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Michelle Obama has embarked on a new career after leaving the White House. In addition to best-selling author, Mrs. Obama has been a relationship coach to the stars for several years.

One of the former First Lady's clients is rapper, actor and author Common, whom Obama is helping to realize his dreams of becoming a family man.

It has not been easy for the emotionally unavailable rapper to maintain steady relationships with women. Common has a history of failed relationships with celebrities, including tennis superstar Serena Williams, singer Erykah Badu, actress Taraji P. Henson and political analyst Angela Rye.

The 47-year-old Oscar winner is hoping that relationship coach Michelle Obama's advice will help him find a soulmate and a wife to raise a family with.

"She has definitely helped talk me through certain moments of relationships. She has given me a lot of wisdom," Common tells Good Morning America's Robin Roberts.

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Common sat down with Roberts to promote his new book "Let Love Have the Last Word".

He said one of the nuggets of wisdom Obama told him was to stop looking for that perfect woman because he's not perfect. She told him he should focus on his core values and mark those values off his list when looking for a woman.

"One great thing that she told me was that you're not gonna get anybody that's perfect, because you're not perfect. So understand that there's some things that you will compromise in choosing that partner, but as long as the core values, that person marks off on that list, you're good."

Common also discussed being molested by a family member as a child. He said he was hesitant to talk about it in his book, but he believes his story will inspire others to reveal their sexual abuse at the hands of a family member.

Watch the interview below.
 

Photo by D Dipasupil/FilmMagic

  • Yoni7

    Aww bless his heart. I hate that this happened to you, Common. I wonder if that's why his relationships don't seem to last? I wish him full, complete and total healing. https://media1.giphy.com/media/iJDNzmBvdpOMFWlFR7/giphy.gif

  • chan chan

    I always knew Common was gay. When he started dating Serena really made me think that. His next move he will be having a coming out party.

  • Vegas1989

    Good Morning Yoni7, I agree with you. I wonder why he couldn't stay in a relationship long enough. Now I know why. I thought he was just afraid of commitment.

  • tia

    That's unfortunate what happened to Common and glad Mrs. Obama could be a listening ear and drop jewels at the same time. Does he have a movie or some other type of project coming out? Many people have been abused. However, with these celebrities when they have projects coming out that's when they decide to share their abuse or come out of the closet. If they didn't disclose prior to the project, movie, etc dropping, it just seems less sincere.

    I just think so..

  • We Can Do This

    This isn't hard to believe. He's always had relationship problems and can not maintain a woman.

    They say you can judge a man by how his relationship is with his woman.

  • NewNew

    So many of our boys have been molested by both men and women. We have to watch our sons just as much as we watch out for our daughters. The shame these boys carry is immense. I feel for Common and for all of our children. The madness has got to stop.

  • Ni Ni

    "you're not gonna get anybody that's perfect, because you're not perfect." ?
    #ParentsSayNoToStudent Loans #ItsAScam

  • Alextra Ballard

    That revelation explains alot... I was shocked. Laawd It was a close family member. Bless his heart. Better him than I. I could neva forgive a person for something like that.

  • MsSapphire9800
  • Ni Ni

    It's def not hard to believe he has issues with the way he goes through women.

    #ParentsSayNoToStudent Loans #ItsAScam

  • iWasteTime

    I may love post White House First Lady Michelle more than in the White House First Lady Michelle... lol

  • Bashi22

    He’s still with Angela Rye they are on the lowe with it. Him and Angela Rye are currently a couple they spend vacation together in Miami and she follows him around to be with him.

  • Yoni7

    Morning.
    I was just speculating. But now it kinda sheds a little bit of light. I was rooting for him and all his relationships, but moreso this last one (him and Angela) seemed like it was it. Yes she seems a lil more vocal than he is, but "they were cute" (don't know about the inner workings of the relationship - I'm just going off of physicality - LOL) together. People always hinted that he was possibly "ghey", but I never saw it. But now to know that he was molested, explains some things. I've learned here within the past few years that men hurt and heal differently than women. And when they are broken, sometimes, more often than not, they rarely heal. They tuck it away, but they be some fukked up souls afterwards. SHEESH!

  • xxxgracious

    This should be discussed more in our community. Parents really need to ask their kids questions even if it's uncomfortable. I know too many adults who have been molested. My ex was molested by his cousin and it affected our relationship 15 years later. He told his mom at the time and she just shrugged it off. We gotta be more attentive!

  • Yoni7

    she follows him around to be with him.
    ____________________
    THAT sounds stalker'ish. https://media2.giphy.com/media/vpSeDhPfg4XfO/giphy.gif

  • T Willis

    I love Michelle, but, Common needs a trained mental health professional to deal with his sexual assault, and why he can’t commit in relationships.

  • chan chan

    I agree

  • Phillybruh

    Common has come a very long way from when he first started out. I like him always have.

  • KcoolMuziq

    Common(whom I attended an ULTRA private SAG screening of "Selma" with)also being molested at a young age can affect finding his soulmate also. It's a demon that is HARD to get rid of.

  • oshh16

    "Take it EZ" was my jam off the debut.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C8aTvSbI4Ds

  • EMILY POST

    Molestation and Perversion is something very very serious...
    Yet it is taken so lightly.... It has profound effects on people and it has different ways of appearing in peoples lives.

  • Yoni7

    Come through Auntie Chelle with the brown brows.

  • Topic Influencer

    I heard this yesterday and I feel for any survivor of abuse. Keep pushing bro.

  • Seldomseen

    I did not know she was a relationship coach

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    That GIF has Me in STITCHES ???????????????????????????????????????????????????

  • Kanyade

    Bless.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Chile...

    A Washington state “team mom” is accused of having sex with an 11-year-old lacrosse player — whose coach was her husband, according to court documents.

    Su Hyon Dillon, 44, admitted to “having problems in her marriage” when she began having sex with the boy in May 2014 at her Puyallup home, according to an affidavit filed last Wednesday in Pierce County superior court.

    Investigators said the child was friends with Dillon’s son through the Emerald Ridge Lacross Club, where she was the “team mom.”

    “[The victim] said that he would spend time at the house and she was the mother of a lacrosse teammate,” court documents said.

    During a sleepover at her home, Dillon allegedly went into his room and initiated sex with him.

    “She came into the room and laid next to him,” court documents said. “She slid her hands down his pants and gave him a hand job.”

    Dillon then allegedly forced the boy to climb on top of her to have sex. He told her “he was concerned he would get her pregnant and she said she had her tubes tied.”

    The sexual encounters usually were at her house but also occurred when the lacrosse team stayed in a hotel for a travel game, authorities said.

    “They were in San Diego on a lacrosse trip and she came to his room,” authorities said. “She brought him some food then gave him a blow job in the hotel room.”

    Court documents said the boy later became suicidal and started cutting himself. When he started skipping class, he was sent to live with his father in Virginia, according to his mother.

    During a counseling session, the boy reportedly revealed he was raped by the coach’s wife. His mother notified authorities in April after her son told her what happened.

    “This is somebody who has taken advantage of kids who are 10 and 11 years old. They’re not able to make those types of decisions at that age,” Det. Ed Troyer with the Pierce County Sheriff Department told the Tacoma News Tribune. “This is disturbing as a parent because you are sending your kid off to a friend’s house with what appeared to be a parent or parents who also coached the team, upstanding in the community, only to have your son victimized.”

    Detectives confronted Dillon who confessed to the relationship and said the boy “made her feel good.” She claimed she didn’t have romantic feelings for the boy but “liked the attention,” authorities said.

    “She said she knew it was wrong and wanted to end the relationship,” court documents said.

    Dillon was arraigned in court last Wednesday on four counts of child rape. She pleaded not guilty and was ordered not to have contact with children, including her own.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    My god. Burn the b!tch!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiile me neitha

  • RICHIE_RICH

    Stay strong brother ??. Maybe this is the reason he want commit to a relationship.....

  • Yoni7

    I mean, all the "they on the low", "she follows him around to be with him". Sounds just like something a stalker would say. LOL

  • Karen Brady

    NEVER knew he had a child and one this grown so beautiful.

  • Bashi22

    Meaning she’s makes her schedule to be available to him lol.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    You have to really watch who you bring around your kids family or not. There are some real freaks out here that won’t think twice about abusing a child male or female.

    OT: I told my co-worker the opioid epidemic is a self correcting problem-all we have to do is let the addicts die. He didn’t like that at all.

  • Bashi22

    I think the PR team choose Michelle for media hype

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Right. Does HE know they’re still in a relationship with each other?

  • Yoni7
  • Yoni7
  • CardiB’sAbs

    Lol

  • Scromes1212

    That's how you really feel about addicts, or you were being facetious?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I just saw the Red Table Talk with Wale last night and now this interview with Common...as much as I want to give them props to realizing their issues (wale not so much he seemed so immature on that interview) idk if this would make me "stick it out" with a brotha like either of them...it would be an uphill climb (especially for Wale)...thats exhausting but I love them both as artists....

  • Alextra Ballard

    I know folks say when yew forgive a person you're doing it more for yourself than the other person. Well ni,fcvk dat...I may forgive a person for some shidt but takin/stealin my innocence as a child,dat ain neva gon happen. That shidt can affect you foreva. That's just me ni. I wish Common all luck in the world.

  • Yoni7

    OT: I told my co-worker the opioid epidemic is a self correcting problem-all we have to do is let the addicts die. He didn’t like that at all.
    _________________________
    What did he say? Did he go to HR on you? https://media0.giphy.com/media/3o7qE8ww1qS5xggDw4/giphy.gif

  • Gloria

    Smh. Trifling sick bish. Ugh. That poor child. I don’t have kids but I’m so weary of “sleepovers” for my nephew for this exact reason. Sick ass ppl in this world man

  • Sweetness

    I hope she was being facetious ?

  • CardiB’sAbs

    That’s how I really feel. Our tax dollars are going to narcan to save the lives of folks that overdose. They overdose repeatedly. That public funding could go a hundred other ways than saving the lives of folks that are hell bent on killing themselves.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    He turned red and ended the convo

  • Trace da Ace

    awww...I just want to hug Common.....I have ALWAYS loved him...his music, hell even his acting rolls....Imma tell you...If I was not already married with a gang of kids.....I would be sliding in his DM's like whats good!!! I pray that he finds that happiness and love that he deserves and wants.

  • TriniHarlem

    I was happy to hear about this yesterday because of the conversations that is much needed. Major props for speaking about this and his continued journey of healing ?

  • NewNew

    Jesus

  • Yoni7

    Didn't become an epidemic until it affected THEM! No one said nor did sh!t when crack cocaine ravaged the black community. Black crack addicts got jail. Yt heroin users get help and labeled as a "disease". I don't know of one person that gets up each day and picks/CHOOSES to have a "disease".

  • bemetoo

    Wait a minute who said it had to be a male family member who molested him??? Why it could me his auntie or sister?? Y’all in here talking about he gay ... black people always do this... anyhooo it looks like common has a small pecker wood

  • Pamela

    Tamars always scared me. She looks like the type to poison you if she hates you.

  • oshh16

    He said it was someone he called Brandon.

  • Sweetness

    So if a family member or a child was hiding an addiction and you got a phone call saying they overdosed and died, would you be upset? This is a hypothetical. So you don't have to say they would NEVER. I'm curious ? to know what you would feel. Thanks.

  • Yoni7

    Yep, he's going to the folks on ya'.

  • NewNew

    Like i've always said - I'll cry for them when they cry for those affected by the crack epidemic. Projected cry date is Nevuary 35th, 4043.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    That’s the life they chose. To knowingly take a drug that may possibly kill you is stupid. I have zero sympathy.

  • Yoni7

    The way the world is today, that date will be an issue on the ballot in the next 4 years.

  • oshh16

    What did Wale say?

  • Karen Brady

    NASTY TRIFLING BYTCH! I wish my grown azz would give an 11 yr old boy a blow job. I'm already side-eyeing the grown man I have to do it for. Eyes rolling to the back of my head, I'm huffing and puffing and putting a time limit on it before I start. And watch my damn hair mannnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Scromes1212

    You can use that argument for dam near everything that effects the black community smh but to each his own

  • Karen Brady

    Same here.

  • Yoni7

    I don't think she's THAT evil.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Naw. We often have heated debates.

  • Sweetness

    Wow. Guess everbody is different?Iappreciate the honesty?

  • Karen Brady

    "coming out party." Smh. Wonder who he'd invite.

  • Bashi22

    They never did anything on their crack epidemic ? that they engineered to destroy the black people. Then turn around and profit off it prison stock market. Whites are they ones OD they want to rescue.

  • bemetoo

    Who said that???

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Examples please. I can’t think of an analogous situation.

  • Cocoa Rose

    I till struggle with it at 37. I get caught up in making myself appear less attractive than I am from time to time...meaning instead of dressing sharp...I dress in sweats and doo- rags to keep male attention away. It is an everyday battle.

  • Sweetness

    Damn this just made me angry??????

  • Yoni7

    Word? I would hate to work in that type of environment. That would be too much (negative) energy for my spirit. Specially in the workplace? Nope.

  • Scromes1212

    Crack, alcohol, high blood pressure, pills, black on black crime I could go on but I think you get my point. To knowingly engage in behavior that will kill you is common place in our community. Can we agree?

  • oshh16

    Common did. Go over to Madame Noire.

  • Yoni7

    Angry why?

  • Sweetness
  • Scromes1212

    Your a man? Not to get in your business but your comment is a little confusing. You dress down to not get attention from men because of something that happened early in life?

  • iWasteTime

    They don't like that ... lol
    I had a similar one a few years back.
    I said treat it like they treated crack and start letting them die and locking them up

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ?????

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    You dont know WHO to trust anymore! Male or female!

  • Karen Brady

    I zipped threw this interview (not much of a Common fan but I have nothing against him)... did he say if it was a male or female who did this to him? I see some speculating about his sexuality below so just curious.

  • Scromes1212

    Male

  • Karen Brady

    going to look it up now. Thx.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    They tried to amend the state constitution here to make drug user offenses no higher than a misdemeanor. I see past the smoke and mirrors.

  • Karen Brady

    Thanks. Wow.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Already was here.

  • Karen Brady
  • Anji

    Common refers to his sbuser as Brandon.

  • shalynneb1

    he never said who it was.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    To knowingly engage in behavior that will kill you is stupid regardless of race. Those situations are not analogous to this opioid epidemic because there is no sweeping legislation, executive orders and judicial rulings to combat them. That’s my point.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    When I don’t feel like being bothered I put my headphones in.

  • Scromes1212

    No sweeping legislation, executives orders and judicial rulings to combat them? Just because the legislation didn't work doesn't mean they didn't try. The crack epidemic had ALL types of legislation and rulings and judicial orders smh dare, the war on drugs the 94 crime bill, I could on and on about what they tried to combat crack. That was all done based off the crack epidemic.

  • Guest

    Smokescreens!

  • KcoolMuziq

    I'm sorry to hear that. But to me dressing down actually attracts more men.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Same!

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Thank you!

  • Yoni7

    .....and start typing real loud. LOL I couldn't debate with my co-workers. I would be fired for being "too offensive".

  • Yoni7

    Nevruary 35th, 4000????

  • CardiB’sAbs

    They criminalized and penalized crack users with mandatory minimums. With opioid users they are painting them as victims, trying to get rid of felonies for opioid use via legislation-constitutional amendments at that, have special drug courts through the judiciary refusing to jail them and instead send them to rehab, provide narcan to keep them alive through executive orders, Once again the situations you listed are not analogous.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Yup. Constitutional amendment to lower drug offenses to misdemeanors

  • Nik

    Yes! There is a tendency to think it manifests in promiscuity but there's emotional/mental manifestations people often miss.

  • WhoKnew

    I read an interview yesterday that said it was a family friend who Common refers to as Brandon.

  • WhoKnew

    He did. Whether it was the guy's real name is anyone's guess but his. He said his name is Brandon.

  • chan chan

    Lol what would make u ask that ????? I’m about to throw my phone!

  • teather

    Ladies are too quick to wanna save a man. This guy has some deep seated issues, of which now he speaks. I have always wondered about him. He seemed troubled throughout the years but I couldn't quite place it. His dating top celebrity women and never remaining was a tell tale sign. Any time a man has a good woman and can never make it work, there's something going on. I won't speculate about his sexuality, but I can say as a woman, I've always wondered. We'll never know. Good for him. Our community has a serious molestation and incest issue we need to address. It's taboo so nobody wants to address it, but it happens every day.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    He also implied that at the minute of turmoil with a woman he would run...he also came from a house with no affection from either of his parents so thats an uphill battle.... He's such a virgo...Virgo's love their neat little world and the minute someone throws mud in their reality or idea they fly away and pay in dust...

  • Yoni7

    So there's going to be a such month named NEVRUARY and they're adding 35 days to the calendar now? Wow!

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Lolololllol I miss understood your comment ?

  • Yoni7

    Because I was looking at your comment like... https://media1.giphy.com/media/VcWnY3R6YWVtC/giphy-downsized-medium.gif LMAOOOOOOOO

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    I'd me impressed if she was assisting non celebrity couples where the influence is MUCH NEEDED! BYE!

  • She.Is.Not.Ready

    Lol. They love to snitch....because of that my coworkers only get hi and bye from me. Nope I don't want to know anything about you outside of us being coworkers. I can't let these folks know im high as a kite every day. Lol

  • Evillene

    No woman needs to wonder about his sexuality unless she is f*cking him. And yes, we will never know. The harm done to victims of childhood sexual abuse does not end with the abuse. The shame, guilt, anxiety and fear remains after the abuse ends and is ruinous of self-esteem and well-being well into adulthood.

    Black men have many issues in relationships relating to intergenerational dysfunction going back to slavery. Black men don't deal with trauma because they believe that acknowledging the pain makes them weak or less a man. Instead, some act out with criminality, domestic violence, and promiscuity. Only a man who feels he has no value, and sees no value in his children, could abandon his family. We better start encouraging black men to speak on and share their troubles, and reassure them that their manhood is intact no matter if they've been victimized.

  • Yoni7

    Right. Then they ALWAYS misunderstanding sh!t. Like "That isn't remotely what I said NOR meant. Where the fukk did you get that from." Then they hit you with the "I thought you said...." That's why I'm so very careful in the words I choose to use/speak to them (or anybody) for that matter. So they can NEVER come back and say "Yoni said..."

  • Evillene

    I'm sorry to hear it. There are too many of us survivors. It is an epidemic.

    You didn't do anything to provoke or incite the abuse. Don't diminish yourself today because of it. If you like your sweats, rock'em. But if you know you are just doing it to protect yourself and you really want to be in sequins and lacefronts, you are relenting and giving away your power. I wish you the best.

  • Cocoa Rose

    I am a female. Yes. It is hard to explain...but I hide my beauty hoping that men will not notice me. I have a quite curvy body and I hate being gawked at so I cover it up.

  • Cocoa Rose

    I can make a joke of it because I am anonymous, but not the way I dress LOL. I actually truly do have a 36-22-36 body and I dress in sweats, no makeup, earring,etc. and trust me....men do not notice or respond to me the way they do when I am showing my body.

  • Marion Wright

    Wow. Was he walking around all this time in his late 30s and 40s actually looking for perfection?

  • Bashi22

    Being top celebrity doesn't equate to be marriage material.

  • Marlika

    Common could have put this info in the last auto bio ( which was trash by the way) he wrote a few years ago. Anyhoo glad he spoke up about what happened but I’m not buying his book or entertaining him.

  • Karen Brady

    I can't argue with this.

  • DroneRivers

    That is disgusting! They need to really start giving these predators hard time. 11 years old?! Smh. There was a story here about a school bus driver in upstate NY who admitted he raped a 14 year old girl and he got NO jail time. People like that need to be underneath the damn jail.

  • TransMichelle

    Well, Michelle should know as she's married to a homosexual herself. She can help Common learn how to be more convincing as a straight man. By the time it's said and done, there won't be a black man on planet earth who hasn't been "messed with." Nothing to see here folks. I'm done. BYE

  • Karen Brady

    Sure do and so I keep my distance. I'm not here to play with you. I'm here to work.

  • Karen Brady

    LOL.... I have no idea.. but the possibilities in that world of entertainment.. especially black entertainment have me giddy... Let's see.. Eddie, Johnny, Omari...

  • Logan Roberts

    Common is a Pisces man. They are habitual cheaters, liars. And they want every woman to be perfect & also put up with their bullshyt. Commitment is the last thing on their minds.

  • EMILY POST

    You can tell he struggles with it cause of shame... the victim is almost always shamed most of the time they can’t even speak the names of the person who violated them. Like they are still scared and protecting them helps them not have to deal with the assault. It’s sad because I guarantee he was probably not the guys only victim. Silence is deafening...Child molestation / rape is serious

  • Fiya

    Michael & Common discussing this? Smh for the sleepers...

  • Chicagowise

    Typically, when a celebrity drops a bombshell, it's because they are trying to beat someone else to the punch. Remember when Oprah went on air and admitted that she tried cocaine? She did that because someone was trying to write a tell all book about her, but she blocked it by creating a book club and threatening to ban any publisher who had anything to do with that book.

    I think Common is also beating someone else to the punch!

  • JazzyBossyJen

    I thought that’s what therapist are for...

  • Bashi22

    To say he's gay but he's with Angela Rye she's not going to leave him.

  • Bashi22

    Lol ?

  • Junkanoo

    Michelle is a lawyer not a licensed therapist can a therapist go into law just for the heck of it with out any professional training hell no . I wonder if theyre testing out a show idea for their netflix deal . If common is serious about healing being molested why chose a former first lady without a degree in psychology . I guess once you become wealthy and famous youre an expert on eveything.

  • Panther Charleston

    Some of these licensed therapists have only the books memorized. Lawyers typically have excellent skills and are strategists. Add to that she's a mother and a wife. So possibly, she may be the one for the job. I think Vanzant is a JD. I don't believe she has a counseling degree.

  • Malificent

    Wow I know someone who has trouble finding a mate and is looking for that perfect person. She lives in a fantasy world. It's almost as if she only wants someone if they are unavailable. And she was molested as a child. How does one overcome this?

  • Malificent

    Listen, if Kim K can be an attorney then I'm sure Michelle has given out enough advice to be a therapist.

  • Malificent

    This is the truth!

  • Eileen

    You said that so eloquently and I agree 100%

  • Eileen

    Interesting...

  • Eileen

    sad and interesting...

  • I-said-it-AND

    I knew something was up with him. Men who have commitment issues, usually have some serious demons they're suppressing.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    Shyt we do it everyday in the garden?

  • Junkanoo

    Opinions arent facts

  • Junkanoo

    Opinions arent facts

  • Junkanoo

    Whatever , some of you people are so annoying not everyone will share your prespective on things and its not the end of the world big deal .

  • Junkanoo

    Whatever , some of you people are so annoying not everyone will share your prespective on things and its not the end of the world big deal .

  • Junkanoo

    Cause you need to get a life up in everyones business

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    ????? Perhaps

  • Ayeola George

    my current situation ... Virgos are so set in their ways tho!

  • chango1976

    U dirty little man whore dont u every disrespect the 1 black President u low life sodomite