Lena Waithe opened up about shaving her signature dreadlocks to adopt a more masculine appearance like that of her absentee father. The 34-year-old Chicago native was raised by her single mother and grandmother after her parents divorced when she was three.

The openly gay actress and writer joked "I've gotten gayer, guys," at the Hollywood Foreign Press Association's Grants Banquet in Beverly Hills on Thursday, Aug. 9.

Waithe, who wore a men's tailored suit and men's shoes, explained she chopped off her hair to embrace her masculine side as a stereotypical butch/stud.

Waithe, who grew up without a strong father figure in her life, said she wrestled with the feminine side of her that still wanted to present as a soft woman in public.

"I felt like I was holding onto a piece of femininity that would make the world feel comfortable with who I am. I think I thought for a long time, 'Oh, if I cut my hair, I'll be a stud, I'll be -- in the gay world, there's a lot of categories -- I'll be a stud or I'll be a butch,' and I've always thought, 'Well, no, I'm not that, I'm still soft,' and I said, 'Oh, I gotta put that down 'cause that's something that's outside of me.'"

Adding that she's fine being mistaken for a man without her hair, Lena continued: "If people call me a butch or say 'she's stud' or call me sir out in the world -- so what? So be it. I'm here with a suit on, not a stitch of make-up, and a haircut -- I feel like, 'Why can't I exist in the world in that way?'"

It should be noted that Waithe is not declaring herself a transgender male, since transgenders don't consider themselves to be lesbians.

She is engaged to content executive Alana Mayo.

Photos by Emma McIntyre/Getty Images

  • Li-Wright

    What did DL say: You can like the same sex, but you don't need to dress like them? (a man dressing like a woman)

  • Jennifer

    Looks like Raphael Saadiq during his 60s throwback.

  • Bashi22

    Hollywood newest Gay forward first lady/sir

  • MookieFly

    Handsome and dapper. Probably got good credit too. I'd let her strap me

  • sunni_daze

    That suit and that hair cut its clear she's making a transition

  • CookieMobster

    My Granny's name was Lena.. that's all I got on this. Lena Mae!!

  • bemetoo

    Sandra cold blooded..." like her absentee father"???

  • WhoKnew

    I'm sure if they do call her sir, it's an honest mistake and no shade to her lifestyle choice. I accidentally called a woman sir the other day. She looked like a man and sounded like a man. I turned all the colors of a rainbow when I found out I was speaking to a woman. It was not intentional on my part nor was it meant to shame or embarass that person. Just an honest mistake.

    Went even further this past May. I was attending my niece's graduation party and noticed someone that looked like a childhood friend. So I said "you look just like Terrence. Are you Terrence son? The person said Terrence is my father but I am his daughter. I turned 32 shades of red. Then I furthered my mistake trying to make nice and said "oh so when is your baby due? Response: I'm not having a baby. I apologized profusely. Then I told my niece I was just going to leave and go home because there was no excuse for me to make my mistake even worse by saying that. But I was trying to make friendly conversation. I should realize that everyone that is fat is not pregnant. I should have known better. However, the young woman who was a lesbian and dressed like a man with the low hanging jeans and tims in the summertime (I never understood low hanging jeans on a lesbian and the wife beater t-shirt) was very gracious, accepted my apology and told me it was an honest mistake and that I should stay. It takes a whole lot to embarass me but this did.


    I’m walking on water heading to Guam!!! ????

  • Alextra Ballard

    Some wimmen can shave their heads and still look like a female...This woman has a low cut and looks like a str8 dood

  • Oh Tommie

    I want this three cuts in the eyebrows trying to wild out to STOP!!!!

  • Logan Roberts

    Some women are born to be men cause baaby....

  • Coy little wink

    It looks so young and dumb

  • Missy

    Is being gay the ONLY thng she discusses? Damn girl, NOBODY cares.

  • Lucy

    Let these people live...Geez.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    "like that of her absentee father"

    smh... Sandra be just sprinklin' LOL!

    (in general though, i do agree with the sentiment "so be it" *shrug* ...get money bish! LOL!)

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    "Terrence is my father but I am his daughter."

    please go to lunch... https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/615d380290005c75f2b73b61063d678adb00cb683258e4273a2f5c12b8d5723d.gif

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • TransMichelle

    Sade's daughter transitioned. I don't think her daughter looked anything like her in her natural state as a girl. She is Sade's only child.

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  • EasyBreezy

    Oh, the shade of it all! SR misses nary an opportunity to throw shade. And I am here for it!

  • Jefferey Franklin

    " to adopt a more masculine appearance like that of her absentee father"


  • hottlanta

    Stay in the house and lock your doors n never come out. Do online shopping n get lifelock so u wont have 2 go outside 2 go 2 the bank 2 see who is messing with your account.

  • Scorpio

    This is a funny story, even though I feel for you in the embarrassment, but the back to back missteps, I'm just picturing you thinking "I'm just going to go home." LOL.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    but she's shading "fam" ...she better start networking with these young folk (maybe she'd drive up her readership WITHOUT ALL THESE ADS!!!!) lol!!!!

  • WhooCares

    Dead, dead, dead, dead. Lmao!

  • EasyBreezy


  • SummerBaby

    Lena Waithe opened up about shaving her signature dreadlocks to adopt a more masculine appearance like that of her absentee father.
    ????? https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/814260a0cdba75efeb944d377a820c9875664e0ec44f8e62362f38c23ce6c6f7.jpg

  • Strappyheels

    Do you Lena!!!

    I loved the show she wrote about “Thanksgiving “! She’s the best part of dude’s show on Netflix!!

  • Strappyheels

    These men out here are BITCHY as all get out!!

  • Rayne

    Gives new meaning to get the strap.?

  • Floriduhh Evans

    Plenty of “studs” with locs tho ?????

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker


  • MsPam

    Chile, folks think that being gay is something new, it’s been around since sin.

  • Carla
  • Calikush

    Sade’s daughter looks likes Maxwell in these pics! Lol!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Strap has several meanings

  • FukkFolks2018

    Let this lady be who she wants and look how she feels. More power to you Lena. Godspeed

  • pure_rachet

    Also order delivery food and change the phone number. Only ever contact family in an emergency situation. @WhoKnew is done in this town.

  • pure_rachet

    she could have got it with the hair and I'm straight. Now it looks like she got cheek implants. No sir.

  • SpiceGirl

    since the beginning of time.....

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I bet no one stops her when she uses the men's room.

    No, sir.

  • Blak

    She is an "it" as far as I'm concerned. Tired of people supporting their internal conflicts

  • Rayne

    I only can think of 1.

  • Bossy704

    Lipstick lesbians are the best.

  • Trey

    you are NOT a man

  • Bee jaay Cee

    Too much make up.

  • Dollface

    I don't care what anybody say... stud butches are crazy and emotionally unstable as hell. They're also super manipulators. I had one that tried to convince me to be gay with her that she was like a broken record and kept saying over and over "I love to spoil my women" "i look to hide gifts under the pillow and surprise my women." OVER AND OVER AND OVER. Ugh it was sick and disgusting.

    And another thing about those studs is, they don't want other gay girls. They like to prey and hunt on "straight" women. #PSYCHOPATHIC.

  • Guess Who

    SMDH. Why do they ALMOST always look like her?

  • dontgetblocked

    We all know studs. No big deal.

  • hottlanta

    At least she dont look like a thug. Some of them Forget they gonna get old one day. I ride the bus with 2 right now that look like fred sanford. I am not lying.

  • hottlanta

    Go feed that baby right now.

  • Applebootay

    She Chi-Town's own. She aiight!

  • dontgetblocked


  • SumthinSweeter


  • Mister Fantastic

    I tell the world: I see myself as a Billionaire, and you WILL address me as such!

  • Wreckognize Game

    I'll be glad when she figures herself all the way out so she can stop talking about it all the time. Lena is talented. I'm sure that she acts just like my stud cousin always- crying-on-social-media-about-her-chick-azz. Just sensitive

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I find the stud lesbians to be the most confused about who they are. They spend so much time trying to be their dads that they lose their own identities.

  • Bdot


  • Ronnie Hill

    OK man in drag, ur forehead an low brows says it all bruh

  • SweetTEE

    Sir, I can guarantee you got more bishes with the locs..

  • Wreckognize Game

    I'm not sure what my cousin's issue is. Her dad was in her life because her Mom was cracked out.

  • KcoolMuziq

    I advise any REAL man to NEVER accidentally bump into a stud in a lesbian bar.U will be lucky to make it out of there in one piece.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    She's so annoying. Like Tiffany Haddish level of annoying.

  • Kimberly King

    Chile. Hands down the most thirsty gay person in Hollywood. Sh*t, I thought she was butchy AF when she had those 10 dreads in her head. I support the gays. I have gay colleagues, my best friend is gay and occasionally I like to dip in the lady pond myself. But geezus ! I can’t stand annoying gays like her. Just doing the most.

  • Kimberly King

    Girl lmaooo

  • Kimberly King

    VERY psycho. When I graduated from college I dated a stud. Low haircut and all. She didn’t dress super manly though. But you definitely knew she was a stud. Crazy because her name was Kim too. Anyway, she started paying all my bills and begging me to live with her. She was so aggressive. Turned into a psycho out of nowehere.

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  • Malcom Flex

    "to adopt a more masculine appearance like that of her absentee father."
    Sandra ALWAYS tells it like it IS.

  • Malcom Flex


  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Studs lack personality because they don't have a strong sense of self. That's why they put so much emphasis on their "man costumes". They overcompensate for their shortcomings by being very aggressive with women.

  • rodt

    man stop. they still bitches

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    A wise doctor once said homosexuality is a form of personality disorder rooted in narcissism. All Lena and other gay celebs talk about is their gay lifestyle (Look at me! Look at my man costume!). They are consumed with their physical image rather than their accomplishments because they lack personalities. If you've ever been with a gay person intimately, it's a roller coaster ride of emotions and mood swings.

  • MRiGOThim

    not with me Auntie...speak for yourself lmao :P

  • Yetunde

    The way her locs were styled was not really feminine anyway. This haircut doesn’t really make a difference to her looking more masculine.

  • Eileen

    I am confused once again by confused people..God help us. She really needed the love and affirmation of her father.

  • Eileen

    because they are confused... and who is the author of confusion?... that's right and it ain't God!!! 1st Corinthians 14:33

  • Eileen

    Now that is a new one...women trying to be their daddy...sad

  • Eileen

    and homosexuals do the same overcompensating in being a women...and they want me to beleive this ish? smdh 4-real

  • Dreamer

    LOL!! This gif made me HOLLER OUT LOUD IN PUBLIC ???

  • Strip Club Veteran

    Fathers please stay in your children lives. They tend to grow up and be on weird shit. She wanna be a man so bad,

  • Jussjess25

    Im sorry.. who?!

  • the guest

    I think that this woman tries too hard to push the envelope. I think Hollywood uses black gay people as pawns and poster people for Hollywood agendas. They prop this actress and writer up but at what expense? Seems like she is becoming more masculine to fit Hollywood’s expectations.

  • the guest

    Finally someone who sees it too. Tiffany Haddish is like chalk grating on a chalkboard annoying. I love to see black women succeed, and wish her prosperity, but I just don’t find Tiffany Haddish entertaining.

    Lena Waithe is a Hollywood puppet and she doesn’t even see it.

  • datjerk

    That's wont stop her from being a lesbian. Sorry.

  • datjerk

    Um...I'm a lesbian, and this is nowhere near true for me or my small group of friends. Blanket statements are the worst, don't you agree? Wait...aren't you yourself a "lesbun"? Interesting.

  • Misslaydj

    she won an emmy for her Netflix series Master of None


    I liked her better with the dreads but oh well if she's happy then good for her/him

  • ShWa

    Looks like a Sir definitely....

  • parisjok

    she is just so ugly

  • Mikayla

    Yeah, I don’t like her face.