Malia Obama, Michelle Obama, Barack Obama, Sasha Obama

Michelle Obama used in vitro fertilization (IVF) to conceive her 2 daughters after she suffered a miscarriage 20 years ago, according to her new memoir.

The former U.S. first lady opened up about her fertility issues in her new memoir, Becoming, which is set to hit bookstores on Tuesday, Nov. 13.

She also discussed her IVF procedures in an interview with Good Morning America's Robin Roberts, that aired on Friday morning.

During the interview, Michelle, 54, told Robin that she had a miscarriage 20 years ago and felt "lost and alone" at the time.

"I felt like I failed because I didn't know how common miscarriages were because we don't talk about them," she said. "We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we're broken... That's one of the reasons why I think it's important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen."

Michelle, who surrendered her law license before her husband Barack Obama became President in 2009, added that she realized her biological clock was ticking at the age of 34 when "egg production is limited".

So she underwent IVF to conceive Malia, 20, and Sasha, 17, long before IVF became a routine procedure for well-to-do women who seek to experience motherhood after 35.

"I realized that as I was 34 and 35, we had to do IVF," Michelle said, adding that she hopes that her story will help other women undergoing fertility treatments.

"I think it's the worst thing that we do to each other as women, not share the truth about our bodies and how they work," she said.

She also shared that she and Barack, 57, turned to counseling when their marriage began to fail.

"Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences," she told Roberts. "I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there's something wrong with them. And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it."

"Becoming Michelle: A First Lady's Journey with Robin Roberts" will air as part of an ABC News special on Sunday.

Photo by Pete Souza/The White House via Getty Image

  • tintin

    and now it makes sense why their faces look like that.

    i'm telling you IVF babies have a look to them.

    They're beautiful don't get me wrong but they all have this look, i can't put my finger on it.

  • iWasteTime

    I love her!
    I can't wait to see the interview, purchase and read the book, and see her in December

  • https://www.snapchat.com/add/lets_seeeit Jafar

    ??

  • https://www.snapchat.com/add/lets_seeeit Jafar

    So Barack didn't f***?

  • SpiceGirl

    And you still have 2 beautiful young ladies....Congrats....and Oh yeah.....We miss you and Barack (BIG TIME)

  • therealashland

    You sound ignorant asf

  • Faithz

    Such a Beautiful Family, and just knowing that School, and a great
    Education helped to get them on the right track is mind blowing.
    I say get off yo as and make things happen for you like they did!!

  • FukkFolks2018

    Did she do skin to skin contact with them? Did she say? The President...did he do some? They got pics? Find out on the next Dragon Ball-Z

    *can't wait to read about Michelle and all she has to say

  • Faithz

    Just because black people are not “In Shackles” doesn’t mean that we are not feeling the long term effects of it still, average white person appears to be oblivious to this though. Basically, white people are FINE, they’ve always been fine! I’m not sure what all this “ Jews will not replace us” sh*t is about besides the raging insecurities of weak as , broke, white boys, and
    men who are in in dire need of attention.
    We can live the American dream if we get off that back side , and make things happen for Ourselves.

  • TransMichelle
  • ohdearme

    Some private matters should remain private. Miscarriages have happened millions of times to millions of women, that she didn't understand that from her Dr or her friends or mom is beyond me. Also I'm not into sharing my private life with just anyone, close friends yes, the world, NO! Women educate themselves daily but if she feels she needs to "help" them understand better, whatever.

  • Yoni7

    i'm telling you IVF babies have a look to them.
    _________________
    You're not the first person I've heard/read say this.

  • Shamwow

    Thank you Michelle, you guys felt like a real family to me. Also to add is the fact that People don’t talk about the consequences of pursuing a career and having children late, can make it difficult to have children. Many women wait to have children to make money and spend the money to have children. Some women also fail to understand that it’s not healthy to have one period a year. It’s also not healthy to use Bc for a long time and then decide to have children. Sometimes the first baby after bc or non pregnancy don’t last. But I’m not judging to each their own but if we can talk about sex, miscarriages , and marriages. We can also talk about being a mother too early, or too late. It’s real out here in these streets.

  • ohdearme

    They look like their parents, PERIOD! Just wow.

  • FukkFolks2018

    I wish she wouldn't have opened herself to this scrunity. As we can clearly see from the other posts...it creates a s$#÷storm

  • FukkFolks2018

    *typos corrected lol

  • ohdearme

    YUP, no need to share relationship issues, people didn't need to know that AT ALL!

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Well these are her memoirs. And that's the whole idea... to share your story with others if you feel you have something to share that can be encouraging or inspirational to others. Nothing wrong with that. I'm sure she kept some things private. But she felt like this would be a good thing to share that might be of help to somebody out there who reads it.

  • Rayne

    There is nothing to feel bad about as this is so common with women. I didn’t feel bad when it happened to me. My husband thought it was the end of the world. I consoled him more than myself.

  • MsAmour22

    You are right they do. And people have been brainwashed to believe IFV is not an experiment and when nature is experimented with, there is always a consequence especially when is comes to human life. IVF experimentation is only 40 years old, that is not enough time to determine whether IVF people are able to live a long healthy life. The first IVF person is 40 and she looks like she's in her 60's....its going to be total chaos when the millions of people that were born via IFV start to have unexplained health ailments.

  • Coco Mcluvin

    There are so many things we as women take for granted including having children. When thinking about becoming a mother, I just figured it was a given. I never thought it would be difficult to conceive nor did I think about the possibility of miscarriages. I have 3 friends that suffered from miscarriages and that really opened my eyes. It's a blessing they were able to still become parents and grow their family.

  • iWasteTime

    A thousand people can tell you their story and it still doesn't stop you from internalizing and thinking that something is wrong with you. As much as I didn't want to, I shared my miscarriage with a coworker I wasn't close with, due to her having such a hard time with hers. We talked for days and days and when she had her first out of four children she wrote me a beautiful card letting me know what my sharing meant to her even though she had heard a story from countless people she knew. Sometimes it really is the messenger.

  • FukkFolks2018

    This is true as well. Memoirs/biography is a life story. This is her life

  • iWasteTime

    Word and as much as I idolize that relationship it is GREAT to know they regular and have communication issues that they worked on.

  • ohdearme

    Oh I agree with you, however the article is up for discussion/opinion. I stated mine, that's all.

  • FukkFolks2018

    I've heard it and read it as well.

  • FukkFolks2018

    I read a lot do have health issues namely I wanna say heart issues. God bless them and keep them healthy

  • ohdearme

    That was nice of you, I just stated my opinion because I can only speak for "me". I wouldn't share, sorry if that offends anyone, but I wouldn't. The world didn't know about her marital issues and they were looked upon as just a wonderful couple, "I" wouldn't have shared otherwise, but again, that's just me.

  • Coy little wink

    When life gives you a test...sometimes sharing your testimony is a part of your healing and a way to help others similarly tested...

    I have a testimony I plan to share one day...

  • tintin

    i guess me and everyone that agreed with me. But it's my opinion. Don't get mad at me. We all can have an opinion. Not ignorant hun, just that's what i think

  • Joy King

    Children require money, time and maturity but it can be difficult for those three things to align at the same time. It’s a juggling act, so people have to do what’s best for them and their family. I believe when the road is paved with good intentions, it will eventually work out in your favor.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    they look like their parents (to me). what am i missing? (serious question) thanks!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I am no fertility specialist but wouldn't IVF after having a miscarriage be kinda extreme.

    BTW I only thought that she had trouble getting pregnant the second time and not the first.

  • iWasteTime

    I understand and I wasn't attacking.
    I get it and sometimes you think being private is best but you never know who will receive what from a share :) Happy Friday

  • TransMichelle
  • MsAmour22

    Yes you are right and another ailment is accelerated aging not only in appearance but of the internal organs as well.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    girl, God bless you, whatever it is... you are victorious! :hugs:
    (why i'm tearing up and have no idea what you're even referring to at this point, smh. i'm losing my 'cool' points this week fooling w/yall, Lol) https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5406a067d89d1924f4f9967857b7ca15a701e44524df7514659efb170810c224.gif

  • Pamela

    Beautiful comment.

  • TransMichelle
  • MsPam

    Everyone can’t afford to do IVF. If it doesn’t come naturally from Jehovah I’ll pass.

  • ohdearme

    I didn't imply or infer that you were "attacking", I just stated as I have throughout the article "MY" opinion/preference. I couldn't care less about "helping" a stranger with "MY" personal business because as I stated above and below, I LOVE my privacy. So no, I'm NOT the sharing type, same to you on this wintry Friday I'm having and have a great weekend also!

  • FukkFolks2018

    Baby-bee all these birthing experts on skint to skint and it being sooooo important and MEDICALLY nessc. made me read up on the mess last night. Nevermind nobody on this blog had skint to skint contact with their mama. NOBODY. It just became the norm in the past decade and some change. So unless you are 9-14 years old MAX, and logged in, you arent bonded with YOUR MAMA EITHER.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Guess Who

    Is this way folks have this theory she was born a male and didn't give birth?

  • Phillybruh

    My two boys are perfectly healthy nothing is being modified except assisting the sperm with fertilizing the egg.

  • U gon learn today

    “I” personally think that it is ok for a person to open up and share their struggles with being human and going through life, especially when they are public personality who inspire millions of people. The Obamas have never made it a secret that they had marital issues, especially when Barack was aggressively pursuing his political career and I applaud them for not being afraid to share their experience and lend themselves as an inspiration for not giving up. A lot of people who have never been married don’t realize how hard it is and how much work and commitment it takes, they think it’s just one big fantasy where two people are lovey dovey around the clock and having sex all of the time. It’s not and fertility issues can create insurmountable stress on a marriage. No woman wants to feel like she can’t give her husband children.

  • Phillybruh

    I don't think anyone knew this until this book. The notion that she was a man is just born out of ignorance.

  • Eileen

    Feminism fooled us into believing that we could have it all. They lied!!! God NEVER intended for a women to compete head on with a man it is not good for your health mentally physically spiritually or emotionally. You compete with a man and then you want them to impregnate you?Nope don't work that way. Feminism has at least three generations of women messed up and that is why you have such high numbers of women having miscarriages, IVF, surrogate parenting and all of the mess due to feminism saying we could have it all.They lied look at the leaders of feminism! They have probably dwelved into lesbianism and other crazy stuff . Women can work and get educated but when you start thinking of having a family you must slow down and count the cost in regards to your husband and children. No family needs a stressed out mother! Feminism lied to you and your bodies suffered for it.You are fighting against what God intended. God Bless.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    It’s real out here in these streets.
    ________________

    This! No life is perfect because there are no perfect people. i admire many, but idolize no one. We never know what that person who 'has it all" may have suffered through or sacrificed to reach that point.

  • ohdearme

    Very good for you and thanks for sharing with me your unsolicited opinion. I respectfully agree to disagree. Have a great weekend!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • Eileen

    Feminism at its best is a big fat lie! They did this to generations of women have a baby throw it in daycare and get back on that career track...smh and now because you are so focused on your career hire a surrogate because you don't have time to get pregnant and go to doctorsleep appointments. .smh feminism stinks!!

  • Guess Who

    Well, there have always been rumors - specifically from obama haters - that she was a "man" who did not give birth. SMMFH. You know racists POS will always attack the black woman's femininity and the black man's intelligence...

  • Eileen

    Amen whatever...

  • Alextra Ballard

    It can be very very costly

  • RICHIE_RICH

    A true First Lady ????

  • DroneRivers

    Ignorance and hate.

  • A D N

    If her message reaches one person who really needs to hear it, then her message wasn't in vain. Sometimes those who receive our message isn't the one in the bed, but who lives out of the home.

  • Eileen

    I never bought into the Oprahnism of my life is an open book bull sh-t. I will share individually on a one to one basis as needed but not the whole world needs to know my pain bs. BTW I have been divorced for 7 years and I have friends who still don't know.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    well wait 'til MY mama hears about this! she not gonna be impressed with it, at all.
    LOL! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/24096790e07d7a816e63700b9b1d36c06f5021952cd9274082135e63655d9d79.gif

  • Phillybruh

    They know, they just let you think they don't know..lol

  • Eileen

    Well she did which is why my life is not an open book! Nope I am not into the metoo club

  • Eileen

    Thank you !

  • HIS4EVA

    tears :)

  • Eileen

    What????

  • Renee26

    Awesome! I love her

  • FukkFolks2018

    Going to go read about this.

  • xenaD

    Miscarriages are painful as hell... I never knew til I had my FIRST one... **** was tragic as fkkkk like damn

  • Eileen

    Not me! Go Trump!!!

  • Eileen

    You crazy lol

  • xenaD

    Sandra is that u moderating comments.. maybe cause I said the s word... doggonit

  • WhoKnew

    I'm glad that she has spoken out about it. I believe openness helps to strengthen other women who struggle with getting pregnant. If you want to be a mother and believe that you can be a good parent because children not only require a lot of care, attention and good wholesome love, then I say do what you believe is right for your family. It might be IVF or adoption. Even if you have to use a surrogate there is no shame in doing that (Beyonce). Again, I believe openness helps to strengthen other women.

  • Eileen

    Awe...yikes

  • Shamwow
  • xenaD

    I was completely devastated. I cannot believe the actual mental and emotional pain u endure from miscarriage ?????

  • Phillybruh

    It really reasonable now still expensive but plenty of programs that assist infertile couples or those having problems conceiving.

  • TransMichelle

    It's not nice to fool mother nature LOL

  • ohdearme

    Our posts and $1 will get each of us something off of the McDonald's "Happy Menu", again I respectfully agree to disagree and quite frankly I'm done with the back and forth. (In my best NeNe voice) I SAID WHAT I SAID! LOL Have a great weekend.

  • Soda

    Hope you got all your household duties taken care of because if your husband comes home and finds you've been wasting time on the internet he's going to cut back on your wifely allowance.

  • Renee26

    So I guess women never had miscarriages before feminism came about.... Interesting

  • FukkFolks2018

    I was born en caul. In a big arse bubble if you will. They didnt have time for skin to skin. They were trying to make sure I didn't suffocate lol

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    i think that sometimes folks on Oprah's level go ahead and tell their own stories because there's always a Kitty Kelly waiting in the wings to tell their version of that person's story. also, sharing can be genuinely therapeutic For Some. when Oprah speaks about the abuse she suffered as a child, i believe that she truly wants other abused children to know that they are not alone and that they can still triumph in life. that's an honorable thing (IMO). still, i understand that "sharing" is Not for everyone, and i certainly can respect anyone choosing to keep their experiences private.

  • Y me?

    Are ivf stories being over reported or is infertility becoming a growing problem? I'll be 29 in a month reading all this stuff got me thinking it's time to get knocked up ??

  • Coy little wink

    Thanks Nancy ? I have the victory indeed

  • Phillybruh

    might even pop her

  • A D N

    If we go by that, then 95% of the world is born through IVF lol. I see some funny looking people all day and every day lol.

  • Dowoop

    LMAO

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    LMAO!

  • Dowoop

    She better be waiting at the doorstep with his slippers.

  • Renee26

    ?

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    oh! this why you couldn't impart skint-to-skint to Dub23.... you was denied it, so yeen have it to give, LOL!!!!!

  • U gon learn today

    She isn’t right, she’s ignorant and your argument holds no water because its based in uneducated theory. There are tons and tons of birth defect that occur in humans who were conceived naturally and the subsequent health issues that many perfectly healthy born babies experience later in life from obesity to psychiatric issues, etc. are either genetic or brought on by environment. It has have nothing to do with how they were conceived.

  • Faithz

    Bahahahahahahah.

  • Guess Who

    I read your entire paragraph and I must say there are things about feminism as a woman I question.

    For example, the fact that in the 60s they were all about recruiting black women for their plight. Um....sounds good but their reasons are a bit more nefarious versus getting white women to "sign up".

    It wasn't to empower them....nah, not at all. They did it to divide and conquer. Black families as a UNIT...a community NEEDED to stick together for equal rights, there was NO NEED for the black woman to branch off with these PRIVILEGED white broads who did not have to use separate facilities to even drink from a water fountain! That had ZERO in common other than their gender.

    Many black women fell for it, hook, line and sinker. Still to this DAY, braying from the top of their lungs that same, TIRED, cliche' war cry: I can do it all by myself! I DON'T NEED A MAN! but picking the worst of the worst of men when it comes to breeding or giving all their love. When a man feels he is not needed by his mate, a man suppresses and then all together loses his primal instinct to provide for his family or being the hunter/gatherer.

    SO, I get what you're saying in some aspects but mine is more tied to how sistas have been fooled by the white feminist bullshyt agenda. Not so much about child birth..but more so the break down of the black family.

  • A D N

    True, but to those who care, open to hearing about her experience or understand her reasons for doing so. Why would one who isn't interested in her journey, have an opinion, one way or another?

  • Guess Who

    More out of white folks simply hating an intelligent, shapely, engaging, charming, totally approachable, CLASSY black woman as the FLOTUS.

  • Faithz

    Exactly.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!
  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    Amen!

  • Rainbowbelow

    I don't know about it being over reported, I just think people are more comfortable sharing their stories.

  • FukkFolks2018

    You didn't say they were ugly. Those girls are beautiful. Not sure about the backlash. You are entitled to voice your opinion

  • Dowoop

    I called my mama up last night asking her about this. She goes "what nonsense are you talking about". I guess I got my answer :(

  • FukkFolks2018

    ??

  • U gon learn today

    Thanks for posting your unsolicited opinion so that I could reply with mine! Jeez you are such b*tch...I don’t even understand the defensiveness. Go ahead and block, I bet you only see one or two comments on any thread anyway because you can’t handle anyone not coddling your fragile state of mind.

  • A D N

    No debate from me...just another perspective, as you have given yours. One way, isn't the only way...that's all. You also have a great weekend. See you next topic lol. Maybe we agree on that one lol.

  • Eileen

    As I said in my earlier posts feminism got a ton of women jacked up mentally spiritually emotionally and physically . Just like all of this free sex we thought we could have when the pill was thrown to women! The feminists said great now we can have sex like men do and we basically legitimized whoishness behaviour! dentist now have to ask the patient how many times they are performing oral s-x because of the high rate of ephosogual cancer. Again feminism. Yes I stand by my truth feminism got the American women crazy and you wonder why Russia and other traditional countries donot want that craziness in their counties
    Smh only in America..the devil is so busy

  • A D N

    LOL! And that's why the feminist movement began. Somehow these "new" females neglect to understand why it started.

  • ohdearme

    LOL Kenya Monique at it again, blocked here just like you were on B gossip! Bye girl learn to troll better!

  • A D N

    I'm glad you were there for him, but make sure you have someone to talk to if the need arises.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I agree with you 1000 percent..I read on skin to skin contact as well and its a bunch of Bullshidt. When we were born.we came down the birth canal,the Dr gentle pulled us out and passed us to a nurse. She weigh us,took us to the nusery to get cleaned up. Then she wrapped us up took us to our awaiting momz and that was it. Thats when you're "bonding" began.

  • Guess Who

    I only think it's an issue because because women nowadays WAIT until their 30s and 40s to conceive for what ever reason. Most of the time, it's because in their 20s, they're finishing up school, embarking on a career and having a child really doesn't fit into the plan at that moment.

    Hey, I say it's a woman's body, do what you want however it's a real possibility when a woman decides to conceive later on in life that the odds of problems will increase and IVF is one possible solution to help.

    Are you ready to start a family?

  • A D N

    And I actually heard about that ridiculous statement on this blog...

  • Baaba Sanders

    Haha!

  • A D N

    Do you understand the plight of the female in America or the world? There is nooooo way you understand the history and current situation of the female in America. Females simply didn't want to be told no...when no shouldn't have been an option. Control should never be in only one group's hand. There's growth in diversity, whether gender, race, religion, sexuality...

  • U gon learn today

    Hey Eileen, all you have to do is hop in your time machine and jet set back back to 1910 when you couldn’t educate yourself past the 6th grade and had no protection against rape or being married off at 16 and forced to be a sex slave and baby maker, oops I mean somebody’s “wife” while dying in childbirth to have 8 or 9 children because some man needs to ejaculate in you before your body can even heal. And there isn’t a damn thing you can do about it.

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    From a mom of 2.......Make sure you can provide for you and your baby alone without the dad (just in case he bounces).....That's what I did.....I waited until a was stable, found a dude that was stable and then bam......2 kids later with no help from the government or foc.....I made sure I could do it successfully with or without the dad. Been with the same company for almost 20 years full benefit package. It can be done, just be smart about it and find a good coparent at the same time. IMO

  • A D N

    It's just more challenging to become pregnant as a female ages. A significant decrease in egg production. However, it also challenging for a female to find a male partner to help fertilize her egg...therefore IVF is becoming more popular as an alternative.

  • A D N

    Good information! I like the idea of promotion family with two opposite gender partners.

  • Y me?

    Well, I want to be a physician and I've been chasing that dream for about 5 years now (taking more classes to increase my science GPA and doing research). I'm really close now to getting into medical school and having a family would likely interrupt that plan, so no I'm not ready but at the same time I feel like its now or 6 years from now (4 yrs medical school + residency/fellowship).

    I'd be 35 ?

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    not all independent women should be labeled as "feminists" ...there are a million women just doing what they HAVE to do in order to survive in this world. and marriage is no guarantee, with the divorce rate being what it is. as someone said, it's important to maintain a balance. NO woman should rely solely on a man, "husband" or otherwise, for security and/or survival in this time. I'm no spring chicken, and i freely admit that i embrace a distinction between male and female roles, in my relationship. still, i am also positioned to be independent and self sufficient, should my man one day wake-up and decide to 'move around' Lol! you can be your best self as a woman without competing "head on" with a man. there are too many brilliant women in this world to suggest that they simply accessorize and accommodate their husbands/men. God didn't give the man a brain and the woman just a womb. one can be a good wife and mother and still make a contribution to society outside of those roles. (but, to each....)

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    Hello........

  • SpiceGirl

    Hummmm some things are better left unsaid.....IMHO

  • Y me?

    Which is definitely a good thing. It has me spooked a bit tho

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    that first line.... i am HOLLERING!!!!!!!!

  • A D N

    Yes, yes, and yes! Somehow, we are our own worst enemies. How can a female not understand the plight of the female? Wow! "Feminism" is not about "trying" to be "equal" to a man.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I can see all the Ridicule coming

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I can't believe you even had the nerve to bother your ma with the "nonsense", ROFL!!!!!!!

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    I have to agree with this............Great points.......Coming from a black woman............I'm not a feminist.........I LOVE FOR MY MAN TO LEAD MY HOME...........I do work to contribute but my man dam sho run that house as a man should. IMO

  • Guess Who

    LOL. Well, you may not be one of the women who have issues with conceiving after a certain age BUT...the possibility of having fertility issues do increase. IDK if you're married or seeing someone but what does that person think?

  • Y me?

    Thanks for sharing your experience. If you don't mind me asking, were you and the dad in a relationship? Or you both just made the conscious decision to conceive and coparent together?

  • Guess Who

    I'm glad you are able to do sustain your family on your own but you should not have to do that. It's fuked up that we now have to sometimes factor in variants when it comes to making a family....like not having any support from one of the parents.

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    Look at your benefits to see. Lots of folks don't read in your benefit packet where ALOT of companies give you a Maximum dollar amount they will pay for infertility. My company gave $25,000 for IVF ( I work for a large medical chain that has a specialty for women) I even used it to conceive my daughter...I didn't do IVY ( my friend did and have identical girls) I did clomid and got pregnant my first round.

  • Judi Jupiter

    Girl dont let them do that to you. People get knocked up naturally past 35, just not as many eggs...

  • the guest

    And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”

    ****

    Beautiful honesty. I’m buying this book.

    ****

    I suffered a miscarriage in the second year of my marriage. My husband was at work and I was alone. We lived rural at the time. I thought I was going to die. I crawled to the phone to call my husband who called the ambulance. I begged God to not let me die. I remember the nurses so calm as miscarriages are common. Even after giving birth to our two children with long over 20 hours labor each delivery, I have never experienced pain as a miscarriage. No one talks about the physical pain. Tears still come to eyes at the thought of it.

  • Y me?

    Sometimes i feel like the preoccupation with planning and "the right time" is such a double edged sword. Finding a daddy who isn't trash , getting the money and career right. I feel like i might be chasing the right timing for years to come

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    I feel ya. Try this one on for size..........I've had 3 miscarriages, 1 baby that died after she was born, and God blessed me with a son/daughter in the end. I'm still grieving my first daughter and next month on the 14 she would of turned 20. I have experienced it all.......

  • tintin

    so sperm + eggs being put in a petri dish and entered into a woman sometimes a whole other woman sounds right. And then separating whatever so you can choose whether to have a boy or girl or even twins??? Naw that is not how it is to be. I used petri dishes in science class. IVF is a big science experiment and something ain't right with it.

  • the guest

    Beautiful and empowering statement. Agreed 100%.

  • Eileen

    I agree please understand I believe a women should be educated and utilize her talents and skills within the framework of her husband and family. When a women is educated she is in a better position to choose a mate that is worthy of her and future offspring

  • Y me?

    I'm about to start incorporating healthy strong long lasting eggs to my prayer list ??

  • Y me?

    I'm single. So i guess I'll have to tack on another 3 to 5 years to find a suitable mate ?? somebody get the dam cats ready

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    Check this out tho. My parents were married for almost 40 years when he passed 14 years ago. And their marriage is why I chose to do it my way. I had to live through their disfunction as a kid and VOWED NEVER make any kids of mine live through that. He was my bio dad not step. Too much negativity. I decided at the age of 6 I was going to do it alone. Oddly, my life played out EXACTLY like I wanted it to when I was six.....

  • the guest

    These days fewer men are marrying.

    Women are spending their twenties waiting for marriage.

  • Shamwow

    ??Thank you for sharing this??. I remember each time I went to the hospital to have my children and during my pregnancy. I was scared but thankful for everything that happened. Because in an instant it could end. I’m happy that your moving forward despite that happening. Everyone has something their trying to heal from that they don’t talk about often. Giving birth and even simply carrying a baby is dangerous. Anything can happen.

  • the guest

    Yes she is.

  • Yoni7

    Uhm, what does ANYTHING that you typed above have to do with my comment of hearing that IVF babies have "a look"? Limit your comment to 8 words or less.

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    More like searching for a decent coparent. I had lost my first my first baby (she was a preemie) and sometimes when you loose a baby, your desire to replace it becomes stronger than life. He was 12 years older with no kids so we both had a strong desire to parent for individual reasons. I was prepared either way when I got with him. I was already stable so I was good.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Lmao.....you're right about that. And Michelle had some coints to be doing all that.

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    P.s the dad is still in their lives just not mine.....

  • Shamwow

    It is possible, anything is as long as you want it.

  • Eileen

    Oh honey I get it! I know about the white privilege of ww. Put the bw out there to take the heat and when it cools off the ww reaps the benefits...remember affirmative action? They benefited not bw. Remember women's equality they benefitted not the bw. I don't trust neither can I stand the stench of liberal ww. That is why I was not with her ( hillery) a ww will never side with a bw unless it is to the ww benefit and once they get what they want they go right back to their wm..

  • the guest

    Amen! Thank you so much for being nice about this. It’s the first time I felt compelled she share something very personal here. This Michelle Obama post really moved my heart. We all need to count our blessings when we make it through our pregnancies and births because even without any complications it is always a miracle and a blessing.

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    Also, I'm not advocating for a woman to do it alone, I'm advocating to make sure your READY above anything else. Do I wish I married first? Maybe but not necessarily.....Just do your do diligence and be prepared mentally/emotionally/financially......Prepare as if you will have to do it alone even if you don't have to. Just in case......

  • the guest

    Speak!

  • Shamwow

    First Congrats !! I love that you have decided and found a way to accomplish your goals. Second if you accept that this is the life you chose it hurts less. Fully accept that when you want children you can and will by any means possible you just have to decide and be okay with your choice. Keep going sis and you can do whatever you want. Also add in a healthy balance but your about to be a doctor you know this.

  • Faithz

    Good Read, Thanks.

  • Faithz

    Thanks for sharing.

  • Y me?

    Did you get any flack for doing it that way? From family or outsiders? I personally don't think a single parent is some big travesty and possibly even preferably if the other parent isn't up to par. I've thought about being an intentional single mother but i know it would break my Christian mothers little heart

  • Dowoop

    Lol... I wanted to hear her response cuz I know when the nurse handed me my babies they had been wiped clean and wrapped in a blanket.

  • MISSMEWITDATBULL

    So unless you are 9-14 years old MAX, and logged in, you arent bonded with YOUR MAMA EITHER
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    See, this right here is why I HATE THAT I LURVE YO ASS SIS!!!!!!!!! Bout to have me fuggin' choke to deaf in this office by myself fuggin' witchoo! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/d4dd69ea84240ae442bd496be8e828a7803c0f2c728506797f8d5fa67326cb7e.gif

  • the guest

    This post really touched my heart. I also love honest talk about marriage. Marriage is not an IG photo. It’s work.

  • Dasright

    Well I thought I was doing the right thing by getting married (at 22) and traveling the world and enjoying my husband first. I just KNEW that at 28 we would be able to conceive with no problems when I (husband and I both) decided to stop birth control. Long story short, here we are 5 years later and I'm finally pregnant and its because of IVF.

  • Y me?

    Awww thank you! I'm loving the openness and support this afternoon. I been lurking this blog for years but i didn't start commenting until last month. You guys are cool ??

  • Alextra Ballard

    I'm so happy for you...Enjoy your pregnancy and Im wishing you a healthy and happy baby.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Wait. We had a poster here like this years ago. Can't recall her log in name. I'm crying

  • disqus_DxKO3ThTGI

    I'm one of those women who has her own and do whatever she wants to do. I didn't need help because I was solid and he made sure I was good too. So whatever a person's opinion is about the way I make my moves is irrelevant to me. You can look my SSN# and see I have never had a FOC case or if I am a government aide recipient. I made sure I was self sufficient so with it laid out like that, what can a mofo say? If anything, folks are envious because I didn't put myself in a situation where I had to struggle with my kids. I've had soooooooooooo many women tell me that I was brave and smart......Not because I chose to be a coparent instead of a wife/mother.........but because I was prepared and ready for the Good/ Bad/ Ugly.......and could handle the situation I created.

  • MISSMEWITDATBULL

    Blessings to you and your growing family!

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    So the Oreo Obama’s cannot get hard for a black woman only that Asian who he was going to marry and for other old
    White men

  • Dasright

    Thank you very much!

  • Dasright

    I really appreciate it!

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    okay, well according to the birthing experts, you failed... LMAO!!!

  • SpiceGirl

    Yes they are....sadly I know all to well (had 4)

  • Tinytoon

    Lol, my 12 year old won't like this. We did fine back in the day, what's different now. Quick question, what if you had a foul odor, would a baby want contact with that?

  • Y me?

    ???? amen!

  • Rayne

    True.

  • Rayne

    I couldn’t even imagine. I threw myself into so many projects at once ...too fast I guess. But I’m totally fine now.

  • Rayne

    ?

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Worked for an older male white obgyn a few years back in the affluent Buckhead area patient demographic was all white the young women that came through there MOST of them he had delivered them and still see their moms as patients anyway when they would come in and as he talking to then he would ask about school meaning colllege one reported she had just graduated and her and her fiancé were planning their wedding she was about 23 he said when do you plan on having children she said they wanted to travel and blah blah blah he told her she didn’t have much time and fin sje planned on having kids she may want to consider doing it sooner rather than later and this was the speech he gave to many of his young patients. We as black women have been programmed and conditioned to think that having kids young is WRONG but nature contradicts that we only have a certain time frame from the time we start or periods as teenagers until we become grown adults to have a child there is a reason GOD have set our bodies up this way!!! Waiting until you are old leaves no choice in most cases to spend thousands of dollars on fertility drugs and ivf when in MOST cases had one conceived younger that would have not been necessary we been hoodwinked and bamboozled. Notice in some cultures like Hispanics they start having kids early and they have a lot of them! And ppl still try to shame them for it but I think it’s a way of limiting certain cultures from reproducing just my two pennies on this subject.

  • Phillybruh

    Figured that's all you would get from that....lol

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Congratulations, hun. However you bring a baby into this world is a blessing.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    If God intended 45-year-old women to get pregnant girls would start menstruating at age 25. There's a reason menses begins around age 11 or 12 - when the eggs are still fresh. Would you eat 45 year old eggs?

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Imo there is no right time if you keep saying the right time the right time time will pass you by!! Some people be in long 10 year relationships cuz they wanna wait to get married until the right time until their finances are straight and credit is good and blah blah blah part of living is learning work on all that **** while you married and having babies otherwise something will ALWAYS come up pushing you further away from the “right time”

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    That's Disqus. It's very sensitive to cuss words.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Damnit auntie I just said that down below!!! We have been fooled especially in the black community they have made having children a bad thing see back in the day black women had anywhere from 2-11 kids!!! They had to find a way to slow down black reproduction so they introduced planned parenthood abortion clinics then told us we wouldn’t be shiiiit if we had children young or more than one child!! Look at some of your grandmothers they haven 4,5,6,7,8,9 kids and now we down to having none or 1 and done! I had this conversation with a group of friends and they were like sooooo you think 15,16 year olds should be having kids ????? I said maybe God did cuz he had were that’s when we start our cycles. I know everybody not gone agree with me in here and that’s ok guys.

  • Phillybruh

    But they really don't do anything except fertilize the egg and if you want too know the sex of the embryo they just run a test on it. They aren't separating anything to get that information.

  • Dun Dilly

    Obama was out here shooting blanks. I wonder if his background of being.....oh never mind!

  • Phillybruh

    Then why do 45yr olds get pregnant naturally it has happened. So then I guess god intended it?

  • davine puddin

    Kids are a blessing period.

  • MsAmour22

    Quit putting your words in my mouth. I didn't say that there weren't birth defects in people that were conceived naturally! Uneducated theory? Do research dummy. There are already documented studies on the ill health of people conceived via IVF and of course more will be released. It took decades for the ill effects of cigarette smoking to be scientifically studied and determined and when it was established it was a huge successful propaganda cover up that had medical doctors informing the public that smoking cigarettes was completely healthy. The same thing is happening with IVF so miss me with the uneducated theory bullshit.

  • Phillybruh
  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I totally agree with everything you wrote! Planned Parenthood really destroyed our community. They don't want our women to have babies while they're young. Look at Toya Wright and her daughter. They are best friends, and now Toya has another bay and she isn't even 40 yet.

  • Dowoop

    :(

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Unless you were there when the baby was conceived, you don't know if it was natural.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    They say he's not into women. I'm just repeating what they're saying.

  • Dasright

    My great grandmother had two kids in her 40's. She's still a very healthy 93 year old and lives alone. I do understand her situation is not the norm, however.

  • Phillybruh

    My grandmother had two children in her 40's

  • Lovely1

    Bingo.

  • the guest

    His comment is vile.

  • Dun Dilly

    I just set it out there so folks can do their own research. LOL

  • FukkFolks2018

    Lol. If it came down the canal or maybe even C-section it's already familiar with said odor lol

  • Ijoyoyo

    Dumb analogy! Then I guess 11 and 12 year olds should be getting pregnant since that's when the egg is fresh.

  • T Willis

    I’ll definitely purchase the book. I love Michelle and her story. Such a beautiful, inspiring woman. I’m in awe of what she’s been able to accomplish - not just as a woman - but a woman of color.

    #representatiomatters

  • Rere

    he's only into one woman!

  • T Willis

    That rumor was debunked lol. Stop it.

  • T Willis

    Does that mean we should encourage young women to explore motherhood by 21 years old? I mean, by your logic, we shouldn’t let our eggs fester longer than 10 years.

  • Shamwow

    You are doing the right thing. You lived your life your way. You did what you had to do and I commend you for that. Thank you for sharing your journey. Also remember balance is everything.

  • T Willis

    Exactly. It’s completely ludicrous lol

  • T Willis

    My grandmother conceived naturally in the 70s with her tubes tied at 47. Unless you’ve never witnessed it, you can’t speak on what is or isn’t possible.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    but what do your babies have to say about it? TUH!

  • T Willis

    Lol what’s funny is you, me, and the other poster have all attested to it happening to our grandmothers. Which is enough proof that it is possible and isn’t some abnormally

  • Shamwow

    Twins also get a lot of attention and rude questions like, “are they ivf?”I didn’t but dang who the f are you as a stranger to ask me that bull. Old people would swarm you I used to joke with my husband that every second they spend with a baby it adds seconds on to their life. It was rough but soooo worth it I would do it all over again.

  • itssogood

    This right here seem right

  • T Willis

    Lmao! I think it’s always been common, but people are becoming more open with discussing it.

    Although...

    I do wonder if birth control, relaxers, and other chemical factors are why more young women are exploring ivf ?

  • Chocolate Bliss

    I remember older women in my congregation going through the change getting pregnant. We youngsters were laughing at them for still doing the nasty. Not knowing that, that was natural. My great grandmother had 24 children. 22 of them died in the pandemic plague that hit Florida at the turn of the century. She died of heart break. She was hitting the change when she had her twins.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Statistically, women who have children prior to age 40 are likelier to have healthy ones the natural way after 40/45. The key here is they've had previous children in their youth.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    First time conception in youth makes it easier to have children over 40. All these grandmother stories are irrelevant to today lol Most of our grandmothers began having kids in their teens and early 20s. The women of today are having their FIRST child in their 30s and 40s.

  • gail jones

    Spoken like a true bull?

  • what?why

    Really? Well why didn't he choose a boy and a girl? Um-m-m-m

  • ZZZ

    Dr. Rose, my boss' wife was 45 years old when they had their first child. She is now 21.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    No one's been fooled lol We are BROKE as a community so women are being a bit more careful. Many Black people can't AFFORD kids. Also, anybody still promoting teenage pregnancy or having children before you can feed/cloth or house them needs to be in jail....you included. That's ridiculous. Children should not suffer because people are dumb enough to fall for "have them while you're young" mess.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Is this a story about how you regret not having any at 22 or how you inevitably used IVF? Because it sounds like you might have had problems at 22 as well. ALL of my friends had miscarriages in their early 20s. Sometimes even youth cannot help with pregnancy complications or having difficulty conceiving.

  • T Willis

    In a perfect world we all would have kids (for those who want them) in our late teens & 20s. The reality is, the way our society is set up, that scenario is not always feasible or realistic. Look at the current economic standing for most black people. The bulk of our people are not middle class, are hit hardest by debt & health problems. Yes, having a baby early is what’s best for your child (usually), however, at what cost? Unless you are debt free, with a sustainable income or career, you will have to work multiple jobs or get on govt assistance. There are pros and cons to doing it either way, but they both come with their own set of issues unless you’re born into a good economic situation.

  • Judge Mental Will

    Most of the women in my family had their kids as teenagers so they clearly didn't need IVF. Most also became grandparents in their 30's... Don't judge us, we know we're ho's.

  • T Willis

    If I never see another IVF story, it will be too soon ?

  • T Willis

    True. They also weren’t doped up on relaxers and birth control. And probably weren’t aborting a lot of kids. See, lifestyle factors go both ways?????

  • Mrs. S. O.

    I keep seeing you all saying that Black people are conditioned to not have kids young but that's not true lol If anything, we are conditioned in the way you are speaking. Have kids young, don't worry about your future health or finances and get the kids out the way come hell or high water. Hence why we have 70% of children born to single mothers who often have to look to social services to assist them. You also seem to be forgetting not every Black woman finds a decent man early in life. It's almost as if y'all want women to have babies young with whoever and however......which is what is ALREADY happening now.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Auntie, now you know good and darn well this sounds ignorant lol 14-year old's should *not* be having kids. Women were not meant to "grow up" with their damn children. Stop this insanity.

  • pure_rachet

    I am 37 and haven’t had a period in a year. Not on birth control. Can I get pregnant?

  • chlujo

    No funny, but I laughed out loud!

  • chlujo

    Who in the hell is they, Sandra?

  • TransMichelle

    Yep the birth control pill is known as the whore pill.

  • starryeyed

    Go Grandma

  • chlujo

    So you're trying to start a war on Friday! SMGDH!

  • TransMichelle

    I agree I don't approve of it at all. Black folks always talking about white people racist but follow every dam thing they do. Now black folks cheer-leading IVF and surrogacy. Since when do black women need someone else to carry their child or need eggs or sperms from another body? Child please

  • Mrs. S. O.

    I don't know anybody who still uses a relaxer....so there's that lol

    On another note, there's this myth in the Black community that women with multiple abortions have no kids and that's just not true. Most women who have abortions have several children before/after their abortions.

  • http://crimsonhairextensions.bigcartel.com/ http://crimsonhairextensions.b

    They used IVF because Michelle is M2F

  • Mrs. S. O.

    This comment section got extremely weird. I see some of y'all giving outdated advice and using fear tactics and not data to get your point across. I see many claiming that the Black community looks down on having children young despite actual statistics stating we are one of the main demographics (along with Hispanics) having kids young. Black women *are* having kids young despite being the most economically unstable and unsound. From where I'm sitting, nobody is reprimanding young Black women from having children young because some Black women want younger women to struggle like they did. Many of the comments in here are not well-meaning at all. There has been ZERO discussion on vetting for a good mate who can help you raise these children in your youth.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Have you read the majority of the comments on here? Trust nobody's judging because some are encouraging what you and your fam are doing.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    You can't choose the sex. It's basically like having a baby the regular way. They mix the egg with the sperm in a freezer and whichever survives is what you get.

  • imright

    thats a question for your OBGYN , not a blogger

  • what?why

    "Embryos of the desired gender are implanted back in the mother's uterus. Prior to fertilization with IVF, the fertilized eggs can be genetically biopsied with …"

  • the guest

    Unbelievably painful.

  • the guest

    All truth. It became trendy a years ago. All the pregnancy magazines started articles on it. They called it “Kangarooing”. Now it’s just skin to skin.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Don't judge us, we know we're ho's.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    LMBAOFFFFFFFFFFF!!! I want you go clock out and go straight home now!!!!!!!!

  • James Hudson

    Look A S S H O L E Mrs Obama is NOT a MAN!

  • Judge Mental Will

    lol thanks

  • Coffee1st

    I carried and gave birth to seven. No complications, no preemies. My sisters are also Fertile Myrtles. I was completely oblivious to the notion of a miscarriage. I honestly never considered how blessed i was until i began to come across women who were unable to conceive.
    It hit me like a ton of bricks and hurt my heart knowing many women go through this.

  • Gloria

    The definition of menopause is the absence of a period for a year. Not saying that you are menopausal but just letting you know you should see a OBGYN right away.

  • Coffee1st

    The Obamas can't breathe without being scrutinized so i think she took that into consideration before putting this out. That said, i think she anticipates the hate and will therefore be able to bear it.
    god knows she's had enough practice.

  • Myopinion

    When the can't conceive or carry a child, If you read the bible The Most High allowed Sarah to have a baby long after Menopause, she was 90 when she conceived Isaac by Abraham. God created menopause right? Well he teaked his work with Sarah...Stop being so shallow with your thought process.

  • Coffee1st

    You shouldn't have even responded.
    Starve 'em...

  • James Hudson

    I know they just PISS me off sometimes with this nonsense

  • TransMichelle

    Whether you believe in the Bible or not Sarah had the baby naturally. She didn't have IVF fool. God doing something and man doing something are very different. Go sit down somewhere. Toodles

  • Coffee1st

    I know but they LIVE for your reaction. You wouldn't believe what you do to them when you ignore them.
    I KNOW. I've got a sister who was a troll before the term even came out.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Of course you chose the sex by picking the right eggs.

  • Melanated Goddess??

    Yes. Children born though IVF tend to have a look to them as well as a whole host of health issues. I know of a couple that have a IVF babies. The girls were born with mild health issues. They're fine la but they're always getting sick or are allergic to something.

  • Stationarity

    Would you eat a 17 year old or 20 year old egg?

  • Stationarity

    It might be cheaper now so more people get it. I don’t have any data on that. Just taking a guess.

  • pure_rachet

    I have and they tested me and said I am not. I just wanna get some dack and not have to worry about getting pregnant lol

  • Well$$Well$$?

    You're the only person I've heard say this.

  • Well$$Well$$?

    Some of these comments. ? The Obama's like Beyonce brings all the crazies out. Anywho. I think it was brave of her to share her story. Infertility is common and shouldn't feel shameful..

  • Malcom Flex

    Broke ho's.

  • Malcom Flex

    No they're not. You need big money to have a kid the days of everybody helping to raise kids is over.

  • Malcom Flex

    You're talking to a fool I blocked for being a fool You're dropping wisdom.

  • Li-Wright

    Honesty. I love her.

  • tintin

    28 years old and you had problems getting pregnant??? What was wrong?

  • dontgetblocked

    It would have been nice if she had covered real issues like fertility when she was the First Lady instead of ruining school lunches and posing for magazine covers. Wasted opportunity.

  • dontgetblocked

    Huh? Where did you read that Wikipedia?

  • dontgetblocked

    Hence, the marriage problems.

  • dontgetblocked

    I have a sibling and some aunts who got pregnant on the other side of 45. The call them mid-life babies. That's why you have three year old aunts. My grandmother had babies from 18 to 46.

  • dontgetblocked

    Good God!

  • dontgetblocked

    I noticed that. You're right. It's those super fertile women who birth and have abortions. Not those of us who use birth control properly or abstain.

  • dontgetblocked

    Amen.

  • dontgetblocked

    At least you could afford IVF and you have your children now. I know a couple who suffered for 17 years before they got their miracle. Some women can never have children. Count your blessings.

  • dontgetblocked

    I was given that speech as well about twenty years ago. I was not in a position to have children and just starting my career. I still don't have children and probably never will. I made a conscious decision not to bring a child into this world outside of marriage and without a solid father figure. I didn't want to struggle nor for my child to suffer. I sill stand by that decision.

  • dontgetblocked

    That's why we are at the bottom of the totem pole. No action plan. Just burp out babies.

  • Dasright

    Yep, I progressively got worse with age started out with cycles like clockwork. Fibroids, cysts, and surgery later and my tubes were shot and I had an ectopic..cycles were irregular. My sister has identical problems to me and she's now 32..a year younger than me and also no kids as she just got married. Our mom was done having kids by 24 so she, as well as the docs were perplexed that my sister and I would experience so many issues that are so closely related. I used birth control for a long time, so did my sister. I dont think my mom did either.

  • tintin

    So sorry to hear that. Hopefully this process is successful for you and you have a healthy boy or girl. Good luck!!

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Facts. The childfree women I know have no kids on PURPOSE lol They use condoms. Even if they are foolish enough to let some knucklehead ejaculate in them, they have decided to not have children with him and stay on birth control lol

  • tintin

    My mom had me at 18 i had my first at 18 and a whole crew of girls in school were pregnant between 16 to 18. As messed up as it was 20 years ago and how many of us say we should have waited, maybe getting pregnant early was the best thing we could have done. I would have hated to go through difficulty getting pregnant. Women today are having a lot of difficulty its sad

  • Mrs. S. O.

    "Women using IVF to get pregnant should be aware that they will be more likely to have a boy than a girl, say experts. ... But another assisted reproduction technique called ICSI, which singles out the sperm that will fertilise the IVF egg, makes a girl more likely."

    Basically, they can attempt to give you a gender but it's all up to Jesus from there lol

  • Gingertee

    Not really, she talked about being healthy, feeding children, literacy and so much more. Now its about her, its the perfect time.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Basically, they can attempt to give you a gender but it's all up to Jesus from there lol

    "Women using IVF to get pregnant should be aware that they will be more likely to have a boy than a girl, say experts. ... But another assisted reproduction technique called ICSI, which singles out the sperm that will fertilise the IVF egg, makes a girl more likely."

  • Dasright

    I was blessed with a job where my company paid 90%. We still incurred costs but nowhere near what it could have been so I'm definitely counting my blessings. My own aunt finally got pregnant at 41 after trying for 21 years so I'm definitely empathetic to the struggle.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Scientifically speaking, teenagers are considered "high-risk" pregnancies because they are more likely to have issues during labor as well as they tend to deliver premature babies far more frequently. I caution women into thinking that their difficulties are age based as the majority of the women I knew who had pregnancy issues were in their early 20s. In 2018, teenagers and 20 year old's don't have the healthiest diets or bodies. There are many who already suffer from hypertension and diabetes before they even turn 21.

  • Sauvignon blanc and Weed?

    B itch shut up! And go back to licking dotard's ass!

  • Sauvignon blanc and Weed?

    Because she/he Sandra is a typical crabs in a barrel hater!

  • Sauvignon blanc and Weed?

    Go see your OBGYN stat! That's not normal.

  • Tanya Te

    I look forward to reading the book.

  • Jethro

    Love my FLOTUS.

  • Jethro

    Speaking of waste...

  • pure_rachet

    lol it doesn't bother me! I don't want babies at this age anyway! And I save $ on tampons lol

  • Sauvignon blanc and Weed?

    I hear you but, It could be an underline health issue so be careful with that. Respect though on your decision and reason.

  • Faithz

    Mine as well, and we know that Daffy Duck has already went after Obama, over this , and Obama hasn't said Jack, I wonder why he didn't go after Michelle, with his buying n 00kie from women!!
    Other than his wife self.

  • PrettyMeka08

    Naw, folks were calling him Bathouse Barry when he first hit the national scene, look it up.

  • Jacqueline Byrd

    This is one book I will definitely be getting too.

  • Jacqueline Byrd

    Thank you. There is a time and place for everything and if she had done that while she was First Lady that's all they would have wanted to focus on. She did the right thing.

  • FukkFolks2018
  • the guest

    Societal racism does have an agenda to dissuade black women from having babies and to dissuade black men from marriage. Whereas society treats marriage and family as an entitlement and expectation for white women and men.

  • FukkFolks2018

    You gonna have some babies! Forget them cats!

  • TransMichelle

    No REAL man is going to push for men to go into the little girl's bathroom especially if he has two daughters himself. There's a whole lot out there about Odumba and his same-sex escapades.

  • sweetae99

    No lies. Michelle has no uterus.

  • sweetae99

    Exactly. That’s why he married Michael.

  • TransMichelle

    No it was never debunked. Here's Odumba with one of his lovers during his younger years.
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b861e754183c1e6d3b48ba7760a3a095814a63d3fd29f69976f78211c3079926.jpg
    Here's something else for you thrown in for good measure.
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/2d90bccd7e904490e87e916edcda6cf2ffb53a0d272ef35c95f0995102364a6b.jpg

  • TransMichelle

    Yeah people always try to make it seem like the only way a child will be successful and mature is if both parents are in the home. It is preferable of course. But I have watched many documentaries where young people have turned to drugs, drink and even murder and teenage girls pregnant with 2 or more children that had both parents in the home. And then some others who had one parent became well adjusted individuals. You are right, it's better to raise them alone than to keep them in a negative even violent environment.

  • TransMichelle

    Good points and that education doesn't just include book learning either. There are plenty of educated fools. Being educated about life and living a life of wisdom is priceless!

  • TransMichelle

    You right and many of these "sistas" are college educated but still make sorry choices in men.

  • TransMichelle

    There's no proof either way really. Did you see Michelle give birth? Just sayin'

  • TransMichelle

    You acting like women don't still get raped and that human trafficking (which are mostly young girls forced into prostitution) doesn't exist. Women are still being married off in some countries like India. And if you really want to see women treated badly go to any black country where there are no women rights. The Top 10 countries in the world that is worst for women's rights are black countries. Black American women have been lucky to live in a white country where women are given rights.

  • T Willis

    Very insightful. I wasn’t aware of that.

  • T Willis

    Lmao ikr

  • T Willis

    Exactly!!

  • T Willis

    All. Of. This.
    ??

  • T Willis

    Lol dayum. I think she means we took feminism too far. Somewhere between the 2nd or 3rd wave of feminism, we lost our way.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Yep a lot of people make that decision and it’s a personal choice that I can respect. I have one child and now for some reason I can’t seem to get pregnant BUT if I could do it all over again I would have had kids back to back on some dugars 19 and counting type shiiit or octocmom. Now my child is the only child and if something where to happen to me no one else in this world would know how she feels vs if she had siblings that would be someone she could go through that experience with and they could comfort each other. When my gma passed my father said he was glad he had his sisters and brothers to lean on they leaned on each other. And in the same breath the way this dam world going I may have opted out of having kids at all of I could have looked into the future.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    well maybe it’s where you grew up at maybe it’s different from the area I grew up in so I can only speak to what I was exposed to and there CERTAINLY was a stigma attached to young women who had a child or children early they were called loose or fast and if she had more than one people would side eye and make comments about how many children a woman had hell til this day men even do it they don’t care if you were married and had 4 kids then divorced they be like dam she got 4 kids. Further I don’t see the difference in waiting until you 45 to have a child via IVF and no father around vs having a child at 19 and 20 with no father around. And hell MARRIGE don’t guarantee that you gone have someone around to help raise your child hell some married women husbands leave them while they are pregnant or years after having kids that still puts them as a single mom and in some cases after the divorce the man is not present but he send that child support check! A baby ain’t never kept anyone married or not you still run the risk of being a single parent.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Everyone has debt if your house or car is not paid off that’s a debt and will most likely NEVER be debt free. If you don’t eat right and exercise or live a high risk lifestyle your health gone be bad rather you 20 or 40 if you live above your means (not budgeting) you gone have to work multiple jobs to sustain rather you have a child or not rather you 20 or 40. Most things I see people talking about are financial and most financial things are common sense to me (I understand not to others it took me a while to learn) if you bad at managing which is simple adding and subtracting you gone be in debt or can’t afford anything rather you 20 or 40 with or without a child.

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    At what point did I say if you can’t feed a child have one anyway? Let’s not put words in each other mouths and the simple fact is if you bad with money and lack financial literacy you will NEVER be able to afford a child. And our community is not broke we just have BROKE people in our community and a lot of that has to do with not budgeting and spending more money than you have. I don’t subscribe to all that black ppl broke and black on black crime bullshiiit that people repeat without looking at the actual statuses and numbers!! I looked it up BLACK ppl are NOT black ppl are NOT the majority on government assistance WHITE PPL ARE I just looked up those numbers the other day. We in fact are opening up the most businesses and graduating college at a very high rate. You never know how life gone hit you it’s some 40 year olds out her with kids who can’t afford them. And there are young ppl out her with kids who can because they know how to budget. And to be clear I NEVER said have a child even if you can’t fed or house them. But if you can and you are young have your kids because you have a lot of women who WAITED until this or that and now they can’t have children and if they do they have to go through EXPENSIVE treatments to do so and risk dying while giving birth.

  • KcoolMuziq

    Barack( whom was partying it up when I attended the Image Awards during Prince who turned it out performance) is a man with dignity..

  • Kayke

    Also women who have children as teens and young adults are less healthy, physically and mentally, by age 40 than women who gave birth in their late twenties and above. Tons of studies done.

  • Kayke

    It’s not the egg that determines the sex, it’s the sperm.

  • Kayke

    I find this argument hilarious.... but just like they did Bey and Blue.... where the pregnancy photos at??

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Exactly. All eggs are female.

  • facingrealit1

    Michelle is making any sense as IVF does not prevent a miscarriage and if you are having miscarriages you do not have fertility problems. Makes you wonder if she really is a he and there are no pregnancy pictures because she was never pregnant.

  • http://crimsonhairextensions.bigcartel.com/ http://crimsonhairextensions.b

    EXACTLY!! Show me the BARE BELLY!!

  • http://crimsonhairextensions.bigcartel.com/ http://crimsonhairextensions.b

    Nonesense, huh? You must not be familiar with the human anatomy, and the physical differences between and male and female. Michelle has A LOT of male characteristics... But the SHEEP want to believe the LIE soooo bad, you’ll do anything to defend it.. Maybe you can post her BARE BELLY (in color) pregnancy photos?? Let me know when you do! I can’t wait ?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I meant embryo.

  • Allihave2say

    FRIEND! I WAS JUST ABOUT TO WRITE THE EXACT SAME THINGS. THE EXACT SAME THOUGHTS. SOMETHING IN THE MILK AIN'T CLEAN AND TODAY THEY HAVE ME WONDERING IF THOSE STORIES OF HER BEING TRANSGENDERED ARE TRUE. NEVER QUESTIONED HER GENDER UNTIL THIS CAME OUT.

  • Allihave2say

    Please don't elevate liars. Every woman knows and man who took and passed biology understands that if you got pregnant and miscarried (without the use of IVF to conceive the 1st baby you miscarried), you are able to get pregnant but other underlying issues may prevent completion of pregnancy/spontaneous miscarriage/abortion.

    Getting IVF doesn't cure what causes a miscarriage. The zygotes aren't superegos because of IVF. The egg is just implanted into the uterus with some help. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that she left some parts out of the story. Maybe she had a surrogate. Hopefully she isn't a he.

  • Allihave2say

    M2F transformers do not have a womb bearing uterus. This story is playing with people's intelligence. There's some lying going on.

  • Jethro

    ???

  • Ajavee

    Exactly ?

  • Mikayla

    I guess you shouldn’t have said you missed them.

  • Mikayla

    Come on, she needed to sell BOOKS. Now all her daughters friends, coworkers and partners know they was science experiments.

  • Mikayla

    If she was going to share all this she should’ve shared how she copes with having a gay husband, if it was worth it to make it to the White House but living a lie.

  • Eileen

    I am so glad we can agree ...yes they are full of it..now they are by far the wealthiest first couple to leave the white house...smh.. all that globalist money from George soros and hollywood...sickening

  • Eileen

    Thank you...but she gotta sell those books

  • Eileen

    Sad choices ..where are parents?

  • TransMichelle

    Yes the whole story about the Odumba's is a mess. They were a huge scam pulled on the American people.
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/18f784ce36778f05a251acf73b0c38dd157dba21703e76acf90cfdd0da9eaf85.jpg

  • TransMichelle

    You notice you never saw Michelle in a bathing suit either? I use the name TransMichelle and it drives them crazy on this site. They are so protective of their first he-she.

  • Mrs. S. O.

    Please look up the data on the Black community. We have no wealth, that is considered BROKE. If you can't pay for your child's college outright right now, you don't have the money that some of your white counterparts have PERIOD. Also, please explain the growing number of women in their 20s who still have to undergo expensive IVF treatments in order to have children? Surely, they didn't wait. None of your rhetoric makes sense lol

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com/ Ms.Devereaux

    Ok you win

  • Blackbutterfly81

    Yes that true currently having my first child just turned 37 got pregnant naturally and first time trying.

  • Shanese

    Her book comes out this week! Cant wait to buy!

  • Logan Roberts

    A Leo man and a Capricorn woman??? I applaud Michelle & Obama being able to make it last this damn long.

  • Leigh Burton

    We are about to have a baby and the mom is almost 40! NO IVF! NO Surrogate! NO adoption! All natural!

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