LaLa and Carmelo Anthony

Reality TV star LaLa Anthony reportedly packed her things and moved out the moment she found out her husband, NBA star Carmelo Anthony, knocked up an exotic dancer. If the rumor is true, an outside baby is not worth breaking up her family over.

Lots of celebrities, including Gabrielle Union and Eudoxie Bridges (Luda‘s wife), suffered the indignity of having a husband who sired an outside baby. But they didn’t leave their men because they love them.

Lala should have swallowed her pride and done what millions of women before her have done — accept that men cheat and continue to love her husband.

When a couple gets married, they take a vow before God to love each other until death do they part. Having an outside baby should not be the death of a marriage. It should bring a couple closer together.

That’s the problem with American women. They’re so quick to leave when they find out their men are doing what God ordained them to do.

‘Melo didn’t leave LaLa when he found out she was bisexual.

Do better LaLa.

via TMZ:

Multiple sources tell us … the other woman often works at a gentlemen’s club in NYC, and we’re told she’s claiming to be 6 and a half months pregnant with Melo’s child.

We’re also told she has made it clear to Melo she expects him to kick in for medical expenses and other baby related costs.

Sources close to both Melo and La La are telling us the marriage has been rocky for a while — and while the pregnancy wasn’t the tipping point, it certainly didn’t help.



  • Flour

    it also stated in the vows to be faithful to one another forsaking all others! lets quote it right now!

  • guest

    Outside child in a marriage is unacceptable and she should leave him. Obviously she has put up with his cheating habits and infidelities throughout the marriage. He should’ve known better and practice safe sex.

  • Ms. Cree

    I was rooting for them. Why women think by getting married and having a child is going to keep a man?

    I’m surprised she has maintained to keep her wild ways & appetite for woman under wraps this long.

    Better take a page from Will & Jada. Still waiting on that good ol piping hot tea to be spilled.

  • Soda
  • CookieMobster

    If my husband got another woman pregnant he could kick rocks. The Lord did tell men to be fruitful and multiply but when we they got married that man also made a VOW to his wife and God to be faithful til death do us part.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Of course the scripper expects Melo to pony up!!! I don’t think I would have left just yet, though… I would at least have waited until the baby was born and a DNA test performed and if I was Melo I wouldn’t pay one dime until I was sure the baby was mine…

  • Evilpeoplearetheweakest

    SandraRose.com,

    No one is taking heterosexual relationship advice from a fatherless and habitually single butch lesbian blogger who allegedly has to trick off.

  • Yoni7

    an outside baby is not worth breaking up her family over.
    ______________________
    Then what is? QTNA

  • Ni Ni

    Some women get married because they want to, attempt at least, do things the right way. However, it’s just darn near impossible to remain married when you choose to marry a celeb especially.

  • Ni Ni

    You can cheat with your strippers and instagram models, but an outside child is the deal breaker…i believe that’s the motto most of these folks live by.

  • Mahogany

    That’s the ultimate betrayal. ??

  • morenYAHdelsur

    LaLa is successful with or without Melo. If this is what SHE chooses then so be it.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Also, I’d make his life HELL ?

  • Kanyade

    IMO cheating period is unacceptable.

  • ebonics

    HA!! Easy for you to say, your a lesbo, yall cant knock ea other up! If my man cheats, im gonnne! Ive left dudes for less than cheating, you a delusional mess SR. SMH

  • Renee26

    I guess some American women know their worth….Humf if an outside baby is born that means that not only was there cheating there was unprotected sex happening. I don’t blame LaLa for knowing her worth and putting her life and health first. Fuc a man…we matter too. If an husband is not doing right by his family it is perfectly acceptable to end the marriage. FOH

  • Tish

    She knew he was young when she got with him. She chased him down. They used to live here in Denver and she was looking for a come up too.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Oooooooooooooo ooooo! ???

  • ebonics
  • Renee26

    Ok! Let her tell it nothing is…if he beats her it’s ok because men are violent by nature…if he neglect the household it’s ok because men are supposed to work hard then enjoy a break from the family…if he raw dawg everything walking it’s ok because he’s supposed to be spreading his seed.

  • Renee26

    LMAO

  • Quitedeliteful

    Having an outside baby should not be the death of a marriage. It should bring a couple closer together
    ========================== Sandy-Mae!!! What Tha Hell???

  • Dr. P

    Lala should have swallowed her pride and done what millions of women before her have done — accept that men cheat and continue to love her husband.
    ____________________________________
    I ain’t takin no advising from a woman’s who’s dyck meat lays in a drawer beside her bed. Nope, not today, tomorrow or any other day. Lala should run ngga run!

  • Renee26

    Just his acknowledgement is enough for me…he risking my life and bringing me home diseases just for a nuut with a random

  • IAmLegend

    What difference does it make if the baby is his or not? The fact that he admitted to raw dogging a random stripper should be enough. This man could have brought all kinds of diseases home to his wife. That should be a deal breaker.

  • Tammie Reed

    I’m cracking up at this post but ok Sandra lol! Mine would be gone too, you’re playing Russian roulette with my health…GTFOH!

  • hottlanta

    Had he swallowed there will be no baby. I am sure he knows how to do it by now.

  • Renee26

    Same

  • bemetoo

    Sandra sandy sandman come on now it also states in the vows to be faithful to one another forsaking all others, Carmelo been cheating since 2003 and at least 7x every year after and lala stayed, into the words of Monica its “time to move” and given the fact they been together so long it makes it easier to leave all the bullshat quicker

  • IAmLegend

    Some women look at marrying an athlete or celebrity as an investment. Though he might f*ck up, at least she walks away with some money and a set of kids who will be taken care of for the rest of their lives…or until his money runs out if she ain’t smart enough to launch her own businesses.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Lots of celebrities suffered the indignity of having a husband who sired an outside baby. But they didn’t leave their men because they love them…
    ====================================================== Nope, Nope, Nope!!! They didn’t leave them because they ain’t giving up that money or that lifestyle!!! Just because the woman stays doesn’t mean she loves the man. She probably thinks he’s a dumb-ass for not wrapping it up…These scrippers and dumb thots figure that if they get pregnant by a celebrity the wife will get mad, get divorced and then the thot can take her place and live in her big, beautiful house while the celebrity showers her and the outside baby with love and affection (and diamonds/money)… Not gonna happen….

  • NeverSurprised

    “Lots of celebrities, including Gabrielle Union and Eudoxie Bridges (Luda‘s wife), suffered the indignity of having a husband who sired an outside baby. But they didn’t leave their men because they love them.”
    ————————————————-

    Ahhh, Sandy the Sage. All knowing, all seeing, all up in other couples’ business.

    You have NO IDEA why Gabrielle and Eucalyptus didn’t leave their husbands, but I’ll wager it had more to do with finances than with love. How about we let LaLa, and not YOU, decide what course of action is best for herself and her family.

    I agree that men are wired to cheat. But clandestine cheating and public humiliation two different things. If you stay with a man who publicly humiliates you and your children, that only gives him license to continue the bad behavior. Just ask Tiny.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Sandy the Sage!!! LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!

  • Dr. P

    Melo likes mens?????????????? Say what? Say huh?

  • Ms..N

    If a man want to have outside babies while married they need to include it in their marriage vows. If the wife accepts then it is her decision.If not a wife has every right to leave a philandering husband!

  • Jen_no_juice

    That’s the problem with American women. They’re so quick to leave when they find out their men are doing what God ordained them to do.
    ——————
    Please tell me where it says in the Bible that’s it OK for only men to commit adultery and fornication? If that’s the case are they only supposed to be having affairs with men??? I’m confused

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “You have NO IDEA why Gabrielle and Eucalyptus didn’t leave their husbands”
    —————

    And you don’t either. We are all entitled to our opinions. Thank you for reading.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “I agree that men are wired to cheat.”
    ————-

    At least we agree on something. ?

  • IAmLegend
  • Passion

    You can’t tell people if they should leave or stay with their spouse. Get real!?

  • BacktolurkingIgo

    La la need not do better she did she left, that’s a deal breaker

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “How about we let LaLa, and not YOU, decide what course of action is best for herself and her family.”
    —————–

    How about we let God decide what’s best for mankind? Oh wait, He already said man should sow his seed and replenish the earth. So there’s that.

  • Jen_no_juice

    You went to an intern in training class huh?

  • Nonya Bizness

    I’m glad you’re a l esbian Sandra, because society doesn’t need any additional no self esteem having, mistaking disrespect for love, doormat women and or “long suffering wives”.

  • NeverSurprised

    No problem, hun. ?
    You know I’ll never leave you Sandy, no matter how warped and misguided your positions on male/female relationships may be.

  • Jen_no_juice

    I literally HOLLERED

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Whats up with these famous black men and strippers? This is one of the reasons why I cant check for a brotha anymore. They stay sticking they raw eggplant in the most suspect women and sometimes men….Just like KashDoll said “These niccas for everybody”…

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “t also states in the vows to be faithful to one another forsaking all others”
    —————-

    Being “faithful” entails many things. But the bottom line is men cheat. Women are in denial when they marry a man thinking he’s going to be her best girlfriend. MEN ARE GOING TO BE MEN.

  • LibraGoddess

    An outside baby is the equivalent of bringing home an STD in marriage. The fact is, he had unprotected sex with some random and there’s repercussions for that. He broke up his family not LaLa. “Do better”, come on now.

  • Truth

    haha exactly

  • shun king

    I guess them real family’s black used to have in the 50s and 60s you think those women were doormats

  • Passion

    Me too!?

  • T Kenny

    i wonder how she found out if true? these dudes will have the girl put up in a condo somewhere off her feet by the time the wife finds out… i hope this all false ?

  • 1shy112

    The difference is when Luda and the basketball player had their babies they were not already in a marriage. On breaks… no breaks on I do’s before GOD!!! No No No!!! If you want out say it, then go sling penis….If this is true. She is a rida tho, I would have been left after I got him out of the slammer.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    If you’ve ever seen the movie Boomerang, you know that Robin Givens played a narcissist who treated men exactly the way men treat women. That’s how you deal with men. Steve Harvey was right. You have to think like a man. Women like LaLa think they have it all, but men are going to be men.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    What star hasn’t possibly (or definitely) sired a baby with a stripper? That is the new norm.

    Drake has an “IG model” who says she is knocked after only knowing him since February.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Don’t get mad because Lala has values!!! What others accept DON’T mean it’s right. If a cheating husband makes a marriage, I DON’T WANT ONE!!! Would YOU be there if Melo brought a DEADLY disease home to his wife? Do better women, DO BETTER!!! My song is, If loving you is right, I DON’T WANT TO DO WRONG, NOT the other song people lived and died by!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    These are not my words. You know what the bible says. Love you, girl!

  • acire

    Forsaking ALL others…..memba that part?! Well, her ass should have been forsaken.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I can’t believe Old Child Birthing Hips’s sperm was strong enough to create a child and I thought that it Melo had gotten with another man but I am glad he’s not on my team.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    They were, but since they couldn’t make a nice living like women can do now..they had a reason why they stayed.

  • AlwaysPi7

    Forsaking all others in the vows too!

  • Anunnaki

    So he just stuck his butt naked Dyck in a skripper…oooh
    and she waited on MELO to come in and get pregnant oooh

    “society”

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    This is common knowledge everywhere else in the world. But here in America — where the divorce rate is over 60% — you women are in denial.

  • hottlanta

    Wonder what Tyrese gotta say about this since he was on a whore roll last week calling women skanks and nothing about the man’s behavior.

  • Mr. LeBrick James

    ” That’s the problem with American women. They’re so quick to leave when they find out their men are doing what God ordained them to do.”
    ====
    I’m just sitting here looking at this and I’m like…
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/89f7c5eeb0392f21eee236fbb7fc5212cb39c1997545982d97dc9ebd7a008a4e.jpg

  • Quitedeliteful

    And the ‘IG model’ is so stupid…She will have this baby looking for a payday but there is no guarantee that Drake will bond with this child and truly be a father… How does she explain to the kid that his father is not around because it was all about the money…

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Some of them do, and think that’s something, NOOOT!!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Fast and Furious producers, etc done told him to STFU and STFD!! He on mute, until they say otherwise

  • hottlanta

    Stripper or not it doesn’t matter. A know a lot of women who get it in a lot and they are not strippers. Would you be outraged and would it make any moral difference if she worked at Family Dollar. Puzzy is puzzy.

  • Vegas1989

    LOL…He is dumb in the movie. Always running his Pie Hole….LOL…

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Girl, she done posted text messages online, was calling his azz baby after only 2 weeks and now blasting him on social media about it–posted her pregnancy results on April 17.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Community D… and community diseases, No thanks!!!

  • hottlanta

    All of us have a price. Some of us are high and some us us are clearance bargain basement prices. When you do marry a man you do have to think about what would happen to me if he dies. Cheating on me is like a death of the relationship. So if your price is high you leave higher and your price is bargain basement when it is over your price is low.

  • ?Sugar&Spice?

    IDK Ms. Sandra. I’d have to kill him. The shame would be too much, especially with a public life.

  • Anunnaki

    I was saying anything goes and no one have shame anymore,

    “society”

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong
  • hottlanta

    Men cheated on their women in the Bible and they showed no shame. It ain’t nothing new.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Doesn’t get better than that!!! Get out with a HEALTHY life!!!

  • Anunnaki

    Yes, “society”

  • Quitedeliteful

    The divorce rate is over 60% because women have choice.– and our laws don’t forbid divorce. Women from other cultures are not necessarily happy with a multi family situation. I know a African man with three wives. The first wife and children were happy. The second wife and children, not so much… they felt as though they were not valued as much as the first family. The third wife was too young anyway — she was only 18. I think she left.. When women can have an outside baby and bring it home for the man to support then I’m all for it…

  • Lovely

    So I guess us women are suppose to accept this promiscuous behavior from our men because we love them? It’s bad enough they aren’t using condoms. I should continue to love my man until I catch an incurable disease. Then what? Still continue to love our man…NOT

  • NeverSurprised

    And how about we start living in the 21st century. When the Bible was written women were chattel, slightly higher on the totem pole than the family mule, in terms of value. Of COURSE men were given free reign to sow wild oats, screw at will, make babies at will, etc. But let’s have a little human progress, shall we?

    Yes, men will ALWAYS cheat. Any woman who denies this does not understand human biology. But the world is no longer a barren land which needs to be indiscriminately populated, and women are no longer property. For a family to survive, a wife must be honored and valued. In today’s world, that means, at a bare minimum, NOT BRINGING HOME EITHER BABIES OR STDs FROM RANDOM STRIPPERS!

  • OP2

    He broke up the family the moment that he broke his vows to forsaken all others while loving; respecting & cherishing his wife.

    Unlike some females, LaLa has dignity, self-respect, dignity, self-esteem and self-worth! Don’t compare her to those other females who obviously have deep issues.

    Certain types of females is issues will hang in there even if means settling for bringing other people into the same bed for his sake. Whereas, others will put up with abuse of all sorts and look the way when being humiliated and disrespected with evidence of a man cheating (i.e., babies or STDs/HIV). -but not smart and classy women like La La. ;)

  • Mr. LeBrick James

    It’s written right there in Sandra 3:16. Look it up. :-)

  • hottlanta

    Public or not. Now money is coming out of OUR house to take care of someone else’s house. Every time I look at our statement and see that debit taken out I will be pissed.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Y’all ain’t fall in love with the dumps Easter Roll event, so Sandy gonna post this bullshyt to deflect and distract from the bs. CTHU

    Well played Sandy Girl!

  • Anonymouse

    And it also says for better or worse. How convenient that you skipped that part.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    But wait—-didn’t God take David’s son, that he made with a married woman, whose husband he sent to war so he could die? So are you saying that only men are allowed to fornicate and that there are rules to this?

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    And we wonder, Why Melo’s basketball ball game is in the dump!!! You can’t be successful in mess!!! This explains it all!!

  • Anonymouse

    And what about the vow you made? So because he messed up gives you an excuse to cut and run? You’re not ready to be married.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    You better run for your life, Literally!!!

  • Anonymouse

    Yes, they know their worth. Half are baby mommas and the other half are divorced but so long as you know your “worth”…. smh

  • Mr. LeBrick James

    I’m just going to assume you’re trolling with that comment.
    I’m hoping you’re not serious with that.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Polygamy was stopped/frowned upon in the Old Testament for those using biblical reference. Both the Old and NewTestament state that adultry considered wrong. Once the covenant of marriage is broken than a divorce can be granted. No one has to accept being cheated on, abused emotionally, physically, or mentally. If a person wants to work it out so be it. Usually there is something deeper than a man or woman wanting something different than whats at home.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Damn!!!! Drake has been caught slippin…. What’s so sad is that eventually he’ll get married, have a family and this poor kid will be on the sidelines feeling totally left out….

  • Anonymouse

    And it’s a good thing to have such a high divorce rate?

  • Tiffany Williams

    So women should cheat too? Wives penis hopping and husbands cat chasing! Makes perfect sense! You have the answers Sandra!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    No ma’ma!! I LOVE ME!!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    They trolling all up and down this thread/…Nignore—I repeat NIGNORE them

  • hottlanta

    Please we have a hooker for a First Lady trying to be respectable where her husband treats her like a side piece twice by leaving her on the curb when he gets out/in the car. She copied Michelle Obama speech and when she spoke yesterday she said Vwhite House and have great fun. I guess she is speaking ghetto Slovenia. Dump immigrant wife had to nudge him to put his hand over his heart. Next time she is going to running be behind the car. He is gonna make her pay by embarrassing him in public like that.

  • Anonymouse

    I’m very serious. Anyone not in it until death is not ready for marriage.

  • Armymom20

    Dang Carmelo a whole baby tho??!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    But that is NOT what Sandy wanted you to get from that post….you went off course thinking logically. CTHU

  • goat

    Dudes should just stay single if you’re gonna live like you’re single.

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!

  • IAINTMADATCHA

    Idk tho. King David had a mess of wives and God loved him fiercely. I get so confused….

  • Benjamin
  • Simone

    The Daily Mail posted the Carmelo/LaLa story as their top, lead story, so are they deflecting from President Trump too? Websites post what will get more traffic…it’s called business. You sound Trump obsessed.

  • Calikush

    ????

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Folks with the “Til death do us part”/…um, that line was not pertaining to someone going out and bringing death to us. There are worse things out that than a baby and if he is willing to chance his life…..let him and do what you have to do to preserve yours.

    But to be honest, most of these women aren’t leaving because of the baby. Their pride is and being embarrassed is what is driving them to leave and it helps when they can cash out on a pretty penny when they do.

  • hottlanta

    I was looking at my favorite scandal show “For My Man” and when the announcer said the husband had 9 kids and they had only been married 10 years, I said wow the wife uterus is tired. But when he broke it down the wife had 3 kids and he had 6 more outside kids by 6 different women during the 10 year marriage. So does Sandy think the wife should stay in a situation like this. That was crazy.

  • YellowSauce

    La La doesn’t have to love him because God does … God loved the devil also and FIERCELY … lolololol

  • Scromes1212

    I’m with Sandra on this one. Melo a good dude, he just forgot to strap up smh. They can work through this.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Are you DUMB? Sandy just posted about him and then posted this, after we tore that post apart. GTFOH with the stupid shyt, I ain’t for it today. What does the Daily News have to do with this site?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Odell though!! CTHU

  • hottlanta

    I would because of the baby because when I married you I didn’t sign up for that. How would he feel if she came to him and said I m pregnant and I don’t know if it is yours or not. You think he gonna say OK baby that’s cool, we gonna stay together forever it’s no big deal. Men can dish it out but they can’t take it.

  • Scromes1212

    Melo ain’t won nothing since college lol them gold medals are fools gold lol

  • Simone

    The First Lady just won a lawsuit and apology from the Daily Mail for saying she provided extra services outside of being a model. She was not an escort. Stop spreading malicious lies. As a woman, don’t do that to another woman.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    So does Sandy think the wife should stay in a situation like this
    Yes, she does and she will give the wife props for fulfilling her duties and supporting her man while he fulfills his.

  • CookieMobster

    I’ve been VERY happily married for 10 years now. And you are right to ask about the vow I made. For better or worse. And that would be worse!! I just don’t know that I could get past an outside baby. That is the ultimate betrayal and I feel like any man that truly loves his wife could never do that to her.

  • Christopher Gibson

    Sandra get a man and enter into a heterosexual relationship then come back and check in.

  • Quitedeliteful

    How about you find a rock to slither under?????

  • Scromes1212

    Facts. But people don’t want to acknowledge that smh

  • hottlanta

    Please she even said when she met Dump she wasn’t calling to provide him services. We all know what that meant. Where is her famous architect degree he bragged about to the word.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    We already know they can dish, but not take.

    But my point was, a lot of them say the baby was deal beaker, but the truth is their pride took one too many hits and a baby is a living reminder of that.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I don’t blame you, hun. American girls are socialized to believe in fairy tales, that men are their knights in shining armor who will be faithful and loyal to them forever.

  • ebonics

    People stay taking the bible alll out of context.. you can not pick and choose scripture. If you gonna claim to know the bible and quote it, go all the way in ok. Just funny to me a lesbian picks and chooses scripture, yet leaves out the context it was used in. Just an FYI, the bible also says its a sin to lay with the same sex ;) Abomination even..

    Leviticus 20:13
    If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have
    committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood
    is upon them.
    Eat up, and take care… Hun.. ;-)

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e488103d6f3d5780ed5eb898d8b82add83bde164d7bc1d49a1a582deebd761ba.gif

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    What American girls? Who you been hanging around? Fairy tales only come true if you are among the very young at heart- aka naive!! LOL

  • hottlanta

    I don’t care if I was happy for years with you and a baby comes into the picture I am out.

  • hotlantaboss

    I disagree Sandra. I feel like this: yes, essentially all men cheat (given the appropriate window of opportunity) but at the very least, keep it tight! Don’t embarrass (and put me at risk) by having unprotected sex with scrippa’s and such. At least have enough respect to wrap it up. The fact that he was this sloppy with my health, and our coins is enough to justify parting ways.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I am talking about these scenarios, wherein the man has been cheating for years. But okay.

  • tintin

    sorry but if my husband makes a baby outside that’s it, DIVORCE!! imagine having to watch that baby every weekend, i would accidently become a child abuser even though i know it ain’t that baby fault. i know exodus and gabby weren’t happy changing those baby diapers.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    When the word of God is read with a natural eye and never with a spiritual mindset then it is never applied correctly. Be fruitful and multiply certainly was not God giving men His blessing, permission , or understanding that they could be unfaithful , promiscuous , seed spreading and irresponsible men. Be fruitful spiritually in fact was not just talking about procreation when you really study the scriptures . God wanted us to be fruitful ( prosperous) in every goid thing of our lives, not just making babies. This however is the only place some people choose to apply the scripture .

  • Simone

    Lies and the same reason The Daily Mail (a news outlet) got sued and Melania won that lawsuit.

  • Ebony Starr

    So how does one garner the title of “Long Suffering Wife” vs “Supportive Wife”? What is the difference?

  • Scromes1212

    Does it matter if they both moved on and there happy now? Plus we don’t know the details of there relationship. They could have did dirt to but they just didn’t get pregnant . JS

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “So does Sandy think the wife should stay in a situation like this”
    ————-

    Only if there are children involved. AND only if the man isn’t physically abusing her or the children. You have to put the children’s needs first. The children (especially girls) need their father.

  • IAmLegend
  • Scromes1212

    You can be both.

  • Look@m3

    Dang Sandra….slashing throats eh?

  • IAmLegend

    It depends on your Friend of the Blog status

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Sandra, gabby nor exodie were married when the outside babies were made FYI. Two different situations

  • stav

    SANDRA YOU ARE A PATHETIC TROLL! YOU ARE BECOMING QUITE REPETITIVE WITH YOUR OBVIOUS POST TO TRY TO CREATE CONTROVERSY, YOU NEED A NEW METHOD ! YOU’VE WORN THIS IN THE GROUND.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “I just don’t know that I could get past an outside baby. That is the ultimate betrayal…”
    —————–

    American women are socialized to believe an innocent baby is the ultimate betrayal. Babies are precious gifts regardless of how they got here.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Concubines are different from a wife but it’s still frowned on by God. God saw Davids heart and he had a heart after God . I love reading about David …

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    As a man, you should know I’m right.

  • Tiffany Williams

    Polygamy is different than having one legal spouse and sleeping with any and everything with a vagina.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    And they deserve a miserable mother? You do know that children prefer two happy parents, whether they are in the same household or not. No child wants to live in a house of misery and having a loving and present father does not always require him living at home.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    The Devil was the most beautiful angel too and was very much loved by God! He still got kicked OUT!!

  • Scromes1212

    So if you were the girlfriend you would stay? Just curious.

  • Benjamin
  • stav

    You have provided Biblical facts!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Why WOULDN’T a lesbian’s positions on male/female relationships be warped or misguided?

  • IAmLegend

    “All of us have a price. Some of us are high and some us us are clearance bargain basement prices”- LMFAOOOOOO!!!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “How would he feel if she came to him and said I m pregnant…”
    ——————–

    This is exactly why God made it so’s women couldn’t impregnate other women. Men would’ve been killed off long ago. The male species would be extinct. There would be pictures of men in museums. Kids would go, “Oh, that’s what men looked like.”

  • hottlanta

    Don’t you think when a man cheats on the wife he is abusing the kids. He is putting his selfish needs before the wife and kids. What he gotta do give everyone a black eye or something to make the news for it to be called legitimate abuse. Girls needs their father if he is a good father who serves his purpose. If dad is sorry and serves no purpose he is not needed and the daughter will be a better individual for it. Trust me I know from personal experience. If dad ain’t no good leave us so we can have peace if you are causing chaos leave.

  • hotlantaboss

    You don’t “forget” to strap up. You didn’t because you didn’t want to, period.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Wow that’s a nice way to change the topic.

  • hottlanta

    There are a lot of kids waiting to be adopted and they don’t give a damn about 2 parents they just looking for 1 parent to love them and give them a home to feel safe.

  • Scromes1212

    Not true. I would rather have my father in my life even if his relationship with my mother wasn’t always solid. I needed his guidance

  • bemetoo

    True all men cheat

  • YouWontSayItButIWill

    Good question.

  • stav

    Exactly ! This was still at a time when the Earth needed to be filled with more people, in order to do that concubines were needed . One woman (the wife ) could only do so much , as far as multiplying. God tolerated these conditions , he did not implement them. He ultimately made it clear that this practice would no longer be tolerated.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Here we go with folks NOT reading….don’t comment if you refuse to comprehend what I typed.

  • Scromes1212

    Truth. But from a mans perspective, we have good intentions but once you get hard common sense goes out the window.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Exactly and even those kids don’t want to go to a 2 parent home where there is misery. They will take a 1 parent house full of happiness.

  • Cricket404

    He knew she was bisexual before they married. She, like other female celebs used the extra woman in the bedroom to catch their mans heart. I agree though, after the humiliation and hurt, LaLa should consider renewing her vows. If she loves him to pieces and they are best friends, it’s worth saving. If he is a jerk, let him go. I think T.I. might be a jerk….

  • IAmLegend

    I think the woman’s age and status if she stays vs if she leaves plays a big role in that decision. If you are 40 years old like Gabby was, and you have a history of men doing you dirty, you might think Dwayne is the best you can do. At least he can provide financially and make the suffering worth it vs a poor niglet who ain’t got shyt to offer. Those are not my thoughts, I’m just guessing lol.

  • YouWontSayItButIWill

    Basically. LA LA look like she has ALWAYS been more into him that. He was into her. I remember that they had that show together…and he was telling her back then that he didn’t want anymore children. Maybe he just meant he didn’t want anymore by her…….

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I think the point is that ‘scrippers’ are half a step up from streetwalker and many of them escort on the side so Melo fell into the old Venus fly trap and now he has to pay for at least the next 18 years and I can’t believe none of these men use condoms.

    I’m gay and whenever I chat with a guy and I find out he barebacks I assume that is poz or has some other STDs because it means he doesn’t respect his body or mine.

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Idk that’s a gut wrenching experience

  • hottlanta

    Is Camille Cosby a long suffering wife or supportive wife for Bill? Was Cookie a long suffering girlfriend or a supportive girlfriend when Magic called off 3 engagements to her. Then she finally married him in spite of all of that and he has HIV. Is she now a long suffering wife or a supportive wife.

  • ebonics

    Fa real, shes getting desperate for clicks, and comments. Its a new low. Im convinced she even has multiple log ins too.. I think her and Fred over at M T O are sister cousins or somethin.. maybe even the same person!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Agreed but one would think if you’re in the public eye you would be more discreet or at least use protection so you won’t leave any evidence as in a child.

  • hottlanta

    He is treating her like she is his BEST FRIEND because if he loved her as his WIFE he would have never done that. If I should ever get married I ain’t trying to be in best friend status, I am gonna be in wife status 24/7. I got enough friends.

  • Scromes1212

    I totally see your point. A mans worth physically and mentally goes a long way in a relationship.

  • stav

    Yes once that beautiful angel became the Resister, that is Satan by challenging God’s sovereignty , he and his demons were thrown out of the heavens .

  • hotlantaboss

    I totally get it, I’m a guy myself. But when you know what’s at stake and you truly respect the one you’re with, you won’t risk it. I have a friend right now who recently contracted herpes from a guy who just didn’t really care about passing it to her. If it’s a big enough deal to you, you’ll strap up!

  • jayhawkpride

    It’s ok if you choose to be out, but do you think you would make it hard for the dad to co-parent?

  • dj

    Im sure if Sandra was in this situation she would leave too. It doesn’t matter if men ” are doing what God ordained them to do”. When you take vows what a happens to “thy shall not commit adultery” if you are going to try and reference God, get it right along with Gabrielle Union and Eudoxie Bridges, there was no marriage involved in these two situations.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    So you would be selfish and wouldn’t care if your father’s presence caused your mother pain?

    It’s interesting how low some people allow standards to fall as long as they get what they want or think they want.

  • Chief Troll So Hard

    An outside baby is more than enough to end a marriage. Wtf you smoking. Nig out here rawing hoes

  • Scromes1212

    True. But if your a man with options then you kno that lust is serious when you can act on it. I walked in plenty females houses without that condom knowing full well she was gonna give me that puzzy. But I see your point.

  • hottlanta

    Damn right. My two hotlanta’s let me know everyday they were happy as hell in our house when they were babies and they still happy as hell outta the house. When my baby got marry her husband told me he had never seen a house so full of love so he knew when he married her he had to love her or leave home with us with he wasn’t gonna treat her right.

  • Scromes1212

    That’s not my point. If your mom had her faults and your dad has his, then you see it different. That is not my problem. I just want to be around both parents. But that’s just me.

  • jayhawkpride

    Definitely a hooker!! I guarantee you that in the beginning their relationship was a “business deal!!”

  • jayhawkpride

    The only lost because they couldn’t provide receipts. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t a business deal in the beginning!!

  • Scromes1212

    Being a bad husband doesn’t make you a bad father. Just had to say that.

  • hottlanta

    You have a need your parents can’t fulfill and you will drain them emotionally and expect for them to fill yours up. Your issue is not their issue. Our parents relationship is not our relationships.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Nope Nope Nope!!!

  • Scromes1212

    Couldn’t agree more. One has nothing to do with the other. In my humble opinion.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    By the way Rock and Vin extra kissy because they just announced they both signed onto the next Fast and Furious !!! I am done… what else could they possibly have. I didn’t go see this one and I am not going to ever see another one I stopped at 1 in a half ….

  • Scromes1212

    They should have showed them receipts in court. Now they out of a couple million lol

  • goat

    ION think we should let them off the hook that easy. I think it’s at least a debatable issue.

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOLLOL!!!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    . I guess she is speaking ghetto Slovenia.
    *dead*

  • hottlanta

    Yes it does. If you aren’t good to the mom you are disrespecting the child. Husbands come with the title of father it is not just to be bestowed on the wife. If you don’t want the responsibility of being a WHOLE husband, take your whole body out the door. Women marry for all not half.

  • Scromes1212

    What about Bob Marley, MLK, JFK, and the list goes on smh.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Keep believing what you want, but there will always be nudes of Melania all over the internet so we can say whatever we want as long as people can trash the Obamas.

  • Clopretty

    Who promotes women staying in relationships that no longer serve them any purpose?!! Who supports men stepping out on their wives and creating other families?!! this is why our generation is so misguided! we have grown ass old ass adults like you telling us we are weak for walking away! These men take the oath in front of God to Love and Honor their women and cant do it but we are weak for standing up and putting our foot down when enough is enough?! i commend LaLa and ever other woman who knows when to draw the line! I hope women like you stop misleading women into believing they are weak for knowing their worth!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I don’t think that the men Melania screwed for money wrote checks and Melania was a private contractor so she didn’t work for a brothel hence no receipts.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The wife should only stay if they have children under the age of 9. AND she should leave if she or her children are being physically abused.

  • hottlanta

    Hellooooooo. Obama would have never made President if those were nude pictures of Michelle like that.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    In an ideal world what you say is true but reality is a different story.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    True and false. If you, as a husband, but more importantly father, know you actions will cause strife and misery in your home…..you are making what your children should consider their safe and happy place a miserable environment and cause them to be unhappy people. You are teaching your son how to treat a woman and treating your daughter how to be treated by a man.

  • http://www.NeCola.Mayvenn.com Chile_Pleeze

    Gabby and Exodus weren’t married yet….. Lala BEEN married

  • hottlanta

    We do have a price. Why would Mary J. and Phadrea marry men with no jobs. It doesn’t get no more bottom basement clearance prices than that.

  • http://www.NeCola.Mayvenn.com Chile_Pleeze

    my thoughts EXACTLY

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Now I see why Gabby may have been there trying to support her. She must have told Gabby she was not going to be able to stay with Messy Melo because this wasn’t a break baby. This was a break up baby ! Now maybe this can help them make-up, they will have to fix everything that was wrong though ….

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Too bad you weren’t born at a time when families stayed together. Yes, there was a time when the divorce rates were under 40% in the black community. Husbands and wives stayed together for life, even though the man was creeping and siring outside children. Wives knew the family was her top priority. Ask your grandmother.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    There is a difference between a break baby and a break up baby ….

  • http://www.NeCola.Mayvenn.com Chile_Pleeze

    yep

  • http://www.NeCola.Mayvenn.com Chile_Pleeze

    you dont have vows UNTIL you are married

  • Clopretty

    I dont care if we were married for 100 years and had 100 kids if i ever felt like enough was enough im out period! thats why people out here killing their spouses! because people like you promote shit like this to be okay! people dont know when to just walk away from situations because they are told they’re weak if they do so!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    The culture and times were very different than they are now.

  • Concerned

    But Sandra you’re not answering the question. Obviously the woman would’ve come back pregnant from another man.

  • hotlantaboss

    Right, that’s my point… you walked in knowing what you wanted and acted on it. Basically leaving it up to the female to make a decision about protection. He did what he did because he wanted to, and wasn’t terribly concerned about the repercussions.

  • Scromes1212

    That’s not true. You seem like you projecting. In my humble opinion. Just cause my moma unhappy don’t make me unhappy. That’s just truth. That’s like my momma hating her job and it making me unhappy. Young boys don’t see it like that. That’s just truth. I can be happy and your sad. I know it seems insensitive but men don’t think like females.

  • ???TheRider???

    Melo could accept Lala being bisexual because no dack was going up in her unless it was one of Kandi’s toys. Plus he could join in. Let it be the other way around, a man don’t want to come to a sword fight.

  • Quitedeliteful

    My mother did it — but she was damn unhappy….

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    SR: Wives knew the family was her top priority

    So husbands weren’t required to have their families as their top priorities?

    What about the mothers of the outside children? where is the family there?

    You are just one twisted illogical human being.

  • Coy little wink
  • hottlanta

    That is how the wealthy do it. All modeling agencies are not owned by Chanel and from those pictures I saw they don’t look like top model material to me.

  • Clopretty

    I come from a family of strong will women! My Grandmother told me the same thing “Never let a man mistreat you and when you feel like you’ve endured enough… walk away” Sadly your family taught you to stay in situations that can turn into long time suffering!

  • BacktolurkingIgo
  • IAmLegend

    Exactly!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    One of my grandmothers endured and the other one said “Heyul No!”

  • hottlanta

    Does that definition comes with a IRS tax code? What box does one check when filing taxes.

  • Scromes1212

    It’s 2017 lol all they need is a text. Stop it lol

  • SaltineCrackers

    Kiyan is such a cutie pie! I’m sad for him :(

  • Look@m3

    You ain’t forgive him!?!?! LOL

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Ok on the outside Camille had everything that 99% of black women at that time wanted–five children, a husband who made awesome money and was an icon so she let his side business slide and since it was the 1960’s long before social media not that many people knew about Bill’s dirty laundry except his Hollywood buds.

    Cookie is different because Magic made his announcement to the entire world and for whatever reason she took the hit and married him anyway.

    Maybe she married him out of love or pity but that was her choice.

    I guess women are different than men because I don’t believe a man would have married a woman with HIV.

  • Blak

    Having raw sex with a stripper and cuming inside her as a married man is disgusting. It is not his god given right to abandon his family and for her to stay she should be compensated like Simone Smith to be cool with the open marriage and stay the main dish amongst all sides. Not everyone is built for that

  • Coco

    I thought infidelity was a good cause for divorce.

  • Concerned

    Sandra preaches a husband having an outside child shouldnt make you leave him one day. The next day she’s preaching about sexually transmitted diseases and how women need to protect themselves. This site is just winging it aint it

  • stanhope

    All men cheat..spoken like a true man hating d y k e. LOL. LaLa is a drama queen of first rank. She is setting up for publicity and some coins. Divorcing him makes her just another wronged gal and makes way for a new HO. She ain’t that stupid.

  • 2brefrank

    Well..that would be a game changer if it were true! Wow. I’m hearing more and more of men going to these strip clubs and having relations with the dancers while there… People really don’t love themselves anymore. Like…self love is really out the door. Are people on something when they mindlessly sleep with randoms…or are these conscious decisions?

    Sandy…i understand what you are continuously trying to say but in all reality if I find out my husband is cheating that affects MY HEALTH…Aids, STD’S HPV are all real. I would like to make every effort to live long enough to see my kids kids grow up. I don’t advise anyone to put their health at risk for a chronic cheater. Folks are GROSS!

    I just need everyone to go and meet the Lord. Like…have a long talk with the Lord! Then just…stop what you are doing!!!

  • T3

    Of course he killed himself. Gawking coward! Make me sick. Take ya lick bish!

  • Quitedeliteful

    My thing is don’t have me towing the line, keeping our vows and ‘doing the right thing’ while you are out here living your life like you are single. Now, if a man wants to change the nature of the relationship and he’s upfront about it — I may not like it but I can respect it because now the ball is in my court I can stay or not… My thing is do not have me thinking our relationship is one of monogamy if this is not true….

  • stanhope

    Unless he wants some sword himself…john travolta, matt damon, princess kordella, etc

  • Scromes1212

    Not trying to be funny but to add to what you said, there was no viagra. After 45 most men were done. Viagra changed the game for dudes in they late 40’s.

  • Scromes1212

    So does this apply to couples that have threesomes? I think that has a lot to do with this situation .

  • Concerned

    But there also wasn’t that much AIDS during that time.

  • stanhope

    Naw too bad you hate men, are obessed with trannies and gay men. Snap to you heifer masquerading as reporting news. Just so you know, trump, your hero, will be impeached before all is said and done so book your greyhound to russia.

  • hottlanta

    It wasn’t hard for him to co-enter. His co-parenting with the other person is none of my business because it is not my child. that has nothing to do with me. So I should feel sorry for him but he didn’t feel sorry for me.

  • stanhope

    She don’t know s h y t..she hates happily married, strong, working Black women who stand in their truth…a true hater.

  • OP2

    True! -or wait foolishly hang around to catch an incurable STD/HIV.

  • SaltineCrackers

    LOL!!!!!!

  • 2brefrank

    But….the diseases weren’t as rampant as they are now. Nowadays…everyone..including women… is sleeping with everyone….So now the risk is so much higher health wise.

  • 2brefrank

    Yea and that’s dangerous!

  • EMILY POST

    We are witnessing the weakest generation of black males ever.. so nothing they do shocks me at all ever at this point.
    I am amazed they lasted so long. Didn’t she write a relationship book??
    We live in a generation where strippers and porno stars are idolized as the women to be and have and the classless are celebrated. When lala was following around Kim kardashian I knew something wasnt all the way right with her marriage.
    I am not shocked but what solid foundation are these marriages really based off of in the first place. Celebrity money and fame. Only she knows what her marriage was and wasn’t. After reviewing her fame thirsty crew I was amazed she kept it together for so long.
    Kudos to her…

  • Coco

    Right! Just like that NFL player whose wife and baby mama were arguing on instagram on Easter! Embarrassing.

  • Quitedeliteful

    The fairy tale is in men thinking that they can do whatever they want and women will put up with their bullshyt 4ever…

  • klwbaby

    Sandy I guess u never heard the expression that “I would rather be from a broken home, then to live in one”. So u think it’s better for kids to grow up in a hostile and dysfunctional environment??

  • Concerned

    Interesting thought, I would actually love to know about Sandra’s upbringing and family life.

  • Cat88L3

    Is it me or is this site going downhill? Who is writing this stuff? I don’t know if these are really your feelings or you are trolling/clickbaiting…

    I used to enjoy reading Sandra Rose daily. Now…*le sigh*

  • Concerned

    It’s mostly clickbait. But it gets me every time

  • Desiree Edwards

    Wow, Sandra you have reached an all time low. Don’t you know that young women visit this site and read the blog, and this is the message you’re sending? There’s no way Lala has to accept him cheating and also having an alleged baby on the side. What’s wrong with being faithful? There are faithful men out there. Go ahead delete my comments….

  • http://olskoolblackflix.com Prof. Taco Juice

    The men in my family during that time period had a regular job and a side gig. Since they were all blue collar workers, there was no energy to cheat. I’m deep in my 40’s so this was a really long time ago.

  • Renee26

    Check your statistics again chile…you must be miserable

  • Renee26

    Right…we have to learn these things if we like to visit this forum LMAO

  • Coco

    A lot of those Families stayed together at the expense of women feelings and happiness. Some of those women were so miserable, if they could leave, they would. Most of them didn’t have jobs, education, money or any opportunities. All they had was their husbands to take care of their kids financially.

    Their worth in society was tied up to having a husband. Heck, even today some people still use single as insult, as if being married automatically makes a better woman.

  • NeverSurprised

    ??????????????

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    She’s been married to Trump for over 20 years so Melania’s whoring around was back in the 90’s before she broke up Trump and Marla Maples and people barely had cell phones much less text

  • BacktolurkingIgo

    Indeed

  • NeverSurprised

    Plenty of famous men were womanizers because they were MEN. We acknowledge that a man is only as faithful as his options. But cheating behind closed doors, and humiliating your wife by having ANOTHER WOMAN give birth to your child are two different things.

    Ex: Jesse Jackson and MLK both cheated, but only Jackson humiliated his wife and children by siring an outside baby, and his veneer of respectability was inexorably tarnished. “Reverend” my a@@.

  • shun king

    So now they making a nice living and the family structure has been destroyed and it’s total mayhem in the black community….great trade off money and mayhem for a family

  • Yetunde

    I’m really disappointed in him. When will these men ever learn? Getting a random pregnant is a big deal, but AIDS and HIV can be death sentences. I’m happy for LaLa and the fact that she found the strength and courage to move on. This man obviously does not care about himself, let alone her.

  • Brenda

    No Matter how Beautiful you are..
    They still CHEAT !!

  • jayhawkpride

    I feel you, but a couple of million is nothing to the Daily Mail. They would tell you that’s the “cost of doing business!!” :o)

  • Yetunde

    My mother did it too. That’s why my siblings and I suffered and were beaten so much. She took her anger and frustration out on us.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Seriously?
    You hold men to such low standards?
    You’re one of the reasons that the black community is failing.

  • jayhawkpride

    I apologize for not making myself clear. I was asking that if you two had children would you make it hard for him to co-parent with you and the children y’all have together.

  • Yetunde

    My mother was unhappy due to my dad’s actions and in turn,she made her children unhappy. She took out her anger and frustration on her children, we suffered because she stayed in a very unhappy marriage because her culture dictated. So I do believe that an unhappy mum can lead to unhappy children.

  • Yoni7

    So dude killed himself!

  • hottlanta

    I ain’t nobody wife and I will never argue with a woman over another man. I will have my lawyer and my husband lawyer to argue over my settlement.

  • Yoni7

    Having an outside baby should not be the death of a marriage. It should bring a couple closer together.
    _____________________
    Then you call the women all types of “long suffering” xyz’s.

  • klwbaby

    Sandy, that’s great advice to give people. Woman should stay with a cheating husband because kids need their father. Let’s just hope a baby is all he brings home because he wants to raw dog every warm hole he can find.

  • Nite Flight

    Was that extra pump worth it? Gonna cost him millions

  • Nite Flight

    The sad thing is Melo has been doing this for years and black women continue to let it slide. Lala should of left along time ago.

  • Jay

    When a couple gets married, they take a vow before God to love each other until death do they part. Having an outside baby should not be the death of a marriage. It should bring a couple closer together. *** what about to forsake all others.*** that is part of the vows… (asking for a friend)

  • Dowoop

    Not true…My mom and dad separated when i was fairly young and he ran the streets and had countless kids (like i literally dont know how many brothers and sisters i have) however he was an amazing father, never absent for the important events. Now he has has women that stayed with him through the BS but my mother sure as hell didn’t. She also didn’t hate him and has never has a negatie thing to say about him but when you have 3 half sisters who is born in the same year as you, you realize what was going on when you get older. Now why would i as a woman take the way he treats women as the way i want to be treated when my mother is showing me that it is not acceptable??

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Are you dumb? I ain’t imply none of what you typed……and I ain’t explaining what was clearly communicated.

  • Dowoop

    Husbands does not come with the title of father..what if they dont have kids.

  • Jay

    All the more reason they should have left. I have a theory for both here it go. For Exodine she had nothing else going (Money/career or a baby to get support she gave up all that to be with him and this is the thanks he gives her. For Gabby, she was at the end of her reproductive years ans was like if I leave him, get over break up and fine a new dude, my eggs will be dust so she stayed. just my 2 cents.

  • Dowoop

    She married him because she thinking, now he has HIV he is all mines, cuz nobody wants what he has to offer…she dont have to worry about nobody sliding into his DM…lol

  • Dowoop

    I was in a similar situation but we werent married or living together at the time and i had my own thing going on. Now i actually really like the kid.

  • imright

    Sandra Rose sold this site a long time ago.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I don’t know about that.

    I have watched her interviews and believes she truly loves Magic.
    Why and how I have no idea.
    Magic must have accumulated a lot of good karma in a previous life.

  • Not Down With The BS

    What in the world…. The vow before God that the cheating man broke, is the same vow you are using to suggest a woman permanently bind herself to a broken marriage, in order to prevent her from also breaking the vow?

  • Dowoop

    WTF!!! Oh hell no!!

  • Taylordanes

    why are you encouraging women to allow dis loyalty? you are mentally ill and sick

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    IF it did I know a lot of canidate who may qualify for that credit/deduction!!!! Not me!

  • WTF

    The commentary on this Blog is becoming more atrocious as the days pass…it has moved to the bottom of my blog list and will eventually fall off. God also said to not commit adultery and certificates of divorce are permissable when there is sexual immorality. A new life can equate to the death of a marriage. Sorry. He left her NOt the other way around.

  • interestingconcept1

    what morning of bs is this? How you are encouraging women to be submissive?

  • hottlanta

    If a man doesn’t make a commitment to God love me before the wedding he can forget it. Like he has dogged me throughout the relationship and on the wedding day all of a sudden he is suppose to have a spiritual enlightment and finally acknowledge God and love me. If a man didn’t want the marriage to die he wouldn’t blatantly disrespect himself/wife like that. Why make a baby and try to bring the Bible into forsaking all others after you have cheated to make it sound illegitimate. You should forsake them from the beginning. Some women actually believe this mess, That is why I said that people use the Bible to disrespect women and give the man a pass.

  • hottlanta

    She needs to encourage them to leave his azz, get your attorney, get paid and keep it moving.

  • Browneyes

    is that really true

  • Tena

    Sandra, sandra, sandra. Not all men cheat, and an outside baby is a deal breaker. How can you overcome this when it’s going to be in your face everyday?

  • hottlanta

    If the married couple is looking for the outside baby to have a job to keep them together they have issues. Babies don’t come with jobs to keep a couple together period whether they are born inside or outside a marriage.

  • AggieMom96

    What’s wrong with these dudes? Plenty of gorgeous discreet college girls who could use the help and they go screw a stripper smdh. Some men are just stupid!

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    LaLa should take a look at Camille Poindexter versus Donald and Dominique Penn. Now it shouldn’t be like that but Camille had a baby with a very married Donald who chose to stay with his wife and her with him. There have been unpleasant exchanges on social media including this weekend when the siblings met . Camille doesn’t believe in slick talk and will curse an arse out via social media publicly . I don’t think LaLa is for all that. I would remove myself from all that and evaluate the situation very carefully. Because you didn’t sign up for all that and you CAN choose to stay married to it.

  • Not Down With The BS

    I absolutely agree with you.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Caucasian women leave their men!!! If their Catholic they get the marriage annulled if they can ! Like it never happened after 4 kids and 20 years. We seem to be picking strippers, dancers and Instagram models . They are still picking nannies and their younger employees , coworkers or models . Same story different decade.

  • NeverSurprised

    No, that would be from a BOY’s perspective. A boy acts rashly, fueled by physical stimuli and lust. But a MAN learns to control himself and make rational choices because he realizes that his physical choices can destroy his own life and the lives of others. (see, Bill Cosby)

  • hottlanta

    Why marry a man and wait for him to become a husband. It makes no sense to me. He is either a husband or he is not there is no in between.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    Now while he is out there spreading his seed like its extra crunchy peanut butter on fresh white bread how can he be fruitful and prevent the spread of HIV, AIDS, Herpes, and every other STD there is? What about the one he may being gone to mommy and it could take her life ? It could take his life ? One or both parents could have poor health . How is that good for the children ? Staying with a straying spouse is not healthy on man levels . You have to have wise counsel if you choose to stay .

  • Hummingbird_225

    Now Sandra u knowgood and damn well had SHE had an outside baby HE would be out. How many men stay and take care of another mans baby? Vows or not that’s some hoe shit ( on HIS behalf). Damn at least use a condom. If this rumor is true I would be out too. ??????

  • Hummingbird_225

    On second thought u wrote this article like this on purpose. To get s rise outta us. There’s NO WAY I’m going to believe u believe this as much as u stay calling somebody long-suffering. Good one ?

  • klwbaby

    I have a hard time believing she is a nurse when she out here promoting this BS……

  • hottlanta

    I posed a question on the board months ago about married women going to the doctor to get tested for STD’s. Because as a single woman and if I said I don’t get tested the board will rip me apart, but as a married woman are you neglecting your health by not getting tested or if you do get tested are you not trusting your husband. Then if you do get tested for STD’s do you tell your husband that test is included in your physical.

  • hottlanta

    Still a husband but he will still be a sorry husband.

  • the guest

    Being married is not what makes a woman a better woman. Being married before having children is in most cases wiser and par for the course if you are traditional.

    Being a single mother multiple times over with different men and never marrying is not acceptable. No matter what celebrities advocate it.

    Those celebrities who advocate single motherhood are not financially supporting the average everyday single mother.

  • Not Down With The BS

    I’m not interested in getting a divorce. So I would not willfully marry a cheater, period. That is a deal breaker for me.

    If he knew he wasn’t committed to the marriage, he should have stated as much. Lay the terms out plainly so that women can make an informed decision. Cheating takes away the other person’s power to consent.

  • NeverSurprised

    Oh absolutely. Women make the mistake of thinking their looks can keep a man from straying. Never. Men cheat because of the lure of new puzzy — the unexplored. The seduction. The thrill of sexual victory (it reverts back to prehistoric man stalking and conquering his prey).

    Also, a new woman is like a new car for a man, and like any untouched interior, they love that “new puzzy” smell.

  • the guest

    I tell my husband and I tell our kids I am not your friend but I am the best friend you have in the world. See what I said there? I am a wife to my husband, not a buddy, and I am a mother to our children, not a peer. But I am the best friend they all have in this world. Feel me?

  • Ashley.B

    No offense but sandra u sound dumb..no way ima stand by while my husband cheats..im pretty sure if the tables were turned no dude is gonna stay while there wife is pregnant by another dude….?

  • Realhiphopsearch

    God did not ordain man to
    1. Commit adultery
    2. Have babies out of said adultery

    Nor did God ordain divorce
    God hates divorce

    But God does permit seperation with understanding that seperated individuals can only ever be intimate/ or resume a relationship with the one they married

    That lasts until one of the parties dies
    Only death can break the the marriage covenant

  • NeverSurprised

    ??????????????????

  • NeverSurprised

    Preach!!

  • Shira Harding-James

    She most definitely should of left him, if any of this even true. God did not ordain man to go and sow with other women. He instituted marriage for the purpose of men only sowing with their wives!

  • kitttykatlady

    Sorry i dpnt agree. Her husband had sex with a stripper didnt use protection n got her pregnant. Who knows that womans prior sexual history?

  • AJKC23

    Sandra Sandra have u been married before? Bc this article better be your views from REAL LIFe experience bc u sound silly! God is ok with men cheating ? No No!!

  • Shira Harding-James

    No you do better Sandra because this is ridiculous!

  • Taylordanes

    I never specified a race and I know MANY couples who have been married 10, 20, and 40 plus years… doing JUST fine!

  • Coco

    Yes, having kids is seen as bad, but A lot of times I hear “this is why y’all single” “this is why you can’t find a man” as insults. And people even in unhappy marriages brag about “at least I have a man”.

    People even go as far as mocking successful women who don’t have husbands and kids.

  • hottlanta

    Some women marry cheaters an don’t know it and some men become cheaters after the marriage. I get sick of people making suggestions for women to make the marriage exciting for the man but never the man to make the marriage exciting for the woman. We get tired of the same ole thang as well. Men don’t think their stuff gets ole. We suppose to tolerate it forever and not say a word but be grateful we got a “husband” because a lot of women are knocking themselves out to be a wife just to say they are marrried.

  • TOO REAL

    SANDY YOU RUN AFTER THE MONEY. YOU SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE AND WHATEVER ELSE THEY PUT IN YOUR MOUTH FOR A MAN BUT DON’T YOU DARE TELL WOMEN TO DO IT. THIS ISN’T HIS FIRST CHILD OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE AND FURTHERMORE THE WAY SHE GOT HIM IS THE WAY SHE LOST HIM.

  • hottlanta

    Still no answers to my questions yet. Just like the last time.

  • Lolalao

    I’d definitely get tested if I were married.

  • hottlanta

    I guess that is why Steve has had 3 wives. We woman like the new dyck smell in our sheets and on our skin as well. Men think the same way about their looks as well can keep someone. They got the nerve to have small dyck and think you gonna stay because they are phune. That is why some of them lately can’t take rejection because we women should be grateful they even spoke to us, they could be someone else and when we tell them I rather for you to be somewhere else as well they get pissed.

  • Lolalao

    If you have kids, definitely. My pride isn’t bigger than the love for my children.

  • Lolalao

    One more thing, we’re in a new age. You have every woman or man on earth practically in your home and at your fingertips. People may have to start having some harder conversations within their marriage, aren’t you best friends? Temptation is a mother. …

  • stanley

    She need to stay lol… Don’t let a Hoe break up your marriage that’s exactly what she want. But if the love is truly gone, then by all means divorce. Camelo got some serious thinking to do. And btw, I knew something was wrong when lala never had a 2nd child. They need to make more children of their own lol

  • hottlanta

    We have friends in our lives that serve different purposes where we do different things. I share things with my friend that don’t share with my man and vice versa. Because one person can’t be all the person(s) that we need to survive. All of us can be replaced like someone can love your husband and kids as well as you could if you was taken out of the picture just like someone could love you as well as your husband if he was taken out of the picture. We are all replaceable.

  • hottlanta

    Are you calling the woman a hoe or her husband. The other woman has no responsibility to the marriage the man does. He is the hoe in the situation.

  • hottlanta

    So you think if you met your man and you know he wasn’t with someone else he won’t leave you for someone else. Crazy!!!!

  • stanley

    Lol Back in the biblical days, Sluts would get stoned to death. So according to GOD, the “Hoe” does share responsibility. She knew Camelo was married and had sex with him anyway.

  • hottlanta

    Would you tell your husband or would you feel like you are betraying him by not trusting him.

  • Tea??

    She’s not a stripper lol she has a masters degree and shes a social worker supposedly. so she’s an educated home wrecker ????Eudoxie actually gained my respect she stayed with ludacris and actually seems to love the little girl at least on social media & I hope behind closed doors. Gabrielle on the other hand stayed with the man yet acts like the child doesn’t exist only acknowledging his kids with his ex wife in interviews, made me lose respect for her ?????

  • Anonymouse

    This has nothing to do with love and everything to do with lust. I don’t know why some women have a difficult time understanding that. We can’t expect anyone to be perfect for we all are sinners. No sin is greater than the next.

    The best thing to do in this situation is stay married. It’s not like getting a divorce erases what happened.

  • Lolalao

    I’d tell him.

  • Anonymouse

    Eudoxie isn’t an American so there you have it. She knows what it is and also knows that if she leaves, SHE loses. Smart woman.

  • hottlanta

    Would you tell him as a subliminal warning as if you cheat you betta wrap it up because if I find out by getting a disease Imma divorce you. Or do you tell him because he knows about the other tests we women get. Love your honesty.

  • hottlanta

    Yes money does keep you warm at night. It affords you to buy 2000 sheets sets and better comforters to sleep better.

  • Lolalao

    It all comes down to self-love. How can I expect him to fully love me if I don’t love myself? Most importantly, what am I teaching any offspring we have about self-love and care? It’s reality, some people don’t want to face it. I’m not going to care about his feelings to the point I shortchange my health, can’t do it.

  • hottlanta

    He knew he was married and had sex with her anyway.

  • Lolalao

    I’d tell him the truth, I love you, but I love me more. I’d tell him we’re both going to get tested; I know I’m faithful, but he needs to love himself more, too. These are things that need to be discussed before? marriage is even in the picture, practice it before you take that final step.

    We have to realize this is a new age, changes to how relationships work are going to have to be thought out differently.

    Thanks ?

  • Kimberly Vontrese

    Black men don’t respect their mates. What else is new? A Black man will show you his d!kk before he shows you respect. Is anyone surprised? Same with weave wearing Black women. They will show you their puzhhay before you see their real hair. Weave wearers and Black men belong together. Natural haired Black Queens and RESPECTABLE men of other races stay winning. I’m not trolling, IJS.

  • Coco

    Lmaoo, it does!

  • Darkchild

    This write up…I Cannot

  • hottlanta

    Thanks because I was talking to a girlfriend of mines whose husband was cheating but she was going to the doctor getting punched like a pin cushion just to see if she had an STD and when she would come back negative she would make comments like she dodged a bullet. I got to tired of listening to her I asked her why is she putting herself in a mental hell and if the test came back positive what would she do because playing needle roulette is not a game. He did all of the cheating and left the marriage to be with the other woman when he got tired of disrespecting her but her arm was looking like a pin cushion. Love your attitude.

  • Coco

    I wear my hair natural but comments like yours are so damn Annoying. Just because others wear weaves, it doesn’t make them less respectable/ less deserving or less black than naturals. How someone chooses to do their doesn’t to do with cheating. Men of all races cheat, it’s not a black men thing.

  • hottlanta

    Two married women died last week because their death by their husbands broke the marriage covenant. I guess God is happy they followed his word and stayed together till death do you part.

  • hottlanta

    I guess Dump is winning because he is the first President in history to have 5 kids by 3 baby mamas. He sure respects his wife leaving her on the curb when he gets outta the car.

  • Lolalao

    It’s for the best. You know what, now she can focus on herself. Did she ever confront him?

  • Lolalao

    Thank you…I love yours right back. You aren’t afraid to ask tough question meaningful questions.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Threesomes… That can get messy too…You know, three is not always a lucky number. Somehow it always ends up being two against one…

  • hottlanta

    She did but it did no good. She KNEW he was cheating and she was going to the doctor for a gotcha moment and I was like really. I stay focused on myself whether I am in relationship or not. I live a part of my life that doesn’t include my man and lives a part of his life that doesn’t include me.

  • Lolalao

    *tough meaningful questions.

  • Dowoop

    Was never a debate about whether he was a husband, yes we all know hes a husband. What i said was husbands do not come with the title father. You dont have to be a father to be a husband and you dont have to be a husband to be a father!

  • Scromes1212

    Cheating doesn’t make you less a man. It’s a unfortunate part of life. We all make mistakes. You just try and learn from it the best you can.

  • Lolalao

    So, if a man is abusing you or molesting your child, you stay? How healthy is that?

  • Anonymouse

    Trump is not the first president to have been married multiple times so they’re not “baby mamas”. Please read US history.

  • Scromes1212

    That has nothing to do with being black and everything to do with being a male.

  • Wolfperm

    How would you know that. When were you ever a part of the black community.

  • Scromes1212

    Very true and Bob did the same. My point is, depending on the man, sometimes I thinks it’s a good option for the woman to stay. In my humble opinion.

  • Anonymouse

    His comment also stated that God permitted separation!

  • Lolalao

    With understanding that seperated individuals can only ever be intimate/ or resume a relationship with the one they married.

    Care to explain that?

  • Anonymouse

    That’s nonsense. There have been unpleasant exchanges on social media because they’re immature. Period. They’re not the first people to have to go through things.

  • Anonymouse

    Yes, what’s hard to understand about that? Separation with the intent to reconcile and continue the marriage.

  • Lolalao

    After abusing someone and molesting children..Got ya.

    That’s extremely healthy ?

  • Lolalao

    That means they’ll go back to an abuser and pedophile…

    That is ill advice to give someone.

  • Renee

    This author needs a good dose of reality! Our men are treating us this way because we’re bring told to accept it. Kudos to you, LaLa!

  • Rendeezil

    So…..they both get stoned…..not with no purp ,either. Ijs.

  • Lolalao

    Certain situations can be reconciled, but not that. Are people supposed to die, be incarcerated for fighting back, or spend their life being doped up from trying to forget being molested? Wait, or they enter the same toxic relationships they saw growing up?

    When does that cycle end?

  • Lolalao

    You’d seriously put your child in a deadly situation? They may walk around living and breathing from what society may see, but are dead inside. By our answer you gave, it seems you are ok with the abuse and molestation.

    Divorce! How can you even comprehend reconcilation?

  • Lolalao

    Gotcha moment? Do you think she’ll do this with another man? I just would hate to see her put her health at risk. I’m like that ..

  • hottlanta

    If they were black they would be called Baby Mamas and being married to him when they had kids would not make them respectful. I stand by what I said.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Uh huh. Well males are holding themselves to very low standards.

  • hottlanta

    His, so this is by a man. Thought so.

  • pure_rachet

    Sandra allegedly committed homicide with this write up. Im dead. Bye y’all.

  • Solstice

    Eucalyptus lmao ? hollering

  • JENNYJONES1

    AHHH SHE DROPPED OUT OF COLLEGE AND WAS SOLELY DEPENDED ON LUDA SO WHERE WAS SHE GOING? AND SHE WASN’T LUDA’S WIFE YET. REMEMBER HE MARRIED HER TO LOOK MORE STABLE FOR THE COURTS. ALSO DEWAYNE WADE DIDN’T GET A CROOKED JUDGE TO GIVE HIM CUSTODY OF THE BABY TO PUNISH THE BABYMAMA FOR GOING PUBLIC SO GABRIELLE WASN’T FORCED TO HAVE TO BE A MOTHER TO HER HUSBAND’S SIDE CHICK’S BABY. THESE ARE 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT SITUATIONS………JENNY JONES!!!

  • JENNYJONES1

    BUT ISN’T THIS OUTSIDE BABY #2??? BECAUSE I REMEMBER THIS BEING AN ISSUE RIGHT BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED. I GUESS 1 SHE COULD STAY BUT 2 MEANS THIS N*CCA DGAF ABOUT HER FEELINGS OR THEIR MARRIAGE. I’M WITH LA LA AKA BYE N*CCA!!!…….JENNY JONES!!!!

  • sealsaa

    This is the shit that irritated me with Beyonce. The side chick could have been anyone. Fire those shots at the man who married you.

  • hottlanta

    Cellphones been out for years. They were used first by the ultra rich until the dope dealers on the street got win of them and then everybody got one. The phones were huge but they didn’t have texting.

  • cheechee1x1

    Donald trump married Marla Maples on Dec.20,1993. Tiffany Trump was born October 20, 1993. Do the math! Donald married months after the birth of Tiffany. “Baby Mama”.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    All three are immature …if he called her a THOT , if her mom repeated it , if his wife rubbed family time in side pieces face. Camilla was really nasty when she fed into all of it and went the hades off. He can easily say he never said that , and the wife can say she was just showing love and meant no harm. Multiplying with the wrong ones can be more than a person bargained for …,

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    I never really meant to say you did no offense . I’m just saying that in every culture men seem to have a pick of women they choose to cheat with . Sometimes it’s random, sometimes it’s out of convenience to be honest. The nanny is the one who is right there and available . Regardless men and women have both cheated for years and many do not want to get caught or lose their spouse. If they can work it out they do , even with babies born outside of the marriages. Sad when the babies are ostracized though they are innocent .

  • kekeb

    How YOU know Lala bisexual? And how YOU know this Carmelo’s baby

  • Liz A Harrington

    I remember on her reality show she wanted to have another baby and Melo told her “NO” made every excuse in the book and to impregnate another woman is unacceptable, especially another woman that isn’t your wife, Chiiiilllleeeee. There is one thing accepting a cheating spouse but I wouldn’t be a real woman and say I would accept a child outside my marriage. It would take a while and of course I would want my children to know their sibling but my marriage would be through. That’s the ultimate deal breaker.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso

    So glad we don’t have to stay in abusive relationships anymore!!! I’m a witness!!! Because black woman (some still are) were brain washed into thinking they had to stay with their abusive, cheating , seed spreading , barely there husbands . Now women are more empowered, educated, and have more choices . Some don’t even like men just like back then, and choose not to live a lie ! There still are the women who believe they should be miserable for the sake of their kids and stay with a philandering husband . In reality if they left him and showed their children what happiness and stability could look like without as a single mom and then remarry a way better role model then that would be a better outcome for the kids .

  • Mrs. (Asexual) Elmo

    Well if that’s the case ..He shouldn’t have no problem if she cheats and makes a baby..He should still LOVE her.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    Just watch. Lala’s about to pull a “Gabrielle Union ” and “stand by her man”.

  • NeverSurprised

    I think it”s entirely an individual choice. I’m a mother, so I every mother makes every life choice based on what she BELIEVES to be in the best interests of her children. For some that means staying in the relationship. For others it means leaving. It’s not really fair to judge the familial decisions of others, but public humiliation is a hard thing for any relationship to overcome.

  • TheDoubleHelix

    How did this become LaLa’s and by extension American women’s fault?

  • nick c

    Lol doesn’t work that way

  • Scromes1212

    Agreed. Well said

  • Electricbird83

    Of course it doesn’t!! U see how crazy it is to think she would stay?

  • Electricbird83

    Ludas wife is from Gabon, some folks my husband know, knows her from back home. She was in school here for nursing which she didn’t complete. But she is one of those chicks from a okay family but was looking for a easier way to live the life. Side child and all, she was going to hang on to ludacris.

  • Jussjess25

    This coming from a women who does not like men.. at all. And prefers to spend her life with a women ?Sandra fall back this is not your area. You have no idea how lala is feeling. ?

  • XoXo

    Yes, because what she is doing is reckless and irresponsible which is very contrary to the characteristic traits of a nurse.

  • XAVIERA

    LOL…The ignorance of someone who is supposed to be so profound. Read the BIBLE, this is the only way marriage is dissolved. It’s called Adultery. He’s the person in the marriage that didn’t respect the vows, so YOU shouldn’t speak on such unions without detailed information.

  • nora tee

    “American woman” have choices….good to see a woman walking away from bullshyt!

  • Realhiphopsearch

    God does permit seperation as i stated
    But whats not permitted to be very clear is going into another relationship if the other spouse is still alive

  • Naila Thrower

    Whaaaat..i think u should stop listening 2 Tyrese!!

  • Decked Out

    If you just marry cuz you get PREGNANT than what foundation do you have for the marriage. They were on Rocky ground for so long. Think about it when have you EVER seen them two together smiling and loving? I’ll wait.