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A Twitter user sparked a feminist debate that divided the sexes. It all started when a woman shared her story about her controlling boyfriend.

The woman, who apparently got her hair cut in a masculine style, said her boyfriend disapproved of her new hairstyle. She noted that he was still able to perform and he reached a climax in 6 minutes.

During the thread that followed, the man wrote: "I cannot even look you in your face I don't feel comfortable in bed... it honestly makes me feel less of a man like I'm f*ck*n with a bulldagger."

He said that after personality and loyalty, looks are the most important thing to him. He said when he first saw her with her hair cut off he almost dumped her. But then it started to grow on him - until she let her barber line her up.

The debate was evenly divided down the middle - with females taking her side and the men taking his side.

One female Twitter user wrote: "sis, did you cut him off after all of this? please say yes."

Some men blamed her if her relationship failed ("it's just hair."), while women advised her to keep doing her.

Madamenoire.com writer Veronica Wells, wrote: "At the end of the day, this is an example of toxic masculinity."

While others suggested her boyfriend's suppressed urges for men were triggered by his girlfriend's masculine haircut and made him feel insecure.

CAUTION: the thread below contains language of a graphic sexual nature and may not be suitable for anyone under age 18.
 

  • Phillybruh

    She should break up with him for nuttin in 6 minutes...lol

  • DroneRivers

    This is so dumb and childish I don't even know what to say. And the fact that they made it public... smh

  • oshh16

    Do people keep anything private anymore? 6 min etc
    The woman still looks very femme.

  • Alextra Ballard

    just another excuse for him to cheat

  • Gloria

    Stupid shit. She still looks very much like a woman.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Bruh you got something else going on ....... sounds to me your hiding your sexuality ....... But carry on

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    The fact that she’s still with him is the reason why he is so comfortable talking to her like that. Lord when are women gonna buy a clue? When are they gonna stop associating with these pigs? Is that out purpose on earth? To just be dumb as sht behind men? Whew

  • PhillyFacts

    With a man?

  • Chyna

    Thank you Gloria!! Hell, I could NOT wear a short style like that because I don't have the face/facial features for short hair anyway. And like you said, she still looks like a woman/feminine. There is nothing masculine about her whatsoever!

  • xxxgracious

    Before I joined the navy I cut off all my hair before they got to me in bootcamp. My bf at the time did not like coming home to see my big chop. He told me I looked like an extra from 12 years a slave. We separated during boot camp. When I got out of A school my hair was BANGING cause I didnt have any manipulation. Curls was on fleek! He had the nerve to message me on Instagram and compliment my shoulder length twist out. I'm glad it didnt workout between us. I feel he would have complained everyday about my look and make my journey terrible.

  • BlockingTrollsAllYearLong

    6 MINUTESSSSSS ?!?!?!?!

  • Phillybruh

    I did that before I went into the airforce....lol

  • Ghetto Real Name

    She dumped him.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Chile! I read that with complete disappointment.

    From now on, His friends will be looking at him like....https://media2.giphy.com/media/fBG7UnBi7QtePFHEnk/giphy.gif

  • Oh Tommie

    Yea he’s probably a bottom at that ?

  • xxxgracious

    I'm happy I did it before because when i arrived at bootcamp they told me to go to a separate line. I saw girls with long hair sit in that chair and get uneven cuts. Broke my heart. I feel those women cutting the hair are evil af. They enjoyed watching those girls cry. Just pure evil!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    She has a short haircut and non existent boobs (wondering does she have a deep voice too)so MAYBE those TWO factors played into his insecurity...

  • Kimocha

    And if she start wearing wigs, he gonna have a problem with that too... Can't win for losing, smh!

    https://media3.giphy.com/media/7FgIbcMjwTRbFpwjOR/giphy.gif

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    I was just reading this story and all I could think about was he is gay

  • Evillene

    All this foolishness over a f*cking hair weave??!!! Some dudes....

    She's too cute with too much body to be dealing with a man who could be gay.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™
  • Evillene

    tell it.

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    ?6 minutes...?6 minutes..?.6 minutes dougie fresh your on..??.on on on??..on on on..?

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Lol...Most guys would either say they like it, don't like it or don't care, but this fool sat there a wrote a whole reason to why he doesn't like it, only to incriminate himself in the process.

  • Sushi

    Boy bye, let's see him ... Anyone got a pic? If he does not like it go find a Becky with the good hair. ....

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Chile I hope she caught a damn clue chile ......

  • ATL White Guy

    That's a fine grown woman. He's an idiot if his little manhood is that fragile.

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Oh she did...she left him

  • Sha

    Yes, some guys are silly like that. I had a friend, hmmmmmm he cut her weave out. Yessss, honey. He was an abuser and they sent his ass right to jail and they were calling him Edward Scissorhand in prison. It was pretty bad.

  • Jersey Girl

    Thank you. Nothing is a mystery about the women anymore! #reallysad

  • Well$$Well$$?

    ?????????

  • Marlika

    I have my hair cut short and I go to the barbers. Everyone can’t rock short hair, I cringed at some females because I stayed not everyone can rock a short cut. She’s a beautiful woman and her fits her.

    Her boyfriend sounds like a bish!!

  • Seldomseen

    Edward scissorhands .......hot tears

  • KarmaBackAround

    She is pretty tho and obviously very feminie in style.. what would turn me off is how he detailed his disgust with her hair cut not jus with her but the world...i respect his honesty but its really shallow and YOU CAN NOT love anyone with a shallow ass heart, periodt!

  • Vonda K

    Amen. He has deeper issues. Everybody and everything is on social media these days.
    I had few men tell me not to cut my hair above my shoulders but that really didn’t bother me. I do what I want with hair.

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Can we get a post on lil 15 yo Cori Gauff who just beat her idol (Venus Williams) at Wimbledon?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Mercy!!!

  • Vonda K

    You summed it up ?
    Next it will be weight, then teeth etc.... he’s the type who will nitpick a woman into low self esteem. Then go cheat with the exact opposite.

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    Oh wow! Let me hit the Googles

  • Rayscoty

    That how most of these women look when they take their wig/ lace front off..

    Whats the big deal... GEESH

  • Ghetto Real Name

    She is beautiful and looks stunned like HELL in all the pics lol. Congrats to her

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Unfortunately, there are too many insecure women out there who will change whatever he complains about just to say they have a man and he will leave any way.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Anybody can beat Venus. ?

  • Kimocha

    Yesss!... They call her Coco... (Hot Coco)

  • Kimocha

    That is kinda true tho, LOL!

  • Ghetto Real Name

    Not every day you beat your idol tho.

  • Mama Dee’s Wig Maker

    She is! This made my day!

  • BaileyBlue17

    SIX MINUTES!!!! DaPhuck?? That ain't nothing to brag about, Sis. Even if the puss is good. Ijs

  • iWasteTime

    Oh. He's homosexual.
    I'm glad she found out with a hair cut and didn't walk in on him getting hunched by the homie!

  • deidre martin

    if a haircut makes him feel less than- SOUNDS LIKE A PERSONAL PROBLEM. Rule # 1 - never dim your light to make someone else feel better!!!!!!!!!!

  • rory

    lol !!! - "hunched"

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    If this a grown man who doesn't realize that:
    two busy = too busy
    a grown women = a grown woman...
    ..then his bigger problem is that he has the grammar skills of an 11 year old. He needs to be more embarrassed about that than his woman's hairstyle.

  • Meagan Good’s Eyebrows

    I may be old fashioned but traditionally long hair on a woman is feminine and seen as attractive. I’m actually on the guys side and think it’s toxic that we are questioning his sexuality bc he likes long hair women! I’ll go out on a limb and say he was trying to explain his feelings without being disrespectful bc he cares about the chick and still get his point across. We have to create a safe space for men to express themselves without being called le ghey lol. She’s cute and has a nice shape but she also has a big forehead and when that hair was even shorter AND getting lined up like a NIGGA awww nahhh

  • Yup, I said it

    This is the gender blurring. If that man said he don't like it then he don't like it. Both need to just find other people if they cant comprimse over a haircut, not post online. She shouldn't demean him by saying he "he nut in 6 min." What was the point of that? She degraded herself by letting him fluck her if she was so offended by him and she just emasculated him by insinuating that homo-erotic attraction. This is why the state of black relationships fail. There is no respect. Men and women act more like enemies than life partners. I'm not attracted to men who paint their fingernails and wear afro puff or Shirley temple curls. That doesnt mean anything more than I'm not attracted to it.

  • Alextra Ballard

    I hope that’s not on a regular

  • Carrington

    I came here to help the brother out while trying to understand his perspective when I thought the orange haired stud Sandra Mae used to incite a riot was the actual chick and the cut... but as I scrolled down and saw the fine sister with the nice little Toni Braxton "Love Shoulda Brought Your A$$ Home Last Night" cut... man, BYE!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    He's extremely shallow. It's good that he showed his colors early on. Anything can happen to alter someone's physical appearance. Cancer, car accident etc.

    On the less extreme end of things, I'm wondering if there's something wrong with a man being upset if you drastically change your appearance. I dont mean dumping you and writing four page letters...just being upset. I know a dude that broke up with a girl because she was natural, but she didn't really do much with her hair. She later got married, but after breaking up with him she definitely started rocking different styles...using moisturizer and whatnot.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I think that's the point in her bragging [on herself]. She's saying her stuff is so good he can only hold off for so long.

  • Fred G sanford

    That’s a badd ass bitch in my eyes

  • CardiB’sAbs

    He has a preference so what.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Yup. That's a good looking woman to me. If he wants to dump her over this, she can find a replacement real quick.

  • TriniHarlem

    Exactly. Or even be in the same playing field literally and figuratively.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Agreed! Let that man have his preference. I prefer lean, caramel skinned with curly hair. If my guy gets fat or decides he wants dreads that would be problematic for me.

  • Ghetto Real Name

    THIS!

  • leapyearpisces

    He did her a favor by letting her know who he truly is. What I always think about in situations like this is, what if to cut her hair off wasn't a choice? What if she had to get it cut or it fell out due to a sickness, what would he say then? Probably NOTHING, because those types don't usually stay around through the "thin" (i.e., thick and thin).

  • Ghetto Real Name

    His masculinity is toxic. And at risk.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Trying to read his extremely long a** run on sentence was too much for me. Hopefully, she finds someone of substance who will appreciate and love her for who she really is. Her beauty is a bonus. She's not ugly, by far. I also don't see how she looks masculine.
    https://media3.giphy.com/media/qNFGrq3k8n6AE/giphy.gif

  • Lady_Elle

    Her man sounds like he just wants a trophy on his arm!
    His friends, family, co-workers... would not have the same problem!

  • DeJeri

    Good. Not sure why she's fkn with a minute man anyway.

  • Sinny

    Nah, it’s the fact that him seeing her with a short hairstyle brought out his inner-homo. ?

  • Ghetto Real Name

    And finds her someone who appreciates a comma or a period. Even a semi-colon.

  • dblogged

    Cause she’s the alpha..she really about to put it on you. He just scared

  • leapyearpisces

    LOLOLOLOLOLOL.

  • DeJeri

    If you like long hair is your preference, then go find someone that has it. My preference is for men that are over six feet and last longer than 6 minutes.

  • Allergic2dumbstuff

    Yeah, let's see what he looks like. I bet he's not anything to waste a darn Email to the folks back home about.

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    Me personally do not take women serious who wear weaves all the times. I prefer natural nature short long or bald just let it be yours

  • chan chan

    Yea my husband don’t play those grace jones hair cuts....: I have to keep my natural hair long.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Damn you have it twisted.
    He was the one who claimed that he was offended by her and he wasn't attracted to her looks but he was hot and bothered enough to not last ten minutes and who breaks up over a hair cut?
    No, she needs to let him go if he has a type and can't deal with his woman changing hairstyles.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    I agree

  • deidre martin

    ima wear my hair however i choose. I dont see no men catering to my personal preference as to wat and how and when to shave! Not to wear sweatpants. Do you have a fade or Ceasar. One earring or 2. Put some chap stick on them ashy lips. Boy Bye!! You will be alright.

  • Raquelle Dellaghetto

    She seems like a ratchet hot mess anyways so who cares. Her style doesn't even suit her. Let them find other ppl who will put up them.

  • dblogged

    I couldn’t read it. Tried about 8 times. This is why I have Grammarly. was tired of sounding like a caveman

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond
  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    It doesn't sound like this relationship was very deep anyway, because if this is somebody you love then you're not breaking up with them over a hairstyle.

  • Yup, I said it

    THATS MY WHOLE POINT!!!! Move on. I hate social media. People try to settle personal relationship conflict thru social media. She just attention seeking wanting people to say "you look cute af" and "he's bugging" Only thing we can really say is if that is what he likes, then that Dammit what he likes. I cant bash somebody over there sexuality, or personal preferences.

  • dblogged

    Haha.
    When she was in that flick with Arnold?

  • jeniefrumdabloc™
  • Biancasmom1

    All the way twisted. Fuk him. He is ridiculous.

  • jeniefrumdabloc™
  • Carrington

    Ladies, If y'all mad at this, I need y'all to take into account that y'all sound JUST as ignorant when y'all have requirements for men that seem to make perfect sense to you...

    This is the same concept when you say stupid $hit like, "I don't want no man who spends more time in the mirror than me." So, if you get to have dumb a$$ qualifiers for potential mates - why not him?

  • MSGREENMINUSTHEENVY
  • Tahj

    I wanted to download grammarly... but then the small text said something like it will be recording me in the background... I closed it out. Thoughts?

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    The comments on that post in her Twitter are freakin hilarious.

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    She should leave him. If a hair cut make him feel this way, there are more underlying issues about his insecurities that have yet to be unmasked. She needs to park him in the Friend Zone and put a lock on the gate.

  • dblogged

    Ha. Umm, that’s very scary. Don’t even search for it on your phone, please.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    That annoys me. I get emails here at work from college-educated folks that look like they were written by a 6th grader. I'm like, where did this ninjas go to school? smh. That's always been a pet peeve of mine.

  • Myopinion

    We as women like what we like and men like what they like...I'm gone have a major problem if my husband get his hair straightened and some sister curls or a flip, or he put his hair in 2 pony tails with balls on the end...I couldn't do it. If I wanted my hair cut in a masculine style, I'm going to ask my husband if he would like it first...periodt https://media0.giphy.com/media/WT94Wy5a1AyCKekQhq/giphy.gif

  • Tahj

    You know...for me..... I like hair that looks and smells good. Im not a fan of crazy colors ( red, blue, green ), Im not a fan of the side cut off. But some women are just FINE AS WINE in them. I feel like as man, if she looks good and its not extremely inappropriate hair (like she shouldnt wear it to court or work LOL ) then who are we to judge. She looks pretty FINE to me. Ive even found myself attracted to the Bald look that Ive seen on a queen. So I guess it just depends. I do tell my wife that I dont like lace fronts... I mean when they come off the snatch back be all the way back... LOL she doesnt wear them, But I feel like they look like the wigs the Asians wear in the karate movies... LOL JMO. No disrespect. But I really hate them. especially the ones that are pointy on the top LOL whats up with that??

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Someone asked her, "@kydaqueen is he African , Jamaican, or Haitian???? just asking" and she replied, "Haitian lol what’s making everybody say that? ??? "

    Reading that, I wonder if he views men with long hair from the islands are feminine looking?

    https://media3.giphy.com/media/1qXJDYI8lTG8SVhUZW/giphy.gif

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    He was way immature than necessary. It's a haircut. Hair grows back and if it doesn't it can be attached through other means.(though men will typically have an issue with this as well) He demeaned her first. his whole state insinuates she is nothing more to him than her looks.

  • fawkery

    Welp! My husband can't get a long silky smooth weave neither so I'm with old boy

  • Myopinion

    It probably was long at first or so it seemed, then when she got in good and comfortable she cut it.

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    Mine, too!

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    I prefer men with good facial hair, but i am not leaving my dude if he cuts his off. (though he might have at least three weeks worth of jokes coming)

  • https://nylapoprush.com/twitch twitch.tv/NylaPop

    My thoughts exactly

  • CardiB’sAbs

    I don’t do fatties, I’d definitely leave. Tells me you don’t give a damn about yourself. And dreads, definitely leaving too. I don’t like switch ups.

  • EasyBreezy

    That was shade; pure & simple (IMO).

  • yvette46

    She looks beautiful.. He's undercover if he think she look like a lesi!!

  • Myopinion

    I do and I am a woman

  • PLEASEDontTellMe

    LOL i like a little gut here and there. not the overlapping gut or the gut that makes you breathe hard when you turn over, or the gut that will crush me during missionary position....

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ????

  • Yup, I said it

    That's what women do to A1 on Love and Hip Hop because he wears pearls and women earrings and paints his fingernails. His wife don't have a problem with it but most women dog him out for it. Its a double standard. A man is supposed to accept any ole thing his woman does but women are only to accept a King of man.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    ??????????

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    That part I have an issue with though. It used to be if you broke up with somebody you'd just go your separate ways and leave it at that. Now I see where folks will go back and forth by text message, then post the texts on social media looking to embarrass the other person. Not cool at all.

  • Applebum

    While others suggested her boyfriend's suppressed urges for men were triggered
    ———————————————
    ???? Why do I find that part hilarious? ???

    I thought the main picture on top was her. I was about to be on his side..?

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I respect your opinion although mine is different (I'm a woman as well). Men can have long beautiful locs and how they choose to wear them (straight down, ponytail, in a bun, braided, etc..) doesn't make them look feminine to me. And those are typical women hairstyles.

  • that_VA_thickchick

    LMAO Right. lol

  • B. Wynn

    HUGE FACTS

  • that_VA_thickchick

    Same. We are in the minority here, I'm sure. But my man doesn't prefer short hair and I took that into consideration. I hate dealing with my natural hair. The compromise...I keep it braided (box braids or marley twists). I don't cut my hair but I only have to worry about it every 4-6 weeks.

  • Neva RuthLess

    I feel it. Some women look gorgeous with short hair even bald. I personally will always keep my hair below shoulder length. I like having thick long natural hair. I can’t do weave. It’s not my thing.

  • deidre martin

    just let it be yours!lmao!

  • ZRoJoTheLezBeyond

    I concur! That's why I had to leave SM alone and shut down my FB & IG (those were the only ones I had). That shit is toxic. I clicked on her post in here and it took me directly to her post on Twitter. It was funny reading everyone's comments and seeing the memes and gifs, but it def should've remained private. I can see if she asked for public opinions about her new haircut without putting him on blast, but she made it public, unfortunately.

  • Yup, I said it

    That's cools the she needs to show him the door. Its really that simple. She's don't need to hurt her little bald head getting made because he don't like it. End the relationship move on. Don't waste another second of your time on dude.

  • Neva RuthLess

    Right? She looks pretty and feminine to me.

  • Rayne

    She looks good to me. Still feminine ????

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I think men tie hair to fertility. The longer the hair, the more fertile.
    I actually think she looks cute. It's a nice hairstyle for her. She doesn't look hard or butch to me.

  • Yup, I said it

    I'm so saddened about the future of our youth. They seem to be unable to make simple decisions without attention seeking and inviting the WHOLE world wide web into their bedrooms. Next she will post an online poll about "vote if my haircut looks butch and should I break up with him?" Btw there are alot of gorgeous feminine lesbians with long hair. All lesbians aren't masculine. That's a stereotype. Dude may have told her that because she has masculine qualities. She may walk like the HULK. That picture doesn't tell the whole story.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    L0l@ or the gut that will crush me during missionary position!!

  • Desi

    Men wear cornrows, what's the difference!?!?

  • Li-Wright

    Is that her in the photo? Cute, very feminine. It's HIM, not her.

  • Yup, I said it

    That's what bugs me about all of this. Its too much. Your job, coworkers, future employers, family and your kids everybody knows everything that's going on in your bedroom. They don't understand how this stuff may affect them when they are ready to do something with their life. Classism will be the next separating -ism and your social media behaviors are already costing people jobs and money, decent housing.

  • SpillyNillie

    Being that I also rock a faded curly top...he sounds like an insecure idiot. I've gotten more compliments on my short natural than I did when my relaxed hair was long or when I wore wigs/weaves. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. If he ain't wit it, lose his ass.

  • Myopinion

    I have no problem with locs...but if I walk up behind a man and think he's a woman, I'm going to have a problem with that dude.

  • chan chan

    ?????????

  • Myopinion

    I like pleasing my husband, because he takes what I feel into consideration also...I know that is rare these days.

  • Cheese eggs

    Sis.....you know what to do??? #leavehisazz

  • dblogged

    I’m sorry. I had errors in my posts. Can’t afford grammarly at the moment.

  • Applebootay

    Are we suppose to comment on this? I mean...I couldn't dumb down my thought process low enough...

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Lol! ?

  • 11pink123

    Most men like long hair. If she did not meet him with short hair, than she should take what he has to say into consideration. How would she like it if he start wearing a dripping Jerry curl.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I agree. Halle Berry is phine... has always been, but I've seen her at times with short haircuts that some might call tomboy-ish. Doesn't make her any less fine or feminine though.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Nah, it's all good.

  • Renee Bee

    (Jacked from the internet) That run-on sentence lasted longer than homeboy's six minutes. https://media3.giphy.com/media/kHVxjonbWsd1Y0yzeC/giphy-downsized-medium.gif

  • Rayne

    Totally

  • Miss Thang

    She’s so sexy like that with short hair ?

  • Nunya Business

    I can understand him not being attracted if he met her with longer hair. People have to understand that people like what they like and going from having a decent length of hair to a fade no matter how cute it is, is a dramatic change. Not everyone will be willing to accept that. Some guys like change and like it when their girlfriends are style and fashion forward. Others not so much. It's the same if you're dating a guy with a fade and he decides he's going to grow his hair out long and get s sill press and start wearing it in wand curls and you're expected to just accept his new hairstyle. I know that's an extreme example but her haircut may be an extreme style in his opinion. Just saying.

  • Dowoop

    That's not even a masculine haircut.

  • blazewon22

    Seems like valid feelings on the boyfriends part. Something they can talk about or he'll eventually get used to. Why she feels the need to talk about her sex life on the internet is a more valid issue. Looking at one dolled up pic doesn't tell the whole story. Sounds like she's getting cancelled either way.

  • Kimberly King

    So she's giving up the twat to a nigga who can't even complete a full sentence and apparently doesn't know what a period is. Chile. Level your pussy UP. That was the longest run on sentence EVER.

  • Keira

    But it still does not negate the fact he is not attracted to that look

  • KarmaBackAround

    If she only knew better..she'd do better

  • Alextra Ballard

    Maybe it was wrong for him to criticize her haircut,however her mentioning him “cummin” in six minits hits waaay below the belt. IMO.

  • Renee26

    I wonder if she pays all the bills and has all her stuff together... He seems uneducated and childish. She should drop him for being shallow

  • Renee26

    Personality traits and hairstyles are completely different.

    A man who isn't vain to begin with isn't going to become vain as time goes on.

  • Renee26

    That niggga gay ?

  • Chulita

    Exactly, men are allowed to like women that are feminine.
    Now we’re trying to tell people What they MUST be attracted to?

  • Carrington

    The mere fact that you consider a man who cares about the way he looks, “vain” speaks to where you stand on this issue. *shrug* I’m almost SURE that when you hit the bathroom mirror it’s just a thing... but when HE hits the mirror, he’s vain. Isn’t that the VERY hypocrisy I’m talking about?

    If I like to look and smell good, I’m vain ASF... if you like to look and smell good... you just like to look and smell good. I could be wrong - I was once back in nineteeeeeeen...- 97?

  • Chicagowise

    Like it or not, the rules of attraction are largely based on appearances. While people are sympathetic to the woman who cut her hair... I wonder if they'd be equally sympathetic if that woman's boyfriend started wearing his hair in a traditional female fashion.

    It takes a special brand of love to adore someone, no matter what they look like. Typically, that kind of love comes from women, not men. A man's desire for a woman is mainly based of her physical appearance, not his emotions.

    Personally, I think women look confident and sexy with short hair. A real woman knows her hair doesn't make her a woman. It is merely a means of expression.

  • Renee26

    We've had this conversation before Carrington... I'm not about to repeat it again to break down what I mean. Caring about your appearance and being vain are 2 different things.

    Now, since we're talking about hair, if I prefer low haircuts on men and beards without black paint in them and my man was considering changing either, we'd have that discussion. If he still chose to grow his hair out and spray paint his face I surely wouldn't break up with him over it.... Cause his PERSONALITY will outweigh the physical which can change at any time.

  • J2PC

    If he doesn't like the way she appeals to him nor want her anymore, why not simply dump or leave her for someone he finds more attractive? It sounds like he needs her far more than she needs him. That's why he puts her down to make himself feel better.

    Does she make more $$$ than him and has a roof that he's borrowing to keep over his head? Otherwise, it shouldn't be that difficult to pack up and move on elsewhere.

    His masculinity should be wrapped up in all that is good and valued about himself. Perhaps, going to college to achieve a worthwhile STEM Degree or such might give him a real ego instead a false overflated one.

  • J2PC

    Sounds like hood love gone wrong. You can only wish that she's something that she's not. Otherwise, she wouldn't be on the level embarrassing herself on social media reflecting little self-respect.

  • BaileyBlue17

    Right. I would be frustrated AF. That ain't even enough time to change positions

  • My Thoughts

    ??

  • Queen B

    I understand how he feels tho they definitely shudve discussed it before she cut her hair off

  • Primo Levi

    More dumb shit 2 help make black women & men more gay asf! A woman can cut their hair how they want its theirs like my mother & other women states with real natural hair sometimes they be tired of the maintenance & spending money on hairdressers when you can just cut it cheaper & easier 2 manage! Get it over it he was thinking outloud that he likes bulldaggers & men the whole time! Gay ass dude!

  • Jas

    Her story ain't real. She just wants to flaunt ?

  • Parent

    My man would be pissed if I cut all my hair off

  • Anunnaki, in A twilight Zone

    Chile, I bet he want it from the back now huh?

  • Yup, I said it

    You make a good point men are visual. They needs to physically be attracted to someone. I've seen women with pure beards and hairy chest. But they keep it shaved and get electrolysis because if they just go au natural their husbands would dip.

  • Yup, I said it

    Its was to emasculated. Women are good are snatching a mans balls. See if dude was a real sissy he would come back at her equally hard and started talking about how wack or loose or stank her puss was he rushed to get it over with. A real man doesn't humiliate a woman sexually. A bitch will though and that's for a bitchy man or woman. They will hit below the belt like that.

  • abby500

    I agree. U are my friend in my head... lol

  • Yup, I said it

    Now if she had a man thst had her out here looking a raggedy mess people would be mad. Most of the women gotta use they child support money to get their hair done anyway because the man they fucking don't care if she walk around looking like Shug Avery or Celie as long as he don't have to pay for it.

  • Kimberly King

    *sighs* I love it when you come through the garden to comment. I agree with everything you said ! Men are much more shallow than women. But it's just their nature. Everything is centered around a woman's appearance.

  • Eileen

    At the end of the day a women wants to please her man and a man wants to know he is attracted to his women. Ditch the feminist crap! men are visual creatures! As the Bible states ...and Adam looked upon Eve (not Steve!) feminism is TOXIC and hateful towards men! PERIOD!!!
    And if this women did not feel some kind of way why would she put it out there about her man's reaction to the butch cut of a hairstyle!
    She had some misgivings about her situation if she didn't why the call in the calvary of manless women to stand by your side? Get rid of him? Child please these women shouting from the hilltops and rooftops wouldn't get rid of their men they just running their mouths trying to make you feel good!
    Let your hair grow a little to the norm that YOUR MAN is attracted too!

  • Chicagowise

    ?

  • speakinmymind

    Well said Yup, well said.

  • Chicagowise

    Yep! Sad, but true.

  • Mo Laughz

    I've been through the same thing..I was like don't be mad at me bc my barber is fye and you cut your hair in the bathroom with dollar general conairs.

  • Chicagowise

    There is an old saying: "What you did to get him, is what you'll have to do to keep him."

  • Chicagowise

    "Man Tells Girlfriend Her Haircut Makes Him Feel Like Less of a Man."

    The truth is, he doesn't feel like less of a man. He thinks she less of a woman without her hair. A lot of people, men and women, are hung up on the traditional standards of masculinity and femininity. A black drag queen once said, "hair that doesn't move, isn't feminine!"

  • Calikush

    Agreed! ?

  • Malificent

    Growing up my dad always taught me that my hair was my beauty. I went to Jamaica one summer and cut my hair off and when I came back home I got a beating because I did that. I understand this man because he is attracted to long hair. My ex grew a beard and I was so upset because I thought he looked so scruffy and I couldn’t even sleep with him until he cut it.

  • Malificent

    Yes men view hair as a sign of femininity.

  • chris

    Same thing happened to me. I was pretty happy until she cut her hair short. I just wantwaas attracted to her anymore. I tried to stick it out Willie it was growing back then she cut it back down again and I was done.

    As men if we don't like what we see it's a wrap.

  • Malificent

    Actually I find women are visual too. I can’t date a man I done find attractive.

  • true french

    Is this coming from her husband? Because if not, then...

  • Malificent

    Those Haitian men be serious about these things. If you have fertility issues they will leave you because you’re not a real woman to them.

  • Malificent

    Me too

  • Malificent

    Yea that’s respectful. It’s like a simple courtesy for each other.

  • Malificent
  • Malificent

    Yup! There are so many people in the world that see hair as beauty. Spanish women use it as their claim to fame. I got a long 28in beautiful weave and I swear women just hated on me and men went crazy over me with that long straight hair.

  • Malificent

    There are so many people in the world that see hair as beauty. Spanish women use it as their claim to fame. I got a long 28in beautiful weave and I swear women just hated on me and men went crazy over me with that long straight hair.

  • T Willis

    That’s really deep - “hair that doesn’t move, isn’t feminine!” - because most African Americans have coily kinky hair that doesn’t move, and traditionally those women are viewed as less feminine to their “silky haired” sisters.

  • Society has changed

    Ummmm... why is this even on social media? I’m just amazed at how society lacks discretion nowadays. He’s ignorant and sadly so is she... A woman boasting about how long it takes her man to reach pleasure is just ignorant. Discuss this in y’all bedroom please! However, I’m old school grown woman who doesn’t like people in my personal business. ?????

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    Folks have no shame at all

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    A lot of this men like long hair is propaganda by the white supremacy... I have a theory that men that like all them long weaves and make up just hooked on the looks will run up in a tranny also

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Today's social media is yesterday's diaries.
    The only difference is that people used to keep their diaries under lock and key. Now people posts their business online for clicks and likes.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    So if your wife cut her hair you would divorce her?

  • Jennifer

    My husband is the same dummy. I keep my hair short & natural, and he wants it down my back bc that's what he likes and I have (his words) "dog hair!" I purposely keep it cut bc I love it, and I refuse to submit to the dumb shit. I had a Halle Berry when we met! I'll never grow my hair out.

    My dad also hated my short hair. It's a man thing ?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Because he said he wasn't attracted to her sexually but he was still able to orgasm with her.
    DUH!!!

  • Jennifer

    LMAO ?? ?? ? hell yeah!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    It's hard to believe that he hasn't seen her in other states of unattractiveness but he stated with her.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    But he specifically said she looked like a masculine lesbian.
    She looks feminine to me and I'm gay.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    What you say is true, but it's kinda weird that he went as far as saying she looked like a bulldager.
    Besides most men don't pay that close attention to a woman's hairstyle.
    He seems to be the feminine one in the relationship.

  • Trace da Ace

    ugh....to early for this fuckery...pass....

  • sunni_daze

    I used to have #1 with the fresh shape up.

  • Renee26

    ? some females don't mind being with bisexual men... I CANNOT

  • Society has changed

    RIGHT! He is illiterate and shouldn’t be typing anything! Her response shows a lack of class for such a beautiful woman.

  • Society has changed

    SMDH

  • Karen Brady

    Uh, nutting in 6 min is nothing to brag about sis. what is he? 17?

  • Robert lee Bennett OG

    Totally they are both uncouth... I’m doing everything in my power to keep my daughter from being around this type or partaking in this behavior

  • hottlanta

    Wow he complaining about a short buzz haircut n l would be complaining a short sex buzz after only 6 minutes. Dayum we do get an hour for lunch. Six minutes is not even a nibble.

  • hottlanta

    At least on a fitbit u set your goals at 10000.00 steps as a goal setter. He hasnt even knocked it out of the gate.

  • sherri2016

    He's not secure with his manhood because I've had my hair cut for 17 years and my husband not only loves it he's my barber he'd rather me keep it cut than wear fake hair because I have Myelodysplastic Syndrome my hair stopped growing also can I have a medical minute on it

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    This happened to me in 2009... I used to talk to a guy at my old job that moved to another state...we lost touch and when he returned to my city we went out to lunch while I was at work...i had my hair in a cute short bowl-type cut and the look on his face when I walked out to greet him was horror...keep in mind I was getting all types of play with my hair cut that short (anyways)...lunch with him was awkward and ended quickly...before he saw me he kept telling me he regretted moving and wanted to start "over" (even tho we only talked) with me...when I got back to my desk I brushed it off...the next day Im looking on my fb and he blocked me!!! Like for real blocked me....I sent him a text and he didn't respond...two days later he sends me this long ass text talking about how before he left I was "sexy" and now the cut doesn't fit my shape...and he's not attracted to girls with short hair...whew chile I let out a string of profanity and all types of mess my gmom would have slapped me for in the reply text...fast forward its 2015...I see him on the train when Im coming home from work...this nigga had a nerve to try to open his arms to give me a hug...I spit right at him and he jumped away...

  • chris

    My wife wouldn't disrespect me by making such a major decision without me. Just like i wouldn't cut off 90% of my income. It's all about respect.

  • kboogie

    Amen .....speak the truth and shame the devil..... ?

  • kboogie

    Real talk on both their behalf... ?

  • kboogie

    ???????......real talk ?

  • kboogie

    Well said.... ?

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You own your wife's hair?
    GTFOOH!!

  • chris

    Did I say that dummy?

    Any drastic change can cause a rift in a relationship. Proceed at your own risk.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    It's hair?

    It will grow back. It's not like she got pregnant by trickery or something.
    Damn!!!

    So you would consult your wife before losing weight or if she wanted to lose weight she would have to get your permission?
    And each of you has veto power over the other? or do you only have veto power over her?

  • Blak

    Alot of men of all races are not attracted to masculine looking men with masculine hairstyles. We know nothing of her attitude and to whether or not she acts like a man.

  • chris

    Veto power? Did I say I could stop her? Stop putting words in my mouth. Second time you've done it already.

    I'm not attracted to short hair. I don't have to justify my preference to u bruh.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You compared your wife cutting her hair to you losing 90% of your income.
    So to you your wife is just a bunch of dead skin cells?
    It's not me who's being dramatic.

  • chris

    Are you retarded?

    Rhetorical question. I already know the answer and definitely don't want to hear anything else you have to say.

  • Mr. Poopybutthole

    So my husband usually wears his hair cut short with brush waves...a few years ago his boy who asked to cut his hair f#cked up his lining and he just cut it all off and sported a bald head. Now he's very handsome and even though the bald cut was temporary, I did not like it. I prefer his hair how he wears is normally. I was honest about what I felt after he asked me and he was good with my answer. It's all about preferences. Sometimes when we go out he would recommend certain outfits and also hairstyles cuz I change up often and I do wear wigs sometimes. I love pleasing my man and he loves doing the same for me. Would this still be considered me not being secure with my womanhood and him not secure with his? I just look at it as being personal preference which everyone has.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    No I'm not retarded.
    You're the retarded one who considers cutting hair to be a MAJOR decision.
    You sound like high maintenance. I feel sorry for your wife.

  • Da realest

    I feel the same way. I consult my husband all the time, not because I need his approval but because he is the one that has to look at me and vice versa. She should have told him her plans of chopping prior to doing it because it is a drastic change... but hes wrong for making her feel bad about her choice

  • chris

    Who TF are you too tell me what's major in my relationship? You sound like a messy queen.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You just did fool.

  • Let them eat cake

    Most men like long hair, period. and she really put their sex life on social media like that? i hope he dumped her. smh.

  • Let them eat cake

    dont be surprised if hes cheating...you need to listen to your partner

  • Let them eat cake

    I hope he dumps her smh.

  • Jennifer

    Damn! A bit much, huh? He doesn't have it in him to cheat, which is why I picked him! However, I get your point ?

  • Kayke

    ????? I’m shallow like this about weight so..... I don’t think it has anything to do with insecurity or him being closeted .... just that there are things he attributes to femininity and she lost some of those aspects with her hair cut.

  • LuvR

    Spitting is disrespectful on all levels... You did the most

  • LuvR

    Shes not patting him in the back for how fast he released but on how quickly he was aroused. It took him all of 6 minutes to get hard and then release. She feels honored by that she still got it although he was unhappy with her haircut.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Dude you sound more gay than I do.
    It's true that men are more visually stimulated that women but most women notice details like another woman's hair or makeup or what she's wearing than men.
    But if you're that superficial God bless your wife.

  • chris

    Little details is changing your nails or gaining 10 lbs. Cutting you hair off is a big deal to a lot of men who are attracted to women. You clearly can't understand that so keep it pushing. I don't speak on how you and your ilk handle business so don't speak on mine. We done here.??

  • Dr. C

    There is a difference: you are both married to your men. Someone in a dating relationship needs to slow down with this BS.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Blocking is too...

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I hope you're a Mr. Olympia specimen who will never get fat because your mindset is whack.
    I guess your wife has never been pregnant or won't have children because she's going to gain more than 10 lbs and her body is never going back to her what it was before she got pregnant.
    My point of view has nothing to do with my sexual orientation, but someone who is mature enough to understand what's important in a relationship.
    But now I understand why divorce rates are so high...but carry on.

  • chris

    What's important in YOUR relationship is not the same as what's important in mine. If you were truly as mature as you claim you would understand that.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    True but sometimes what we want isn't realistic, but carry on.

  • Not a Housewife & Neither RU

    women are damned if we do and damned if we don't, so it just makes sense as a woman to do whatever the fuk u want cuz somebody is going to have something to say.
    The idea that women should have long hair to attract or keep a man is ridiculous. Why would you want to be with a man who has such an archaic view of beauty. It's officially time to dismiss the cave man.