Dave Chappelle

A former Facebook executive says he regrets his role in creating a social media monster.

Facebook’s first president Sean Parker now says he regrets helping to create a social media platform that is so addictive it "literally changes your relationship with society."

“God only knows what it’s doing to our children’s brains," Parker said.

Interestingly, Parker compared Facebook users to lab rats rewarded with cheese for pressing a button. The cheese itself didn't satisfy the rats, it was the dopamine rush they got from pressing the button.

Parker has said that social media creates “a social-validation feedback loop” by giving people “a little dopamine hit every once in a while, because someone liked or commented on a photo or a post or whatever.”

Chamath Palihapitiya, former vice president of user growth at Facebook, also expressed his concerns in terms of the dopamine rush people get from social media.

“The short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops we’ve created are destroying how society works,” Palihapitiya said during a discussion at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. “No civil discourse, no cooperation; misinformation, mistruth. And it’s not an American problem -- this is not about Russians ads. This is a global problem."

Parker said the situation is only going to get worse now that every child has a cell phone and is drawn in by the lure of social media rewards such as "likes" and comments. He said he no longer uses Facebook.

"So we are in a really bad state of affairs right now, in my opinion. It is eroding the core foundation of how people behave by and between each other. And I don’t have a good solution. My solution is I just don’t use these tools anymore. I haven’t for years."

Palihapitiya said he doesn’t use social media because he "innately didn't want to get programmed."

As for his kids: “They’re not allowed to use this shit.”

  • Yardgirl

    Too late sir! FB is good and bad at the same time and it is here to stay. After Agent Orange came on board I started limiting my time on FB and I am soooooo happy with that decision.

  • kekeb

    I can see how that is true.

  • Renee26

    I believe it...social media has warped a lot of people sense of reality...I've had to check myself a few times before I deleted my page all together.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Agreed. I invited a friend I hadn't seen in years to visit me here in the state where I live. She flew all the way here and kept her face in her phone the whole time we were driving and going here and there. She is a country bumpkin and hasn't been anywhere in years yet she still didn't see the sites due to that dang phone.

  • http://citygirlzen.blogspot.com/ missarewa

    I totally agree with this. No judgement to those who live on facebook/instagram but my life has been so much simpler since I got off. People have their addresses up there, location, show off jewelry that's kept at said location, it's like they lose common sense! I have a private instagram with only my SO and my two bestfriends that I update as a personal diary. Facebook is for oversharing and instagram is for showing off and I'm just too busy trying to live a private life and make money for that crap

  • Renee26

    Crazy...I've been on vacation with people like that. A group of ladies and we were sitting in the hotel while they posted about how much fun they were having (sike). I got up and started to go out by my damn self and that's when they looked up. I was ready to walk the streets of Chicago by myself....then the constant selfie taking to post. It's irritating...I prefer to put my phone down and enjoy the trip when I'm traveling.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Me too! I refuse to use my phone or wear a watch when I'm on vacation. Only when I have to.

  • 1BlueStar

    Well duh! I've been saying this (or something similar) for years. The social media era has really warped society. People don't know how to communicate anymore, social awkwardness is at an all time high, pedophilia, bullying, 'catfishing', weirdos, and all other bs has been heightened because of the freeing ability to hide behind a keyboard. You don't have to have a personality anymore, anything goes; you can be the person you've alllways wanted to be on Facebook...For these reasons and many more, I'm not, nor have i ever been, a user.

  • Kayke

    My hubby has been saying this years, how no one is considering the "side effects" of Facebook

  • You Could Never

    We make the kids relinquish phones and electronics at the table if out to eat etc and other various times too...bc if NOT that is all they would do. And my guy is bad about it too. His daughter was even like: Daddy! What about YOUR phone? Ms. YCN just SAID...all electronics.

    Lmaoooo. What about the brains of big huge ass adults lol?

  • Renee26

    another thing I don't like is when people film others without their permission and upload it to social media....it's rude

  • Ms.Vanilla

    I hate that too. I went to a play with a few friends and that happened to me. I was sooo mad but I didn't say anything. That is not my lifestyle. I do not have a facebook account and never will. They should have left facebook in colleges where it began.

  • Renee26

    Yes! I have to take my son's phone when we are out to dinner...I would rather do the puzzle on the place-mat together than watch him look at memes on his phone while we wait for our food to come.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    That is so annoying. I was in a restaurant and saw a couple sitting across from each other at a table not saying a word. They both had their faces in their phones. They were eating and phoning. No conversation whatsoever.

  • SpillyNillie

    THIS! Lil Spill tries it EVERY time! His thing is YouTube...He just got a Snap account...He's not allowed on IG or FB.

  • Renee26

    Bet on their social media they're viewed as an awesome couple...but they can't communicate over dinner. Sad

  • Renee26

    My son love YouTubers...he watches people eat and talk about stupid stuff

  • SpillyNillie

    Not to mention it's rude...

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    Wow...good read.

  • Mischelle

    I got off months ago and I, too, have enjoyed the simplicity of not checking. No one knows what I have going on unless I want them to. I’m also turned off by the younger kids popping up on FB.

  • Look@m3

    Be careful on youtube. I plan to pull back I see what its already doing to my family!

  • klwbaby

    I have been to several restaurants where everyone at the table is on their phone. It is funny but sad because people feel like they are going to miss something "important" if they are not glued to social media. Its weird how they call it social media when in reality to seems to make people less social.

  • Mischelle

    Lol, on a girls trip left my phone at the hotel and they asked “how will you take pictures girl”. My response....gasp..”with a damn camera.”

  • Renee26

    Mine is a teen...I still try to monitor what he's watching and do random phone checks

  • HoneyyGoodMoneyy_

    FB is trash.

  • Renee26

    LMAO

  • Kanyade

    it's not just facebook or social media but the internet in general, computadoras en general. virtual-reality versus reality-reality.

    i have more a beef with instagram and the duck lips and derp faces and poses and filters, oh lordy, the filters!

  • NeverSurprised

    They are in a restaurant, with friends, yet each person at the table has their head in their phone. No one is even acknowledging their REAL friends who are present with them. It is beyond frightening because we are witnessing the end of human interaction.

  • Coy little wink

    My only addiction is this blog...and my new job does not permit phones at our desk so I'm currently in rehab ?

    I recognized the evil that is facebook early on and never joined

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I bet he's still cashing those Facebook checks though.

  • Look@m3

    I have a toddler and she about as professional clicker on the notepad as I am. I see how this can become a problem. I watch my husband stay glued to his phone and now I have a toddler glued to a notepad. I'm trying to think of ways to change a grown man and manage a toddler (entertainment wise)...but I plan to do the same with her when she becomes a teenager I fear I may not be able to give her any privacy! So I need to start praying about that now and get a head start.

  • Look@m3

    That may have been me bae!!! LOL

  • Look@m3

    Oooh...what a nasty reality!

  • NeverSurprised

    I see it all the time. So sad. And they are taking pictures of their food, yet not acknowledging the existence of their tablemate.

  • Decked Out

    Good for you.

  • Look@m3

    I made the decision years ago that I was not going to have facebook, twitter and IG. I deactivated my FB account, got an IG and refuse to get on twitter. Low key ready to let IG go too!

  • MookieFly

    I hate facebook, but it's the only way to stay in contact with some family members.

  • Naomi

    If someone is on their phone in front of me I literally get up and leave. I came to spend time with YOU not the glow of your phone. I used to go to events with this girl who was a "foodie" (and blogger) and I promise you....I couldn't do it more than twice. We couldn't even have a conversation because she was taking photos and uploading them it was so annoying.

  • Look@m3

    My mother gets on my nerves!! She does this every freaking time she is around then she constantly putting the damn phone in my face talmbout...have you seen this vide...have you seent his video..have you seen this video. I'm growing weary and tired of this and I'm trying not to snap on my mom and her FB addiction. I understand you getting a lil hip but I'm not even on FB so can you please leave me alone about everything being posted on your timeline...Sorry this made me want to vent because I have not broken down to tell her this yet....jeesh! (feel good)

  • Look@m3

    REASON I DO NOT POST MY CHILD!!!!! People can screen shot and share anything these days and talk about you behind your back!

  • Ebony Starr

    I was at my company's Christmas party last night and all of the young ladies were dancing with their cell phones up and recording.

  • Look@m3

    Have to agree with you on this! It was cool for a moment but I actually hate FB now like literally hate it like its a real person....and starting to hate IG!

  • NeverSurprised

    You know he is. He has a $2BILLION net worth due to Facebook, so I doubt he's too concerned about the societal ramifications of his actions, little moneygrubber.

  • Noirluv45

    So has my sister.

  • Kanyade

    this is why i maintain mine.

    i log on and scroll then log off. rarely post. rarely "like" things. i don't live there, like some.

  • Kayke

    We don't have anything, so to know what going on with us, you've got to come get the info. We let it all go 3+ years ago and haven't looked back. It's pointless to us. We like the "catching up" that happens when you run into someone we havent seen in a while.

  • Anunnaki

    I dont have any social media***shrugs***

  • MookieFly

    What kills me is that some people as a way to create a whole ass new life. I just need access to it in case somebody died and that's it

  • Kanyade

    is nothing sacred anymore? sheezus! what about living in the moment?

    sad, that is the expectation of most. gotta take a selfie. gotta record for posterity?

    i'm from a different era. also, old. much older than this generation of social media babies.

  • CookieMobster

    Another reason why me and mine do not have it.

  • Yen Pettaway

    I tell people, "It is a profile". Every post is analyzed, then you are categorized. I have 38 friend's and post what I like, I could care less about who approves. But even I look for the red alert on comments sometimes..Programming. So, I can imagine the mindset of those that live for "Likes". Pathetic.

  • Renee26

    Sure do! half of the "say amen" type posts shared all over FB with some strangers picture up and a lie following it

  • Kanyade

    since we're in rant mode i'll say this: i can't stand the posts that are presented as motivational but in my opinion are used passive-aggressively.

    if you have an issue with someone in your life address them directly! don't go on their timeline and throw shade. Lord, it seems such a waste of energy to me. I see that with family members. sometimes i have to put them on ignore 'coz i don't have the strungth for them and their passive-aggressiveness.

  • Renee26

    I will say something but not get up and leave....although I could see it happening if I was on a date and the guy didn't respect my request.

  • Ni Ni

    I took my niece out for lunch and we couldn't eat without her using that devilish snap or whatever its called.

  • MookieFly

    I hate that so much. Like if you're going to talk, talk. They are just looking for attention. I've always said it takes so much energy to focus on hating someone that you could be using on something else.

  • Renee26

    I would suggest less tablet time for the baby now while it's still early. They will automatically know what to do and how to use it because this is the age they are growing up in. There's plenty of activities you can do as a family, ya'll just have to take it back to the old school. You'll find a happy medium.

  • hottlanta

    I don't see him giving the money back he made off Facebook.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Social media makes some people think everybody really wants to know every details of their lives.
    No, you don't need to tweet to the world every time you go to the gym. No, I don't want to see a picture those crab legs you ordered at Red Lobster. And no, I dont want to see some fake-deep quote you want to post online just because your "bae" broke up with you. You can keep all that to yourself. Thanks.

  • Look@m3

    Thats how it should be....i limit what i put on there.....people always making comments about how i never post pictures of my daughter....whatever!

  • Look@m3

    I just dont trust people....we may be friends on social media but i dont know you like that and idk what you really do in your spare time. My hunny worked with sex offenders and i have heard and seen enough...im good!

  • hottlanta

    AMEN!!!!!!!Who started taking pictures of themselves in the bathroom that everyone else caught on and said it was okay. Even Eddie Long. Then in other rooms of the house the background is nasty. Everybody is rich and in love with no problems. Vanzant has fixed all our lives. Facebook got ugly people thinking they are cute.

  • Naomi

    OMG that is my PET PEEVE! Going out to a club and seeing everyone with their phones in the air on IG live or whatever. ENJOY THE PARTY!!! Why do you need to showcase to the world that you're having a good time?

  • NeverSurprised

    To me, the saddest thing is seeing mothers with young children ( babies or toddlers) who are desperately trying to get the mother's attention -- and the mother is completely ignoring her own child because she is addicted to her phone.

    I always want to say: "That's a beautiful child. It looks like he/she is trying to get your attention." I also want to tell them that time fleeting. That their child will grow up in the blink of an eye and they will wish they had these years back. But I hold my tongue and say nothing. I have such sympathy for today's ignored children.

  • VernadineTheQueen?

    I went to see a doctor yesterday and to my surprise he could not pull up my chart for being on Facebook! I was stunned and disappointed at the same time! VERY UNPROFESSIONAL!!!

  • Guest

    This is me. I only have IG now. I will be getting rid of it next year.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Aww... It's ok you can vent. It's hard to tell your mother you are not interested in the videos without hurting her feelings. I go thru the same thing with my son. I have to laugh and comment just so he thinks I'm engaging his needs. Secretly I hate it....lol
    You're not alone my friend.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Yes! It WAS rude. I just realized that when you said it. I was wondering why I was feeling some kind of way. Imma call her tonight and bring it up all over again... Ole selfish heifer!

  • Look@m3

    Are you going to do it at the beginning of the year. I may habe to join you. Smh!

    I have slowed up checking it sp it shouldnt be that hard i dont think.... Fb was rather easy!!!

  • Look@m3

    Im just tired of fake laughing...eventually she is going to catch me rolling my eyes. I can just feel it. Smh

  • Look@m3

    Lmao....that last part!!!!! Memories....inrecall this heavily when i was a facebooker back in the day. The shade be real on fb...

  • hottlanta

    How you gonna get COURTSIDE seats and all yall do is post them on Facebook We just shook our heads. I got laid off my job and had to apply for unemployment and they talking selfies in there. Folks can't even walk in the mall without being on the phone taking pictures. Everybody think they are funny and cute. The club thing yes. Me and my friend had to tell the youngster to put the telephone down and DANCE and have fun.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    Not to mention you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. You don't want your child to be behind all the other kids in school that are constantly online. Kids nowadays do work in school on the computer.

  • Renee26

    Yeah that too...they love the internet and people friend perfect strangers just for those likes too. Meeting people online and inviting into their homes. It's scary enough trying to watch those you meet in person but the internet takes it to a whole notha level.

  • hottlanta

    What they will do will turn the camera on yall while she is telling you to mind your business. Or she might wait until she go home and do a rant the same way mom did because Curry didn't spot her precious baby for an autograph. How was Curry suppose to know it was your son's birthday. if the intent was for him to go to the game and have fun so be it Curry not stopping would have not made a difference. But she had to go on Facebook and rant as if Curry spoiled her son's 10th birthday because he didn't make eye contact. So it is not the parents ignoring the child it is other people ignoring their kids that is pissing parents off.

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Deactivated my account in March and haven't looked back

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Of course he isn't

  • You Could Never

    No we talk. For him (and me too I aint perfect lol) its normally trying to double task watching sports lol

  • Bossy704

    I prefer Instagram because my real friends and family are boring - nothing but kiddie pics and church festivities. I want to see what Beyoncé and RiRi are doing today. I get a rush when celebs like my comments. One time I got a like from Mike Vick 'cause I said he looked like sweet chocolate. Didn't know it was him, thought he was a model. I could not afford to go to his retirement party during CIAA because it was $100 and that's all I had 'til payday. He still fine!!!

  • Ebony Starr

    It's out of hand. I thought that one of my coworkers was taking a picture of me but he was doing a Snapchat video.

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  • isaiit

    I never joined Facebook either. Never had the urge or want to

  • Trace da Ace

    sad, but true!!! I have a facebook account that I go on once a month or so....just to check notifications....other than that....I like snapchat....

  • hotntot95

    Never joined any social media and never will. I feel bad for this generation of young people who don't know how to function without the "likes" or certain online exposure.

  • Lovely1

    Yes. There are people I know who criiiied when I logged off Facebook. lol That may be a slight exaggeration, but I definitely knew who was all in my business after I logged off! Way too much for me. Way. Was fun at first, but now...nah.

  • Trey

    This is why I keep telling yall to stop giving your kids phone with internet access

  • Alicia.Ashe

    Love my social media. How else am I going to get the latest from the black owned indie brands I follow.

  • noireyblanca

    FedBook is lame af! Most of the people I know on it are so far removed from reality that it’s a damn shame. I quit using that cess pool of bs a long time ago. All of this talk about celebrities and bs but ain’t nobody talkin about this new damn tax bill that is going to seriously hurt black folks. It ain’t nuthn but mind control?????

  • oshh16

    Totally agree, which is where I was going when I asked about people posting pics/selfies of work outfits on blogs in that Beyonce post.

  • ReadingIsFundamental4Real

    Nope, my child doesn't have social media. Thank you and good bye sir.

  • SweetTEE

    Back in 2004, I had no social media & my homegirls put me on to fb. Back then, you had to be enrolled in a college or university & used that email to create a profile. All the white schools were already on it and bit by bit, HBCUS. Then they let military and high school log in. All that was cool until they opened the floodgates. FB was COMPLETELY different than it is now & most people who were on the original dont even use it now- for obvious reasons. This man spoke nothing but truth. It was not intended to be the fcknut it is today.

  • Tammie Reed

    I dont agree but ok maybe for some folks.

  • grenadiadrian

    Preach! I got it in May 2005 when my school was added and it was simple: keep in touch with people from other colleges you knew and to hit up people whenever there was a party going down or asking where one was. The minute they let EVERYBODY sign on, FB went to sh*t with the quickness. Now, people use it for social acceptance, garnering sympathy by putting all their business in the street for the world to read, and just being flat out annoying (FBActivists, FBPoliticians, FBPreachers, etc.). It's to the point now that I don't even post on FB anymore, I disabled the apps on my phone, and took the bookmark out from my browser. South Park did an episode on FB years ago that nailed just how folks have become so attached to it.

  • 2telldatruth

    I could have told you that.

  • WutizaGRANNY!
  • Seek Truth Speak Truth

    FB is FBI monitored. Stay off that ish, it's like leaving breadcrumbs to your house.

  • Real Name

    I will agree. I haven't been out in years my girlfriends said they was having so much fun & they always said girl you missed it. I finally went out with them & all they was doing was being on the phone and then post a pic talking about its lit. Im sitting there like all they do is dress up sit in a comer take some pics to post about all the fun. Actually it was all fake for social media. I haven't been back out with them in months it was so phoney & fake all for social media. I deactivated my account.

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  • Blue

    Bet he won't give up the money he made doh. He don't feel that strongly about it.

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Please also tell my husband that it's rude. I don't have social media but he does and he'll ignore our conversations cuz he's on his dang phone and when I say he's being rude he wants to fight about it like really? It's NOT that serious!

  • hotntot95

    Gurl...do they send u random email spam trying to get me to win some sh*t..but I MUST join Fb...I'm like nerp...??

  • Bonny

    Facebook is the devil. Haven't been on since 2011 and will never get another one.

  • SweetTEE

    I did the exact same thing

  • Kayke

    Does giving the money back change what is occuring?!? What difference does that make other than him being as broke as you. That's more hate, than a solution.

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    Now, listen here Anna Mae, I was on FB back in 2005 and we did some *wild* stuff on there back then. It was *just* as ratchet but it was expected because everyone was of college age.

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    I am suspicious of his true motives behind saying all of this. Some competitor or another is probably paying him to say this.

  • Ms.Vanilla

    I know right. You have to spin it a different way. Instead of talking about his activity, let him know that it hurts your feelings and make THAT the point. That way, he has no argument. Tell him you'd like his undivided attention when ya'll are talking. No matter what he says, make sure you stick to the point that it bothers you that you cannot see his eyes when ya'll are talking. Make it about YOU not him. If he still doesn't stop then he doesn't care for your feelings and that's a problem.

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    I'll def try that. What i was doing which also works is I'll stop talking then he'll say I'm sorry what did you say? And I'll say idk what did i say? I was telling the air a story but I'm not gonna repeat it. Then he feels bad that he didn't hear what i said.

  • Storm’s Rage!

    Or he's telling the truth. And your addictive fb ways are being offended. lol

  • Storm’s Rage!

    Would you give up the coints you earned at any of your former jobs? lol

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    Huh? I don't even post on FB lol Try that on somebody else. FB ain't been hot since like 2008 lol

  • Blue

    Hahahaha. Bye Storm

  • Tena

    i rarely use FB, I think it's quit sickening how folks look for "likes" as validation for everything they do. Most of the folks that post the most have miserable lives in reality. I personally am not that desperate for attention and have other folks all up into my world like this. So I only have an account in case folks from my childhood wants to contact me.

  • Tena

    I might be following suit soon,

  • SweetTEE

    HELL naw. Wasnt fight videos or half the nonsense. We were only ratchet in the honesty box lol

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    You're right, we didn't share fight videos because we were all in college and not in the hood fighting lol But there was a lot of nudity back then...just not in the profile pictures. Whole albums were created for inappropriateness.