Actors Ryan Michelle Bathe and Sterling K. Brown vow to break the cycle of child abuse by never resorting to corporal punishment to discipline their 2 sons.

Ryan tells People she was harshly disciplined with a belt as a little girl growing up in St. Louis. She vividly remembers "crying while nursing my welts after being whipped" and hearing, 'Stop crying or I'll really give you something to cry about.'"

The First Wives Club TV star says she and Sterling, who appeared in Marvel's Black Panther, are raising their sons without the threat of corporal punishment.

"Everything changed," after the 42-year-old actress became a mom. She read articles that linked violent crimes to corporal punishment. "I was exposed to articles about discipline and the science around corporal punishment. It rocked me to my core. Research shows that corporal punishment is highly questionable at best, and by no means is it the best way to discipline a child at all, according to science."

Ryan and Sterling, 43, use a combination of proven methods of discipline such as time out, rewarding good behavior, and praying for strength.

"The good news is that my husband and I are in agreement about corporal punishment," she said. "So we continue forward. Praying for guidance. Hoping that love will be enough."

Photo by Michael Tullberg/Getty Images

  • Raquel

    However they want to raise their kids is their business.

    I'm just satisfied that he has a beautiful black Queen instead of something else. lol

  • With Kind Regards

    Love this . I salute this couple.

  • bemetoo

    We don’t care how you raise your kids... but when they talk back and Embarrass yo ass don’t go looking for a belt..

  • bemetoo

    I’m beating the bricks ? off mine

  • Indies beauty

    I agree. I dont have kids but dont believe in hitting them. My brother shares custody of his daughters and never raised his hand.

  • EasyBreezy

    *double YAWN* When you know better, you do better! Why is this a post, Auntie. Please blog on LaLa, Carmelo, and the side baby.

  • ShelbyMoore

    Good luck with that...hopefully it doesn't turn into "No Billy, don't" and Billy's return being "Fawk you dad, you don't tell me what to do.." https://media2.giphy.com/media/13xb3GPki9Kqdi/giphy.gif

  • Dasright

    I agree with this and my husband and I do the same. Kids that grow up in a HEALTHY( key word) two parent household don't need to get their asses beat. Their parents loving foundation and overall balance will be their compass in life.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Chile I saw lil Meghan chasing her mom around Wal Mart yesterday. I started to call security on her lil azz myself. Let me go eat....

  • Vonn

    Good for them. I'm not a fan of beating kids either. ?

  • Phillybruh

    Beating doesn't correct the behavior just makes them scared of you.

  • Yardgirl

    I was never beaten (and I was raised by a scary drill sergeant!!) and I never beat my son. Trust and believe that I never crossed my dad and my son knows better than to cross me. I don't look down on anyone who beats, not my kid not my business, but I never had to do it.

  • Melanated Goddess??

    His wife is an actual black woman. And he fine. That's all I care about. Besides whether you whip your kids or not they can still end up being a menace to society and home grown terrorists. Most white people don't beat their kids and some of their children grow up in a "healthy" two parent household. Yet they still end up shooting up public places. Become home grown terrorists or entitled little shits that make other peoples lives a living hell.
    So yeah. Some people are defective from birth and no amount of nurturing can fix them.

  • Dowoop

    LMFAO...Lawd, that GIF.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I never received an actual spanking that I didn't deserve. It didn't make me "fear" my mother and it did not make me violent. It was corrective. I think a lot of people mistake abuse for discipline. Also, some children will not respond positively, if at all, to spankings.

    To each their own. Just make your child knows how to act because I can't stand an unruly disrespectful azz child.

  • ShelbyMoore

    Nature v. Nurture

    Whatever you child was placed on this earth to do, that's what they'll do. It doesn't matter if they're from the best home, they can still grow up to be a serial killer and a child from a broken, drug addicted home can become the owner of a Fortune 500 company.

  • Guest

    Exactly. Each child is different. I never got whopped but my sister did. Also, trying to correct children with slaps on the hand or bottom should be done before age five. After that it makes no sense.

  • LeGard JoJo

    I got the crap beaten out of me. I came out alright. My kids got the crap beaten out of them to for bad grades and breaking curfew....mainly in their teens...they came out alright.

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Yeah I tried the whole I aint gonna raise my hand etc etc for 2 years between ages 6 to 8 with my youngest one and It didnt work. I started back getting that ass together as needed with whoopings etc and we and her grades and behavior have been on point EVERY SINCE. To each. And as a side note I WISH I had been more harsh on the oldest one to be honest. She wouldnt be such a fukk up today is my sincere thought

  • Tee Tee

    Lmao ?

  • Guest

    Bad ass! lmao!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Lol.

    Have you seen the video of what appears to be like a kindergarten graduation or assembly and the little black boy that is yelling out curse words? It's funny and horrible at the same time. I wish I could share the video.

    Teacher: Good afternoon boys and girls.
    Little Boy: Shut the f/ck up!
    Teacher: Do you want to be removed? (something along those lines).
    Little Boy: No, BYTCH!!

  • Renee26

    To each their own... At least they have a plan for alternative punishments.

    My nephew and his BM don't spank their kids, or parent them. They let them run wild and act up. I whoops ass if it's needed though, so they need not send them my way without that understanding. My nephew was a problem child who always got whoopings but never corrected the behavior. His BM is a hood rat raised in the projects with sucky parents so I'm sure she also got her fair share of asss whoopings.

  • Dowoop

    Here we go. The holier than thou folks are gonna act like we murdering our kids because they get a spanking.

  • Guest

    One time I was walking behind this women and her son. The son was arguing with her, screaming almost. He called her a "bitch" like 10 times. I just shook my head.

  • Dowoop

    -_- Him and his parents would have had to leave.

  • Renee26

    Damn... You call them beatings. It sounds much worse than whoopin or spankin ?

  • sandi

    Ahh, never had kids, so I don't know the day feelings of being a parent. Raised in a two parent household and they didn't play, particularly my mother. She worked later on after we were in school, but early on, she was at home with us all day. She didn't play that foolishness with us, and yes, she let us have it. Didn't cuss us, didn't throw things at us, but yeah, she tapped our hinies. I always told her I would never do that to my kids, she told just wait and see. I can tell you this, those of us who knew our parents would "lay hands" on us, most of the time turned out okay. Kids have to know there is some bark to your bite. Go stand in a corner. Well, for these middle, upper middle class kids that's a joy. Go to your room, when everything is in there, because they can't say "no". You're grounded, well you clown and cut up until Mama convinces Daddy that he's being to hard, and he has to back down. What you get? A bunch of bad tail kids. I don't believe in abusing your children, but they need to know you can go left on them, and mean it. Of course, now they will call 911. Every parent knows what their kids need. Some parents don't have to do that, and can just talk, some parents need to let their hands meet that back side, "in love" of course. At the end of the day, each to his own, but remember they will leave your house someday, what are you sending out.

  • Let them eat cake

    the holier than thou folks are okay with beatings lol

  • Let them eat cake

    oh okay. i will continue with the belief of beat downs. moving on.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I ain here to tell folks how to raise or how discipline their churn. So don’t come tew me asking me “what should I dew?”

  • Yardgirl

    Okay!! I distinctly remember being in Macys and my son was 2 and said "shut up" to me. I went down and looked him in the eyes and said "that is RUDE do not speak to mommy or anyone like that again!!" That ninja got red in the face, but he never said it again. That night I explained to him (in terms that a 2 year old can understand) and he go it. I have seen parents bop their kids in the face/mouth over stuff and I cringe. Did you see the video of the kid at a pre-school graduation telling the teacher "shut the F up" then went on to say "no bitch" when asked if he wanted to leave?? That is a kid that needs some serious discipline but the way he said it, it felt like he was repeating learned behavior. Sad.

  • Renee26

    That fear makes them think twice before acting up...some people anyway

  • Trace da Ace

    well...I got ass whoopings when I was little....belt and all....and I HATED my mother for that (when I was little, of course....now we are BFF's) and vowed not to whip my kids....and for the semi most part...I did not....but I bitch slapped when needed....true I did not gonna go all Joe Jackson on them....but I got some sturdy, built Ford tough ass boys....and they be pushing my patience....so sometimes I have to remind them.....cause I be dammed I be the mom in store and my kids running around acting like heathens, cursing and tearing shit up....HELL NAW....what works for some...does not work for all....soooo.......

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    I'm happy that works... For them.

  • Dowoop

    I didn't literally mean godly ppl (holier than thou only means they think they shit don't stink)

  • Let them eat cake

    not true

  • Melanated Goddess??

    I don't care if people don't beat their kids. I'm more concerned with their annoying children being let lose on to the rest of society. I can't stand bad ass entitled rude ass kids. That aren't use to hearing NO! So they act a complete fool and harass others.

  • Renee26

    ???

  • Yardgirl

    LOL!! Tomato toeMAHtoe same ass whopping.

  • With Kind Regards

    I seen black women give they kids sugary foods and then beat them for being hyper.

    Dumb!

    It's not the kids its your way of feeding them, cursing around them etc.

  • Dowoop

    I don't know how I learned that look parents give you meant sit my ass down somewhere but im willing to bet it stemmed from a spanking.

  • Renee26

    A new one or are they coparenting now??

  • Yardgirl

    Not necessarily from a spanking. I give my son that look, that scary look as he calls it and he knows. LOL.

  • Melanated Goddess??

    Plenty of times I thought about doing something stupid growing. But the thought of embarrassing my family and getting knocked into next week made me think twice.

  • Gloria

    When you spare the rod, you spoil the child

  • Vegas1989

    I would do a WWF move on this little kid....Off the top ropes on your chest.....Look up your bad MF....LOL

  • Renee26

    Yup... Mine did. That "you're about to get it" look. Without the follow through the look is pointless...it holds no weight

  • Renee26

    Same

  • Vegas1989

    #MeTWO

  • Dowoop

    LMFAO....Followed by try that shit again!

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    Lol

  • Renee26

    ?

  • Yardgirl

    I just mentioned that up top (or below lol) That kid said it so casually. We all had that little bad ass kid in class. Mine was Gary, bad AF and did not give AF. I looked at him in awe. Someone dared him to snatch the teacher's wig off and he did!! I always wonder what happened to him later in life.

  • Brooklyn23

    Say no more ! I didnt read the whole write ?, but I agree with no hitting your child/ren. Most of the times some people hit their kids not because the kid/s did something Noo.. It's because they're mad and taking it out on their child. How come whites stole how to read and write from blacks, but blacks did steal talking to your kid/s not beating them. There would be a lot less angry black folks growing ?. Trust

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  • Renee26

    Side note... Looks like her bootay is hanging outta those low rise pants. I wonder if crack was showing ?

  • Pamela

    Probably in prison or six feet under. Life will usually snatch that azz sooner or later .

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiiile I noticed the same thing...that asz looks heavy but I bet it’s all naturale

  • Melanated Goddess??

    I'm sorry. The way my reflexes are set up. He would've gotten backhanded. People assume children lack understanding and don't know what they're doing. LIES! kids are highly aware and intelligent they test people. They know who they can try and or get over on.

  • Curtis

    Most black kids respond well to spanking, you can do time out all you want and if it works for you fine. I will leave it there.

  • Bashi22

    Yes I agreed

  • Dowoop

    I was more in awe that these bad ass kids didn't get an ass whopping for their behavior but never stupid enough to try the same shit.

  • Nita Pie

    I scrolled up, she got that crack out lol

  • Rayscoty

    I would never lay a hand on my child. Violence is not the key to parenting. Neither is verbal abuse.

    There are appropriate ways to discipline without making children fear you.

  • Nita Pie

    A whipping and a beating is different. Discipline and Abuse are two different things. If a kid is wrong a it requires a whipping then you about to get and you will know why.

  • stav

    His wife has beautiful hair...beautiful family. There is more than one form of discipline!

  • Alextra Ballard

    As they get older,some are outta control. They unruly,disobedient disrespectful and embarrassing. That’s when parents wants to commence to spanking. Most times it’s to late

  • Pamela

    I don't why but this honest writeup????????

  • stav

    Nothing funny about kids or adults alike being uncouth. That child gets away with that at home....obviously no real parental guidance.

  • Yardgirl

    You are so right. Sad.

  • Yardgirl

    I always wanted to see into the mind of these kids. Like what makes them tick??

  • Seldomseen

    To each......

  • Shawty

    How does a kid learn if there is no discipline? Most of us grew up getting our behinds spanked when we did wrong. We are perfectly fine.

    All kids are not the same and can't be handled the same way. Some kids you can speak to and they get it, others you have to bring the BIG HAND down on them in order for them to learn that what they did will not be tolerated. This requires a parent to KNOW their child and what he/she needs to grow and be a productive citizen in this world. What's gonna stop them form doing wrong if there are no harsh consequences?

  • Shawty

    All kids are not the same. That works with some but not with others

  • Renee26

    Poor thang probably didn't sit down the whole night

  • Renee26

    It looks heavy ? ? ?

  • Shawty

    See what you are speaking on is abuse not discipline. Very big difference.

  • Seldomseen

    Lord not a wig snatch

  • Shawty

    Say it AGAIN!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Neva say neva!!!

  • Yardgirl

    Snatched the hell off!! Lawd have mercy she was mad!!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Lol

  • WhoKnew

    I know my mother told me and my siblings more than once to stop crying or I'll really give you something to cry about and she proceeded to whoop our asses when we didn't shut the hell up. Mama's don't like it when you keep going after they've told you to stop. My siblings and I turned out fine. I think when welts and bruises are left that's going too far. And my mother didn't pull our pants down to make sure the belt-to-butt impact would be severely felt. That's when I think it's going too far. In any case me and my siblings turned out fine and to this day my 89 y/o mother still tells us what to do. I was taking care of her yesterday and my brother came to relieve me and I was trying to give her several kisses and hugs and I went one too many and she pushed me away and said go on home. I said you ain't got to tell me twice. ???

  • Seldomseen

    Y’all don’t miss ish.

  • Alextra Ballard

    We turned out just fine

  • KLove

    I didnt get whoopins....I prolly couldve used a few though lol

  • Trace da Ace

    aww!!! Your mom sounds like mine....love you to pieces...but is not afraid to tell you off something fierce!!! Bless her!!! :)

  • WhoKnew

    Yerp.

  • CookieMobster

    Only had to spank my son my 6-7 time in 14 years, and only as a last resort. He is just fine.

  • Shawty

    You made my point for me...all children are different and require different discipline. Some kids NEED spankings!

  • Shawty

    lol

  • Jordan’s Memory

    LMAO!!!!

  • Mr. Poopybutthole

    I say it depends on the child.

  • Sha

    You said that right. Back in the day we were being abused but didn't know it. I disciplined by children and yes, they got the belt but nothing like I got it. To each is own, if it works for them, so be it.

  • Shawty

    cracking up

  • Seldomseen

    My grandmother didn’t believe in whippings, but she believed is pinching and putting you on your knees by the front door

  • Alextra Ballard

    Lol@ pinchin

  • Seldomseen

    In church too

  • Shawty

    Oh snap...my sister use to do that to her boys. Stand in the corner for hours holding phone books. They would cry like hell when the books got to heavy and that is when the lecture came about behavior before she let them out...lol

  • Ghetto Real Name

    I think I should have spanked both of them the exact same from 3 until 18 years old. I think it was/is ME for not being consistent. Cant spank. Then stop. Sometimes things that they need a spanking for gets overlooked etc. If you doling out whoopings be consistent. With all kids present.

  • EasyBreezy

    Chile.... you betta' tell it.

  • Seldomseen

    My boy cousins got that

  • EasyBreezy

    Chile....won't THEY try it?

  • EasyBreezy

    That's the rub; the rumor mill is hot about LaLa not wanting ANYTHING to do with the kid, Camelo thinks differently, they still together, yada yada..... ALLEGEDLY

  • Trace da Ace

    awww man...my mom used to do the pinch too....she would grab the meat behind your arm...right above the elbow......and pinch and twist!!!! maaaannnnnn....damn you just took me back...lol

  • ShelbyMoore

    I died when I saw that! I would have stepped in his face if I was his mother, but it was funny cause he wasn't mine.

  • ShelbyMoore

    That's the way that Samuel Jackson raised his daughter as well. He spoke about it on the Breakfast Club.

  • ShelbyMoore

    Mine was Michael and his mama used to come beat him in class. LOL

  • Coffee1st

    {slow clap}.....

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    They are correct.
    Most black adults use corporal punishment to fulfill their need for sadistic pleasure not to discipline their children.
    Sadly, most black folks never consider a better way and continue the abuse because that's how they were raised.

  • Shawty

    I agree....it took for me to get older to understand the statement "this is gonna hurt me more than it will hurt you". I called her all kinds of liars (under my breath of course) but having my own and having to discipline her had me feeling some kinda way but I did what HAD to be done at that time. All I'm saying is KNOW your children and what is good for each!

  • Seldomseen

    Aww this making me think of my parents. My daddy never laid a hand on his girls, my mamma was the disciplinarian. Well legend has it my mamma insisted on him spanking my older sister so he took her in the room and told her, when I hit the bed you holler. God I miss you Daddy!

  • iWasteTime

    First and foremost she and A LOT of people in these comments need to know the difference between discipline and abuse. I was disciplined with a whopping after I was told REPEATEDLY not to do something. Clearly sitting me down and talking to me, having my dad and granny talk to me and punishing me didn't stop me from lying, taking the change out the laundry money jar, leaving my homework folder in my desk (on purpose) playing with matches etc etc you know what did stop me? The fear of another ass whopping and at 37 years 11 months and 2 weeks I'm a better person for it.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    There are other ways than physical discipline.
    I believe after a child can talk they have some understanding of right and wrong and should be punished as is age appropriate-like time outs or extra chores or not allowed to watch a favorite show.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    That sounds like too much like right but you know if you're black you got to check off the list.
    Ha, ha,ha!!

  • AphroKween

    My daddy use to do that to myself and my siblings..............damn those memories.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    So you prefer that your child do the right thing out of fear rather than because it was what you taught him?

  • Yardgirl

    Yo!! DWL!! Now that's a kid that did not GAF!! My younger self is sitting here in awe at the thought of it. Funny how we never forget the bad kids LOL

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I understand what you're saying but 'whoopings' can easily cross the line into 'beatings' but that's just my 2 cents.

  • WhoKnew

    When my brother came to relieve me for the night shift, I told him she had a good day and that she did not "tell me off" once today so not only is she not afraid to tell us off she threw a slice of pie at me a few weeks ago because I was taking her trash cans to the curve for the trash pick up the next day and asked her to give me her leftovers to take outside. She said I am not 2 y/o and you don't tell me what to do and hurled the pie at me. That pie almost hit me square in the face. She must think she's a reincarnate of Hank Aaron. ???

  • WhoKnew

    Bless your mom as well! ???

  • OvertheMississippi

    And I will never give a sh1t cause they won’t attend my public school!! ??????????

  • Vonda K

    whoopings don’t solve anything. Good parenting involves patience and consistent discipline along with clear expectations and conquenses. Now run in the street and almost get hit by car....you’re get that butt slapped.
    My parents were old school and I came from large family. My mom said by time they got to us younger ones she realized whippings didn’t solve anything. My Daddy never, ever lifted a hand toward us. Which is why I have never allowed a man to even think he can hit me. But I’m digressing. Lol

  • Seldomseen

    I would pay money to see a wig snatch. Remember when Gary Coleman was on Good Times and he snatched that woman’s wig off.

  • Applebootay

    I said the same thing too when I had my first child mostly because I was physically abused as a child, my mother whopped us out of anger and no self control and she was mentally unhealthy so I vowed I would never do that to my children....although I didn't abuse my children and they really didn't get a real "whopping" until they were well into elementary school, I wouldn't change a thing, in fact, I think I held back more than I should have because I was afraid of repeating the pattern, but some kids need their azz whopped. PeriodT and EVERY child requires discipline with both love.

  • Dasright

    The prison system doesn't speak to that. Our numbers in prison are disproportionate to our overall population. We were spanked and beat as slaves yet the cycle continues in how we discipline our children.

  • Applebootay

    and that "line" depends on the mental health of the parent. A lot of people have no business procreating in the first place.

  • Yardgirl

    I don’t remember that episode but I’ll see if I can find it on YouTube. It’s amazing how things stick in your mind!! Gary vs Mrs Wilson was years ago but I can still see it in slow motion!! Lawd it was funny and alarming at the same time!! ???

  • Applebootay

    Same way in my household, Daddy barely raised his voice, but my mom would knock us into next week. She forced my dad to whip me once....he literally barely patted me on my behind and I like to died....I miss mine too, passed 2 years ago.

  • taneka simmons

    Why is this tickling me so? LOL. You should have added (while looking around with enlarged eyes)

  • Applebootay

    Yup, I'm living proof,....I said never and I damn sho reneged on that by the time he was in elementary school until he tried to flush a whole hammer down the bathroom toliet....after he had already succeeded with a few other tools....

  • Applebootay

    That shat don't work on todays heathens....

  • Patricia

    Thats fine. The police will gladly whip their azzes for you.

  • Alextra Ballard

    Bless his ?

  • Applebootay

    Kids should have a healthy fear of you or you 99.9% will be disrespected.

  • xxxgracious

    Sorry yall I got a 3 1/2 year old who thinks he's my daddy. I'm 5'3 and petite so me yelling doesn't mean ish to him. I do pop his butt but it's very rare. Lately I make him look me directly in my eyes and I ask him "do you wanna a spanking?" and he stops cutting up immediately. But the first time I popped him I cried more than he did LOL. I did try the no spanking route but I'm a single mom. He knows he's my heart walking outside of my body but he does misbehave often. I try to get to him before his grandafthers do. I rather be bad cop now then have a real cop beat his ass because he wasnt trained at home.

  • Applebootay

    Those kids even old enough yet......just wait...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Interesting the correlation you made between father spanking girl children to women accepting physical abuse from their spouse...

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiiile good memories

  • SpiceGirl

    Spare the rod, spoil the child?.....their house, not mine! Just teach them when they are out in the world with the rest of us...they know how to actspeakcomprehend etc.....Kids today, act as IF the WHOLE world owes them something! Don't know NOTHING about a honest days work.

  • Alextra Ballard

    Sometimes only thing my momz had tew dew was give me a certain look....I knew to straighten up

  • Applebootay

    I just said almost the same thing.....My son was first and I didn't want to repeat the same abusive patterns as my mom....now I feel like I couldve tapped that azz more than I did....cause he acted like he aint got the good sense God gave him...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Your daddy sounds like he was an AWESOME daddy ?

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • Applebootay

    See I stopped whoppings at about 13 cause by then you should know better... My 16 daughter stands 5'10 so I got to reach up... but I warn her I will chop her azz down to size if need be.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • Applebootay

    Well....if being scared makes your azz afraid of misbehaving then call me the Booggy Monster!

  • Alextra Ballard

    When you begin tew see bruises,yew have definitely crossed the line

  • Applebootay

    ummmm, yes, a resounding YES!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs
  • Applebootay

    I would've flipped his lil azz right off that couch....shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

  • Jazzy

    Either you whip them or later they'll whip you! Your choice.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    One of my favorite black couples...on Black Love their intro story had me cracking up...the way he looks at her is amazing...

  • Applebootay

    That sounds like a mental health issue over just being bad....but I'm ole school....if that had of happened in the 70/80s we would be putting money on my mamma's books today.....

  • Applebootay

    I remember that !!!!! Florida like to died!!!

  • GuestSTAR

    Shiiiiid, we use to get whuupins on planes, in stores, doctor offices, etc...... At home we got plenty of 'slipper' whuupins to. Mom's didn't give a sht.

  • Janice Collins

    Slavery is over. You hit a grown person it’s a crime but kids suppose to feel love? I don’t hit mine either and they’re fine, respectful, and their feelings are in check. I know some kids that get “ spanked” and can see now they are going to be a problem later.

  • Alextra Ballard

    Exactly...ni folks wanna call DCF if you’re cawt disciplining your own child

  • Yardgirl

    You are probably right because that type of behavior is not a typical of a child's behavior towards authority.

  • ShelbyMoore

    I know, right? LOL. Still remember his last name and all, but didn't want to say it in case one of the Roses is currently married to or dating him. LOL

  • Ms..N
  • Ms..N

    I totally agree when they stop fearing the parent then they will think they run the parent and household!!

  • Mz_Opinionated

    Nope, I was abused as a child. I can only do a light tap on the bottom or a small pinch. I can't beat or spank anyone. I'd wind up in tears. I don't like it...I can yell with the best of them though. LOL! And mean business...

  • Alextra Ballard

    Giiiiirrrlll,that’s you’re child....no need tew apologize.

  • Applebootay

    You sound like you have balance. My 16 year daughter was doing a paper on this very topic and there were like 3 categories of parents...I was a little scared when I asked her which one she put me in and she said it was Authoritative with a lil mix of Authoritarian."you do both mom, you show love and discipline equally"....GOD IS GOOD. She is an exceptional student and basically a good girl that requires a snatch up every now and again for her flip mouth....but I literally cried when she told me that...

    Authoritative Parenting
    Authoritative parents are reasonable and nurturing, and set high,clear expectations. Children with parents who demonstrate this style tend to be self-disciplined and think for themselves. This style is thought to be most beneficial to children.Disciplinary rules are clear and the reasons behind them are explained.Communication is frequent and appropriate to the child’s level of understanding.Authoritative parents are nurturing.

    Authoritarian Parenting
    Authoritarian parents are often thought of as disciplinarians.
    They use a strict discipline style with little negotiation possible. Punishment is common.

    Communication is mostly one way: from parent to child. Rules usually are not explained.

    Parents with this style are typically less nurturing.

    Expectations are high with limited flexibility.

    Expectations and goals are high but stated clearly. Children may have input into goals.

  • dblogged

    Spare the rod, spoil the child. That doesn’t mean best skin or break bones (abuse)

  • Yardgirl

    Crine!!!????

  • xxxgracious

    Man it's some people on this blog who probably disagree with my child rearing and are ready to send paragraphs. I don't want NO smoke today so I apologize in advance lol ???

  • Alextra Ballard

    Sometimes yew get tired of yellin

  • Mz_Opinionated

    That's true...but...I don't know. I'd have to be very upset with you to spank you for sure.

  • smartchickfl

    I agree with her personally. I used to get tore up and still did foolishness. There has to be a more effective way. A spank here or there is fine, but past that is not my thing.

  • Seldomseen

    So sorry you were abused, hope you have found healing

  • Vonda K

    I know it’s a reach but my father never physically put his hands on any us. So I grew up to woman with that same expectations.

  • Applebootay

    Kids on the spectrum tend to do things like that....however, he is also obviously hearing these words on a regular

  • Seldomseen

    Come through Rose Garden....Each One Teach One. Sounds like a fine young lady.

  • smartchickfl

    Aww..he knows mommy's wrapped around that little finger lol. I'll prob be the same with my kid.

  • Torae

    I don’t beat my children. They are well mannered, not spoiled, very respectful and both are in all GT classes. It’s funny because my daughter’s math teacher told me(referring to my daughter) that she can tell the kids in her class that are disciplined and spanked because they are well mannered and well behaved. I’m like nope I have never spanked my children EVER. I grew up getting BEATINGS by my mother and her boyfriends. I would never put my hands on my child or allow family members or anyone else to do it either.

  • Ms..N

    LOL!!

  • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. 30BELOW

    HELLO SOMEBODY! THESE LIL GIRLS WILL TRY YOU

  • Rayne

    I told my story on here already. My momma was hot and tired straight off work and I wanted something I couldn’t get. Fawked around and asked her how much her check was. I died that day. All kinda hands and feet were thrown at me. Lmfaooo but I’m ok now ? I think.

  • Rayne

    That was terrible and embarrassing.

  • sandi

    Hilarious!

  • With Kind Regards

    Yup

  • Hazel

    Kill the generalizations. You sound crazy.

  • Seldomseen

    Good for you! You sound like a great mom.

  • With Kind Regards

    Black women stop taking out your frustrations (lack of.funds, bad health , man left you or has side chicks) out on your kids.

  • Rahab

    I earned everyone that I received. Last one at 9 when it all started making sense. Hard head makes a soft ass.

  • Seldomseen

    I will mourn him until I join him

  • Alextra Ballard

    Crackin up ?at bad health....however,this ain’t just no Black issue...this happens across the board

  • Jersey Girl

    That part!

  • Alextra Ballard

    CDFU???...Chiiile yew tew much

  • Shawty

    LOL

  • Shawty

    That works for some....not all.

  • Society has changed

    I never whipped my now 26 year old son
    when he was growing up. He learned at an early age that my facial expressions were very intimidating! Also, I taught my son the meaning of the word “No” very quickly.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Earned my whoopings ... but imo that shyt don't work no more ...... I have yoked mines before ... shid .......and if .... a big if ..... mines try me in those teen years ... Defacs can come get her ...... bye

  • Alextra Ballard

    I agree 100%, sometimes those facial expressions is all it takes. That’s wut my momz usta use on me

  • Shawty

    I'm not sure if you guys seen it but it's a video going viral of a pre-k graduation. The teacher stood in front and said hello to everyone. A little boy responded "shut up b1tch'. He was no more than about 5. See...he's the kinda kid that NEEDS his a$$ whipped!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Nooooo!!!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You understand what makes a good parent.

    Most people don't have a clue that patience and love are the foundation of good parenting but they never consider that before they have children.

    And when some people do have children it's under unfortunate or stressful circumstances and they take that out on the child and real parenting goes out the window.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    My point is that the default of most is corporal punishment because most people are intellectually lazy and don't have the patience to be real parents, but when their child starts having trouble at school then they will have to make time.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    That kid said it so casually
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    I mean the timing...the curse word usage. Chile, at first I was shocked. Then, I laughed. I think he was really sick of her azz.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I mean... a child that acts like that. I wonder if his parents were even there. Even the bad (black) kids usually know not to act a complete fool in the presence of their parents.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I said something about it below.

  • ?? Kari ?????????

    I saw it. I couldn’t believe it.

  • Brooklyn23

    You don't have to put your hands on your kid/s to discipline. Its just most people dont and have not figured out tools that are effective to use to get your kid/s to listen to you. No one had the right to put their hands on anyone. Violence begets violence

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I agree. Which is why I said below that some people mistake abuse for discipline. Cursing at your kids, beating them to they bleed, blacking eyes, yelling and beating on younger kids for simply behaving like a younger child. All of that is abuse in my opinion and that is not the same as a spanking.

  • Brooklyn23

    And it starts from home

  • Dowoop

    If you are trying to start spanking at 13 its too late for that.

  • NewNew

    His parents/ care givers need their azzes whipped. Kids don't come up with that on their own. They heard someone say it more than once and added it to their lexicon. I hate seeing adults laugh when kids say or do inappropriate things. When the kid becomes a disrespectful little azzhole then they want to beat them
    Beat yourself, it's your fault little Timmy acts that way. Smh.

    Ok, rant over

  • Dowoop

    LMAO

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I'd honestly rather be spanked than have someone yell and/or curse at me. Give me a few taps on my behind and let me go to bed. But screaming and cursing at me will have me plotting your death.

  • Blaque Mahogany

    That gif. Lol

  • Blaque Mahogany

    Mic drop!!!

  • Dowoop

    U need to give them a warning that Michael aint right in the head.

  • Dowoop

    True

  • ?? Kari ?????????

    I’m sure he has heard his father talk that was to his mother. It’s usually where kids get it.

  • ShelbyMoore

    LMAO

  • Dowoop

    When the school told kids to call 911 if their parents beat them, I told mines when you make that call don't expect me to come and try to get your ass back!

  • Vegas1989

    LOL...Yes....

  • Applebootay

    You got lucky!

  • Dowoop

    Kids always wanna know how much money you have when you say they cant have something.

  • xxxgracious

    I screenshot what you said. I love that! Kudos to you and your darling daughter. With a mom like you shes bound to be successful!

  • Leigh Burton

    I will never whip my son, either. I will spank him in love. Whipping is something that slave masters do to slaves!

  • xxxgracious

    ?

  • Mz_Opinionated

    I don't curse children ? Never have. I despise that. I don't think it's cute at all

  • Kyss Sims

    I completely agree with you I have a 2.5 yo and he's a good baby but some days I want to drop him off at the church door. His paternal grandparents (Dominican)let him do whatever he wants when he goes visit them. When he comes home he expects me to continue with the foolishness, I am not. I remind him your mother is black and I'm not going for it. I always say ill rather get/ train my son before the world who doesn't care about him does. Nothing wrong with disciplining your kids.

  • Mz_Opinionated

    I'm okay ? My grandmother kept me safe in prayer ? Thank you!

  • Applebootay

    It's HARD AF....especially because I'm a divorced single parent....but its also the most rewarding thing I ever done and I'm NOT a perfect parent neither she a perfect child....but we try hard to get it right and to me that's all that matters....I tell people its so easy to NOT do anything and let the children do whatever ....with the Grace of God....

  • Navybeans95

    Getting Spanked and child abuse are two different things....smh..common sense ain't common...get it together..

  • Leigh Burton

    Child Abuse! I would have told my son how much my check was. I would have made it a teachable moment. I earn ___ a week. The government takes out ___ in taxes. So I only bring home ___ a week. I have to pay mortgage, gas, light bill, insurance, credit cards, student loans, food, tolls.......so I have __ left. And no you are not getting it because I already buy your clothes and feed you!

  • Navybeans95

    All this...and all kids are different...some don't require spankings and some require one every day because they bad AF....

  • Leigh Burton

    I wouldn't, either. I would always use a belt or switch! ;)

  • Applebootay

    It never fails....one of those kids gone slip up and do something so egregious ...and they're going to slip a foot up their azz but won't tell anyone because they'll be embarrassed...mark my word...

  • xxxgracious

    I hollered at "drop him off at the church door" I completely understand. My son is half Dominican. That's dope! His paternal grandmother let his father get away with murder and now him. He knows now how to behave at everyone's house. My daddy is the worst tho. Will send him home off Hershey kisses, doritos, and crystal light. And that's when he mostly cuts up. It's my daddy fault he's getting scolded.

  • Applebootay

    I'm starting the last 2 years of my Early Childhood Degree in Education....I'll hit you back in 2 years....LOL

  • Mo Laughz

    Sometimes whooping some azz is necessary, just shouldn't be overdone, and shouldn't be the first line of defense.

  • Being bad is way more fun

    All children dont need a beating .. I know some kids that if you look at them hard they cry just from the look and dont do what they are not suppose to do. Training your child should change with each child not one punishment for all ..

  • Vonda K

    Kids aren’t dolls and they require a lot of patience and sacrifice. Sadly, like you stated people enter parenthood clueless and under stressful circumstances.

  • Lady_Elle

    As a mom of 3... I totally agree!

  • Lady_Elle

    I understand what you are saying... for some this is semantics!
    They mean "spank" but say "whip".

  • Coffy

    I didn't spank my son and he is an amazing kid.

  • Lady_Elle

    It was likely not his first time saying such!
    He needs to be reprimanded... FIRST STEP!
    Address the person that he is modeling his behavior after! Ugh!
    If he should do it again... tap that azz!
    Remind him about what is appropriate.

  • The Vet

    My husband and I have never spanked our boys. The look always worked. I was one of three girls that was beat, and I decided that I would never do that to my children. For those who say some kids need it I say bullshit, no child needs to be beat. Something needs to be corrected in your parenting. My father told me he wishes he never spanked us. What has a beating ever solved in any one person’s life, besides creating hate and animosity?

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Beautiful family. Dassit ?????

  • Notatall

    The way society is today, I can tell people don't spank their children anymore.

  • Rayne

    True indeed. But I learned my lesson is all ?

  • Rayne

    That was ME! Always adding up her and my daddy money lol

  • Yardgirl

    That is great!! Good luck sis??

  • Chicagowise

    Are you kidding? Not only are they spanking their children, they are allowing their boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, relatives, and neighbors to murder them. Spanking a child doesn't encourage good behavior, it teaches them to solve conflict with violence.

  • Chicagowise

    Why is okay to beat a child, but it's against the law to beat an adult?

  • Yardgirl

    I had theee exact reaction! Did you see the long version? They were doing the most which is now that norm with these lil kids graduation. I totally believe he was sick if it all and his reaction showed it in the only way he knows how.

  • datjerk

    Good for them, but I laid hands on mine. It was what was needed.

  • currvalicious

    Yes, I so agree w/you. We have an 8 yr old, & he's never had a belt taken to him. It happened to me growing up & I vowed, I'd never "whoop" my child. It's so archaic, cruel, & abusive to me.

  • currvalicious

    Also, in my opinion, there is a difference between a spanking & a beating.

  • Coffee1st

    Oooh-whoo!!!
    A grandma pinch will make you leave your body!
    Shiii, give me a few licks and leave my spirit intact.

  • Chicagowise

    I think spankings are a lazy, unhinged approach to parenting.

  • Coffee1st

    Time out?
    Extra chores?
    No t.v.?
    Lmbo..??..I WISH you coulda had my 2nd oldest in his prime..smh. My boy was determined and unfazed.
    I encouraged, lectured, rewarded, restricted, let up, always nurtured and damn begged that boy.
    His turn around kicked off after I totally lost my chyt on him and completed after he finally earned himself a 6wk mandatory boot camp from the school district.

  • currvalicious

    I'm done at "all kinds of hands & feet were thrown at me". Cracking the hell up. I can imagine, but you can laugh at it now.

  • Coffee1st

    Now that, I agree with. Spanking should not be the solution for every infraction.
    Now, I had a black coworker with a biracial teen son. In his anger he called her a Black bitch.
    That joka woulda got murked THAT day.
    Wouldn't have been any other option for me.

  • Coffee1st

    Ion think some of y'all were disciplined correctly. Sounds like some of y'all's parents just hauled off and knocked fiye outchall's behinds for any & everything. That's not sound parenting. Now you're babbling about how terrible spankings are. No wonder...?????????
    Some of us were brought up by parents with balance. I didn't get the chyt knocked outta me on GP, but when rightfully earned my father would tear my @$$ UP!!
    Discipline was administered with balance and wisdom. And because of that, some of us understand and respect corporal punishment.

  • PrettyNetty28

    ?? ????

  • PrettyNetty28

    Thank you!

  • Not a Housewife & Neither RU

    I agree, we gotta get away from just beating kids and actually start raising them. Cuz speaking from experience, getting whoopings just made me sneaky. So I learned how to maneuver so I wouldn't get caught.

  • Lady_Elle

    Ummm… DFACS has a terrible track record with kids...
    Kids need to know that!

  • Oretta Grace Smith

    The key word Is, "beat." Great question!!!

  • Lady_Elle

    DFACS has a terrible track record with kids..
    Let the kids google that!

  • PrettyNetty28

    Well I’m a single mom to an 18yr. old boy that is now attending Emory University first year. And a 14yr.boy about to graduate tomorrow. And I had to TAP they a** a couple of times. And they are FANTASTIC ??,

  • CardiB’sAbs

    BRAVO! Thank you for having a civilized mentality when it comes to parenting!

  • Notatall

    U are referring to disfunction....I'm speaking of a good ole' fashion butt whoopn'

  • currvalicious

    May God continue to bless you & your family. Getting beat on by one's parents is more than enough. But then to allow whomever to assault your child is reprehensible & beyond anything. I never understood that. Our son is bratty at times, however nothing that would warrant us being physical w/him. I'll yell if I must but that's it. A belt is used to hold up our pants & nothing more.

  • Kyss Sims

    So you understand where I'm coming from. What us up with the crystal light my son loves it too lol. Since both my parents are gone and I grew up without grandparents..i try to let him live. But with these kids gotta keep them busy continuously. But he truly brings out the best in me. ???

  • Lady_Elle

    I think the word "beat" may mean "spank".
    I will spank... but that is a last resort.

  • Lady_Elle

    There absolutely is!

  • Lady_Elle

    I totally agree with you... worked for my 3.

  • LuvR

    I think spankings while inflamed with anger; spankings using objects; spankings over the age of 10; spankings above the waist; and spankings without reason are unhinged approaches. Under those conditions, it is no longer a spanking but a BEATING. A light sting on the buttocks of a child isn't cruel; however, wildly swinging leather belts, extension cords, broom sticks, irons, baseball bats, remote controls, tight fists and the like while yelling obscenities and profanity with a contorted mean facial expression are works of demonic flesh.

  • KcoolMuziq

    Sterling K Brown (whom I worked with in The People VS OJ & This Is us) is VERY goofy..But a hell of an actor.

  • Malificent

    I heard he is very cocky

  • Malificent

    Spare the rod spoil the child

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Many people simply grew up. They were never taught or raised.
    They were never given any explanations or instruction. Everything was always shouted in the home.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Nothing is gained by a beating, but I don't know anyone who has been damaged by a spanking and some correction.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Nothing is gained by a beating, but I don't know anyone who has been damaged by a spanking and some correction.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Congratulations! Best wishes to you all.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Yep. They're all different.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    YES it does.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I probably should have gotten a few more L0l!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Has your hearing come back?

  • xxxgracious

    I'm playful at all times. I'm a big kid myself. I try to wear him out but we both end up snoozing by the end of the night and nothing gets done. But he does keep me active. I love it!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    All races...women AND men whine & complain.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Especially the spoiled & indulged ones.

  • Rahab

    True, we were bad AF!!! Mom gave up on youngest when she turned 18, like oh well I tried. She wonders why her son is a firecracker; payback!!!

  • With Kind Regards

    Im talking about us
    Not other ppl.
    Stop DEFLECTING.

  • With Kind Regards

    Always DEFLECTING

  • Jussjess25

    What a beautiful black family so cute.

  • Jussjess25

    Why not hes a great actor

  • Jussjess25

    Felicia

  • Jussjess25

    Screaming at laid hands ? I hope you mean in prayer datjerk ??

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    lolololol

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    Adultisim, Parasite Capitalism, & Post traumatic Slavery

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    That's b/c they're dead

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    Like what the Colonizers did to our Ancestors & forced us to pass down our bloodlines for survival? All beatings r Slavery Period!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    The child didn't do Anything wrong- that's his Free Speech! George Washington did Waay worse!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    Angry Black women will beat a child over a F^^N cookie! No excuse for the Beatings our Father's/Mother's allow or dish out!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    & that's why Child abuse & a child's place go hand n hand. Disempowering Africans not to question authority & to Blindly over thru Unchecked-violence is nothing but Jim Crow!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    & they gave a Right to know!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    & Alot- of Elderly people wonder why there children Neglect or beat them when they get really old! It's Karma!

  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBEe2CU7xRagVDVpjBfxA8g Radical Mariah Carey

    Segregation was Legal then too & Black Power was demonized! Decolonizing happens with time

  • Lucy

    Who says is okay to beat a child?

  • Dowoop

    They gave a right? Or have a right? Nobody but me needs to know how much money I got.

  • Rita

    Hi Claire! Happy Friday Hun!!!

  • Rita

    Thank You. Enough Said, I'm Out!

  • Rita

    ....And all children are difference. Some are hard-headed and some are Not..

  • JazzyBossyJen

    This ^^its a correct way and art to discipline

  • Rayne

    I’m hollering ????

  • Coffee1st

    It really is. For me, Rule #1 was never, ever spank your children when you're angry.

  • Kyss Sims

    I wish I could be more active and keep up with my busy lil guy. I'm recovering from a hemorrhagic stroke I had a week after having him that required brain surgery and left me completely paralyzed on my left side. Thank God I was able to gain a lot of motor skills back, bit I'm still recovering. But God is good and has blessed me with an active toddler that keeps me busy.

  • Yam

    Nope PARENTS take no offense if you have whooped ur kids (because no1 does) just to have a seat in Satan's state just to love and take great care of them . The kids at hand are ugly and cannot afford abuse. That's why her folks beat her. #simplyLordMietta

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Thank U, Rita! Your well wishes make a girl feel pretty daggone special!
    Have a great weekend!! Do U!!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Is this you Robert?

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Did your mother beat You?

  • ClaireHuxtable

    An accurate account of the Truth isn't a deflection.

  • onelove

    right! or they will lay hands on you!.. i whipped my kids but i didn't beat them! it's a difference

  • onelove

    Yup! reading post like this one..smh

  • Rita

    You Are Special Claire.! Seems like I get along with people on the blogs, then RealLife. Have a great weekend too & Be Safe :)

  • datjerk

    A huge difference.

  • With Kind Regards

    Whatever you say, Dear

  • xxxgracious

    Aww bless you! Sending positive vibes your way! I'm sure he's a little helper. All boys love their mommy's so I'm sure he'll always take care of you!

  • Kyss Sims

    He better! Lol..Thank you and God bless

  • Kimberly King

    First of all, BEAUTIFUL family !

    Second, I agree with her. If I ever have kids, I don't plan on beating them. I'm able to get through to my nephew without yelling, cursing or being abusive. I was abused as a child. I'm so over that "well my mama and daddy did it to me" narrative. So the f*ck what ?! That doesn't make it right or acceptable. If you can't get kids to behave without abusing them the you don't need to have them.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Yezzz, Dear...it is whatever I say.

  • With Kind Regards

    Time to block evil

  • brooks hill

    i got beat with the hot wheel track and switches from the bushes by my mom. my daddy used his hands and he used to beat us until my knees would buckle when he raised his voice. had a older brother and sister and when they disobeyed they got hit too. when we got around 13 or so they switched to punishment. we all went to college , no behavior problems. hey, boys are hard headed and you have to get their attention. my parents did with love and force. we got hugs and kisses but we knew where the line was and did not cross it. my daughter got a whupping from me when she got caught lying to us. i used my hand on her backside. she was about 10 or 11. still my little girl but she had to get consequences.

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    To each it's own

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    ??? Chile I wretched around and hit mine Jesus almost had to come get her off.

  • MNjumpoffacliff

    We used to be happy just getting in the car these ones want gadgets no look out the window and enjoy the ride. Lol

  • Readytochokemothernature

    Same thing I said Sis

  • Readytochokemothernature

    Educators and bus drivers have to deal with the aftermath I feel so so bad for them daily.

  • SpiceGirl

    Those were the days....truly missed

  • Tiffany Blake

    I don't beat my children. It's barbaric and unnecessary!!