Comedian D.L. Hughley revealed he sired a secret lovechild who was killed by his mistress’ boyfriend years ago. Hughley shared how he revealed his secret son to his wife of 31 years, LaDonna Hughley.

During a guest appearance on Angela Yee‘s Lip Service Podcast, the Soul Plane star admitted he sired a baby boy early in his career.

He said he accepted responsibility for the boy and made child support payments, but the toddler died after his lover’s boyfriend shook the tot too hard.

“I had knocked this chick up and had the baby and the baby got killed by her boyfriend,” he said. “It was a horrible, horrible experience. I had this baby that I’m paying for. I’m a boy, I was scared, I was married. I was just starting out my career.”

Hughley continued: “I get a call from my boy and he says, ‘Your son is in the hospital’. So, I go to the hospital and this boy was laying on the bed. Apparently, her boyfriend had shaken him and damaged his brain.”

Hughley said he kept the baby and his death a secret from his wife for several years, but when he finally opened up to her about the tragedy, he was surprised by her reaction.

“Finally, one day I tell my wife and you know what she said to me? ‘I wish you would have told me this and we could’ve went through this together’.”

The actor and his wife share three grown children together — daughters Ryan Nicole and Tyler Whitney, and son Kyle.

Photo by Mark Mainz/Getty Images for NAACP




  • http://yeuphonic.com @yeuphonic

    1. Mr “the only black women I can tolerate are my wife and daughter because the rest have attitudes” Hughley is a dog who can’t even say “my son” when describing seeing his corpse. Why would his boy call to tell him where his son was and why not name the baby killer?
    His wife is either pure of heart or beaten down long suffering and too embarrassed to leave her children’s provider.

  • JRock

    Sorry for the loss of the child.

    But DL need to sit down forever. He is king of “I’m always right.” “I know everthing.” “I’m holier than everyone else”.

    I knew this dude was a hypocrite.

    RIP little angel and lamb of God.

  • Guess Who

    …DAMN

  • dontgetblocked

    This man always has and always will DISGUST me!

  • KcoolMuziq

    DL Hughley(whom I worked with on ‘The Comedy Get Down’ over a year and a half ago) was the nicest comedian(they usually aren’t that nice in person) I ever met. He was so friendly. It was the last time I saw Charlie Murphy.

  • Ebony Starr

    “It was a horrible, horrible experience. I had this baby that I’m paying for.
    __________________________________
    So what was the horrible part?!! He describes the baby like a thing, not a person. He seemed so detached from the situation!! He really could have kept that between himself and his wife.

  • Django the God

    He switched up a little bit and got all political.

  • JRock

    He still thinks he knows everything and that is an annoying personality trait especially when he doesn’t know everything.

  • Django the God

    I don’t know if he was drunk when he told her the first time, but to bring it back up again…

  • TheOwley

    What a sad story this is. It’s a parent’s worse nightmare when the new boyfriend kills your cubs. This child would have been in his mid 20’s now. His only son has Asperger. I’m sure he’ll never stop imagining what could have been.

  • imright

    sounds like neither DL or his wife GAF about the baby.

  • TheOwley

    I saw that too, so strange. Calling him “this boy, this baby” “baby I’m paying for” is perhaps his way of coping with the loss.

  • unknown user

    “The boy” “This boy” “A baby” not once did he say “My son” bye D.L. That was ugly

  • NeverSurprised

    Agree 100%

  • SumthinSweeter

    he should have never told this story the way he is telling it. the boy? this boy? the kid?

    no… your son.

  • NeverSurprised

    And the mother was simply “this chick.” He sounds cold-hearted.

  • TheOwley

    Many here don’t seem to like him much. I know him by his comedy, not much outside of that.

  • LithiumHaitianFlower

    There’s trash, right beneath trash there’s D.L. Hughley smh. Look how this scum speak of a human life smh…his BLOOD

  • LithiumHaitianFlower

    D.L been vile and nasty towards women

  • :Lady M

    Did DL say that the mistresses boyfriend was new? Seems like it was a guy she cheated on with DL and he was jealous.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    This could have stayed between him and his wife

  • GuestSTAR

    Swear I read about this yesterday and it didn’t sound right to me. I was actually wondering if this is the ‘fake news’ you hear about so much, but it’s TRUE, he really did say this sht, SMH.

  • JRock

    The reason people bring up “REAL” or “FABRICATED” things about their personal lives is for money. If you’ve got some type of show via radio, tv, cable etc. or a book and the ratings are down or the sales are down or concert tickets aren’t selling you dig into your shit pile (everybody has some shit) and you find what will most likely achieve your goal of getting your money by bringing attention to yourself.

    I.E. “talking through her teeth” and calling it acting Gabrielle Union said she had 8 or 9 miscarriages. Don’t you remember how many? I don’t believe it but she’s trying to sell books. And who exposes their husband as bisexual or gay when he has young impressionable sons and a nephew he is raising. I don’t care how open you claim to be with your marriage there are some things kids don’t need to know about their parent’s NASTY sexual proclivities.

    And Jay-Z’s cheating ass must feel like a complete bitch these days. His wife won’t let him go anywhere alone or without being attached to her hip. Such as the embers he flamed by cheating all these years. Also her dad Mattie did put them on blast saying they would throw a divorce rumor out there to increase ticket sales. That’s just sick in the head kind of shit from the pile.

    My long-winded point is DL is bringing this up now after all these years for some sort of financial gain…fading career…no one is coming for him, etc.

  • TheOwley

    Could be the case.

  • NeverSurprised

    My heart breaks for this poor, dearly departed child. A cold-hearted father who clearly had not one ounce of love for his offspring, and a mother who negligently allowed another man to enter her life and harm her child. Poor baby didn’t have a chance for a good life.

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    The way he talks about the young lady and the toddler son is concerning to me

  • TheOwley

    I love your cynicism. Celebs have long learned that publicity good or bad achieves the same thing, your name is brought up from the back burner.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    The impersonal way in which he refers to his own child bothers me. But, I know a woman that refers to her son as “the boy” and “the child”. I don’t know if it is supposed to be cute but it sounds ignorant af to me.

  • Noirluv45

    “The boy” instead of “My son.” ? It’s like he disconnected himself.

  • shun king

    wouldnt she have to check with dwayde before she brought that up with him having kids and all that was outrageous for her to say..

  • shun king

    them folks wanting fame are some cold hearted people

  • Blaque Mahogany

    The fact that he was keeping him a secret makes me wonder how connected he was to him in the first place. After all, he said he was paying child support, he didn’t say he was involved in his life.

  • 100milesperhour

    Bastid. Dumped that in her lap like that. Wife showed a lot more compassion for him than he did her. …she had to process infidelity, a baby & baby’s sacrifice, I mean death in 1 swoop. He beat his chest sharing this story. Poor wife.

  • Breez’n Thru

    Damn that’s terrible…

  • Noirluv45

    That’s right. He sure sounds like he wasn’t. Very detached.

  • Lorenzo Chaps

    Take it to the grave. The way handled some things along the way isn’t worth sharing, so take it to the grave. We didn’t need to know this tragic bit of information.

  • JRock

    Yup, anyway they can get publicity good or bad is their goal.

  • http://ebonynsweet.com Ebony N’ Sweet

    Yea he shared a bit too much information.

  • JRock

    Yup, I’m sure she discussed it with Dwade and his gay ass but anyway they can get publicity good or bad they go for it. People like that take a “to hell with the kids” attitude. Let them get messed up in the head. Hell, we got money to pay for a life time of therapy for the screwed up kids. Just makes me sick.

    DL a piece of shit too. No love for the baby that he just called the “boy” and the mother he called “some chick I knocked up”. Karma is a mutha downlow DL.

  • Torae

    He didn’t care enough for that child because if he did he would act like he couldn’t go on with life and his wife would notice.

  • Kimberly King

    “This baby that I’m paying for.”

    Men are animals.

  • NicoleZee

    They posted this story last week on Bossip. D.L. is an idiot, so is his wife, and so is the deceased child’s mother. No one looked out for that precious baby so the sicko boyfriend killed him. Sick of these lowlife men and women making kids and then they abandon them or don’t even bother protecting them. What kind of mother brings men around her children unsupervised??? Sick POS! RIP to that little fellow.

    For the stupid ass parents, here is a tip because I’m a mum too: If you allow friends or family to come over your house or you take your child to visit people, do not leave anyone alone with your damn child. Always supervise others around your baby. No one has ever been alone with my son except my mom, point, blank, period.

  • i troll it like i see it

    I guess he wants a gold medal for paying support and bringing this up to the public but what if he was honest from the start and played an active role in the child’s life, and not just child support payments. Perhaps he would be here.

  • MISSMEWITDATBULL

    More like his way of deflecting accountability.

  • Coco

    Right! I was expecting him to say, I should have been there to protect my kid. But it’s all about him!

  • i troll it like i see it

    I have never been a DL Hughley fan for this very reason, he has always come across mean spirited and cruel. Not funny, just evil. I remember when he hosted that comedy show on BET years ago, he was always very cold hearted with his comedy, would just viciously insult the shat out of folks with barely any punchline. It does not shock me that he wouldn’t have a genuine connection to his own blood. He was probably relieved when the little boy was murdered. No more child support or risk of ruining his marriage.

  • Sarah7

    Why wouldn’t she stand by him. There was no love child to contend with.

  • NicoleZee

    That’s what many men do darling. They keep their other kids a secret and they only pay child support to avoid jail. If it were left up to them, they would not pay or do anything for their children. No child should be a secret. If that’s the case, then these men don’t deserve to be in the child’s life. If the child has a good mother, let the mother raise him and hopefully the child will never meet the sick POS that he has for a father. Sickening. Children are innocent. How someone can be so evil to not want to be in their child’s life or to not even acknowledge their own child is beyond me. God will deal with them. Honestly, God is good….all the time, because if I had to deal with my son’s father and his family, I’d be sitting on death row for multiple murders waiting on my needle! Praise God!

  • Coco

    He probably saw him as a financial burden because he mentioned having to pay for him and just stress to hide from him from the wife.

  • NicoleZee

    Most men are evil, pathetic creatures. Why God wasted his time on some people is beyond me. Men like D.L. shouldn’t breathe. Any man who would abandon his own child is no better than some sick child abuser or molester. Send them all to the table for the needle or to the electrocution chair if you ask me!

  • tintin

    Do y’all think the side thot cried more for losing her child or losing that support check?

  • NicoleZee

    Spend one day in child support court and you will see so many sicko evil men that want nothing to do with their children. They only pay up to keep from being put in prison.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I definitely think that people are too trusting/indifferent when it comes to their children. I refuse to even board my dog, but these people leave their children in the care of people they don’t know at all or barely know. And then as a community we are encouraged to adopt this “their child, their business” attitude. There have been plenty of instances where a child could have benefited (literally been saved) from having an adult stepping in on their behalf.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    donkey nigga. his whole way of telling this story is tragic; idiot.

  • NicoleZee

    The check of course. If she loved her child, she NEVER would have put that precious little boy in harm’s way. These dumb sick women know these lowlife men will eventually harm their kids. Most men don’t even want to be bothered with their own children, so why would any woman think a man will love being around a child that’s not even his??? The f*ck?? Dumb bitches!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    And at that point, what could his wife really say? The affair had ended and the child was dead. It wasn’t like she had to deal with integrating the child into their marriage. The more I think about this, the more he comes across as extremely selfish. What was the point of telling her? To ease his guilt? He should have kept this entirely to himself.

    P.S. He’s not funny to me. Like 1 in every 37 jokes are funny… a little bit.

  • i troll it like i see it

    And this is why I don’t ride behind his fake activism BS, this man has long since been a prick.

  • SaltineCrackers

    Is it really too much to ask to be disrespected privately?

    Ugh! I think these husbands get off on seeing just how far they can go. Like, we NEVER needed to know about this. Ever.

  • hottlanta

    Sometimes the wife don’t find about the other kids until he is dead and they show up at the funeral. I remember when I got my first job and my coworker lost her husband. Everyone came back to work Monday was talking about the funeral. The wife found out he had 5 outside kids he had during the duration of the marriage and the kids were the same age as her kids. One of my friends sister was getting married going to a destination wedding. Folks were already there on the island waiting on them. They couldn’t make it because they stopped him at the airport because he didn’t pay child support. She didn’t know he had kids. Your secret will come out sooner or later.

  • Kimberly King

    Agreed. That’s part of the reason why I don’t have any kids right now.. Plus I prefer to be married before having kids. I just couldn’t imagine not protecting and raising a child I helped create. Men need to do better. And so do some of these women out here.

  • NicoleZee

    Exactly. People just don’t care. I know that being a parent is stressful, especially when you are doing it on your own, I live that everyday, but I’m not leaving my son alone with some sicko who will harm him. If God chose to bless me with a child, I have the ultimate responsibility to protect my son, which means I have to make sacrifices. I have dated as a parent just like anyone else, but there will be a very cold day in hell before I ever put my child in harm’s way. You never know what someone is capable of, that’s why I only trust my mom. I’ve known her my whole life and she did her best raising me and my brother and she loves my son, considers him her baby half the time :)! Hell, no one even volunteers to watch my baby, he’s very hardheaded but adorable as ever, but he’s mine :)! I will dismember the body and decapitate the head of anyone that tries to harm him!!!!

  • i troll it like i see it

    That is so sad and look at what ends up happening to some of these fatherless children, beaten, molested, murdered, or they grow up lacking some of the fundamentals in life because they needed a real dad not somebody just signing checks. And DL seems real proud of himself for signing those checks but what about what really mattered the most, his presence.

  • Kimberly King

    And black women for the love of GAWD, stop letting these random ass ninjas you’re riding on touch your kids. I will kill a ninja if he E V E R decided to touch or discipline my child. I’m so tired of seeing CHILDREN get killed by some chick’s boyfriend. Pathetic asses. If a woman’s “boyfriend” kills her child, both deserve life in prison. I never understand why some women just allow any ninja to come around their kids. Ugh

  • TheOwley

    One way of looking at it, no accountability by not stepping up to be a father and not sneak behind his wife, even though he paid child support.

  • NicoleZee

    Exactly. I think men find it easy to abandon women and children because they figure the mom will just raise the baby and keep him safe. Nope! Half the time these sicko women are so busy chasing money and/or dick that they don’t give two shits about their kids either. So in many cases, children end up with two sicko psycho parents who don’t care about their well being or what happens to them. All of these children in orphanages and foster care is sad, what’s even sadder are the children in the cemetery that didn’t get to finish their life. Sad.

  • Kimberly King

    Yep, my aunt didn’t find out she had two younger sisters until her pops funeral a few years back. Unfortunately, this is very common.

    Also, my grandfather who lives in GA had a son outside of his marriage who lived right up the street from them. My granny divorced his ass too. lol

  • Kimberly King

    I just made a comment similar to this upstairs! I agree 10,000%! I’m sick of these idiotic whores!

  • XoXo

    Dogs! That vomit, and turn around and eat it.

  • NicoleZee

    I tell women don’t be so quick to trust these sicko men. Been there, done that. In most cases, when you first meet a man, he is NOT single! Most of these dudes are married with children and they lie and say they are single. I met one dude who said he wanted a wife and baby. I later found out he was a criminal and ALREADY had damn wife! The hell??? I don’t get why men lie though. There are PLENTY of dumb women that will date a married man and date a man with several children, so just be honest, damn!

  • NicoleZee

    Not surprising at all. After my aunt died, everyone found out my uncle had kids by other women. My aunt never knew I don’t think so she died not knowing that. She wasn’t able to have children but my sicko uncle was making babies with other women. He cheated during the whole marriage; she knew about the cheating and kept him, but didn’t know about the outside kids. These men are something else. I never understood why my uncle got so many women, he looks like a microwaved lizard if you ask me. Gross! But he had his own business, so I’m sure he was paying for plenty of p*ssy!

  • Kimberly King

    Something similar happened to me. The last time I had sex with my ex was NYE 2016. We’ve been on and off since we were teenagers. Anyway, a few months ago my soror texted me and said she bumped into him at Walmart and he was with a woman. She said BOTH of them had rings on. So I took it upon myself to look on the county’s website to see if he had a marriage license on file. And as sure as my name is Kimmy, this ninja has been married since July 2014. I was sick to my stomach. He had never wore the ring around around me of course. And we always talked about gettin back together! I thought about catching him when he was about to get in the car for work and running him over. I hate men lol I also thought about making a random FB account and sending his wife all of the videos we made and the text messages. But he’s a crazy ass Scorpio and a police officer… I know he would find me and potentially harm me.

  • NicoleZee

    But men love screwing whores though! I don’t get it, never will. Well, for every whore, there is some lowlife bum who will screw her and use her. Bums and whores are like vermin, very hard to get rid of! These sorry niggas just won’t go away, you got to get the cops to remove their sorry asses. These men are leeches, all they want is to use you and they have nothing to offer you. Sick and sad. Just say no ladies!!! It is the holiday season, but don’t help anyone. I’m done. If anyone needs financial help, sex, or shelter, call a hooker or call DFCS, but not me!

  • nick c

    He telling this story like he dodge a bullet?

  • Kimberly King

    I’ve never been used financially by a man… I was the one who did all of the using. I’m a reformed user though lol

  • NicoleZee

    What??? So this nigga was married and was still coming to you for sex?? What a loser. That’s what men do. I have yet to meet an honest man who doesn’t have ulterior motives. I have seen and heard it all. Nothing surprises me anymore. Half the men you meet are married, have children, girlfriends, criminals, gay, bisexual, escorts, etc. That’s what life has become if you want to date or find love. But I’m not putting up with that mess. I don’t stick and stay. Once I find out I’m with a fool, I walk and I don’t look back. The wife of the man you were involved with probably knows he’s a cheating loser, hell she might have a lover on the side too! You have to beat these men at their own game, that’s why we have intuition. If they want to play, then we can play too, but women do it better. You can’t play a player! Dumb niggas!

  • Lady_Elle

    I thought the same thing! I really dislike this man!
    I don’t think he is funny at all!

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    Agreed.

  • Kimberly King

    Yea I screen shot him his marriage license and blocked his number. He’s tried contacting me through FB, Twitter, IG, and he often texts me from fake numbers. BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK.

  • NicoleZee

    And girlfriend, ain’t nobody scared of no damn Scorpio or police officer! If I were you, I would have gone to the Chief of Police and the DA just to let them know what was going on. That way, if this guy tries to harm you, at least you would have told someone it was a possibility and they’ll know it was probably him if you get hurt. If you cut him off, he could still get crazy if he decides he wants you back and you say no. Be careful, most of these men are psychotic and need help! Sad.

  • https://instagram.com/caramelandbougie Uptown2501

    Its unfortunate that he said that but the mother is a MISTRESS and decided to have a baby by a married man. And judging by the company she keeps, she didn’t care about nothing about that but a nice check versus if he was a father actively in the child’s life. If she really cared about her son having a stable father figure she would be blowing up the blogs, and news outlets to get DL attention to the situation like most of these GIRLS expose these celebrity men

  • NicoleZee

    Yep, I went through the same shit with my ex, but he started stalking me so I had to get the cops involved. He’s psycho and refuses to get help, they couldn’t help him since no serious crime was committed. I actually wanted him to show up so I could slit his throat and end it once and for all. I was bold enough and I told the DA’s office that I will kill him if he tries to harm me or my family. They told me to do what I had to do to protect myself. In most cases, when a woman is being stalked or abused, nothing is really done until she’s dead, if then! I’m not going out like that. he’ll go first!

  • Layah Jhene

    Pretty much

  • hottlanta

    I am glad you are okay and you didn’t run him over. We got ID Channel stuff already. That is why I leave my ex’s out there because when you meet them they are in between puzzies anyway. Had you sent that stuff she would have did the Wendy showing the ring finger letting you know I am here and you are there. Never let another woman know you are stupid enough to fight over a man especially when he hasn’t chosen you. Then if he choose you let his azz know he ain’t worth it. Being quiet works every time it drives them nuts.

  • A D N

    She forgave him so easily because the child is no longer here and the child support payments ended.

  • KcoolMuziq

    Well, I go by first impressions and D.L. was cool. Charlie(R.I.P.) I excuse.

  • Mrs. ??????????

    D.L speaks of his murdered son in very cold and disconnected way. From his words alone, it sounds like he didn’t know or love that baby boy.

  • Ebony Starr

    He said that he was young and just starting his career. I’m not sure that the check was much.

  • NicoleZee

    You are so right! If it wasn’t for God, I know I would have ended up killing one of these assholes. But they’re not worth it. These women can have them and they can all be nasty together. At the end of the say, when you find out you’ve been with a liar and a fraud, just thank God for your life and health and do your best to move on without them. The best revenge is happiness and moving on!

  • hottlanta

    I tell women all the time when you first meet a man you are a side chick. He is seeing somebody. He may not love her but he is seeing someone. Men rarely WAIT the way some women wait by not dating or having sex until they met the one. They don’t put their lives on hold like that. Men stack women according to where you fit in with his life. He will be with you and determine are you gonna be a friend, booty call, lover or wife. As he go through life your position change in the stack. It is up to you to see does he fit into your plans and don’t leave everything up to him. Women needs to stack men the way they stack us. Date more and date often and stop putting all of our love eggs in one basket because a man said hello and said we are cute. He tells everyone that. You ain’t that special.

  • NicoleZee

    You are lucky. The problem was I have a heart and easily feel sorry for people, but not anymore. I have helped countless people, but I am done because they would never do the same for me if I was the one needing help. I had to learn the hard way, but glad I learned. No more, now I just say no. These sorry bums are always begging for sex or money or they don’t have a place to stay so they think they can live up in your house and contribute nothing. I keep my doors and my legs closed now! Not going through the bullshit again with these bums.

  • Layah Jhene

    He told his wife because he probably low-key happy he doesn’t have to deal with that situation anymore

  • NicoleZee

    These men are just sick and I don’t even think getting professional help will make them better. What I really don’t understand is why they don’t just get vasectomies since they don’t want to wear condoms. Why keep making babies you know you don’t want and you know you definitely don’t want to pay for??? Makes no sense whatsoever. And women need to get sterilized too, they don’t want the babies they get pregnant with and they end up neglecting, abusing, or abandoning their kids. The hell??? Something really needs to be done. I think the government should offer free sterilization and all other forms of birth control should be free too!

  • Darkandlovely617?

    ??
    May I ask how old you are

  • NicoleZee

    In the deepest and lowest part of the ocean it is complete darkness and a human would not be able to see or breathe if they even get near those parts of the waters. If it were possible for a human to get to that level swimming in the water, it would feel like the Titanic on top of you crushing your chest in bone by bone. In those deep waters you will find animals that have the ability to eat you alive if they could. That very part of the ocean is where scum like D.L. Hughley belong, along with every other sick person that harms or abandons a child. Sick pieces of shit!

  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

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  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

    Please not another man bashing episode!

  • You Could Never

    Over the years Ive only heard good things about DL, Ced and their spouses. May God continue to bless all the black unions tho.

  • NicoleZee

    Very true. I don’t have the energy to stack men the way I used too My playgirl days are over! Dating is fine, but there’s not much to choose from and I don’t feel the need to settle for someone’s husband or some bum. I have a child now, he turned 2 last month. I date from time to time, but once I find out the guy is a fraud or a creep, I’m out.

    At this point, I’ve gone through enough hell with these losers. I’m fine with being single until I choose to date again. Being stalked, abused, cheated on, or laying with some criminal are not the type of dudes I ever want to be with again. Most men are scum, no surprise why a lot of women are single and not even dating. And with so many diseases and infections being spread with and without condoms, even having a lover is dangerous. I “prefer” to be with one guy I can date and do my thing with, so I definitely am not a serial dater when I do date! I don’t have the patience or vagina to sex multiple men anymore, it’s boring and a complete waste of time. I have a toddler who often does not like to sleep through the night, he’s way more important than these loser users!

  • NicoleZee

    I wouldn’t be surprised if he had something to so with the murder. I wonder if there is some connection with D.L. and the perpetrator. You never know these days. Men will kill just to get out of child support obligations. Sick and sad.

  • Ms Thang

    He said he went to the hospital and “this boy” was laying on the bed. This boy?

  • Nita

    Ikr SMH he’s telling the story like the baby isn’t his

  • Ms Thang

    I cringed when I read that part.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Call me what you like, but black men seem like nothing more than a headache. I’m 22 and have never dated a black man, and don’t ever plan on it. Virtually every woman I’ve ever known no matter the race are in drama filled relationships with negros. I ain’t got the time or patience.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Oh, the man-bashing is strong on this thread today bro. Clearly there’s a lot of hurt/angry/bitter sistas out there.

  • hottlanta

    I know it is hard for us to listen to and we want him to sound like a loving father because we bought into the hype that babies me you want them because they are cute and cuddly and gives us an automatic connection to them. We have to accept that he never loved the child and to give him cuddly endearments would be fake. If he did sound all cuddly folks would be saying he was never there so why is he sounding like he was a loving father now. We may not like it but his truth is that he was not a loving father. We have to accept that and stop being mad about him not being what we want him to be. We can have it both ways and attack him no matter what he says or does.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Birth control should either be free to lower income families or cheap as hell, I’m not sure how it will effect the birth rate of people who clearly don’t have any business having babies but it’s worth a try. If I were a man I would absolutely get a vasectomy. It’s simple and reversible. People just need to be taught how serious a matter it is to be someone’s parent, the lives of these little ones literally depend on you making the right choices.

  • hottlanta

    Not here I plan on doing a whole lot of cuddling this winter. No space heater in my room.

  • davine puddin

    So his parents didn’t know they had a grandbaby out there ?

  • hottlanta

    You are right don’t date because I am tired from reading all of this. You have worn me out. Do raise your son as your son and don’t call him “My Little Man” to take place of a boyfriend or husband that has been missing in your life. My favorite is when he brings a girl home and not one is good enough for mom because she wants to keep him to herself because her son is the only man she has known throughout the years and to lose that will devastate her. I see woman who have daughters who don’t date when they are young but when the girls get grown they are jealous of them or they try to be them because they don’t have an identity of self because they put their lives hold when they were kids.

  • Malcom Flex

    Damage control? He sounds detached. Never liked him.

  • ???TheRider???

    ? at “microwaved lizard”!!

  • the guest

    Exactly.

  • anjanette b

    Sooo true. He probably was relieved. Damn that had to be hard.

  • anjanette b

    ? I think your reaching a bit on that one love. But yes men do hate child support. You may hate it To if u had to pay it.

  • anjanette b

    He did

  • Marlika

    His wife isn’t a damn fool! ?

  • NicoleZee

    It’s true!! Now my grandfather was handsome but some of his siblings look like shit! His mother had 17 children and several stillbirths. I guess my great grandparents had a good sex life or she was just super fertile. Good grief!

  • anjanette b

    U sound like Steve Harvey?????? that’s my boy tho.

  • NicoleZee

    LOL at your first sentence :)! Oh gosh! After my son was born I was laying on the operating table waiting for them to tell me if it was a boy or girl. Here comes the nurse saying, “Here’s your little man!” Best day of my life! If God chooses to send me a mate cool, if not, cool too. But it will be nice when my son goes to college…….out of the country hopefully! LOL!

  • anjanette b

    You are right don’t date because I am tired from reading all of this. You have worn me out. ????????????????????????????????????????????

  • bemetoo

    Along with the wife

  • I Run New York

    Exactly, he don’t want her to take half.

  • I Run New York

    Yup, there’s audio and video.

  • NicoleZee

    My niece’s mom has 3 kids now by 3 different men. She said she doesn’t want anymore surgeries after having her thyroid removed. Every time she gets pregnant, she says the birth control failed. Most people think she’s lying. She has health insurance to get her tubes tied, but won’t. She is a sweet and kind person but I don’t understand why she keeps having babies by bums and the relationship never works out. I love her to death but I bet she will wind up pregnant again. She wants to get married but can’t seem to find the right guy. She keeps saying she doesn’t want anymore kids, but the idea of a tubal ligation scares her or maybe she secretly wants more children. I don’t get it. I just try not to judge. All I can say is that one is enough for me. I’m not that fertile so I don’t get pregnant that easily. But being a single parent is hard enough, I could not imagine having a bunch of kids and still struggling financially and the fathers are all absent deadbeats. Sad.

  • hottlanta

    Back up from the “D” . We all got at least one we wanna stab.

  • hottlanta

    He will be fine. Just sit back and let God do his work. I didn’t want my Lil Hots to face the world because I loved them so much and didn’t want their grown azzes in my basement either. I made a choice to prepare them for the world to be independent from me and keep it moving. I be dayum if I get up in the morning and their man is in my kitchen drinking the last swallow of the orange juice.

  • NicoleZee

    I need to go to bed, my baby finally went to sleep thankfully! I’m too anxious, I’m waiting for People to reveal the Sexiest Man Alive 2017. I get excited every year! LOL! I wonder if it might be Shemar Moore, if it’s Idris Elba, I will puke, yuck on yuck! It’s time for another sexy black guy to win, Denzel has been the only black guy to hold the title!

  • hottlanta

    Steve got women around here waiting 90 days to get the “D” when he married his 3rd wife in less than 90 days. I was listening to Robin Roberts when he was talking about why men cheat a chapter in his book and she smoothly asked him has he ever cheated before. His look was priceless and he didn’t answer the question.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Pretty sure she’s not getting married with all those kids having different daddies…maybe if they were all by the same man but I can’t think of any decent men who want to deal with that. Kind of says a lot about you as a woman. Now she can probably get some bum to lay up with her and not care.

  • NeverSurprised

    ????????????????

  • NicoleZee

    I just feel bad for her, she really wants love but keeps ending up with bums, I went through the same thing. It’s tough. Pickings are slim and most men do not want to be bothered with someone else’s child, hell, they barely want their own children. I want her to find love, she is a really nice young lady. Blessed with fertility but unlucky in love. My brother treated her like shit, but he’s the only one out of the fathers that really spends time with takes care of his child financially. All she can do is pray for the right man to come along, but like my mom said, she really needs to get her damn tubes tied. Three children is more than enough! She would have had four, but one of her twins was stillborn a few months ago. She’s been through enough, I just hope she doesn’t end up with another deadbeat. God help us all please.

  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

    I’m a sistah and it still bothers me. Like okay you dealt with a few bad apples. Not all men are “dogs”. There are decent men.

  • Soda

    Part of the story left out: DL said some time later he and his wife were at the airport when he spotted the other woman. He introduced her to his wife, mentioning that she was his deceased son’s mother. His wife said to her, “I’m so sorry for your loss.”

  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

    Did your brother get a vasectomy?

  • Goddess™

    Lmaoooo…you said I don’t have the time or the patience! ??? I feel you girl! ???

  • Chocolate

    This is just so lousy. Men with kids all over the place disgust me. Their absence, which is inevitable, leaves an opening for another man to care for the child. How can a man be ok with that? And in this case, what a tragedy smh

  • Kimberly King

    I’ve never fought over a man before. I pride myself on that. I didn’t wanna fight her…. I wanted to f*ck him up for lying. Showing her videos and text messages would have pissed him off more. And I knew that, but decided he wasn’t worth it. There’s always that one… and he was it. He still tries to contact me as we speak. I can’t tell you how many fake numbers I have blocked. I guess it’s some app Android users can download where they can generate fake numbers. I’m ignoring him and that sh*t isn’t working.

  • Kimberly King

    Good for you! I have a heart, but not pure enough to help a grown man. I believe men should pay for any and everything. You’d be surprised at the amount of men who are totally fine with my beliefs. Men are supposed to be providers! I look down on men who would actually allow something so precious as a woman to do all of the work or be the provider.

  • Kimberly King

    late late 20’s

  • ?Royalty?

    Girl. Yes.
    I used to think that maybe it was just Black men and Black women that can’t get along in a relationship, but that’s just not true.

    Black men get along with no race of women anywhere. ?I decided I was done with them just recently. They just aren’t worth the time or the effort. ?????

  • MRiGOThim

    well to him its just a “boy” due to him prob not having a relationship in his life I’m guessing

  • ?E?E?M?A

    That’s crazy

  • ?E?E?M?A

    Ummmmm

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    (Oops… Pardon me. Correction made.)

    And yes I agree. There are many good men out here.

  • NicoleZee

    I have a better understanding now after going through so much bullshit. But most men, especially the younger ones, are not trying to provide anything for a woman. They EXPECT women to foot the bill for them! And if you tell them no, they just give you a nasty attitude about it. If I have to be single then so be it, but I am NOT Bank of America, Kroger, or Section 8! These bums have some nerve. They can’t do a damn thing for you, they’re horrible in bed or impotent or suffer from ED, and they expect a woman to do everything for them. GTFOH! I’m convinced that this cannot be planet Earth sometimes. These bums belong on another planet with the aliens if you ask me! LOL!

  • NicoleZee

    Men have it made when all they have to do is pay child support and see the child regularly or not at all for most, while the mother takes care of the child 24/7. If I was a guy, I would pay the money and spend as much time with my child as possible and not complain. Men find it easy to walk away because they know someone else will pick up the pieces whether it’s the mother or another relative or foster care. Men are sick creatures, some women too. No way in hell I would ever abandon my son. Why would I go through a surprise pregnancy and 9 months of hell, a painful C-section and recovery just to leave him??? God didn’t have to bless me with a child but he did and I’m thankful. And even more thankful I still have my own mom. I don’t know how people raise kids without grandparents being involved!

  • NicoleZee

    You do have a point. However, I do think it’s important to mention that there are horrible men in all races and ethnicities. I think I’ve dated men from just about every race/ethnicity and one is no better than the other. However, whenever I have dated a black man or Hispanic man, they seem to be a bit more troublesome if I had to compare them with white or Asian men. It just seems that more black and Hispanic men are evil, angry, and entitled. Just my personal experience. But at the end of the day, men ain’t shit, regardless of race. Most of them need a padded room if you ask me!

  • NicoleZee

    I’m kind of feeling the same way after dealing with the last angry entitled bum. However, the thing is, there may be some good black men somewhere out there, so if we exclude them we could be missing our blessings. I have had bad experiences with men of various races and ethnicities, but it does seem like black and Hispanic men are more troublesome in a way. But men are men and if they are pieces of shit, I don’t think it has anything to do with their race or ethnicity. Hell, I’ve met white, Middle Eastern, and even Asian men who were a pain in the ass or complete bums, so there you go!

  • friendofblog

    He definitely seems detached telling the story using terminology like ‘this boy’. Not my son?

  • anjanette b

    ??????????? you are so funny to me. You are really passionate about what u believe in.

  • anjanette b

    Yeah Idk who was happier.. My grandmother had a saying “one person is scared and the other person is glad of it”

  • anjanette b

    ?????? yeah but that sista got a multitude of brothers she want dealt with.

  • anjanette b

    WTF?????????????? Omg i would have love to see that. Steve have a lot of good advice-and than some things just go and one ear in out there other. I think he advise women to get married to early. I don’t want to marry nobody after one or two years of knowing someone I think if he would had taken his time to get married he wouldn’t have 3 under his belt. 5-7 years is perfect time to wAit to get married but who am I to talk it’s been 15 years and I still haven’t married my man yet lol..

  • Mrs. ??????????

    I was married to a black man before, all he did was complain, so it was very easy to leave him. I moved on to my 2nd husband, a Turkish guy. I get what you’re saying but I don’t think all black men are the same.

  • Mrs. ??????????

    It could be a possibility, that would be so bad if that were true. Some men will do anything to get out of paying child support, so it isn’t too far fetched.

  • Daryl Campbell

    I never thought much of DL before, I’ve lost even more respect behind this Pretty soon black women are gonna be like F#%k a no trust Ass black man. Disheartening.

  • Daryl Campbell

    We are losing!

  • MsConscious

    Lol u bitter bishes!!! U don’t have To be a side chick when u first meet a man lmao!! That dude can be just as single as u r! It’s not rare it’s rare to u. U broads got screwed in the worst way I see!! Woo woo woo (in my Sinclair voice) it’ll be ok! Obviously Them are the trife life dudes you all meet!! Unfortunately…sometimes u r what u attract.?? And then u broads claim all men are like that ?. NOT!!! There’s men out here that are the truth ?? and do not live by those standards!! U actually do have some real men out here that do none of that and truly want love and will respect his woman like he do himself! Some men are lonely and don’t date and screw random women daily. Starting off as friends first is the best first step! Believing that there are zero good strong ?? men out here because of what YOUR use to is almost the same as not believing in God.

  • MsConscious

    Some ppl aren’t married in real life there just married on paper! Some ppl just stay married out of pure desperation and fear of not or being lonely or to save face for the kids or the public! Sad awful way to live! That’s why you should be VERY careful who you choose to marry. And not take it as Some game! Vows for better or worst doesn’t mean you should have to sacrifice your worth dignity or sanity for anything that’s defiled. It’s best to wait as long as you can or willing to, to truly get to know the one you think you love before marrying that person. Make sure that person loves you to God and back! And I guarantee you if they deeply indescribably love you the less chances are they will hurt u!!! There are couples in this world that can testify such an unbreakable bond. D.L. UR A PIG!! Had u been there for that child in person vs through checks chances are that wouldn’t of happened. Poor baby was born out of a terrible situation just to get murdered in a terrible situation because one or both parents are negligent!! And what’s worst D.L. couldn’t even pay his own baby respect In the very end by referring to “THAT BOY” as his son!!! ???? never liked him anyway he curse too much in his stand up and comes off strange like something is off!

  • INDUSTRY GURU

    You should talk to Etterlene Abney Debarge if that is the life you choose. With such wide swiping charaterizations of black men, you should be advised on how often WHITE men have a fetish for incest.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    This whole thing just seems weird to me. I’m still not sure why he felt the need to share this story. He could have kept this to himself. Not everything needs to be shared with the world.

  • Cricket404

    He and his wife have been together since high school. I remember D.L.’s penis slinging from the early 90’s before he hosted Def Jam. She was home in Baldwin Hills taking care of the family and he was on tour building his career. That’s the way it used to be. Men had a woman in every other state to take care of his needs, but his woman was at home.

  • Ajavee

    Your entire post is on point it is truthful.

  • Ajavee

    They don’t put their lives on hold like that.

    100% on point especially that part.

  • Ajavee

    Listen ATL your entire post resonates with me. Especially women who have sons that treat the like their ‘little man’ and ‘husbands’ and when these same boys become men they expect the woman they date/marry to be their mothers too I wish the hell I would it is not happening. I find that type of thinking by some women disturbing.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Oh please ask all the black women who were raped and molested by black men. Black men have a fetish of impregnating and abandoning their children, with all races of women. Also they don’t protect, provide, or build.

  • Armymom20

    wow that’s crazy!

  • Mia Said so

    OMG I KNOW..i’m pissed like who are you talking about and she was not just some chick.. i just cant with these folks

  • Mia Said so

    yes I’m done..

  • Mia Said so

    dont care .. dont care did you hear me i dont care thats still his son no matter what keep it to yourself.

  • Mia Said so

    22 years old good for you… i;m chearing for you.. ihave never dated out of my race and i am a black woman but i’m single and when i do start dating have decided it will not be a black man.. Barack is taking. GO Michelle.

  • Mia Said so

    a LOT are

  • brownisback

    He said he thought the woman was about to try and pull some stunt (paraphrasing) so he nipped it in the bud and told his wife who she was when they saw her

  • Diva4lyfe

    He should feel like an arse but to realize he has a real woman in his corner then out there messing around. I feel what ever convo u and your wife had in ur home should have stayed there now some folks looking at her sideways. Keep ur business inside ur home

  • sunni_daze

    “This boy”, “This Boy” ? Ass hat that was your SON, how in the entire fk can this man refer to his chils as “this boy”. I knew I didn’t like this dick skin for a reason. And the only reason the wife stayed was because the baby was gone to a better place, best believe if the baby was alive she still wouldn’t fucking know. This article got my pressure way UP

  • Kayke

    I’m sorry, but he called him “this boy” and “the baby” not he or him. He has removed himself from the situation so long ago, it’s obvious in his speech…. I’m disgusted.
    What’s the point though? I believe he is giving this information to us now, because he may be going political and are clearing out his bones…. although ill-equipped, he has been used as a talking head for “black issues” most recently.

  • Kayke

    We were writing at the same time… That infuriated me “this boy”!!

  • i troll it like i see it

    Hate to say this but she’s the one creating her messed up situation…just shut your legs. I’m serious! I been on my own for a while now, and yes we all get the urge to fck but if you don’t want to end up hoeing and or possibly pregnant by some random dude, wait for something special to come along and in the meantime invest in good sex toys to take the edge off. You can’t tell me she didn’t see how worthless these men were, there are always indicators. Let’s face it, she had these babies thinking it would change them and keep them around but babies are like kryptonite to bum ass men. When I was young I had a son, his father was not the best man but I thought I could change him, he never changed. You think I was stupid enough to have another kid by a man I was not legally bound in marriage to? Nope! One hard lesson was more than enough. None of us are perfect but you don’t have to keep degrading yourself by dealing with losers for the rest of your life. There’s nothing wrong with being the mother of just one child, if the circumstances don’t add up I’ll never have another baby and that’s much better than dealing with a bad man.

  • Kayke

    Unless someone might share it for you, then you’ve got to get ahead of it.

  • hottlanta

    People always tell the single woman not to date while the single man moves on with his life. It is just amazing how women have bought into the BS as the truth. As if the single woman is now punished for having a kids with no husband and should not leave the house until the child is grown. Glad I didn’t listen to that generational mess of a lie.

  • Ajavee

    I agree. Like women are suppose to stay shut up away while men enjoy life I say BS. It’s ypur life live it to the fullest as long as you’re not harming yourself or anyone else. I’ve seen many of women put their life on hold not me.

  • Ni Ni

    That’s how a lot of men treat a child they didn’t want in the first place.

  • Simone

    Beautifully and perfectly said!

  • i troll it like i see it

    OMG I never even considered that.

  • sunni_daze

    No this is how an asshole does it.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Isn’t it sick? That’s exactly how it sounds.

  • Mrs. ??????????

    I totally get it, but you cant lump all into one group.

  • Mrs. ??????????

    I agree with you, DL should’ve kept this to himself, its obvious he didn’t care about his murdered son.

  • Noirluv45

    Oh, I did too.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Steve Harvey banana lipped, tacky dressing, big mouth, lying scheming sell out ass is your boo?

  • Simone

    Also tell women to do background checks, which are normally free through online court records (marriage status, etc.). My big Sister taught me that. I even did it on my Husband before we got married. His record was clean and he’s a good man. Good men are still out there. Just do your background check first!

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    Omg I’m glad someone else noticed it. They do that though, if it’s not for the wife originally then they are second best

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    My anxiety was all over the place with this…had to sign off

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    Called the mother “this chick”

  • Kayke

    I’m fine with that…. This chick, that chick, nameless dickposit box…. So!
    But the little boy was his blood and part him…his son n which he should still be claiming.

  • Bonita

    I thought that was a strange reference to one’s child. He’s clearly disconnected. During the interview, he also touches upon his living twenty-something year old son and how he has asperger syndrome. D.L. references that son as retarded.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Clearly this child was just a monthly expense to him… a child support check he had to shell out every month. And a major headache too, since he had to keep this all secret from his wife. Sad.

  • The Nerve of People!

    “I’m so sorry for YOUR loss.” As if it wasn’t her husband’s son as well! I don’t even know what to say about that…smh

  • Karen Brady

    Damn, “the Soul Plane star.” What year was that?

  • hottlanta

    What do you want a trophy if you don’t date a black men as if black women don’t have options and you trying to get a black history month moment. Black woman been dating men of other races for years. If you do date a man of another race you will be looked at because black men don’t want you and black women date white men because white women don’t want them. Yep yall will be equally yoked as 2 throwaway races as undesirable to their own race. How you gonna say black men rape black women when the guy who kidnapped/raped Pamela Smart built a shed in the backyard for her.

  • Mia Said so

    40 plus years old I could never do that. But had enough experience to know it’s time to try something different

  • Karen Brady

    Is this promotion for ‘The Comedy Getdown’? Did that start yet? I only care to watch Charlie anyway so #FAIL corny D.L.

  • Kayke

    Clearly disconnected. He believes his lies and just put it out of his mind…. He speaks as if he is looking in on the situation and not apart of it. D.L might need some counseling…. That type of reaction to your own child passing is analytic worthy.

  • hottlanta

    Naw talk to Debbi Thomas. How you gonna go from being a professional skater, Stanford grad, a doctor to living in a roach infested trailer park with a creek in the backyard. She can’t even go inside the building because of a white man came up there clowning.

  • Karen Brady

    Same…never

  • Karen Brady

    Same

  • Guest

    Yup. I know a woman who found out she had two additional brothers at her father’s funeral. smh.

  • Pebbles

    I’m thinking everyone else knew but the wife……..

  • NicoleZee

    Anytime I try to search for marriage records online, the site charges a fee. Just Googling someone might reveal a lot, especially if they have ever been in jail. It might be best to just pay money and hire a private investigator. If I was going to marry someone, I would hire a P.I. A lot of things about someone can be hidden or just not available from online searches for some reason. I think a P.I. is a good investment if you want to spend your life with someone. Half these men talking about marrying someone are already married, have secret children, and have a criminal record longer than both my arms and legs! Sad.

  • Karen Brady

    It’s not funny but your last sentence??. Elizabeth Smart. Pamela Smart was the white pedophile high school teacher who had her high school lover kill her husband.

  • hottlanta

    Thanks for the correction. There are so many stories out there about white married men kidnapping and raping white women I can’t keep up with them.

  • Kim’s Original Face

    “this boy”

    wow…. I have a feeling the mother is going to speak out about “this boy”

  • hottlanta

    You date men of another race all day but it is gonna come down to the same conclusion. Different race same shit.

  • Mia Said so

    I agree but thang it i’m going to at lease try. Ok HA!! (Smile)

  • hottlanta

    Yep there are some men who aren’t seeing someone when you met them they are rare. Yet these same women if they met a man who tells them that he isn’t seeing someone or if he respects her enough to not try to kiss or touch her she will be the first one’s to say he is gay. Women can’t have it both ways. Don’t add to whether or not I got a man determines my love for God. God gonna be here regardless whether physical man is here or not.

  • Karen Brady

    Banana lipped?

  • Karen Brady

    Good for you Robin.

  • NicoleZee

    I’ve tried to talk to her in the past so has her own mom, but it’s her life. Unfortunately, no one can do anything for someone who continues to have children they certainly don’t need. The government can’t do anything either but continue to run up a deficit from providing public assistance to people who are poor and who continue to produce children. I think politicians see public assistance as an issue, but in order to solve the issue, they need to look at the root cause and preventive methods. Birth control methods should be available to everyone and I think they should be free. However, the problem is that a lot of people’s bodies may not agree with birth control pills, or IUDs, or condoms. So what’s the solution??? I think if we had better methods that were more affordable and didn’t cause so many side effects, maybe more men and women might be open to using birth control and condoms and even getting sterilized. However, you can’t make someone prevent something or stop something, it’s their choice no matter how dumb or dangerous it might be. I hate birth control hormones, too many horrible side effects from taking them, so whenever a guy tells me to get on birth control, I tell him to get a vasectomy or find someone else. I’m not into men that spread their dicks around anyway. Overall, I think scientists, lawmakers, and policymakers have a tough issue to resolve. Not making excessive children should be common sense, but common sense isn’t so common anymore. Sad.

  • hottlanta

    We need to follow our own journey to love all of our journey’s are different. There is no one size fit all. That is the problem everybody trying to do their love journey off one blueprint when our lives are different. Then what is so funny it is not even biblical and Christian woman follow his every word. God don’t tell us all the same thing at the same time.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    There you go. All the best with that. There’s lots of decent men and good women out there that just need to find each other.
    When I hear women saying they just keep meeting jerk after jerk after jerk after jerk, I have to wonder what kind of energy they’re giving off if they keep attracting the same kind of person year in and year out.

  • Ni Ni

    Trifling!

  • hottlanta

    That is fine but don’t be using someone as a project as if Imma see is another race better because another race hurt me. That is when you gonna get your feelings hurt. So if you date a man of another race and he hurt you, are you gonna start dating women. Then when she hurts you what else you gonna do. How would you feel if someone treats you as a project.

  • hottlanta

    I ask them as well. What makes you think no one has ever complained about you as if your shyt don’t stank.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    That’s it. We have to honestly look inside our own selves sometimes, and look at our own actions, thoughts, attitudes, etc. But not everybody’s willing to do that. One of my wife’s friends just gives off the foulest energy, and yet she wonders why she cant find a good man. I look at her sometimes and I’m thinking “Duuuh. Good men pick up on your negativity and dont want to be with you.” smh

  • Mia Said so

    Did you say project?? I will never treat another human being like that. I think your talking things way of course. What I’m saying is this I’m 40 plus I have only dated black men and at this point t IN MY LIFE I want to
    Try another race period. And woman hunny please not my style at all ever. Now will allow anyone TJ tear me other then GOOD. Because that’s the way I treat others.. that’s all I’m saying. But Ne era project never.

  • i troll it like i see it

    Did you ever see the clip of the welfare queen with 14 kids yelling about how “somebody has got to come in here and take care of these kids!” I think some folks are just unstable mentally. That woman literally could not see her part in her situation. I was embarrassed as a black woman for her!

  • Reina1718

    Damn i would be like what else u b hiding?? To hold that in so long

  • hottlanta

    Wow. I hear stories about this all the time.

  • hottlanta

    ROTFLMAO but so true.

  • DJ

    Thanks for your candor. People are too wrapped up in what other people are doing!!!!

  • Simone

    Your county’s clerk of court site should provide free info on martial status, child support cases, etc. If the background checks out and he seems like marriage material, is compatible & worth your time, I’d avoid the P.I. thing. During a worthy relationship, trust is important and healthy. Any double-life type secrets will reveal themselves, if any secrets exist.

  • Goddess™

    Right and they are quick to blame black women for the demise of the relationship and use that as an excuse for going outside to other races of women and then they get their asses with non black women and those women suffer brutally all the while thinking they were the chosen ones since black men talk so badly about black women only to find out later their asses suffer through the same bullshit that black women did with black men.

  • Kirenee

    What are your relationship deal breakers?

  • Goddess™

    Black men damn sure don’t hesitate to LUMP all black women into one group. They have a few bumps in the road with black women and say that “ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE THE SAME” and that they are done dating ALL black women as a result…here’s the exception for BLACK MEN however, they may encounter a few bumps in the road with white women but white women ARE forgiven. They don’t lump all white women or any non black woman for that matter into one group. Black women get lumped in as a group and BLACK MEN do NOT hesitate to classify and lump black women.

  • Goddess™

    I am 40 plus as well and I am certainly open to trying something different as well.

  • Mia Said so

    Mines is if they don’t have no INTERGRITY I’m out.

  • anjanette b

    So true, your exactly right.

  • anjanette b

    Yessssssssss?? Love me some Steve Harvey?, I don’t care about him lying and scheming he ain’t my man????????????

  • NicoleZee

    So you wouldn’t hire a P.I. to investigate a potential husband??? I think I still would. I’ve been with men who were deceptive about being married and being criminals. And even though I found out things on my own or after they confessed, they probably had more secrets I couldn’t find. It’s hard to trust anyone. You might be about to marry someone who is already married or who is a sick criminal. Take no chances. Others have told me that a P.I. is worth the investment because your life and well-being are priceless.

  • Trace da Ace

    Damn.., soul plane??? Was that the last movie he did?? But why wait this long to tell her that??? I mean…. I would side eye the hell out of him on this….he probably got more skeletons on that closet……damn shame…. I mean why would she leave now? #nobenefits

  • Liah

    This Boy…This Chick…Woow DL…Wow!

  • Goddess™

    Enjoy your good black man honey, as a black woman I send many blessings to your union.

    God Bless on many levels??

  • garrisonville

    I agree! The whole thing is very disturbing. Seemed to have no connection to him at all. I feel so sad for this baby. From how he got here to how he left this earth. Poor baby boy. May God rest his soul!

  • garrisonville

    I use to like this man until i read this bullshit. How do you describe your own blood in this way?..this boy?..really? he didn’t ask to be here. you put him here & then didn’t protect him. now he’s gone. you ASS HOLE! Sandra this post done got my bp up girl.

  • Saphistication

    Put some respect on that baby’s name…referring to him as the boy shows how he was detached from the situation. God brought him home because he wasn’t worthy of being a father to little man. Probably celebrated after his passing. SMH

  • TeeTee

    He does call him retarded, has for years… But he also talks about how proud he is of him and how he went to college.

  • Passion

    IKR, I was thinking the same thing, stop calling him “boy”! He has a name and if you don’t want to say it, call him what he was…”Your son”!?

  • Saphistication

    I know…really showing how much of a dirt bag he is.

  • SouthernGirlAZWorld

    Lol

  • Cici

    Dang I am sorry that happened to you. The worst men I’ve dates have also been scorpios.

  • LOVE ALWAYS

    She stupid and he’s a cheating dog.

  • Missy

    I’m 22 and have never dated a black man

    You sound young, dumb & ignant.?

  • Kimberly King

    My current boyfriend is a Scorpio. I always attract them and Libras. Wish I could attract more Taurus men. They literally worship me.

  • Wayup!

    “I had knocked this chick up”!! BYE DL..?

  • Wayup!

    Of course he was relieved …as relieved as I am when I turn the channel as soon as I hear him attempt to tell a joke…?

  • Saphistication

    Love how descriptive you are…yes, he belongs there!

  • shay2shaymd

    Cheating.. especially when there’s a child involved.

  • Cici

    Any man that isn’t black worships me I dunno what that is. I’ve never been the one to date by zodiac signs, but my friends swear by it. Maybe you guys are on to something. ?

  • anjanette b

    ??

  • terri

    its unfortunate but this happens all the time. What people fail to realize is that a mother has an instant bond with the child rather the baby was an accident or planned. Men are different especially in this case he had a secret love child who he basically paid hush money to keep this from coming to the light. So how do you expect him to have a relationship or feelings for this child…should he yes but as you can see he didnt… its said though especially for mom