Jamel Myles

A 9-year-old boy Colorado boy committed suicide after coming out as gay just four days after the start of school. Lela Pierce says her son Jamel Myles came out to her over the summer.

"He looked so scared when he told me. He was like, ‘Mom I’m gay,'" Pierce told KDVR-TV. "And I thought he was playing, so I looked back because I was driving, and he was all curled up, so scared. And I said, ‘I still love you.'"

She said Jamel also told her he wanted to dress in feminine clothing.

"And he goes, 'Can I be honest with you?'" Pierce said. "And I was like sure, and he’s like, 'I know you buy me boy stuff because I’m a boy, but I’d rather dress like a girl.'"

Pierce said Jamel wanted his classmates at Joe Shoemaker Elementary School to know he was gay.

Jamel's body was found in their Denver home last Thursday, according to KDVR-TV. Pierce believes bullying drove her son to kill himself.

“Four days is all it took at school,” Pierce said. “I could just imagine what they said to him. My son told my oldest daughter the kids at school told him to kill himself. I’m just sad he didn’t come to me. I’m so upset that he thought that was his option.”

The grieving mother believes the students' parents should be held accountable for their bullying behavior.

“We should have accountability for bullying. I think the child should because the child knows it’s wrong. The child wouldn’t want someone to do it to them,” she said. "[O]bviously the parents are either teaching them to be like that, or they’re treating them like that,” she said.

The Denver Public School System sent a note home to parents to advise them that social workers and a crisis team are available at the school to counsel the students.

  • Nina Ross

    Sounds like child abuse

  • Yoni7

    Almighty bless this family.

  • Trace da Ace

    OMG!!!! Bless this little angel.....this breaks my heart....all he wanted to do was be himself and be able to not have to hide who he was.....damn....poor baby.....bless him.

  • Cricket404

    Poor thing, bullies are cruel creatures, especially in packs.

  • sunni_daze

    How does a 9yr old even understand what being gay is? Their little minds can't comprehend to fully understand any of this. Poor baby.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Kids can be so mean .. I hate fugging bullies .... ?

  • Coy little wink

    How did he do it? Its weird it doesn't say

  • teather

    NEVER ever should a child take his own life. Sadly, why did he think it was ok to come out at school? This is just very sad. I wonder if it's true. Some ppl lie to get attention and later say it was a hoax. Just wondering. RIP little man, I hope you're still with us, somewhere. The MOm's response sounded a little short of what was necessary, but she could have never known her little guy would go to school and tell and then kill himself. I hope this isn't true.

  • Gamer?? Chick

    WTH!!!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    RIP to this baby.
    (but i'm confused.... now i understand that 9 y/o's can be precocious (trust, we got one in the fam - his lil azz been here before, lol)... BUT, i guess i'm confused or curious regarding his precise articulation of "Mom i'm gay" and decidedly wanting to "dress like a girl" ,,,where did he learn This specific language? like, where/when would it come up and how did he arrive at this major life decision?) no judgment, just tryna increase my own understanding.

  • Guest©

    So many questions. Why would a nine year have to come out anyway? Why can't children be allowed to enjoy their little childhoods? I'm heartbroken. Poor child.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i'm so stuck right here, smh

  • SpiceGirl

    wait...what does a 9yr old know about suicide? This is just awful! Kids his age should be worrying about....playing with friends.....playing ball.....swimming....jump...running....This just breaks my heart as did the little boy that was 8 and did the same thing! DAMN BULLIES!!! Rest easy lil angel

  • TRUTHbeabsolute

    Waaaay back when I was 9 years old....being told by a classmate he or she liked the same sex would have surely caused you to be ostracized and we didn't know anything about being gay. We would have definitely said you had coodies.

  • SweetTEE

    I agree with what you're saying, however these kids are in whole gay relationships in elementary... trust my family is dealing with this as we speak.

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    TV, listening to grown folks speak, etc.. That poor baby!

  • Hotfiyah

    He was 9 years old and knew how he felt...you comments are dumb AF!! So his "little mind" didn't know he wanted to dress like a girl? STUPID!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I was reading the comments on another blog. The women commented similar to you. The men all wondered how a 9-year-old boy knows about coming out as gay.

    When I was 11, I spent the night at a lesbian couple's apartment (not voluntarily). The couple had a daughter who told me she was not a lesbian. I asked her what "lesbian" meant. She explained it to me like I was 5 years old. Even then I was confused.

  • A.P. Millz-CT

    People like you are an influence to these young delicate minds.. Bish you dumb asF

  • http://realitytea.com/ Lady Chatterley’s Lover

    How times have changed. All I wanted was a peanut butter sandwich and Bugs Bunny cartoons at nine years old. SAD

  • Stationarity

    They can but they get it from us. Us as in adults. They just haven’t learned to filter it yet.

  • MJF

    Heartbreaking. He is a brave little boy! God bless his soul... may he sleep in peace

  • Trace da Ace

    girl...I had to google this story because at 9 years old....suicide should not even be a thought!!! They said he hung himself....shit got me all messed up over here...

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Think back to before Obama came into office. Do you ever recall this many boys talking about dressing like girls? These children are being influenced by adults. There is no way a 9 year old knows what gay is.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    WHUT???!!!!!!!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Unfortunately, we're going to see more of these incidents. There are transgenders in the schools influencing minor children to be transgender.

  • SpiceGirl

    you and me both....same thing with the 8 yr old...he hung himself....smdh......it's too much....can NOT imagine what his family is going through right now.....

  • Alextra Ballard

    Let me just move just move it along!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I'm a lesbian, and I didn't know what a lesbian was until I was 11. So I know this little boy had to be influenced by an adult.

  • kennedy220

    Lol .This is nothing new.

  • SpiceGirl

    wow.......

  • SpiceGirl

    you couldn't have disagree with ole girl WITHOUT calling her a name????

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    these babies carrying some heavy sh*t ain't they?! when i was 9, my biggest worry was if my deddy knew to get me the purple banana bike with the flowers on the seat, for my b-day, smh

  • Coy little wink

    I remember talking about sex in third grade...that's about 9 isn't it? I remember a girl we all knew was gay. This was in the 80s! These kids are way more advanced...and the music and TV shows are too...its hard to believe he was bullied about it since its much more normalized now

  • Trace da Ace

    I get what you are saying Sandy....cause when I was young....we were always told that liking the same sex was bad and nasty.....when one of my older cousins came out as lesbian ( and she was the very butch type).....some folks in my family sad nasty things about her.....and she would cuss them to hell and back......I never understood why they would say these things....in my mind (young and current) I have always thought that if being lesbian or gay or whatever was a persons choice....that is their choice....I never looked at it as wrong or bad....if that is what makes you happy and you are not hurting anybody...then live your life....

  • kennedy220

    there Are also gays in school . The only thing new about this is us gays thinking it’s ok to come out

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    When Obama first started his gay agenda push, I told my readers they were coming for your kids.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chile when I was a child I never bullied in fact I befriended kids that were bullied.. . whew shyt ... I can not stand a bully I swear .. That shyt does damage and if you tried to bully my azz I fought back.... And I'm still the same. ... so technically that's not always true ... Some kids just ain't shyt ... Period. ... mean spirited .... evil and they role in packs because their weak azzes can't do it on their own. .. a well known fact and what many don't know... a bully is truly scared of the victim when it boils down too it ... Truly and subconsciously ... And it's that fear... That fear is what drives them to get others to join their clique .... The bully truly fears the victims... If people only knew ... Victims that is.. . How much power they have over the bully . . It's time to start using that power.. . I can not stomach a bully .. My daughter tried that shyt and got her azz handed to her.... I do not play about bullying.. In no way and she know if she try it.... It's on . . . ..

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The mom's story sounds suspect. She's leaving out too much information.

  • sunni_daze

    Basically. His views are that of those around him and not his own

  • Guest©

    I saw a video on YouTube of drag queens reading to small children at the library. The drag queen actually asked 3, 4 and 5 years old, "who wants to be a drag queen when they grow up"?!? I was appalled. I agree, these types of incidents will be happening more often.

  • Soda

    I didn't believe this story when I read it yesterday and still don't believe it today. I think the mama killed him then made up this b.s. story. If her kid really spoke like that then she should have had a deep conversation with him, not just an I love you response. And what kind of name is Joe Shoemaker for a school?

  • sunni_daze

    Damn that's tough.

  • MISSMEWITDATBULL

    Excuse me??? Really? Please elaborate if you don't mind... I am seriously trying to wrap my head around this! Elementary school?!!!

  • kennedy220

    Umm it varies. I was influenced by watching my mom get ready for work when i was 5. She was just beautiful to me and i wanted to look just like her. We she’s still beautiful but that was a phase for me and for my cousin , well he’s trans now. His was the same thing. Watching his mom and all the beautiful women on TV

  • MsPam

    The way the mother is talking I’m feeling some kind of way about her?! Something isn’t right about her.

  • Trace da Ace

    girl!!! I was bullied by this fat ass girl who thought it was funny to throw chocolate milk on me......the first time she did it I was shocked and hurt.....but baby....the 2nd time she TRIED to do it....I put that big bitch in the dirt and kicked the shit out of her....all by myself....and I was 90lbs soak in wet...this chick was every bit of 175 plus....I was proud of myself.....because I found out I was not the only one she was doing that to.....she NEVER did that shit again....ever....and actually apologized to me like 10 years later when we so happened to be working at Sears together.....

  • MsPam

    No disrespect but when did you realize that you were a lesbian?!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    yeah, there's too much access to unfiltered info and images by impressionable children. but that's the world today.
    slightly off topic, one of my coworkers was puzzled that her son started asking her if she had a good day at work, if the boss was nice to her, etc.
    i told her that it's because the minute she picks them up from school, the entire ride home she's on the phone discussing how awful her boss is. she was stunned and had never even thought about it.

  • kennedy220

    Not true. I was 4 years old and knew i was gay in nursery. Kids know more than you think. I remember my mom trying to make me walk a certain way and speak a certain way. I was gay, i knew what it was and what it wasn’t. I guess if you’re not gay maybe you wouldn’t understand it . I was brought up in a super religious family so i knew i was staying in the closet. My cousin who also knew at his early age was way more brave and flamboyant and didn’t care what his parents thought

  • pure_rachet

    shiz, I just wanted a Charleston Chew.

  • Phillybruh

    So not true, I knew around 7 or 8. When I told my mother when I was grown, she reminded me of all the corrective measures she took to try and correct it. I was still a little boy, but it was just something she could see.

  • SpillyNillie

    It makes me sick when people call children gay. It makes me even sicker when children consider themselves as gay. In order to be gay, you have to like the same sex. Take it a bit further you have to know that you want to have intercourse with the same sex. How would he know that at 9?!?!?! He just knew he was a little boy that wanted to act, dress as a little girl. Which does not make him "gay." This child went to school professing to be gay, something he had no clue about. AND his silly ass mother didn't take the time to explain to him.

    I'M DONE!

  • kennedy220

    Sandra plenty of us were dressing like girls... we played in our mothers clothing while they were away. I was 4 when i knew. I know you aren’t speaking for our entire group when you say that kids don’t know what Fay is but i knew what it was and what it wasn’t. I knew that my parents weren’t going to like it either. This was the early 80s. Te only thing that’s exposing it is social media and people minding their own business more and not bothering us so much. Well i wish that las part was true b

  • SpillyNillie

    AT 9?!?!?! I'm MAD!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    The big ones easy to knock out... Being that I was slim Bean pole and still is but however I was bullied and them big bytches got that azz handed to them.... I fight dirty with bullies .... IDGAf .... Hit their big azzes with the biggest object you can find... Knock em on their azz and drill their digging face in... My steelo hit the big bytch talking the most shyt first ground that giant and slam that azz... Folks Better check my profile ... Bullie Azz Kicker is who I be.... Better know jeniefrumdabloc ... Whew Chile... Always been like that... Don't try to come bullying me... You will get drilled ... Chile taught my niece that... If these young girls knew... Chile a 11 grader tried that mess with my niece .. At the time she was in 9 th grade... Wrong move... Chile my niece sent that azz to the hospital ... I told her you fight dirty with a bully any day.... Hell they threatening ... Buss they head too white meat... You got my permission .... This bullying shyt will get that azz hurt ... Leave it alone...

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    sorry if you were offended by those of us who genuinely struggle with the concept of a 9 y/o "coming out" ....personally, i would rephrase my question and say that "as far as i know" a 9 y/o would not have arrived at that level of 'selection' at that early stage in life, but if that's your experience, it's certainly not my intent to scoff at it. again, no judgment, just trying to understand.

  • sunni_daze

    Okay, I get that I had a friend from muy childhood that like Barbies. I didn't put it together till I was almost grown .

  • Phillybruh

    Why does everything have to go back to him, boys were playing in girls clothes long before he became President. I think times have changed and people are more accepting than they were years ago.

  • Sdot33

    so sad

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i'm sad.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    ROFL, you took it waaaaaay back Jenie... "buss they head to the white meat" LMAO!

  • Kimocha

    There's obviously some things missing from this story.... Like did he go to school in girl's clothes? How did he kill himself? I can't imagine what his mother must be going thru....smh

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    that too, LOL (oh, and my allowance... i got plans for that $2, TUH!)

  • Dowoop

    As sad as it is that this little boy killed himself, if my son came out to me and said he wanted the kids at school to know, I would discourage him from telling them. Kids can be mean, especially at that age and about something like this.

  • Dowoop

    She needs to shoulder some of this blame on herself.

  • Soda

    Take it a bit further you have to know that you want to have intercourse with the same sex.
    -----------
    I don't know about that part at such a young age. Maybe it's better to say that the other person gives your stomach butterflies.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    kids are way more evolved now Sandra way more evolved... I don't know if this shyt is true but I do know we all have been bullied at some point and know just how low it pulls the spirit down... I want blame the mother in this situation because I don't know the full details ... but I will be damned if I take my frustration away from the source of Fawked up treatment to other children because they're different .... You're different and if someone comes for your azz about how you choose to be .... more than likely I ridding for ya .... I can not stand a bully ... it damaging. .. as children it creates childhood wounds that later resurface through adult years.. . Anyone that destroys a child's spirit ..... At an early age... Can kiss my azz... And that includes your abuser as well... It's not right to be treated that way... Not right...

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Phillybruh

    Coming from someone who knew they were gay early back then what this little boy did wasn't possible. No way No how where you telling your family this at 9 even though you knew full well you were different. I guess this comes from talking with your children and taking how they feel seriously.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    the white damn meat ... take em out. ... straight up.. . Hit the big ones quick they want know what hit em ... the weight slows them down. . ????

  • Elevated Soul

    The Alt-Left have convinced many that it's cool /trendy to be gay. This kid was influenced by an adult family member, just like the adopted son of Charlize Theron whom she dresses as if he's a girl but when he find out how she misguided his soul,he will snap!

    He went to school and revealed this to other 9 year olds and they responded like a child does.He responded like a kid who was indoctrinated by an adult that made it seem as if everyone would accept it.

    RIP.....This child was failed by liberal politics.

  • Tlowe89

    Omg this breaks my heart. I wish we lived in a society where people didn’t bully people based on their looks or choice to look the way they felt on the inside

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    I was thinking the same... Auntie gotta fill some holes.

  • hottlanta

    Could he spell coming out. Mom is lying and pimping her child for some coins when she said the parents should be held responsible. Sounds like she is talking 2 the media n got morgan n morgan law firm on hold at the same dayum time. I just booked me a flight l am getting the hell outta here. This is a bit much.

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    If he was old enough to announce he was gay, then he is old enough to have those kinds of conversations. Cant be coddling kids when they are out here being grown.

  • Cocoa Rose

    Aren't you lesbian??????????????????????

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    okay, i'm not here to question or diminish your experience. i guess i just wasn't as 'evolved' at that age. i mean, i 'liked' little boys, and had even claimed a few as husband material, Lol! but to my 9 y/o mind that just meant that i wanted him to buy me some candy, walk to the corner store, or ride our bikes around the block together. plus, at that age i was still a tomboy - ain't gone be no kissing, but you can come sit in this tree with me, LOL!

  • Mmm…Okay

    Another article I read said he had on "fake finger nails".

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    right! ain't no shame in a well-timed sucker punch! LMAO!

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    Poor baby, whatever happened to him, I pray he is in a better place. But there are some missing pieces, I'm not feeling how the mom is trying to place blame on parents....

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    I think that was the point being made. He was too young to know what he liked in that way and therefore saying he was gay was going too far when he really didn't understand what he was saying. Which was why it was up to his mother to talk to him and explain as much as she could before just going to school at 9yo talking about he's gay!! I think he may have just really been attracted some really pretty little boy that all the other girls (who may have been his friends) in class liked and he associated that with being gay.

  • Phillybruh

    But if your child is being bullied to this point who should be blamed?

  • SpillyNillie

    Right, that was my point. He was to young to understand the ramifications of declaring himself gay.

  • Dowoop

    Some people do the most for no reason at all.

  • abby500

    I kinda agree

  • abby500

    Right. His attention seeking mom should have foreseen this.

  • Dowoop

    Im just looking for some clarity. When you say you knew you were gay at 4 do you mean you already knew you liked boys or vice versa?

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    Herself for encouraging her 9 year old son to go to school and tell a bunch of other 9 year olds that he's gay!! SHE'S to blame in this situation.

  • Phillybruh

    Its pretty much the same feeling but you can't do anything about it. You can't tell someone you like them,you can't do all the things you see other people doing, and thank god society has evolved that this kid was able to tell his mother how he was feeling ( 9 is not to young to know your gay) and she say back to him I still love you. And then in a matter of days the kids at school steal his joy.

  • Rayne

    I’m...I’m .. just finna go.?

  • Patricia

    at nine, i was out playing every afternoon until my mama called us inside 5 times, obsessing over super nintendo on weekends, and dodging homework and so was the entire neighborhood. now, kids are being "sexualized" way too young via tv and media. parents need to ditch the cable and only allow web use under supervision, guard their children, protect them from evil forces and influences.

    i dont understand the concept of a gay 9 yr old. where is the childhood???

  • Phillybruh

    You have no way of knowing she thought he would go tell the kids at school and even still it doesn't give them the right to bully him to that point!

  • Rayne

    See what I’m saying. All of it!

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    I don't have enough information to provide an educated answer. However, I can conclude, something isn't adding up with this story.

  • Lady_Elle

    So sad...
    This is crazy!
    Why would this 9 year old feel a need to "come out"?
    I do not discount his having some kind of feelings...
    Maybe I am missing something.

  • Dowoop

    A lot of people are saying 9 is too young to know what gay is but his classmates (who I would assume are also 9) knew enough to make fun of him for being gay.

  • OvertheMississippi

    I don't care what his 9-year-old face said. NOPE! You will continue to dress as a male until you can buy your own clothes. Love ya though, kid!

  • Stationarity

    I agree with everything you said.

    Let me correct my statement. The kids who bully, get it from adults. I never bullied anyone either and never had the desire too. I was actually the one that was bullied horribly. I was 5’10 in the seventh grade.

    I try to encourage my son to befriend people who are bullied or atleast be kind to them. My child once tried to crack on a teammate that had an ashy neck and I didn’t like it at all. No matter how innocuous that seems, it just wasn’t right to me.

    But people on this site(the internet in general) bully each other and are nasty to each other all the time for unjustified reasons in my opinion. I know they don’t do it in person but to me it shows who they probably really want to be....some of these commenters have kids!

    That’s off topic but those kids didn’t learn how to bully out of the nowhere

  • OvertheMississippi

    Mama took it too far. She now has herself a martyr.

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    I didn't say they had the right to bully him.She said he wanted to tell the kids at school because he was proud of himself. You asked who was to blame and I said his mother. As his mother she should have told him she still loved him (which she did) and then proceeded to ask him why he thought he was gay. As well as other questions to glean exactly why at 9yo (an age where eveyone thinks the opposite sex has the coodies) he would think he was gay. She should not have thought it was ok to go to school and let a bunch of kids know her son's supposed sexual preference at 9YO!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    yeah, at least her response was one of acceptance and love. as for telling the other kids though, we can only expect them to respond in an immature way because they're just kids. you have to know your child and anticipate what potential rejection will do to them. if we've now opened up the discussion, let's really get into it. same as we tell our Black boys to be mindful of the cops, folks gotta sometimes tell their gay kids to be mindful of folks not liking them just because they're gay. it's not right, but it's reality.

  • Phillybruh

    Did your mother ask you why you thought you were straight?

  • Phillybruh

    It sounds like she never had the chance, it went from 0-10 in four days. He probably didn't tell the class but someone he thought was his friend but she went and told everyone else.

  • Yup, I said it

    At 9, kids will make fun of another kid for being heterosexual. Unless the kids have hit puberty, sexual attraction of anykind will go over their heads

  • SweetTEE

    Kindergarten to be exact. They are already holding hands and kissing. I know because one of my cousins had to go up to her daughters school because she kept complaining about another little girl trying to kiss her. The guidance counselors dont really know how to deal because they know there are obviously issues going on at home but everyone is scared to really dig because of all the new laws.

  • RaginB

    R.i.p lil man.

  • Applebootay

    Pierce said Jamel wanted his classmates at Joe Shoemaker Elementary School to know he was gay.

    And that's where she F@ked up. I'm assuming the above statement meant she knew he wanted to tell his 9 YEAR OLD CLASSMATES who are not mature enough to even remotely understand sex let alone gender confusion. Had that been my son, as unfortunate as it is, I would've advise him not to "come out" to anyone right now, maybe his teachers first....just so many things wrong with this story and so many questions. However, at the end of the day, he lost his life and that's heartbreaking. RIP

  • SweetTEE

    Annnddd apparently a lot of kids are being molested by their peers at this age.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    that's a bit much. clearly this other little girl has been 'exposed' to something. kinneygarden??? no ma'am!!!!!

  • Applebootay

    Yes, 9 yr olds know what "gay" means but they do not hold the mental capacity to understand the psychological state of it and thats why she should have told him not to tell anyone, at least not to his classmates first....shiiiiiid he'd just told his Mom.

  • Parent

    Yes this is the Park Slope Library in Brooklyn. Those hipster parents love that ish.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    ...because the peers are being molested, smh.
    it's starting to sound like an epidemic.

    matter of fact, that's what i started thinking about this resurgence of catholic priest victims. i can't help but wonder if some of those predatory priests weren't themselves victims of preying priests when They were children!

  • Phillybruh

    I wouldn't have advised even that, and I'm gay. If the mother did know that he was planning that she is partially at fault for not nipping that idea in the bud. Be as out as you want at home but at school just go learn right now.

  • Liah

    Wow!...That’s all I got??

  • FukkFolks2018

    Nobody believes this. Why idk

  • hottlanta

    Mom needs 2 b finding out as anyone been messing with her son bcas he knows a lil bit too much. Then all she gives him is a hug n a smile. If that is not the case she needs 2 get her azz whupped for putting fake fingernails and girl clothes on a 9 year old boy as if he was the daughter she wanted n expect kids 2 keep a straight face n not see that for 8 hours in school n not react. Lets keep it real. Kids r not adults.

  • Vegas1989

    Kids these days don't play outside...I use to wash the dog outside ride my bike and pop wheelies, wash the car for extra cash play until the street lights came on. I drive down the street at 4:30...it looks like Calico Ghost Town....SMH>>>.

  • Applebootay

    The school system.

  • Parent

    Sandra is a lesbian but one who doesn't push her agenda on everyone.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Just....

    RIP baby

  • Phillybruh

    I had to look up another article but the blame is plenty to go around, hers, the school and yes the parents of the other children.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    "Kids these days don't play outside"
    ---
    So true. A lot of these kids would just rather stay inside and play video games, text their friends, surf the internet etc. It's amazing how things have changed so much just in one generation.

  • Dowoop

    Wrong and it wasn't necessarily sexual attraction as much as it was just plain old attraction. At 9 yrs old my son knew he liked girls but that doesn't mean he wants to start fucking them.

  • MsVAllDay

    Not really sure where you're going with this, but any parent with any kind of sense knows there is a possibility of bullying if this child came out to children at that age. They are immature mentally and emotionally and they do things that don't make sense. Just like this sweet young soul made a decision about taking his life b/c he was immature mentally and emotionally and didn't see any other way out. It's the nature of being a child the lines between right and wrong are blurred. If he wanted to come out that's fine, but he should have received counseling first and kept that within their family until he was emotionally ready to handle the unfortunate realities of coming out. He shouldn't have to live his life in a closet, but as a parent it is our job to instruct and protect our kids from the evils of this world even when they are in the right! I blame the parents!!!!!!!!!! While she's pointing the finger at other parents she needs to evaluate her own parenting skills and make sure she did what was in the best interest of her son. It is clear to me from the fact that he took his own life that coming out to his peers was NOT in his best interest!

  • Applebootay

    that's why I said maybe.....not understanding why the mom thought this was ok. I mean, I dunno the school's environment.....maybe some classmates have come out...I dunno...I'm certain that I would've told my son not to do it.

  • Dowoop

    I agree that she should have discouraged him from telling kids at school and I said so in another comment but im puzzled by how willingly he wanted to share the news with kids at school but was very scared to tell his mom according to her.

  • Parent

    My soon to be 13 year old daughter had to deal with bullies in the 7th grade. She is anticipating going back next week. I told her if one of them lays a hand on you fight like your life depends on it. Am I wrong to tell her to resort to violence? I don't know but I can't have anybody breaking my baby down. I swear I sometimes want to choke these kids.

  • MsVAllDay

    Liberals??? This child was failed by his parents! He should have received counseling to make sure he was mentally and emotionally ready to handle the backlash that was sure to come from 9yr olds. He shouldn't have to live in the closet, but at nine he needed guidance on what could happen if he came out and unfortunately his parents did not adequately prepare him. Preparing your child for the world is not the job of liberals that's the job of parents!

  • MsVAllDay

    Correct!

  • MsVAllDay

    Or let him see a counselor so that when the backlash comes (which we all know will) he is better prepared mentally and emotionally to deal with it.

  • Phillybruh

    Perhaps she didn't know he would do it on the first day of school and she hadn't had a chance to have the conversation with him. But it went from 0-10 in four days, once someone says you should kill yourself he was ruined.

  • Applebootay

    The fact that he was that willing to tell everyone, would've raised red flags, especially at that age. Mental health red flags....I would've been on the phone finding the nearest Psychiatrist...

  • MsVAllDay

    #FACTS

  • Applebootay

    No the story actually said ...Pierce said Jamel wanted his classmates at Joe Shoemaker Elementary School to know he was gay.

  • Phillybruh

    Once you have told your parents you don't care who knows. But I do agree she should have kept that in house for now.

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    she immediately went to... parents should take accountability.. That's what made it fishy in the first place.

    But to your point, I would be mad af if my 9yr old came home and told me a kid at school "came out" like what part of school is that!

  • Applebootay

    Bully is wrong, no argument there but his mom is just as Negligent as the bullies as far as I'm concerned.

  • MsVAllDay

    Oh she needs to take 98% of the blame. I can't blame 9 yr. olds for being 9 yrs old and doing what children do.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    sad part is, parents are so concerned about their children's physical safety that they'd rather keep them inside - nobody wants their kid to go missing. unfortunately, the physical safety of the home doesn't safeguard them from the influx of everything in the outside world being dropped into their laps, literally, by all the advances and advantages of technology. kids 'live' in their rooms now like they're studio apts, Lol! they don't have to come down for dinner, their laptops and tablets are in bed with them, and plenty of them are up all night, even after their parents say 'nite-nite, lights out' ...they got the whole world in their hand, Lol!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    I feel ya ... That bully fears your child in some way.... SMH I can't stand a bully whew Chile

  • Phillybruh

    Don't avoid the question, they wanted the mother to question the child on why he thought he was gay. I simply asked where you questioned as too why your straight.

  • Phillybruh

    I had to look up another article.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Totally agree

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    It's even worse when they "feel" like they're the wrong gender and the parents quicky embrace that... and start allowing their son, for example, to wear dresses, act like a girl, identify themselves with girl names/nicknames, etc. One of my wife's coworkers is doing that now to her 7 year old son, and it's just sad to me.
    These parents dont realize how much they're damaging their children by pushing this crossdressing/transgender stuff on kids who dont have any true understanding of the seriousness of this stuff. .

  • MsVAllDay

    Sweetie children do what children do. Of course he was going to be bullied by a bunch of 9 yr. olds. It was his mothers job to forsee this and attempt to protect her son. If he wasn't emotionally ready to handle the level of backlash that was sure to come he should've kept his new found sexuality to himself and worked with counselors and his family until he was ready to handle it.

  • Applebootay

    Now there's a conspiracy theory!!!!!

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    "why he thought he was gay." that part threw me, sooo many unanswered questions. She should have asked him does he know what it means, when/how does he come to this conclusion. Momma was definitely negligent, unless Auntie left out parts of the story.

  • Phillybruh

    DHS should be called or something, the little girl doing all the kissing has been exposed to something.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    First of all watch your mouth.. . With that sweetie shyt second of all it take way more than that ...

  • MsVAllDay

    Much respect for you. At what age did you come out to your family?

  • Applebootay

    But these are 9 year old kids......I mean were they teasing him or bullying him? Or is that the same thing? I just feel like at this age, its expected...they should be reprimanded defintely but I feel IF the mother knew he was going to come out BEFOREHAND she should have been responsible enought to have advise him not to.

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    That's what I'm saying!! To me being gay means you prefer to be sexually intimate with someone of the same sex as yourself. At 9yo you don't know whose sex you prefer because yo lil azz shouln't even know what sex is. Now him saying he is attracted to someone is different because you can be attracted to someone of the same sex and still not want to be with them in that way. He said he was gay and wanted to start telling his friends and she G'd for that shyt instead of trying to find out why he would go all out and say gay versus saying he really liked or was attracted to someone.

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    Likely not, being straight at 9 years of age is the norm. At 9 yrs old my mom was asking if I still want to wear hair knockers or get a perm, not my sexual preference.

  • Phillybruh

    So to not make her child feel anymore different than he already does why would she ask him all that.

  • Phillybruh

    I was 24 it just was not a good thing to do in the early 90's. Now its a different space for gay kids.

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    The fact that she didn't acknowledge that her child is different is the reason he is no longer among the living. People need to stop sugar coating shht. That baby wasn't built to withstand that kind of harsh treatment. And she failed to inform/prepare him.

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    Yes, at 9yo why do you think you're gay? And not just really in like with someone. You're absolutely correct. At 9 I'm going to question my child. At 9 my mother would have questioned me because it's not something a 9 yo should be thinking about.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    in all fairness, i think a lot of parents if faced with the prospect of their child showing up on the 1st day of school and announcing/declaring their sexual and gender preferences, the response would have probably been: you're not announcing anything. you're going in there to get some education and NOT to disrupt that over-filled classroom. if you got a question about your lesson, raise your hand and ask it, otherwise, focus on your work and when school is out bring yo lil azz on back here to the house, lol.

  • Torae

    Sad..but he needed a real talk and she needed to explain to him how students may react. She needed to really talk to him about EVERYTHING..not just say I still love you. I make sure I’m as real as possible with my daughter so she can understand that people’s opinions of her is not her problem. She’s not going to be someone hurt and ready to kill herself over someone’s comments. It’s okay to be as real as possible with your kids at his age especially the way the world is today... This breaks my heart....

  • TheyDontHearMeTho

    Just heart breaking!!!!!! But it boggles me as to what a 9yr old knows about being gay. I swear I blame the CONSTANT programming. Homosexuality was treated as a mental disability..i used to think no one is born gay until a nurse broke down the whole chromosome thing but honestly, homosexuality is not of OUR people. Europeans did that shit. Sleeping with children and animals n tht nasty Greek culture that ruined ours. We still wanna pledge to GREEK fraternities and shit okay im going way off topic let me shut up now. Frustrated. I fear for the future of our children.

  • MsVAllDay

    I agree. Or at least provide him with the counseling needed to handle this type of decision.

  • Renee26

    So sad... He thought he was ready but wasn't mentally prepared for the bullying that came about as a result. Kids can be sooo cruel....this world can be so cruel

  • MsVAllDay

    I think a parent can still ask those questions w/o making their child feel worse. I would also ask my child those questions. First, to make sure they have the correct understanding b/c at 9 they could very well think being gay is something that it's not. Not to judge or discourage but to clarify.

  • MsVAllDay

    Damn right I'm going to question my 9 year old about being gay just like I question them about other types of shyt. When you went to Suzy's house who was there, did anybody touch you inappropriately, did anything happen? We question kids all the time b/c that's what parents do. There is no way my child can say that to me at 9 and I say nothing. Yes, there will be questions.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i recall we had "health" class in 5th or 6th grade, Lol

  • Renee26

    How did he know....he knew what gender he was attracted to I'm sure... I knew I liked boys in kindergarten and even recall pecking a little redhead boy on the lips on the playground. Kids in elementary have crushes... It's not about the act of sex

  • Keyshia Ray

    That was my first thought i dont get kids so young they say wanted to kill themselves or did its weird to me.

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    She lying! The TRUTH WILL BE REVEALED!

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    COME ON TRUTH!!!!

  • Anji

    In the 60 s, 2 male playmates dressed as girls. Both grew up to live as gay males. I didn't understand, neither did they, we just had fun. They both achieved financial success, one as engineer the other designing fashions. Back then it was called queer or funny, not gay.

  • Renee26

    She didn't know... I feel so sorry for her and can't point the finger of blame towards her

  • Renee26

    I don't think she started allowing him to dress like a girl...he just requested it

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    my dumb azz would probably ask them, who told you you're gay? but that's because it wasn't unusual for my dad to respond that way. he was quick to ask us, who told you that dumb azz sh#t? (not equating the act of 'coming out' to be being DAS).... just demonstrating the difference between some of today's PC parents and yesterday's nosy, unfiltered, 'but it was still love' parents, LOL!

  • Renee26

    Would you mind sharing your coming out story with us? It can be handled so many different ways and the reactions vary from person to person.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    True. A former friend of mine had a 12 year old daughter who was having late night conversations online with some "boy" she developed an online crush on. The momma only found out about it when she found a letter the girl had written to the "boy", giving her home address etc and saying how she was falling in love, and how she hoped they could meet soon....
    Of course, for all we know that "boy" could be a 38 yr old pervert looking to prey on naive young girls. Parents just have to be so careful nowadays, especially with smartphones. Kids have so many ways to do dirt now right under their parents' nose, and they can hide it for a long time without getting detected.

  • Solstice

    I agree. I really learn so much from Chicagowise. It helps me get a glimpse into and the perspectives.

  • Renee26

    Maybe she didn't want him to feel ashamed.. She wanted him to know that she was a loving and accepting parent based off her comments here... She probably didn't know how to handle it just like many of us wouldn't know the "right" thing to say or do if our kids came to us with shocking news. Pray for her

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    Well let me ask this. What do you think she should have said to/done for her 9yo son who just told her he was gay? Do you think she did the right thing in allowing him to come out to classmates? And do you believe, like she does, it's the other parents who are at fault for what happened to her son?

  • Solstice

    doomed…?

  • Meme

    My goodness how did this child know sooooo much sooooo soon, he knew of sexuality he knew how to commit suicide, children are having way too much exposure way too young may the lad rest in perfect peace

  • Solstice

    Sure don’t!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    yep, not unheard of at all. we all know how long ago 'to catch a predator' aired, and those pervs are still at it. you routinely hear about young girls sneaking away from home to meet-up with their online boyfriend, and turning up in the next state with some 45 y/o man in a hotel, smh. and let's not even talk about the teachers and coaches that who undercover predators. they can go undiscovered for years! hide ya kids, for real!

  • Anji

    You're likely from my era lol. When I work in schools I hear the young kids speaking about tv, movies and discussing characters that are gay. This was not a thing some previous generations of children were exposed to.
    Because I monitored my now millennial son's media while young, he wasn't aware had I not taught him age-appropriate social knowledge. Even the 2 and 3 year olds are advanced and IMHO know more than their immature minds can handle. Sex in elementary schools is a problem both on and off site. ?.

  • Renee26

    Any tips that can be shared to help another parent or person struggling with their truth is worth it IMO

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    (thank you for sharing)

  • Greatgrape37

    How did he kill himself?

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    this is overwhelming, smh
    God bless these babies and their non-existent childhood, smh

  • Anji

    I believe it denies their children of the natural choice that will come in time as they mature. Today's generation is the start of total confusion

  • Banka

    Indeed, agreed !!

  • Itzgoingdown

    Yet, you all still don’t understand that child gender confusion IS ROOTED in your liberals LEADERS IDEOLOGY, facts’!!!!

  • Itzgoingdown

    Be careful in what you ask for..... child gender confusion IS ROOTED in your liberals LEADERS IDEOLOGY.

  • Coy little wink

    Oh yea I did too...I meant we as in the kids!

  • KcoolMuziq
  • Marlika

    The mother is just as much to blame. In one sentence she claims he told her but she thought he was playing. ? In the next she wishes he would’ve told her. ? I call b.s she knew that little boy was feeling a certain way. I would be surprised if she told him to kill himself or killed him or knows who did. ????? Something is not right.

  • Phillybruh

    I had been in a relationship for about a year with someone who was out and he encouraged me to tell my mother if our relationship was going to go to that next phase he didn't pressure me to do or anything. Well he had some personal issues and he took his life and I didn't know how to deal with that, so naturally you turn to a parent, I was 24 she was not happy, spoke down too me, made me feel like my being gay was the worse thing too happen to her. We didn't speak for a year, then she called and apologize to me and how her initial reaction was not how she envisioned her self reacting. Although she was coming around I was with my husband for two years with a whole house and baby on the way before she was able to meet him. Fast forward 15 years she's my best friend but she needed that time and space and I had no problem with giving her that to work through what she needed too.

  • Anji

    Everyone. Parents, government, society, cultural identifications....My son is autistic. I knew he'd be a professional musician(not solely) by age 10. I have been a pro entertainer since age 5. Being around creative artists you see a lot. I...I the parent taught him to judge not lest ye be judged. In a spiritual context, not of religious note. He needed to be comfy in his own skin (autism) and understand others need that freedom also. This was re-enforced by family and friend we associate with. I can't control media, school, peers but I observed as he grew to choose friends like himself upholding beliefs I taught him. The way I carefully influenced his early media exposure didn't hurt. We can't legislate tolerance and acceptance but we need the majority of people to stand for freedom. If we accept intolerance of any kind we open the door to the rationale of all bullies. Everyone needs to feel responsible.

  • TransMichelle

    Sorry but this woman probably killed her own son. These parents are more senile than ever today and care nothing for their children. They killing them left and right. I wouldn't put it pass this woman.

  • TransMichelle

    I think so too

  • Soda

    Too young to know what he liked in what way? Are you saying that he can't be gay without being sexually active?

  • TransMichelle

    He only 9 years old she allowed it. We got some dumb behind parent today and treating children like they grown. Even a 9 year old girl don't wear fake nails to school unless it's dress up day.

  • Phillybruh

    I do think she did the right thing in telling him she loved him still. Nothing else beyond that needed to be said. A conversation at some point about the girls clothing should be had, but when a child tells a parent that they are gay its extremely difficult to do. The mother herself just received news and before she can have a proper conversation with her son she needed a moment to absorb what he just told her. But too turn that moment into an inquisition will make your child never want too tell anything again!

  • TransMichelle

    So which of you two men carried the baby?

  • Soda

    How is admitting a feeling being grown? If it had been her 9 year old daughter stating that she liked a boy in her class, would you think she was acting grown?

  • Anji

    The mother might've posed the question "what do you think being gay means" after hearing her son's statement. Many young children don't really know about sexuality. I know I was not questioned by a parent about whether I am what was considered the norm in the 60 s, being straight. It was also considered highly unusual to be sexualized at an early enough age for them to ask.

  • Phillybruh

    You know when you are gay and I'll just leave it there.

  • Applebootay

    No, I'm not sure if you have kids.....I do....and I can say that I would have strongly discouraged and explain to him what would be the possible outcome of this "coming out"...that's "handling it" without "handling it"...that's what I do....do nothing until I do know because my number 1 job is to protect my child and as a Tiger Mother....aint no way in hell. Yes, she needs prayer....

  • Phillybruh

    Your mother carried the baby!

  • Applebootay

    As a parent, I can't excuse it with the not knowing what to do.....because thats when you say...."Honey UNTIL I PROCESS this and figure out how to best handle it, perhaps seek a therapist, LETS KEEP THIS OUT LIL SECRET FOR NOW....I know you want it to be known and that is very brave of you but the world we live in today won't be so nice.....so lets figure this out....

  • Anji

    But do you as a child fully understand everything a gay lifestyle entails?

  • Phillybruh

    Yall do know they can tell difference between Murder and Suicide.

  • Phillybruh

    You would think you would say everything your supposed to but my kids have thrown me some things I thought I would be ready for at that moment but I was not.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    By its very definition, you must be sexually active to be gay. If you have never experienced gay sex, how do you know you are gay?

  • Anji

    Exactly

  • Phillybruh

    The fact that you reduce it too sex it just sad.

  • TransMichelle

    Figured you couldn't give a "straight" answer. You living a fantasy that is headed for guaranteed depression probably suicide. Two men can't create a child together. It takes a sperm and egg to create a child. Biology 101. You not heterosexual and nowhere on the level of heterosexuals you're just adding to the degeneracy of this society. But I'm going to leave it here because I could really go in on you. Live your life but don't try to make other people accept your mental illness. Toodles

  • SweetTEE

    I think most of the little kids going through this have been exposed to something. These kids out here getting molested and no one is admitting it and seeking professional help.

  • Phillybruh

    You can't go in on me, its the internet I give you no validation. Whatever you post is just too make your sad life seem better. So I'm good Love enjoy!

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    Having a conversation about coming out, is a very adult convo. Instead of coddling the situation, it needed to be addressed head on. I don't think that convo was had based off the articles I've read. And yes, if a 9 year old is having feelings about the opposite sex, she too is grown.

  • Anji

    I read a lot of advanced adult lit my much older sister owned and STILL wouldn't know much or how to succeed at suicide. How do these babies know how to kill themselves? And succeed?

  • SweetTEE

    Im about sure they were.. its mighty odd that these men were all blessed to speak God's word but they all have the same predilection. Its like a generational curse.

  • TransMichelle

    No you not good you deranged. Two men can't have a child together. Bye Child

  • Phillybruh

    There are two in the living room doing homework right now...lol

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    See, this is what im talking about, that part was conveniently left out. Too many holes man, too many holes!

  • Ain’t Misbehavin

    It's usually an Uncle or family friend.....

  • SunRiseBlossom

    That heffa is straight LYING!!! She trying to paint a picture like she was this supportive and loving parent... I will not be surprised if a follow up story reveals that she killed this poor baby!!

  • Phillybruh

    I think kids who are sexually aggressive at a young age yes something happened to them.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Did you catch when she said he came out to her and she told him, "I still love you"? The mother's story is suspect. There is more to this story than what she's telling.

  • Anji

    Parents speak with your children both bullies and bullied. I lost 2 former students this year who were gay. I was bullied as a kid but knew how to fight, had a bad as older brother and a mother who let school officials know what time it is. I stay u p well into the night looking watching YT videos of my students performing. They weren't this young but too young. They died slower deaths. They both died due to intolerance. I thought these 2 were so strong. I guess they got tired. Both found more acceptance in non-black communities.

  • TransMichelle

    You can't produce children. I don't care how many in your living room. You've got a severe mental problem. It obvious because you try to act like heterosexuals because deep down inside you know that's what's right.
    Here is the photo of an advertisement an airline did in support of fags. You can see by the rainbow seatbelts. Look at it carefully. I mean real carefully. The seat belts supposed to represent different couples and attraction. Now as you can see the first seat belts and the second seat belts represent fags meaning same-sex attraction. But you notice only the third seat belts that are opposites work. They are the only ones that can fasten together for safety. They are the only ones that work. Get it?. Everyone was laughing at this airline for making such an obvious blunder. I mean what I say now because I don't need to keep going with you on this. Just leave the kids alone. Toodles for real this time.
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/286ac85b2786755fa12cdc3200985fac1f65d579a8cb514806c50f04e0d8ff3f.jpg

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Thank you! I wish people understood that being gay is not the same as being a cross-dresser. And I agree that you have to experience same-sex attraction to be gay. Gay is not a state of mind or who you are, it is a behavior that is acted upon. The complexities of human sexuality is confusing for some adults. Can you imagine a 9 year old trying to sort it all out?

  • Phillybruh

    Again like I said your under this impression that I live my life worrying about what sad people like you think. So yes love I'm good enjoy!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5a16feb7886870b58e876a7ffc6b264e7419e743bb55ec579123b82d4a427799.gif you know they say the fish rots from the head down... ain't nothing nice going on in that vatican....

  • Ni Ni

    And he goes, ‘Can I be honest with you?'” Pierce said. “And I was like sure, and he’s like, ‘I know you buy me boy stuff because I’m a boy, but I’d rather dress like a girl.'”
    ______________
    If i had kids I'd be pleading the blood of Jesus over them at all times and nobody would have a tv in their room or no internet access unless im right there.

    I bet this poor soul has either watched something on tv or online to want to come out. What he know about coming out at his age? He might have been molested as well. It sounds like he knew a little too much about being gay. Anywhoo, Rip little one!

  • Soda

    Really? So we're all heterosexuals until we have sex with someone of the same sex? Thoughts, feelings, ect. don't count?

  • Anji

    Thanks for sharing and glad your mom came around in time for grandbabies.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I don't think all these children are hanging themselves. I remember a story about a woman who hanged her 7 or 8 year old son because she hated him. She left him hanging from his bunkbed, then went to the laundromat. Her plan was to tell police she returned from the laundromat and found him hanging. But one of her other kids told the cops what really happened.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The problem starts when there is no father in the home. The man who killed the video gamers in Florida tweeted that he wished he had a real dad.

  • Marlika

    It breaks my heart that a baby so young even thought of taking their own life or was even murdered. Kids can’t be kids anymore it’s sad.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    By the time I was 5 years old, I knew I was a homosexual. I didn't know what to call it, but I knew I was different. Making matters worse, people were always mistaking me for girl, because I was "too pretty to be a boy."

    There were moments when I wondered if I was supposed to be a girl. I was tough like a boy. I liked to fight like a boy. I played in the dirt like a boy. I was rough like a boy, but... I knew I wasn't like the other boys.

    That poor child wasn't ready for the weight of being openly gay. His mother should have explained that being gay has nothing to do with putting your business on a neon billboard. Life is not a Disney movie. Oftentimes, there's no happy ending and when you expose yourself, predators are waiting to take advantage of your perceived weaknesses.

    Instead of encouraging a 5 year old to become a target for bullies, his mother should have redirected his attention to simply being a child.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    No. You're asexual until you have sex with someone. What are you if you never have sex in your entire life? Thoughts and feelings mean nothing in the grand scheme of things.

  • Anji

    She may has well hung herself. When I look at my son I see myself and his father image wise. He reminds be of my own father in actions. How the hayle you hate what issued from your body. I did hate being preg, hated his father but adore my child. Story does have holes.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    "And I was like sure, and he’s like, ‘I know you buy me boy stuff because I’m a boy, but I’d rather dress like a girl.'”

    Whatever happened to the word, no? At what point do you teach a child that he can't have everything he wants?

  • CoTToNCaNDie SWeeTAsGolD

    I totally understand. But you can question your child and not turn it into that. You're not yelling and screaming and cursing, you're asking questions to not only understand your child but help them understand his or herself in the process. If it's done in a loving way it's a simple conversation between a mother and her child about how that child is feeling in that moment. If the parent doesn't do it, it's left up to someone outside the home and I don't need nobody else telling my baby how to feel or what to believe. I want to know everything about my child. I tell them all the time don't ever feel like you can't talk to me about anything because no one loves you the way I do. Yes I'm going to question because I want to understand that way I'm better prepared to defend them if need be.

  • Prettybrowneyes

    That was my gut feeling. A 9 year old talking about his sexuality? I can see him maybe wanting to play/wear girl clothes. I could see him saying that he likes girly things. Declaring gay means he knew what the acts of that lifestyle entails.I would look at my 9 year old daughter sideways if she says she likes dack while driving. Not normal conversation at that age. Not tryna to start an argument straight vs gay here. Maybe he was exposed to something early imho.

  • blue skies

    sad

  • Prettybrowneyes

    I just commented that maybe he was exposed early on to something (like molestation) to be so bold to make a declaration of being gay. Maybe I jumped the gun. Do you think it's just the way society is today? I didn't get exposed to gay and lesbians until high school and by that time we were mature enough to encourage acceptance.

  • Phillybruh

    I think 9 is old enough to know your gay, its also old enough to know what it is. The dressing like a girl is was probably the joking part she was referring to.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Your scenario is possible, but it's also possible that he knew he was gay. I wasn't molested and I knew something was "off," when I was in kindergarten.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    I knew when I was 5. I liked playing The Hulk and The Bionic Man, but I also wanted to look like Diahann Carroll and Jaclyn Smith! LOL

  • Phillybruh

    I had a strange attachment to Diana Ross...lol

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    A lot of "children" LOVE Ms. Ross! My breakthrough was when I saw Prince. I knew I had found my tribe. LOL I literally said, he reminds me of me!

  • Amilia A Lee

    Girls are taught about periods and childbirth at that age but don’t know what gay is? Right. This had nothing to do with outside influences. He knew he felt different and expressed it. Who told us we were heterosexual? As a parent I would have made sure he understood basic concepts and the fact that others may not be as accepting. Forcing him to change his feelings or tell him what he is “supposed to be” can do more harm than good. I would feel it out as a parent and encourage him to just be a kid. This is so sad. He was so precious.

  • kekeb

    This is horrible and tragic. Parents really need to discuss bullying with their chikchil AND punish them for bullying other kids

  • Soda

    Even if you never have sex your entire life, you still know which sex you are or aren't attracted to, otherwise how would start a relationship or encounter?

  • Phillybruh

    I thank god for Janet...lol

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    How can they hold their kids accountable when most of them think bullying is something to be proud of?

    They don't think it's a problem as long as their child is not being the one bullied.

  • Solstice

    Thank you Phillyb!! Appreciate you sharing! ???

  • Shira Harding-James

    Thank you for sharing.
    I would think that she wanted him to know she accepted him for who he was, that was her focus, she wasn’t thinking about the teaching moment that could of taken place.

  • Readytochokemothernatureout

    My baby is almost this age and I cannot even fathom it. Prayers for his family ???.

  • Solstice

    Thank you for sharing your story! ????

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    I knew I was bi in the 6th grade because their were 2 girls who would “be together” in the restroom at school and everyone would talk about them( in a bad way) but I was curious and didn’t find it to be disgusting like everyone else. Thanks for your story.

  • Eileen

    These kids are still in the learning stages of their lives, how can you hold them or the parents accountable when they are still being taught

  • Eileen

    that could have helped. I dont get it people want to expose their children barely 5 to a gay lifestyle when they dont even know where babies come from, their multiplication tables, or how to boil an egg...

  • Eileen

    enviornmental infleunces?

  • Eileen

    Thank You!!! all of this bisexual homosexual crap is because someone is messing with our babies. I didnt do daycare, or sleepovers for my three kids.

  • Eileen

    Hello? liberal parenting gets ya every time....

  • Darkandlovely617?

    In my opinion from my experience, yes

  • Eileen

    The homosexual agenda wanted this crap shoved down our babies throats and we let it happen! You may not want to hear this but when obama endorsed same sex marriage which legally the courts or he could not do all Hell broke loose and our children are paying the price because the homosexual agenda knew kids are not born homo so lets encourage them to think bout it and try it...this is the result..sad!

  • Eileen

    You may have been messed with as a young child to young to remember and that is all you have known or felt..

  • Eileen

    You sound confused

  • xenaD

    Exactly! Tf u mean “still” ??

  • Eileen

    Yep...

  • Eileen

    Why would she say "I still love you"? umh suspect to me too!

  • Eileen

    Its the gay agenda feel sorry for them and in doing so you accept the lifestyle and watch your babies become confused while the homos lick their chops for fresh ones to mess up! God help us!

  • Eileen

    He was exposed early by some pervert no way does a child know about gay sex and all that mess

  • Eileen

    I am right with you. homosexuality is a mental disorder I am coming straight from the Bible Old Testament and New Testament! I dont except non of this mess I pray for lgbtalphabet people.They need our prayers not our children!

  • Eileen

    the best thing i have heard thus far from gay person...

  • Sushi

    All of this........

  • Sushi

    I feel what you are saying, I myself knew at 5.... However to tell a child to be a child is easier said than done, when they themselves want to look a certain way, or dress , or play with dolls instead of Tonka Trucks. Society, will look at You ( a child) different. ...

  • Sushi

    Not true, and this is coming from my experience, I was not touched, nor did I see it on TV, I just knew I was a boy that liked boys, and as I got to know myself, I knew I wanted to present myself as I felt, at 18, I came out, went to college, changed my look, and here we are at 43......

  • Sushi

    Let me just say I was born in the 70's, and Had a praying Grandmother, and have a praying Mother, most people are who they are...when a person like myself knows who they are and WHO'S they are, they know GOD did not make a mistake.... I am sure I will get alot of feed back on this one, NO WORRIES. ...BUT just so EVERYONE know, I am a 43 year old Virgin. Never using my MANHOOD on a man or Woman, She does not work like that NEVER have, or will...

  • Sushi

    But that only opened the door, for you to be who you are.....It was always there, NOTHING is New under the SON......

  • Sushi

    And here is the thing with that not all gay or straight people were molested, I know for a fact I wasn't. . MY Grandmother, and Mother, was always with me, until I was about 9/10...Everyone want too say that maybe thus is the reason, but I have a 30 year old brother that is married with 3 kids, and I raised him, while my mom worked and went to the police academy. .....

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    Lol I don’t think so... ive just always liked males and females.

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    Hey just wanted to say I didn’t read closely and I though you were a female I didn’t mean sis in any kind of shady way.

  • Solstice

    He is pretty too ? Right CW ???

  • Miss Thang

    I’m sure he had been exposed to pornography and all sorts of things he should have been protected from. The mother was an all-around failure.

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    We re family just wanted to let him know I meant no harm.

  • Ninotchka Phillips

    It is sad. I work for GS and one of the girls was embarrassed to say she didn't have a father but a He/she...I didn't laugh out loud but i thought why aren't they communicating with child. Yes, she told him she loved him but as I do my children and say the world does not love you like I do. ANd they dont have to...its their perrog....

  • chris

    No parent should have to bury their 9 year old child. How did we come to this?

  • SpiceGirl

    me too...when I was that age...I didn't know ANYTHING about it.....I was always out playing with friends.....

  • SpiceGirl

    clearly

  • kekeb

    Are you serious? That is absurdity. Kids are taught right from wrong as soon as they begin to walk. Is your logic really, they're too young to know talking about people and picking on people is wrong? That's insane. 3 years olds can operate a smart phone and iPad but 4th graders can't be taught about bullying?! Your logic is flawed

  • kekeb

    I refuse to believe that these parents out here promoting their children to bully. I don't believe that at all.

  • kekeb

    Exactly. SMH. Like this is incredibly tragic. This bullying nonsense is an epidemic

  • ?? ?ee?? ???

    The children today are the devil. I wish they a had a hotline for your kids and adolescents to call in times of crisis like this, before it’s too late. Another precious spirit lost. Evil ass kids.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    I do because I've seen it with my own eyes.

  • Phillybruh

    They aren't correcting the behavior in fact they go as far as to defend it in some cases.

  • Bdot

    Adults are to blame for this. They're the reason all this gender bullshit is considered to be of any importance at all when it comes to KIDS.

  • SpillyNillie

    No, I can't imagine a 9 year old trying to figure out his sexuality. His mother FAILED him big time!!

  • Ant Hill

    gay dudes like you and the gay mafia forcing this nonsense on people is how.

  • BaileyBlue17

    So very sad and unnecessary. Prayers to his mother.

  • kennedy220

    hmm. that last part I'm on the fence. I'm glad that she encouraged him to be open because the bullies are going to be there no matter what. it's the other kids parents that need work on encouragement

  • ?Patty Kakes?

    This is so sad and god bless his family, but I fault the mother. That child was too young to understand the the consequences that comes along with being gay.

  • Applebootay

    My 2 kids are a whole 10 years apart. So I had plenty of time to prepare. I'm agreeing that out of FEAR alone, I would've told him not to say anything...the words used are less important...other than...DON'T DO IT>

  • slick

    What kind of indoctrination did this boy suffer to convince him that he was gay? He hadn't even hit puberty and yet he proclaimed a sexuality.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I knew I liked girls when I was 7 years old, I just didn't know it was called "gay". Too young to know terminologies to sexualities, I just knew I liked girls. I kept it to myself and a couple other girls who were in the same boat with me. But this was early/mid eighties, it was very taboo. I didn't tell my parents or my family. Just stayed in the closet until HS.

    Not sure how the entire convo went between him and his mother, but she should've encouraged him to not be so open about himself to his friends at school. They are all too young for these types of convos.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I knew from age 7 I liked girls. Never been touched or molested (thank God), didn't watch p*rn at that age either. Didn't know what gay was because it wasn't on TV or movies back then. I was born in '77 and my childhood memories are from the 80's and early 90's. When a person says they are gay or bi, it doesn't automatically mean they were molested or touched. That's not always the case.

  • MISSMEWITDATBULL

    Just WOW. Thanks for sharing. Kinder?? As in 5yrs old?! SMH. I can’t even deal. Our poor kids are internalizing so much and acting out left and right.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Shoots, my mom never let me spend the night at anyone's house. Not even family. She didn't trust anyone.

  • SweetTEE

    5 years old

  • SweetTEE

    Auntie... you know parents molest their kids too right? Sometimes a father in the household is part of the problem

  • blazewon22

    Sexual identity is real and I've seen a lot of 12-13 year olds proclaiming their identity these days. Parents have to instill some mental toughness in their kids and stop pretending that everyone is nice and wont say things to hurt your feelings.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Do you have memories going back to the womb? What's your earliest memory? Most people don't remember what happened to them when they were 2.

  • Mirella

    This is a f u c k ing tragedy. A 9 years old boy. Schools are awful. They do not protect the kids.

  • itsjismemelly

    sad so, God rest his soul and help his family ease their pain, poor baby

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    No, no memories from when I was in the womb.. I vaguely remember being a toddler and going to the beach and to the pools a lot. I was an only child for 8 whole years and my mom was very protective of me. Where she was working at during those years, the day care was literally on the other side of the wall to her office and my school was walking distance. She was a bookkeeper for an apt complex and would drop in on me in the day care ALL thee time and at school. When I wasn't at school, we were damn near joined at the hip. My mom's childhood isn't anything I'd like to discuss but I will say this... her childhood and her knowing my dad's (physical abuse, not sexual) is the reason why she never let me spend the night at anyone's house, not even family.

  • Applebum

    If this story is in fact true then it’s sad. I just don’t believe a lot of the stuff that are coming out from the media. All these false flags gun shootings (gun control agenda) we keep seeing to the whole gay/transgender kids agenda they are forcing on us. You can’t even say you want a straight son nowadays, the LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ media will attack you.

  • Sircaput

    I feel bad for him but I blame the parents in this situation and parents in every case where we are raising kids to soft and very sensitive. Suicide shouldn't even cross a child's mind, I'm not trying to be insensitive to the situation but this country has be come so sensitive to the point that instead facing the problems head on we coward in the corner and if that is not working then we choose suicide as a way out..this country better wake up cause this is getting out of hand.

  • LP

    I can't fathom losing a child so young to suicide. Just heartbreaking...we can all pass judgement on the mother, but you know the idea that "anything goes" is everywhere! Most kids his age aren't mature enough to handle this kind of information. Even if he'd been told to keep it to himself he would've been living in his own little personal hell. God bless this little angel and protect our babies.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    It's okay. I'm not that sensitive. ?

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    When I was a child, I didn't get everything thing I wanted. There were rules and I had to follow them. Part of being a good parent, is being able to set boundaries for your children, until they are old enough to self-protect.

    If a boy wants to play with dolls, that's fine... just as long as he understands he is a BOY who plays with dolls. When a boy says he thinks he is a girl, that's when it's time to pump the breaks.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    A complete and total self-awareness happens at different times for different people.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    She should have had a conversation with him about discretion. She should have taught him that there's a time and place for everything.

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    I agree!

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Even at 50!

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    I actually didn’t think so - but ty ?

  • Shira Harding-James

    I agree

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    True. The other children's parents are not blameless, she was responsible for her child. His safety, not his wants, should be paramount.

  • Dainese

    Exactly! She should've cut it at the classmates knowing.

    I knew I liked girls at 6. And everything else you said was spot on for me as it pertains to knowing your sexuality at a young age.

  • ?Patty Kakes?

    Yes. I seen how hard it was for a good friend. There is a lot that comes along with being gay. A lot of people don't understand that, and Charlize is not making it any better. Her kid doesn't go to the average school

  • Sushi

    Ok, but if a little boy, starts liking, a little girl, it's fine, no one pumps the breaks with this, because it's "normal ".......

  • kennedy220

    being gay doesn't mean your exposed to pornography...I mean there are plenty of str8 kids exposed to it as well...don't limit it to gay...look at all these young str8 kids around here making babies and having babies

  • kennedy220

    it's a hard road because on one hand yes she needed to protect him but you never know. I mean straight kids are bullied too, nerds, you're black, you're white.....that part is hard gay or str8. I worry about my nephews all the time..because I know what my sister and I tell them before they go to school but those other kids..OMG...and then you think your kids are doing what you tell them...one of my nephews was sent home because some wine boy called him the N word... I told him what not to do if that happens and he did it anyway...and then when you have the gay kid that you don't allow to be himself well then you might have social development problems a little on down the road that may or may not lead to who knows what.

  • kennedy220

    I had those same experiences as you. I thought I was supposed to be a girl...I for sure looked like one per the text book (long hair, fem face) and of course I was picked on. So I prayed that god would change me when I woke up..I played dress up and with dolls...but I'm also a super hard car nerd so playing with them and working on them was my thing... the worse thing was that it was ok for my sister to play and work on cars too and even dress like what society says it is to dress like a boy...no one had a problem with that... I don't know what that child needed. I knew I was not going to get any encouragement from my parents. My gay cousin also wasn't getting any encouragement but he was out 8yrs old and nobody messed with him. he was a big kid growing up. taller and larger than the other classmates at that age. as we got older he just had that respect or maybe fear from other kids and they knew not to bother him because he was all about the fight too. some of these straight kids forget that underneath the flamboyancy of the sissy male is still a male..by this time though he looked like a linebacker lol. I say all of this to say that it's an amalgam of things for a parent to have to try to protect their kids from and you have those kids that don't even need it b/c they are comfortable with who they are and can take the bullying...I wasn't way out their like my cousin and I took the bullying but called on him when I needed to

  • kennedy220

    lol I was doing the same. just trying to see what was going on

  • kennedy220

    that's the encouragement I was talking about and failed to say it...let him be but let him know you have to shut it off at times...

  • Miss Thang

    I agree. And I'm not talking about his being gay. I'm talking about him specifically identifying his sexuality at such a young age. I don't think it's normal for a 9 year old to identify a sexual orientation. They shouldn't even be thinking about sex in such specific terms at that age. It's very unhealthy, and to me, shows that his sexuality did not develop without nefarious outside influences.

  • http://suzar.com/BOTW/BOTW-ch1d-pages7-8.html Staci Elle

    Lol

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    I would have said, "if you still feel this way at 18, I'll buy your first dress "

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Thank you for sharing your story. It's interesting to hear other people's experiences and realize they are so similar to your own. Your cousin sounds like someone I know. LOL

    When I was a child, I thought I was the only homosexual in the world. I thought my parents could read my mind! LOL! I was 15 when I stumbled upon a community of older gay men. I could write an entire book based on those experiences, alone.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    In terms of being gay and being yourself, what does that really mean? Can a child cultivate something as complex as a homosexual identity or would they merely be imitating the behaviors of others?

    When I was introduced to "the life" at the tender age of 15, I was repulsed and intrigued by effeminate, gay men. I started to wonder if I was supposed to carry myself in same the manner. Ultimately, I discovered that I am the author of my own life. It's my responsibility define myself, but that's something I realized as I matured.

    That's why I think parents have to be careful what they expose their children to and what they condone.

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Regardless of gender, it's normal for a child to form friendships. However, it isn't normal for a child to get so wrapped up in a delusion, that he or she becomes despondent when faced with the truth.

    As a child, I Ioved to pretend that I was Batman or Kelly Garrett from Charlie's Angels. I knew I wasn't batman or Jaclyn Smith and if someone confronted me with that truth, it wouldn't devastate me.

    Therein lies the difference.

  • Sushi

    Yes a "friendship", with no disrespect. But we are talking about what you as a child is, or becomes attracted too...I remember feeling, a feeling for a white boy, and was confused, as too why? I was in the 3rd grade.....Chris H**** was his name. Again never molested, or touched, by anyone, or being exposed to it...... I was confused....... I thought I'M not normal. .... But now I know YES I was......Although you were a tomboy, and played with or imagined being Batman, you at some Core of who you were, knew little boys made you feel a "certain way" you can't explain.... Nothing perverted, but something. .....He might send you little Yes or no check the box notes.....