Pastor John Gray sparked a heated debate among women online after he said his wife "birthed" him so he could be a better man.
Pastor Gray made the controversial statements during an appearance on Atlanta's "Sister Circle" daytime talk show on Thursday.
"The wife that I chose is better than the man that I am," Gray told hosts Rashan Ali and Syleena Johnson, who both seemed at a loss for words.
He continued: "She's a coat: I still can't fit her. She's bigger than me. She's had to cover me while I grow up."
But his metaphors got even more confusing when he said, "She's a covering, not a lid. Because if a man marries a lid, she'll stop your dream."
Pastor Gray added: "My wife has endured more pain birthing me than both of our children."
After the uproar among women on social media, the pastor's wife of 26 years, Aventer Gray, posted a lengthy message on her Instagram page attempting to clarify her husband's statements. But she only deepened the confusion.
"A RIB (wife)...covers vital organs of the body. It’s functionality is for Protection, Support, and Respiration. So, I can see things he can not," she wrote.
But many say the roles are reversed in the Gray household, and that the pastor's wife emasculated him by being the provider and the protection that a man should normally be for his family.
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Wow! @realjohngray! This is beautiful! I’ve seen this floating and had opportunity to see some dialogue. I love dialogue...here is my response...A RIB (wife)...covers vital organs of the body. It’s functionality is for Protection, Support, and Respiration. So, I can see things he can not. God gave us wives heightened discernment to Protect from some of the oblivion that our husbands face. We Support in the best ways...we stand, we build, we give legs to vision, and it isn’t always happily ever after, in fact it’s “Jesus be with me” while this purpose is being birthed...YES BIRTH OF PURPOSE not actual birthing of a man. His mother did that part, but as wives, there are things that life can be given to in ways he may not have been able to produce alone, bringing me to my next function of a rib, the Respiration, meaning the act of breathing. Sometimes, it takes a wife to give the breath to make the vision alive, and it’s taking place simultaneously with the growing, development, and healing of broken places that had nothing to do with us!!! Some pain we walk into based on the upbringing of our husbands or experiences that limited or crippled his process that had nothing to do with us! Pain is a part of the process, not continuous pain, but pain that actually produces fruit and gets us all to Destiny! Don’t tell me one thing about a woman isn’t supposed to cover. One of my degrees is Cardiopulmonary Science and I’m a pastor. I may have a few correlations to share! ????? (Not a boast, just a truth) Have a blessed and productive Wednesday!~Aventer Monique Cotton Gray #Aveygram #WivesCover #KnowYourRoleifYouWantIt #RibsCoverVitalOrgans #Repost @niecynash1 with @get_repost ??? Come on!!! @realjohngray Teach the people ??????
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