Kate Spade

Fashion icon Kate Spade was so distraught over her impending divorce from husband Andy Spade that she committed suicide in her New York City apartment on Tuesday.

Spade, 55, wrote a suicide note to her daughter, 13-year-old Frances Beatrix, telling her to "ask daddy" why she killed herself. Then she fashioned a red scarf into a noose and hanged herself from a doorknob.

Spade was upset over “problems at home,” a source tells the NY Daily News.

Police disputed earlier reports that Andy Spade was in the Upper East Side apartment when Spade died. He wasn't there.

A housekeeper discovered Spade's body in a bedroom at 10:10 am. She was pronounced dead at 10:20 am. The note was found on the bed near her body.

Her husband, Andy Spade, broke his silence and revealed Spade to Reuters that Spade suffered from comorbid depression and anxiety disorders.

Page Six reports that Andy Spade looked at a few apartments in preparation to begin his life as a single father several months ago.

Kate Spade

Spade's sister Reta Saffo said in an email to the Daily News that she was not surprised that Spade took her own life.

Saffo confirmed that Spade suffered from bipolar disorder (manic depression).

“I will say this was not unexpected by me. I'd flown out to Napa and NYC several times in the past 3-4 years to help her to get the treatment she needed (inpatient hospitalization). She was always a very excitable little girl and I felt all the stress/pressure of her brand (KS) may have flipped the switch where she eventually became full-on manic depressive,” Saffo wrote.

Safe said she tried to get Spade into treatment in her later years, but the fashion designer was concerned about her public image if word got out.

“She was all set to go — but then chickened out by morning. We’d get sooo close to packing her bags, but -- in the end, the ‘image’ of her brand (happy-go-lucky Kate Spade) was more important for her to keep up. She was definitely worried about what people would say if they found out,” Saffo said.

FYI: an earlier version of this post attributed misquoted Kate Spade's sister, Eve Brosnahan. That quote was deleted. I apologize for the error.

Photo by Getty Images

  • cherrypie

    Living with someone who is bi-polar is no joke. He was with her for over 20 years and prolly just had enough. No telling what they went through over the years but what's sad is that instead of getting help she chose to end her life. No regard for her 13 year old baby.

  • Yoni7

    I never knew what she looked like until yesterday. She reminds me of the mom from the movie Home Alone.

  • imright

    what a selfish arrogant bitch !! ? then left that devastating note to her daughter !!! THE AUDACITY ?

  • hi-liter

    I knew it would be something of this nature after that note said "AsK Daddy." An affair or he wanted a divorce. But shid I would have happily given him what he wanted and moved my wealthy ass on. But hey, everybody ain't me.

  • Connie

    Not to sound insensitive or anything, but how do one hang oneself from a doorknob?

  • Yoni7

    I've heard this before and STILL don't understand how it's possible.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Who you tellin...My azz woulda been in Greece getting my back blown out by the pool guy or gardener...oh well...

  • hi-liter

    BOL!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Scarf on door knob...throw it over the door and hang the other way...its a horrible way to go smh...

  • LP

    Right, you have to really want to die. I would've got up off that floor as soon as it got real...like never mind.

  • Yoni7

    Just like in Acrimony when he cut her that check......my ass woulda deuced him out THEN!

  • LP

    I felt bad for her yesterday, today I'm feeling exactly what you wrote!

  • Quitedeliteful

    LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!

  • Yoni7

    Ok, NOW I got it! So basically, her back was against the door.

  • Connie

    Must be a really long scarf

  • MoniquetheGeek

    Same. I was thinking she reminded me of an actress too. Couldn't remember the actress's name until I saw your post. I was thinking more Tea Leoni.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Yeah I think so...this is such a shame...

  • Yoni7

    She was definitely worried about what people would say if they found out
    ____________________

    Guess she said "fukk it" this time.

  • Yoni7

    Where can I find this note. I haven't followed this story much. I (sorta) got time today.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Depending on the type of door and the type of scarf... Some pashmina's can be up to 4 ft long depending on the wrap and texture...but im only speculating...

  • pure_rachet

    Poor rich white woman...

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    And not trying to be funny, I WONT date a man with mental issues...Especially documented mental issues. Mainly because I'm afraid I or something simple may trigger a emotion and then OFF my neck comes my head......Plus, they barely get punished by law because of that documentation.....Bless the hearts of those who still push through the relationships despite of.....I'm too paranoid to deal with a man with mental illnesses.......

  • Yoni7

    Tea Leoni? Name sounds familiar, can't think of the face.

  • DETROITTOATL

    Whatever happened, my heart goes out to her little girl. Prayers to her family and friends.

  • Connie

    Now you made me google 'pashmina'

  • Kemi

    She left a guilty & self centered note for her daughter to justify her selfish doing! This is heart wrenching for the 13 years old. No child or even an adult is emotionally prepared for shxt like this... shame!

  • Yoni7

    I won't date a man who dislikes his mother and talks bad about his baby mother, his exes or women in general......without (good enough) reason. No documentation needed. LBS

  • MoniquetheGeek

    It's really sad that her public image and brand were more important than her own health. I hope I never get to a point where I care more about my public persona than I do my health and well-being.

  • Yoni7

    Coulda been a torn piece of material from a dress or something. #possibilities

  • hi-liter

    Seem like a lot of these people don't become bi-polar until they become wealthy.

  • MoniquetheGeek

    The chick/witness from Bad Boys

  • Quitedeliteful

    Image is never more important than health or children. People would not have stopped buying her fashions just because she was mental. Folks would have probably labeled her a 'creative genius'.

  • Yoni7

    Hell, a lot of people don't have "mental issues" until they kill a building full of people. IJS Notice how the police NEVER have mental issues when they kill an unarmed person. Again, just saying.

  • Karen Brady

    Exactly. That's silly to me.People want fashion, they ain't thinking about your disorder. Plus clearly some folks are still buying Koonye's music so whatever.

  • MoniquetheGeek

    It was typed up in the tribute post 2-3 stories down...
    “Bea – I have always loved you. This is not your fault. Ask Daddy!”

  • Miss Thang

    I feel so sorry for her and her family. I understand completely. I wouldn’t wish the torture of an unwell mind on my worst enemy. It could be a beautiful sunny day and you can’t even appreciate it because you feel like you’re in hell and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel

  • Yoni7

    GIRL! I bet her items are about to sky rocket like Versace (I know he didn't die by suicide...but).

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    Me either and I teach my daughter the same. If he will disrespect his Mother, you aint got shit coming towards your way but the same!!!!! I found that out in my very first relationship at 17. He was talking slick/greasy to his mother on the phone......Not long after that, it got my turn.....Neva again.....Lesson learned.....

  • Yoni7

    OH WOW! Thanks for the receipts.

  • Bossy704

    One of my closest friends was bipolar and left behind 4 children and a lot of hurt. I was so angry I didn't go to the funeral. Suicide is hard on everyone but both my friend and Kate had mental health issues and we can never know what anyone is going through.

  • Quitedeliteful

    I'm about to run to Marshall's and TJ Maxx today.... LOL!!!!!

  • Yoni7

    Bay-bay! Told my daughter the same. A man that doesn't respect his mother/women, will NEVER respect you.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Your friend must have been going thru a lot to leave behind four children especially knowing that the burden of raising them is now left to other family members...

  • Yoni7

    Foggy...but yeah, I see it. LOL

  • Karen Brady

    Okay!!! I would have helped him pack his raggedy duffel bag (nod to Max on Living Single), asked him what days he wanted visitation and went back to counting my millions. See ya boo.

  • BadAss Will

    Fuck him but that's must have been a high door knob to be able to hang from. Thats Odd...

  • Miss Thang

    Look at Robin Williams’s death scene photos and you will see.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Just goes to show that money doesn't buy you happiness... (I'll still take the money tho...)

  • Karen Brady

    LOL.. not funny but funny at the same time. For real though.

  • Yoni7

    50% off tribute sale.

  • Roxie Moxie

    RIGHT!!! That was the FIRST thing that came to my mind when I saw she put her child into her mess. You already killed yourself and caused turmoil and yet you want to burden your daughter with this responsibility?? My god!!

  • Yoni7

    Suicide is hard on everyone
    ___________________

    All the way down to the damn family pet! Ask me how I know.....

  • 100milesperhour

    Like killing herself is a prank where she can come back & see how it affects her husband. You gave him what he wanted in a round about way. Her note is so cavalier towards her daughter. She killed herself in the house while he was home, but the housekeeper found her body. She was hoping her husband did.

  • Miss Thang

    That’s how you know she wasn’t well. She couldn’t even picture her life without him.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    He wasnt there.

    "Police disputed earlier reports that Andy Spade was in the Upper East Side apartment when Spade died. He wasn’t there."

  • Roxie Moxie

    I agree. Doesn't sound right.....

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    I had friend did this sadly. By a doorknob .... but I do believe in my friends situation it may have been more to it... but hell I said the same thing when we heard how it went down. . Sheesh

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Im sorry Honey...LOL....

  • king shun

    white women take marriage seriously

  • Roxie Moxie

    Bwhahahaha!!! Or by some fine ass Dominican. *wink*

  • Quitedeliteful

    Yep!!! Plenty folk still support R. Kelly's music too. No one cares if you are bat-shyt crazy!!!

  • Phillybruh

    Before I met my partner, someone I dated committed suicide. Its a very hard thing for those left behind to move on from. I wish them all well.

  • Dowoop

    To bad white men don't eh

  • Kemi

    I really feel for the daughter... growing up without her mom. And knowing, mental illness/ lack of coping skills took her mom out of this world. I hope she turns out ok mentally & emotionally in life.

  • Karen Brady

    Her sister said she was OBSESSED with Robyn Williams' death. Kept watching the coverage over and over and so her sister said she's been planning it since then for sure. :-(.

  • Karen Brady

    On. the. floor. Whoopin' and hollerin' over here.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Snicker...

  • Karen Brady

    Giggle

  • Roxie Moxie

    Exactly! Who knows...she might have helped someone if she admitted it. Some people might see a celebrity whose going through the same thing and have some hope that they aren't the only ones.

  • JV

    Definitely, hopefully it isn't inherited.

  • sherri2016

    If she would've gotten help her customers may have seen her as relatable it may have helped her brand

  • king shun

    black men also take it serious

  • Karen Brady

    Right!!! I forgot that piss-pot lol.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    I would agree that what she did was very selfish, but damn you went in. Are you alright?

  • Quitedeliteful

    LMBAOFFFFFFFFFFF!!!!!!

  • Kemi

    My thoughts exactly

  • Phillybruh

    So it would have been ok for her to use her mental illness to sell pocketbooks but for Kanye its a no?

  • Kayke

    This is sad....to be honest I don't know why people marry much less make children with unstabled people. Poor child.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I think I've read that having all your body's weight pulling on a scarf/ belt etc. would cause you to choke, and you can black out within 30-40 seconds or even less. You die by asphyxiation soon after that.

  • Quitedeliteful

    20 years with someone bi-polar! I'm surprised he didn't leave sooner... She probably had him feeling all guilty and threatening suicide every time he tried to leave...

  • Kemi

    It’s frightening to think, she did it to spite him! But their daughter is the one that’s going to affect by this in the long run.

  • tia

    good point you have. But sometimes you don't know your mate is crazy until AFTER the fact :(

    Sometimes we get signs beforehand and sometimes that mask doesn't fall off until later.

  • Kayke

    Kanye is not using his mental illness to sell anything. He is only using his mental illness as an excuse when his actions or words are struck down.

  • Roxie Moxie

    So....are you sitting on a floor as you do this? And pulling forward? I'm just having a hard time wondering where gravity comes in at. Unless the belt/scarf was tied extremely tight.

  • Babytokyo

    As a child left behind from a parent of suicide... excuse me I normally don’t argue on the internet, but you are the arrogant selfish bitch for speaking on someone else’s demons you don’t know about. The audacity ?...sometimes empathy and compassion is best and when you cannot do that just keep silent.

  • Yoni7

    Sis tellin' it ALL, ain't she?

  • Kemi

    That’s eerie

  • Yoni7

    BLOOP! LOL

  • sherri2016

    They both could but not exploit mental illness let their fans know they are real people with real issues

  • Sushi

    ok at the first run of this story I had sympathy for her, but to know that she did it because of a divorce, and to spite her husband basically, changes my mind, she was selfish taken away her own daughter's mother....

  • Kayke

    Yeah, I could see that. But so many see the signs and ignore them.

  • Yoni7

    and to spite her husband basically
    ______________

    When I read that, I'm like "this damn white woman was having a temper tantrum." Bitch take the loss and move on. Might take some time, but you'll LIVE to tell about it. Sheesh!

  • no name

    I hope she did not kill herself b/c of a pending divorce. Selfish as hell. smh... You leave your daughter behind b/c you selfish.

  • Kemi

    You’re so right.. some think they can just wish it away or suppress it till it’s too late.

  • tia

    you right... they turn a blind eye. I've been there

  • Kayke

    Thats the "straw that broke the camels back" not the only reason she did this. She was sick for years and that was attested to. It took her over the edge and because of her history with mental instability I can't judge this action as one of complete understanding on her behalf. You're speaking from a sane mind.

  • http://www.mylifeinlame.com/?m=1 Kimberly

    Right! I’m not going to leave him here single with ALL of the money. Nah. Divorce me, I’ll move on. ??

  • Yoni7

    When I think of suicide by "hanging", I always think about the old man in Shawshank Redemption. All this "doorknob" stuff is unfathomable to me. I just can't/don't see it.

  • Phillybruh

    Please if you listen too his album its nothing but his mental illness rapping. Which is actually kinda good.

  • Yoni7

    Sorry for your loss.

  • Yoni7

    I never thought to look at them. I will.........one day.

  • Cannelle

    Demons is the perfect word for it. They've crept upon me before, so I know the feeling personally.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • jazmine

    I’m sorry you had to go through that and yes that comment is DISGUSTING and so is every up vote. That woman had a severe clinical mental disorder that she suffered from for years and the first thing some trifling people can think is to call her selfish smfh

  • Phillybruh

    It's the internet, Its where people have courage that they normally do not have.

  • Sushi

    Granted, but at some point don't you think of the loved ones, and children you are really going to shatter, with this decision?

  • dblogged

    Lie

  • Yoni7

    They don't.

  • Phillybruh
  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i'm so sorry for your loss (and for your mother's struggle). we never know what a person is struggling with or how fragile someone really is, because we all put up a brave front in order to navigate this harsh world. thank you for sharing. you may have helped someone today. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/e86501847072dcba783eea0bbb2c002d3ed3d888581b08556155899f7897582f.gif

  • Yoni7

    Almost like a "I will kill myself to see if he comes to the funeral and cry." type thing.

  • Ni Ni

    You summed it up perfectly!

  • Yoni7

    Sorry for your loss.

    If I might ask, how old were you when it happened?

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    bless you.

  • Cannelle

    Also, some symptoms worsen with age. How much they worsen we can never know for sure, because each person is different. But as you say, sometimes there are obvious signs...

  • Cannelle

    Thanks Nancy :)

  • FukkFolks2018

    Said it yesterday. Stigma. Across the board. Black, white, yellow, rich, poor.

    Of what people will think. How OTHER people feel about you. Stop letting other people shape your outlook on anything. Your health. Your happiness. Life decisions.

    And other folks...stop being so gatdamed judgemental about people. Tend to YOU

  • leapyearpisces

    I am going to go ahead and finish up this relationship book (specifically about breaking up) I been working on. It's needed, and I am sure it will help people. I address and provide numbers to get help if you are feeling suicidal after a break-up. No other human being is worth you not wanting to be on this earth. If people have to live with the devastating loss of a child - somebody you birthed from your body-surely we can get over the loss of a relationship / marriage /lover / husband. Now, I do understand there are underlying factors, such as she had as far as depression etc. that also play a factor. I am not versed to address mental issues, I am just speaking on plain ole my heart is broken so I don't want to live anymore - I address that in my book. At any rate, RIP Kate, and may her daughter find healing because this is who is really going to be hurt, and scarred by this. That husband, will do what men ALWAYS do, and move on to the next.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Kanye is using his to put down his own people. It's not the same

  • Phillybruh

    When did he do that?

  • Dollface

    Exactly why I don't have children and not in any rush to be married. I am absolutely cool! There's always that one, but he not trying to get married and already got himself fixed. Bwhaaaa!

  • Cannelle

    Well said.

    But it is SO hard. I was thinking about how much I compare myself to others (in the professional sense) daily. It is like we are all raised to be competitive, and if you don't measure up, it can be hard to take. Some of us are able to deal easier than others.

  • Yoni7

    How OTHER people feel about you. Stop letting other people shape your outlook on anything.
    ________________
    IDC. IDC. IDC! When you have the mindset of not caring about what others think AND do........LIFE IS GRAND, you hear me??!!!

  • FukkFolks2018

    Slavery is a choice is a slap in the face to everyone who has an ancestor who experienced slavery against their will

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i agree, Lol! (but then, i've Never been suicidal even in my darkest moments - i've had some homicidal thoughts, but that's about it).

    i also think it probably had a lot to do with the daughter. she may have feared that if Andy moved out, the daughter would probably want to go with him (which is plausible if Kate was increasingly unstable). that scenario probably was too much for her, and she probably felt that she would be abandoned and just 'left for dead' ....that could easily push an already fragile person over the edge. (just speculating and trying to understand.... no judgement.)

  • Ni Ni

    She was definitely worried about what people would say if they found out,” Saffo said.
    ___________
    That's understandable & also sad. Privacy is no longer respected.

  • Miss Thang

    she killed herself because she was sick in the head and couldn't handle the stress of a divorce.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Ni Ni

    Guess she said might as well.

  • Miss Thang

    to spite her husband? She's the one that's dead, dummy! she was a sick person for many years.

  • Phillybruh

    I guess if yawl take what these celebrities say too heart. Everyone is entitled to believe what they want know matter how foolish it may sound.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Yoni7

    No other human being is worth you not wanting to be on this earth.
    _____________

    THIS! I got TOO much to lose and EVERYTHING to live for.

  • Miss Thang

    when i was suicidal, yes I thought of my loved ones. I thought they'd be better off without me. That my emotional problems were a pain to them. That I was causing them problems and they'd be happier if I was erased,

  • Yoni7

    I'm sorry you felt this way. Don't ever compare yourself to what others do and have. You don't know what they did or didn't do to get there.

  • Phillybruh

    The husband was mearly the excuse used. Not the reason.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Make a short noose, tie it to a doorknob and sit down on the floor. In this video from The Wire, an inmate stages D'Angelo's murder to make it look like a suicide by hanging.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TJI5EBxdP6k&t=1m05s

  • FukkFolks2018

    That's where you seek help wherever it is available. Talk to someone. Medical intervention bc it could be a chemical imbalance. Your fam. Friends. Your spiritual guidance whatever that maybe. It's ok. But look at what internalizing it CAN lead to. Not always lead to. But it can. It totally can. Good luck to you on your journey

  • Omandesert

    Kate should have played the victim another way. She could have publicly announced she was suffering with a mental disorder, portrayed her husband as mentally and physically abusive, have her lawyers immediately file for sole custody of her daughter, get a girlfriend and ride the LGBT ???? ban wagon. Problem solved!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    sorry for your loss.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Im learning this daily. It's a journey. A walk. And it's very personal. It doesn't fit one size for all. It's personalized. I recommend it for everyone

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    chilling.

  • Cannelle

    Thanks!

    Indeed, to make things harder, I am in another country, where English is not the official language, and far away from most people I know. So it is very isolating. It is hard to find English-speaking help. I am weighing my options on now.

  • Sushi

    All of this

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    exactly. unfortunately, she was so deep in despair that she was probably too irrational to see that as a possibility, smh.

  • MissHarlem

    No one is in charge of your happiness but YOU. No material possessions, another human or pet. You come first before all others. Katt said it best esteem of your motherfckn self.

  • Kemi

    The husband will have to cope with the emotional burden that she’s dead cos of him. Which in turn could affect his relationship with his daughter and other family members. If care is not taken, he and their daughter could end up emotionally & mentally scarred for the rest of their lives.
    She’s dead but she left a trail of destruction.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Use your online resources if needed. You can even find counselors and life coaches who use Skype etc.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    no; it would have been okay for her to get help, and when she was strong enough, share something of her story. in doing that she could have sent a message of 'even people who appear to have everything sometimes need help because mental illness does not discriminate'

  • Yoni7

    Girl I BEEN stopped caring about what other folks feel and think about ME and MINE! You know I ALWAYS say...."What works for me in MY household, may not work for you in yourn. Now move around." And I MEAN IT! When you get in THAT mindset..........the world is yours!

  • Miss Thang

    THANK YOU so much for saying this! God bless you! When I say people are out here DYING instead of getting the help they need because they're so scared of what other people think and how other people feel! My God!

  • leapyearpisces

    Sorry for your loss, and yes people need to be MORE compassionate, because you NEVER know what torment someone is going through. Just because we cannot understand someone else's pain, does not mean it is not real.
    People always want to condemn those who committ suicuide ,but I have realized, that one must be in a TREMENDOUS amount of agony to take their own life. The sentiment that was expressed is PROBABLY the main reason why KATE didn't want to get help, because people are so insensitive and critical - so people suffer in silence. You know, you tell someone you have cancer or any other DEBILITATING disease you get the "oooh's and awwww's, how I can I help? what can I do for you?" You tell someone that you are depressed or that you are sad, etc." you get the "suck it up, tomorrow will be better", but being severely depressed or manic depressive or even SEVERLEY heartbroken IS a DEBILITATING disease as well, and people just need to be more empathetic and compassionate. Period.

  • Yoni7

    RIGHT!

  • Music

    The sisters are spilling all the tea. They must not be in her Will.

  • Rico768

    so this is the hateful and slanderous way you would have dealth with it? accuse him of being unfit when several of her relatives have reported she suffered from mental illness and that they are not surprise she killed her self
    but back to you playing that emotional game.....is that what broken women do?

  • Yoni7

    RIGHT! Get it out and get it told EARLY! Don't let others tell THEIR story about YOU and yourn. Get it done and move on. Nothing more to see here, folks. Because the media WILL drag your name through the mud as long as possible. They STILL talking about MJ, Prince AND Whitney. STILL!

  • Phillybruh

    But all that would have been to help her brand. According to the posts so her sharing that wouldn't have been genuine.

  • FukkFolks2018

    just because we cannot understand someone else's pain, does not mean it is not real
    ^^^^
    A whole word. This whole thing is irritating me. The comments of she was rich. She was white. Why she didn't get help...?

    Like really? She is dead now. And folks talking like this about her in a judging manner is mostly exactly why not.

  • RespectSelf

    Hate to bring Kanye up... But this is what he was talking about when he said we stuck in a mental prison. Folks are so concerned about what people may think or say about them if they live in their truths. Can you blame them? Do you read the comments? smh It is really sad and it really isn't worth your life.

  • Music

    Mental illness is an actual disease. Kate just got to the point where the disease overpowered her own mind. Do you really think a person with a healthy mind would voluntarily leave this Earth, and leave their child behind?!

  • FukkFolks2018

    It's not a hard concept to grasp. Why folks don't get it is irking the mess outta me

  • FukkFolks2018

    Others aren't there yet. I commend the ones who are.. but try not to condemn the ones who are mid personal walk or have yet to start

  • Miss Thang

    Her customer is not like dumbass Kanye fans. She was a real deal businesswoman. You think fashion elite and manufacturers and real business people want to know they dealing with a mentally ill businesswoman? No. You better project the image that you have your shit together. Because that is what a real PROFESSIONAL does. That woman was probably on so many medications just to hold her head together for interviews/red carpet appearances, etc. And those psychiatric meds after being taken for many years DO change your brain chemistry and you don't know how your brain is going to react.

  • king shun

    well women keep kids away from their dads and even kill the kids to spite the father so this is not shocking

  • Kemi

    On point! The take away is WE are all judgmental in one area/context in life. Hence, we are here on this blog exercising our opinions on different topics, cultures, views what have you.

  • Karen Brady

    Right!!

  • Karen Brady

    VERY

  • Miss Thang

    Kanye is mentally ill but he is advertising it as a positive and an attribute which IT IS NOT. Mental illness is a killer. Kanye out here trying to make the shit look glamorous. He's a fool.

  • Miss Thang

    not gonna lie. I looked up the death scene photos of Robin Williams to see how I could do it myself.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Listen. You articulated that in a way I couldn't

  • Miss Thang

    how you know?

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    All good... This was years ago... Death brings awareness to things ...

  • leapyearpisces

    I agree. Like I feel people (not all) are being quite insensitive for the reasons you stated. Its like "HOW dare this bish kill her self when she was living the good life", and I am still here, having to live from check to check". Its like people are OFFENDED by her killing HERSELF. SMH...but what a lot of people fail to realize is the "good" life is SUBJECTIVE...folks going to realize one day that MONEY and MATERIAL things cannot HEAL a broken person and a broken spirit, and on that note, I will say the same thing I said to my homegirl's 9 year old cousin who finally succumb to her brain cancer two weeks ago, "RIP in peace, at least you are no longer in pain", and the same goes for Kate. "Rest in peace, at least you are no longer in pain".

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Nope no Dominicans LOL...the ones I've messed with didn't have alot of "equipment" down there...they are beautiful to look at tho....

  • FukkFolks2018

    I agree. I'm not un-guilty (made up word I think lol )of that. We all judge at some point. Me included. Just know in some cases it can be deadly; at the very least hurtful. etc

  • Yoni7

    My brother committed murder-suicide in 1998. The family was torn apart. We forgot all about the family dog. I happened to ride pass the house one day, maybe a week later and saw him sitting in the backyard (of the empty house). Just sitting there. Left. Alone. A family friend took him in.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    well dang. you can't say that for sure though. and even it turned out to be a little bit of both, someone could have still been helped, potentially.

  • FukkFolks2018

    All
    Of
    This
    !!!!

  • Yoni7

    No condemnation HERE, by any means. I want everyone to get there however long it takes. Yes it is a journey. DOn't quIT! (<---read the caps) #encouragementeverywhere

  • Kemi

    Exactly. We have to take responsibility for the energy we put out there. I’m learning and bettering myself to be more sensitive and cautious of what I say/act.

  • Miss Thang

    "she may have feared that if Andy moved out, the daughter would probably want to go with him (which is plausible if Kate was increasingly unstable)."

    In my darkest moments, this probably would have been enough to push me over the edge. You know Kate had to have experienced a lot of rejection in her life as a businesswoman. She sold her namesake company when she finally had her daughter in order to raise her fulltime. Her daughter was the love of her life, but she couldn't stay healthy/sane enough as a mom. Then to even think your own baby could possibly reject you, she probably felt like "oh no, take me out of here now, God!"

  • FukkFolks2018

    Oh not you. In general. On why folks aren't able to move around. Bc They have yet to start or finish most times their own journey. Poor thing is what comes to my mind when I encounter those type people

  • Ni Ni

    Get it out and get it told EARLY! Don't let others tell THEIR story about YOU and yourn.
    __________
    So True

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    and i'm thinking that after today, i'm not gonna continue to gravitate too much to this story. it's just too sad and depressing (not that i'm suicidal, but i am melancholy as hail and it'll just make me sad in my spirit).

  • Miss Thang

    get a skinny Dominican. you wont be disappointed.

  • Miss Thang

    thank you for showing such compassion. I wish more people like you were in this world.

  • Yoni7

    Today is the first (and last) day. I'm only here NOW because I hadn't been able to log onto SR dot com. Stories like these, send me into the "Yoni, now you know that's wasn't the right thing to say" comment section. LOL #unpopularvote

  • Yoni7

    HONEY YES!!!!!

  • Neva RuthLess

    Okay. Money affords you opportunity and resources for mental health. She had the money she should have taken advantage of a psychiatrist and psychotropics.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    wait... what? i don't want to be overly dramatic here, but your comment is 'concerning' ....are you getting the help you need to cope with what you're feeling? (no judgement, just concern)

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Strip Club Veteran

    Mfs always ready to kill themselves over someone leaving when often times they are the reason the other party is leaving.

  • Kayke

    Yeah, me a sane person. I don't expect rational thought from an irrational mind....devil's advocate ...I can't imagine being parented by a mental ill parent being conducive to a child's well being, either. It's just a sad situation and you using logic for the actions of a unstabled person, doesnt make sense.

  • Kayke

    I won't listen to anything from Kanye ever again. I don't. Care who raves about it. Never.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • BrownIsBack

    My brother committed suicide and I thought it was very selfish and I was very angry until I read the letter he left my mom letting her know the pain he was in. I've learned that just because I may be able to deal with something and get over it that doesn't mean the next person can.

  • Kayke

    I agree but money doesn't make the stigma of mental illness anymore palatable.

  • BrownIsBack

    I met a guy who I really enjoyed talking to until he told me he had PTSD and it was the same situation. I didn't know what his triggers were and it made me uncomfortable

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    truer words never spoken.... folks so outwardly focused on what the next one is doing (and usually according to them, you're doing it wrong), as if they just need to 'fix' the next person so they can find peace in their own situation. bish i am Not your problem, and my business is Not your business. move around indeed! TUH!

  • Kayke

    Lol! Take your time...when you're in no rush, you make better decisions.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Same freshman year in college I dated a white gentleman who had ptsd from the military. He was cool but I had to hit the exit. I don’t mess with men who are officer, military, or fire fighters. I can’t take the risk.

  • Sushi

    Ok you were all good with the comment until you had to get out of lane, to educate someone on something is onething but to pull your head out of your ass is another, have several seats.....

  • GrapeCrush

    When you’re broken and suffering from mental illness you don’t think rationally. You’re only thinking of relief from the pain. According to her sister, she suffered from Bipolar Disorder and manic depression, but refused to get consistent treatment. She was in torment and probably thought her daughter would be better off without her. I’m not condoning what she did; just offering a different perspective.

  • BrownIsBack

    Every morning I'd have a good morning text and one day in particular I didn't get one and I'd gotten busy with work so around 9 am I got a text from him saying he was going to see how long it took me to check on him.............

  • Neva RuthLess

    I go back to my psychiatrist next Wednesday she prescribed me 5mg abilify because she believes I suffer from bipolar type 2 disorder. I believe it’s adhd and anxiety. Pills have done nothing but make me tired and lethargic lol. I feel like adderall and Xanax would help. I’m going to recommend that to her. I’m a young black woman 23, who for the first time just got help. Black men and women mental illness is real don’t be ashamed to get help. It’s ok to not be ok.

  • Sushi

    Thank you well said

  • Dun Dilly

    She was driving him insane( due to her own depression and refusal to seek help)...he decided to leave...she kills herself.....hmmmmm... Happy Days are here again for him.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    it's making your azz itch because folks are acting like a sick, scared, irrational person is supposed to be able to make a rational decision at the height of their despair.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    it's making your azz itch because folks are acting like a sick, scared, irrational person is supposed to be able to make a rational decision at the height of their despair.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    it's making your azz itch because folks are acting like a sick, scared, irrational person is supposed to be able to make a rational decision at the height of their despair.

  • GrapeCrush

    Girl you’ve said a mouth full! ??

  • GrapeCrush

    Girl you’ve said a mouth full! ??

  • GrapeCrush

    Girl you’ve said a mouth full! ??

  • Neva RuthLess

    I’m not sure im understanding.

  • Neva RuthLess

    I’m not sure im understanding.

  • Neva RuthLess

    I’m not sure im understanding.

  • BrownIsBack

    He was upset because I hadn't checked on him to find out why he hadn't sent me the usual "good morning" text

  • BrownIsBack

    He was upset because I hadn't checked on him to find out why he hadn't sent me the usual "good morning" text

  • BrownIsBack

    He was upset because I hadn't checked on him to find out why he hadn't sent me the usual "good morning" text

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    bless you, and thank you for sharing.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    bless you, and thank you for sharing.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    bless you, and thank you for sharing.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    *giggles a little*

    oh well, folks respond differently to tragic stories...

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    *giggles a little*

    oh well, folks respond differently to tragic stories...

  • Pnthr

    What a loser. Sorry I have zero sympathy and then telling her daughter to ask her father in the suicide note? Pathetic. White people have poor coping skills.

  • Kayke

    I'm realizing. I'm an island girl and mental illness is not taken seriously and most try to hide their suffering. I hope you receive what you need to get you on the right track and commend you for realizing you need the help. My hubby was diagnosed ADHD as a teen and doesn't like any pharmaceutics he's been prescribed ....his meds of choice is ganja and its helped him become a successful engineer and business owner.... I'm not a Dr. but it may be worth the try for you. Hopefully you live in a state that allows medical usage.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Oh ok I see. Yeah many people with mental issues can fall trapped feeling sorry for themselves, so they become needy and dependent upon others.

  • Neva RuthLess

    But as her husband he took an oath through sickness and in health. Would you leave your spouse if they were mentally ill and or suicidal?

  • Neva RuthLess

    Sorry for your loss. Hugs.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Men bounce back quickly from this type of stuff. Not to knock him or anything, but I bet the husband has a new girlfriend within 6-12 months. Maybe even sooner than that.

  • Neva RuthLess

    A younger and hotter one at that.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    The skeletons in the closet might've come out during the divorce proceedings so instead of facing any backlash, she decided to kill herself, even though the skeletons will still come out the closet. What a big dummy and a shi t excuse for a mother. Her daughter doesn't deserve this.

  • Judi Jupiter

    That was such a fu**ed up suicide letter. Poor girl. Now she'll think it's her dad's fault, when Mom was really always mentally unstable...smh...

  • Phillybruh

    Sometimes people deal with things in different ways, Mental Illness is not a killer to everyone its all in how someone chooses to deal with it. And if he chooses too look at his like a superpower than that is how he deals with it.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    Yes, if they weren't getting the help for it. She has all the money and resources available She just chose to be selfish instead.

  • Phillybruh

    Too each his own. I guess that's easier to boycott than everything else.

  • Trace da Ace

    damn...bless her heart. Prayers for her daughter.

  • Neva RuthLess

    When you love and care about someone who is mentally ill, they are usually not strong enough to do for themselves. As their spouse you should admit them to a clinic.

  • Dun Dilly

    ......AND...he gets the LOOT! DILLY DILLY!!

  • Phillybruh

    No I wouldn't.

  • Neva RuthLess

    She’s going to resent both of her parents. Her mom for abandoning her when she’s just entering womanhood. Her dad because of the perception that he drove her to commit suicide.

  • Dun Dilly

    YES I WOULD!! If you refuse to get help...I'm not gonna be hear for you to wake up and want to kill ME and u!! DUECES! I love you...but I LOVE ME MORE.

  • Phillybruh

    we don't know that, he could have very well been telling her she didn't need any help.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    You can't force someone (even your spouse) to get treatment if they refuse.
    It seems like she knew she should seek professional help but she resisted doing it, for years.

  • Dun Dilly

    *HERE

  • Vonn

    That suicide note never should have been made public. Ppl don't when to stfu. ???

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Under state law, he probably gets at least half. And she was worth well over $100 mill. So yeah, he's going to be a "chick-magnet" right away.

  • Vonn

    If my safety ever came into question, I sure would.

  • Kayke

    None easier than any other. You simply make the decision.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Yes. Left my own husband due to substance abuse among other issues. That too is an illness.

  • Neva RuthLess

    YEp! She was like oh so you don’t want me anymore fine then I’m gone. Horrible.

  • Miss Thang

    sometimes there is no self to esteem. there is a black hole in the soul that is only filled by another person (her husband) or a thing (her business) when that shit fails or leaves, there's nothing else to live for.

  • Babytokyo

    Thanks and when those demons come just know that you have so much to live for. It’s often those that give too much that neglect themselves. Always make sure your cup is full first.

  • Miss Thang

    the most important relationship a person has in this life is WITH THEMSELVES!

  • Miss Thang

    yep, and I'm sure Kate knew that deep down. The raw truth is much more dark and ominous: She didn't give a hoot about her life. it was worthless to her.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Im guessing that if you're kneeling down and then fall forward (or throw your weight forward), it would tighten up around your neck and choke you so tightly that you might black out pretty quickly.
    I'm not 100% sure though... just guessing based on how I think the physics behind it would work.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    Her other family members did, as stated above. The problem was her, clearly.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    Her other family members (sister) did, as stated above. The problem was her, clearly. If she didn't want to help herself, who else was supposed to?

  • Yoni7

    True.....and grieve differently as well.

  • MissHarlem

    I'm fully aware more than I allude. This was a very general foundation comment. Was reaffirmed for me in therapy .

  • Yoni7

    Thanks.

  • Kemi

    It’s very disturbing

  • leapyearpisces

    Amen to that!!!!

  • i troll it like i see it

    Yes a healthy well adjusted person would have just moved on and been happy they were successful enough to do so, but looks like she was unstable. I feel bad for her daughter.

  • MJ

    You are ultimately right..just because we don’t understand a thing it doesn’t give us a right to demonize a person that made a choice we wouldn’t have. It’s selfish without a doubt but what one is able to withstand another may simply not be able to.

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    They could have done treatment in her home.
    Seriously.
    She had/has the money. No one suggested that?

  • Babytokyo

    It happened almost two years ago. I was good and grown and had the same hurt as a little girl. It was my father the strongest man I know. Shot himself twice. He was so determined. When I tell people I get an empty look so I stopped telling my story. I learned more about my fathers selfless acts in death then I did in life. He never bragged. His desire to please others was not enough. People will suck the life out of you.I never once knew he was suffering. Men are taught to suck it up, but now I realize the world makes us all suck it up. Do u know how many friends I lost during this time? Life I so precious. Speak a little more kindly and gentle. Change yourself from the inside out and watch your world change. God bless those who judge because the world has a way of making you eat foot. ????

  • Miss Thang

    "The husband will have to cope with the emotional burden that she’s dead cos of him."

    But she's NOT dead because of him. SHE WAS SICK. It's no one's fault!

  • Cannelle

    Thanks for your thoughts. This is very true. For all we know, the people who seem to have it all could be suffering like the woman in this story. Still, I would still rather have it all.

  • Cannelle

    Very true. I am so sorry that your family had to go through that.

  • leapyearpisces

    My dad sister suffered with mental illness her entire life. She was bi-polar with paranoid scizophrenia. In and out of mental institutions her entire life. Many, many, many suicide attempts, and she finally succeeded in 2006 when she set herself and her house on fire in January 2006, so I.have seen it firsthand. Your mind can betray you, just like your body can.

  • Miss Thang

    I'm sure you have some kind of experience or authority to make these asinine statements?

  • Miss Thang

    yes, and thank you for your concern. truly. ((((hugs))))

  • TMW

    Being concerned with what people think will always lead to poor choices.

  • Cannelle

    Good on you! Keep recommending until you can find something that works best of you. It took me three tries and we found something that I could work with. It did help during the time I needed it.

  • Miss Thang

    I predict he will have a BOYFRIEND within the next 6-12 months. I have always felt in my heart that he was in the closet and they had an understanding.

  • Cannelle

    Indeed. it is hard to understand if you've never been there!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Cannelle

    Some men will bounce back, others will go off the deep end. I've known men who had serious breakups; nearly all of them lost a lot of weight (I mean, A LOT and they were skinny before). One attempted suicide, but failed, thank goodness.

    Everyone is different.

  • SDot

    So sad

  • Yoni7

    True and true. You just can't beat yourself up in the process. You are EXACTLY where you need to be in life. Trust me.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Omg I use to self medicate with weed and alcohol. The weed usually helped but I live in Ohio ?. Weed gave me conviction and motivation to succeed.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Omg I use to self medicate with weed and alcohol. The weed usually helped but I live in Ohio ?. Weed gave me conviction and motivation to succeed.

  • Yoni7

    I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND! Bless your heart! Everyday seems like yesterday. The shock never seems to go away. The death (suicide) is like no other. When you say "speak a little more kindly and gentle", I do it DAILY! One of my motto's (as there are several that I like to guide me through life) is "If you knew the power of your thoughts, you'd never think a negative thought again." It's true. Your mind is your greatest weapon. Nurture it and handle with care.

  • Yoni7

    I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND! Bless your heart! Everyday seems like yesterday. The shock never seems to go away. The death (suicide) is like no other. When you say "speak a little more kindly and gentle", I do it DAILY! One of my motto's (as there are several that I like to guide me through life) is "If you knew the power of your thoughts, you'd never think a negative thought again." It's true. Your mind is your greatest weapon. Nurture it and handle with care.

  • Kemi

    I’m not minimizing her mental illness or her inner turmoil whatsoever. A suicide note was left behind, pointing the finger. Consider how this will affect a 13 yo.

    Suicide does not take away the pain. The pain is transferred onto someone else, in this case, it’s the 13 yo and she has to live with that for the rest of her life. I wish this young lady much healing!!

  • Simone Harrison

    I was just interested in Kate’s story and then came across your comment. It’s wonderful that you are getting help but please be careful with those medications.
    A little weed and some spiritual grounding may be more helpful in the long run. All the best to you. Continue to take care of yourself in whatever way is best for your personal well being.

  • ??LordHell2TheNaw??

    Amen

  • Phillybruh

    How is it asinine that everyone doesn't deal with their mental issues the same.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I had one!!! He was so nice to look at in bed he was like a seal at Sea World...Chile....

  • Miss Thang

    oh heck no. you got a defective one:( i'm so sorry :(

  • Shawty

    Hope her daughter is okay. Suicide is a very selfish act!

  • Shawty

    Me too..

  • OvertheMississippi

    After Mommy died in January, I was on verge of checking myself into a facility. I thought I was fine because we’d watched her decline. “She is at rest.” Well, baby, one day I came unglued. It hit me outta no where that our bossy Queeny was gone. With 24 hours, I was on a psychiatrist’s couch! Had even told my sisters that I was in bad shape. Of course, they wanted to rescue baby sister, but I knew that I couldn’t wait. Thank God, I am here today.

  • mzwhang90210

    I'm glad that you are here too! God bless you!!

  • BrownIsBack

    Thanks!

  • OvertheMississippi

    Thank you. I share my disorder with my students and their parents when the are going through similar situations. I tell them God’s Grace and Mercy are sufficient but a lil Xanax and Lithium won’t hurt either. Lol

  • Connie

    Oh my God!

  • mzwhang90210

    Sorry for your family's loss. And I agree with you sometimes people just can NOT deal, no fault of theirs. Emotional and psychological pain can be excruciating!

  • Connie

    I can see it now....smh

  • Anji

    Condolences on your lost dear.

  • Shawty

    So you basically saying that she loved her husband MORE than she love her daughter? If that's not the case, I'm sure that's what her daughter will think!

  • Yoni7

    They release 911 calls AND video.......a note is "nothing" in comparison.

  • Yoni7

    But as her husband he took an oath through sickness and in health.
    _______________
    Tuh!
    "Every day people, they lie to God too. So what makes you think that they won't lie to you (the spouse)." ~Lauryn Hill

  • Yoni7

    *hugs you*

  • Guest

    Yes. That’s exactly what it was.

  • Connie

    THIS! Made me think about how savagely people judge Jada and Will Smith on how they parent their kids. How you gone tell me how to raise MY kids? If it works for me and my household, that's all that matters....STFU! Wendy Williams irked my soul couple days ago when she criticized Jada and Will for allowing THEIR son to move out at 15. How you know to what extent those people equipped their kids to take on the world? Bish....STFU and grow some hips and an azz!! Ends rant.....

  • Logan Roberts

    Exactly what's the point in having money then?

  • Logan Roberts

    I bet my rent money he already had some young hussy.

  • Connie

    Girl....I'm getting to realize more and more that mental illness is real. RIP to your friend.

  • Logan Roberts

    I knew Andy ass had played some part in this. I bet she wouldn't have left him if it was vice versa.

  • Connie

    No ma'am....won't be doing that...LOL. Sandra's Youtube Wire video up top scared tha ish outa me, and that's fictional. Yes, my name is Connie and I'm a punk

  • BrownIsBack

    Thanks!

  • BrownIsBack

    Thank you very much

  • BrownIsBack

    It was an eye opener for me and because of that I started taking classes that deal with mental illness to get a better understanding

  • BrownIsBack

    HUGS!

  • TheOwley

    Poor lady, let the asshat walk. This solved nothing and left a girl without her mother. Whatever happened for in sickness and in health for better or worse. RiP.

  • Kayke

    Same with my hubby! He wasn't and still isn't a drinker, but his ganja is a everyday thing and he is on point. I wish the stigma of weed would be corrected so folks can reap the benefits without the criminality. Those pharmacuetics make you unlike yourself and cause can cause other unwanted side effects.

  • Allihave2say

    A patient can have bipolar disorder, ADHD and anxiety as co-morbid disorders. It's important to share all your experiences with your psychiatrist. It' helpful to also make a list of symptoms and experiences to create a comprehensive dialogue.

  • Enoughsaid2020

    Very sad. May she rest in peace.

  • Allihave2say

    Her daughter will be asking her father "why didn't mommy love me enough to live?". This was a very selfish act on Kate's part. It's nice that so many remember her work, I hope for the sake of her daughter. I pass her purses up intentionally, no appeal to me I guess.

  • Applebootay

    And she did it for fame, image, that's the saddest part about it.....your image is worth more than time with your daughter.

  • Applebootay

    Try being raised by a bi-polar -co-morbid parent...

  • Liah

    So sad!

  • Shira Harding-James

    Move to Arizona

  • yvette46

    People always worrying about what other people are going to think.. Who cares what people think their are not taking care of you..Do what is right for you.

  • Shira Harding-James

    The stigma of mental illness is real.
    She was so worried about what “society” would think that she would rather leave her daughter motherless

  • imright

    this isnt about u. this lady killed herself & left a note for her daughter blaming her husband. i stand by my comment.

  • imright

    went in ?? selfish & arrogant ?? ive seen worse comments than that about kids on this sight?????

  • imright

    i read it on IG somewhere .... it said “its not ur fault blame ur father.”

  • dontgetblocked

    Another rich crazy azz white woman. What's new??

  • leapyearpisces

    E-hugs to you!!!! Muah!!!! XOXOXO.

  • MJ

    Exactly. A wreckless act with no regard for the 13 year old. Saying “Ask daddy” solidified the depth of the selfishness involved. Both of the adults mess was just dumped right in the child’s lap. What she couldn’t carry she had no problem with handing over to the daughter to carry.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    I was referring to the "bitch" part but nevermind dear.

  • BloodBlood

    Chicken way out of life!!

  • Guest

    I agree with you to a certain extent. That note to her daughter is the definition of a narcissist. It's one thing to take your life but to intentionally destroy the life of your child because of anger towards your spouse is a whole nother level. From the time this woman chose to bring this child into the world she should have protected her and she did not. She cared more about her image than getting well for her daughter. True narcissist. I know she was in pain but she had choices.

  • Guest

    That was her final "f#ck you" to her husband. Smfh.

  • Miss Thang

    And Daddy will have the opportunity to explain to his daughter that her mother, like many people, suffered from mental illness for many years and did the best she could to survive as long as she could with the mental and emotional capacity she had. And hopefully the daughter will grow to have compassion and empathy for other humans who suffer in silence, unlike ignorant, heartless people like you.

  • Miss Thang

    Stop speaking over this child’s experiences. You don’t know.

  • Allihave2say

    Bitch fuck you. I said that because that's what my motherfucking daughter asked me about her father. Take your bitch ass to hell and choke for all of eternity you fucked faced cunt.

  • http://www.swedishsoul.com Christina Duphorn Zehnder

    Mental illness is no joke yet we as black people never take it seriously. Sat woke and it is ok to see a therapist.

  • Malcom Flex

    All the women in my fam have her purses! Goes to show what mental illness and a bad relationship will do to a person. All those millions and still miserable in the head.

  • Malcom Flex

    Sis...why you gotta go so hard??

  • Malcom Flex

    Condolences on the loss of your Dear Mother.

  • Malcom Flex

    Just saw a photo of her with her dad on insta, for a rich white girl she is 'thick' (they call that fat) and her father looks uncomfortable. He seems down low to me, rarely happy with females, that blank persona.

  • the guest

    The family of Andrew Spade can Go Fk Themselves for tarnishing Kate Spade's name!

    Slandering Kate Spade's name to defend their parasite user brother.

    This is what happens when brilliant, talented, powerful women marry men who use them and value them for what they achieve and not love them for who they are.

    Kate Spade's husband is a classic "husband of" and "brother of" type of parasite but nothing in his own right. His sister should STFU talking Ms. Spade's private medical business to the press. If she was mentally ill, they sure had no problem eating off her mental illness all those years.

    There are people in this world who want to and will drive you crazy to have an excuse to screw you over. Where is Kate's family? Because it sounds like she was surrounded by her vulture husband's family.

    Then when she ages over 50 and the billion dollar business is sold and not growing anymore and a new business fails, he wants out because he didn't love her to begin with. People need to learn that real love loves you for who you are not for what you can give. He cased her talent and ambition in college and rode her wheels until they came off.

    Well, now he has what he really wants, her gone and her money. And he gets to scapegoat Kate's depression for his shallowness. Guaranteed she didn't kill herself over no daggone divorce. Guaranteed it will come out that he was cheating with a younger woman and wanted to get spousal support to live off with another woman.

    I'm convinced Oprah has never married with good reason because marriage just doesn't seem like a good idea for brilliant ambitious women.

  • the guest

    That's why ganja is becoming legal and needs to be legal nationwide. Ganja is a proven medicinal healer.

  • the guest

    Amen!

  • the guest

    Thank you!

    I have no respect for women who feel empowered and complimented by a man denigrating his exes, slandering his children's mother, or abandoning his children. There really are sick women who feel important and special being with a man who abandons kids and slanders women.

  • the guest

    How manipulative he was being.

  • the guest

    Her husband got just what he wanted.

  • Babytokyo

    Same thing my father did and her note was not about or addressed to you either but you felt a need to interject yourself in something you could never relate to. I’m sure your ass will be humbled ms. Imright but oh so wrong.

  • Yoni7

    No self-worth. Can't NO MAN bad mouth his ex/baby mama to me if he done put his d!ck in her more than once. Let alone had KID'S (plural) by her.

  • Yoni7

    Damn.

  • Yoni7

    I wish folks WOULD tell me HOW TO raise mine. Matter of fact, my niece and I use to ALWAYS get into it about how I raised mine. Let's just say.........she's crying more about hern NOW than I ever did about mine back then.

  • Phillybruh

    You do know they were married after college and started that business together.

  • NorthDeKalb

    Exactly. Not to make light of this and maybe I’m missing something but... who’s short enough to hang themself from a doorknob ?

  • sunni_daze

    Well, I am confused. The husband said that divorce wasn't on the table and that they spoke to or saw each other daily. They just needed space

  • really?wow

    Same passed on the meds. Picked up the pot. Self control meditation and getting a grip is also important

  • really?wow

    That's why the powers rich old white republicans don't want it to be legal. It will kill the pharmacy biz

  • MsChocCookie

    Mental illness is real, may she rest in peace!

  • Miss Thang

    yeah, he needed a therapist to tell his crazy ass that that is WRONG BEHAVIOR, and he need to get it together.

  • Allihave2say

    Sorry Malcom, sometimes…they catch me wrong. This topic was NOT the one.

  • Readytochokemothernatureout

    Whang??????

  • Readytochokemothernatureout

    Condolences and hugs

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    WHY was her husband wearing this mask 2 days after his wife hung herself using a RED SCARF?! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/c4f104e9c577fdae0f69e2cdb8a5b8627dcef0e60b503a9377d5e69f59d68188.jpg

  • none business

    she was murdered by her husband for her money and he paid off the cops and coroner. she had over a billion dollars. there is no history ever of a billionairre committing suicide. doesn't happen and it didn't happen to her. murder happened to her.

  • none business

    she was murdered you dimwit. no billionaire has ever killed themselves. he killed her for the money and he bought the pollce. filthy. greedy. abusive to his child.

  • none business

    she was murdered you moron. no billionaire every in history has committed suicide. she didn t either. her husband killed her for her money and he paid off the cops to get a way with it.

  • none business

    well ok but he did kill her for her money and paid off the cops and coroner. filthy and greedy. he would have had half in the divorce. filthy and greedy and orphaning his own child is just such greedy filth

  • none business

    you ridiculous moron. she was murdered by her husband for her money you ridiciulous moron. how does it makes sense to you that she was so worried about the stigma of mental illness that she would kill herself, that even shows more to society at large her stigma of mental illenss you nitwit. but that is not what happened. he killed her, killed her greedy. horifiying

  • none business

    she was murdered you ridiculous dumbbell. he killed her for her money and paid off the cops.

  • none business

    i hope someday her daughter figures out she was murdered and that she hates her father for killing her and that will be his punishment, okay he's rich and comfortable but his daughter who he orphanged because of his ugly greey will hate him if she ever suspects him

  • none business

    moron, she was murdered you moron. i am sorry about your daughter, but when something happens to you it doesn't happen to other people. kate was murdered for her money and andy paid off the cops

  • none business

    he murdered her for her money. never in all history has a billionaire ever killed themselves. she was a billionaire. he bought the police. his greed and filth surpassed his interest in his child and not orpahning her

  • yvette46

    Where you there dumb dumb??. Boy you idiots love sticking up for your master.. Since you know it all and you were there, did you contact the detectives and give your information?? Lol idiot!!

  • yvette46

    You are SICK!! Commenting on everyone post. Seriously you definitely showing signs of mental illness.. Instead of checking everyone on here, you need to check yourself into a hospital and get evaluated.. Just a suggestion..

  • Shira Harding-James

    You’re the moron, don’t say anything else to me and please enjoy your life!

  • Shira Harding-James

    Trolling at its best, has commented on every post!

  • none business

    was murdered by her husband who then paid off the police. he wanted all the bananas. he was greedy and wanted all the her money and didn't care about orphaning his own child. that is why she was making plans the night before when she was talking on the phone to her father about going to california to took at colleges with her daughter, because she assumed she had a future who would have any idea her filthy greedy husband would be willing to orphan his own child for the money. you moron just because your daughters husband committed suicide it doesn't mean kate did, she was obviously murdered and it doesn't matter how much theatrics you make out of it, if that is even what happened to you. you are probably one of the murderes making up bullshit to spread around the internet figuring if you can make enough bullshit noise you can make it true that you are not a filthy murderer that orphaned your own child to steal your partners money. filthy. greedy. horrifying.

  • none business

    the suicide note is fake. she was murdered. what was the name of the handwriting analyst. how come that wasn't made public. because it is a fake. never, ever, has a billionaire ever killed themselves. doesn't happen. it didn't happen this time either. he killed her for her money and paid off the cops. and it is obvious

  • none business

    yeah, her husband did treatment alright. he had her murdered so he frolic in her billions.

  • TheOwley

    Well, too many hangings these days now passing for suicide and the public will never know any different. That funny rabbit suit he word to not be photographed is just weird.

  • Allihave2say

    I'm sorry fruitcake wtf are you talking about? Are you off your meds and having a manic episode or a borderline personality crash? You're talking a lot of gibberish for a story that's no longer headline news. This was discussed exactly 2 weeks ago. Did they just let you out the psyche hospital and you're now playing social media catch up?

    It's ok. Get the bottle. Open it. pour out one pill. Get a glass of water. Swallow. Now go lay down. Repeat tomorrow until you are normal.

  • Allihave2say

    I'm sorry. I'm too harsh on you. You obviously have some inside knowledge into this matter that was ruled a homocide. Have your reported what you know to the police? Have you given a witness statement? Have you contacted anyone in the real media other than me i.e. news stations, TMZ, Sandra Rose or anyone to share what you know about this murder you allege?

    Never mind. I know this isn't serious. It's another of your delusions of grandeur and association. Let's get back to my 1st response go take your meds.

  • Allihave2say

    Run tell the police smart one. you're the only reporter of this. Is your tin foil being used to bake chicken instead of helping you get your signals straight? it's ok. Nothing wrong with pretending to be Sherlock Holmes. Everyone has dreams and fantasy. We just all know the difference between real and fake. Hit that Lithium prescription.

  • Allihave2say

    I hope you don't have kids because you sound crazy as hell.

  • none business

    he paid the police nitwit. they conspired in the murder with her husband because when you participate in the murder of a billionaire, the money is very good for that gig. plenty of people know this is an OBVIOUS murder for money. OBVIOUS. going to the police won't bring justice for kate and her daughter. his daughter is old enuf to understand she would NEVER have. that will be his karma. bea will know and hate him for it. maybe not yet but someday

  • none business

    you can't go to the police you moron. they participated in her murder you moron. they are conspirators. they allowed the murder to take place they were paid handsomely for their participation. no one can go to them you moron you ridiculous moron. you are probably the husband or a conspirator filling the airwaves with your bullshit and retarded theatrics

  • none business

    good points. but he built the business with her and was entitled to half of the wealth. but the greedy bitch wanted it all. he killed her n paid off the cops n coroner. so filthy cuz he was rich ANYWAY but he felt all the money was More important than orphaning his child. filthy

  • none business

    she was murdered for her money you dingbat

  • none business

    she was murdered for her money

  • none business

    she was murdered and you know it that why your reaction to my post has so much histrionics. your the husband or one of the corrupt cops trying to make enuf noise to deflect your crime . filthy greedy. I'd rather die of starvation than be so greedy and filthy. no billionaire ever has killed themselves. neither did she. she was murdered and you know it because you have to be a moron to not see her husband's clear motive.

  • Shira Harding-James

    STOP ANSWERING THE TROLL!

  • Shira Harding-James

    ? yes

  • Quitedeliteful

    Hmmmm.... I didn't even think of that...

  • Shira Harding-James

    Reporting you....
    Goodbye!

  • Allihave2say

    Is it a troll. Get me all the way together bc I'm not here for the f*! Thanks SIS

  • none business

    first of all he murdered her for her money and he paid off the cops and coroner to get away with it. you don't know anything about whether or not she was 'bipolar'. that could just be a lie the murderers are now promulgating which is a unsubstatiated lie. they say her family says so, but i wouldn't believe it unless i saw them live speaking on youtube or i actually see her medical records. second, he murdered her for her money and paid off the authorities, who love this gig cuz the money is so great. there is zero history EVER of any billionaire EVER killing themselves. she was murdered. and you dont know she is bipolar and she is not here anymore to speak for herself, but the conspirators to her murder have many voices. he husband, the police who participated in staging the murder who have filled the airwaves with misinformation. she was murdered period. where is your bullshit thermometer anyway

  • none business

    bullshit, she was murdered by her husband for her money and he paid off the police and coroner. bullshit. where is your bullshit thermometer. there is zero history ever , not ever, of a billionaire committing suicide. it doesn't happen and it didn't happen this time. you don't know anything about what kate spade cared about, you only know the spin that her murderers are putting out in the media to lie to you about her murderer. where is your bullshit thermometer, where are your brains, wtf

  • none business

    you don't know if she ware really bipolar because she is not here to speak for herself. as far as her siblings saying she was bipolar, i would not believe that unless i saw them say it themselves on camera, and not the estranged one either, she is suspicious, and estranged family member can be bought if they are suffering financially. you don't know if the bipolar characterization is LIE. she is not here to speak for herself. she was murdered by her husband for her money and he paid off the authorities who love that gig cuz the money is great

  • none business

    i bet her daughter KNOWs her mother was NOT bipolar, and she knows her mother didn't kill herself. i bet the child KNOWS it.

  • none business

    she was murdered by her huband for her money and he paid off the cops and coroner and all that bullshit about her being bipolar is lie because she is not here to speak for herself.

  • none business

    she was murdered by her husband for her money and he paid off the cops and coroner to get away with it and all this bullshit about her mental health is a bullshit lie created by the murderers to deflect suspicion from themselves and she is not here to speak for herself.

  • none business

    she was murdered by her husband for her money and he paid off the cops and coroner to get away with it and all this bullshit about her mental health is a bullshit lie created by the murderers to deflect suspicion from themselves and she is not here to speak for herself.

  • none business

    maybe he is on drugs. maybe that is why he had his wife murdered. you can never have enough money once you are on drugs. drug addiction would explain how greedy he was to murder his wife for her share of the their fortune and rob his own child of her most precious gift and it would explain ironically hidding behind a mask like this avoid notice. drug would explain both the murder and the mask. perhaps heroin. perhaps oxycontin, very powerful. who knows exactly which drug

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    Or a sick ritual.

  • none business

    her mental illness wasn't real. it was just what the people who murdered her for her money say to deflect from their guilt in her murder. the police, the coroner and her husband all conspired against her to murder her for her money. revolting. think of all the poverty and suffering in this country and her husband was already rich and the police and coroner have such good jobs and solid middle class lives. there is zero evidence that she was bipolar. it was reported that an ESTRANGED sister said she BELIEVED kate was bipolar. that is zero evidence. believing someone is bipolar and knowing they are are two different things. it is a lie. she was murdered.

  • none business

    it's a lie she was mentally ill or suicidal. her husband wanted all the money n he paid the cops to get away with it.

  • none business

    what are you talking about

  • none business

    what an idiotic comment. he killed her for her billions of dollars. he was already almost inconcievably rich. some people are so filthy greedy and insane. ritual, are you stupid or something

  • none business

    i think you protest to much in an overly theatrical way which makes me think you are trolling around making all sorts of histrionic noise because you are one of the murderers or conspirators in the murder and you want to deflect your guilt by making all sorts of noise. otherwise you wouldn't even be paying attention to my posts. but because you are one of the murderers, you vigorously respond to my statements. they are simple statements. he killed her her for the money, because he is so greedy he would rob his own child of her most precious gift. and i saw the little bitch whining about his parent's divorce, unbelievable, and he would rob his own child of her mother all together. filthy and horrifying child abuse.

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    Far from stupid so there’s no need to try to insult me because I definitely didn’t insult you. So pipe down. First of all how can people easily shoot down someone elses theory with their own with no proof and just speculation?

    But anyways you can go to vigilantcitizen .com and just read the article yourself. That website is truly informative.. Ritual sacrifices happen in the industry all the time and that’s not a speculation. People are ritually sacrificed for money and positions of power so what you’re saying could be true as well.

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    They always play the mental illness or drug addiction card because it’s much easier to dismiss smh

  • none business

    im sorry for being so rude, but it is just so moronic. the motive is her billions of dollars. that is the motive for why she was murdered. how can you talk about such ridiculous idiocies. if you have an OBVIOUS motive, like for instance, andy spade has a billion dollars to gain, how can some other nutty thing take shape in your mind. kooky. when there is such an obvious motive and someone like you deflects an obvious motive with something lunatic, i am inclined to think you are one of the murderers trying to deflect the real issue and an obvious motive with kooky talk intended to confuse people who are so daft they really believe this bullshit about her having mental health issues or being suicidal when the real issue was a motive to grab her billion dollars. and so your who suggestion appears to be fake to me and you are either andy or on of the conspirators in the police or coroner's office who gained from kate's cannibalization and you are making extraneous noise because you are paranoid about someone noticing the OBVIOUS motive for her murder

  • Quitedeliteful

    Same goes for her being murdered. If we don't know that she was really bi-polar how can we be certain that she was murdered? That is another scenario that is nothing but speculation at this point...

  • none business

    first of all anyone with HALF a brain knows she was murdered. her being bipolar is a LIE. she never was diagnosed as bipolar. she is only being called bipolar by the people who conspired against her or by people who were paid by her murderers to lie. all you need is HALF a brain or you have a vested interest in misinforming the public as someone who was involved in this murder

  • none business

    she was murdered for her money you dingbat

  • Quitedeliteful

    I suppose you were there to witness the murder, huh?

  • none business

    why do you want me to repeat myself , andy?

  • Quitedeliteful

    whateva floats your boat...

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    Well...that sure was a whole lot of nothing I just read....and you came up with that weak conclusion based on a theory that’s been repeated over and over again. Money is always the motive. I actually agreed with some of what you’re saying and you’re still failing to see my point..but im done arguing with fools...like i said...read the article on vigilant citizen yourself.

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