Oprah Winfrey seen arriving at The Late Show in NYC

Oprah Winfrey says she never had children because she doesn’t have the motherly instinct. The 64-year-old billionaire insists she would have been a terrible mother because she can’t communicate with anyone who cannot speak.

Oprah Winfrey seen arriving at The Late Show in NYC

Oprah opened up about her childless life in bestie Gwyneth Paltrow‘s first episode of “The Goop” podcast. The TV mogul told Paltrow she could never raise two babies — like Paltrow has done — because raising babies would have been too frustrating.



“I don’t think I would have been a good mother for baby children, because I need you to talk to me, and I need you to tell me what’s wrong,” she said. “I can’t just figure it out. I knew this about myself.”

Oprah’s personality is similar to a narcissist. She doesn’t have much patience for people who don’t cater to her, or give her positive feedback when she says something wrong.

Oprah added: “I was always better with kids once they turned two-and-a-half, three, I had a real resonance with them. Gayle (King) was like, ‘Don’t you love babies?’ I was like, ‘Oh, babies are fine.’ It didn’t feel like [having babies] was for me.”

Oprah Winfrey seen arriving at The Late Show in NYC

Oprah, who is currently promoting her new Disney film A Wrinkle in Time, insists she can be a very good friend to people in her inner circle, adding, “I am so supportive of whoever or whatever you want to do or be. I am just there for you.

“If I am your friend (there’s) never a hint of jealousy,” she said. “And the same thing with my friend Gayle. I’ve actually modeled being a friend after the friend that Gayle has been to me. I want to be the same friend to everyone that she’s been to me, so that no matter what happens to you — even if I ain’t got no job and you got the best job — I am just so happy for you! I want my friends to soar.”

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  • Yoni7

    Well there you have it folks. At least she’s honest and not walking around here with a charm/bag/tool baby like those kards.

  • Rayne

    Ion know I think she’s done like we all have at one point in time. Wasted time with steady until he made up his mind about having kids then said fawk it I got a man. I think she would’ve been a great mom though.

  • 100milesperhour

    Not having kids isn’t the issue, it’s her reasons that are weird. A dog can’t tell you what’s wrong w/it either, & they don’t talk to you. But she loves those canines.

  • Shira Harding-James

    I can respect her honesty, however I believe she would of been a great mother!

  • datjerk

    Very understandable. I don’t believe in having children for the sake of having children. If you know your parenting skills will be subpar, don’t try it. There are way to many broken adults running around because their parents weren’t shit.

  • datjerk

    A dog doesn’t need constant attention either.

  • Kemi

    Her decision, her life…. not every woman is meant to be a “good” mother to children cos they can be very demanding. It’s a 24/7 365 days a week job with minimum downtime. I respect her decision.

  • KISSmyENTIREass

    Damn she flies her dogs all around the world with her and guess what? THE DOGS HAVE SITTERS THAT FLIES AND TAKE CARE OF THEM! Sounds familiar. Lady your dogs your kids. The sitters is the nanny. But glad you dont have babies and neglecting them.

  • Rachel

    She could have hired nanny’s like any other rich person. If she wanted to. Many people don’t want children there is no need to go this crusade of explaining yourself Oprah.

  • LuLu

    I respect her decision. I wish a few other “mothers” had done the same.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Soooo we’re just going to beat this horse to dam death. Get out of this woman’s ovaries. Goodness gracious.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Mine does… Love her to death, but her azz is worrisome.

  • KarmaBackAround

    I think it’s very unselfish that she didn’t bring a child into the world knowing she didn’t want them..can u imagine oprah, the deadbeat mom ..geeesh

  • You Could Never

    Not here for the Oprah hate a second (maybe 3rd? IDK) day this week. Not even waiting til an open post either. Sue me.

    Since the majority hates mumble rappers, today the only Christopher we acknow. has been gone 21 years.

    Gone but not forgotten.

    https://youtu.be/glEiPXAYE-U

  • iWasteTime

    I love a self aware person.
    Parenting isn’t for everyone

  • GayDownLowFatBoyChaser

    Shes a rug muncher and besides if she did have kids they would have been sacrifices to the elite

  • Coy little wink

    Please leave Auntie O alone obviously the universe has her back she doing something right ?

  • Just here4 the comments

    “I need to them to talk to me and tell me how they feel.” She raised dogs??

  • bella28498 .

    Many women need to be this honest because these kids out here suffering

  • Fire & Ice

    At least she’s honest. A lot more people, need to come to this conclusion.

  • Mia Said so

    Or Wife she said that about being Married.. Good for her unless others out here Married to gte half of the section 8 rent paid.

  • Mia Said so

    AMEN LULU i’m with you…MG

  • what?why

    Go Away

  • Chaseboogie The Prince

    I appreciate that she realized she wasn’t going to be a good mother. I have no problem with that. There are too many women in the world today that are raising children wrong or not being there for them, abandoning, neglecting, nana’s raising them, too busy, not maternal, abusive, etc. and you wonder why did they have children at all. Or we read headlines and wish the woman would’ve never had kids. I’m glad she didn’t feel pressured to have them and then they would be all messed up in hollywood like Lil’ Wayne’s kid, Magic’s kid, Kardashians, etc.

  • Fire & Ice

    Ikr..pets are almost like kids ???

  • shun king

    she will die and them white supremacist will get her money to raise their kids with it and make sure they have the best educations and get over on some more black folks

  • Scromes1212

    What’s wrong with lil Wayne’s kid and Magics kid? I must have missed something lol

  • Ni Ni

    I dont think Oprah is a narcissist for the reasons she gave, because i can somewhat relate. People always say well you should at least have one. How do you know what really goes on in another person’s life? People can be good at hiding things: mental illness, might be secretly an alcoholic or drug addict, or maybe they had a really messed up childhood. Accept people’s decisions; sometimes they have reasons for not having children. Look at all the neglected kids whose parents never wanted them.

  • Lolly Asher

    Packaged answer ready to go. She really must have a movie to promote cuz haven’t seen her in heels for a minute.

  • klwbaby

    Its her life, her body, and her decision not to want kids.

  • Jethro

    Oprah’s personality is similar to a narcissist. She doesn’t have much patience for people who don’t cater to her, or give her positive feedback when she says something wrong.

    How in the hell did you come away with that?

  • Scromes1212

    She gave a very strange answer lol how you can’t handle a two year old but you can handle being the president smh

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Love you Oprah keep giving .. That’s nurturing and loving in itself … Its how you are able to (birth) opportunities … There are many different forms of mothering and you’re doing an excellent job… Mothering consist of nurturing … Intuition… Compassion … Giving and flat out creativity … It exudes creation … I think you do a damn good job… As for actual kids… Well we know how much you have given to many children … I do believe you have mothering down packed … There are no limits to actual mothering … It’s selfless and never self serving.. . Men are able to do this as well… ? keep birthing new projects … Keep giving and most importantly keep loving…

  • countrygal

    She could always adopt me

  • MsPam

    Who cares her movie are getting bad reviews!

  • Kanyade

    She knows what she knows regardless of how odd she answers she wouldn’t have been a good mom <—something SHE knows. Motherhood isn't for everyone. Obviously she knew this early on…

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    That’s great that she found that out about herself, after losing her child. I think tragic situations can either break you or build you and her situation built her into who she is today. There’s nothing wrong with that.

  • Berry Melon
  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Narcissist lack empathy ….her understanding what she is capable of giving is certainly not A narcissist … Narcissist take take take and will take especially from children they love to do that… Sorry Oprah does not fit the bill in no way…

  • Owww76

    Everything isn’t for everyone. Just because the next person is doing it doesn’t mean you have to follow suit. Hell i dont want kids either, i can’t imagine bringing a child in this F’d up world.

  • Scromes1212

    It’s great that she gives back but if we being honest that stuff is a tax write off. So it is self serving. But I think the things she gives to are great causes

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Are you talking about a Wrinkle In Time? I could have sworn I read that book when I was in like the 4th grade, but after seeing the previews for the movie I’m beginning to think that I didn’t actually read the book. It’s a kids movie, so I will check it out when it comes to Netflix or a prime channel or something.

  • Berry Melon

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JC0LVaz5ZL0
    Really? I’m going to see that film, looks interesting. I don’t know what it is about, but I’m gonna watch it.

  • Kanyade
  • sunni_daze

    Motherhood isn’t for every woman.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Narcissist use children as props by the way… All for their personal greed and glorification … They will use kids first and foremost …. You can look at your coven the Kardashian …. They truly don’t care about kids only how it makes them appear and what shine they can get from it… They suck the light straight out of kids… The kids grow up a confused as hell too mimicking thee exact Same cycle with their own clones … Narcissist feed from gratification and no matter if it’s bad or good… They want the attention … So they will even show there azz and put their puzzays on social media with their own child taking the photo …they give not one fawk about innocence

  • datjerk

    ….k

  • Tiff J

    On another note… Oprah’s pony tail is EVERYTHING! I know she has thick hair, so I’m not sure if she has pieces added to it, but that pony tail is what pony tail dreams are made of.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Pretty as hell nice and thick

  • You Could Never

    Me and my kids are still waiting too. She can have some built in ready to go grands and everything lol.

  • more

    Look at all these rappers like Lil Wayne Fetty WAP and Future, all of them having children and don’t have a clue on how to raise them. They are absent fathers who throw money at their children.
    Oprah had enough sense to not do that

  • more

    Looking sky she had Sky from the Black Ink Crew she had to separate children in her stomach for 9 months each and look how that turned out.

  • more

    She’s not out here like these baby mamas reproducing all over the place

  • TMW

    Trump is a narcissist demigogue by it’s very definition, and to the detriment of an entire country. Oprah may have narcissistic tendencies, but so do most people in the public eye. Choosing not to have children doesn’t make her a narcissist, it makes her woman who has always made smart choices for herself.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Gotta respect her for that decision and being true to herself. You shouldn’t just have kids because it’s what society expects you to do.

    There are a lot of damaged, dysfunctional kids out there whose mothers probably shouldn’t have had children either.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I agree. The world is becoming overpopulated anyway. We probably need more people to decide not to have kids. Wouldn’t be such a bad thing.

  • RICHIE_RICH

    I respect this to the 1000 power. Everyone isn’t meant to have kids. More power to you O. I don’t want any never have never will , especially at 35. I’m good?????

  • Ajavee

    Your answer all day long ^5.

  • Scromes1212

    None of the Kardashian kids are grown lol there already narcissist?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    SMR: Oprah’s personality is similar to a narcissist. She doesn’t have much patience for people who don’t cater to her, or give her positive feedback when she says something wrong.

    That’s not what she said.

    No wonder you’re a conservative…you lack basic reading comprehension.

  • Quitedeliteful

    I don’t know if I believe Oprah. This may be how she feels now at 60+ but I wonder if she really felt like this when she was younger. I remember back in the day on her talk show she was really excited and talking about weddings and getting married to Stedman. I wonder.. if he had agreed to marry her would she have been willing to have at least one child… probably.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    That can’t be Oprah’s real hair.

    Ha,ha,ha!!

  • imright

    kids aint for everybody ?????

  • Yoni7

    And you’re delighted by this because?

  • Scromes1212

    What? Lol Sandra didn’t say she said that lol you might want to work on your reading comprehension skills lol

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    She said explicitly.

    She can’t respond to a child who can’t tell her what is wrong.

    There are aspects to raising children that are more difficult than being president because adults give you nonverbal cues on what they want.

  • ~~eb

    I am 36 and I always knew that children were not from me. Especially with the effed up childhood I had. My bloodline on both sides needs to die. Too bad I have brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews that reproduce like damn roaches.

  • Scromes1212

    Kids do also, but you wouldn’t know anything about that smh

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Can someone explain what was so special about Tupak and/or B.I.G.?

    They seem like black folks’ version of Elvis.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    *clasps pearls*

    Sorry you had a rough childhood…

  • Scromes1212

    That’s sad smh if you need that explained to you then I feel sorry for you.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I know that was Sandra’s misinterpretation of what Oprah said, duh!

    There is nothing narcissist about NOT having children. It’s about self-awareness.

    Narcissists have children that they have zero interest in raisings.

    They see their children as accessories.

  • Scromes1212

    Jus because you had some bad apples on your tree doesn’t mean that there all bad. That’s just life, some will be good and some will be bad.

  • We Can Do This

    I feel your sentiments regarding your childhood.

    Most people that come from functional families would never understand.

    Keep pushing.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Well you can explain it to me.

    They seem like gangsters who died at an early age.

    I see nothing more.

  • Scromes1212

    So you agree with Sandra lol

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Nope. Oprah’s an Aquarius and most Aquarians don’t have a lot of patience and tend to be emotionally aloof which isn’t good for bonding with small children.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Can a dog that doesn’t get the correct amount of love and attention be anywhere as destructive as a human who doesn’t?

  • Scromes1212

    Gangsters? What about Biggie and Pac made them gangsters? They were poets in the truest since of the form.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You can leave your dog in a cage while you go to work.

    Try that with a newborn and you would end up in jail and your child in foster care.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I believe what you mentioned yesterday about her becoming pregnant from rape and the child being stillborn scared her for life.

    I remember her stepfather told her that her child being stillborn gave her a new lease on life or something like that.

  • rachel

    I…I… I… me… me…me…
    Oprah is so deeply in love with Oprah.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Best to be truthful, Before the children get here!!! I give her mad respect for that. Children and marriage is Not for everybody, just like certain foods, clothes, cars and everything else. Why is that hard to comprehend?

  • Ni Ni

    I totally understand. My maternal line is soo screwed up…

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    What the hell are you talking about?

    Oprah doesn’t have any children so how does she fit my description of a narcissist?

  • Sandyb1117

    People use the word mother and father too easily these days. Not everyone deserves that title. It’s the one thing that you can’t do over when you fail at it.

  • Shawty

    But that’s when you break the chain. Do something totally different with yours. But I do understand thinking you can’t give what you never received.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    eb: My bloodline on both sides needs to die. Too bad I have brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews that reproduce like damn roaches.

    Your families sounds like mine.

  • KarmaBackAround

    This!! My step son mom STAYS in the mental asylum. I already have issues out of him.. I pray to God he doesn’t reproduce..even her mom said she wish she didn’t have kids ..smh

  • Shawty

    We all have a few ROTTEN apples.

  • JENNYJONES1

    EXACTLY BECAUSE SANDRA DOESN’T HAVE KIDS SOOOOO DOES THAT MAKE HER A NARCISSIST? BEING GAY DOESN’T EXCLUDE YOU FROM HAVING A BABY, MANY GAY WOMAN HAVE TONS OF KIDS……….JENNY JONES!!

  • Scromes1212

    Smh clueless. This is the exact reason you still live wit your moma lol

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Well, in Sandra defense, there is an abundance of people out here like that. I know plenty. If you’re not always agreeing with them, praising them and constantly telling them how awesome they are, you’re labeled a “hater” or “negative”. It doesn’t matter if they aren’t praising you. As long as you’re always praising them.

    Is Oprah like that in real Life? I have no idea. I dont know her. What I will say is, whatever road she was on in life, it worked for her. Hundreds of thousands of women have a similar story, like her story but their outcome, is the total opposite than Oprah’s outcome. That’s something you can’t hate on.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Shawty: But that’s when you break the chain. Do something totally different with yours

    That’s easier said than done. The other issue is that some people do the polar opposite so it’s more trouble having children than it’s worth.

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    Stedman proposed to Oprah back in 1992. They were on the cover of People Magazine. Oprah got cold feet about marriage after Gayle got a divorce in 1993 so she broke off the engagement with Stedman.

  • Sarah

    Oprah sounds ridiculous. She would have been better off just saying she never wanted to be a mother. To say that you can’t be a parent to a baby but a 2 or three year old is so much easier to communicate with sounds infantile. They have to be babies before they turn two or three, Oprah. She does sound a bit like a narcissist.

  • Shawty

    I’d like to think when you know better, you do better. You have a great point though.

  • Scromes1212

    Wouldn’t that make them bisexual?

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    Rumor has it Oprah has fertility issues due to her being molested multiple times in her youth. Although, she did have a baby at 14, it did not survive past two weeks. That would leave any woman scarred for life. It’s probably best she didn’t have kids if she’s carrying so much pain and trauma.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Oprah is an Aquarius.

    They don’t tend to do well in close romantic relationships–they enjoy their freedom.

    Jennifer Anniston is another Aquarius who needs to stay single and not try to be any type of romantic relationship.

  • You Could Never

    This is exactly what I mean when I defend the new age rappers. This right here. Every generation there are rappers whose message is just not received by some.

    These two were two of the ones from my generation.

    Message wasn’t for all.

    They were not gangsters. Hood poets, messengers, and a product of their respective environments.

  • Sally Wright McLinn

    she was pregnant people forget about that. She was raped and lost the baby. But early she realized she didn’t WANT to be a mother. I think that’s what she should have said. Many women (like me) don’t have that motherhood pull. I teach little kids and after a day with them, I know I wouldn’t make a good mother.

  • Ni Ni

    You can break some grounds, but some of those issues will eventually arise one way or another. You have to live it to understand.

  • You Could Never

    And that is ok. Your view

  • SayWhatNow?

    I LOVE babies, they are the absolute best. Once I became a mother I can just hear my children make a noise and I knew exactly what was needed. Thank GOD for those instincts. Its these big kids that drive you crazy and don’t communicate their feelings.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    I am 57 and was brutally abused by my mom throughout my elementary age, But I was able to have one child, she’s going on 24 soon, and I Broke this tragic cycle. Everybody can not survive this life and break the abuse cycle. It can be done, however it is Not easy. I use to say, as long as I have nieces and nephews. It is not the same as Your own. My child is the Best, Awesome person I could have Ever had!!! But I wanted children. Some people just Don’t want children and it’s Not the end of the world, just like marriage is Not for everybody. It pays to know your choices Before children.

  • Scromes1212

    That’s the thing. Part of a woman’s gift is her motherly instinct. They don’t have to verbalize there needs, you just know.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Being a parent is stressful enough.

    Then you add all of time you would spend self-analyzing trying to make sure you aren’t making the
    same mistakes as your parents so what little joy there is supposed to be in parenting is gone

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    That’s not surprising.

    A girl’s body isn’t meant to engage in sexual intercourse much less with an adult male.

    Reese Taylor was unable to have any children after she was gang raped and she was an adult woman with a child.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    If that’s true as least she acknowledges it.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    GFY you ball less troll.

  • Kemi

    I love it at the young age when they’re very inquisitive and ask you a lot of questions about their surroundings. Kids are really smart!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    It really is easier said than done!!!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Actually, I can’t leave my dog in a cage while I go to work. She has anxiety issues. She goes to a sitter.

  • Mrs. S. Kidd

    I agree that Oprah is beyond the age where she has to keep explaining why she never got married and why she’s never had children. She’s stated the same things in different ways for over 20 years now.

  • Scromes1212

    Your comment doesn’t change the fact you a grown a*s man stll living with his moma smh

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    The fact is, Everybody Can Not break the chain. I did, but some really Can’t. And I respect that they know Before the children are here and harmed!!!

  • Ajavee

    I am glad things are looking up for you and your daughter.

  • Dkwitty

    The world would be a better place if other men and women were this honest with themselves. Some people have children just because they think they have to. A milestone they must accomplish and then they end up raising broken people.

  • TMW

    Everything I learned about being a parent was doing the OPPOSITE of what my mom and her sisters did as parents. You can learn from other people’s mistakes for sure.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Thank you for your kind comment. I just keep GOD ahead of my journey!!!

  • Dkwitty

    Lol Wayne’s daughter is a brat but she seems loved to me and Magic’s kid is gay and flamboyant. I guess that’s due to lack of attention from his parents? ?

  • Ajavee

    Yes indeed! He’s ABLE.

  • klwbaby

    Are men put under this type of pressure of having to explain why they don’t or want to have kids?

  • Scromes1212

    But kids can be loved and be brats, right? Being flamboyant doesn’t make him a bad person. People act like there criminals smh they have problems they need to work on but they not bad kids. All our kids have things they can work on

  • JV

    Sometimes I wonder if people hear what their sign is supposed to be and start acting like it. Like I’m a Leo, and I couldn’t be more opposite from what a Leo is supposed to be.

  • ~~eb

    Nah, I am good! Plus, I wanted to do it the “right” way, and with the way the dating market is today. I doubt I will ever get married.

  • Scromes1212

    Facts. That why I pay no attention to it smh they act as if that sign is what makes their personality

  • TMW

    The SMR shady editorial portion of the post ??

  • Scromes1212

    It’s good dudes out here. Just be ready when your time comes. With all due respect

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    No

  • Roxie Moxie

    Good. One less child exposed to the evil world of Hollywood. We have enough of that already.

    Her excuse is piss poor though. Should of just said, ” I don’t want kids”. Period. I respect that. I work with a lady who doesn’t want them and she will not have them. At least she knows and makes an adult decision as opposed to some folk who have babies (and don’t want them) and depend on the government and other folk to raise ’em.

  • JV

    Not if they adopted or had a sperm donor.

  • Scromes1212

    True

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Broken and abused.

  • JV

    I…I… I… LOVE BREAD!

    ?? ?

  • Kemi

    Double standard.,

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Iiiiihaaaaaaaa

  • laidbackgal4real

    Oprah please ?

  • Calikush

    ?…..Lmao

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Just like they say, women aging- hags, men grow old gracefully, drop-dead handsome.

  • ShadesofEMPRESS

    Nope not at all. People ask me all the time and try to treat me odd but never bother my cousin who doesn’t want kids. We are both in our late 20s. Men have it so easy.

  • R Smith

    What’s wrong with that? I could see if she wasn’t a giver and didn’t share her wealth.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    True. Sometimes they have annoying parents who keep asking them: “When are you gonna get us some grandbabies?”

    Always irks me when I hear people asking their kids that. I’m like… just leave them alone and let them make their own choices on their own time. Good grief.

  • Ajavee

    I know that stereotype annoys me.

  • ~~eb

    Well, my parents knew I was being molested by a neighbor. My mom went to my father told him, he called it child’s play. She blames me for not being more descriptive and blames him for not making her do something about it. She is worthless.

    He is taking a long overdue dirt nap and he did everything to ruin myself esteem as a young girl, both of them did. So yeah. There is no need for me to continue that blood line. I was the dark skin, chubby, nerd. Now I am the only girl that graduated from college, with a career, no kids, lost the weight and worth a damn, but my dark skin is still a problem. The blood line needs to die.

  • Keepin’IT100

    Her kids would of been like Nicole Richie!! Spoiled and confused

  • angrysolo

    during the simple life days yes.. nikki has matured well over the years.

  • angrysolo

    At least she aknowledges she would be a selfish parent rather than hoarding children to project some false image to the world (like any1 currs) and having a host of nannies.

  • Dowoop

    Lol … I thought i was the only one reading this thread like “Ohhhhh Shit!”

  • Dowoop

    I dont think its all her hair.

  • Dkwitty

    I hate that. I was barely 21 and was already getting those questions. Can I live? Damn.

  • Dowoop

    Ok…I thought it was just me because i had no clue what the previews were referring to in the book.

  • Dkwitty

    I agree. I don’t get that comment. I see nothing wrong with Magic’s kid (s) or Lil Wayne’s.

  • Munchosgirl

    Some people will never understand this. I was abused up until the age of 18…I became a mother at 22. I was always a nurturer, to younger siblings, and other younger family members. I always saw children in my future growing up. So I ALWAYS said I would NEVER BE THE PARENTS THAT I was GIVEN!

  • Munchosgirl

    So me!!!!

  • sunni_daze

    That’s already happening millenials women/girls are holding off on kids. And I don’t blame them.

  • TOO REAL

    finally she tells the truth. She’s tooooo self centered to be a mother.

  • Munchosgirl

    Not necessarily….I guess you would have to live it to fully understand. Being that I didn’t feel loved growing up by neither parent, that was the focal point of me raising my children. I had to LEARN how to show and accept love because that wasn’t something I had saw. The infant stage was easy, as they got older and knew how to express love, my oldest son gave me my first AHA moment(Oprah Voice). He hugged me and I froze….see I knew how to love him but not how to accept love from him…..believe it or not I still struggle with it….

  • Munchosgirl

    She spoke about this before, she stated she wouldn’t have the proper time to put into a child.

  • Bossy704

    I’m a single selfish lady,but I would love to have a baby. I used to say I didn’t want kids. Motherly instinct kicks in at some point. I have three black cats (they don’t get adopted) so those are my babies now.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I will be 46 in a couple of months and I haven’t lived at home since I was 29.

  • Stop explaining yourself

    Oprah has said this a million times and I’m sick of her explaining herself. She owes no explanation. Her window to have children has been closed and it’s her life, her body, her womb. Everybody does not want children. I mean they can have children but don’t want them! Men don’t have to explain them. Tell these mother******* you didn’t want no baby and keep it moving!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Well damn!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Congrats to you though since you made it work and you have a healthy successful child to prove it.

  • Trace da Ace

    well that is how she feels….some folks are baby peeps and others are not…her life her decision.

  • JENNYJONES1

    DUH NO??? YOU KNOW THERE IS MORE THAN 1 WAY TO CONCEIVE OR SOMETIMES THE OLD FASHION WAY IS JUST FOR MAKING A BABY. YOU CAN BE 100% GAY AND HAVE MOTHERLY INSTINCTS, WANT A BABY……..JENNY JONES!!!!

  • Shawty

    Understood….I broke the chain as well. That’s why I say it’s possible. But I do respect if you feel that children and marriage is not for you. It is better to recognize before you get into it.

  • Karen Brady

    I love little ones but always knew I didn’t want to bring my own in to the world. It’s NOT FOR EVERYBODY! Auntie status is perfect for me. I be kicking them children out :-). And take all your children germs with you. :-).

  • Dr.Rue

    I love me some Oprah – she said what she said.

  • http://ebonynsweet.com Ebony N’ Sweet

    Oprah has enough money to just clone herself, and raise a mini version of herself.

  • puppylove

    Who is Tupak? I mean the LEAST you could do is respect the man and the name his mother so lovingly chose for him.

  • kimberly

    I respect her decision.

  • Ms.Jones

    It’s so many selfish mothers out here. I’m glad she realized that about herself and chose that route.

  • Soon2BWife

    Hey O! Let’s do a trial run and see. I’m available to be your daughter but my mom has to come too. ?

  • Soon2BWife

    Listen. I love my nieces and nephews so much because those little crumb snatchers can go home!! Forever a Nene!

  • Fire & Ice

    True

  • Gloria

    Thats cool.
    Many woman share the same decision as Oprah, never bearing children or being a wife.
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

    But her and Gayle are lovers lbs.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Beautiful. Just keep being what you did not get as a child, to your child in a positive manner.

  • SDot

    BULL SHYT!
    I dont believe her or this for one minute.
    She gonna assume that’s why instead of try it out? OPRAH!? NAAAA she waited to long being selfish.. Just say what it is. Stedman didn’t want to. Just keep it real. LIES!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Excellent achievements for you!! And the bloodline also can die, if you choose to produce, and raise your child/children as the first generation of excellent!!! Again, easier said than done, But it Can be done.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    You have a choice of letting that bad bloodline dying by producing the First better generation in your child/children.

  • Jygalo

    Honesty is good. I know lots of people who are great but shouldn’t have or have had kids. Children are not an experiment.

    I’ve been in the resentful position of having to choose between family and career because it’s almost impossible to do both.

    No apologies needed Ms. O! Do you.

  • You Could Never

    Bloop

  • Liah

    @ least shes honest….Children are NOT for everyone

  • ?Royalty?

    Isn’t auntie status the best? ??

  • ?Royalty?

    I love black cats. They have a weird rep for no reason. I miss my baby Shadow. May he rest in peace, but when he was alive I treated him like a child. ?

    “Animals are people too”?

  • ?Royalty?

    ????????

  • ?Royalty?

    Well dayum?, “My bloodline on both sides needs to die”.

  • Shira Harding-James

    I don’t follow zodiacs
    My zodiac sign states that emotionally I’m all over the place, but it couldn’t be further from the truth

  • Jethro

    You call that a defense? She’s talking about Oprah not “an abundance of people.”

  • Connie

    I bet Auntie O smells really really rich

  • Junkanoo

    Love black cats they are adorable

  • Munchosgirl

    Cyber hug….I can relate…my father turned a blind eye to everything my step mother was doing to my brother and I. Moved with my mother at 14yrs old, my mother was the physical abuser…I was raped by the neighbor, after I told her, she said it was consensual, that I was trying cover up that fact that I sex with him willingly…he was 19yrs old…. so yeah….Father died when I was 23, mother still alive, very distant relationship…

  • Munchosgirl

    Thank you!

  • JRock

    I wish everybody thought like you. I want more children but for some reason God isn’t blessing me with more right now. I know he got his reasons. But then I see chicks like my sister in law with more kids then she can count and she doesn’t want them. She doesn’t work, on disability for being lazy, will sleep with anybody, dirty and on food stamps, section 8 and she get cash assistance.

  • JRock

    I love little crumb snatchers.

  • JRock

    A lot of people can’t have kids because of STD’s also. I know some women who can’t reproduce because of abortions. Oprah was fertile she didn’t have anymore kids after the death of her first born because it’s hard to have children and a successful career. Plus O ghey.

  • ?

    My childhood was bad also. God has blessed me with one and I pray he bless me with more in the future. My mother was abused and so was her mentally deranged mother. My family is very dysfunctional. My mother and her mother didn’t want to see their kids happy and living life. I cut all the toxic family members out of my life. Prayer and meditation has taken me far.

  • ~~eb

    Hugs right back to you. I was five, he was 13 when it started. If I could smack my mother when she said I should have been more descriptive. OMG!

  • ?

    My mother let her friend m0lest me. She thought it was funny. My mother is miserable and all she does is gossip. My family is a disgrace.

  • Bonita Johnson

    Lol ok Oprah just say u rather work with them not have them ???

  • Bonita Johnson

    People are ignorant black cats are beautiful!! I miss my black cat too ?

  • http://www.gogirlastrology.com ThaGuru

    Damn thanks for keeping it real. This almost 31 year old woman thought she was missing out bc all my friends from HS for married in their early 20s

  • http://www.gogirlastrology.com ThaGuru

    I have a Calico cat she’s amazing!! And I am also a single selfish lady and proud of it (for now!)

  • http://www.gogirlastrology.com ThaGuru

    Hell no

  • Malcom Flex

    Most of the black people I know shouldn’t have had kids yeh I said it!!they cuss and beat them but say that’s normal. Yall know it’s true and you wonder why little black boys tend to be bitter it’s not racism it’s getting their azz beat by a unfit parent.

  • Munchosgirl

    I just couldn’t believe her when she said it…like really…If it was consensual, I could have kept to myself…..I was super afraid of my Mom…Did you ever get any therapy?

  • Karen Brady

    THE best and cheaper too :-)

  • Munchosgirl

    I never understood my mother’s abuse of me. We attended one family counseling session, and the therapist told her she singled me out because she see my father when she looks at me….well that was our first and last session. I am closed off to family. Family has bought me more grief than I can comprehend. I survived 3 years with my mother, I left my Senior year of High School. I still to this day suffer from PTSD, anxiety and depression..NOT easy!

  • Karen Brady

    That’s what I’m talking about! I love them for a night or two and send them packin’. I don’t let them forget one toy, bottle, t-shirt, wipe, nothing LOL

  • Jennifer

    I feel the same way. I knew children weren’t for me even as a child. So tired of people trying to make women feel guilty for not wanting children. We should be applauded. If more women were responsible enough to accept that about themselves, there would be a lot more happier people in the world.

  • V Dubb

    She can give whatever reason that suits her……frankly it’s no ones business. Some of you shouldn’t have them either AEB me having to come into these schools and deal with these ignorant, ill mannered kids.

  • V Dubb

    Lololololololol right.

  • kekeb

    I kinda agree with her cause I’m kinda the same way. BUT, I do think that had she become a mother again that she would have done a swell job.

  • Luvi

    yep !!

  • suganspice68

    She would have had a 50 year old son had he survived,I feel bad for Oprah’s loss.

  • kekeb

    Unfortunately, I agree (and it’s not just black people). I think people have children out of societial or religious obligation. However, if you are not patient, financially/mentally and emotionally mature (and don’t plan on becoming so), you should NOT intentionally create life. It’s disrespectful and poor decision making at it’s finest.

  • ImWoke

    I didn’t want any children either and never thought in a million years that I would have any. I had one and immediately that maternal instinct kicked in and my child is the joy of my life.

  • Layah Jhene

    Kids are overrated. I barely like them

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Oprah i understand, however, you never know until you try. Let’s start out by you adopting me. I have the adoption papers ready. Let me know when you’re ready for full custody.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Children should never be parts of experiments because the results can be horrible for society.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I don’t have the patience and it would be financially difficult to support my mom and a child when I am pretty selfish and materialistic.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Now that’s creepy but an interesting idea.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Please don’t be a single mother intentionally.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    That’s true, however, she could STILL adopt me all day!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Ha.ha,ha!!!

  • Jygalo

    Nope. I love my babies to death but I would be lying if I said I didn’t miss the time I spent staying at home with them vs furthering my career. I have three more years till they are in high school then watch out world I’m getting back on top lol

  • Jygalo

    Oh no I don’t play that. I don’t have more than I can afford. Daycare and summer camp is expensive as heck.

    Good for you. If it’s meant to be it will be.

  • T3

    Preach!!!! Then it’s the ones with the ill mannered ones that have multiples. Throw the whole uterus away!!!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    Good You know about those two factors – patience and money because they are greatly needed for children. And it doesn’t seem like You are trying to live with too much on Your plate which is excellent. Nothing is worth your stress free life!!! And You most definitely owe yourself a life, no matter what else is going on.

  • V Dubb

    ??? The whole fauking uterus hun!!!!!????

  • Dahl

    She answered that question nine million times over the last 30 years, who is still asking her this and why??? And she is giving me plus-size EJ vibes in those shoes…

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    My life won’t be stress-free until after my mom transitions.

    Ha,ha,ha!!!

  • RudyHuxtable

    Oprah is true to herself. Being true to yourself does not make you a narcissist. She would have been selfish to bring an unwanted child into this world. I have one child and everyone keeps asking me when will I have my second. Why? So you can help me fund him & her? Will you be there for me emotionally & physically? I respect Oprah & her honesty. I know women with multiple children who I felt should not have conceived any. They had children to be loved. Not the other way around.

  • laidbackgal4real

    The truth coming out .. she’s not human ?

  • Thefreestyler

    But she has all those dogs that she loves as her babies and they don’t speak. She has a motherly instinct with them. I think she underestimated her power and motherly instinct in that area of her life because she is a mother to many who don’t ever speak to her and will never meet her. She speaks her strength in overcoming so many other things, which is amazing. I think she missed it on this one. She in my opinion is and would have been just as a good mother as she is a friend.

  • Malcom Flex

    STOP BRING UP OTHER RACES WHEN WE ARE TALKING ABOUT US BLACK FOLKS!! DAMN!

    BP are known to lay hands feet stick and stones on their kids and you know it. BP are the most ‘religious’ eye roll!-here in American and we/they (I don’t have kids) BEAT THE HELL OUT OF KIDS the most and we alll know it.

    On the daily I see a black single mother treating her kids like old sh!t! And we got the nerve to talk about other races when we can’t even treat our own with compassion.

  • Cali

    Soooo annoying, the question alone is invasive and disrespectful. How many times must this woman talk about WHY she didn’t get married or have children? Maybe, because it’s her f*cking choice? Maybe she has no desire to lead the life of average in any way ever again in any capacity. And why should she? Because misery loves company, there is some slow pitiful mofos out there, looking for anything to distract their attention from themselves. The hate will only intensify as she WILL be the next US president, suckers.

  • kekeb

    YOU were limiting your observations to one race of people, which I find to be ignorant. I can and will note observations as I see fit.
    God bless you though

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    At least you know not to add extra stress to your life, like trying to keep up with the Joneses!!!

  • Malcom Flex

    PHONY. I don’t believe in your fake god. And here at the Garden I focus on BLACK PEOPLE.

  • Atlanta_Girl

    I have never had a desire for kids. I’m 43. ZERO patience for screaming kids. Never appealed to me for a single moment. I had to have an emergency hysterectomy at 32 – doctors were trying to avoid it in case I changed my mind – told them to yank it out. But I love my pets. (I don’t call them my kids).

  • Atlanta_Girl

    Several of my friends with kids say they wish they never had them.

  • Atlanta_Girl

    You can’t exactly return the kid if you realize it was a mistake.

  • Atlanta_Girl

    I have zero patience for them – thankfully, none of my friends even suggest me babysitting.

  • Atlanta_Girl

    They just have to say they have no kids that they are aware of. I say that too – usually takes it a moment to kick in.

  • Atlanta_Girl

    I have friends that get married before even discussing kids. How is that possible?

  • SDot

    ?????
    God don’t make mistakes ???

  • Atlanta_Girl

    Vs the baby whose father or mom’s boyfriend beats the baby to death… guess that wasn’t mistake either.

    Or the 16yr old girl whose family didn’t know she was pregnant – she had the baby and left it on someone’s doorstep when it was 27°.

    Not mistakes?

  • SDot

    You’re going too deep. But I hear u.

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    It happens of course. People in relationships and are not married, don’t always discuss having children.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    And those gay women who have kids are fulfilling their purpose in life. Homosexuality is who we sleep with, it is not who we are.

  • Ang

    This isn’t news. Oprah has said exactly that for years.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    Shut up Oprah. No one cares. She keeps digging up the same old skeletons. Shows how shallow her life really is.

  • Holler If Ya Hear Me

    It’s possible to do both. But it’s not for everyone.

  • PynkCloudz

    This a good thing. Much better to recognize than to have children to only be neglected. The world has one too many children with bad parents.

  • Storm’s Rage!

    So, true. I wish more of these dumb girls would recognized that they just want the d i c k and the man, but not the child(ren).

  • Michael Washington

    Pets are far far far better than children…NOT at all meant in a disrespectful way to parent , children or lovers of children..
    I love them too..

    But..c’mon…There not many arguments left as to having more than 2 at most kids..

  • Michael Washington

    I really wish yall would speak up…The kids having crazies run this dialogue and conversation in ALL spaces..frfr

  • Michael Washington

    we cant wait to get you back! kids are the responsibility….the!

  • Patty Anderson

    So yall just ‘gon act like you don’t see that hammertoe screaming to be released from bondage in that left shoe? #12YearsABunion

  • T3

    Please and thank you!

  • Han Han

    Humm….skip to 1:20 in this Barbara Walter’s 1988 interview where Oprah talks about her future son or daughter with Stedman: http://abcnews.go.com/2020/video/1988-barbara-walters-interviews-oprah-12310378 .

    Having kids or not is a false choice. Oprah didn’t chose not to have children, she chose to make her career her main priority. Seriously do you really think a guy with 4 different baby mommas chose to have those kids? No, he chose to not make his career his main priority. Only men with no jobs or prospects have the time to get multiple women pregnant.