21 Savage and Amber Rose

Amber Rose opened up about her tendency to date men with borderline personality disorders. The former stripper — who is best known for dating Kanye West — made the revealing confession in an interview with Complex magazine’s Web series “Open Late With Peter Rosenberg“.

The 34-year-old mother-of-one noted that the men she dated all seemed to share the same anti-social tendencies. Her inability to maintain a stable relationship with a man led her to seek therapy to better herself.

“I had to go see a therapist, and she was just like, ‘You attract narcissistic sociopaths.’ And I’m not mentioning no names. But a few of them have been that,” she said.

She added:

“Like, nah, you’re not gonna control my every move, you’re not gonna tell me what I need to wear, you’re not gonna tell me where I need to go or who to be friends with. I don’t have time for that s–t.”

Amber, who has a 5-year-old son with rapper Wiz Khalifa, recently dated rappers 21 Savage (pictured above) and Machine Gun Kelly.

Amber also shared that her former lover Kanye West left her broke and practically homeless after they split up.

“I didn’t get money from that — I got fame. When I walked outside, it was like, ‘Oh, s–t, that’s Amber Rose,’ but I was broke as f–k. I didn’t have any money and I didn’t have a bed and I didn’t have furniture.”

Narcissistic personality disorder is more commonly diagnosed in men. Female narcissists don’t seek therapy because she believes she’s superior to the therapist. Psychology Today published a list of danger signs to watch out for if you are in a narcissistic relationship.
 
1. Narcissists compliment you excessively

“I love you, you’re so wonderful! I’ve never met someone as great as you are! You’re so much better than all the others. You’re the center of my life! No one has treated you as good as I will treat you.”
 
2. Narcissists make extremely negative, disparaging comments about others or their co-workers

“That person over there is a real loser. Let me tell you about him (or her). The people that rejected my great idea are some of the stupidest people I have ever met. They don’t know brilliance when it’s staring them in the face.”
 
3. They lack empathy or compassion for the suffering of others

“She cut herself and bled all over my new carpet! Now I need a new carpet. She is so inconsiderate. She’d better help me pay for a new one.”
 
4. See themselves as perpetual victims (Narcissistic Injury)

Very early on in your relationship, usually within the first few hours, the narcissist will tell you a sad story about his/her childhood or their mistreatment at work by their boss or co-workers. The narcissist tells you these sad stories to gain sympathy from you which they will use later on to exploit you.

“My mom/dad/grandparent was so mean to me when I was young. They beat/starved me, they were nicer to my siblings than to me. It’s so unfair what they did/said. I will show them! They’re punishing me for being better than they will ever be!”

Pay close attention to your responses and how you feel around him/her. Pay attention to your words, particularly these responses: “I’m sorry to hear that”, “I’m sorry that happened to you”, “That must have been a hard time for you.”
 
5. He/she is too good to be true

This person is so nice to you, you feel extremely loved and flattered. You may feel euphoric when you’re with him/her. He/she almost seems too good to be true. That’s a warning sign, because people who excessively flatter you are often not who they seem.
 
6. Gaslight you and make you feel inadequate

Some narcissists will build you up only to tear you down to shake your confidence in yourself and make you feel self doubt. They are like experienced hunters and you are their prey. They are experts at making you believe you can’t survive without them.
 
7. Love talking about themselves

The narcissist’s favorite subject is himself. He pretends to be interested in you, but he always steers the conversation back to himself.
 
8. Blame others for their problems

Narcissists tend to look for easy targets to blame for their problems. They avoid accepting responsibility for their bad behavior because it reminds them of their own inadequacy or lack of self worth.
 
9. Narcissists have short memories

Narcissists are quick to forget their bad behavior. If you remind them of their bad behavior, they will deny the incident ever happened. They will call you a liar and project their bad behavior onto you. “You’re so mean and hateful!, You’re so insensitive, You will never find someone who treats you better than I do!”

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  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    “female narcissists don’t seek therapy because she believes she’s superior to the therapist.”
    NEVER KNEW THIS.

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    @SANDRAROSE @SANDRAROSE.COM
    gOOD ARTICLE.

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    I dated a man that was a narcissist once….OMG!!!! RUN! RUN! RUN!

  • Gloria

    ????? This accurately describes every guy I’ve ever been with and my current boyfriend….. if I attract narcissist so much, maybe I’m a narcissist too. ??

  • SJ

    Excellent write up Auntie Sandra.

    I’m not surprised. I personally believe Amber Rose to be co-dependent. It’s good to know that she is getting help. Narcissistic abuse is all too real.

    It’s absolutely draining being with a narcissist. They are emotional vampires. Some call it emotional highjacking. They drain you until you feel like you’re crazy, always sad, mad, or just empty inside. It’s a horrible feeling.

    I’ve learned that the best thing to do is to ignore them/get away or use the gray rock method if you can’t cut them off. They don’t have normal (mature) reasoning and interpersonal skills, hence their long history of messed up relationships.

  • ?? Kari ?????????

    We all know kanye is a narcissist. He married a self center narcissist.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thanks for reading. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Narcissists tend to attract other narcissists because you recognize yourself in them. Good examples are Kim and Kanye or Beyonce and Jay Z.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Amber also shared that her former lover Kanye West left her broke and practically homeless after they split up.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    As he should. Left her how he found her…

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    Well I’ll be damned… I think I’m a mf narcissist.. smdh

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You might have narcissistic tendencies but I doubt you’re a narcissist. Narcissists lack self-awareness. They don’t have the ability to see their own narcissism or emotional flaws.

  • SweetTEE

    It’s called the Law of Attraction.. Amber girl, you attract exactly what you put in the universe.

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    Not necessarily….there are a lot of these types of men out there. They are dangerous too.

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    Hmm.. Interesting, thank you Sandra.

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    YOU HIT THAT OUT THE PARK!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You’re welcome, hun.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    True, but most of them are not narcissists. They’re just jerks or so-called “bad boys”. Most healthy people can spot a narcissist’s manipulative behavior and avoid them. Narcissists target weak people.

  • Yui

    -sigh- My late father was a narcissists. He used to get on my nerves talking about himself— as a small child I never understood why my fam would cringe around him, until I got older. That man was a trip. Loved him but dude, I asked him once, “who’s your favorite singer?” And his response was, “myself.” ?

  • Yui

    Thank you. ??

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    “I didn’t get money from that — I got fame. When I walked outside, it was like, ‘Oh, s–t, that’s Amber Rose,’ but I was broke as f–k. I didn’t have any money and I didn’t have a bed and I didn’t have furniture.”
    ——————————–

    That’s what you get when you don’t stack your coins quietly, and instead you let yourself become financially dependent on a dude. I actually thought AmberRose was smarter than that.

  • Tony

    No, you’re more than likely a needy codependent type of person..

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thank you for sharing. Another good way to identify a narcissist is to ask him or her how they feel about a particular subject. They will avoid telling you how they feel (sadness, fear, loneliness) because opening up to you makes them feel vulnerable. They also lack feelings of empathy or emotions.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    The smart ones know that these celebrity “relationships” can end at any time, so they know how to take the gifts, cash, jewelry etc and at least turn it into some kind of financial cushion to fall back on if things go south.

  • Vonn

    So, this bubble head saw a therapist and chose to reveal what the therapist said about her ex boyfriends. What was your diagnosis little missy? She appears to be a bit of a narcissist herself.

  • Yui

    She is. ??

  • Rachel

    When you know better, you do better. If she ain’t learned nothing then she never will. It seems like she love the drama.

  • Jersey Girl

    Agreed..I’ve done a lot of research on it..its .love bombing , gas lighting, and then de- valuation are the stages someone in a relationship with a narcissist like that goes thru..its crazy.. . #9 is all to real.. they never remember or choose not to admit their actions or words. . because they seem normal to others but know the truth.. no contact is ..the best way to deal.. thanks sandra.. …but amber rose is also one ..its levels to this..

  • Karen Brady

    Well I personally just dumped one of these narcissistic assholes for the final time. Thing is I’m pretty wise and I KNEW he was one the first time we spent time together but I kept giving him passes (thinking maybe I was trippin’) that HE DID NOT DESERVE. It ended with me telling him he is a sociopath which he probably is. Good riddance.

  • Karen Brady

    I didn’t think she was to be honest. *sigh*.

  • Karen Brady

    !!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Karen Brady

    *Chuckles*

  • Karen Brady

    Correct, this is me. A little bit I think :-).

  • Karen Brady

    *chuckling*

  • Karen Brady

    ALL OF THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Just kicked one to the curb with both feet.

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    I’m a half way narc!

  • Karen Brady

    FAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!

  • Karen Brady

    I love this gif

  • Karen Brady

    Same.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Shit me too!!!

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    Been there…done that! Expect every trick in the book to get you back and start the cycle all over again. RUN!!!!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Amber comes off as a narcissist herself and I wonder if her therapist told her she may have exhibitionist issues as well…she is a disappointment because at one point in time she was the most admired & mysterious woman in the world…she could have been dating a tech or saudi millionaire smh… instead she settles for niccas who toss her around like a hand towel…

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    EXACTLY!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Good for you! It’s great to finally heal after feeling like an open wound.

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    Sandra….that’s EXACTLY what it feels like. A open wound.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I agree. Amber is one too. I’m surprised she went to therapy.

  • Ni Ni

    She most certainly is a narcissist

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You feel like you’ve been in a battle. Your edges are gone, your nerves are frayed. Then they call and you take them back. And the cycle starts all over again. Break the cycle!

    Edit: They never say they’re sorry, because they are never wrong.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Welp, that write up sums it up for me. Thanks Sandra! This sounds like a few of my family members as well as a few folks I had to permanently distance myself from.

    Let them tell it, they NEVER did anything wrong. It was always me who was the problem and of course, without them, I would be nothing at all. I said “okay then, since I’m the problem, let me move on so all of your problems will be solved.” That move enraged them even more, so they decided to label me everything but a child of God and spread awful, untrue rumors about me. Smh ? draining. Thank God I’m a lot tougher than what they thought.

  • BingBangBoom

    Right strippers make tons of money and still end up broke, homeless and strung out.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chile you are a Narcissist AMBER! ….. Trying to project your fawked up mindset on people you spread your legs for attention …… says and tells me everything I need to know about you ….. You are the Narcissist ….. and it’s obvious … you and your attention seeking friends …. your fame will continue to fade https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/164ad7cc338a739f7fc2d94294a2ffb67b75ae66872436dbe732bfb54ee4ae16.gif

  • bran

    Exactly what my therapist told me. smh

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    How you can tell a true narc ….. they blame others for why they are who they are when their supply has been drained…. They play the victim … why it feeds their ego (a bruised one ) to find yet another outlet to pull from ….Narcss… project …. they shift the cause of the problem onto others ….. which in turn creates the whoa is not me it’s them affect …. Miss me with the shyt Amber …… https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/280af94b4e6f9837031514beb46cc09bda7bed2baab942ea4293410403dc0c19.gif

  • Bashi22

    Amber you was a ex-stripper how come Kanye leave you broke. Kanye never gave you a credit card or weekly allowance. Most stripper knows how to manage money well.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Narcs are completely codependent … they leeech …… she is the Narcisist although we all have and had Narc traits yes … through conditioning …. but chile a true full blown Narc …. JEDI MINDTRICKS…… and will blame blame blame and in turn play victimization …… true narcs are thee worst and very deceptive and very good at projecting on people ….. smh very codependent because they have no supply of their own … so they use deceptive tactics such as lust beauty …… popularity to fool many …. Amber is a damn fool

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Me either but it makes sense though! Women are always right ?? LOL.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    We have a saying in Spanish that makes me laugh but is on point for her.. “te encanta el pedo”. Which if you translate it word for word doesn’t sound right (you love the fart) but the slang basically means “you love being in the midst of the s**t” or “you stay in some s**t”. It sounds better in Spanish without the English translation…

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  • Kim’s Original Face

    So sick of this cum bucket ?????????? Her and blyke Chyna and that witch coven they are loosley forever attached too need to go away

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  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    This is SO on point!!!

    Had a few in my life and I would rather walk barefeet, on h0t coals, in 100 degree weather, than to deal with them for 5 mintues. After almost a decade of therapy, I can truly say “Lesson learned” and “NEVER AGAIN”!! I always felt completely drained after our interactions.

  • Nakia Brown

    sounds like your friend TRump

  • SJ

    It’s wonderful that you’re in a much better space. :)

  • Ms..N

    Or people they think are weak! Until they realize they are not and they run for the hills!!Lol

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Thank you. It took years of counseling but I thank God every single day, for protecting me and removing them from my life. They really didn’t have my best interest at heart and I was young, so I didn’t immediately recongize that they were setting me up, for attacks later. Lesson learned and I’m grateful.

  • OvertheMississippi

    And “they” seem to date blow-up dollss!

  • Karen Brady

    Thank you Sandra and enjoy the weekend!!!

  • Karen Brady

    THIS!

  • Karen Brady

    YESSSSSS!!!!!!!! This is exactly how it went for months. No more!!!!!!!!

  • Yup, I said it

    But Amber baby, Kanye already had told you, “Don’t be reachin’, don’t be touchin’ shit, we in Kanye West’s Benz!
    ‘Cause I will turn you back to a pedestrian, hah!”

  • Renee26

    I’ve been there before… It feels so good to drop that bag of misery

  • Kayke

    I see amber rose as insecure and a perfect target for a narcissist as in the beginning a narcissist gives you “value”…. that is why she is head over heels so quickly because they build her esteem for her. She seems most happy when in a relationship and is in a new one as soon as another is over…. that’s codependency as another poster said.

  • RoniV

    The saying “Your vibe attracts your tribe” couldn’t be more fitting here.

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    It’s a battle with your sanity and if you didn’t KNOW GAME before you entered this type of relationship…..you can go down through there too. Any woman dating this kind of person and wants out has to CUT IT IMMEDIATELY/COMPLETELY OFF!

    Edit: We are not talking about your typical making up and breaking up type of relationship….Nooooooooo….this is a different type of relationship that has you gripping your hair at the roots of your hair, asking WTF did I do to deserve this MF!

    Oh yeah…you will know him when he finds you too because you will believe you have lost your mind. You more than likely won’t even know what a narcissist is by definition. But one moment when you finally have a moment of mental clarity (cause this will definitely be rare) look up the narcissist….there you will find a picture of him sitting right next to the definition. From there you can plan your escape.

  • Logan Roberts

    Girl bye ?

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    LOL.
    SHUT UP!…………………………………..but, quiet as kept, you may be on to something.

  • Faithz

    Amber is very Pretty, That’s all I got!!

  • Unhappy Customer

    Sandra Rose ?

    Please help. I have receipts, paperwork , pictures, from the hospital, text messages from the owner and more. I INCLUDED 3 PICTURES OF MY HEAD. I WAS RUSHED TO THE E.R. I got my hair braided at DLEY’S African hair braiding on August 29th and these are just a few of the pictures taken the night of the 29th and the morning of tHe 30th. I was rushed to the EMERGENCY ROOM because they did it really extra tight and also didn’t do a good job. They scammed me out of $150 plus I paid 134.00 for the human braiding extensions – 284.00 plus what I’ll have to pay in medical fees and prescriptions. I may lose my hair for good. Please expose Black women hating African Witches. I am Liberian and they don’t like Liberians because we are close to being American blacks due to us being the freedom slaves that went back to Africa. West African witches ruining lives and taking from the poor in the inner cities. PLEASE WARN YOUR PEOPLE NOT TO USE THEM! THEY ALSO TAKE HAIR TO PERFORM EVIL CEREMONIES AGAINST YOU. WITCHCRAFT IS VERY COMMON ESPECIALLY AGAINST AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN. PLEASE WARN THEM. SUPPORT EACH OTHER MANY OF THESE AFRICAN WOMEN DO NOT LIKE BLACK PEOPLE THAT ARE AMERICANS OR LIBERIAN OR THAT SPEAK LIKE AMERICANS. Stop supporting these Evil braid shops they’re just want to rip out your hair for evil ceremonial use and take your money. This is not rare it is secret common practice against Liberians and African Americans. They hate you!

    SANDRA I have prescriptions and letters from Doctors to prove that they injured me and ripped me off. I left the hospital yesterday.

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  • Alextra Ballard

    QQn…Wert in thee hell!?!?!

  • Dun Dilly

    Kanye didn’t marry her..he owed her NOTHING. She got the fame ticket that she still cashing in on.

  • Gloria

    Chile ?……. Don’t get me started on Africans and their hate against black Americans,

  • Deanya Shaw

    Lol nobody said he did

  • Toni Madison

    I liked her much better when she didn’t speak!

  • Simone

    “okay then, since I’m the problem, let me move on so all of your problems will be solved”…What you said is witty yet logical and brilliant at the same time! Good move!

  • Applebootay

    Same here. I didn’t realize my pattern until I was 40.

  • Applebootay

    I had them cornrow my hair 15 years ago, it was so tight, I came home crying…my then husband took me back up there the next day threatening to beat their ass if they didn’t take that sh@t out my head and refund me my money…..and they did exactly that and that was the last time I’ve ever been to an African hair shop…

  • Unhappy Customer

    I was attacked for speaking the truth about it on the page about Janet Jackson I was called a liar by what I assume was a Ghananian but I can’t say for sure. I blocked her so I don’t know what else she replied. I said what I said and I stand on it 100 percent not changing it.

  • Unhappy Customer

    You’re so lucky. She only offered my friend $40 refund to me. Many of them do not even have a license and need to be shut down. I made sure to bring my own combs. Many of them will pour witchcraft oil in the grease and apply it to the scalp of the American they want to curse. Warn your people to stay away from these places. If they’re angry enough they will yell you “This is why we sold you people ” and “You’re a Liberian so that’s why… ” Anything they want to claim as useless they say its because you’re Liberian. They marry American Black people for papers. Evil!
    Many who say they are from other parts in west Africa are usually Migrating Ghananians. They think they’re better than eeveryon else that’s not Ghananian and they tell everyone to watch out for Kenyans they will wait for you to fall asleep so they can eat you. They say the Kenyan are cannibals but thwy never want you to know what they do. All evil. Sold us to slavery and then later they still don’t own Africa they want to claim Black American people’s success but talk bad about them behind their backs. I say Liberians should have stayed in America with our Black American brothers and sisters. We will always be hated all we have is ourselves. Jamaicans are okay with me too they’re up front with their stuff. Same thing if a Liberian has a problem they will confront you UNLIKE THESE SNEAKY GUINEA??, GHANA, IVORY COAST, ETC PEOPLE. THEY WILL PAY FOR THEIR SINS FOR SELLING BLACK PEOPLE AWAY THEY DON’T FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. TRIBALISM IS REAL.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Thank You!

    Yep, I was like “Good Riddance!”

  • Junkanoo

    Birds of a feather. She presumes famous men to stay in the spolight

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    Glad to know I’m not alone I think this how God made me

  • E-VannaRootsAllEvil

    We mental sisters lol

  • Maxx

    Ditto for me! GOD made me this way.._()_/

  • Bonny

    Says a narcissist

  • Kimocha

    To me half of the men out there are Narcissists… just my opinion tho…

  • CocoBabe88

    Amber just might be a narcissist as well. But it’s true that a large majoroty of black males are plagued by narcissism. It’s messed up Kanye left her broke like that. He always did come across as a selfish man who wouldn’t take care of his woman. She should’ve destroyed him when she had the chance.

  • CocoBabe88

    You said this perfectly. When she first came out she was wearing couture, attending paris fashion week, and smoozing with the rich and famous. Then something happened with her and kanye and she’s never been the same. A narcissist will ruin you if you let them.

  • YoursTrulyAlisa

    She is a rental With the option to buy. She is like 07 Honda

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    LOL