The following is an update of my Medical Minute on raising children to be narcissists. Photos in this post are shown for illustrative purposes only.

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We have all done this: a friend shows us a photo of her child, and our initial response is to praise the child's looks ("She's so cute!"). Cultures that are obsessed with beauty breeds narcissism. As a result, most narcissists tend to be very good looking.
 

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a mental disorder characterized by egotistical admiration of one's idealized self image and attributes; a preoccupation with self. A narcissist puts her own aspirations, needs, success, and personal preferences above others. A small amount of narcissism is healthy. But the extreme narcissist is totally absorbed in herself.

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Narcissists tend to look younger than their stated age. The narcissist suffered a major attachment trauma at some point in her childhood. Her mother may have been an airline stewardess, but the narcissist perceived her mother's many absences as an act of abandonment.

The narcissist remains emotionally stuck at that age when the psychological trauma of her separation/attachment anxiety occurred.

As a result of her emotional trauma, she retreats inside herself and builds a barrier to guard herself from further injury. All people are harmful and can't be trusted.

The protective barrier becomes her new sense of self; a false identity that she presents to the world to mask her insecurities. Her new identity is not the true person inside.

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Her false identity may be attractive, self-assured and confident on the outside, but look a little deeper and you will see a bitter, hurt individual. She appears to care about people when, in fact, she only cares about herself. People are things to be used. She is the center of her own universe.

Because she has a false identity she is constantly checking herself in mirrors or taking dozens or hundreds of Selfies a day. There are many mirrors and pictures of herself throughout her house.

She may even hire a professional photographer to follow her around and take hundreds of photos of her.

Studies show that we are living in an increasingly narcissistic society. The sharp rise in narcissism in today's society is directly linked to social media.

New studies show that millennials are more likely to value money, image and fame over community, affiliation and self-acceptance.

Instagram is a narcissist's playground where self-obsessed users upload hundreds of photos of themselves for 'likes' to validate their feelings of self-importance.

In a blog on Huffingtonpost.com, sports psychology consultant Nicole Forester referred to social media as an "Epidemic of narcissism".

"We are each hard-wired with the desire to feel relevant. Everyone wants to feel like they matter and are important. Social media provides this outlet, but also promotes being self-absorbed," she writes.
 

Signs & Symptoms of Narcissism

  • Trouble maintaining longterm relationships
  • Sensitive, feelings easily hurt
  • Demanding only "the best" of everything (brand divas)
  • Reacting to criticism with anger (narcissistic rage), shame, or humiliation
  • Taking advantage of others for their own self gain
  • Verbally or mentally abusing others
  • Exaggerating one's own importance, achievements, and talents
  • Unrealistic fantasies of love (Erotomania), success, beauty, power, or intelligence
  • Only pursue relationships with celebrities or other important figures
  • Need constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
  • False feeling of entitlement
  • Punishing others with the silent treatment or cutting them off
  • Lacking empathy and disregard for the feelings of others
  • Obsessed with their own self image
  • Easily bored
  • Constantly looking at her reflection in a mirror
  • Taking dozens of selfies per day

 

Psychologists urge parents to refrain from excessively praising their child's beauty. Also, limiting children's access to social media.

Avoid excessive praising of their looks. And ask your friends to avoid praising your child's looks.

Excessively praising a child's gifts or talents can also lead to narcissism (think narcissistic celebrities).

Remember that children are concrete in their thinking. Children typically have a difficult time distinguishing between their actual self (who they actually are) and their ideal self (who they think they are).

This causes an unrealistic view of themselves. Children who grow up to be narcissists have fractured personalities (unrealistic perception of actual self and ideal self). They are like broken mirrors. We can put the pieces back together again but the mirror will never be whole.

In order for a child to develop a realistic self-view, she must receive approval from her environment in balanced and healthy doses.

Remember that all babies are born narcissistic. But through social interaction with other children (such as in day care or kindergarten), they learn that the world does not revolve around them.

Children who receive too much praise/attention will develop an unrealistic self-view.

The following factors can lead to narcissism:

  • Oversensitive temperament at birth
  • Excessive admiration of a child that is never balanced with realistic feedback
  • Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for bad behaviors in childhood
  • Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents, other family members, or peers
  • Excessive praise for perceived exceptional beauty or talent
  • Emotional or physical abuse in childhood
  • Unpredictable or unreliable caregiving from parents
  • Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem
  • Living vicariously through your children

 

Treatment

It is unusual for narcissists to seek treatment. When they do, it is because they suffered a narcissistic injury (loss of a relationship or employment) that leaves them feeling depressed or anxious.

Treatment can be very difficult because narcissists often see themselves as more intelligent or knowledgeable than doctors. Treatment can include therapeutic approaches (anger management, cognitive, behavioral etc. Medication is also prescribed for depression, anxiety, etc.

This has been your Medical Minute.
 
More info on the web

Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Children | WebMD

Causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Children | Voices

Preparing the School for Your Child with Narcissistic Personality Disorder | About.com

Narcissistic Personality Disorder | Wikipedia
 
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  • RedBullWoke

    I love this. Especially the positive correlation between social media and our increasingly narcissistic society. The internet is not necessarily harmful in itself because output is depend on a user. Thus, social media can be used for many a great cause. Sadly however, it also has significant contribution to the rapid expansion of the current narcissistic climate. I cannot fathom why people place so much emphasis on "likes." One's self worth should not be determined by the amount of likes on any given "selfie" post, but it increasingly is. This notion is disturbing because the moment a social media post is deemed unfavorable then there goes the user's self esteem leaving him/her starving for a "positive" comeback which often times includes compromising one's morals. I appreciate this medical minute because Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) needs more awareness. More narcissists = more narcissistic relationships (both familial and romantic.) An unsuspecting victim of a narcissist who isn't aware of the disorder or its lasting impact is in danger of emotional abuse which can range from mild to, and in most cases, complete and utter self destruction.

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    THIS!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Studies show that we are living in an increasingly narcissistic society. The sharp rise in narcissism in today's society is directly linked to social media.
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  • Waya Hedia

    Why do these people think we need to see their brats anyway? Because THEY are narcissists .

  • therealashland

    Girl,... ??????????

  • Marlika

    Good post Sandra!??

  • therealashland

    So you see it as narcissistic, I see it that Monica is helping an up and coming photographer granting her exposer and as well as networking, not only is she giving her a job opportunity she’s giving her almost free promo and that’s invaluable.

  • doriday

    That about covers most people in this world. So if those are the signs and symptoms than all we have to do is look in the mirror. You don't have to look very far from home.

  • Rayne

    This is the whole fb and instagram.

  • Karen Brady

    Tell 'em Walter Oaks.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I'm certain that 1/2 of their userbase would suffer with withdrawal or suicidal thoughts if they ever went down for more than 24hours.

  • Chicagowise

    "Narcissists tend to look younger than their stated age."

    Does that mean I am a narcissist or is my youthful appearance the result of genetics?

    With the exception of expressing the expectation that we were always neat and clean, I don't remember our parents ever making comments about our physical appearance. Their emphasis was always on academic achievement and kindness toward others.

    It was the outside world that made me aware of my appearance and the power that perceived attractiveness holds.

  • Chicagowise

    Sad, but true.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    With the exception of taking selfies I see these traits in tons of people. I don't see them as "bad"... simply adversely affected by life in some way. So I just take them in small doses. If they're too toxic I simply exit Stage Left.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    People have forgotten what they did with their lives before FB, Snapchat & Instagram.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I don't remember too much about what my parents said TO me. I mostly remember the discussions ABOUT me with their friends & relatives.
    Eavesdropping I knew what was and what wasn't acceptable behavior for a young lady.

  • Chicagowise

    The need for attention and approval is nothing new. If we're lucky, we get it unconditionally from the people who love us: family, friends or other loved ones. The thing I find most alarming, is the need for attention and approval from total strangers.

  • Laykeya

    You just exhibited narcissism. This post was not about you. Lol

  • Chicagowise

    LMAO! Oops! ?

  • Vonda K

    Good article Sandra.
    I work in schools and I see how social media has increased not just narcissist behavior but deviant behavior also. This generation will commit and post the most vile acts just for likes and views.
    I’m not on instagram because most of what I see is all smoke and mirrors especially among so called celebrities.
    It seems people can’t separate real from fantasy. Everything is for ‘clout’.
    Your blog is one of few i read.

  • Bree

    I love Monica. But I personally think she posts too many pictures of herself and kids on social media, just like Ciara. Except, I had to cut Ciara off. She's simply a media whore.

  • Topic Influencer

    Signs & Symptoms of Narcissism
    ^^^^^
    About 7-8 of these pertain to white peepo. Specifically this one:

    False feeling of entitlement

    So no. I'm not raising a future white woman. Thanks tho

  • Renee26

    LMAO

  • Bree

    That's why I shut down my social media accounts. Facebook started out as a platform for working adults and college students to Network. It is now a disaster.

  • Bree

    I totally agree.

  • Topic Influencer

    Girl

  • Bree

    Social media has had its perks. It is now deadly. It always takes one bad apple to spoil the bunch. I remember how peaceful my life was before social media. I decided to give up social media. I don't plan on reactivating anything. As a fan, of Monica's work, I would rather see that more than I see her and her family plastered over her IG. I have always supported 90s artists because I love that era but social media makes you forget that real music actually did exist at one time.

  • Bree

    I see many people get on social media and feel as if they are entitled to know what goes on in someone else's life, especially celebrities. There was a time where the music was more important than the artist.

  • Bree

    You hit the nail on the head. I can't stand "attention" and when I would see people that constantly post for that, I started unfollow everybody. I wish the hell I would care about what somebody has to say about me. And people on social media go too far.

  • Karen Brady

    ??????

  • Karen Brady

    All of this. This is my only regular blog.

  • Faithz

    Great Article for discussion Auntee..

  • Chicagowise

    I used to tell my friends, "never get in a relationship with someone who needs you to complete them." Being responsible for another adult's happiness is exhausting. Instead, find someone who is already a whole person, whose happiness comes from within. If your happiness is contingent on external factors, you are setting yourself up for repeated disappointments.

  • Char Newbill

    Wait one minute this describes someone we are all too familiar with...always on Twitter and sees any criticism as a personal Attack! Who could this be ??

  • Sushi

    Thank you , same here. .

  • ClaireHuxtable

    "You complete me." *barfs*

  • ClaireHuxtable

    L0l!
    Then again, Chi... I kinda like having relationships with humans I don't have to feed,cook or pay a mortgage for!
    I can invite people over for drinks and never have to actually Buy the liquor l0l!

  • xxxgracious

    Are you referring to Mrs. Cephus ???

  • Lisa Left Eye

    Is that a transgender child looking in the mirror?

  • the guest

    Exactly.

  • xxxgracious

    Would any of you consider Ciara a narcissist??? Just curious?

  • LLC

    no

  • Mrs Mary

    Sandra you outdid yourself with this one. My mother is 63 and tgis article describes her to a T!!! She doesn't do social media but she thinks everyone is jealous of her and all she is focused on is her weight and looks literally that's all she talk about. It's a shame top. She was a stay at home mother so I think that was her diwnfall. Even after all chipdren were grown and gone she never sought a real job or any involvement in the community. She thinks going to church every Sunday is her only outlet I guess to doing something. It's very sad to watch.

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  • Chicagowise

    "I'm nothing without you."

    *Runs for the nearest exit*

  • Chicagowise

    Some people are very content with living a superficial existence and some people are only pretending to be happy, because they don't have the tools to move beyond the superficiality. Building a meaningful life takes work.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Another good one! We attribute character traits in others that we should be developing within ourselves. So when that person leaves we want to k1ll them..."If I can't have you, nobody will".

  • ClaireHuxtable

    My aunt goes nowhere! Not even church. You want to see her...gotta go to her house.

  • Chicagowise

    My uncle met a woman like that and she murdered him. ?

    Clingy people frighten the hell out of me. I am attracted to strength and independence. I'm not looking for an empty Bug Gulp cup, waiting to be filled up!

  • BaybeK8s

    I'm not sure about Ciara, but I was just getting ready to ask that same question about the Karjenner-Wests.

  • Yup, I said it

    Clingy people also tend to cheat because they need that external validation. If your not giving it to them or enough they will seeking it elsewhere.

  • Kiss

    North West

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Sorry about your uncle.
    I'd rather do this walk single than hook up with a nut job. They make you have to worry about not only yourself, but your family.

  • Chicagowise

    Exactly! You also see that behavior in children who haven't bonded with their parents. They form instant attachments to the first person that shows them attention. A sad and dangerous way to live.

  • R Smith

    This just made me think of #45-------- "Treatment can be very difficult because narcissists often see themselves as more intelligent or knowledgeable than doctors."

    He's more intelligent than EVERYONE; he's the SME on infrastructure, technology, energy, drones, ISIS...LOL!

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Yep

  • Rayne

    I’m on there. Just me and our family.

  • Rayne

    Yea they would. They wouldn’t have anyone to clown out for?

  • Rayne

    No. My sister wife is not. Lol

  • WhoKnew

    Yes, Ciara definitely is a narcissist.

  • Bree

    She's a media whore, not sure if that makes a difference. I hate the way she exploits her husband and kids! She won't be able to keep up that farce of a marriage for long. Women these days need to start marrying for the right reasons!

  • Renee26

    I'm about to go out on date #3 with a narcissist... I'm making him wait on me as I type. All he does is talk about himself and interrupts our private conversations every time someone he knows walks in the room. He has over 4000 fb friends and looks like a famous celeb... everytime somebody mentions it he eats it up ?. I haven't complimented him once cause I know how to deal with men like him. He's using me as arm candy, throwing money around and introducing me to the who's who in the city.

  • Ebony Starr

    She's worst than her mother because she's starting young. Kim told a story of North rolling down the limo window. She yelled, "I'm North West, Kim Kardashian is in the car, Kanye West is my dad."

  • Bree

    Kanye better grab a hold of her and quick! That little girl is a brat if I ever saw one. Her mother doesn't make it any better.

  • WhoKnew

    "Narcissism is a mental disorder characterized by egotistical admiration of one's idealized self image and attributes; a preoccupation with self"
    ___________________________________________________________

    This describes Dump to a tee!

    The narcissist remains emotionally stuck at that age when the psychological trauma of her separation/attachment anxiety occurred.
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    This also describes Dump to a tee! He's stuck at the age of 2 years old. I guess that's the age when his deddy and his mama first told him he ain't shyt and would grow up to be a narcissistic crook.

  • Bree

    That's great. I got off for the sake of my marriage. People will do anything to destroy a good thing. My husband and I have a great relationship. He's a man of power and great status. People love the likes, comments, and all that other stuff. But I don't. I would always post my husband but didn't comment or like his pics like everyone else. So that became a problem because he was use to that. We argued about that and I made it perfectly clear that that junk is for the birds. He laughed because he knew exactly what I meant when I said it.

  • WhoKnew

    North's mother encourages her. If you notice all those KarHags and JennerHags are effed up in the head. Like seriously effed up and their mama was too busy out there hoeing to raise them with morals and as decent human beings. Now they are raising their own chirren as absentee to be narcissist, at least when they around long enough.

  • Bree

    Right. The bible says that when God brought Eve to Adam, the two flesh became one. That means they both were made whole. In the beginning of our marriage, my husband thought he had to carry me and all these others things. I'm like I can hold my own. It shocked him but he soon released that I didn't need him to make me whole. When we introduced, I was already who I am today. That was a blow to my husband's ego. These chicks kill me with wanting somebody to complete them. Find God, he created you

  • Bree

    I'm disappointed in Kanye. Although I think his marriage to Kim will last, he has not stepped up as a man in raising North. We don't see the other kids as much as North because she's always with Kim. When I saw her with make up on and Kim's shoes, I started to wonder about her. I know little girls aspire to be like their mothers but something about Kim having North doesn't sit well with me.

  • Bree

    I think that that is ridiculous. She is a child that should be enjoying her childhood. My husband is a man of power and we are not with child yet, but I don't want our children to be or feel privileged. I'm laying down the law up in here.

  • Dowoop

    Lmfao

  • WhoKnew

    You are joking right?

  • WhoKnew

    Yeah, Kanye looks heavily medicated in all his pics so I doubt he's able to step up and be a parent. When North was photographed wearing what looked like a negligee in public my heart wept for that little girl. I said to myself that child is in trouble already. I just pray for her.

  • Bree

    I don't see why there's no one around Kim to at least school her on her parenting skills with North. But I guess the "Hollywood" life is just that, the Hollywood life. These days kids are more like accessories. I'm sure Kim had another boy through surrogate, just so she can have two cute girls and two cute boys. I can just imagine what goes on in that head of hers.

  • Eileen

    Use it to your advantage!

  • Chapter29Chick

    No that's a grown woman who is trying to look young lol

  • Chapter29Chick

    Cardi B is what I came up with lol

  • Malificent

    ? I must confess that I have all of those characteristics. Help me please how can I overcome it. I’ve been wandering why I can’t keep a man. https://media0.giphy.com/media/xT4uQDK9p8wdX9Ylxu/giphy.gif

  • Cannelle

    "millennials are more likely to value money"

    That's because we are so talk broke, lol.

  • Guest©

    You are knowingly dating a narc?!? Please know they are very dangerous. Chicagowise posted that his Uncle was murdered by his narc girlfriend. You can't outsmart a narc. They have no soul. You need to exit stage left asap!!

  • Cannelle

    It seems that its not easy at all to find those type of people these days ("whole"). There are so many troubled people walking around, and increasing isolation + non-stop competition does not help.

    But I do agree with your advice and its well worth the investment to try.

  • Cannelle

    I shut down too. The costs far outweighed the benefits.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I agree with that. Relationships with narcissists (or marriages to narcissists) usually end badly.

  • Heat2Hot

    This is indeed a great article. I hope that Sandy does a Part 2 disclosing the different types of narcissists. For example, Donald Trump is a malignant narcissist. They bully by proxy (force other people to lie for them).

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I'll take Donald Trump for $500 Alex!

  • missmiami305

    Auntie.....y’all about a read ??

  • missmiami305

    Exactly! Blue is as sweet as pie.

  • missmiami305

    Yup! She just tries to be undercover.

  • Heat2Hot

    LeBrick, narcissist is Trump's middle name!!!

  • Shamwow

    Date and enjoy yourself. But beware and stay one step ahead.

    https://media3.giphy.com/media/Led6053dpBoLS/giphy.gif

  • Renee26

    Lmao

  • ClaireHuxtable

    It would agony just holding on to all those 1/2 naked pictures.

  • Lovely1

    You literally just described someone I broke up with a couple of weeks ago. Down to the last line. Does very well for himself, professionally, self centered (but pretends to care about others), had a rough childhood and hardly ever communicates with family, has seen 3-4 therapists, but is so obnoxious, thinks he knows more than them. He also judges people based on their job title and descriptions and cares what people think of him. Considers himself part of the "upper crust" and others to be peasants. Whenever he is called out on his behavior, tries to deflect by talking about all the financial wealth he has. Took me a little while to figure out he was narcissistic, because he kept talking of all he does for others. After I got the memo, I got the hell on. Wow.

    This post is dead on. Wasn't expecting to see Monica's face, but maybe she is. I don't follow her on social media, but have always loved her voice and thought she was so pretty.

  • ClaireHuxtable
  • Bree

    Definitely! My husband wanted me to keep it up. I had to show him why it it necessary. Social media is full of toxicity. I'm not about that life!

  • Renee26

    I'm not going to let things let that far... We won't be in a relationship

  • Renee26

    He's been married 3 times

  • Lisa Left Eye

    ?? wow

  • Renee26

    Just dating and having fun... Not seeking a relationship with him and I'm definitely keeping my options open for Mr Right.

    I just had dinner and drinks and we went our separate ways ?

  • Miss Thang

    Therapy

  • Miss Thang

    Lol

  • Renee26

    LMAO ironically I nicknamed one guy Fudd in my phone...

  • bb1812

    Ciara.

  • Guest©

    Be careful.

  • Li-Wright

    To counter narcissism, take the child to do volunteer work, like the Obamas did with their girls.

  • Frank Blunt

    Hell I hope you arent the ex of a former childhood friend of mine?Everyone he pulls of quality and they disappeared change door locks and numbers, I conclude she seen the numbers never added up.?Half of these folks receive SSI checks and are dependent on their parents still. Living off their good retirement?

  • Frank Blunt

    ?Key never giving him that compliment..you got it? Oooh the way that dead look and clenched jaw sets in when they set it up and expect you to bait and kill???

    When you speak to that humanitarian side of manhood, thats the fight or flight?

  • Frank Blunt

    And not nary a family member from Ye's tribe taking them in to spend time with those cousins that dont live like them. Why the world aint shyt today #bringbackbigmamas #mateiarchalaunties

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    It's good that you're acknowledging it's an issue That's a good start. Therapy might help. A homegirl of mine has always been a narcissist. Beautiful woman, always had men sweating her, great career, makes very good money... but she's always been TOTALLY stuck on herself. Now she's past her 40th birthday she's quite bitter because so many of her homegirls are happily married, and she's still single. I feel kind of sad for her.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Auntie, why didn't you include a pic of your Personal Jesus Agent Orange?

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  • Lovely1

    Wow. I kept referring to the person I met as "self-centered", which was way too nice a descriptive. Reading this entire thing sums up the exact behavior I had seen exhibited and I'm glad I moved on. Dealing with a narcissist is extremely daunting....right on down to the part about "attachment".

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Dealing with a narcissist is extremely daunting

    It's worse when said narcissist is your elderly parent who 'misremembers' how close you two were when you were growing up.

  • Lovely1

    -_- I can only imagine. Yes. A narc will make you think that YOU'RE the one with the problems; playing mind games, etc. The range of emotions I experienced while realizing I was dealing with someone who exhibited the characteristics above took time to wear off. Having a parent who is a narc is just...smh
    Try to keep your head. The good thing about this is that you are aware what type person you are dealing with. It's healthy to be able to acknowledge that. You you have to remove yourself from the environment to allow yourself time to yourself...to detox.

  • Kayke

    I tell my nieces that they are beautiful. It’s not the only thing I tell them.... but I absolutely try my hardest to make them feel beautiful in their brown skin, in their unpermed hair, in their jeans and t-shirt. I think its important for black girls to feel pretty.

  • bemetoo

    Who isn’t a narcissist that’s in the entertainment industry

  • den

    Funny how the Kardashians were conveniently left out

  • dblogged

    THIS know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of YAH; Having a form of regard for YAH, but denying the power of YAHUAH: from such turn away. TIMOTHEUS SHENIY (2 TIMOTHY) 3:1-5 ?? CEPHER

  • Bonita

    I was just thinking that North West would've been an excellent example. That child is going to be a mess!

  • Blak

    You wrote this just to call out Monica, periodt.

  • MsPam

    Let the church say amen.

  • WhoKnew

    Definitely.

  • MsPam

    This post reminds me of Your So Vain by Carly Simon.

  • Mielle Downey

    I'm over the idol worship of these manufactured personalities. People are to invested in made up realities which hinders them from living in the real world. Reality shows are usually full of rejects from society who put themselves on display for a price. Wake up people and live your best life . These celebrities are just as flawed if not more than we are. God is real.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Narcs need a soucre of energy ....... a supply ... simply ignore them and then comes their injury ...... narc injury meltdown ..... da kid in da store having a tantrum ...... this is only to get some more energy by the way ..... simply ignore a narc give them nothing ..... you or anyone is not responsible for their wounds only them ...... and they hate to face that ....Narcs are demons periodt ..... they get no energy from me but the truth ..... and they hate that ..... and the truth is they deserve nothing but what they put others through simple!!!!!! Their egos are/ get bruised easily ..... weak fawkas to be honest and waste of space and time .... thee end

  • Coffee1st

    Same here.
    My grandmother used to always say, Be kind to one another.
    My mother: Love in spite of, not because of.
    My grandmother stressed education while my mother stressed Christ.
    And you're right. Neat, clean and appropriate was all that was required in regards to physical presentation.

  • Stan4NoOne

    The shade...

  • mialaoyin

    So instead of telling DJ Khalid his son is so cute we should say, he looks so healthy, good thing he isn't fat like you. Thus inspiring him to lose weight so he can hopefully be in his son's life for many years to come.

  • speakinmymind

    wondering

  • WhoKnew

    I was waiting on an open post but...

    I still have precious 4 year old Maleah in my thoughts and prayers hoping that she is still alive.

    I don't even know what goes through a woman's mind when they allow their children to be abused. Over the weekend I was coming out of a store and a woman that looked to weigh around 300 pounds strutted by and from that strut she appeared to be prostituting herself. She was wearing a crop top and had on Daisy duke shorts all the way up to her uterus. What got my attention more than all those wavy rolls was how she walked extremely slow and walked like a street hooker does when they're on the prowl. What was even sadder was that she had a girl with her that looked about 8 years old. Maybe it was just my imagination but the girl had a terrified look on her face. I said to myself I hope she is not out here trying to prostitute this child, who thank God, was dressed appropriately -- but it was that frightened look on her face.

    Please, please, please don't sell your babies and shorten their lives before they've had a chance to live, grow up and learn how to care for themselves. Put them up for adoption before you let a man or woman hurt, harm or kill them. Please!

  • WhoKnew

    Not going to be a mess...is a mess.

  • Bea Mack,Aka Steel Vagina

    ?

  • http://realitytea.com Lady Chatterley’s Lover

    Don't know why there is not a picture of TI and Tiny's son.

  • Cliffpetty

    Sandra whats up with your obsession with The Carters? You should have had Kim-Jenner kids as the pic for this post. The Carters don't keep their kids on display. Sandra, you should speak facts but also up lift our community. You seem to tear it down often. Hmmm, you seem a bit bitter when you write your post. Find some positivity in your life. I will wait for this to be deleted. You also have a tendency to do that as well.

  • Cliffpetty

    Exactly.

  • Rayne

    Lmao

  • Rayne

    I know how that is too

  • Bree

    Me too. I've been watching for updates and breaking news. All that has been reported is that there are search teams going out daily to search for Maleah. Some of those people include family of Mr. Vence. He continues to deny his involvement in her disappearance

  • JennyJazzhands

    Kris raised the biggest narcissist on the planet.

  • Juliaquan C Spain

    Cliffpetty......obsession with the Carters is correct always negativity when it involves Queen B wonder why.....

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I'm going to assume you're new here. I don't have an obsession with the Carters or anyone else. My post clearly states that photos are used for illustration purposes only. Enjoy the rest of your Memorial Day weekend.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    T.I. & Tiny's children have shown empathy for others and they don't act like spoiled brats in public.

  • SummerBaby

    The pics alone have me weak. ??? Now lemme go back & read.

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    Yes they all are raising narcissists

  • WhoKnew

    I read that West North or whatever her name is rolled down a limo window and yelled out her name and that Kanye was her father. Lord help that child if that's true. Children emulate what they see and hear. There is no way she learned that on her own.

  • Slickone

    Reginae all day

  • WhoKnew

    I don't know why he just doesn't fess up and tell the police where she is. At least there will be hope for her in a new home if she is found alive and closure for her to rest in peace if she is found deceased. Still holding out hope....

  • Kimocha

    Wishing everyone a Happy Memorial Day!... Cheers!
    https://media0.giphy.com/media/l0Iyek5x9Hb6X7rHO/giphy.gif

  • WhoKnew

    Thanks. You too!

  • Navybeans95

    It's all about me me me...nobody wants to uplift others or see others shine....we do live in selfish times...when I was growing up and adults were talking i was told regularly to go sit down somewhere because it wasn't about me right now...children don't know their place anymore...

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    Be safe have fun

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    ?????????

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    Happy Memorial Day and nope I didn't but this post are missing some trashians and a petulant petty toddler baby named tRUMP

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    I just told my baby child that how we knew all adults in our project building could discipline us so we behaved. Ju I have to get him together for inserting himself in our convos, that's a big no.

  • Brown & Proud

    YES! and AMEN! I love that you quoted that from the Cepher! We are def in the last days. Im studying the book of Enoch right now and it is mind blowing. Satan is truly fooling the whole world right in front of our eyes. People need to wake up, repent, and get right before its too late! Blessings to you brother/sister! Shalom <3

  • MrsSpice1

    Amen!!!!

  • KcoolMuziq

    I find narcissism quite attractive...

  • GAPeach

    No new posts Sandra? You just changed the photo and thought we wouldn't know?

  • Dowoop

    Says the narcissist in the mirror

  • Dowoop

    Lmfao... Good thing you not fat like your pappy?

  • Allergic2dumbstuff

    LBVS ??

  • Jethro

    tRump and his entitled jackass off-spring.

  • Chicagowise

    I was an odd child. At a very young age, I insisted my parents teach me how to wash and iron my own clothes. My mother was obsessed with keeping our shoes in pristine condition. She taught me how to clean and polish my kicks. To this very day, Saturdays are designated for chores and cleaning my shoes! ?

  • Jethro

    The blog owner can't get over being roundly rejected by Bey.

  • Jethro

    Poor Nori. ?

  • Kimberly King

    I'm also going to assume he/she has never been to a Beyoncé concert because she's always putting the kids on display on the screen. lol

  • Chicagowise

    That looks refreshing! I'll take two, please! ?

  • reddfoxxy16

    LOL... I can believe that...????

  • reddfoxxy16

    Especially Kim K's & DJ khaled's...LOL????

  • reddfoxxy16

    Kim K, & DJ Khaled kids, are mini versions of themselves... So I can DEFINITELY believe this article...LOL???

  • Chicagowise

    ? it took me 3 minutes to type this. ?????

  • what?why

    Hi Blue - no worries, your southern mama will make sure you have respect and manners.

  • MsPam

    We know you are narcissist!

  • KcoolMuziq

    ?

  • Renee26

    Giggles

  • Renee26

    I bet you think this song is about chu don't chu ?

  • Renee26

    ?

  • ClaireHuxtable

    That's my middle daughter! I'm trying not to bop her in the mouth.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Thank U. That's exactly what I need...a drank!

  • ?Patty Kakes?

    The people you had in every picture up there is suffering from narcissism. Especially DJ Khalid

  • ClaireHuxtable

    You are breaking my heart! I can't stand it when elderly and children are mistreated.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Do U know what he is saying was in the black trash bag he carried out?

  • dblogged

    Stay focused. You peeped how when he (Enoch) he was taken to “Antarctica”?

  • NewNew

    I hope Khaled's son doesn't grow up to be an azzhole. Khaled is out of control with the child worshipping.

  • hottlanta

    Please folks been saying we in the last days for 99 years. What u saying aint nothing new. Let ne know so l can go out in style getting some trim. What is the last day for u is not the last day for me.

  • Bree

    So am I. According to police, he is still claiming that story of her being kidnapped. His father has said that they should be looking at Maleah's mother instead of his son. Because according to Vence's father, Maleah and her siblings were in the care of Vence's mom when they were in state custody for 6 months. He stated that none of Malaeh's maternal family stepped up to get the children, nor did Malaeh's biological father. All of the people involved in Maleah's life failed her. Wherever she is, she is better off without them. My prayer is that she is found alive. If not, I know she in the Master's care!

  • Bree

    His father said he was doing the laundry.

  • hottlanta

    Dj khalid cant win for losing. Folks especially women complain about men who spend no time with their kid n now they complain about men who spend a lot of time with their kids. There are some women somewhere right now pissed off bcas dad didnt pick the kids up for the holiday weekend so they can go out n enjoy themselves. Call those women and ask them does khalid spend tooooo much time with his son n let us know what they tell you. Why r all the people wealthy as if poor people cant raise the same kind of kids.

  • WhoKnew

    Thank you!. Tell the troof!

  • WhoKnew

    I know. I'm the same way. Hate it with a passion.

  • ?Patty Kakes?

    Yes......just watching it from tv i feel overwhelmed and like he's stuffing it down my throat. What he needs to realize is everyone doesn't have to like or love your son. I can only imagine how intense it is in person

  • Lady_Elle

    You must be looking at self... because it is not attractive.
    Narcissism is a negative trait.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    *Umhmmm* Y U need to put them in a black plastic bag to carry them to the laundry room? Unless U don't want people to see your blood stained clothes.

  • dblogged

    Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation. KEPHA SHENIY (2 PETER) 3:3-4 ?? CEPHER

  • KcoolMuziq

    I’m actually a VERY positive God fearing individual.

  • E Ethel Ballys

    Black and poor people, in general, have the highest racists of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. See “Racial implications of the narcissistic personality inventory reinterpreting popular depictions of narcissism trends”

  • disqus_FW7pCIigCY

    kim is a whole mess..even the little girl nipple is showing through her top too,,she could at least make the little girl wear a undershirt smh.

  • Scromes1212

    Narcissistic behavior is rewarded in our society. Why would people want to change. It gets them the attention the desire

  • NewNew

    I wonder how the mother feels about it. She seems like a regular person. I wonder if he diverts all of the child's affection towards himself and away from the mom. He already said that he refuses to go down on her. What else does he refuse to give her. What's that whole dynamic like? Hmm. ?

  • NewNew

    Kanye is a raging narcissist himself. He calls himself Yeezus for goodness sake. He won't reign North in, he's probably spurring her on. What a mess.

  • Hazel

    Really? No kidding. Then you'd know that the thing that narcissists hate most is when people laugh uproariously at their obvious insecurities LOL LOL LOL!! As we say in the South.....'Bless your heart'.

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    Im not a fan/stan of Bey/Jay but I dont think they are raising their children to be narcissist. They wont have normal everyday lives because of their parents. Now Kanye and Kim strange azzes and the Khalid dude..the get on my nerves!

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    ESPECIALLY KHALID FUNNY BODY AZZ

  • Hazel

    They should all read 'The Golden Ghetto: The Psychology of Affluence' by Jessie O'Neill. Their kids are going to need as much therapy as their money can buy.

  • Shamwow

    I know you won’t... narcissist are fun to be around. I rode in a
    Porsche with one and if I wasn’t married I would’ve took his face to the old town road and ride until I can’t no more. ? But I left him yearning. Dude had to quit his job. Young Psychiatrist. ?

  • Shamwow

    They love to pay the whole bill too. Yassss honey I want 18 oysters and not on $1.00 oyster day, wine, the crab cake meal, with extra spinach and nope I can’t finish this and won’t even look at the bill. Lol they love that shyt.

  • Bree

    Exactly. It seemed very suspicious. Someone interviewed his father and that's what his father reported. He said that the video the news showed could have been from any given day. He also stated that he believes his son is innocent and that his son took care of Maleah and worked a 9-5

  • ?Patty Kakes?

    What!?!?! I know you lying. Did he really say he refused to go down on her. How dare he when she needs a kickstand the hold his belly up to go down on him. My relationship motto is "you get what you give"

  • Allihave2say

    Some people are genetically exposed to personality disorders.
    Not all develop due to childhood trauma. Some people just never grow out of infantile narcissism and mature into narcissistic adults who are about 6 years old.

  • Allihave2say

    I never noticed that before. strange how they mirror Kim's if you know what I mean. Kim kept pushing North to love the cameras. Now North is wearing makeup, heels, flat ironing her hair, and too much more.

  • MsPam

    That little boy in the mirror looks like a younger Don Lemon.

  • Vonda K

    North looks like Aunty Kourtney.

  • CookieMobster

    And child.... Why is he ALWAYS hollerin???? Every time you hear him speak its like he is yelling. I feel like he spits when he talks too. Say it don't spray it n!gga I need the news not the weather. ? ? ?

  • Malificent

    She sound like me but I’m not 40 yet but I don’t want to turn 40 and still be by myself ?. I keep thinking I just need a man strong enough to deal with me. I tried therapy and the therapist said I wasn’t serious about it and stopped seeing me. https://media2.giphy.com/media/26ueYUlPAmUkTBAM8/giphy.gif

  • B.Loveitt

    1st if you want to be apart of the entertainment industry you have to have a little narcissism. If not why should anybody believe in what you're hocking to the public?

  • NewNew

    I see your point but it's a bit much. Too much and too little (attention) are both bad. We should be trying to raise well balanced children that will grow into well balanced adults. It's commendable the love Khaled has for his son. Here's hoping that Asahd's head doesn't blow up and make him an unbearable grown man.

  • NewNew

    Tee hee ?

  • Brown & Proud

    Yep! Its extremely intriguing that Enoch was taken to and from Antartica . . where the earth meets the firmament.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Sandra mustve used up all of the space allotted because I KNOW she woildve put Mra Wilson that list! Especially before Monica

  • GrapeCrush

    Agreed!!

  • Seldomseen

    ????

  • Seldomseen

    Lord knows I am not wishing anything bad on anyone....but those Kardashian’s better watch it! They have been playing fast and loose for a very long time. In some instances your comeuppance is delivered to your offspring.

  • Pamela

    Yawn

  • Sha

    You said that right, I was not aloud to sit around grown folks. I raised by children the same way.

  • Sha

    Parenting is one of the hardest jobs, I've always said it's not what we say, it is what we do. Children watch everything.

  • Ebony Starr

    I remember the video of North yelling no pictures, now she loves the cameras!

  • smartchickfl

    ??..its always the middle child. Ask me how I know ?.

  • thrift.store.jungle

    where’s the photo of 45?

  • Gowns. Beautiful Gowns

    Nicole dont play....the baby will be fine

  • Jordan’s Memory

    The pic of Kim and her daughter is so disgusting! She walking around with her nipples showing as well as the damn daughter. I know damn well when the nanny dressed her she knew her lil nipples would show through that shirt. but the sad thing is she probably thought it was cute, she probably thought hey we can look like twins! She is making that girl a whore in training. just sick smdh women like her you pray they either don't have children at all or they have boys.

  • Jordan’s Memory

    I agree. I remember when that video going around of Bey's mom, she was somewhere making a video and it was a sign in the background saying no video taping and you can here Blu saying Grandma we have to follow the rules you not allowed to tape, that showed me that they raise these kids as normal as possible although they live in the lap of luxury they keep them very grounded.

  • Jordan’s Memory

    My problem with him is he takes him EVERYWHERE! Try taking him to the park and play some ball instead of having him siting in a room of grown folks and loud music. Some places are not appropriate for kids, just let kids be kids. I want to see him playing in a park teaching him how to play basketball, reading him book, even play a video game, daddy son stuff not sitting posing for pics in expensive cars with Jewelry draped around his neck, or at a loud concert where anything could break out.

  • Renee26

    They sure do... It strokes their egos

  • dblogged

    My mother loves Book of Enoch. Hopefully folks will come into this information. Are you part of a congregation?

  • Jordan’s Memory

    I am down with you! lmao

  • jwoo250

    Going to amazon now

  • Renee26

    I'm dying!! ??? he wants to take me out on the boat... I need to recruit a buddy to go with me so we won't be alone ? I'm not interested in riding his anything... I won't be able to shake him then ?

  • http://www.NeCola.Mayvenn.com Chile_Pleeze

    ooo the shadeeeeeeeeeeeeee... you know that's a little girl in the mirror

  • Let them eat cake

    I mean this is what the bible says will happen in the last days anyway so its kind of inevitable.

  • the guest

    Their kids are going to need as much therapy as their money can buy.

    ****

    The Duponts, Rothschilds, and Guggenheims can vouch for this.

  • Logan Roberts

    Where's Cheeto & Jussie pic?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I agree...they setting up North to be the next Lindsey Lohan...she's gonna be running these streets sniffing lines by 12...but its what the "fans" and media want since they are so up the KK Klans butt all the time...Sometimes I wish that social media wasn't invented... all it does is magnify the issue....

  • Black Dynomiiiite!!!

    Lol @ kickstand!

  • Yoni7

    There are many mirrors and pictures of herself throughout her house.
    ________________________________
    OH EEMMM GEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! I know someone who has a three cabinet wall unit.......PICTURES of herself cover THE WHOLE unit......and it's mirrored on the inside. They have a WALL (corner to corner, floor to ceiling) MIRRORED headboard. They even have "mirrored" BLINDS! Beautiful (esthetically speaking) woman. DARK soul!

  • Let them eat cake

    yep. their dirt and sins will carry down for at least 3 generations. they will reap what they've sewn.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Lordt I guess I gotta take my mirrors down LOL...The only reason I have so many in my apartment is cause my place is the hotspot to get dressed before girls night out and its horrible when all of us are trying to put on our faces fighting over a mirror...Chile...

  • Carrington

    I disagree with certain post on this site and I write it off as a part of the game. Some $hit I'll agree with, some things I won't, some I'm in the middle and most times, I just don't care...
    Posts about folks children (for illustration purposes, or otherwise) always seem to rub me the wrong way. We can hate on Beyoncé, the Kardashian's, the Harris' all day long, but their kids should be off limits as it relates to negativity and that's just coming from where I'm coming from.

  • Yoni7

    I get. I love a good mirror too, they open up a room. I have a mirror above my desk/cube here at work......to see who's walking up on me.....and it opens up this office space. But I know this person is doing it for the mirrors......and the décor.....but for the "mirrors" mostly.

  • Trace da Ace

    umm....wasn't this subject a medical minute a month or so back???? I mean....at this point...it is what it is......I really gots nothing on this......

  • Myopinion

    uhuh...Somebody in their feelings

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I'll bet Charles Manson's father said he was innocent too!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    What I want to know is how do I make it stop...short of duct tape?

  • Tell the truth

    I only have this to say I do question now why do celebrities on Instagram have photographers following them around every minute all their pictures have to be flawless and photoshopped. Instagram is messing up a lot of people and I think something should be done about it . Monica for one use to seem like a down to earth chic now to me she is attention thirsty just like the rest , I just wish they could upload regular pictures like everyone else and not always a picture perfect look .

  • smartchickfl

    My parents were the bop you in the mouth type too. She'll outgrow it love.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Soon...promise?

  • missmiami305

    Is North enrolled in school yet because
    ummmmmmmm when she speaks......?????
    #JudgeMe https://media3.giphy.com/media/KYNywoibU1PQ4/giphy.gif

  • smartchickfl

    I'll pray for you that she does lol...

  • smartchickfl

    I'll pray for you that she does lol...

  • Brown & Proud

    I pray people open their eyes n ears before its too late. You can only lead a horse to water...
    No theres not very many options here in CO. I study at home I love NYSTV, Rob Skiba, The way biblical fellowship, etc. You?

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    Oh he's a habitual line stepper who has to be reset.

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    Lol ?

  • ClaireHuxtable

    LOL!! It's a rough job but somebody's gotta do it.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Thank U Sis. I won't look good in black & white stripes.

  • onelove

    who cares......raise your children how you want to...

  • onelove

    she treated her aunt like crap on this sunday episode......i don't like kids that act like that..can't come to my home...

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    Right lol ??

  • smartchickfl

    ???

  • let the truth be known

    Loved this Medical Minute! I know lots of people who fall into this category.