1. Domestic Abuse

domestic abuse

This one is self-explanatory. If your wife is regularly beating your azz like you stole something, you are officially emasculated. If she’s regularly throwing hands, it’s time to leave the relationship. Things will only get worse.

Yes, men are victims of domestic abuse, too. There is even a domestic abuse hotline set up for men to speak to advocates about suffering abuse at the hands of women.

That hotline number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Someone is available to talk 24/7, 365 days a year. You don’t have to suffer alone.

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  • Ms Thang

    He always looks like he’s tired of her

  • Noirluv45

    5. Hold my purse: Just say no.
    4. Flirting with his friends: That’s one bold woman (or man).
    3. Belittling him in public: That’s just wrong and that goes for belittling anyone in public, including children. I see that a lot, and it makes me sad because the parent kills that child’s spirit.
    2. Be a man: If you have to tell him to “Be a man,” then maybe he’s not the one for you.
    1. Domestic violence: DEAL BREAKER!

    I’m surprised a 6th one isn’t there: Asking him to go to the store to purchase her feminine hygiene products. I know a lot of women who do that and some of their men cringe.

  • JV

    If you can’t hold a purse for a woman — your woman — you pretty much emasculated yourself. Could there be a more simple task? I don’t disagree with the other four.

  • Noirluv45

    Agree. I think holding her purse isn’t a big deal, but if he doesn’t want to, he can say no.

  • JV

    Like if you’re afraid you look gay or something because you’re holding a purse when it’s obvious you’re holding it for your wife/girlfriend then you’re probably questionable to begin with.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Domestic abuse is never funny but dam it I hollered at that pic of that white woman about to punch that black man!!! And they say black women are abusive and violent ?

  • Noirluv45

    Agreed.

  • You Could Never

    Ah, yes, the old “hold my purse for a second” trick. This is one of the most obvious tricks women use to symbolically castrate men in public.

    The simple solution to this problem is for men to simply say “no” when their women hold out their purses. Once you take that purse, there is no going back.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Aint you a HUGE Bron fan? Didnt you run some pics of him holding Savannah purse?

  • You Could Never

    Yes, men are victims of domestic abuse, too. There is even a domestic abuse hotline set up for men to speak to advocates about suffering abuse at the hands of women.

    That hotline number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Someone is available to talk 24/7, 365 days a year. You don’t have to suffer alone.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    if you dont get help at Charter…please…get help somewhere

  • You Could Never

    Well. My daddy got rest his soul didnt. I asked him did it bother him. “Jesus gave me two wives, two daughters, and a niece I helped raise. I been buying pads since 1966. Some things you just get used to”

  • Noirluv45

    Lol! Right on, daddy!

  • Ms..N

    Hell he should be happy she’s asking for feminine products it could be alot worse.Lol

  • Wreckognize Game

    6. He looks like he fell for the banana in the tailpipe trick like Kanye. ???. No more smiling Bih

  • You Could Never

    He used to say I think its safe to say they know these arent for me. They see me come in here with yall all the time lmao.

  • brownisback

    Sorry about your dad! A few days ago I was thinkin about a story you told me about him and your mom and to this day it makes me chuckle because of the way you described it.

  • sunni_daze

    Amber is doing her job she’s a paid agent of TPTB

  • You Could Never

    Awe thanks.

  • Justlooknout

    look at dude up top emasculating him…he saying what kind of Hawaiian luau outfit is that.https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/ce27fd7bcb945487d5966679eadfdc5fca03dc1f2f67397c39a779b7b0871aca.jpg

  • Dr. P

    My husband holds my purse when needed. He’s a COL in the Army, ain’t no punk in him.

  • Noirluv45

    Cracking the heck up! For real!

  • Noirluv45

    How long ago did your daddy pass?

  • Karen Brady

    The headline. And then the first pic. smh.

  • Karen Brady

    TBTB?

  • Noirluv45

    That’s a perfect summation. Lol! What a great attitude he had. ?

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    what did she do to him (she got him participating in the slut stroll in that top pic?) https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/9eb2b76e506e38d5072dd1cf3ad262774eb5ffcb7856de93eefa3205f33fbcb1.gif

  • Tea??

    lol I do believe their is an emasculation of the black man in the media but are we supposed to forget busta rhymes & Andre 3000 was wearing feminine clothing back in the 90s? Only difference is those men could actually rap these new dudes can’t do they rely on these publicity stunts

  • Noirluv45

    “This reminds me of the time Amber’s ex Kanye West said he couldn’t have sex with his wife Kim Kardashian until he showered 30 times to wash the stench of Amber off.” I laughed at this because obviously he liked her “stench” since he kept going back.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i was finna say, my deddy would pimp through cvs (people’s, back then) and bring that big purple box of kotex back to the house…. what the prollem is? ROFL!!!!!!!!!!

  • Noirluv45

    In the 80’s, many musicians, Black and White, had that androgynous thing going on. They wore make up and had their hair laid like a woman’s. Morris Day had his hair whipped with his lipstick on. Prince and a lot of White rock stars. That was the look back then. I don’t remember too much of the 90’s because I stopped listening to a lot of music back then.

  • sunni_daze

    The people that really run the hip hop and hollyweird.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Ms.Vanilla

    There is nothing wrong with asking your man to hold your purse. If he refuses to then he has a low reflection of himself. He has to know who he is and if my man refused to hold my purse I’d think he was insecure and therefore a turn off…

  • Reina1718

    Amber looks disgusting in that suit & slippers

  • Noirluv45

    I remember that big ole purple Kotex box. Lawd. ???

  • Ryan

    These were never men. Just weak fools with temporary money that “skrong” women can manipulate.

  • SDot

    Amber is wrinkling…she looks so old. 21 looks like her son! it’s kind of gross.

    Call her the female R Kelly

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    my dad gives no f’s about MOST stuff, so a box of pads was not about to make him question himself, LOL!!!!!

  • Ni Ni

    Is they participating in the circus? All three of them look turrible.

  • Noirluv45

    Right. A man has to be confident in himself to not have an issue with that.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Phillybruh

    So when my father would cook, my mother was emasculating him?

  • Ms.Vanilla

    OOOH…No you didn’t with “skrong”…lol

  • Tea??

    True

  • You Could Never

    Feb of this year. our b’days were hard. He never forgot our birthday and still sent your behind a kiddie card with a $1 for every year you were. Big sis bday was 2/22, mine was 5/9 and our cuz that was raised with us hers was 5/30. But on Father’s Day our uncle sent us $200 Visa gc and told us go eat at the Italian rest. he liked and be happy. My oldest sis was like dad wouldn’t want us to go spend no damn $200 on freaking FOOD. So we went to Total Wines instead and got Penn Station and divided up the rest lmao.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Anytime I see a man in the store buying feminine products I say to myself..” Now that’s a good man”

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    have you seen old episodes of soul train? those guys were wearing tie-waist shirts, paisley pants, every color of the rainbow… hail, look like something they would have bought from rainbow, LMAO!!!!!
    Jimi Hendrix was wearing puffy shirts, scarves, tight hip huggers, all that flair. these people are musicians…. creative souls if you will… they not gonna dress 9-5 like they work at the bank, ROFL!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    get out mine, Noir!!!!

    LOL!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I give this Fakeationship another two months before he is out…Savage is young and probably getting bored with her already. His ass probably scared to breakup with her right now. I wish she would have just remained silent these past few years instead of Tyreseing every damn thing. Her rapper smashing game is getting super old like her face.

  • Renee26

    Scottie was carrying Larsa purse in the post yesterday…. and her hands weren’t even full ?

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    “Once you take that purse, there is no going back.”

    Someone should explained that to EJ Johnson, Laverne Cox, and Bruce Jenner.

  • MsChocCookie

    Y’all know white people don’t age well. Amber Hoe, looks like his Momma…I’m just sayng. If she ain’t white, she’s close enough to it, to affect that good melon, making her look like ,an old hag…..On the flip side, he’s young and ugly, but when he’s finish with her old ares, she’s going to be just that, an old washed up, stripper hooker, begging for crumbs fish pot! He’s doing what any young man would do, at his age. It’s called hit it, play with it, flip it, slit it, spit it, and run. It’s his metal ” I ucked an older woman” Just ask Auntie Viv, about it, she can explain it quite well from being with 50 Cent. IMJ……

  • klwbaby

    He did say that amber has changed him. For instance, she told him he should drink water…..??.

  • Renee26

    My ex wanted to buy mine… he said it made him feel manly and supportive of his woman… he was extremely masculine

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    right, who knew????

    i say do what works for YOUR house. my lil sis rarely cooks because her big burly husband loves to cook and can actually cook his azz off. she makes a helluva lasagna, but you can’t eat that everyday, Lol!

  • Renee26

    Yes I recall my daddy having them on husband grocery list too

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Sandra, this is one of your best articles, to date! Good advice and funny as h311! I laughed so hard, I had to shut my office door! ?

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    Scottie knows what he’s doing…. if Larsa is like me (never have any cash on me) it’s my purse, but HIS money is in there, LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • imright

    Amber is a handler and shes got her demon claws sunk deep in to my guy 21 !!! ?

  • klwbaby

    I remember those “hair metal” groups. They looked more feminine then some of the actual female artists.

  • imright

    Amber looks like she smells like mildew.

  • kennedy220

    im just trying to figure out how the purse thing works when it was originally invented for both to use to carry coins….when did it transition to being for women only and in what country did it start? my guess is america

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    ? In the words of Millie Jackson: “I had to say it!”

  • dontgetblocked

    She and Black Chyna are just slores with no plans of slowing down anytime soon.

  • imright

    #5 ????

  • ShadesofEMPRESS

    Black Chyna outfit is cute.

  • Karen Brady

    and bathe or brush his teeth or something basic.. I can’t remember. Better yet I choose not to remember.

  • Faithz

    Slores who get a pay check just by getting
    out in into beds, Daily.

  • Faithz

    Who dress them, Amber walking around looking
    Like Little red Riding Hood, Goodness.

  • Dahl

    #6: Dressing your man in your toddler son’s clothes. He looks ridiculous. And it’s time for another Botox or Restylne re-up, maybe even a full facelift, cuz those Droopy Dog jowls are not the business…

  • klwbaby

    ??

  • http://ivyleaguelove.tumblr.com/ Applebootay

    Another trick and spin……that ninja came Emasculated….she didn’t have to do NATHAN….

  • http://ivyleaguelove.tumblr.com/ Applebootay

    {giggles at: fish pot}

  • yup yup

    Especially at the amusement park. It’s me, my husband and our two kids. If I hop on a ride with the kids, I ask him to hold my purse. Not a big deal at all.

  • http://ivyleaguelove.tumblr.com/ Applebootay

    In SR’s world…

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Don’t blame yourself. Just correct the behavior.

  • Desiree Edwards

    Seeing this made me think of Keke Wyatt! LOLOL excellent Sandra

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Good catch! Now you know why he was holding it. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    After reading this post, you can say to yourself, “Now that’s a whipped man.” ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Was cooking mentioned in this post?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I’ve been in a lot of drugstores, and I’ve never seen a man purchasing feminine hygiene products. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Yes, it is a violation of the man code. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Men were confident back then. They weren’t under pressure to be gay like they are now.

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    well Mister holds my purse when we go shopping and on the rare occasion i actually use the public facilities (i usually come out and there’s some woman/women flirting with him talking bout ‘nice purse’ and showing all their teeth). anyway, his broad shouldered, full bearded self is not likely to be mistaken for anything other than store security for being posted-up outside the fitting rooms or ladies room, Lol!)

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    This post is not to shame women, it’s to enlighten women and to provide guidance on how women are emasculating your men. Holding your purse does not mean your man is emasculated. You have to do all of the things on the list for him to be officially emasculated.

  • Vonn

    A woman can only do what a man allows. A remember Ray J saying that kim had recurrent BV…but she was talking about amber. OK

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Nuh uh Sandra!!!!

  • Ms.Vanilla

    They usually do it in the grocery stores

  • Anunnaki

    U can take the purse sceniro away, hell men coming out the house now with heels and long maxie dresses, and women coming out the house with a phone and keys in their hand, we are slowly moving into gender reversal. In 20 yrs, women will be known as men, a men as woman, and the DL gays government are gonna write it into law….smgdh…

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    By saying “she’s a handler” do think she’s employed by the powers that be?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Believe me, no man wants to.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    I hope my new husband doesn’t read this article ?

  • Gamer?? Chick

    TH

  • Gamer?? Chick

    Hmmm maybe it’s Ray. Do you remember when L&HH started and Princess posted a pic of BV meds from Tierra’s bag that was left at his house.

  • Saharabutnotdry

    You haven’t been to the store near me ?

  • KA

    I don’t know if I necessarily get that she’s emasculated him, but he looks miserable.

  • Genia W-m

    Those women have been doing this since they were kids. It’s ALL they know. Rose was stripping at 15. Who knows what she was doing before that. I never heard any talk of her father so there are some serious daddy issues there too. BC said she’s been taking care of herself since she was a teen too. Look at her mother. I’m sure that girl had to grow up real quick. They’ve both probably had so many sex partners until they lost count. Looking at how BC’s mom looks I have no doubt she and Rose will look that way to their kids too.

  • AnastasYah

    She is a whitewoman because her dad is white.

  • Genia W-m

    He’s a grown man. What did he wear before her? This era is trying so very hard to blur the lines between men and women because many of them or their children fall into the LGBTQ community. I saw some mothers cheering last week after the announcement of some children’s clothes no longer having ‘boy or girl’ labels. How is that fair to everybody? There’s no need to do that and still be accepted. If I had a child who was part of the LGBTQ community I wouldn’t try to rescind or change anything about gender clothing just to fit in when shopping. WTH?! We would still find what we were looking for whether in the men’s or women’s sections.
    Now some designers are making rompers and lace shorts for men. No man in my life will be wearing any of that nonsense.

  • Genia W-m

    Seems some agenda is forcing it. As long as a person is happy being themselves I don’t care but don’t try to force it on everyone else.

  • Darkandlovely617?

    ??

    Congratulations doll!
    Enjoy him and your new chapter together ??

  • It’s a matter of Principle

    Have Mercy.

  • Vonn

    I don’t watch that show. There’s no telling what Ray J is spreading, either way, Kim has no room to talk.

  • http://www.beautyisland.weebly.com Indigo

    Only in my head…. 4 now.. jk

  • Juliaquan C Spain

    BOY RUN…

  • Jay

    There is something strange going on here. A picture can tell a thousand stories.

  • Meme

    Reminds me of the time my sister said she bumped into my nephew in tesco she looked in his trolly all she saw was tinned tomatoes and sanitary towels she was definitely heartbroken that he was under thumb. His wide is older and she definitely wears the trousers

  • Quitedeliteful

    Lots of young guys like these clown clothes. I just don’t get it…

  • NicoleZee

    I remember. He must have a strain of bacteria that is hard to get rid of or something. Gross. I don’t even know why condoms are still on the market since most men don’t wear them.

  • Khaliah

    This could be his humiliation ritual for the Illuminati. He does have on a black and white duality outfit

  • NicoleZee

    Well, being with a younger man is the equivalent of having a child. Not for me. No woman in her “right” mind wants to raise a grown boy, especially if she already has children to raise. Been there, done that, never again!

  • MRiGOThim

    some women are just aggressive & some men are meek/timid…some niggaz just dress crazy than a mfkr out here 😛

  • Tee E

    “Romphims” Can you imagine? Aw lawd!!!

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Target has an entire line for lgbt kids called Pride. Shyt pissed me off??https://www.target.com/c/pride-ways-to-shop/-/N-5589f

  • Queen B

    Doesn’t mean Kim is nasty….BV can b triggered by almost anything

  • Allergic2dumbstuff

    If I didn’t see the pics, this post could’ve been about Michael Jarmar and Keke. Personally, I could never raise a man boi. I’d rather push gramps in a wheelchair than a boi in a stroller.

  • Queen B

    I didn’t mean to laugh at the last one lol but my man doesn’t mind holding my purse sometimes i think it shows security within himself and he’s being a gentleman ? I like it!!

  • Chaseboogie The Prince

    This should be ‘The 5 Reasons Men ALLOW Women To Emasculate Them’

    1. In a PR Contract and it ain’t up for 3 more months.
    2. She let me smash and I thought I was cool.
    3. No other girl wanted me, so I took what I could get.
    4. My records weren’t selling and I needed to get into Sandra’s blog for publicity.
    5. I’m just a bust up, tore up, that lucked up, but then realized I had fuqqed up.

  • Shanese

    21 savage looks like a demon in human form. Amber needs to stop the bs and be careful of who she brings around her son so he doesn’t start getting confused

  • Shine Bright

    ???

  • Vonn

    It doesn’t matter. She wanted kanye to take a bunch of showers after being with Amber when she had/has a medical condition that comes with smelly vaginal discharge.

  • VM

    Cues Anna Nicole Smith.

  • chris

    Flirting with my friends??

    Yall could have her ? she public goods at that point.

  • Queen B

    But her reasons for wanting him shower was completely than “ph imbalances” which is sometimes beyond a woman’s control. Amber has control over the penises she has lol

  • INDUSTRY GURU

    I can find no reason a woman should ask a man to hold her purse, ever.

    Put in on the hood of the car, lay it in the seat, ….if you left it in the house and Im the last one out, ..go back in and get it…Im mean thats what I would do if it was my wallet.

    dont even try it, HOLD YA OWN PURSE

    and yes , I open cars doors and building doors, and always walk on the outside of woman in public, closest to the street.

  • INDUSTRY GURU

    lol

  • INDUSTRY GURU

    Why can you hold your own purse, lol or out it down…., Ill keep an eye on it…..

  • INDUSTRY GURU

    You should be carrying your own purse when shopping, and take it with you into the rest room.
    Its more about respecting your man enough to NOT ask him to hold your purse.

  • Vonn

    I get it. Kim had a line of penises before kanye, she had control over that. Unless he boned kim the same day as Amber, what good does all of those showers do?

  • Saharabutnotdry

    Thank you love !

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    mmm-Ihmmm… I see you… ROFL!!!!!
    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OFtMVY-uD-0

  • Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    “hold” not carry, Sir! What’s wrong with that?