Zion Wade

So you think your son might be gay. What do you do now?

Statistics show 3.8% of the U.S. population identifies as gay or bisexual — and that number is rising.

Researchers believe homosexuality arises from several environmental factors including the quality or lack of child-parent attachment or inadequate bonding between child and parent.

It doesn’t matter if the parent is heterosexual or gay, as long as the child-parent attachment is strong and your child feels secure. Studies have shown that children raised in loving homosexual households grow up to be heterosexual.

The Atlanta chapter of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) published a guide to help parents who believe they are raising a gay child.

The organization says gay children who are not accepted by their parents usually have a higher risk of depression, suicide, drug use or engage in high risk unsafe sex.

“Sadly, many parents find themselves alienating their children and lose sight of what is truly important; their child’s love and well-being.”

PFLAG says parents should not rush to judgment based on their son’s body language or the fact that he hugs boys.

“Some parents act on every little sign that their child is gay, only to find themselves doing seemingly crazy things to find out.”

According to PFLAG, it’s usually not your fault if your son doesn’t tell you he’s gay. Don’t take it personally. But if you really want to know, PFLAG suggests creating a dialogue between you and your son.

It’s best to start this dialogue when you begin talking to them as babies, “but anytime is a good time to start. Let your child know you love them unconditionally and mean it.”

Leave the door open for your son to tell you he’s gay

You will not turn your child gay by letting them know you accept the idea. When you see gay people or talk about them make sure it isn’t negative. These are opportunities to express your acceptance towards gay people and open the door for your child to tell you about themselves.

Ask your son how he feels about homosexuality

Create a dialogue with your son early, but don’t push. [A]sk them if they’ve ever considered being gay. Be careful not to accuse or degrade the possibility if you want an honest answer. If a straight child feels like you think they are gay it can be equally harmful as not accepting a gay child.

Schedule an appointment with a therapist who specializes in sexuality

Take action if your child seems to be confused about his sexuality. Remember that homosexuality arises from improper child-parent attachment. Sexual confusion is one of the symptoms. Make an appointment with a therapist who specializes in sexuality. “Be careful not to choose a therapist that is based solely on a religious principle. Your child will feel alienated and as though there is no place to turn. They likely already feel alone.”

Never assume your son is gay until you know for certain

“[D]on’t assume your child is not gay either. Regardless of whether they are gay or straight, they are your child and they need you. As their parent, you need them too.”

Please note: The video screen grabs used in this post are for illustrative purposes only. The blog owner makes no assumptions about the boy in the photos.


  • WutizaGRANNY!
  • MsPam

    Ms. Sandra is that Dwayne Wade’s youngest son? Gabby posted some photos of his birthday and people were saying he was looking a little sweet?

  • Sexy CJ
  • Please Stop The Madness

    I don’t want to talk about this. Post please on Derek Fisher DUI’ing and flipping Matt Barnes car

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Ask your son how he feels about homosexuality……Create a dialogue with your son early, but don’t push.

    2 questions: Why? and Define early? and Does this also apply to your gay-azzed daughter, too? (Okay that was 3 questions)

    How about let the child live and be a child, and come to their own conclusion of who/what they are?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Yeah, um I want to hear about how that works, since I think it was agreed in the court documents that he gave her the SUV specifically for the kids!!

  • Coy little wink

    This child looks familiar…is this a celebrity kid? D Wade?

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    Who’s son is in this pic? Is that Dwayne’s son? Sandra! When I tell ya! You ain’t $h!t ?????

  • Coy little wink

    THE CAVS LOST AND I BLAME KHLOE

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    You ain’t $h!t <—–a complete UNDERstatement!!
    #KidsOffLimits

  • RedBottomKittenHeels

    Sandra, you AINT SHYT for this post and using this child’s picture. Get your kiki’s off the adults but the chirren should be off limit’s. Especially if this young man isn’t gay.

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/2dff95fda8bf472e9f7c7d62312b6b9961c2a946c5416976fe5613cc721564b5.jpg

  • SuperScooper1

    I don’t think these young men are gay; I think they have certain behaviors modeled for them at a young age or too much exposure to the mainstream media that feeds us images of Black gay men as a way to marginalize the community.

    I’m not saying there aren’t gay men of color who are part of our larger Black community and should be out and proud, I’m saying there is a narrative the media is pushing. There are all types of Black gay men byt you only tend to see effeminate Black gay men on TV (save for “Omar” on “The Wire”) but the two white gay characters on “Modern Family” barely kiss or touch each other and are dominant in other ways. Why is that? Because white America doesn’t want those behaviors modeled for their children.

    It’s all about choice and autonomy and perhaps someone/something is trying to take the autonomy of our children (re: their sexual choices and behaviors) away from them.

    https://ih1.redbubble.net/image.329469578.0106/flat,800×800,075,f.u1.jpg

  • hotntot95
  • EMILY POST

    Whoooaaa parents better start checking what and who they are exposing their children too. Who’s child is that in the photo? thats not very nice.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Which is why, when my son came out, the first and only rule I had was: “Don’t get into that effeminate/ flamboyant behavior. That I will not tolerate. If you are a gay man…BE A GAY MAN, not a female impersonator.”

  • RedBottomKittenHeels

    This title sounds like a dam Judy Blume book…LOL

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    improper child-parent attachment- Can someone (ANYONE) define this? Is it too many hugs/ not enough hugs; too much discipline/no discipline; mommy wasn’t there/daddy wasn’t there? What exactly is this? Serious question

  • Yetunde

    I used to love Judy Blume books when I was in my early teens.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret? had me really trying to “increase my bust”. CTHU

  • sherri2016

    You love them and keep it moving

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    That’s Zion Wade, son of Dwayne Wade.

  • stav

    He gets it from his Deddy!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    And they’re off……………………………………………………….

  • Rayne

    Boy that lil fella looks like bron James kid. Ion know tho??

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    AATWSS: If you are a gay man…BE A GAY MAN, not a female impersonator.”
    *dead*

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “mommy wasn’t there/daddy wasn’t there?”
    —————-

    Exactly. The increase in homosexuality is due to both parents working or single working mothers raising sons.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    PSTM: and flipping Matt Barnes car

    So not only is Derek banging Matt’s sloppy seconds but he was driving Matt’s ride?

    Ha,ha,ha!!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I was dead serious!! Uhn, uhn….what we NOT gonna do is have me fukking you up over makeup, clothes, etc., all while you have a 5 o’clock shadow.

    No offense to people who transition and if he had wanted to do that later in life…fine, but he does not and carries himself as a regular 20-something year old MALE. Just had to turn down a car of girls, cause they tried to hit on him. He was amused.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Well I am glad that you understand that being gay doesn’t mean that men want to be transvestites and that most gay men are masculine.

    Most people mistakenly conflate the two.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    It’s Thursday morning and Sandra is tired..she doesn’t have half a phuck to give.

    Plus her Orange Jesus is in trouble so she needs to distract herself.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    That is a lie and full blown assumption. Know gay men from very loving TWO parent homes and fully straight men from ONE parent homes.

    If this was the case ALL 3 of my sons should be gay….NO?!

    If a person is gay, they are gay- I wish folks would stop trying to “figure” it out. Unless there was a sexual assault that led to this choice in lifestyle and therefore therapy should be involved…Let folks live.

  • Elevated Soul

    The last “Rainbow and Not Chief” Obama encouraged and in fact he begged people,especially Blacks to be gay….

    The promotion of HOMOSEXUALITY is the legacy of Obama.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Dumber than usual.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “How about let the child live and be a child, and come to their own conclusion of who/what they are?”
    ——————

    Because homosexuality has a high prevalence of comorbidity including depression and suicide. You can’t cure a child’s homosexuality but you can alleviate the symptoms if you catch it early.

  • Judas & GOD

    very positive article Sandra ..thank you!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    They don’t mistaken anything- they create their own narrative to make sense of shyt, instead of just being supportive and letting folks live.

    Too many children killing themselves over bullying and sitting around trying to force a gay child to say there is something mentally wrong with them is bullying.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    trouble is an UNDERstatement

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    Damn Sandra. You never cease to amaze me. That little cutie is a child. How could you post his picture on a story with adult content? And no rational person is buying your gay theories. Gay people come from all backgrounds. To hear you tell it every foster child, children raised by addicts who neglect them, children of parents who work long hours should be gay, but clearly they aren’t.

    Leave this child alone. Let him worry about his own sexuality when the time comes. He’s too young to be getting bullied by adults. Dealing with other children is bad hard enough.

  • Yetunde

    Haha, me too!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You’re welcome, hun. Homosexuality is a high risk factor for other psychiatric disorders. We can no longer sit idly by and pretend it’s all good in that community.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    And making that child think there is something wrong with them also attributes to depression and suicide- says the family member of a young man who took his life, because his parents did not accept who he was.

    And as for a child, I asked Define early? As A PARENT- there is a certain age wherein any discussion of sexuality should not be a thought- only talks about good touch/bad touch.

    Please define early?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Unless you’re living in their household 24/7, you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, ma’am.

  • Renay Peters

    Gayer than normal..tryna further promote “its”own plight with that as you said DUMBER THAN USUAL statement!

  • klwbaby

    If your kid is gay then accept him and love him unconditionally. Hell, Jeffrey Dahmer was gay and a serial killer and his parents accepted him.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    How are you going to tell an adult how to behave? What if he is feminine? Will you disown him?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    This is true. People believe most gay men are effeminate and flamboyant because they are so visible. But the masculine gays are harder to detect because they don’t stand out. And they are hiding in relationships with women.

  • Renay Peters

    Child if you dont try again with that asinine statement! But I guess it worked on you so carry on!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I thought the same thing.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Sandy you are reaching, but go on and be great on your blog.

    Now about your Crazy commander in chief and his people stealing money from children with cancer…..what are your thoughts?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Homosexuality is a high risk factor for other psychiatric disorders.
    So that explains your train of thought…….#GOTCHA and #UNDERSTOOD

  • SunRiseBlossom

    WHY I can’t stop laughing at this picture?!!! It expresses your feelings/comment perfectly!!! LMBO…

  • klwbaby

    How do u beg people to be gay?

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    He was a minor and yes I can tell him that as his mother, who accepted and accepts his lifestyle. He was getting his examples from the wrong people and I gave him examples of how this wasn’t necessary.
    Clearly you have not seen my font of this, as I always discuss my love for my son and how I and his siblings never waned in our love and support for him.
    #TRYAGAIN

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Did you read his book? No? Well I did. His mother was the dominant parent in the household. She emasculated his father in front of him. The father was a workaholic who was rarely ever home. Jeffrey tried to cope with his attachment disorder by killing small animals, which is a classic sign of an anti-social personality.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    You can try again too.

  • MookieFly

    On ya knees behind the Diary Queen. I figure ?

  • MookieFly

    What happened to children needing both a mom and dad to avoid le ghey? ?

  • SuperScooper1

    I understand exactly what you’re saying. There are SO many ways to be an individual, don’t let anything or anyone (the media, other people) dictate who you will become. Good lesson!

  • Daffany Rose-Gilbert

    WHY did you have to use his son’s pic? Were you aiming for the boy to be picked on at school

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Thank you!! Even though gay men are feminine…they do not have to believe that dressing up as a woman is required and he thought that. I stopped it before he even got comfortable in it. And he is happy for that.

    He is a gay MAN, no need to don wigs and heels to “show your gayness”.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    And here’s an article about a ‘transgender’ girl whose parents and school totally accepted her. She still killed herself. You liberals can’t cure a disorder with “acceptance”, “tolerance” and “love”. You have to treat the disorder and stop sugarcoating it.

    https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/parents-question-daughters-transgender-transition-after-her-suicide

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Well apparently that don’t work either, if they work a lot.

  • L. Thompson

    You really are a miserable bitch. To use a child’s photo for this bullshit article. Dwayne Wade should sue your ass and finally put you out of your misery like the hurt dog that you are.

  • Christopher Gibson

    You know you have been Petty Betty many times before but this time, you have really tried it. The post and the info itself ok but to put the picture of someone’s child in the post was beyond unnecessary. I hope the Wade family sues your azz and gets you shut down. Why didn’t you make a few changes to the post to say females and put one of your ugly ass pics up there? Smdh.

  • Christopher Gibson

    Co-sign 1000%. Beyond miserable.

  • WhooCares

    Lol and Ninja man’s son is openly gay. I wonder how he feels about that.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    You do realize that some people define treating it as telling the child that they are wrong for feeling like they do. You do know that don’t you. I am not speaking from articles, Sandy I am speaking for experience. Sometimes it is what it is and you have to accept it and the person and let it be. Liberal, conservative, man in a boat——in that crucial moment, love and acceptance (tolerance is bullshyt) is NEEDED and should be the first step to understanding the man, woman, child, teenager.

    As for these parents with the young children and “transgendering” them…I don’t agree that an elementary or middle school child has the mental or emotional capacity to be making those decisions and the parents shouldn’t allow them to make those ADULT decisions. Hell, high school kids aren’t ready to make those decisions.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    He had a lot more issues that required therapy than his “gayness”.

  • klwbaby

    Well I actually did read several books about him and seen a lot of the interviews his parents gave. Now if u read my simple comment again, I wrote they accepted him. I did not go into detail about the dynamic of their relationship.

  • MookieFly

    What are you supposed to do now? Wrap all the children up like the movie Bubble Boy? Lol

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Pretty much….that or stop having them!

  • TOO REAL

    Call Magic

  • Oh Tommie

    Oh NOW it doesn’t matter if the parent is hetero or homo? Gtfoh…Hahahaha

  • Kayke

    Why t f would you be having these discussions with you child “early”? This isn’t a milestone in life. Love your kid, let him/her be a kid. Put the expectations on their education and personal grow….. who they’re going to poke later in life is secondary to all that. Stop trying to force the agenda.

  • Oh Tommie

    D Wade

  • Oh Tommie

    Now your leaning into gender dysphoria…different than homosexuality.

  • Mbailey

    IT’S PLASTICS, Sandra. This has already been proven. A scientist was paid by a large corporation to demonstrate what plastics in the environment did to fish and animals. The scientist was able to prove that fish and other animals were more likely to exhibit same-sex attraction or animals developing two sex organs, when introduced to plastics in their environment.

  • Oh Tommie

    I saw the twinkle in his eye a while ago but didn’t know it was confirmed and he was open. Receipts?

  • Rayne

    Oh ok. I’m not good with basketball player, but I knew that kid looked familiar. He’s a cutie.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    You liberals? You do know that’s code for black people don’t you?

  • Mbailey

    OF course you should be having these discussions with your children early. It is the duty of parents and caregivers to instruct their children in biological and sexual matters. Do not leave it to perverts to introduce them to sexuality or idiotic children who are ill informed.

  • Oh Tommie

    Haha..Jalen Rose says 3 things are for certain: Father time, gravity, and the curse of the Kardashians lol

  • WhooCares

    Lol@twinkle in his eye. Here’s a pic of him and his boo.

    http://bestofelite.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/Ninja-man-Gay-son.jpg

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    But you know? Your story is YOUR story.

  • IntroSpective

    ? Posts like these usually bring out the worst of the worst, and I avoid them like the plague.

    **BTW using that young male’s image was in poor taste.

  • http://theempirefiend.tumblr.com/ Bird

    We’ll have to agree to disagree.

  • Jen_no_juice

    Researchers believe homosexuality arises from several environmental factors including the quality or lack of child-parent attachment or inadequate bonding between child and parent.
    ——————
    It’s on the rise because the media makes it seem like being homosexual is normal and you are strange of you’re not. The push of homosexuality on young kids is mind boggling. Hell any sexuality. But it’s better to be gay than black these days…. but Sandra, do you know the young man you posted?

  • Phillybruh

    I guess I’ll go and blame my mother for working and providing as the reason why I’m gay. She’ll appreciate that.

  • wonderwoman

    Why did she use Dewayne Wade son? Are you implying, that’s not cool.

  • IntroSpective

    Ouch….

  • FallenOne

    I think its wrong to post pics of someone else’s chil

  • Please Stop The Madness

    WAIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIT. This child belongs to Dwayne Wade? WHY man? Why did you do this?

  • IntroSpective

    BC ppl prefer any other issue than one being gay ??

  • Guess Who

    *drops mic*

  • Sonjas_son

    You could be sued for defamation

  • Guess Who

    D Wade’s boy, huh?
    NO COMMENT…

  • SpiceGirl

    sure can….smh

  • SpiceGirl

    wait….what did he do???

  • Phillybruh

    They just don’t become effeminate, you would have had to accept that behavior long before they came out. My mother said she always knew as did my partners mother but his dad had no clue, and they corrected certain behaviors they thought were unacceptable. Looking back I appreciate that.

  • SpiceGirl

    you know around THESE parts….kids are NOT off limits….smh

  • Phillybruh

    They aren’t hiding in relationships with women. They are just masculine gay men.

  • SpiceGirl

    ohhh weeee……#WentThere Im here for it

  • SpiceGirl

    lol….comprehension is KEY

  • tynamight

    Dude looks clean though. Who’s son is this?

  • Christopher Gibson

    Because Sandra is a petty bitch that’s why.

  • Tony

    He get so it from his father… dwade is dl..??

  • Judas & GOD

    I want to hug you .. I usually never agree with her . but I never understand why she bashing the gays all the time tho

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Self hate

  • IAmLegend

    Now THIS I agree with. Maybe homosexuality is not a psychological disorder, but most homosexual people that I know of have psychological disorders.

  • IAmLegend

    Who is this?

  • Carrington

    Studies that show that children who grow up in loving homes tend to be heterosexual are likely studies of gay people who had f*cked up households and want to BLAME their parents. I know PLENTY people who grew up in single-parent homes where the mother had $hit to do because the father wasn’t around, so she didn’t have time to kiss foreheads at night and medicate “boo boo’s” with a kiss – and these boys grew up to be heterosexual men who would boink the hell out of every woman in this room. I know people who had both parents and all the love in the world, who’ve discovered that they like women.

    Studies are bull$hit.

    There is NOTHING that can make a man’s d*ck hard outside of an ATTRACTION to something. Women might be able to close their eyes and wait for it to end, but men have to be AROUSED in order to have sex with another person, and if the sight of a man’s d*ck or a$$ arouses you… it’s because it looked GOOD to you. Don’t blame your mammy, your pappy, being broke, or television.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I agree, they emulate those they see around them and often, when first coming out, it is the wrong people. So I did NOT sugar coat it with him and said it just like I typed.

    I, as his mother, did what I was supposed to and told him a fact, Dressing up as woman isn’t how you will define yourself. It will be hard enough being a BLACK, GAY man……..but you will do it with such class and respect that people will respect you…And that is exactly what has happened- my homophobic family members will even snap out if anyone thinks to disrespect him, simply because they respect him in how he carries himself.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    No, I am leaning into young men coming out, who think they need to dress feminine, etc to “prove” they are proud of who they are. I understand the two things

  • Phillybruh

    What I’m saying is them being feminine often starts at home.

  • Judas & GOD

    indeed sis

  • Guess Who

    Nooooooooooooo! Say it ain’t so!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    We shall, but again…he was a minor, who just came out and was learning the wrong things from the wrong people and I, as his mother, did my job to guide him in his choices.

    Having worked for and been around successful and openly gay men, I explained to him that what he thought was the correct way, was not the only way.

    I have always been straight forward with my children and I know each one requires me to relay things to them differently…this particular child, needed restrictions or he would have gone far left.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    In some cases, yes……but this one was around “men/ men” and played rough all his life. He was the “dirty kid”, destroyed his clothes, hated baths, etc–whereas one of the straight sons would have been considered “more feminine” in how he acted and carried himself.

    Which is why Sandy theory can be proven wrong in some many instances.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Wasting your breath.

  • Oh Tommie

    Your understanding is of a perception. They normally feel that they should’ve been women, were born in the wrong body, and things along those lines…THAT’S why MOST dress like women…not to PROVE anything. Trust, there’s someone hard AF laid up with a whole woman, but is as flamboyant as it gets when they’re with their man.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    No, I am saying this as an observer and having had this discussion with young men, who don’t thin they should have been women and know they are men, but when they came out..the wrong crowd had them believing that they needed to dress up in wigs, heels, etc to “show”/”prove: their gayness.
    I am not speaking on those I only see, I am speaking on those I know, who at first thought that was the way and have sense learned that it is not- they dress male and if you see them you would think they are straight, however they do not misinform anyone of who they are.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    Studies are also, often led by someone who has their own hypothesis they are trying to prove, or one they are trying to disprove. Thus they tend to lead their participants towards the narrative that would support the outcome they want.

    To hell with a study, if you want to know what a person(s) is thinking, feeling…..go to the source and have a dialogue with them, without uttering a word of “what you think”.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Nice looking kid – hope he’s not being bullied…

  • Oh Tommie

    I don’t know where you are geographically, but I’ve been in the community for over half my life and have NEVER met such men….maybe they were weak, desperate to belong, and unsure all along. There are so many subcultures folks need to find the courage to be themselves….that extends beyond sexuality too though.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    If he wasn’t before, there is a chance he can be now….#ThanksSandy

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOL!!!!!

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I am speaking of my son who was a minor when he came out…….again, most times when people come out, they gravitate to the wrong group and learn the wrong things. So yes, a teenager can be considered: weak, desperate to belong, and unsure all along

    Men who have been out and established themselves, tend to have a clear idea of who they will be and who they will/should associate with.

  • Quitedeliteful

    You went all the way IN LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    No there are lots of masculine gay men who honest about who they are.
    Just visit any gym and the majority of the men there will fit that description.

  • Meme

    Weather he is gay or not it’s out of order to put is photo up so blatantly as an example he is still a child

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Why doesn’t the guy in orange just date women?
    I have heard that women like anal too.

  • Meme

    Don’t know whether homosexuality is due to nature or nurture, however a few gays I have heard about where abused as children by men.

  • Oh Tommie

    Ok now it makes sense. The guys I knew who came out as early teens (and some even before then) did the opposite. First it started with a switch in middle school….lip gloss in high school..by the time we graduated they were full on Olivia Pope! This generation of kids are different though…they’re parents too….it’s starting at 3 and 4 years old. That’s a whoooooole different conversation though hahaha. Nice adulting and talking to you ??

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    I agree, coming out is on a completely different level than it was years ago. Only the boldest gay guy came out in full drag and typically he had been out for a moment. Now…….full drag is like a rite of passage and they get involved with these “Houses” and learn any and everything wrong. I already knew enough gay men (outside of my house- so they did not play a part in my son’s life choice) and had heard enough about how the young guys were “brought out”, that I was already on it, when he came out.

    Now, you would just think he is a metro sexual guy, because he is so damn clean with everything he wears. Like I said below, girls always flirt with him and he laughs and tells them that he is gay, but thanks them. Their response is usually- Awww, Man!! CTHU

  • LibraGirlonly

    THEY are putting things in food, infant formula, etc. Please research this. The elite is up to know good.

  • Oh Tommie

    Did you say HOUSES?! You took Ole Otis back boi Hahahaha. Mannn..they would be in formation in the club performing like HBCU cheerleaders. DJs and clubs had to start making segments for this.. like they do for the reggae, slow music, etc. Hahahaha

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    LOL….so you see that I am speaking “in the know” and not from “studies”.
    But yes, they still have houses lingering around, snatching up the young ones and turning them out.

  • Oh Tommie

    Yea I know…we have more “straight” men, older men, and gay couples snatching up the young flamboyant ones and luring then with gifts and money so they can be a boy toy. Happened to my mom’s friend’s son who hadn’t come out but you could tell he was flaming …didn’t have to ask. He got sick, went to the doc and had all sorts of curables, incurables, including the 3 letter one. He went out of control after that…and he was only like 17 or 18. The mom was crushed..so sad.

  • AllAroundTheWorldSameSong

    That is tragic, but so common.
    Which is why, even if you as a parent don’t agree……suck it up, because you might lose your baby over that rejection.

  • Oh Tommie

    Exactly! … because acceptance is waiting right outside, but often comes with huge sacrifices and consequences

  • karen b

    I never read that book…….

  • Ngwa Vajinn

    Wait a damn minute!!! Did you use a pic of D. Wade’s son for this bullshit write up? This is sooooooo fucked up.

  • disqus_FW7pCIigCY

    VERY WRONG FOR SANDRA TO PUT THIS CHILD PIC UP AS AN EXAMPLE….. IF HE’S NOT GAY THE ASSUMPTION EVERYWHERE INCLUDING HIS CLASS MATES WILL THINK SO…HE MIGHT NOT BE GAY OR MAYBE HES TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT. I’M ALL FOR HETEROSEXUAL LIFESTYLES, BUT SANDRA COULD’VE USED EJ JOHNSON PIC WE KNOW HE’S GAY AND HE’S AN ADULT…YOU’RE WRONG SANDRA FOR USING THIS KIDS PIC…CHILDREN SHOULD BE OFF LIMITS!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Leave children alone!!! This is a form of disrespect and bullying! Even if he is gay, who are YOU to judge or expose. Expose YOU!!!

  • SummerBaby

    Why was this pic used for the story? ? I would be pissed if that was my son or nephew. ?

  • Messenger

    As long as we’re in the US, things like this will keep happening. You ask why did Sandra use a black kid? Have you forgotten where you are?

  • Psychic Lulu

    exactly

  • Harley

    Why does this blog constantly promote fukkery in the community?

    Belittling black people for hits.

    And so subject a child to this. You are a miserable pitiful being (not even human)

  • Kayke

    The conversation about gay and straight is what I’m talking about. The convo about private parts, modesty, and personal space, of course because at that early age it’s about recognizing the sexuality and protecting it, not exercising it …. biologically there is no difference between a gay man or straight man other than preference in partners …… that conversation shouldn’t be happening.

  • Meme

    So sad can’t bare to see the young ones being taken advantage of

  • mzzz. miami

    This is so wrong on so many levels. Why would you subject a kid to this type of mess. What if he’s not, but then again, who the F cares. I hope the father sue your evil malicious azz for using his sons photo. Why couldn’t you use a photo from someone that is openly gay. How about an adult for that fact. You despicable bytch!!!!!

  • Rhyme and Reason

    WOW, love it, so well said!!! I know gay men who told me they knew before they were age of 5 or that they assumed most men were gay because of all the men that hit on them as a preteen or teen.

    Maybe this is why so many men do other men while in prison, even with short sentences, IDK? But, your comments pretty much summed it up for the female single-parent male child, latch-key or the two-parent male child!

  • mzzz. miami

    Your statement is true. BUT to use a child’s photo without there permission to state your facts was evil and classless, even from you!!!!

  • C Mack

    Sandra got em mad! Falling for that click bait!

  • Mbailey

    IF you and your parents don’t have the right to discuss your orientation—-who is? If a parent notices that their 5-year-old boy likes girls clothing and toys; when are they expected to talk to him about these things? Not beat his azz, but talk to him about how the world in which he lives will perceive him? Parenting ain’t for puxxies and wimps.

  • hotntot95

    Smh…Sandra u shot off in this write up?

  • McKay

    Speaking on a matter that is happening to parents is fukkery? Interesting….

  • McKay

    Exactly!!

  • hotntot95

    Damn………….

  • 4RGSpot

    And why does the photo have to be of a black boy?

  • pika12

    Those of us who think it’s wrong need to take a stand. Enough is enough. This is wrong on so many levels. I will repost this comment but then never return to this website.

  • pika12

    Those of us who think it’s wrong need to take a stand. Enough is enough. This is wrong on so many levels. I will repost this comment but then never return to this website.

  • Reina1718

    Awww thats not nice at all

  • pika12

    Those of us who think it’s wrong need to take a stand. After reposting this comment I will never return to this website.

  • Reina1718

    Ur rite if that was a photo of my child gurrrrrrl!!!!!

  • pika12

    I agree. Those of us who think it’s wrong need to take a stand. After this comment I will not be returning to this website ever again, this goes beyond the usual negativity and involved a child. I’m done.

  • kiddo1

    I guess I’ll say this another way since Sandra won’t post my shit…I’m very Grateful that my sons luv Vagina…smh

  • OP2

    What about female-related ‘estrogen’ in so many products and foods “nowadays” that is being consumed by males? That said, it should be obvious what will happen when males consumed more and more female hormones or soy/estrogen on a daily basis (without even being aware of it)? Then, compound that with those being violated or molested in jails/prisons or by others which can confuse a person. Yet, minds are being reinforced via media and entertainment.

    So, what else is manipulating the hormonal imbalance, today, in males as well as females?

    The answers should point to what this is really all about and why is there a well-financed social engine pushing forth an agenda across the planet. Is it about pop. control since it is less likely that same reproductive anatomy can not procreate? Most likely, the number of children born will be limited to children already by others (aka adoption) and further reduced by those born from IVF treatment and surrogacy which can be costly per birth.

  • OP2

    The truth should not mean belittling? What is belittling is making the truth shameful.

  • Renee Bee

    With Gloria in the passenger seat!!!

  • Faithz

    Somebody had to turn that little fellow out.

  • Faithz

    Great Read.

  • WhooCares

    ninja man’s son…ninja man is the guy in the picture that redbottomkittenheels posted

  • Harley

    THAT AINT the truth tho…. none of it IS!!!!

  • Harley

    Posting a picture of a child and assuming he is gay IS!!!!!!!!!

  • Mbailey

    WHY not? So so that some pervert can turn your child out, and then they know all about it? Children live in the same world that adults do, and when teaching children about the privacy of their bodies and their sexuality—-for protection, they should also be taught that not just the opposite may have a perverse interest in them. Giving children half the answers in sex education is setting them up to get got. Arm your child fully so that they can recognize and fight off ALL predictors. Little boys and young men get touched and raped; which is why many of them dislike gheys. Little girls get touched and raped by lezbuns, which is why they should understand that not just men will be coming at them.

  • Mbailey

    SANDRA thought it was a good idea to try and out a child. So, that all of his little buddies can bully him, and we find the child hung in a closet somewhere. BRAVO on you, Sandy. What did a child ever do to you?

  • Mbailey

    SANDRA. She made sure this can be found on social media, where this child can be scarred for life.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Who is this child up too? Do we KNOW he’s gay? Are his parents ok with being on the blog though?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The photo is used for illustration purposes only. The blog owner makes no assumptions about the child’s sexuality in the post.

  • Malcom Flex

    What do you do with the gay black son? Well since the majority of black boys are raised by their mothers because Black males seem to have an allergic reaction to parenting their son’s – that sister better have her head together to raise that boy correctly.

  • Renee26

    A cartoon picture could have been used in this write up…that little disclaimer means NOTHING. This child is going to be teased because of that picture being used for this write up…This is Trifling Sandra

  • Malcom Flex

    This is your second comment saying you’re leaving- adios.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Heeey Sandra! ?

    I understand. However, it seems distasteful. I could understand if he’s a model and his image is just floating out there. Even then, still wouldn’t seem ok.

  • Meme

    Well why don’t you stick a pic up there of when you were a child for….. illustration purposes only of course and take that one off, mud sticks and its bloody hard to wash off, regardless of Whether he is,gay or not, this is not cool. I believe the damage has already been done because you have sown a seed in people’s mind, but come on take it down imagine it’s your favourite nephew or Godson… You wouldn’t like it!!!

  • Yen Chantress

    I have 2 adult sons. I, as a single, married or widowed mother would not have condoned them choosing to identify with being “Gay” as children. There is “Free Will”, and this should be allowed to swing in all perspectives. There is an agenda to make any opposition to a gay lifestyle, as if, it is some civil rights infringement. It is annoying! I do not have to agree with another’s sexual preference and I should not impede to make others uncomfortable if I do not agree. We are fortunate that this was not a concern for our sons as developing males.

  • Yen Chantress

    Ditto!

  • kiddo1

    This has nothing to do with the subject but one day at a stop light a teenage girl was crossing the street she was very pretty and shapely…so my daughter was like mom I like her pants everybody wearing those now can I get a pair, I was like sure…my son who is eleven going on twelve was like forget the pants look what’s in them! I was like boy watch your mouth and never disrespect a young lady like that, what about what’s in her head! but on the inside I was like “Yes Yes Yes he like fat asses too” lmao!

  • BorgQueen

    Yes this is not right.

  • KcoolMuziq

    It’s no more trifling then her lead story published that Prince died of AIDS! Which was a BOLD FACE LIE! I will NEVER forgive her for that, Unless she retracts the story which I seriously doubt,

  • Faithz

    Oh my That just hit me that is could be possible this little fellow is okay, and not Gay, oh my.

  • The Last Word

    “Researchers believe homosexuality arises from several environmental factors including the quality or lack of child-parent attachment or inadequate bonding between child and parent.”

    I can’t believe how terribly ignorant people are, a circumstance underscored by the paraphrase quoted above.

    The range of human experience is vast and i think its fairly obvious that some people engage in homosexual acts as a result of environment. But actual science makes it fairly obvious that most gay people are born gay, and that their sexuality is no more a choice than yours or mine.

  • The Last Word

    Being gay is not on the rise. There have always been gay people. What has happened is that people have been encouraged to come out of the closet.

    In other words, it’s not that these people weren’t gay, we just didn’t see them.

  • The Last Word

    This is a truly stupid comment. I’ve been to Rome and depictions of homosexual acts in ancient Roman art are pretty common. Given that there was no plastic in ancient Rome, the idea that plastics cause homosexuality is silly.

  • The Last Word

    This is how dumb people rationalize. First, your reference to “other psychiatric disorders” suggests that homosexuality is a disorder, a conclusion at odds with DSM-IV. Second, correlation does not mean causation, and the reason why gay people may have a marginally greater risk for psychiatric disorders is because of the stresses caused by prejudice, bullying, etc. Being black is correlated with a marginally greater risk for psychiatric disorders, but we don’t say that being black causes one to be crazy.

    I mean, why even post such a stupid article?

  • The Last Word

    Yet you assert that the so-called increase in homosexuality results from both parents working or single mothers raising sons. First, there isn’t any increase, we’re just seeing what has always been hidden, sort of like there hsdnt been any increase in police beating black folks, we’re just seeing it now because of cell phone cameras. Second, you aren’t in those households — how do YOU know what goes on behind THOSE doors? And if you dont, why make such an asinine conclusion?

  • The Last Word

    At least one other person has opened a book.

  • Tiffany Miller

    Now you know… savage

  • Gemini

    Please note: The video screen grabs used in this post are for illustrative purposes only. The blog owner makes no assumptions about the boy in the photos.

    ??????????

  • Brigid Murphy

    I usually read this for the gossip but saw this item. It is dangerous to talk about something you don’t know a thing about. This is full of lies and bad information. I hope parents do not believe this. Whoever writes this column is bad at their job.

  • Maxima

    Exactly, the soy is in everything and is soy crops are subsidized by the U.S. Agriculture Dept. Furthermore, only the elite will breed because once robotics and artificial intelligence takes hold, there will be no work.

  • Maxima

    Sandra, who you mad at that you put this boy’s picture up here? his parents, grandparents, aunts or uncles?

  • Meme

    Yes I appreciate it is apparent that some people are born gay, however, there are some who are steered into that direction but abuse as a child

  • pika12

    If you had read the whole comment you’d have known that I said I would be leaving after reposting my comment. BTW, I am replying through Disqus, not Rose’s website. Adios!

  • Kayke

    Because things like that …. where a child likes things that’s are allegedly for girls, so he’s gonna be gay and it’s time to talk, at five yrs old, about his potential gayness. Or let the child live through his phases and as a parent be open to the discussion not try to “beat him to the punch”. As long as you’re not a parent that says homophobic slurs while your 12 yr old daughter whose never had a boy crush, doesn’t wear dresses, and only wear her hair in snatchbacks, listens on….. just in case. We’re not talking about “the s3x talk” (the no one should touch you there) talk …… we’re talking about something 96.2% of the population doesn’t relate to ….. trying to foresee your child preference in partners based on liking the color pink can be detrimental…. at best it’s advertisement.

  • Look@m3

    I was just thinking the same thing…..this is ridiculous to do something like this!

  • atll9979

    The person who’s blog this is……her’e the kicker…..is gay……are you brigid?

  • Mbailey

    CHILDREN need to know about their world, so that they can make better decisions and to arm themselves with knowledge while out in the world. It makes no sense to tell children about predators out here, but leave out the fact that both men and women, boys and girls can be those predators.

    Also, if a child is showing signs that they don’t like the skin they are in; you would be a fool not to discuss with them why they are “different.” Children need parents and guidance, not friends and homeboys. Parenting is not for fools.

  • Mbailey

    CHILDREN need to know about their world, so that they can make better decisions and to arm themselves with knowledge while out in the world. It makes no sense to tell children about predators out here, but leave out the fact that both men and women, boys and girls can be those predators.

    Also, if a child is showing signs that they don’t like the skin they are in; you would be a fool not to discuss with them why they are “different.” Children need parents and guidance, not friends and homeboys. Parenting is not for fools.

  • Mbailey

    YOURS is a stupid comment, because although there have always been homosexuals, there is scientific proof and data that the over-abundance of plastics polluting the earth is destructive to all living things—including the secksuall expression and development of animals and people. Read a book.

  • EMILY POST

    wow…

  • OP2

    I agree, except only elite will breed. Breeding is as simple as any animal, insect or human boppin bodies and pushing out babies. Some of the most illiterate, uneducated and struggling poorest
    have been able to simply breed since the beginning of time.

    Robots will never stop folks from breeding regardless of their socioeconomic background. Western society po’ folks are less likely to breed irresponsible if they know that there will no longer be gov’t benefits (except for disability and medicare) if they choose to push out a baby that they can’t afford to house, clothe, feed or provide health insurance for. -that is the only way because a child will just make a poor person’s life even harder. ijs

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You didn’t complain when I put up the picture of a black boy with a book in my post about boys who can’t read.

  • FallenOne

    Petty betty?

  • Ridajean

    No one noticed that this is one of Dwyane Wade’s sons? Wow! Not right to use his pic. SMH!

  • Patricia

    ok but you forgot to point out he looks just like his dad and sits like him, too. in his case, hes gay like daddy who also desses in tight pants, continually cosses his legs, and carries man-purses.

  • Storm’s Rage!

    lol. So should the mother ask her husband and/or boyfriend if he’s gay then? lol

  • Storm’s Rage!

    Isnt Sandra gay?

  • Storm’s Rage!

    Thanks for verifying the boy in the pic,bc I was wondering who he is.