Keith Wildhaber

A St. Louis County cop with 22 years on the force is suing the police department for discrimination.

Sgt. Keith Wildhaber, who is openly gay, claims a former St. Louis County Police Board member told him to "tone down your gayness" if he expected to be promoted.

Wildhaber was asked to be the department’s liaison to the gay community, but he never got the position.

According to Stltoday.com, Wildhaber was ranked 3rd among 26 officers who took a promotions test in February 2014.

In court documents, Wildhaber said he watched as virtually all of his peers were promoted.

The basis of Wildhaber's lawsuit is a conversation he allegedly had with the owner of Bartolino’s restaurant in 2014. Wildhaber visited the restaurant one night and spoke with its owner, John Saracino, who was a member of the department’s civilian police board at the time.

“The command staff has a problem with your sexuality. If you ever want to see a white shirt [get a promotion], you should tone down your gayness," Wildhaber claims Saracino told him.

Saracino denied the allegations when reached by a reporter from Stltoday.com.

On April 1, 2016, Wildhaber filed a discrimination complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and Missouri Commission on Human Rights.

He claimed he was discriminated against on the basis of a hearsay conversation he allegedly had with Saracino, who left the police board after he asked county Police Chief Jon Belmar to write a letter to a federal judge who was sentencing Saracino’s nephew on a marijuana ring charge.

About a month after he filed the discrimination complaint, Wildhaber was reassigned to a new area about 30 miles from his home.

According to Stltoday.com, a Justice Department report criticizing the St. Louis County police response to Ferguson protests in 2014 suggested the department form a diversity council to help recruit ethnics, gays and transgenders.

The department never acted on the recommendation, according to police spokesman, Sgt. Shawn McGuire.

Former county Police Chief Tim Fitch asked Wildhaber to serve as the department's LGBT's liaison. But Fitch was replaced by Belmar in January 2014, and Wildhaber was not asked again.

Wildhaber took a test to become a lieutenant the next month, but he was not promoted and he remains a sergeant.

  • KDub

    Sounds like he has a very good case. Pay him. NEXT! *bams gavel like DTTS. I sure do miss huh*

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I don't care. #NotMyFight

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Do folks listen to the lyrics or do you judge first ..... ?.... My cut ... Something about pure unconditional love.... See clip... https://www.youtube.com/shared?ci=kkwduC6gaeg

  • SummerBaby

    I had a coworker tell me one time that I needed to sound less ethnic. ???

  • SummerBaby

    I miss her too!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Sue is what I say... To gay ??.... The fawk... What that got to do with saving people ?... Real question ... Who I fawk has no basis on my position description .... Foh .... A person can do their job and give head the same night ... Fact !... sick of folks?

  • Chardonnai

    I bet he racist though. White gay men are very racist. They think they can get away with stuff cause they gay. I see right through their asses..

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Did you tell your co worker to sound less annoying?

  • Deblicious

    Exactly. Not in the least bit interested or intrigued.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I been told to tone down my "cheese" by my daughter.

    But as for him, what was he doing so flamboyantly that he needed to tone it down...he looks "toned down" to me.

    I mean did he put glitter in his gun barrel? Was his baton wrapped in rainbow streamers? Did he do a death drop, every time he made an arrest? Played YMCA instead of the police siren? was his cruiser like a disco ball?

    Like what did he need to "tone down" or was him being openly gay too much for THEM?

  • SummerBaby

    I was so shocked & pissed off. He's a black dude & told me that mess.

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    It seems as tho you can't say anything to gays cuz they spin it and make you sound homophobic ?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    anything to SOME gays<---- fixed that for ya!

  • We Can Do This

    They are going to give this man a blank check.

    I see him relocating to Key West if you know what I mean...

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Annoying and so rude. I hate when ppl I'm not talking to tell me to speak English ?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I would have come in the next day speaking ebonics to nobody by them. Smacking my teeth and all, but whenever I spoke to anyone else----total professional. CTHU

  • MsSincerity

    Nah Nah Nah this can't be true, because according to the world, blacks are the only ones that are anti -gay. *strong eyeroll*

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Most gays..fixed it for you ?

  • Lorenzo Chaps

    feverish pat downs with excitement?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I'll take that too. But not ALL though. :)

  • Chardonnai

    Fluck them.

    This gay white coworker called me a gal on email. I got up and walked my ass to his office checked him. I'm a grown ass women. You will address me as such. i explained to him that gal can be very racist and condescending. He claimed he meant no arm. Whether you did or didnt your ass gonna learn today.

  • SummerBaby

    I wore all black today he next day. ??

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Lmfao my husband always tells me to tone down my cheese!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Stroking groin areas of male perps longingly and gentle like.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    CTFU!!

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Right, not all.

  • nucynu25

    Left work today those bishes was annoying my soul . I need a vacation .

  • nucynu25

    ??

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    She irks me when she says that.....I'm like- I been "cheesing" like this all my damn life!! Nothing but teeth and gums and it reaches my eyes..so folks know when it is real.

    CTHU

  • Chardonnai

    When I'm on the phone, I make it a point to use proper English with our clients. Soon as I hang up, its back to the Ebonics...bish I'm bilingual in this bish.

  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

    I have the same problem however it's with my blackness. I can't seem to tone it down. Think I have a lawsuit?

  • nucynu25

    ????

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    CTHU

  • nucynu25

    Can we sue AMERIKKA?

  • Chardonnai

    I refuse too.

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    Plan a vacation. Take time for you.

  • Chardonnai

    I'm going to Cabo for my bday next month. I cant flucking wait. I'm counting the seconds...

  • sunni_daze

    Sign me up

  • CaliVirgo

    4 day weekend?

  • nucynu25

    I need too . My first year at my job we were in the top 25 .. we were doing extremely well as a company . But cave demons can not run from greed .. at the top of the mountain bishes decided to make changes " lets up prices .. lets make them bring in more stipulations " now we're at the bottom of the damn barrel . The month is almost over & we aren't even close to our quota .

  • Str8tUpMenace

    *kicks in the blog door, screaming at the top of my lungs*

    OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH OOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    IT TAKES MORE THAN LOVE, MORE THAN LOVE TO BUILDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD IT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TOOO BUILDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD IT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    IS THERE A HEART, IS THERE A HEART IN THE HOUSE TONIGHT????????? STAND UP, STAND UP!! LET ME KNOW, LET ME KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Hey yall!!!

  • puppylove

    They gay and white entitled as hell

  • KDub

    STAHP being so HAPPY

  • nucynu25

    Aww boo .. enjoy! ?

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Well somebody is AWAKE. HAPPY FRIDAY

  • Str8tUpMenace

    *dead as hell* Please lemme know when you find out

  • puppylove

    You said you need this check IN PERSON.

  • CaliVirgo

    Well daymn

  • KDub

    *hugs ya bc I loves ya*

  • nucynu25

    Needed.. hey my baby.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    One of my co-workers loves to say "I don't understand why they have an issue with me. I have been nothing but nice to them."

    So I asked her..."What does that mean? Do you think they owe you something? It sounds like you are doing a favor and expect full on submission because you are nice. Did it ever occur to you that they don't care if you are nice, since you aren't their manager, but insist on acting like it?"

    She stopped speaking to me for a week. CTHU

  • CaliVirgo

    Hey love?

  • puppylove

    At the same time according to Pres Clinton.

  • Yoni7

    SHOLE THE FUGG ARE! I totally experienced it while out to dinner with stalker one night. We tried out a new restaurant in the city (they regentrified the particular area - wanted to see what the hype was about). Anywho, unbeknownst to us, they seat you at the SAME table as other parties. Ok, I'll deal (but I'm thinking, won't be back here anymore). So I sit down with the "couple". I shoot bae a quick text (he was parking the car) "they sat us with another couple". So the "guy" next to me kept clearing his throat. Each time he'd clear his throat, he would scoot his chair away from me. EACH AND EVERY TIME! So me being me. I clutched my purse and each time he'd scoot, so would I, in the opposite direction. By the time dinner was over, instead of me being ACROSS from bae, my ass was shoulder to shoulder with him. I damn near "scooted" my ass AROUND the table. TUH! Don't. Do. Me. #iwillpullayouonyouinaheartbeat

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Yo, @ Reading, hold my cane!!!!

    *fights Dub like Dresser was trying to fight Eddie*

    Hey bews!!!!!!!!!!!

  • puppylove

    I answer the phone professionally. The guys around her jus announce the name of the plant.

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    A vacation will help you decide what's best for you.

  • Yoni7

    Not entitled.....just gay and THINK they are entitled. LOL

  • nucynu25

    So aggravated . My salary literally only enough for me to exist .. I live off commission . They hve a call center somewhere in Indiana , taking our leads .. so am not even getting a chance to touch my own ppl . Apps are completely down ...

  • Str8tUpMenace

    LMAO!!!!!!!!!! I had to get that off my fingertips. Been watching Five Heartbeats, and that's my fav part!!!!!!!!!

  • nicelyput32

    One of my friends was told the same thing by her black female supervisor.

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    You're living up to your name of being a menace. Lol

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Stands up and SWAAAAAAYYYYYSSSS!!

    Now you got folks looking at me crazy!! LOL

  • nicelyput32

    Great entrance ??

  • KDub

    The same night?
    I've given and rec'd head on my lunch break.
    *slinks off*

  • Yoni7

    Ain't no horts in here biiiihhh!

  • CaliVirgo

    You gone stay or thinking of moving on??

  • Strong White Woman

    Girl it ain't her, it's that two tone two texture weave?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Supervisor told ex coworker- Why can't you be normal, like everybody else?
    She meant,, Why can't you just step and fetch like the rest of us and ignore any misconduct?

  • nucynu25

    idk

  • nicelyput32

    This scene ???

  • hotntot95

    My fro bothers my white coworkers
    ( I can tell by the looks I get and the dumbass comments esp when I wear it on big) u think I have a case?

  • puppylove

    Document.

  • nucynu25

    ????????

  • southern

    What was he doing? round there switching harder than the women?

  • Chardonnai

    That's what I did. I found the money to go. I need to go clear my mind. Especially with all the Trump stuff, these sprite folk at my job, my kids. I need a break.

  • KDub

    Went to a MANDATORY job finding session for the state of NC back when I was getting unemployment from my layoff and was warned against ethnic hairdo's when interviewing. I left. they said I had to go. They didnt say how long I had to stay.

  • CaliVirgo

    Nastay?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    But I don't wear weave and the reddish color is natural. Don't know why it waiting until my 40's to turn this color, but oh well.

    LOL

  • nucynu25

    I smile super hard too .??

  • puppylove

    Nu. Don't let them folk at the job bother you. Get your money together and find you an island.

  • KDub

    Hey honey!

  • SummerBaby

    I need a vacation too! I'm trying to go somewhere next month. I'm not sure where. I'm thinking Las Vegas.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    I got you

  • southern

    ???

  • KDub

    Southern!!!! How you is hun?

  • SummerBaby

    Ethnic hairdo's ?

  • puppylove

    As long as she brush/listerine after she good.

  • nucynu25

    Am trying .. am stressed tho . I've been there almost 3 yrs .. missed one day in those 3 . I literally walked in & walked out .

  • Str8tUpMenace

    I cry every time that scene comes on. The damn worst, but the funniest fight scene ever!!! *tears*

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    I dont do weave but I try to Beyoncé box color my hair and it never comes out the right color. My cheap ass....

  • puppylove

    Start looking for a company that will respect and value you. You may need to relocate.

  • KDub

    Yes ma'am. I was like leave it to NC to have THIS ish in their state mandated job training session.

  • southern

    Just fine and dandy love. I miss being able to hang but work be calling me.

  • SummerBaby

    :waves: ??

  • Str8tUpMenace

    I'm bout to turn into Sarge on you. Lemme find somebody to hold my cane!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • KDub

    this was when I was working at home. So yep. Eeem tho I got a toothbrush here in my desk and all my desks I ever had lmao.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    man listen ??????? chile

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Time to start figuring out what you want to do next and get that resume updated. Even if you aren't ready to leave yet, start researching the next position you want, what the requirements are and if you need any additional skill sets-----acquire them. When you have a plan/exit strategy, it makes work a bit more bearable.

    Last job, I knew I was ready to go 6 months out, figured out what I would apply for and what I needed to get it......used that time to tighten up my skills and gain new ones. Changed my attitude, cause I was a woman with a plan.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    I need to tone down my post baby fat. I'm headed back home in April and cannot be walking those HTown streets like this.

  • nucynu25

    Nasty 2 ??

  • southern

    What the hell was you doing smacking gum and patting your head? I mean just what in the entire hell was he thinking?

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Lemme find out you the Big Red of the blog. Prolly got set blog hours and shyt.

  • SummerBaby

    What's considered an ethnic hairdo?

  • Chardonnai

    FOH. You cant tell me how to wear my damn hair. WTF is ethnic hairstyle.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    ??? Chile

  • CaliVirgo

    I know pup..she called me nastay the other night though??

  • nucynu25

    Thank you ???

  • KDub

    Braids.

  • Strong White Woman

    Can't wait to see what happens when I turn 40...In 10 years?

  • CaliVirgo

    U leaving us?

  • nucynu25

    Unless Becky got em

  • southern

    You just nasty. Stomps off all jealous

  • nucynu25

    Dreads

  • Chardonnai

    I loathe Sprites with braids and dreds...It pisses me off.

  • nicelyput32

    I gotta watch it when I get home if only for that scene ,?

  • SummerBaby

    Not at all. I think it's just my overall voice & the way I pronounce words. If you hear my voice you can tell I'm black. I also laugh very loud.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Since July of last year, this "new" hair color will not allow my hair to take any dye. It will go in a permanent and wear off like a rinse---done had shop do it, used "ethnic" dyes, white folk dyes and Beijing.....nope!! I have no idea what this is about.

    As a baby, my hair went from dark brown to red and then back....but I thought that was a fluke. My gray hairs won't even take a color.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    slurp slurp ...??

  • puppylove

    Probably thought he was helping.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Just for two weeks to introduce baby to family, eat some alligator, real bbq and good fresh seafood. Ill be back to these California salads after that.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I'll be in my 50"s by then and FYI----you only get better!! I am loving getting older AKA Bettah!!!

  • nucynu25

    Ohh ... you don't like the KIMK cornrows ? Lol .. I saw a clip of Wendy when somebody told her KIMK introduced them ... girl Wendy wasn't for it.

  • bella28498 .

    who gaf I am sure he wanted ppl to tone down their blackness. Bye Bob

  • KDub

    It wasnt just ME in this session. Its basically a PowerPoint you gotta watch in order to get your benefits on how to interview Etc. And luckily for me you sign in at the beginning. They sit you in a room and show this 1.5 hour slide deck. THAT was in the deck. Some other questionable 1975 ass stuff too. Namely women should wear a dress or a skirt to interviews.

  • SummerBaby

    He sure did. He had even reached out to another black lady to ask on tips to help me sound less ethnic. ???

  • Str8tUpMenace

    I'm with you, but my baby fat over 10 years old. *giggles*

  • Chardonnai

    THIS

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I used to work for a career transitioning company and did resumes......let me know if you want assistance with yours.

  • Chardonnai

    LMAO. Mine is 7 years old. It dont wanna leave.

  • nucynu25

    ?????? I will .

  • SummerBaby

    I'm sure my natural hair would probably be a problem.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Agh!!!! I'm three months in and this ain't coming off as easy as it did 11 years ago. 37 is a new kind of baby fat I see. I should of gotten a surrogate!

  • KDub

    Mine too.

  • nucynu25

    Mines is going on 3 ..

  • Strong White Woman

    ?? eye like yew?

  • Strong White Woman

    Say it??

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Laughing loud ain't balck.......that is fukking happy!!
    *says the loudest laugher at work!!

    I was told I laughed too loud once......I asked, So in addition to 8-10 hours of my life a day...you want me to be unhappy too? Guess I'll be getting fired, then!

  • nucynu25

    Like wine ?

  • KDub

    I SHOLE thought of that. Lmaooo.

  • Vegas1989

    I'm there with you..About to leave in the next hour and then off Tuesday

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    Are you going alone or with your honey?

  • Str8tUpMenace

    Mine is damn near on its way to middle school LMAO

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Yup. one that has been sitting in an expensive wine cellar for years, in the dark and needs to breathe before you taste it.

  • nucynu25

    Bloop

  • SummerBaby

    I have a very distinct loud laugh. One of my coworkers could always tell when I was in the break room. ?

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    I thought about vegas next month but the prices are higher. I think it's because spring break.

  • CaliVirgo

    Oh okay. Alligator?

  • SummerBaby

    I haven't checked the prices. I just decided this morning while I was out walking. Thanks for the heads up.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chile .... Yassss .... I sung this font ...??????????

  • nucynu25

    Tastes like sausage...soooo good.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I done got the bounciest hair, fullest hips and went up a bra size with this "ole age"........can't tell me nothing!! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/547cdaa99ea3e9e07fc8bb781413d327e5e4de55bbaeae0b754089701dda0be7.gif

  • bella28498 .

    My bad attitude is tattooed if your not black then fu kk you. Black ppl still begging for civil rights and still not being treated equal dgaf about nothing else until we get our situation straight.

  • CaliVirgo

    Look at you?forgot you was from the nolia..home of the soldiers..aye????

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Those are the "I am loving life, even when I am here with y'all folks!" laugh.
    Mine is too and I tone it down for no one----everybody gets it- from Pres on down!! This is me!! Told y'all I would do my job with my personality!! TUH

  • SummerBaby

    New post-??

  • Chardonnai

    I miss Houston. Best crawfish outside of NOLA is there.

  • Chardonnai

    Fried gator is flucking delicious. I had some in the Everglades. it was fresh. So good.

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    No problem. I may still go, I'm deciding this weekend.

  • Chardonnai

    I'm going with the hubby. He wont let me go by myself out the country.

  • E-White B.Sweet KoolAid

    Enjoy yourself.

  • Libra80sBaby

    LMAOOOO!!! Prolly

  • nucynu25

    ????????????????

  • Strong White Woman

    A friend of mine would like photographic evidence of your enhanced bosom?

  • klwbaby

    Was he twirling his baton and ending every sentence with YASSSS??!!?

  • CaliVirgo

    U know I luh you?

  • Renee26

    ALL of this! My grays won't cover either...silver hairs all on my crown. I keep them covered up because my face looks too young to walk around with salt and pepper hair

  • Guess Who

    SMH

  • Guess Who

    LMAO

  • Renee26

    Wore one of those Reno 911 outfits

  • Renee26

    First the beat has to grab me; then I listen to the lyrics. I listen to all of Chris' lyrics though and I've come to the conclusion that he's possessive in love. He cray

  • thaye

    Bwaaa haaa.... Dayum

  • klwbaby

    ???

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chris is perfect ... ?... Always listen to the lyrics first... The kid love music... I see it..

  • LuLu

    My "baby fat" just turned 21! LOL!!!

  • morenYAHdelsur

    This is dumb! Cops can be gay!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I am sure!! CTHU

  • Renee26

    Perfectly crazy...I'm just waiting on him to sober up a bit. He can still get it because he's my type of nasty. Sometimes I holler just listening to him "take some well known Purssy eat it til it pass out" YES!!!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I ain't tryna covering them. I just didn't want this reddish stuff. love my grays......each one has a name- after my children and about 2 of those children have more than a few named after them Son-1, Son-1, Jr, Son-1 III, Son-1 IV......LMBO

  • Renee26

    LMAO...Chile you crazy! I have way too many to start naming them

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Yup

  • doubledee

    ???

  • 2brefrank

    Stop switching and get to work sir!

  • MercifulLove

    I just moved to Houston. Where can I try some?

  • ReseyPooh

    I just scream!!!?????

  • ReseyPooh

    Let me hug you cuz I'm loving your profile pic ??

  • Tiffany Miller

    I laughed OUT LOUD in my office!!!!

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Leave your personal life at home. The same applies to straight folks!

  • Dane

    Mine turned 23 this week ?

  • JDP

    What can I say..my home city..I'm not suprised! That's the STL for ya!

  • Malcom Flex

    Do yall know how many gay ass undercover white cops are sexing thugs? The same thugs who go super hard talking bout how much they hate the wm are just projecting trying to throw you off their trail. Thugs and cop sex is major undercover, big.

  • Ms..N

    Now why did Reno 911 come to mind with the male cop who love to wear the daisy dukes..Lmao

  • AnastasYah

    The YtMan ain't never been Civil and he ain't never been right.There's Civil Rights for ya!

  • Carolina Blue

    ???

  • Carolina Blue

    Same!!

  • Carolina Blue

    ???

  • Carolina Blue

    ????whooooo lawdy!!! ????????

  • freelancepimp .

    I am not here to defend cops or DL gay thugs but come one. You say some random stuff like that you got to have some sorta proof. HAHA. Now we do see a lot of cops also being charge with child related sex crimes be it child porn or statutory rape and molestation. That is definitely under reported.

  • dontgetblocked

    It's fine to be gay but that's your personal business. Just like we don't know that a co-worker is a swinger or into S&M. Gay men more so than women like to exhibit their feminine tendencies at work. No one takes a drunk seriously so why should they take someone switching his tight ass up and down the hallway seriously? That cop got good advice and he should have followed it instead of suing.

  • T Kenny

    be who you are and keep all offenses documented until you have enough to sue. whether youre gay trans black muslim or anything else on the long list of things that faux offends people these days.

  • Missy

    Ummm...from personal experience? An independent social study? Just curious as to how one would know this.

  • Malcom Flex

    Ask your homies thats been locked up more than once or for a stretch. Yall be trying to act like your name is Becky.

  • Malcom Flex

    Yeh let me give proof to some anon azz on SR. Why yall trying to act like thugs ain't FN cops/KKK?

  • Missy

    Ook. Gotcha.

  • Malcom Flex

    THANK YOU I LAUGH AT PEOPLE TRYING TO ACT BRAND NEW LIKE DL BM AND DL WM AINT' FN EACH OTHER AND HAVE SINCE SLAVERY: BUCK-BREAKING

  • Malcom Flex

    YEH LET ME GIVE YOU A COVER LETTER ON THAT FOH

  • Malcom Flex

    WHO THE HELL ARE YOU AND WHY ARE YOU SO NAIVE?! MEN HAVE SEX WITH MEN ALL THE TIME COPS HAVE SEX WITH THUGS HOES, ETC ALL THE TIME WAKE UP