reasons for watching , you got yo reasons for not watchingwatching. Cool , but I ain’t trying to keep no blk person from getting a check & I ain’t going to war over a difference of opinion.

I think the latter.

LOL!

Mike Epps is VERY approachable in person. Hope to work with him one day..

Ok. Fathers just up and roll but it’s the mommas fault. Smh. These dead beat dads get way too much credit and get off Scott free

Deray is okay. I have never liked Lil Duval. Ever.

I used to LOVE Comic View. Some underrated talent on there.

This is my thing too. Jews NEVER say “Dont talk about the Holocaust”. The Japanese are NEVER like “Lets not make another Hiroshima/Nagaskai movie”. I mean lets be real here. I am going to upvote and wish I could do it more than once.

I like Rashida and I understand the satire part but it is weird and not for us, I think … lolol!
Yeah I was mad too, we need Chuckie!

I believe I read earlier this year that he is going to stay with the show.
From 1/15/16:

Krystal Franklin, BlackAmericaWeb.com

On rumors that he is leaving Survivor’s Remorse?

“Yeah I’m coming back. You know there was a rumor I died on the show. When I got the Uncle Buck show they knew I was going to go to ABC over STARZ. I wasn’t the lead on the STARZ show. I think when it came up, instead of kicking me off the show, they made it look like it was over,” Epps said.

well….I never seen Duvall stand up….put I do listen to his Podcast…Deray is um not so funny he has a show …its like a fake reality show…living with comics some ish…

People pay for blog posts about themselves?

” you will receive it once ya respect yaself period ” little girl, i don’t recognize your font…and you no doubt, don’t recognize mine. I am probably older than you…and more likely a longer standing member of the ROSE community than you are………don’t be on her screaming self-respect starts at home and within and then have the dark heart to be disrespectful to another woman, who is simply dialoguing with you. If you read carefully you would find, we are not disagreeing…..IF that self-respect, you are speaking of projected outwardly, you wouldn’t be in a tizzy. FOCUS…I am not my sisters enemy. Don’t be ignorant for the sake of an upvote …I’m sure you can see the differences in which i am pointing out… and if you don’t…eventually you will

Lira’s DM was poppin! I bet Rick Ross messy middle aged ass did this shyt. I remember when Mayweather shut down Ms Jacksons Instagram He’s got the money and the resources. https://66.media.tumblr.com/5cc337224f8a2663fc0757b7faa39930/tumblr_n81vwah6vN1tb7uwxo1_500.gif

I just took it as a rant.

I wonder if these men will hat their own Instagram model , groupie and THOT moms. Moms who deliberately planned and sought out to meet a famous and rich man, to get pregnant. Are they going to them too?

Mayweather was shutting Josie (one of his BMs) IG down on a regular too there at one point. Not sure if he still is doing that.

He backstabbed the hell out of Bernie Mac.

he said he is 17 about to be 18 … so he will sign off on him being emancipated and if he wants to go deal with his prison daddy’s people, that’s on him. he has done his job and won’t play with a grown man not following the rules in his house. the end. i can’t wait for the next episode when they meet in person and talk. now that is real reality tv. and i also love the other cast members. they all seem so comfortable in their own skin and in the environment of the show. his oldest son is a screw up but, he is one polite screw up. you can tell it is all his own grown choices and he can’t claim mommy and daddy issues. ricky does not play the excuses game!

Family Feud was was show. He ruined it for me too.

lol off topic I was checking out my 13 yr old text messages and I saw a text from Becky with the good hair. I was like this little bish lol.

Lol!

I agree but I’m with Snoop in this one.

I think because it’s hurtful to watch for some of us and sometimes we can try to push our opinion off in others. He wants everyone to see what he sees but we all have to deal with things on our own terms.

Sooo… is that a dude?

and it was everything. I found it sad that most agreeing with Snoop are black men.

I could kick Bey in the arse for that line. Lol so now all the little white girls want to be Becky. Lol

Im not watching. But if I were as are MILLIONS, I dont want to be shamed about doing so.

As Yoni said below about this…

“how do you want ppl to “wake up”, when you always beating them to sleep because they don’t think like you.”

This is Snoop.

I logged into my Disqus account for the 1st time in over a year just to upvote your comment. I have been saying this for years. Same as to why black men are not in college. I am 1 of 31 1st cousins. All from Chicago’s South Side. 6 college graduates. All girls. Boys doing everything but the right thing.

I blame their single mothers for not providing them with the proper male role models to teach them how to be men.
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This one BELOW was raised by a single mother. Never disrespectful, smart as hell, just made corporal. Has ONE girlfriend who he respects. So theory crushed..

GASP! (Clutches pearls tightly)

And the Richard Pryor movie is going to be starring Mike Epps. Smh.

LOL

Lil Duval hates women he can say he doesn’t but some of the ish that comes out of his bite-sized mouth is disgusting. I cant stand a manchild who is quick to throw insults at females.

I don’t blame his mom personally but some young men are going to resent their THOT mommas! His mom is not amongst that category, but young men that have moms that never loved their dads, just his wallet plus are over sexual at going to be bitter. They are are also going to treat women as objects if they like women. Then they will have to deal with the disdain the dad has for his mom . Yep young men will mean exactly what they at saying and these moms better prepare themselves !

But I don’t blame them; I blame their single mothers for not providing them with the proper male role models to teach them how to be men. – The accuracy.

I just hollered in this breakroom;)

I believe I walked in like I was doing the Tootsie Roll ?. I sat down quick upon arrival. When it came time for the interview I let them lead the way. I INSISTED. ?

So, not only was my hip to leg hurting, but I went to a restaurant prior to bed and had trips to the bathroom and a Baby Freebush had to get a pail for me because I was nauseous and broke out in a mad sweat. I feel better. ON THE WAY to the interview I caught a flat. Now, I’m NOT going to ask what next, but…?

LOL!

That isn’t the best angle for her face, and the makeup is probably too heavy.

I’ve drawn that line. 2 years celibacy. Fucc them niccas

LMAO You ATLAS SHRUGG generation…smh…laugable. …little girl still wearing the ring around your mouth from your mother’s nipples. You are a joke… and don’t even know you are. So busy confusing your ability to clap back with being strong and having self-respect. Being disrespectful for SHYT and giggles, you fail to see, hear, or believe anything worth your growth. Angry bird behavior…SLAVE behavior.
Exactly why you can’t sit at the adult table. Exactly why we (black women) have to fight so hard against stereotypes… and you don’t even see how you hinder the progress.
GET your inadequate, cut and paste life together and stop believing in falsehoods and your own self hype. In fact, you are a contradiction to your entire previous comments..(which i did not disagree with). This is the perfect example why your claims of having self-respect and it starting within… is laughable…and fraudulent. GET your respect together and then maybe …just maybe….you will actually respect yourself.

Yeah the oldest son is a bum. I like how he is encouraging them to pave their own way. Just cuz I got money don’t equal mooching.

Lolol, Denzel????? hey gal?

oh yeah…you read that SHYT, even it was to the best of your under-educated ability. Take care young bird

Now that he mentions it… ummmmm…. ?

I’m a lady not an Instagram”model”,so Mike has no reason to hate me. He’s an entertainer doing what entertainer’s do… At least he was man enough to apologize and admit his mistakes.Her time to shine is almost up, it’s all a ploy to buy her some more time to shine in the limelight!!?

Hurt because he got rejected? Try Bruce jenner.

I don’t support none of them hoe ass negras…I bootleg they ish and call it day…refuse to see them in concert too.

He was still RAISED by parents. Point Blank. What you experience during your developmental years set the stage for later in life as an adult. That is why it is ridiculous when people make statements, “he is 18 now.”, “she is 21 now.”, “he is 25 now.”
People do not reach a certain age and magically mature. It does not work that way. You have to be aware that you are damaged and THEN learn how to undo the damage.

All the blame don’t fall on them, she has to hold the bag too. That’s what she get for putting herself out there like that. He came to her like a man goes to a hoe. When the man can’t get what he wants from a hoe,.then he talks to her like hoe. You got ya @as and Brest damn near out on instagram………he just called it like he seen it. Respect yourself and the man has no other choice but to respect you.

I often
read the comment section just to get a gauge of people’s thoughts regarding the
preceding article. I do understand that because we are all different we
all have our own opinion. I needed to respond to this article
particularly the last statement (or opinion): Quote: “But
I don’t blame them; I blame their single mothers for not providing them with
the proper male role models to teach them how to be men”. To this I
TOTALLY DISAGREE. I am a single parent of a male teenaged son whose dad
chose not live with us. Granted, I made the decision to sleep with this
man, have unprotected sex, carry my son for nine months and by the blessings of
God birth him into this world. But, because his dad does not live with us
does not mean that I hate, do not love and I am purposely failing my male child.
His dad made the decision to not participate in his upbringing. People
constantly say that a child (especially a black child) is better off with
“Dad” in the house. But, has anyone EVER stopped to think that
in some rare instances a child is better off if “Dad” is not in the
house (especially if dad is not a good role model or refuses to pour into this
child) in a positive manner)? I am not some chicken head, lazy individual.
To the contrary, I am a highly intelligent individual with two college degrees,
a full time job which I work 8:45a – 5:30p Mon – Fri and every other
weekend. No, dad is not in the house but my son interacts and spends time
with the Deacons in our church who not only show him how to be a man, listen to
his concerns as a growing boy but they pour into him SPIRITUALLY. A boy
from a single parent home is not predestined to fail because dad is not around.
My son is not (nor will he grow up to be) a woman hater, because his environment
doesn’t dictate that. He is growing up
in a home where his mother is a worker bee, his Aunts are too. The spiritual
leader of our church is a female. His
grandmother (before her passing) was the epitome of strength, perseverance and
hard work so all he has around him are POSITIVE female influences and he is
100% all boy (this is to put to rest the homosexual thoughts some of you may be
having). A boy who loves to wrestle,
play his XBOX One, draw, rip and run outside with other children, play with his
cousins, interact on his cellphone and converse, long and often with GIRLS.
You have boys who come from a two parent home who are sociopaths, serial
killers, sexual deviants, pedophiles and pure criminals. My son at 13
is: God fearing, Armor Bearer to our Apostle, An artist, a protector of
his sister (11 yrs. old and same dad), A-B student and is preparing to attend a
Magnet high school for Computer Engineering and this is all being done by the
BLESSINGS OF THE MOST HIGH GOD in what? A Single parent home. I
would consider my hard work, the time I spend with my son, talking to and
listening to my son, my discipline (when necessary) and my accolades when
necessary, his current (future) success, the hugs, kisses, the many “I love you’s
that I say daily to my son, and the many prayers that I have prayed and have
thus far been answered on behalf of my son to be considered anything but
“failure” to my son. I felt the need to say that. Thank
you for reading.

Yea I can’t mess wit him after the way I heard him speak to his daughter!